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seashell
09-18-2016, 01:51 AM
Heavy depressing confession (tomorrow I may pretend I never wrote this... I feel like I share a lot on this board & I feel ridiculous sometimes):

I think I have the "Complex" form of PTSD, where it's numerous incidents over time and then one tipping point thing. I have ¾ of the symptoms. I've been abandoned without notice by all 3 of my female best friends (for minor things they sat on for ages and then randomly used as a reason to end the friendship abruptly), & 2 exes (and they spent most of the relationships being emotionally abusive in various ways). I think the break my SO and I took this year was the snapping point, especially because he was behaving really similar to those exes right before.

I seem to have triggers. For example, if SO comes in late (after 3 am, which is for some reason the 'too late' point), I often go into a panicky fog; I either internalize it into multi-day low grade anxiety, or start a fight. Everything positive he's done in the last week is totally forgotten; I ignore the fact that he's texted me several times while out, or that he has been incredibly late to everything as long as I've known him; no, he is obviously plotting to leave or trying to avoid me, because it's 3:44 am.

If one of my friends doesn't text back, the voice in the back of my head says "you must have said something, she doesn't want to be friends anymore" & then I treat that friend with kid gloves. That goes on until they reassure me somehow they're not going anywhere.

I don't think my insurance covers any therapy & I'm not in a position right now to pay $125/week out of pocket. I also feel really stupid, because I always felt PTSD was for soldiers & whatnot, & I don't want to 'belittle' it. But I need to fix this. I've started drinking at home, and had to start taking Ativan every few days when the anxiety got ridiculous. I don't want this to get out of control or do any long-term damage to my relationships.
You can try one of the online/phone therapy programs. Talkspace is the one I've used in the past. I found it VERY helpful, moreso than seeing a therapist in person, because I hate admitting my embarrassing problems when sitting face-to-face with someone, lol. It was about $100 a month, and your therapist messages you via text/voice recording a few times a week.

Elektra Luxx
09-18-2016, 06:51 PM
I don't think my insurance covers any therapy & I'm not in a position right now to pay $125/week out of pocket. I also feel really stupid, because I always felt PTSD was for soldiers & whatnot, & I don't want to 'belittle' it. But I need to fix this. I've started drinking at home, and had to start taking Ativan every few days when the anxiety got ridiculous. I don't want this to get out of control or do any long-term damage to my relationships.

I'm sorry you're feeling depressed. You're not alone. I can relate to how you feel and it's not a good feeling. A university in my area offers counseling to the public by the graduate students, but professor oversees the entire session. They use a sliding scale payment system depending on how much you make. Maybe there is something similar in your area? Just a thought. I hope this helps and I hope you feel better.

SnuffleUffleGrass
09-19-2016, 06:49 AM
Ugh, I went out for drinks after work with a customer. I never do that but it was my birthday last wk and never really celebrated and just didn't feel like being alone last night. I had a lot of fun but he's not my type he's really nice but I know I don't wanna see him otc again. Not ready to grt involved with anyone especially a customer. He's texted me like 10 x already and told me he wants to see me again tonight cuz he has a gift for me. Creeped me out. He also knows where i live cuz he drove me home. So I texted him saying my ex wants me back and I'm going back to him.



Good save.

carmen_b
09-19-2016, 08:51 AM
This is the personality type I tend to not get along with. In my business ..... they always drive me crazy. I will sometimes give them a really detailed calendar / a lot more details than everyone else ...... but I find their lack of trust in my team really un-nerving , so I sometimes just pass on the sale. I rarely pass on any sale, so this is saying a lot. I just am not up for the extra work of soothing anxieties / nerves. I don't think this type realizes that they are extra work.


Type A, super super cautious boring rule-conscious types annoy the fuck out of me. My best friend is one. Won't lay down to take a nap cause she has to "watch her son"...her son is fucking 9 years old!!! Has to debate for hours and hours over every minor decision and won't dare take any chances on stupid rules. I can't. Love her but it's sooooo frustrating to me.

carmen_b
09-19-2016, 08:55 AM
Selina : Planned Parenthood may be able to get you a referral for a sliding scale therapist. I was there a few months ago and asked about it and they had it available ! I didn't go yet but it's nice to know they could at least refer someone affordably if needed.

Legz541
09-19-2016, 02:37 PM
I really wish I had it in me to escort. Dancing is so monotonous.

hamdinger
09-19-2016, 04:50 PM
What are good friends and a good job worth if they can't accept me as a freaky poly bi woman who loves getting naked for money? I thought this new big girl life was what I wanted, but more and more I feel afraid to be myself.

lynn2009
09-20-2016, 02:01 PM
I really am a jerk to my coworker but only because he's been such a useless, giant pain in the ass for 6 months now.

We had a rabbit like you
09-20-2016, 06:32 PM
I know the people in my life mean well and this is not their doing or fault or whatever, but when I get paid compliments about my weight loss it gets me even more uptight and obsessed with it..my dad telling me I look so good and healthy now that I've lost all the medication weight, my regular going nuts, and my husband completely enamored with my body now..like legit wants to fuck every night and looks at me like a starving man looks at a steak. It just feels so good now

SexxiLexxi
09-20-2016, 08:51 PM
I think I am becoming a work-a-holic & may be very close to overfilling my plate.

-My vanilla business
-Camming business
-Now applied for a retail job

Oh boy. Looks like sleep may have to be put on a back burner lolol

rareaspasia
09-21-2016, 08:10 PM
I haven't been on cam in 3 or 4 days now because I have been drowning in sadness. I don't even know why. Hubby really has no idea either. It makes it even more difficult because I feel so alone in this battle. I don't want to get on cam & have a depression breakdown...that would be embarrassing to say the least.

Babe, I am right there with you. Just know you are not alone.

SexxiLexxi
09-21-2016, 08:31 PM
Babe, I am right there with you. Just know you are not alone.

Thank you! I needed to hear that for sure. Some people in this world really don't understand how depression can just kick the hell out of you out of no where & for no clear reason. I wish people would get that depression is a real thing and can be pretty serious for some who struggle with it.

rareaspasia
09-21-2016, 09:45 PM
Thank you! I needed to hear that for sure. Some people in this world really don't understand how depression can just kick the hell out of you out of no where & for no clear reason. I wish people would get that depression is a real thing and can be pretty serious for some who struggle with it.

Yeah, it drives me nuts that people view mental illness as this whole separate thing from other illnesses because it's not. I'm bipolar and when I'm depressed it's really brutal, it's put me in the hospital and without getting into the gory details I'm very grateful to live in a time with effective treatments because without them and my supportive family there is no doubt in my mind that I'd have committed suicide by 25. Even with treatment one out of every five people with bipolar disorder will die by their own hands, and half will attempt suicide. Mental illness is really fucking dangerous and it's NOT our fault any more than any other neurological disorder. You don't tell someone with MS to walk it off, and you don't expect people who are dealing with depression to just get over it.

Sorry to rant (wrong thread, I know), but it's really been bugging me more and more lately and if I can do anything to make someone else in the same boat as me feel better, I'll do it, because feeling alone when you're depressed is just plain awful.

To get this back on topic, I must confess that when I'm around other women my age (not my dancer friends) I secretly compare myself to them in order to feel better about how I look. It's really shitty, I know, and I try not to do it but it still sneaks in and them I'm like, what the fuck is wrong with me? Why does it even matter? It's like this nasty combination of arrogance and insecurity and I don't like that about myself. God knows I'm not perfect. But that's probably why I do it even when I'm trying not to.

Velveteen.Rabbit
09-22-2016, 04:15 PM
There's absolutely no way I'm not already a cougar. The guy I'm dating now is younger than me. My side piece is 5 years younger. I didn't know their ages when we started talking. Jesus take the wheel, it has happened. Admitting it makes me feel so much better

We had a rabbit like you
09-22-2016, 05:36 PM
I always preach that 30 isn't old,,yet I'm getting more and more depressed and anxious each birthday, and in a month I turn 29 and I feel hopeless like I don't have my life ahead of me anymore and there's nothing to look forward to and I'm spent and old. I wish to God I didn't know how old I was or didn't have a birth certificate lol, I would just assume I was still in my mid 20s cause I look and feel that way but that looming "your 20s are just bout over" reality is slapping me in the face.
its stupid, yet I'm brainwashed, I guess at least I know I am...sigh.

lilylilylily
09-22-2016, 06:25 PM
There's absolutely no way I'm not already a cougar. The guy I'm dating now is younger than me. My side piece is 5 years younger. I didn't know their ages when we started talking. Jesus take the wheel, it has happened. Admitting it makes me feel so much better

Patty Stanger who's the host of Millionaire Matchmaker says that women do much better with men way younger than them, of course the main reason is libidos are more in sync but in many other ways too. I think you're definitely onto something

Elektra Luxx
09-22-2016, 06:29 PM
I haven't had anything really worthwhile to post in weeks (Okay the pics, but those don't really count. That's just fishing for compliments from the blues for self-esteem reasons.), so I've just been checking in to SW at least once a day just to catch up on what's going on in everybody's life. It helps me feel connected to the ladies here.

xStacey
09-22-2016, 07:25 PM
Omg I feel like a creep. Okay, so I've been lurking on a law forum for a couple of years now, when I was hoping to get in until now. There was a nice law student (now a lawyer at a big firm) who wrote a lot of posts and gave me a lot of advice by private message. During the summer I messaged him to ask him some questions about the recruitment in second year, a specific firm and people working there and it turns out he was working at that firm, so he invited me out for lunch, but he was going away for a couple of weeks and I had exams, I told him I would get back to him but I never did. Although, we exchanged quite a lot of messages he talked about his extracurriculars, degrees, LSAT and GMAT scores, etc. so when he told me the firm he was working at, it wasn't difficult to figure out his identity with Google and LinkedIn... Hmm I didn't feel comfortable meeting strangers online (well it's a bit different from a dating site) or a lawyer, and the more I waited the more I felt uncomfortable accepting his invitation LOL. I knew who he was but he has no idea who I am or what I look like but I did say I work at a strip club and asked him about what to do with a blank resume during the interviews because I do have the marks to be invited but not sure what I would talk about.

But...... ehhh today I went to a start-up open house with a law firm (the year students start checking out the different firms).... and... he was there!!!!!! I recognized him and omg he was hot compared to his pictures on the firm website or linkedin profile!!!! I really wanted to go talk to him but I didn't want to look like a creep and say heyyy are you X? I am Y from the law forum... Although I really wanted to he was sooo close to me but we were in two different groups and we had a tour guide, he was with like 10 guys and they were all listening to their guide, we weren't visiting the same start-ups but at one time he looked at me and I looked at him lollll.... But people didn't talk while the guides or start-up entrepreneur were talking. The world is so small I can't believe it.

I'm really thinking of messaging him back to accept the invitation but not sure if I should mention I saw him today... I'm sure he knows I probably googled him but it's still creepy. Maybe I should just message him to meet up and when I see him act surprised and be like ohhh I saw you at the event !

He was so nice and works at a really big powerful firm I'm sure he would be a good friend to have and will be able to give me plenty of advice for the recruitment in the winter, plus interviews agh... It's just I'm someone who loves to dress up when I'm meeting someone in public so I don't want him to think I dressed up like it's a date and I think he has a gf (from his posts), but he saw me today and I looked neat so he might think I always dress that well lol. I am always on the extreme, when I'm lazy it's no make-up, hair in a bun, sweats lol when I dress up it's make-up, hair done, nice fitting clothes, high heels...

miss.a.p1600
09-22-2016, 07:50 PM
I would do just about anything to experience passionate love making right about now.

*sigh*

In due time....

miss.a.p1600
09-22-2016, 07:55 PM
I always preach that 30 isn't old,,yet I'm getting more and more depressed and anxious each birthday, and in a month I turn 29 and I feel hopeless like I don't have my life ahead of me anymore and there's nothing to look forward to and I'm spent and old. I wish to God I didn't know how old I was or didn't have a birth certificate lol, I would just assume I was still in my mid 20s cause I look and feel that way but that looming "your 20s are just bout over" reality is slapping me in the face.
its stupid, yet I'm brainwashed, I guess at least I know I am...sigh.

Just wait till your 79 lol! You'll be wishing you were 29. But nah I feel ya. I had a quarter life crisis at 25 then after that I was like f-ck it. You can always do like a family member I know who never I mean never tells anyone her age. And if you dare ask she will give you a death glare like hoe you done asked the wrong question today lol!! Its priceless! I quit mentioning my age but of course the kid doesn't get it and is like now how old are you?/you're x years old right? ..... I'm like [email protected] kid really?!? *shrugs*

SnuffleUffleGrass
09-23-2016, 05:42 AM
Patty Stanger who's the host of Millionaire Matchmaker says that women do much better with men way younger than them, of course the main reason is libidos are more in sync but in many other ways too. I think you're definitely onto something

It didn't pan out for me but it was still fun. Lol

Aurora_Sunset
09-23-2016, 06:02 AM
I can no longer invest my emotional energy into people who are not ready to heal their own lives.

I have to be done.

Whether it be taking care of their own physical, emotional, or mental health, or breaking a cycle of life-ruining behavior, I cannot be dragged down with them. If people don't want to change, don't want help, and don't want to get better (really, truly, deep down, desire), they won't. And it is not my responsibility to get myself stuck in a spookily parallel roller-coaster cycle of bullshit trying to "make them see the error of their ways" as they tell me over and over "things will be different this time" when we both know damn well they won't...

If someone is truly ready for help - they will show it. And if they're not, there's nothing I can do. There could be someone who isn't able to walk, and I could literally tie strings to their legs and become their total support, and if they weren't ready to be helped, they would find a way to cut the strings, crumple to the ground, and complain about how there's "no way it's possible" while I'm standing there pulling out my hair, screaming "I WAS DOING ALL THE WORK FOR YOU! WHY DID YOU CUT THE STRINGS!?"

Because you can't force help on someone.

Life isn't a fucking Disney movie.

The power of love and sticking around through someone's eternal bullshit does not "heal" them if they are not ready.

It's one thing to, say, have lung cancer, through no fault of your own. It's another thing to give up completely on treatment and proceed to cling to someone's neck as you decay, demanding that their life be miserable, and they not be able to breathe either, as long as you're sick.

There is a big difference between blaming people like this and saying that their position is their fault (which I'm not doing), and realizing that protecting yourself from being dragged down by someone you can't save does not make their situation your fault either.

My time and energy is better spent going out into the world and focusing on the people who are ready to be helped that last mile of the journey that they've already committed to for themselves. And even then, I may not be able to "fix" or "save" anyone. Nothing has a 100% success rate, not even saving people. And in order to keep going out every day and finding those ones that I can help requires me to let go of that fanciful ideal lest I go crazy and give up from not being "perfect."

If certain people are going to get better, that has to be a part of their journey. If I have tried, and failed, for years to help someone and it isn't working, I am clearly not the catalyst for change on their journey. And it's self-centered of me to think otherwise and to keep martyring myself for a cause that is clearly not being asked of me. Everyone is where they need to be, and doing what they feel is best for them in the moment, even if I think it's "wrong" - even if they are admittedly unhappy. If that wasn't what felt like their most attainable choice (even if among a perspective of all shitty choices) for their own circumstances, they wouldn't continue to be there. And I have to respect that. If I want them to be whole and healthy, I have to see them as such separate from me and my own ideas of how I think their life "should" be, and believe that if they are meant to be "better" then they will find a way to it - Perhaps without me. But that doesn't make our incompatibility in life journeys some moral failing on either part.

And if I am to perpetuate the idea of self-love and self-respect and taking care of yourself, I have to look in the mirror and start with me. I cannot expect to create more of that in the world if I do not embody it myself. And I cannot expect others to follow an example that I do not set.

I can't sacrifice myself into others' happiness, stability, self-esteem, or self-preservation. Continuing to put energy into them is just wasteful, as I pour it out, and they simply reflect it because they are not ready for it... That energy is better spent elsewhere. And that space in their life that I've been insisting on occupying (because of the belief that I am "bad" if I do not accept responsibility for them, as well as my own belief that they are "so bad" that they need my "savior-like" help) is better freed up for change in their life as well. It's not about my ego. It's about their journey, which may just not include me, as well as my own journey which may be about learning to espouse the ideas of self-love that I like to believe in, as well as saving my effort and emotional wherewithal for helping other people who are actually ready.

xStacey
09-23-2016, 09:31 AM
Okay I confess I miss having a one night stand with a random sexy stranger. Haven't slept with someone new in a very long time lol. I remember how fun it was discovering a hot body for the first time ahh.... Unfortunately my one night stands were often disappointing, but when it was good, it was really good. :(

miss.a.p1600
09-23-2016, 02:41 PM
I wish I could have one night stand sex with a hot guy and not get attached. Even if I found a dude for that I'd have a hard to doing it for free. Id want some sort of gift with high monetary value.

whirlerz
09-23-2016, 02:55 PM
I wish I could have one night stand sex with a hot guy and not get attached. Even if I found a dude for that I'd have a hard to doing it for free. Id want some sort of gift with high monetary value.

This's actually a normal, natural thing..men are 'designed' to impregnate women as possible to further humankind, women are designed to bond w/a man after sex to care for the children. This's why I really shy away from having sex..I don't need to have a meltdown over some jerk. I've already had more than need of that.
Also, men are almost always paid more, I think it's fine that we s/b compensated in some way. I wish I had known/thought this way a lot earlier

SimoneGray
09-24-2016, 12:05 PM
This is the third day in a row that I've had buffalo wings. I don't care though, because they fit into my calorie plan. Thank you macros and IIFYM. #NoRagrets

Glamourmilf
09-24-2016, 02:31 PM
As much as my rational brain says don't date an Arab...my clitoris seems to think it's a great idea What's a girl to do?.:shrug:

Legz541
09-26-2016, 12:17 AM
I'm so unsatisfied with where I'm at in life right now. Stuck in a rut. I need to start something new but depression is just smashing my energy and motivation. Ugh.

seashell
09-26-2016, 02:43 AM
I started taking camming seriously this week, since I finally have privacy, and am doing better than I had thought possible. Very, very excited to finally have money without stripping! This is the first time I've had that good old taste of freedom from supporting myself, in several years.

But I stopped using my camming "disguise," and I'm not sure how wise of a decision that is. I know it's extremely likely I'll be outed, but then, pretty much everyone I know outside of my old vanilla job knew that I was a stripper. Is it worth it to stress about being found out as a camgirl? Probably not. Still, I hope I'm not destroying my future.

My friend with benefits wants to cam with me... LOL. Not sure if I want to cross that boundary, but I was quite amused that he suggested it.

Selina M
09-27-2016, 01:46 PM
For someone who intimidates and tells grown men "NO" on a daily basis at work... I am surprisingly avoidant of confrontation in real life.

(Have been stressed about telling barn owner I'm leaving, this is most of why I've been unhappily there for months now. He was super pissed the last time someone left. But fuck this, I'm tired of riding on concrete in neighborhoods and getting anxiety because they're always hanging out every time I go over. I finally grew lady balls this morning and made firm arrangements with another barn to move in this weekend. Now just to tell these people!)

carmen_b
09-27-2016, 02:20 PM
Sometimes I wish the laws were not so strict in my current city ( regarding hand jobs ). It is weird that I have worked for years not offering them at the asian parlors but I am sort of interested in an even faster / higher earning model ( even just to try it ) at the spa . There is no way I will go through with this because the laws here are just so strict.

If anyone is less scared of this risk them me ..... I can tell you this city has a great need for this service. Eh. Maybe I'm just mourning the whole " lost " money thing or going through a phase. I just made $55 for a 45 minutes session ( after house split ) and this poor guy was so desperate he probably would have tipped $100-$150 if I could have offered him more.
Since I just can't absorb the legal risk ..... I am trying to not do the math on multiple sessions a day . ;/

The guys here seem a lot less smart about finding this though. In my old city they would always be really really clear that they brought extra $ . I'm not sure if it's paranoia or just that other ladies in my old city had whipped them into shape.

carmen_b
09-27-2016, 02:24 PM
You are the customer ! Just tell them " no thanks " and go get your babies !


For someone who intimidates and tells grown men "NO" on a daily basis at work... I am surprisingly avoidant of confrontation in real life.

(Have been stressed about telling barn owner I'm leaving, this is most of why I've been unhappily there for months now. He was super pissed the last time someone left. But fuck this, I'm tired of riding on concrete in neighborhoods and getting anxiety because they're always hanging out every time I go over. I finally grew lady balls this morning and made firm arrangements with another barn to move in this weekend. Now just to tell these people!)

carmen_b
09-27-2016, 02:33 PM
Believe me, I tried and it's NOT worth it. I meet the hottest dudes traveling for my day job sometimes ( back before I was partnered up ) and it's still really BORING without the emotional connection ( at least for me ). I could probably do it as an escorting set up or generous SB type set up but otherwise I'd really feel ripped off. It's REALLY REALLY boring. Just take my word or try to for yourself ! Ha.
( the hottest ones are in the nicest hotel bars FYI )


I wish I could have one night stand sex with a hot guy and not get attached. Even if I found a dude for that I'd have a hard to doing it for free. Id want some sort of gift with high monetary value.

Selina M
09-27-2016, 04:31 PM
^ I told them this afternoon. He kinda tried to find out WHERE I was going but I was firmly vague and said it was a friends place. I'm going to the same barn the other guy left for and they were upset for some reason, so I figure there's underlying drama I'd like to stay out of.

xStacey
09-27-2016, 05:07 PM
Just registered for a 101 Wine course. Knowledge about fine wine is so important in my field and since I did not grow up in a rich family I know nothing at all about wine. Preparing myself for the cocktail events this winter and interviews.

seashell
09-28-2016, 01:09 AM
I'm debating hanging out with a fellow artist I met at the SC. He seemed relatively normal, and gave me his business card in case I wanted him to show me how to paint with oils.

Apparently his studio is at his house, though. Meh. And my recent luck with men makes me want to steer clear of literally all of them.

SexxiLexxi
09-28-2016, 01:14 AM
I gave a 25% discount code to the 2nd customer who bought my very first video. The 1st one was an anonymous user. I thought this may be a good thing to bring in future sales. I suppose it is my customer service skills for my vanilla job that thought it would be good to do.

I don't know if it was. We'll see.

MyRealNameIsWeird
09-28-2016, 04:01 AM
I've just finished alienating the last of my relatives I felt I could rely on, because turns out I can't rely on any of them. Whoopsie. But for real, why can't I trust anyone at all... They're just looking out for what they can get and don't give a shit what I need in exchange. And then they turn and call me selfish for not wanting to make constant sacrifices for everyone else and get nothing back. I'm not a payday loans company, a housemad, a therapist, a nursary, a taxi, a secretary or any shit like that. And if I was I'd wanna get paid somehow. As it is I'm just expected to do everything for everyone and accept whatever tiny affections or unrequested gifts they give me that I didn't even want, but see them vanish when I NEED something. And I ought to be grateful for that shit, apparently.

SnuffleUffleGrass
09-28-2016, 07:51 AM
I've just finished alienating the last of my relatives I felt I could rely on, because turns out I can't rely on any of them. Whoopsie. But for real, why can't I trust anyone at all... They're just looking out for what they can get and don't give a shit what I need in exchange. And then they turn and call me selfish for not wanting to make constant sacrifices for everyone else and get nothing back. I'm not a payday loans company, a housemad, a therapist, a nursary, a taxi, a secretary or any shit like that. And if I was I'd wanna get paid somehow. As it is I'm just expected to do everything for everyone and accept whatever tiny affections or unrequested gifts they give me that I didn't even want, but see them vanish when I NEED something. And I ought to be grateful for that shit, apparently.

I can so relate

whirlerz
09-28-2016, 08:08 AM
That sums up most if not all people (to me) unfortunately, & yep I can also relate

carmen_b
09-28-2016, 10:23 AM
I'm in a very high hustle phase and wish my partner was too ( his is more medium right now ) . Obviously ..... I can't force this issue ( akward ) since I have my lower hustle phases too and wouldn't want to be pestered.
It would be so nice to just PUSH our incomes up in the next month or two .
I have a trip in mind that would be perfect for this hypothetical extra money we would have .
;/

xStacey
09-29-2016, 12:57 PM
I'm in a very high hustle phase and wish my partner was too ( his is more medium right now ) . Obviously ..... I can't force this issue ( akward ) since I have my lower hustle phases too and wouldn't want to be pestered.
It would be so nice to just PUSH our incomes up in the next month or two .
I have a trip in mind that would be perfect for this hypothetical extra money we would have .
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That's the problem I have with the current guy I'm dating too... One of the reasons I still haven't accepted to be his official girlfriend after three years LOL. He's a great guy ect. he's a bit older than me, and I'm in this phase in my life where I have to work really hard at school and towards my career, I'm quite intense and the hustling day and night type, whereas he's more of a 9 to 5 and go to bed at 10 p.m type of guy .. :/ I am still not sure if we're really compatible. But then I am not sure it's a great idea finding a guy who works all day all night seven days a week.

When it comes to a guy, it's easy, I'm not speaking about all women but a lot of women would be very happy staying at home or working less when their husband makes 6 figures and the guy is usually happy providing and having someone at home to take care of the meals, laundry and the kids... I want to make a lot of money but I am not sure I will be as happy about making much more money than my partner, driving a nicer car than him, living at a nicer place and I am not taking care of a man or buying him things.

Aurora_Sunset
10-01-2016, 09:38 AM
I'm so jealous of people who just seem to have limitless energy. I consider myself ambitious and keep busy a lot, but then I'll be sitting around like "Damn, I'm so productive and made that project so well!" and then someone will come along and just blow my freakin' mind with how much they get done, and how many social connections they have, and how creative they are, and how much energy they seem to have to tackle any project with so much gusto ALL THE TIME. And I'm just like.... goddam. I wish I could do that. Even though I do set goals and get (what I consider) a lot done, I still consider myself such a low-energy, chill person - especially next to these masters of go-go-go.

carmen_b
10-01-2016, 02:33 PM
^ I'm jealous of it too. My body has always been wired lower energy. I even remember as a kid, its seemed like everyone had more energy than me ! Ha. I'm always employing these tricks and strategies to save time but I kind of *have to* so I definitely can relate to that. You can never really see the whole picture of people though. They could be telling all those go go go stories, but you just don't see the side of them that lays around the house a couple days. ;)

whirlerz
10-01-2016, 03:03 PM
Ms P, where are you???
There's this cute, in shape guy staying down the hall from me, he has a little boy around 7, they're both in the pool now! He'd be perfect for you (@ least looks wise) he seems nice, he said hi to me..
Your kids could play together n' everything! :)

seashell
10-01-2016, 04:30 PM
I've been a hermit for a couple weeks, but a friend invited me to a board game night. Can't decide if I should go! I was planning to work today, since I need the monies for next month's move, but it is very tempting. I only know one person in the group, though. Hmmmmm...

Velveteen.Rabbit
10-01-2016, 07:49 PM
^ I'm jealous of it too. My body has always been wired lower energy. I even remember as a kid, its seemed like everyone had more energy than me ! Ha. I'm always employing these tricks and strategies to save time but I kind of *have to* so I definitely can relate to that. You can never really see the whole picture of people though. They could be telling all those go go go stories, but you just don't see the side of them that lays around the house a couple days. ;)

Same. Always felt my body was on coast while my mind was on hyper-drive. Wish I could switch it around and be like the rest of the population.

baer45
10-01-2016, 10:12 PM
There are a few sections of this forum I have never browsed.

miss.a.p1600
10-02-2016, 12:20 PM
Ms P, where are you???
There's this cute, in shape guy staying down the hall from me, he has a little boy around 7, they're both in the pool now! He'd be perfect for you (@ least looks wise) he seems nice, he said hi to me..
Your kids could play together n' everything! :)

Dang! I'm missing out potentially hot dilfs.

I need to get out more that's for sure.

rareaspasia
10-02-2016, 02:27 PM
I'm going to a book signing and I'm nervous like a teenager on her first date. I seriously never get nervous. But this person has seriously inspired me so much. I'd say who but I'd rather wait until after just because I'm freaky paranoid about someone reading this and looking for me which is probably dumb but whatever. I like my privacy.