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miss.a.p1600
07-30-2018, 11:38 PM
That's the guy you need to bang STAT! That hot feeling doesn't last forever and those guys are not always forever material anyway. But if they get you hot and bothered just at the thought, get yours while you can!
Thanks for the insight
I’m going to have to wait for him to make the first move, and i estimate it may take a few months because well ..... it’s a long story
In the meantime I will have to masturbate before work like everyday to eliminate the look of thirst in my eye. I did last night and thought about him while I was pleasing myself wishing he could give me a hand
Elle:)
07-31-2018, 07:01 PM
I hate my life.
chanzep
07-31-2018, 07:15 PM
I keep buying nail color's, even though I always get gel polish.
lilylilylily
07-31-2018, 07:19 PM
I'm not at all attracted to my fwb. I keep wanting to tell him lets just be friends
Elektra Luxx
07-31-2018, 10:21 PM
Bfs older cousin and his wife went swimming with us one time and he was getting out of the pool, he has a big, broad chest and the way his chest looked as water ran off his chest...I felt myself gush.
Yes, it's my bfs cousin and he's going through something serious and is sad because he doesn't know if he can keep his marriage together and.....I fantasize about making hickeys in the shape of a smiley face on his chest.
Yes, I'm a terrible person.
miss.a.p1600
08-01-2018, 07:17 PM
Saw my coworker I’d like to fuck.
Part of me wishes I could get him off my mind. The other part of me fantasizes about him constantly. I want him more than I did before.
If I dont get a signal from him then I may need to find a new object of desire because although I want some invigorating office eye candy, I don’t want to develop an unhealthy obsession
Glamourmilf
08-02-2018, 09:06 AM
Saw my coworker I’d like to fuck.
Part of me wishes I could get him off my mind. The other part of me fantasizes about him constantly. I want him more than I did before.
If I dont get a signal from him then I may need to find a new object of desire because although I want some invigorating office eye candy, I don’t want to develop an unhealthy obsession
I can relate.
I'm recently into this real ALPHA musician who follows me on my vanilla social media, and lives close by. He's sooo hot!
I drop hints, but he doesn't have a clue, and I'm too shy to come right out with it.
I'm even overlooking the fact that he's a HUGE Scientologist, and might be married.
No, Glam.....Just don't.:no::no:
WendiStarr
08-02-2018, 03:44 PM
I hate vanilla female coworkers. They can be just as bad, if not worse than jealous strippers in the sc. We have a larger workload than usual this week and so several coworkers came in. I was okay with the ones I was working with. It was non stop cattiness today. Hot but strange boss at the beginning of the work day came to our dept and for whatever reason, looked at me, did some eyebrow raise and smile at me. One of the bitches noticed and as soon as he walked away she made a comment about someone must be sleeping with him, and shot me a dirty look. All day she kept making smart ass comments about how some of us are only here because we spread our legs for the boss and that I might as well go home because I'm not doing anything but messing everything up. I've never slept with the boss or had anything with him! I was tempted to tell her off because I'm major pmsing this week but I kept quiet. I was so tempted to just say,"Listen here, bitch. I have no relation to anyone here. I recently had surgery for cancer, therefore I'm not sleeping with anyone so fuck off and get a life!"
lynn2009
08-02-2018, 03:57 PM
I'm still really disappointed with what a let down turning 30 and graduating were. No one cared and I didn't get to do anything fun or special for either. I really miss that about Derek, he would have made those milestones such a big deal.
SnuffleUffleGrass
08-02-2018, 07:00 PM
I'm still really disappointed with what a let down turning 30 and graduating were. No one cared and I didn't get to do anything fun or special for either. I really miss that about Derek, he would have made those milestones such a big deal.
Congratulations!!!! I'm very proud of you.
whirlerz
08-02-2018, 07:11 PM
I hate vanilla female coworkers. They can be just as bad, if not worse than jealous strippers in the sc. We have a larger workload than usual this week and so several coworkers came in. I was okay with the ones I was working with. It was non stop cattiness today. Hot but strange boss at the beginning of the work day came to our dept and for whatever reason, looked at me, did some eyebrow raise and smile at me. One of the bitches noticed and as soon as he walked away she made a comment about someone must be sleeping with him, and shot me a dirty look. All day she kept making smart ass comments about how some of us are only here because we spread our legs for the boss and that I might as well go home because I'm not doing anything but messing everything up. I've never slept with the boss or had anything with him! I was tempted to tell her off because I'm major pmsing this week but I kept quiet. I was so tempted to just say,"Listen here, bitch. I have no relation to anyone here. I recently had surgery for cancer, therefore I'm not sleeping with anyone so fuck off and get a life!"
OMG, what.a.cunt, jealous much?!>:(
Yep, they can be worse, years ago I sued a company cause some pig elbowed me as we passed in the hall
Aurora_Sunset
08-02-2018, 11:59 PM
I think I've finally experienced the phenomenon of being "dickmatized." But damn, if sex was this good with everybody, I'd be a sex addict long ago.
Ifyouseekamy
08-03-2018, 01:39 AM
I hate vanilla female coworkers. They can be just as bad, if not worse than jealous strippers in the sc. We have a larger workload than usual this week and so several coworkers came in. I was okay with the ones I was working with. It was non stop cattiness today. Hot but strange boss at the beginning of the work day came to our dept and for whatever reason, looked at me, did some eyebrow raise and smile at me. One of the bitches noticed and as soon as he walked away she made a comment about someone must be sleeping with him, and shot me a dirty look. All day she kept making smart ass comments about how some of us are only here because we spread our legs for the boss and that I might as well go home because I'm not doing anything but messing everything up. I've never slept with the boss or had anything with him! I was tempted to tell her off because I'm major pmsing this week but I kept quiet. I was so tempted to just say,"Listen here, bitch. I have no relation to anyone here. I recently had surgery for cancer, therefore I'm not sleeping with anyone so fuck off and get a life!"
Sometimes I think that I overestimate how much happier I’d be in a vanilla job. I always expect vanilla people to better. Im like you have food, water, and shelter! Why be an asshole or a bitch for no reason? I’m sorry you had to deal with that, but hearing that helps me have some perspective.
Ifyouseekamy
08-03-2018, 01:40 AM
I'm still really disappointed with what a let down turning 30 and graduating were. No one cared and I didn't get to do anything fun or special for either. I really miss that about Derek, he would have made those milestones such a big deal.
I hear you, we all are very proud of you. I hope you do something nice for yourself.
baer45
08-03-2018, 11:24 AM
My guard was down last night and I got screwed over. One of my former regs contacted me asking if he could see me. I can't have sex right now because of the surgery and I told him that. He said that was ok, that we could do other things. We messed around. He had his donation sitting there on the dresser before. He took it back. He threatened to call LE on me and say that I was a prostitute if I didn't leave his house. He went in my purse, seen my id, and said that now he knows my real name and address. So now do I have to worry about him showing up at my home? Am I going to have to live more anxious and paranoid than I already am? I regret ever seeing him. I've never had any problems with him in the past. I went home and had a terrible anxiety attack. I barely slept last night because I kept freaking out. How do previously good regs turn rogue like that?
I am sorry that happened to you Wendi. That's a terrible person. This gives all of us a warning, never trust an object with a penis attached.
While I enjoy the money my regulars brought to me, I only "turst" two of them just because they have more to lose than me when shit happens.
My advice for you is to ignore him from now on. Don't ever speak to him. If he texts you, treat it as future evidence in court.
Ifyouseekamy
08-03-2018, 05:06 PM
I am sorry that happened to you Wendi. That's a terrible person. This gives all of us a warning, never trust an object with a penis attached.
While I enjoy the money my regulars brought to me, I only "turst" two of them just because they have more to lose than me when shit happens.
My advice for you is to ignore him from now on. Don't ever speak to him. If he texts you, treat it as future evidence in court.
This exactly why sex work should be legal, so Women can call the cops without fear.
You can go the women’s shelter. You don’t have to explain everything. Just say you have a stalker from work. They may be able to help you get a restraining order or talk to you about safety planning. It’s not your fault.
1800victims.org
Now might be the time to get a big dog. A cop told me that when my neighbor was stalking me. I asked what to do and he pointed to my dog...he said that’s about the most effective thing against a home intruder.
Elektra Luxx
08-03-2018, 10:37 PM
I went out to dinner with a bunch of people tonight. Someone orders several pitchers of Sangria for the table, but I say I'm limiting myself to two wine sized glasses. Then, "wow!", they're really good, fizzy and go down smooth with no alcohol kick at all and I'm feeling good. I say "what the heck, keep going". Four maybe five and I feel the buzz. I'm a happy drunk and I get really talkative, start sharing funny stories etc. Meanwhile, bfs cousin shows up late with his youngest daughter (11yo) and they sit right...across...the...table...from...me. And I clam up because I was so afraid that I'll declare my undying love for him by mistake. Luckily, my plate arrived so I could start eating and soak up some of this alcohol. I did catch myself staring at his long, amazing fingers while he was texting on his phone. BTW, he has never ever paid even the slightest attention to me in other than a friendly way. Never got a flirty vibe or lingering touch from him either. He's not interested in me at all. *Sigh*
miss.a.p1600
08-04-2018, 06:01 AM
I had a dream that I was about to have sex with a hot young guy. But cotdamn it! Why I always wake up fore the sex is about to go down????
I think being around decent looking dudes at the vanilla workplace that I’d like to fuck is driving me to the brink of sexual insanity lol. I get they are trying to be professional and not get sexually harassment accusations against them but As long as things are respectful, I’m not worried about that. Either that or maybe they really want to keep things professional only
My womb and pussy are sad and lonely right now.
ScarletKitten
08-04-2018, 03:28 PM
I had a dream that I was about to have sex with a hot young guy. But cotdamn it! Why I always wake up fore the sex is about to go down????
I think being around decent looking dudes at the vanilla workplace that I’d like to fuck is driving me to the brink of sexual insanity lol. I get they are trying to be professional and not get sexually harassment accusations against them but As long as things are respectful, I’m not worried about that. Either that or maybe they really want to keep things professional only
My womb and pussy are sad and lonely right now.
I feel the same way about the guys at my vanilla job. I haven't had sex in months, and there are a couple of guys from work I would fuck. But I'm not doing it. I came close one time recently, but he pissed me off, so I told him to leave me the fuck alone. Motherfucker is hot as hell, but he made me mad, so he ain't getting any of this pussy. But damn, angry sex with him would be hot. I'm sad and lonely lately too.
miss.a.p1600
08-04-2018, 03:41 PM
I think the old dude might be pissed I didn’t spend the weekend with him but I really just wanted to be alone for a bit and drink wine and wear pajamas and and watch porn without any pressure to get dolled up and entertain or whatnot
I don’t think I’ll ever be the type to hang out with my partner every single day for hours n shit. I may need to marry a doctor or pilot or whatnot
Maybe my mind will change when I have twins but until then ..... I’ll be off in my woman cave for at least 10 hours per week
miss.a.p1600
08-04-2018, 05:47 PM
I drank a bottle of wine - which I haven’t drank liquor in about a month. Now I feel guilty. Like I wasted the whole day. I wanted to drive somewhere and workout before sunset. But I’m too tipsy to drive rn. FML I really didn’t even need liquor I just got it and drank it cause I was bored but now I’m more bored confined to the house.
ScarletKitten
08-04-2018, 08:54 PM
I'm having a hard time getting motivated to unpack and organize my new room. I just look at all the chaos around me and feel exhausted. I don't feel at home here yet. And I'm being a total hermit staying in my room avoiding my roommates. I need to take a shower and brush my teeth and take care of myself, but I feel like I'm in a depression coma. I haven't been taking very good care of myself. I almost feel like a ghost, barely alive. Music is keeping me alive. If it weren't for music, I would just fade away....
SnuffleUffleGrass
08-05-2018, 07:46 AM
I hate vanilla female coworkers. They can be just as bad, if not worse than jealous strippers in the sc. We have a larger workload than usual this week and so several coworkers came in. I was okay with the ones I was working with. It was non stop cattiness today. Hot but strange boss at the beginning of the work day came to our dept and for whatever reason, looked at me, did some eyebrow raise and smile at me. One of the bitches noticed and as soon as he walked away she made a comment about someone must be sleeping with him, and shot me a dirty look. All day she kept making smart ass comments about how some of us are only here because we spread our legs for the boss and that I might as well go home because I'm not doing anything but messing everything up. I've never slept with the boss or had anything with him! I was tempted to tell her off because I'm major pmsing this week but I kept quiet. I was so tempted to just say,"Listen here, bitch. I have no relation to anyone here. I recently had surgery for cancer, therefore I'm not sleeping with anyone so fuck off and get a life!"
I feel this sooo much.
Every "day job" workplace I've been at has either a bunch of lame women grouping up together to pick on the attractive women there, OR has a pot-stirrer who gets off on gossiping/influencing/breaking rules.
Ugh. This is why I don't participate in "Beyhive" talk. Women need to work on themselves if they want women as a whole to do better.
NitaBaby
08-05-2018, 07:57 AM
I was so tempted to just say,"Listen here, bitch. I have no relation to anyone here. I recently had surgery for cancer, therefore I'm not sleeping with anyone so fuck off and get a life!"
With women like that I NEVER mention a personal weakness, illness, or frustration; they are way too eager to hear about it. And the last thing I’d want is for her to finally get over her insecurity just because I highlighted an area she might see as a flaw. Fuck her.
Some of us can be pretty AND get the job done. Next time tell her to take notes.
DonaDiabla
08-05-2018, 10:39 AM
You know,this year was an wake up call for my career. For the first time in 15 years, I got tired of this industry overall after that First Choice thing happened. Between companies like CamContacts kicking everyone from certain places out to me having nearly suing CamModelStore for my money,I just can't handle any more bullshit in this industry. So, I spend the past few months rebuilding all of my brands in this industry. I cut off every cheap and low class customer. Clean out my crappy sugar daddy potential pool, start working at great places on Second Life, developed my own stripperbot demo on Second Life, developed a new cam/pso persona, and created a much more healthy cam business. But, my direct-dial pso business needs to be totally rebuild now after getting trashy losers from SkiptheGames and it will take an whole month of rebuilding. Then my business will be finally healthy once again. :)
kendallkushxo
08-07-2018, 10:24 AM
Made a naive mistake.
Hung out at current vanilla job with sketchy new co worker. She showed me some ice. I smelled it, it was actually good. The rest of the night turned into her trying to subtly sell me drugs and her lifestyle. Everyone else gets the privelidge to not have to work with her except me. I get paid less than her. She does a half assed job at work. I want to quit but my parent keeps on telling me to stay because he doesn’t want me to cam full time. Managers don’t do anything to help me.
On top of this she is friends with an ex that broke into my house and damaged my property. He started calling her and talking to her and she seems pretty interested in hanging out with him. This guy has showed up to my work place before and has harrassed me. I told her he’s crazy and he will try to fuck her over for something. This guy is bad luck. She said he’d never do that to her and the reason he did all that was because it was me and it’s all my fault.
But than the last time we talked about him I said imagine if I got him into smoking ice with me what a monster he would have become and she said yeah Im so glad u didn’t do that he would have done something crazy
WendiStarr
08-07-2018, 10:56 AM
Made a naive mistake.
Hung out at current vanilla job with sketchy new co worker. She showed me some ice. I smelled it, it was actually good. The rest of the night turned into her trying to subtly sell me drugs and her lifestyle. Everyone else gets the privelidge to not have to work with her except me. I get paid less than her. She does a half assed job at work. I want to quit but my parent keeps on telling me to stay because he doesn’t want me to cam full time. Managers don’t do anything to help me.
On top of this she is friends with an ex that broke into my house and damaged my property. He started calling her and talking to her and she seems pretty interested in hanging out with him. This guy has showed up to my work place before and has harrassed me. I told her he’s crazy and he will try to fuck her over for something. This guy is bad luck. She said he’d never do that to her and the reason he did all that was because it was me and it’s all my fault.
But than the last time we talked about him I said imagine if I got him into smoking ice with me what a monster he would have become and she said yeah Im so glad u didn’t do that he would have done something crazy
Sketchy coworker who's selling drugs and is friends with your ex. She could be trying to be buddy-buddy with you for malicious purposes involving your ex. She blamed you for your ex's crazy behavior? I wouldn't trust her. Nothing about this situation sounds like someone that you should be making friends with. This sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. /mommodeoff
Elektra Luxx
08-07-2018, 11:59 AM
Made a naive mistake.
Hung out at current vanilla job with sketchy new co worker. She showed me some ice. I smelled it, it was actually good. The rest of the night turned into her trying to subtly sell me drugs and her lifestyle. Everyone else gets the privelidge to not have to work with her except me. I get paid less than her. She does a half assed job at work. I want to quit but my parent keeps on telling me to stay because he doesn’t want me to cam full time. Managers don’t do anything to help me.
On top of this she is friends with an ex that broke into my house and damaged my property. He started calling her and talking to her and she seems pretty interested in hanging out with him. This guy has showed up to my work place before and has harrassed me. I told her he’s crazy and he will try to fuck her over for something. This guy is bad luck. She said he’d never do that to her and the reason he did all that was because it was me and it’s all my fault.
But than the last time we talked about him I said imagine if I got him into smoking ice with me what a monster he would have become and she said yeah Im so glad u didn’t do that he would have done something crazy
Do not stay at your current job. Why is this person trying to get you to do ice? Go back to camming until you find another vanilla job.
Elektra Luxx
08-07-2018, 05:27 PM
I let my antidepressants/impulse control prescription lapse, so I didn't take it yesterday or today. I've been feeling so weird today. I've been really edgy and have been snapping at everyone. I'm so upset that my body is so dependent on my meds.
I think of best friend from gradeschool/highschool, her mom was dependent on mood control meds. She hated being so dependent. So she'd be feeling fine and decide not to take her meds. Then she would disappear for days. My best friend said her mom would go on a sex/alcohol/drug binge with random people. When they found her, they'd have to detox her and institutionalize her for several weeks.
This scares me.
miss.a.p1600
08-07-2018, 07:54 PM
Omg - my coworker I'd like to fuck was going into the supply closet today. I needed to go in there too but I didn't want to look thirsty (or have anyone who might see, notice that Im going into the closet space with room enough for one person maybe two - then get suspicious) so I tried to wait for him to come out. Well his ass was taking too long so I waited till I could I see him making moves to come out.
The door auto locks so I was like "hold the door". I thought he was going to leave but ..... hey we both end up in that mf closet together.
As I left, I gave him an innocent, yet subtly seductive look and whispered "thank you"
Yep - thank you alright. Thanks for the masturbation fantasy material, thanks for holding this door open for me, thanks for being a past freak, and thanks for being a future freak (I know you a freak deep down inside and I'm going to draw it out of you lol)
Elektra Luxx
08-07-2018, 07:55 PM
I get my prescription and take one with some left over bottled water in my car. I don't know if it's psychosomatic or chemical, but in less than 30 minutes I'm feeling 1000% better. I'm smiling, laughing, playing around and teasing bf and feeling like myself.
I deleted the last sentence, it sounded too melodramatic.
Elle:)
08-11-2018, 07:20 PM
I hate my husband. I wish I had never met him.
Glamourmilf
08-12-2018, 03:53 AM
I always amaze myself at how awesome of a cook I am.
I don't know why I'm always shocked. . Everyone I've ever cooked for reminds me of it every chance they get.
I bought 2 packages of ground turkey, because they were on sale.
I don't even really like turkey.
I made a turkey burger last night that would make you cream your jeans!
I used the rest to make a pasta dish for today.
Damn, I'm good.:D
WendiStarr
08-12-2018, 03:53 PM
I ate way too many chocolate chip cookies this weekend.
Elle:)
08-12-2018, 05:32 PM
I spend too much time on Instagram.
miss.a.p1600
08-12-2018, 10:15 PM
Sometimes, I wish I could ditch all my adult responsibilities
WendiStarr
08-13-2018, 03:34 PM
I never blocked Mr. Flaky again like I said I would. He texted me today saying that he was in my neighborhood. I wasn't thinking anything of it because he texted me that before several times in the past and flaked out on me instead of actually showing up. This time he actually called me(something he has never, ever done before) and stayed on the phone with me until he got here. I knew for sure he wasn't flaking when I seen his truck and he got out. I was shocked. I let him in and wasn't sure what to expect. He gave me a long hug. It was seriously like a 10 minute hug. We hung out in my room, just talking and he kept staring at me and saying I was beautiful. We started making out(he was never into kissing before) with him on top of me. Everything I felt for him came back again and I was like putty. I could feel him hard against me in his jeans. I would've fucked him right then and there(I'm pathetic, I know). He said that he was tempted to have sex with me but that he didn't want me to think that he came over just to fuck me and leave. He was nice to me and said that he knew he wasn't reliable in the past but decided he wants to be now. Then he said that we should have a proper date first and doesn't want to move too fast and skip right to sex this time. We've had all kinds of sex in the past so this was different. He just held me, cuddled with me, kissed me, and kept staring into my eyes and was being all gentle, caressing my face and stuff. I honestly don't know what to make of him anymore. I have to say I am very fucking confused right now. What the fuck!?
WendiStarr
08-16-2018, 07:38 AM
After Mr. Flaky's douchey response to me when I said that I enjoyed seeing him again and when are we going to go on that date, it pissed me off and turned me off. I texted Mr. Flaky, "I'm not a back up option or a second, third, or fourth choice" and blocked him. I can't deal with added unnecessary stress from him right now. It's making me feel physically ill.
baer45
08-16-2018, 02:33 PM
Sometimes it's easier to admit that I am not good enough.
SnuffleUffleGrass
08-17-2018, 06:18 AM
I confess I'm a bit dizzy & have to go to a follow up appointment for my surgery. Let's all hope I don't faint in front of the specialist, I'll feel like a dork...
Glamourmilf
08-17-2018, 08:24 AM
I confess that I both like, and at the same time hate one of my neighbors.:-\
She's sometimes fun to talk to. But then she wants to always get too close if I even give an inch.
She's lazy as fuck, ( which she admits), and just lays around the apt all day, chain smoking and watching TV, and drinking.
Her ac broke, and she said that she was too lazy to go get the Arctic Air, which is only a half mile away.
*It's what most people out here do, which is why I keep to myself.
Anyway, she notices me going into the laundry room, where there's only 2 washers and dryers, and decides that THAT'S the exact time she's gonna do her laundry. There's no ac in there, and it's 110 degrees, so I like to get in and out quickly. Other neighbors do this too. There's only 7 other tenants here. So needy.
I've even tried doing my laundry at 4 am, but there's a nosy beatch who's snooping around at that time too.
She pulls my stuff out of the washer, and in the process my bath mat is missing.
Long and boring story short.
* I didn't put this in the pissy section because I'm looking for random suggestions on........
Can anyone help me become a night owl, so I can avoid people out here?
Thanks in advance.
ScarletKitten
08-18-2018, 11:02 AM
Ugh, I don't think I have it in me to work tonight at the club. I feel like living in this house just drains all my energy. This place is so depressing. This entire neighborhood is depressing and run down as shit. All my roommates are depressed too. I think the energy around here is just fucked. I know I NEED to work because I just dropped over $400 on getting my brakes fixed, and I have to make up for it. But....how can I when I have such low energy? I don't like living here. I miss my old place. I need to move out of here. There is no way in hell I can stay here and maintain my sanity. Just no way. Also, my diet has been shit lately. I'e been eating things like skittles and other crap that doesn't make me feel well. This is all a reflection of my current state of mind. I feel like I'm in a slump and going backwards in progress. I also feel like time itself has been stuck and not moving forward at all, if that even makes any sense.
Elektra Luxx
08-18-2018, 12:35 PM
Earlier my sister was getting her hair done. She had my niece with her and because she wasn't making good choices my sister asked asked if I could go get her. Her Aunt Ava knows all about not making good choices and is sympathetic, so I bring her to the apartment. She is so much fun.
Bf started talking about us having kids about a month after we got together, usually right after we made love. Well, back then it was just sex for me. (Inside I'm thinking, "He's cute and is pretty good in bed, but I'll go a few more weeks before I skedaddle." Anywhoo, that was like 2 years ago and the relationship dynamics have reversed. Now I'm the one that's all clingy and jealous. ) He wants kids, but I think what he really wants is a commitment for us to be together. I really don't know why. I'm a royal, purple bitch sometimes.
trustfundkiller
08-18-2018, 03:56 PM
I'm really surprised by something a close male friend of 10+ years told me. He has lost 40lbs and he told me that he wishes his girlfriend of 6 years would take better care of herself, how she has "let herself go" and gained a lot of weight. I suggested that he asks her to go on walks with him, that they cook healthy meals together, grocery shop together, etc., because those can not only help her get into better shape but they're nice bonding activities. He says he has tried but she's uninterested so instead he "makes her feel so insecure she's forced to take better care of herself"
WTF? I told him that's abusive, manipulative and psychologically damaging to say the least. That's fucked up. Lost a lot of respect for him hearing that. At first I thought he was kidding, but he wasn't.
SnuffleUffleGrass
08-18-2018, 04:57 PM
I'm really surprised by something a close male friend of 10+ years told me. He has lost 40lbs and he told me that he wishes his girlfriend of 6 years would take better care of herself, how she has "let herself go" and gained a lot of weight. I suggested that he asks her to go on walks with him, that they cook healthy meals together, grocery shop together, etc., because those can not only help her get into better shape but they're nice bonding activities. He says he has tried but she's uninterested so instead he "makes her feel so insecure she's forced to take better care of herself"
WTF? I told him that's abusive, manipulative and psychologically damaging to say the least. That's fucked up. Lost a lot of respect for him hearing that. At first I thought he was kidding, but he wasn't.
Well I might be playing devil's advocate here but a lot of guys in his shoes would just start cheating and use the "you let go of yourself" reason as the excuse when caught.
TBH though yes hurtful comments and manipulation only make people want to run away from partners. He might not really care anymore. A part of increased attractiveness is seeing more options for dating and sex.
trustfundkiller
08-18-2018, 06:51 PM
Well I might be playing devil's advocate here but a lot of guys in his shoes would just start cheating and use the "you let go of yourself" reason as the excuse when caught.
TBH though yes hurtful comments and manipulation only make people want to run away from partners. He might not really care anymore. A part of increased attractiveness is seeing more options for dating and sex.
That is true! And that's exactly what he said, he's basically starting to feel like he's out of her league. I know he's been emotionally checked out for a long time, but the relationship is so convenient I doubt he would her leave her. I thought about that too. I'm not sure picking on her is going to accomplish what he's trying to do. It might just make him the enemy and push her away.
carmen_b
08-19-2018, 09:42 AM
^^ It does sound like he is getting ready to leave.
It can be hard when you are on a self improvement kick if your partner refuses to match.
I’m not defending his behavior ( I agree it’s terrible and emotional abuse if he keeps it up ).
whirlerz
08-19-2018, 10:10 AM
I confess that I both like, and at the same time hate one of my neighbors.:-\
She's sometimes fun to talk to. But then she wants to always get too close if I even give an inch.
She's lazy as fuck, ( which she admits), and just lays around the apt all day, chain smoking and watching TV, and drinking.
Her ac broke, and she said that she was too lazy to go get the Arctic Air, which is only a half mile away.
*It's what most people out here do, which is why I keep to myself.
Anyway, she notices me going into the laundry room, where there's only 2 washers and dryers, and decides that THAT'S the exact time she's gonna do her laundry. There's no ac in there, and it's 110 degrees, so I like to get in and out quickly. Other neighbors do this too. There's only 7 other tenants here. So needy.
I've even tried doing my laundry at 4 am, but there's a nosy beatch who's snooping around at that time too.
She pulls my stuff out of the washer, and in the process my bath mat is missing.
Long and boring story short.
* I didn't put this in the pissy section because I'm looking for random suggestions on........
Can anyone help me become a night owl, so I can avoid people out here?
Thanks in advance.
Well, you're going to have to reajust your hours..
I did this by sleeping/testing during the day, forcing myself busy/awake during the evening, especially when I want to go to sleep then. I use a little caffeine & chocolate but not a lot.
I put restful music on my phone w/the ear buds, & use the eyecovering mask to blot out light. Hth.
Can you put in your ear buds w/the phone to blow past them? Or pretend you're on the phone so you don't have to talk to. them?
Good luck hon!
Wtf, stealing someone bath mat::)
Glamourmilf
08-19-2018, 10:53 AM
Well, you're going to have to reajust your hours..
I did this by sleeping/testing during the day, forcing myself busy/awake during the evening, especially when I want to go to sleep then. I use a little caffeine & chocolate but not a lot.
I put restful music on my phone w/the ear buds, & use the eyecovering mask to blot out light. Hth.
Can you put in your ear buds w/the phone to blow past them? Or pretend you're on the phone so you don't have to talk to. them?
Good luck hon!
Wtf, stealing someone bath mat::)
Thank You Whirl for those suggestions.
I've tried doing the phone thing, but they are rude, and talk anyway.
The fucked up part is that I BOUGHT a portable washing machine, and a clothes rack to dry my clothes.
Sadly, nobody I paid to help me can figure out how to hook it up.
I waited until it got dark last night to go empty my trash, and walk out to the street where my mailbox is.
Wouldn't you know, nosy bee was standing at her car which is next to the trash bins.
And another neighbor decides to leave her apt and walk to her car, which is right next to the mailbox.
Ugh!
She reeked of booze ( like I said, that's all people do out here)
Yeah, I'm thinking.
Get in your car and drive drunk.
Dipshits!
In winter it's different, because it's freezing cold and they don't go anywhere once it's dark.
That's MY time.
I love the cooler temps.
whirlerz
08-19-2018, 11:51 AM
TALK OVER them! Loudly.
Plug up your ears, like "what, what,.can't hear you, neighbor's talking " (imaginary phone convo)
Also, say hurriedly, " 'Scuse me, pardon me"!
Me personally, I ignore, life's too damn short!
Good luck, you can do this!!! :)
Edit: look around for a handyman, (to hook up.the washer and dryer)
TryYelp or Angie's List or something :)
Speaking of:
My neighbors decided to pull the weeds & throw em on my walkway..I calmly swept 'em right back into the lawn!?::)
Play nice, kiddos!
The landlord should, of course.
IDK if the town here would pick up a paper grocery bag for landscape waste
I sure after ain't buying the bags