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LoveyDovey
09-28-2020, 10:18 PM
My friend is dating a guy 10 years younger than her and he’s actually a keeper. Last month I had a pregnancy scare and he went to the store to get a test for me because he didn’t want me to be extra stressed out.
That is a keeper! I think younger guys try harder to act like an adult as a way of impressing their girl, whereas older guys think theyre the shit for dating a younger woman and therefore act like assholes. Just my take.
moneybags
09-29-2020, 07:22 AM
Well my phase of wanting a boyfriend is over. Not unless I’m being compensated for my time and energy. He’s a dilf, but unless he’s paying ALL my bills I’m not interested. How do you even bring that up? I really like you, but it’s expensive to date me? If I’m fucking a guy, then I shouldn’t have to entertain other men. Then the other issue is I don’t like to be financially dependent on a guy. I’d have to finish school before I’d be okay with being some what financially dependent on a man. That answers my question. I’m not going to date until I’m done with school. I’m actually not a gold digger; I’m a sweet, loyal woman. My loyalty hasn’t been returned, so now I’m just unfoolish.
ravenskyy
09-30-2020, 06:44 AM
I wish I didn't get pregnant. I feel like a huge, ugly whale. I'm too scared to announce it to customers, so I'm still hiding it. I'm 30 weeks and it's hard and uncomfortable to hide. And I barely want to work because I'm so mentally and physically exhausted, but I need to work because I need to pay down debt and have something aside for maternity leave. I have nothing at this point.
My two year old drives me crazy. He has no consistent schedule. He frustrates me and he won't sit and eat his damn food in the morning! I feel like I got the worst behaved child and I'm not mentally able to deal with it. I love him so much but I really wish he was someone else's problem.
I resent my husband for working so much and not doing more around the house. He does bare minimum. I do the laundry, grocery shopping, our budgeting, organizing our finances and I make sure all the bills get paid. I'm the one that gets stuck on the phone, making uncomfortable phone calls when there is an error on a bill or to set up payments for any debt we have. I do most of the meal planning, cooking and cleaning. If I don't put away the laundry, it will sit in baskets until everything clean becomes dirty. I make sure the baby has all his necessities and I drop him off and pick him up from daycare. I'm the one that gets stuck waiting for people to come by to work on stuff around the house, which cuts into my work time.
On top of all of that, I STILL have to find time to work. And I hate my job! The customers are flakey and demanding. Contacting me at all hours of the day and night. My regs have basically all abandoned me or I've blocked them for mistreating me. I've got so much to deal with and yet people are shocked when I tell them that I'm depressed.
I'm going to drop my son off, come home and cry. I wish I wasn't so fucking miserable all the time. I wish my brain didn't make me hate myself and my life. I wish I had friends. I wish this election was over so people would stop talking about it! I just want to go back to 2011, and live the life I had then.
*Wanted to add* I know I need therapy. I can't find a therapist that I trust to divulge my entire life to. Last time I tried, the bitch used it against me when I needed her help. Never. Again.
BambiCutie
09-30-2020, 07:41 AM
First off you are beautiful and that is something to embrace! You bust your ass every day and on top of that, you strive to be a great parent!
You pick up the weight of all the responsibilities and it is beyond understandable why you would want more contribution from your Husband.
Please don't cry..
WendiStarr
09-30-2020, 08:22 AM
I'm so tired of my boyfriend threatening to leave. If he's going to leave, he needs to just do it already because I'm so sick of walking on egg shells, not knowing what to expect. I feel like him having the heart attack has caused him to stick around because he knew I'd take care of him and I have. I have changed my entire diet to accommodate his heart healthy diet requirements. Everything has come to revolve around him and the kids, which I'm fine with until he starts crap with me about leaving. I have moved 10 times within the past 5 years, 3 times just within the past year. I don't want to move again, which I'd have to do if he left. I need stability in my life. I'm 33 and not a spring chicken anymore. If/when he leaves, I'm not going to bother trying to find a husband/dad for my kids anymore. I'm so fed up with investing time, love, and effort into selfish men. Guys these days seem to either want a maternal woman around to mother them that they have no sexual attraction to but like the comfort of being cared for by this woman, knowing that no matter how bad they fuck up, she'll always be there to lean on or they want a woman to be nothing more than a sex object, available whenever they want for sexual activities, one of several women in his sexual rotation. At least that's what my experience with men seems to be. Years ago when my oldest daughter was 2, one of my gay male friends wanted to marry me so that he could hide his sexual orientation from his family and give the appearances of being a straight family man. My grandma was excited about me possibly marrying an Asian man(she's 100% Japanese). I had turned him down because I always thought that if people were to marry, they should marry for love. Sometimes I wonder if I could enter a sham marriage so at least I could have financial stability for my kids and I. Then I feel sad, thinking I wish I could marry someone that I love and who genuinely loves me back. Apparently that's too much to ask for. You can ignore this post because I'm pmsing and feeling pretty low right now.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
09-30-2020, 08:22 AM
Ive recently dealt with some health issues that zapped a lot of my energy. From day to day I dont know how my lower body is going to feel. One day my calfs feel like bricks and the next they're like mushy noodles with zero muscle tone. Today was day three of physical training with a fitness professional and she is so sweet and patient. Its frustrating because I dont recognise this body at all!!! Two months ago I was climbing a tree with my nieces. But now I wont dare get out if bed without using my ctrl strap for stretching.
Today the trainer showed me how I can use existing equipment with resistance bands for home workouts. I can't wait to be on the otherside of this mess.
SnuffleUffleGrass
09-30-2020, 10:22 AM
Ive recently dealt with some health issues that zapped a lot of my energy. From day to day I dont know how my lower body is going to feel. One day my calfs feel like bricks and the next they're like mushy noodles with zero muscle tone. Today was day three of physical training with a fitness professional and she is so sweet and patient. Its frustrating because I dont recognise this body at all!!! Two months ago I was climbing a tree with my nieces. But now I wont dare get out if bed without using my ctrl strap for stretching.
Today the trainer showed me how I can use existing equipment with resistance bands for home workouts. I can't wait to be on the otherside of this mess.
Hugs!!!!
Confession- I'm ending a friendship because ...well there's no point in bending over backwards for someone, for no return on the effort. Oh well.....
miss.a.p1600
09-30-2020, 07:42 PM
L said he was going to start saving for a ring
miss.a.p1600
09-30-2020, 07:44 PM
I just want to smoke weed and go to sleep alone.
I don’t know if I can do this couple shit. How couples be having sex all the damn time and spending all their free time with each other.
Fml I’m such a megacunt
SnuffleUffleGrass
10-01-2020, 02:26 AM
L said he was going to start saving for a ring
Hmmm.
Tell him to buy you an antique ring, the craftsmanship is better. I have a couple Zales pieces that have not aged well.
Confession- I feel tired AND I'm up early...what a winning combo for the day.
whirlerz
10-01-2020, 08:17 AM
I want to take my neighbor's talking decorations & shove them up her ass.
Thank you.:)
indiegirl
10-01-2020, 07:35 PM
I went to ulta for a mascara on my way home from running errands all afternoon and wound up buying a new makeup bag (other one was broken) a few new makeup items to replace the products I was squeezing whatever I could get out the product, and a hi lighter. I'm so mad at myself for spending money but I feel like a fancy bitch right now for splurging on myself :)!
miss.a.p1600
10-02-2020, 12:45 PM
L offered to keep a toothbrush at his place.
miss.a.p1600
10-03-2020, 11:52 AM
I got carpet burn after my solo pillow orgasm
I had to lie about it to L n told him I 'fell into the carpet' lol
Then I tried to get medication for it and the doctor was like "how did you get carpet burn?" so I lied and told him the same story.
Then I mentioned it to my relative so I could have an excuse to hurry and get off the phone and the relative was like 'was it from sex?...Uh you know what im not even going to ask'
cotdamn! it is it really important to know how I got it?
YES it was from sex. Okay? I had sex with myself....or shall I say my pillow
chanzep
10-03-2020, 12:43 PM
My free time is based too much around tv nowadays. I am enjoying Lifetime Cheerleaders movies today.
I am finding being around people annoying they don't respect your space. I was watching a show yesterday where they had to move in the middle of nowhere. I was Sat here thinking as long as I had good internet and cable I could do it ugh what am I becoming.
SnuffleUffleGrass
10-03-2020, 01:04 PM
A sorry not sorry confession- my boyfriend got mad at me for calling one of his obnoxious friends "fat and old". Not that I'd ever do that to someone's face.....but really, I hate how obese people insist on acting like they're entitled to do unhealthy things & use victimhood to stay fat.
My confession is, I'm through being polite about unhealthy fatness. (I'm looking in Lizzo's direction with this, lol.) I have so many health issues and I make myself work out. I don't know what I would do if I was consistently at an unhealthy BMI. I just don't. I won't tolerate it in others as well.
carmen_b
10-03-2020, 02:04 PM
^ My partners sister is like that.
She is a nice person but heavy. We go out and she is BAD with food ( think sugary drink , then creamy pasta , then dessert type ) .
I wouldn't say anything bad to her or about her but I'd wish she would improve these habits.
I do have to work hard too to keep my own weight down ( rarely drinking calories ever , working out , eating right 80% of the time v.s. splurging every day ).
miss.a.p1600
10-03-2020, 04:17 PM
L decides to offer to pick up my medication for said carpet burn
And the pharmacist has to three way me in. She’s like “yeah take one pill for three days ... oh and also you have something here for YEAST take one pill ... do you have any questions?”
Yeah bruh why you advertising all loud n shit that I got difflucan. Cotdamn!!!!
Welp now L is probably wondering if I have a yeast infection right now lol
indiegirl
10-03-2020, 11:31 PM
I just want to smoke weed and go to sleep alone.
I don’t know if I can do this couple shit. How couples be having sex all the damn time and spending all their free time with each other.
Fml I’m such a megacunt
Yep I love causing shit to a full time lover too. Lol beg me to get out of this relationshit. lol. Just finished one of those very recently. But after this one, I'm trying to wait it out until things are more stable/ going well in my life.
carmen_b
10-04-2020, 03:39 PM
It's embarrassing but I feel strained working full time again. :/
I did it for SO LONG that I never really set up life any different and then covid forced a part time retirement . I found that with good $ and time management I actually *can* work part time sometimes ( like 30-32 hours a week ).
Anyway ..... that isn't an option though THIS WEEK . I'm prepping this AirBnB for sales ( got the first 1k reservation , yes ! ) all weekend AND I'm working tonight ( Sunday) at 4-8pm.
I'm literally sitting here is bed for 48 precious minutes before leaving to meet my clients like " How the fuck did I mess my life up needing to work on a Sunday evening ? ". Two months ago I was DESPERATE to work and make $ though. I would have worked until Midnight or taken ANY $ options. ;/
Carmen Elixer
10-04-2020, 05:25 PM
Part of me knows this is impractical, bougie, greedy,
But I have become fixated on a par of Louboutins/
redbottoms. A $795 pair of So Kates. I just can't quit thinking about them,
I basically just want to get a photoshoot done with them. I would never buy them
So last night, I contacted my former SD, who I haven't seen in a few years now, but I
do hit him up once in a while. I've talked about him before, the one who's very
boring & draining.
The last couple times I hit him up, I have used "desperation for bills" as the excuse.
But now, due to using that, the tone of our communications has become boring/negative
/having to act depressed. So I felt like I needed to spice things up a little bit bc I don't
want him to feel like a workhorse that I'm depending on every time I go into
financial ruins. I feel like he'll eventually say no to that.
So I wrote him last night with the thought of making it exciting for him.
I attached a link to the shoe and was like "I have an idea - why don't you bring these
to me on Friday and let's meet in Cleveland"
I hope he doesn't find it weird I've gone from almost homeless to
having a $795 pair of shoes on my shopping list in 4 months time. He knows
my career is volatile. Also, this is the SD who doesn't tend to think too hard
about things. I hope to god he gets them. I haven't heard back yet.
carmen_b
10-04-2020, 06:26 PM
^ I hope you get them.
:)
carmen_b
10-04-2020, 08:08 PM
I feel like I can't even wrap my mind around explaining why I'm seriously considering breaking it off with my partner to friends and family...........
My friends are going to think I'm crazy ( and 1 or 2 might try to poach honestly lol ) but I'm just sitting here like " Come talk talk to me when you have slept alone 5 nights out of the last 7 nights and we will have a recap chat about it once you've REPEATED that every other week for months on end " .
carmen_b
10-05-2020, 08:08 AM
I want to do the right thing here but sometimes I'll get this little edge of mean like just picturing myself saying " J , I fucked your friend Bob. I'm sorry you only offered me sex twice in the last 7 days ".
miss.a.p1600
10-05-2020, 09:07 AM
^Lol!!! @ fucking Bob!!
We seriously should trade places.
My dude just mentioned yesterday that he wanted 3 times this week and all I could think about was 'damn bruh didn't we just have 2 - 2hour sessions last week?" "Isn't that good enough?" ........ apparently not
carmen_b
10-05-2020, 09:21 AM
^ yeah, some people are the " three times a week " types. Hahahaha.
I tend to get mean to any guy who can't keep up.
Supposedly J said he can.
Last week he didn't. ;/
It less about the sex though ( I mentioned that crazy bath tub at his house and the silver "snake " on it before lol ) .
It's more about feeling that he isn't fully incorporating me into his life which is a less fun issue.
miss.a.p1600
10-05-2020, 12:57 PM
Good point!
Which I suppose is why I try not to go too far with slipping back into my single n celibate ways. I think L was pissed at me for not spending the night last Saturday. I just wanted alone time because I’m more of an introvert but he was offended that I had “free time” and didn’t spend it with him.
I can only spend so many hours with someone before my brain starts needed “me” time. Time where I have no obligations, no expectations, no outside influences, just me and whatever I want/need
I find that most guys don’t care about they stuff women care about (spending money/providing, compliments, trips, shopping, protecting, listening, and the list goes on). Like literally all women have to do the keep them around is fuck them, pay some attention to them, and at least halfway keep appearances up.
WendiStarr
10-05-2020, 01:29 PM
I've eaten way too many sweets these past 2 days.
lynn2009
10-07-2020, 05:22 PM
I know she means well, but someone in my extended family is driving me nuts. I visited her family when they were on vacation nearby a couple of months ago and honestly it was not fun. They are being really intense about social distancing, and driving an hour just to be treated like an infection was not a pleasant way to spend a Saturday. In fact they are being so intense about it that I think they are going to traumatize their kids. In any case, I work in public health so I completely respect CV is serious and when required by law or to make people comfortable I always wear a mask or social distance. But I'm also allowed to find it a pain in the ass and avoid situations that require this in the first place. She keeps insisting I go spend a night Halloween weekend and I really don't want to. She said we could avoid masks and distancing if I quarantined the week prior, which I can't do because I don't have a maid. So otherwise she said they would "allow" me to spend the night in their spare room and we could wear masks. And I'm sorry but this just does not sound fun. And I'm pretty sure she doesn't really care if I visit but is one of these people that considers me a charity case because I spend so much time in solitude. But having a low-key Halloween with just me and the dog and a scary movie sounds lovely to me. I don't really like visiting anyway...she and her husband are kind of extra in my opinion even in good times and don't really let their kids be kids. She's a really good person and I know she means well but seriously...just give me a break.
carmen_b
10-07-2020, 09:37 PM
If I end it with J my general sexual attack plan will probably be to just have a couple little subbies indulging my every whim !
Make me tea ! Run a bath ! Massage ! Lick pussy !!
I could keep 1 or 2 busy for dddaaayyysss.
Repeat ^^^^^
Hahaha
carmen_b
10-07-2020, 09:45 PM
Lynn : omg please don’t . She sounds so nutty lol.
WendiStarr
10-08-2020, 05:39 AM
I'm horny and bf isn't in the mood. I want to play with myself but I fear that if I do, knowing my luck with attempting this lately, the kids will wake up and mission will be immediately aborted.
SnuffleUffleGrass
10-08-2020, 08:19 AM
Funny confession- I'm pathetically relieved that we're moving in the nick of time, the neighbor's kid has taken up a musical instrument- either a trumpet or a French Horn. I heard him puffing away on it when I took the dog out early this morning.
(Poor kid is too autistic to understand it's not polite to play a loud musical instrument early in the morning, when others are still sleeping. This is why parents of famous musicians get shout outs- listening to someone practice can be ....not fun.)
miss.a.p1600
10-09-2020, 06:14 AM
I’ve always dated guys with only 1 kid/older kids about to be out of the house.
I hate myself for saying this but I wish L’s kids were older and about to be out of the house.
If he doesn’t take this higher paying career soon I might have to reassess what I’m doing.
I like him a lot but I think he’s in fantasy land about how much money it takes to raise a family.
SnuffleUffleGrass
10-09-2020, 01:22 PM
I’ve always dated guys with only 1 kid/older kids about to be out of the house.
I hate myself for saying this but I wish L’s kids were older and about to be out of the house.
If he doesn’t take this higher paying career soon I might have to reassess what I’m doing.
I like him a lot but I think he’s in fantasy land about how much money it takes to raise a family.
You're so right about this.
Confession- gonna chug a Diet Coke and burp. I need this.
carmen_b
10-09-2020, 01:55 PM
^ I may go back to my " no kids " rule too. In 2019 would ask men things like " Do you live alone ? " if I met them online or even in person before agreeing to a date. Lol. Kids over 18 not living at home are ok. Haha.
I gave something different a chance. It seems to not really be fully working and here we are so I feel you on it.
In my situation I really DO hope we get past it.
I'm kind of surprised sometimes by some of your comments because it often seems like you need L to back off a touch. Isn't the kid kind of a way to keep him busy / not needing every evening with you ect. ? I might have missed something. Or is it making scheduling hard ?
SnuffleUffleGrass
10-09-2020, 02:41 PM
^ I may go back to my " no kids " rule too. In 2019 would ask men things like " Do you live alone " if I met them online or even in person before agreeing to a date. Lol. Kids over 18 not living at home are ok. Haha.
I gave something different a chance. It seems to not really be fully working and here we are so I feel you on it.
It's culturally taboo in the United States to relish in a childfree lifestyle. I mean I feel like in America you can't be mean to dogs or kids! You get painted as a villain.
Confession- looking forward to a McFood dinner tonight. Bring on the sodium and grease, bwahahahah!
carmen_b
10-09-2020, 05:13 PM
^ Oh ...... but I RELISH darling ! hahahaha
I post pictures of my kid free trips ( I put the dog where they would go in the picture ) ! Love it.
But I genuinely like this person who I thought was becoming my step daughter too . Like ..... I really like her. I would say one of the biggest surprises of 2020 for me actually WAS getting to know her and liking her ( not faking it ) . I think something that makes it easy for me is that J is a father but isn't really a kid person either . He is a GREAT father . He is not dragging us around to kid activities often. He is really unique. A little punk rock type in style. You'd meet him and not even guess his is an amazing dad but he is. He just LOVES adult life and doesn't let family stuff dominate every conversation. I think that is how his daughter ended up so mature.
I have heard French women described in parenting style as " well lets just get on with it " like rolling their strollers up to meet friends for lunch ect. and enjoying life and not doing the mom guilt thing. I've always loved that and I like J having a similar attitude. Like ..... she joins us for nice lunches because she is mature enough to just sit and chat / chill . We go in public in a non embarrassing way and she will even snicker at other kids who are whining or something .
miss.a.p1600
10-09-2020, 05:36 PM
^ I may go back to my " no kids " rule too. In 2019 would ask men things like " Do you live alone ? " if I met them online or even in person before agreeing to a date. Lol. Kids over 18 not living at home are ok. Haha.
I gave something different a chance. It seems to not really be fully working and here we are so I feel you on it.
In my situation I really DO hope we get past it.
I'm kind of surprised sometimes by some of your comments because it often seems like you need L to back off a touch. Isn't the kid kind of a way to keep him busy / not needing every evening with you ect. ? I might have missed something. Or is it making scheduling hard ?
I hope you do get past it too carmen
I need my dating adventures buddy....plus you seem to really like him
Yes I'm actually glad he has kids to tend to so I can get a break from being 'boo'd up' every cotdamn cold fall night. I am a once a week type woman. UNLESS the guy is rolling in dough and can afford to pay for me to pay attention more frequently.
I suppose L is paying in other ways that aren't financial - he lets me be comfortable being me so I kind of don't mind spending more time with him than I normally would with any other guy. but yes he is more the I want to do everything as a couple type person than I am.
But still the reality is kids are money pits & I expect my partner to be able to afford to have a baby with me. My womb can instinctively tell. This next quarter is crucial. I'm running for a promotion in my career. If he aint making advancements these next couple weeks - bruh! my time is going to be VERY limited
miss.a.p1600
10-09-2020, 05:47 PM
^ Oh ...... but I RELISH darling ! hahahaha
I post pictures of my kid free trips ( I put the dog where they would go in the picture ) ! Love it.
But I genuinely like this person who I thought was becoming my step daughter too . Like ..... I really like her. I would say one of the biggest surprises of 2020 for me actually WAS getting to know her and liking her ( not faking it ) . I think something that makes it easy for me is that J is a father but isn't really a kid person either . He is a GREAT father . He is not dragging us around to kid activities often. He is really unique. A little punk rock type in style. You'd meet him and not even guess his is an amazing dad but he is. He just LOVES adult life and doesn't let family stuff dominate every conversation. I think that is how his daughter ended up so mature.
I have heard French women described in parenting style as " well lets just get on with it " like rolling their strollers up to meet friends for lunch ect. and enjoying life and not doing the mom guilt thing. I've always loved that and I like J having a similar attitude. Like ..... she joins us for nice lunches because she is mature enough to just sit and chat / chill . We go in public in a non embarrassing way and she will even snicker at other kids who are whining or something .
My relative always told me the benefit of dating a DILF (well she said a guy who's a dad) is that you can see what type of dad he is. And you can get a glimpse of what it would be like if you had kids together.
miss.a.p1600
10-09-2020, 05:50 PM
It's culturally taboo in the United States to relish in a childfree lifestyle. I mean I feel like in America you can't be mean to dogs or kids! You get painted as a villain.
Confession- looking forward to a McFood dinner tonight. Bring on the sodium and grease, bwahahahah!
YASSS!
I'm the same way about the sodium. although im a bit weak when it comes to grease.
I miss the old days when they actually put salt on fries. I've noticed at least at Chick fil A they barely put salt on their fries n I have to ask for extra salt.
Like bruh I don't care about hypertension n high blood pressure rn I just want some perfectly salted fries
I feel the not wanting to be with a guy with young kids forsure, they are $$ pits and lots of other things typically come with it too. I am not really a fan of other peoples kids like unless my child really loved them and was entertained i wouldnt want it but I guess sometimes u cant help if u fall for someone u just have to deal I guess. But if theres a list of a perfect guy it would be no kids and financially able to give ours everything and anything.
My child has been making us go to donalds lately, I only allow like once in a great while but I do love those nuggets n fries!!
miss.a.p1600
10-10-2020, 08:39 AM
Ok - so L has been mostly supportive and so I decided to give him oral sex ...... and swallow lol
He gone tell me last night afterwards that he was falling for me and this morning that it was amazing waking up with me this am.
I swear since I’ve been pregnant, I’ve not been able to swallow once!! I mean it was a regular thing for me with my husband of course.. it tastes horrible atm
miss.a.p1600
10-10-2020, 10:11 AM
^^^^not gone lie - I gagged at first because yeah sperm tastes gross but some guys taste better than others
That was my second time ever doing it. It tasted salty lol. Wasn’t as bad as the first time.
My first time doing it it tasted so bitter I swore I’d never do it again
I could totally see how pregnancy can alter your tastebuds though
^idk if it’s the guy cause I think it’s what they have been eating like when my husband drinks patron or any alcohol I literally taste it and smell it in there, wtf now that’s the worst!! Lbs! Or meds u can taste/smell.. that’s the worst when u have a hangover then get that alcohol taste in your mouth the next morning, ugh, scars me for days!!
JGB2009
10-10-2020, 11:01 AM
I confess I turned my cellphone completely off today. I am tired of everyone and I'm feeling so angry.
carmen_b
10-10-2020, 11:11 AM
^ It can help. I do that too when I feel overwhelmed.
WendiStarr
10-10-2020, 11:12 AM
^^ I don't blame you. I've been feeling like doing the same, except for me I'm sick of the political texts and phone calls from campaign telemarketers and scammers from Care.com
My confession is that I ate 2 pieces of candy today.
miss.a.p1600
10-10-2020, 01:53 PM
I need ME time.
L wants me to spend my free time with him.
I can’t wait till he gets his kids, specifically his daughter back so I can just chill by myself