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JenniferNorth
02-07-2022, 01:35 PM
I'm seriously considering getting a divorce.

We're here if you want to vent! I know how going through that can be. Big hugs.

ravenskyy
02-07-2022, 01:37 PM
We're here if you want to vent! I know how going through that can be. Big hugs.

Thank you! I've done so much venting about this man, I'm sure everyone is as sick of it as I am lol

Aurora_Sunset
02-07-2022, 01:38 PM
Exactly. I would at least expect to see a block of rooms paid for if they expect anyone other than immediate family to come.

I think for many couples, it's a way of getting a small wedding without having to exclude a bunch of people and create waves. They can invite everyone to a remote island in the Mediterranean and only four people will show up. The rest will send gifts and money. The wedding is probably way less expensive as a result, they get a glamorous trip + honeymoon, they get gifts / money sent by people who can't make it, and no one gets excluded. Kind of genius actually.

I think this is exactly it. When my sister picked a destination, it was specifically because she knew that certain family members (who she didn't want there) wouldn't travel for it, but she didn't have to "not invite" them. Not gonna lie, my own "spur of the moment" wedding when we were on vacation on the other side of the country was largely decided upon for the exact same reason. I was having a conversation with my mom where I told her that we would HAVE to keep our wedding small, and there were definitely some relatives I wasn't inviting, and she made it a point to say that I HAD to invite everyone - I was like, fuck that.

lynn, I'm sure your friend wants you to come, if she asked ahead of time, but at the same time, she has to know that destination weddings aren't always going to be possible for everyone. It's hard to predict your finances that far in advance. If she's a true friend, she'll understand.

indiegirl
02-07-2022, 03:20 PM
I was hurrying out of an appointment once to get to my ride who had to be somewhere in a hurry...i had thrown on a button up linen top but had neglected to actually button it up, so as i'm flying down the hallway i ended up giving some teenage boy an early thrill in his life lol

Hahaha he got a free peek :)! lol.

whirlerz
02-07-2022, 03:23 PM
I ordered 100 CT Extreme peppermint incense, I go thru too much spraying this place..

I didn't necessarily want that many, but that's how they're sold

carmen_b
02-07-2022, 05:47 PM
I'm attempting to get myself to a yoga class at 7:30 p.m. ! Ha.
I'm tired of not RSVP'ing for things if they start past 7 !

Edit : I went ! :)

indiegirl
02-07-2022, 08:33 PM
Random thoughts: I don't understand people who constantly need someone to be around. My mom is spending 10 days with my sister, her husband, and kids in Massachusetts right now. I spent 4 hours with her on Christmas and was ready to go home. What's more to talk about? Reminds me of spending 9 days in Colorado with my ex-boyfriend and his family. There was a fight a brewing with his dad and him and I was ready to be shipped home early. Family is exhausting to entertain since everyone's issues come out at a point.

My sister is so clingy and my mother loves it because she has nothing to do to the point she is getting a part time job during her retirement. The only reason she hasn't texted me in a day is because she now has something to do with her time. When she's at home "I'm worried about you. Are you okay? I haven't heard back from you in a day." LOLLLL. She's not gonna text back until she gets home and it's awful quiet around her house. She even said "I haven't seen them in 3 months!" Huh? I see you 2 times a year at best because I don't want to be someone's burden. Don't think for a second she moved down the street from you in the past because she wanted to be close to you for love....you became the babysitter. Guaranteed she has a babysitter in Massachusetts because my sister can't handle children alone weekly even though she has no job.

Sorry if I sound ignorant to everybody about childcare since I don't have a kid of my own.

miss.a.p1600
02-08-2022, 07:58 AM
^I agree with you.

That’s why I’m constantly trying to get away from my clingy partner or my clingy family members.

They act like they’re so great, you’d have to be insane not to want to spend 24/7 with them.

Like y’all mfs are getting on my cotdamn nerves and I can’t wait to take a SOLO trip which I will tell no one about until I’m heading to the airport cause I see these level 10 clingmeisters will guilt trip and invite themselves along

miss.a.p1600
02-08-2022, 08:06 AM
I'm seriously considering getting a divorce.

Girl you got me thinking….why even marry these dudes?!?

Most of them are lazy as fuck, too complacent, too comfortable, no ambition, refuse to improve themselves, and their moms n dads did a horrible job raising them.

How long have you been married?

You may want to consult a divorce attorney first.

Sadly it might be cheaper to keep him……and just get you a side piece, get a secret (or not so secret - if you give zero fucks) arrangement. If you are close to 10 years married then stick it out to 10 year mark so you can get his social security benefits. Probably some other ways you can benefit financially but a lawyer would know best. However if the money isn’t worth it then do what you gotta do.

LoveyD
02-08-2022, 10:24 AM
Omg last night before bed I ate a 40 mg edible and woke up 3 hours later high AF! I think I wound up eating a bag of kale chips and a few almonds. Woke up with a weed hangover and didn't want to go to the gym, so I'm out running orders instead. I didn't even need to take my morning dose yet. I kinda want to be out in nature for my workout today lol

indiegirl
02-08-2022, 10:29 AM
FUDGE MONKEY!!!! I was excited to postpone my jury duty summons online for a few more months and I no longer am able to. Damnit!!!! I have to appear in March. I fucking hate court. Totally set on the dog print pajamas, makeup-less, and my bun in my hair plus being biased. Not my crime, not my problem. What a waste of my time. I'm unfortunately going to show up as a poor choice when they question me. Waste my time for my "civic duty", I will waste their time. LOLLLL. They need to stop calling me in every year.

whirlerz
02-08-2022, 12:09 PM
Indie, can you call/write them?

I got out of jury, I did have a legit reason at the time, I was caring for my Mom.
I believe her Dr wrote a letter too..

Maybe there's something that can get you out of this? So you don't have to go down there?

indiegirl
02-08-2022, 12:53 PM
Indie, can you call/write them?

I got out of jury, I did have a legit reason at the time, I was caring for my Mom.
I believe her Dr wrote a letter too..

Maybe there's something that can get you out of this? So you don't have to go down there?

I'm trying to look into excuses it just sucks that they call it a jury pool and I'm the only one in my family that gets "drafted" to show up every year :(. It's like what did I do to deserve this? The worst lottery winner ever haha. I hate this. I'm trying to figure out what mental illness I can fake so I am permanently excluded from being chosen with a doctors note. I want no part in being in court. Spent my time in court, learned my lesson, and don't want back in.

Part of me thinks its because I don't vote and considered unbiased.....I'm about to be republican 'Merica if that is what it takes to stop being called in for jury duty. LOLL. Tired of it.

Secret Shelly
02-08-2022, 01:05 PM
I'm trying to look into excuses it just sucks that they call it a jury pool and I'm the only one in my family that gets "drafted" to show up every year :(. It's like what did I do to deserve this? The worst lottery winner ever haha. I hate this. I'm trying to figure out what mental illness I can fake so I am permanently excluded from being chosen with a doctors note. I want no part in being in court. Spent my time in court, learned my lesson, and don't want back in.

Part of me thinks its because I don't vote and considered unbiased.....I'm about to be republican 'Merica if that is what it takes to stop being called in for jury duty. LOLL. Tired of it.

here jury duty is chosen by people who do register to vote.

charlie61
02-08-2022, 04:40 PM
Getting much more back on taxes than i expected, and it makes me nervous. Makes me feel like i did something wrong.

charlie61
02-08-2022, 04:42 PM
Miss p, you legit sound like you hate your man lol. When are you leaving him??

whirlerz
02-08-2022, 04:54 PM
I have a book writing zoom in a few minutes, they're interesting, but then they try to sell expensive consults

miss.a.p1600
02-08-2022, 06:31 PM
Miss p, you legit sound like you hate your man lol. When are you leaving him??

IDK if it's hate......but I would say seriously irritated and annoyed at the current moment.

What I do hate is when people don’t respect my boundaries one of which is my occasional need for space. And this entire time he has been clinging to me and trying to force his kids on me so they’ll start clinging too.

Anyways

I'm in stacking mode rn, mentally preparing, and making multiple donations to reduce my 'stuff' so it will be easier.

At least now I won't feel as guilty leaving because my family his bought him and I won't owe him any money for anything he has bought me. I can just leave without feeling bad about it

charlie61
02-08-2022, 07:37 PM
^100% agreed. You tried, but it's just a compatibility issue. Ruuuuun!

chanzep
02-08-2022, 10:00 PM
Even if he spent thousands on you doesn't matter . You have sex with him too. You don't owe him shit. Now your family is paying for stuff for him. He has no shame you can do better.

moneybags
02-08-2022, 11:15 PM
IDK if it's hate......but I would say seriously irritated and annoyed at the current moment.

What I do hate is when people don’t respect my boundaries one of which is my occasional need for space. And this entire time he has been clinging to me and trying to force his kids on me so they’ll start clinging too.

Anyways

I'm in stacking mode rn, mentally preparing, and making multiple donations to reduce my 'stuff' so it will be easier.

At least now I won't feel as guilty leaving because my family his bought him and I won't owe him any money for anything he has bought me. I can just leave without feeling bad about it

I’m seriously proud of you. I’ve told a couple of young ladies that I’m so proud of them for choosing themselves over a man. It’s not easy! It goes again all the bullshit conditioning. #divinefemininerising

kimbe
02-09-2022, 01:27 AM
^100% agreed. You tried, but it's just a compatibility issue. Ruuuuun!

That!

WendiStarr
02-09-2022, 10:14 AM
I'm having anxiety again because I just realized it's Wednesday. We're getting closer to Friday which is when I'm likely going to be in the hospital, whether I am induced that day or they torture me and make me wait until Saturday morning at 6am to induce me again. I'm still scared of labor and birth and you'd think by now I'd be a pro at this. I want the baby out but I don't want to go through the whole scary preeclampsia experience again. I almost wish that they would just schedule a C-section, get her out, remove my fallopian tubes, and be done with it. I'm not a calm patient at all and I already know it's going to be a bunch of loud, beeping machines, my anxiety shooting through the roof and them doing nothing about it because I'm nothing more than an incubator to them until the baby is out, BP cuff and alarms going off every 15 mins, magnesium sulfate hell, doctors and nurses bothering me, a catheter, etc. Ugh. I want this to be over already. I don't know how to shake the fear that I'm going to die and leave behind my 3 babies.

carmen_b
02-09-2022, 12:25 PM
Soooo . One has to ask ( and I hope this isn't rude ) but couldn't you have discreetly talked to your family about his neediness behaviors and TOLD them you wanted a break ?
Your family should have your back.
I feel like they shouldn't have invited him and it seems strange to me !

I wish " Uncle Bob " could take that last room or something hahaha and get you out of this!
Like ....booking mistake .... oops ..... sorry no room left !

I'd be so angry if my family did that.



Anyways he’s tagging along with his needy kids and none of them had decent suitcases so that was an extra thing that had to come out of the payroll.

miss.a.p1600
02-09-2022, 12:25 PM
I’m pissed L won’t get the hint that I don’t want to be around him 24/7 and do nonstop couples shit.

He’s tagging along on a trip that was supposed to be adult female only and bringing his loud ass needy kids.

Well on the good side - I’m going to be in a different room and leaving a day early.

miss.a.p1600
02-09-2022, 12:27 PM
Soooo . One has to ask ( and I hope this isn't rude ) but couldn't you have discreetly talked to your family about his neediness behaviors and TOLD them you really wanted a break ?
Your family should have your back and that seems strange !

I wish " Uncle Bob " could take that last room or something hahaha ...... like .... sorry no room left !

I told them. But they’re “pro family” n shit. And families traveling together. And making me seem like I’m the bad guy for leaving my partner and his kids behind.

And I think they incorrectly assumed it was about affordability for L plus 2 (which it was because he couldn’t afford to take me nor himself nor his kids). but it was more to it than that.

I don’t like being around mfs like this all the damn time. No matter how great people think they are, I have no interest in 24/7 relationships

I’m going to make it more clear so they won’t be trying to invest in a dude that I’m not sure I want to stay with long term. I think they’re happy to see me in a relationship and not realizing the depths of my thoughts of leaving.

miss.a.p1600
02-09-2022, 01:16 PM
I confess. I’ve been binge watching entrepreneur videos on YT believing that there is something there that will help me transcend above this current situation.

moneybags
02-09-2022, 01:24 PM
I'm having anxiety again because I just realized it's Wednesday. We're getting closer to Friday which is when I'm likely going to be in the hospital, whether I am induced that day or they torture me and make me wait until Saturday morning at 6am to induce me again. I'm still scared of labor and birth and you'd think by now I'd be a pro at this. I want the baby out but I don't want to go through the whole scary preeclampsia experience again. I almost wish that they would just schedule a C-section, get her out, remove my fallopian tubes, and be done with it. I'm not a calm patient at all and I already know it's going to be a bunch of loud, beeping machines, my anxiety shooting through the roof and them doing nothing about it because I'm nothing more than an incubator to them until the baby is out, BP cuff and alarms going off every 15 mins, magnesium sulfate hell, doctors and nurses bothering me, a catheter, etc. Ugh. I want this to be over already. I don't know how to shake the fear that I'm going to die and leave behind my 3 babies.

have you tried EFT tapping for anxiety it’s what’s I use . Can’t help you with labor pains. I don’t think tapping works for that.

miss.a.p1600
02-09-2022, 01:29 PM
^thats a good idea.

Also guided imagery and even self hypnosis.

The more you think about something, combine it with emotion n feeling, the more you attract that to you (whether it’s something self-serving or not).

I should find the time to practice this more myself

moneybags
02-09-2022, 01:46 PM
^thats a good idea.

Also guided imagery and even self hypnosis.

The more you think about something, combine it with emotion n feeling, the more you attract that to you (whether it’s something self-serving or not).

I should find the time to practice this more myself

have you heard of orgasmic manifesting. Seems like something you might like. I’m gonna use it to manifest money.

Aurora_Sunset
02-09-2022, 04:40 PM
I finally threw away an old blush that was past its prime. The brush it came with even had the handle break off awhile ago, and I was too lazy to throw it away. The group of bristles just sat in there all sad-looking lol

I just didn't feel like finding a replacement. It's the only one I ever had that would add some nice color back into my cheeks without going overboard or being so faint, you couldn't even see it. But a friend got me some makeup for Christmas, so I'll try it out.

chanzep
02-09-2022, 05:17 PM
Miss P , I would probably cancel that trip and say something came up and tell them to have a good time lol. How dare he invite himself and his kids in your family dime!.
I'm sorry but why is your family encouraging this. He has nothing to offer you apart from baggage. He doesn't even try to do better you have been with him long enough that he should of improved. He ain't changing.
If I was you I would ask my family for money so you can get your own place. You will thrive once you get your peace back.

indiegirl
02-09-2022, 05:47 PM
I literally stared at the bedsheets and wanted them to change themselves for a few minutes before I finally did it.

JenniferNorth
02-09-2022, 08:00 PM
My Chihuahua is dying. I will likely have to put him down tomorrow. I don't know how I am gonna make it through this. My best friend....

Sorry, super emo right now.

indiegirl
02-09-2022, 08:04 PM
My Chihuahua is dying. I will likely have to put him down tomorrow. I don't know how I am gonna make it through this. My best friend....

Sorry, super emo right now.

*Hugs* I can't even imagine the feeling :(.

JenniferNorth
02-09-2022, 08:04 PM
I’m pissed L won’t get the hint that I don’t want to be around him 24/7 and do nonstop couples shit.

He’s tagging along on a trip that was supposed to be adult female only and bringing his loud ass needy kids.

Well on the good side - I’m going to be in a different room and leaving a day early.

Girl, WHAT. NO. This was supposed to be Miss P time! Why those damn kids need to be everywhere?

Lol didn't Bertha originally NEVER want them around you? Now she's du.ping them whenever possible?

L should be SO ashamed for sponging off your folks. Grown ass man who can't pay his and his kids way...NO.

JenniferNorth
02-09-2022, 08:05 PM
*Hugs* I can't even imagine the feeling :(.

Thank you. I'll take all the hugs I can get. Being a grownup and having to deal with this shit fucking sucks.

JenniferNorth
02-09-2022, 08:09 PM
have you tried EFT tapping for anxiety it’s what’s I use . Can’t help you with labor pains. I don’t think tapping works for that.

EFT does work for anxiety, I can attest to that. It's been forever since I've done it, but I know it does work and was helpful for me.

I should get back into doing it, especially with what I'm going through.

indiegirl
02-09-2022, 08:28 PM
My Chihuahua is dying. I will likely have to put him down tomorrow. I don't know how I am gonna make it through this. My best friend....

Sorry, super emo right now.

I remember when my labrador got neutered and I had no idea they were gonna have me watch while he went under anesthesia flopping around until he passed out on the floor and had ME help carry him to the surgery room (so traumatizing).... I'd suggest just staying outside while it happens if you have to go through with your pup reaching the rainbow bridge. Girlll that is too devastating to watch. I'm all tearing up thinking about it. I couldn't handle it.

JenniferNorth
02-09-2022, 08:35 PM
I remember when my labrador got neutered and I had no idea they were gonna have me watch while he went under anesthesia flopping around until he passed out on the floor and had ME help carry him to the surgery room (so traumatizing).... I'd suggest just staying outside while it happens if you have to go through with your pup reaching the rainbow bridge. Girlll that is too devastating to watch. I'm all tearing up thinking about it. I couldn't handle it.

OMG what the fuck...they made you watch that AND carry your dog??! Jesus! Why didn't the staff just handle it all??

I gotta be with him when he goes to the bridge. Honestly, today he already pooped on the couch, puked, and then collapsed, falling on his head. That was scary to see. All this while trying to clean the couch and keep my toddler quiet (she stopped whining when he collapsed, that's how I knew something bad was happening to the dog).

Last year one of my kitty boys had to be put down, and I had to watch him flop like you described. Another one had heart issues and died in my arms on the way to the vet.

I keep praying he will just pass in his sleep...

Sorry to make you tear up. I know how much it sucks. Ugh. I just want him to have peace and comfort.

chanzep
02-09-2022, 09:28 PM
In sorry about your dog. I can't even imagine .

LoveyD
02-09-2022, 09:33 PM
I'm so sorry, Jennifer. That's so sad...

miss.a.p1600
02-09-2022, 11:12 PM
Sorry to hear about your dog

Secret Shelly
02-10-2022, 07:30 AM
oh no!!! major hugs for you, Jennifer :( I just can't imagine.

carmen_b
02-10-2022, 08:51 AM
^ Jennifer I'm sending you good vibes ( possibly that he finds his peace at home which sounds like what you want ).
I have had 6 years with my dog and can't even imagine this. I'm so sorry !

JenniferNorth
02-10-2022, 11:55 AM
Thank you so much, everyone. Your love is felt.

I posted an update in the Grateful thread, along with a picture (not a sad one!)

A sad day, but also so much to celebrate that happened in my life with him.

I confess I'm going to eat tons of junk today. Just because.

kimbe
02-10-2022, 11:59 AM
Thank you so much, everyone. Your love is felt.

I posted an update in the Grateful thread, along with a picture (not a sad one!)

A sad day, but also so much to celebrate that happened in my life with him.

I confess I'm going to eat tons of junk today. Just because.

It's sad but true, but all good things comes to an end.. :)

carmen_b
02-11-2022, 02:17 PM
Not knowing when J's daughter is returning is stressing me a little !
I LOVE organization ! Ha. We are forced to go " day by day " because of the covid thing.
I bet she will test negative on Sunday the 13th ( her positive test result was the 6th so that would be 7 days ).
You just don't know though ......

I feel stressed because her mom has had her 9 days. It's been so luxurious .
I assume J may " owe " a 9 -10 day chunk now but not KNOWING the exact dates ( or if he even " owes " extra ) has me edgy haha.

I want to be super helpful for a few days and then leave town for a few days.

kimbe
02-12-2022, 09:05 AM
Even though this place has a "topless tanning by the pool" policy, I haven't done it yet. Maybe I will when T leaves tomorrow ;)

carmen_b
02-12-2022, 09:14 AM
^ Are you worried he'll stress about peepers haha ?