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kimbe
02-12-2022, 09:19 AM
^ Not really, but there haven't been many to see during the week days. There was a change yesterday as the weekend started though and more people arrived.

At least he shouldn't be, he's somewhat of a peeper himself being a notorious boob lover ;)

carmen_b
02-12-2022, 09:35 AM
^ That's how I feel about my guy. At the one adults venue we have been to he was totally ok with both the peeper and peeping element haha. I love some good titties myself it's reminding me to be on the lookout for adults pools soon.

kimbe
02-12-2022, 09:44 AM
^ Being the more tranquillity/relaxing type resort, it's somewhat surprising to me that there's so many young (and hot looking!) people here. Maybe people are tired of noisy party resorts and pool parties...

miss.a.p1600
02-12-2022, 02:00 PM
I’m sharing a hotel room with my mom

I’m so glad she decided to leave the room and go off on her own.

Idk what it is about needy ass people clinging to me the last 3 weeks especially.

Like look here mfs! Stop clinging and stop acting needy. Shit!

If everyone suddenly died, I’d still survive…..solo…..but y’all mf act like you can’t think your way out of a paper bag and so dependent on someone.

Well anyways I’m just thankful she left the room for a bit. No more freezing because she’s going through menopausal hot flashes. No more listening to sensational junk tv. No more hounding me for small talk when I just want to read a book.

carmen_b
02-12-2022, 02:14 PM
^ My usual vacation tricks are to say I'm :
Going to a co- working space to work a few hours .....
Going to a long yoga class .....

Another good one ......
If you book a spa treatment ( even a cheapie one ) you'll get access to the place and can go hide out there haha. You " need " to turn phones off at spas so people can't reach you for a few hours haha.

I NEED time to myself ( even on vacation ).
My partner is good with this now.
He found it confusing at first I think but now he knows he is on his own a few hours everyday ha.

carmen_b
02-12-2022, 02:15 PM
^ I do find the " I need to go work a few hours " particularly good because no one is going to want to come along and stare at you on the laptop haha.

indiegirl
02-12-2022, 04:23 PM
I checked my credit score and it went up 100 points because BOFA finally charged it off and I waited years for them to do that for my debt collection. It was for 17,000 right when I was broke after buying my home and I am so pleased it's over!!

That's what they get for not accepting my request for a payment plan back in the past.

miss.a.p1600
02-12-2022, 06:48 PM
The silver lining of my family footing the bill for Mr. I can’t be bought, is that now he can’t try to control my whereabouts by running guilt trips when I do what I want to do minus him and his plus 2

I felt not one ounce of guilt telling him I’m going to sleep, in my own bed, drinking wine, flirting with the attractive men here, barely talking to him the whole trip, etc.

When will people understand if I say I need space and you chose to cling along AND bring your needy kids, I will create space, I will take space, and I will not be apologetic about it.

Do not call me because I am drinking wine alone and I don’t want to be bombarded with emergencies or whatever that requires me to do anything I don’t want to do n

miss.a.p1600
02-12-2022, 06:57 PM
^ I do find the " I need to go work a few hours " particularly good because no one is going to want to come along and stare at you on the laptop haha.

No L literally tagged along when I told him I was going to the hotel computer lab.

Girl I was so pissed I sat down, realized him clinging was pissing me off, couldn’t concentrate and got more pissed and finally went back to the room but locked myself in the bathroom to get my solitude.

That’s why I’m so glad when he works, especially overtime which is rare, because I know he won’t get any chances to cling while he’s at work.

Unless he starts clinging remotely and calling me every 3 hours

miss.a.p1600
02-12-2022, 07:01 PM
I checked my credit score and it went up 100 points because BOFA finally charged it off and I waited years for them to do that for my debt collection. It was for 17,000 right when I was broke after buying my home and I am so pleased it's over!!

That's what they get for not accepting my request for a payment plan back in the past.

Banks are some of the biggest leeches.

They use your money to make themselves rich af. Then have the audacity to hit you with hella fees whenever they feel like it.

Whenever I had tough times and those fuckers charged overdraft fees. I called to have them removed and I damn sure wasn’t going to pay them.

You can send me to collections to pay collector to collect the predatory fees that you’ll never get from me

carmen_b
02-13-2022, 10:35 AM
Wow, he takes " up your ass " to a whole new level and NOT in a good way !
That is definitely a little out there ......

You might want to try my spa trick next lol. Usually there are separate mens and womens areas .
Natural break. Watch this damn place have a rare co-ed spa .
Spas are put there for a reason ( to get a break from your dude on vacation lol ).


No L literally tagged along when I told him I was going to the hotel computer lab.

Girl I was so pissed I sat down, realized him clinging was pissing me off, couldn’t concentrate and got more pissed and finally went back to the room but locked myself in the bathroom to get my solitude.

That’s why I’m so glad when he works, especially overtime which is rare, because I know he won’t get any chances to cling while he’s at work.

Unless he starts clinging remotely and calling me every 3 hours

JenniferNorth
02-13-2022, 10:45 AM
^ This! The one I go to you can chill in the hot tub naked if you'd like...obv. for that reason it's ladies only.

Miss P, maybe say you are gonna do that. That way he can't expect you to take his daughter with.

I confess I am glad the neighbors are gone. Guy downstairs had a stroke and his wife has been gone with him? Not sure where since you can't camp out in a hospital, not with COVID for sure! Hospice?

I pray these people won't be able to live here anymore. Their dog bit the shit outta mine and they have caused so much drama...they get what's coming to them.

carmen_b
02-13-2022, 10:49 AM
^ I discovered that trick YEARS ago when I randomly had this dude driving me nuts on a vacation day .
Spa day pass for $25 and BOOM 2.5 hours of total quiet haha.

kimbe
02-13-2022, 11:10 AM
It’s okay that T leaves today, I can tell he’s getting bored. While I can spend endless days on the sun bed, he needs more activities.

Btw, T surprised me with having coke yesterday, I only had a tiny line but I can tell you I don’t have my best day today.. Yesterday evening was good though ;)

whirlerz
02-13-2022, 11:16 AM
Well, the new roomie is moving in, I introduced myself & he seems nice..

It'll be interesting to see how it goes w/him, the kitchen, & the couple that have 95% of the kitchen space..::)

Oh, & he's related to LL..

kimbe
02-13-2022, 11:20 AM
^ Maybe he’s going to make some balance in the kitchen havoc ;)

whirlerz
02-13-2022, 12:36 PM
^ Maybe he’s going to make some balance in the kitchen havoc ;)

Lord knows we need it..

She just cooked bf breakfast, dinner to follow soon, ::)all the dirty plates +, the ones that are sitting there from days ago:yikes::yuck:

charlie61
02-13-2022, 01:36 PM
I'm just realizing more and more that giving people advice, even when it's requested, isn't useful or healthy for either party. Going to keep working on this. I think the best response, when someone asks for advice, is to ask them questions, to help lead them to what they believe is best for them.

Genoveve
02-13-2022, 02:40 PM
^^^People usually just want a sympathetic ear or an echo chamber.

JenniferNorth
02-13-2022, 02:54 PM
100% with both of the above!!I don't mind offering sympathy because I consider myself to be pretty empathic toward most people, but echo chamber....no. It's likely just enabling shitty behavior. Charlie is right - better to act like they discovered the answer to the problem on their own or otherwise make them think.

miss.a.p1600
02-13-2022, 03:11 PM
I'm just realizing more and more that giving people advice, even when it's requested, isn't useful or healthy for either party. Going to keep working on this. I think the best response, when someone asks for advice, is to ask them questions, to help lead them to what they believe is best for them.

This is why therapists charge their clients. Even if it’s just to listen.

Unfortunately people don’t respect what they don’t invest in/pay for. Something about “free” equates to non valuable.

I bet if people felt the pain a little (aka paid money for advice, someone to listen, help problem solving, then they’d be more likely to take action.

And people are hard-headed. Sometimes they have to learn the hard way.

Also like you said most people would rather think the solution is their idea, come to it on their own conclusion rather than someone spoon-feed them or tell them what to do.

miss.a.p1600
02-13-2022, 03:17 PM
^ I discovered that trick YEARS ago when I randomly had this dude driving me nuts on a vacation day .
Spa day pass for $25 and BOOM 2.5 hours of total quiet haha.


^ This! The one I go to you can chill in the hot tub naked if you'd like...obv. for that reason it's ladies only.

Miss P, maybe say you are gonna do that. That way he can't expect you to take his daughter with.




Wow, he takes " up your ass " to a whole new level and NOT in a good way !
That is definitely a little out there ......

You might want to try my spa trick next lol. Usually there are separate mens and womens areas .
Natural break. Watch this damn place have a rare co-ed spa .
Spas are put there for a reason ( to get a break from your dude on vacation lol ).

He’s the type that will ask why I didn’t go to a place that offers couples massage lol!

I’m just going to be blunt and tell him I am not okay with what feels like codependency and I will have my own solo times occasionally to do what I want minus him and his kids. I don’t want to do couples shit or “family” shit 24/7.

Can I live mf?!?

Yes. I’m going to use you guys idea and find something adult women only!!!

carmen_b
02-13-2022, 03:24 PM
^ I mean you figure you are awake like 16 hours or 15 with vacation sleep in!
If he can not self entertain 3-4 hours during that huge duration ( even on a vacation day ) ..... that isn't good.

How are hoping he will split the day ?
Something like 50/50 ?

Sounds like he doesn't have a choice now haha.
I guess he will learn to self entertain today if it is a skill he lacks.

miss.a.p1600
02-13-2022, 03:37 PM
^nope i didn’t give him a choice this weekend.

I could shouldered him as much as I could without being a complete mega cunt. I was more like a partial cunt. But hey when I say I need space and my needs get ignored then I go into cunt mode

He even had the audacity to say he thought I was ignoring him so I could talk to the upperclass people in the hotel. Well yeah. I prefer to network my way up not cling to you all weekend. Priorities mf!!!

Thank goodness for separate rooms and paying his ass hush money.

I completely blew off his concerns because it was not a concern for me. I gave zero fucks this weekend and it felt good.

carmen_b
02-13-2022, 03:40 PM
^ He is probably wondering why the kids didn't stay a night with your Mom so you guys could have a night together lol !

Hope ya get a break.

miss.a.p1600
02-13-2022, 03:45 PM
^exactly.

He was like “we didn’t even have time together”

Well no shit mf!

This was not intended as a family trip nor a couples trip and you chose to cling and invite yourself and your kids along.

My mom is not a free babysitter for Berthas kids. She will offer to take them out maybe once a month but more than that he needs to hire someone or stay at home/in hotel with them while I hit the town.

Nope I’m planning my solo travel and looks like I’ll have to tel him last minute so he won’t try to invite himself along.

miss.a.p1600
02-13-2022, 03:46 PM
I confess I’m glad L’s kids especially his daughter is back where they belong……with their mom

JenniferNorth
02-13-2022, 04:04 PM
LOL if he wanted time with you, why did he bring the kids??!! Of just back off after you said it was adult female only, knowing absence makes the heart grow fonder?

I don't feel bad for him. He made his bed and he can lay in it.

Aurora_Sunset
02-13-2022, 05:04 PM
Spent a lot of money upping my skincare routine today.

miss.a.p1600
02-13-2022, 07:39 PM
L’s clingy daughter begging to come to this house this weekend despite him telling her he has to work.

Look here kid, your father said he had to work, he will pick you up next time he is off work, so go to your aunt/uncles/whoever house and stay where you belong……with your moms family

JenniferNorth
02-13-2022, 07:41 PM
^ Maybe she wants you to watch her or something. Sorry. It sounds like a frustrating mess.

I confess I am ready for my two to go back to school/daycare. I love them, but it's too cold for us to go outside, so we've been stuck in and they've been up my butt.

indiegirl
02-13-2022, 09:00 PM
Read what someone said and laughed:

PSA: if you recognized everyone in the Super Bowl halftime show, it's time to schedule your first colonoscopy.

Aurora_Sunset
02-13-2022, 09:21 PM
When we got married, my parents gifted us quite a bit of money. It was originally meant to either help with the wedding (which we didn't need because we basically eloped cheaply), or the down payment on a house, or whatever we needed it for. I decided to use it to pay off a couple credit cards in the hopes of getting my debt under control. I deeply regret it.

It didn't actually help the debt situation, and probably just delayed me finally getting help for it and starting to truly pay it off. We should have used it for a down payment on a house right before Covid trashed the housing market. Because we didn't get in when we could, I am honestly scared that we have been priced out of ever buying a house, no matter how hard we work or try to better ourselves. It's a deep fear now.

I am so mad at myself for making such a stupid decision with such a large gift of money. I'm honestly surprised my husband went along with it and has never said anything.

JenniferNorth
02-13-2022, 10:09 PM
I went to the website of the animal shelter I adopted my little man from. There was another chihuahua mix that looked nearly identical to him. I started crying. I don't live in California anymore, and I'm sure they don't take out of state adoptors, but what I wouldn't give to have a similar looking dog. Doesn't matter if he's already older. 100/10, would do the whole thing all over again because, love.

* Goes to PM Indiegirl and see if she'll adopt for me* :D;D

Also, I confess I am angry at husband, because he told me we should wait until after my surgery, despite him wanting to get me a new dog right away, because he knows how I am.

Then he thought my surgery is next week. Dumbass!! I told you it was early next month the day before my birthday!!

JenniferNorth
02-13-2022, 10:11 PM
Read what someone said and laughed:

PSA: if you recognized everyone in the Super Bowl halftime show, it's time to schedule your first colonoscopy.

I already feel like most of my body parts are falling apart/I have new aches and pains daily! Ughhhh do not ever want to think about getting one of those!

Aurora_Sunset
02-14-2022, 12:09 AM
Randomly wondered tonight what happened to a guy I was friends with and briefly hooked up with shortly before dating my now-husband. He's not a huge social media person in general so I wondered if his posts were just slipping through the cracks or if he had deleted his profile again. I looked him up, found him, and nope. He simply deleted me. I know I shouldn't give a shit, but I'm currently fighting the urge to "friend request" him again. There's no reason. My stupid ego does not need it. This is some stupid shit old, 20-something, insecure, "look at me" Aurora would have done. Not gonna do it. I am stronger than that. Men ain't shit.

miss.a.p1600
02-14-2022, 05:57 AM
^ Maybe she wants you to watch her or something. Sorry. It sounds like a frustrating mess.

I confess I am ready for my two to go back to school/daycare. I love them, but it's too cold for us to go outside, so we've been stuck in and they've been up my butt.

That’s exactly what she wants.

Sorry but taking care of Berthas kids is beyond my pay grade.

Lol when school is out ….. and the kids are now hanging off of you

miss.a.p1600
02-14-2022, 05:59 AM
When we got married, my parents gifted us quite a bit of money. It was originally meant to either help with the wedding (which we didn't need because we basically eloped cheaply), or the down payment on a house, or whatever we needed it for. I decided to use it to pay off a couple credit cards in the hopes of getting my debt under control. I deeply regret it.

It didn't actually help the debt situation, and probably just delayed me finally getting help for it and starting to truly pay it off. We should have used it for a down payment on a house right before Covid trashed the housing market. Because we didn't get in when we could, I am honestly scared that we have been priced out of ever buying a house, no matter how hard we work or try to better ourselves. It's a deep fear now.

I am so mad at myself for making such a stupid decision with such a large gift of money. I'm honestly surprised my husband went along with it and has never said anything.

Once I was gifted a large sum of money which should have been for a down payment on a house but I foolishly used it for a “sabbatical”

JenniferNorth
02-14-2022, 06:43 AM
That’s exactly what she wants.

Sorry but taking care of Berthas kids is beyond my pay grade.

Lol when school is out ….. and the kids are now hanging off of you

Bertha needs to find a YMCA for them. Mine thrive there with swimming and other stuff.

LOL when school is out it's daycamp!

miss.a.p1600
02-14-2022, 07:31 AM
^agreed!

JenniferNorth
02-14-2022, 08:07 AM
I confess I was going to work out right away...but I am having coffee and just chilling by myself.

I also confess I really don't care about Valentine's Day this year.

carmen_b
02-14-2022, 09:04 AM
Plus being married you have no reason to reach him unless maybe he is a Vanilla work connection / mentor.
All it will do is stir trouble and potential could upset hubby.
Randomly wondered tonight what happened to a guy I was friends with and briefly hooked up with shortly before dating my now-husband. He's not a huge social media person in general so I wondered if his posts were just slipping through the cracks or if he had deleted his profile again. I looked him up, found him, and nope. He simply deleted me. I know I shouldn't give a shit, but I'm currently fighting the urge to "friend request" him again. There's no reason. My stupid ego does not need it. This is some stupid shit old, 20-something, insecure, "look at me" Aurora would have done. Not gonna do it. I am stronger than that. Men ain't shit.

miss.a.p1600
02-14-2022, 09:13 AM
Randomly wondered tonight what happened to a guy I was friends with and briefly hooked up with shortly before dating my now-husband. He's not a huge social media person in general so I wondered if his posts were just slipping through the cracks or if he had deleted his profile again. I looked him up, found him, and nope. He simply deleted me. I know I shouldn't give a shit, but I'm currently fighting the urge to "friend request" him again. There's no reason. My stupid ego does not need it. This is some stupid shit old, 20-something, insecure, "look at me" Aurora would have done. Not gonna do it. I am stronger than that. Men ain't shit.

I know the feeling.

I couldn’t resist flirting with this guy at the hotel. He was talk, well spoken, cultured, etc. - everything L is not and I couldn’t help but want to find a way to reach out to him again.

For all I know he could be a major douche but it was the fantasy though……had me feeling like the married strip club customers who get swept away in the fantasy lol

carmen_b
02-14-2022, 09:19 AM
^ I did that too the other day. I have a height fetish ( who doesn't I guess ) with men.
I saw this man last week about the size of my ex ( 6'6" or maybe even slightly taller 6'7'' or so ha ).
Just for a moment I was like .... ok ..... I'm gonna just look. :/
I did NOT talk to him though. I am a taken lady haha.

indiegirl
02-14-2022, 10:27 PM
Every Valentine's Day, I will take a moment out of my day and think, "I wonder how many people had sex today?" haha

Dreamqueen
02-15-2022, 12:39 AM
Every Valentine's Day, I will take a moment out of my day and think, "I wonder how many people had sex today?" haha

Or how many Scorpios will be born come November.

JenniferNorth
02-15-2022, 04:40 AM
Or how many Scorpios will be born come November.

OK, I LOLed at this one!

I confess I need to get up off my ass and make appointments today. I need my ecg redone after having COVID and I need to visit my stylist again for my hair. I hate talking on the phone and making appointments!!!

miss.a.p1600
02-15-2022, 07:18 AM
Every Valentine's Day, I will take a moment out of my day and think, "I wonder how many people had sex today?" haha

Lol!

i had sex with myself.

L brought no gift so he got no sex, no cuddling, no embracing…..gave his ass what he gave me - NOTHING!

miss.a.p1600
02-15-2022, 07:20 AM
When I was at the ritzy hotel drinking expensive champagne. All I could think is how much money I could make as a high priced escort. And how for sure, this is a hotel for a high class escort

WendiStarr
02-15-2022, 07:35 AM
I just got the call. My labor induction is scheduled for tomorrow at 6am and I'm freaking. I knew this day would be coming. I hate that I have no one to talk to right now because BD is in a work meeting and everyone else is at work. I have a major hospital fear when I'm the patient.