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JenniferNorth
02-15-2022, 07:37 AM
I just got the call. My labor induction is scheduled for tomorrow at 6am and I'm freaking. I knew this day would be coming. I hate that I have no one to talk to right now because BD is in a work meeting and everyone else is at work.
Hugs Wendi, it will be okay! I hate hospitals myself, I have to go in a couple of weeks for a procedure, so I totally understand how scared you are!!
kimbe
02-15-2022, 01:15 PM
I got sooo hit on in the bar yesterday… I might elaborate in a separate post, but I brought my Mac and camped there for a couple of hours doing work.
SamanthaSugar
02-15-2022, 04:36 PM
OK, I LOLed at this one!
I confess I need to get up off my ass and make appointments today. I need my ecg redone after having COVID and I need to visit my stylist again for my hair. I hate talking on the phone and making appointments!!!
Lol, I thought it was just me that hates making appts, glad I’m not alone.
I have three that I really need to make, was going to deal with them today, but of course I blew them all off. If I were to really think about it, it’s probably due to my loathing of commitment. Reason #75 to not have kids; making appointments lol!!
charlie61
02-15-2022, 06:41 PM
My partner and i got a new, fancy sectional delivered today. But I'm sitting in a different room because i can't stand sitting close to him while he's drinking beer. The little slurpy noises (i have misophonia), and all i can pay attention to is the rate at which he's drinking (i have a stick up my ass). When i know I'm being unreasonable, i try to just remove myself from the situation. He's like, you don't want to sit on the new couch? Sigh... maybe tomorrow.
indiegirl
02-15-2022, 08:45 PM
I was so embarrassed filling out the admittance for school when on zoom and she said 4 references and they can be friends family, etc. I was like I only have 2 people (my parents) and she said they could be friends and I paused and said...."I'm so sorry I only have the 2 spots to fill. I hope that's okay." I felt like such a loser. LOL oh well.
LoveyD
02-15-2022, 09:59 PM
I just got the call. My labor induction is scheduled for tomorrow at 6am and I'm freaking. I knew this day would be coming. I hate that I have no one to talk to right now because BD is in a work meeting and everyone else is at work. I have a major hospital fear when I'm the patient.
I hope labor and delivery go smoothly, Wendi. Sending good & positive vibes your way!
miss.a.p1600
02-16-2022, 09:14 AM
My partner and i got a new, fancy sectional delivered today. But I'm sitting in a different room because i can't stand sitting close to him while he's drinking beer. The little slurpy noises (i have misophonia), and all i can pay attention to is the rate at which he's drinking (i have a stick up my ass). When i know I'm being unreasonable, i try to just remove myself from the situation. He's like, you don't want to sit on the new couch? Sigh... maybe tomorrow.
I think expecting people to quietly eati and drink is reasonable - especially when they are in the company of others.
indiegirl
02-16-2022, 11:08 AM
I don't know why this school is so adamant on me showing up for a tour of campus, going to the open house today, and then having an interview with the main person. HUNNY BOO.....I'm paying you guys cash and you act like we don't have a life outside of this. I need to work to maintain my bank account as well as my life finances outside of work. Can't we do this interview via zoom? I don't live in Anaheim FFS. It's exhausting keeping my lies straight with vanilla people. If anything, the sex industry has taught me to be a professional liar to the general public. Thank god for this website where I can let it all out.
I got the tour of campus stopped but they want to meet me in person for the interview................I'm usually on edibles for work and you can't spring this on me last minute.
And I didn't sign up for the open house, you signed me up for it.
miss.a.p1600
02-16-2022, 11:38 AM
^i hate when people act like whatever meeting they’re having can’t be done online to save time. Worse is when meeting go longer than 50 minutes
whirlerz
02-16-2022, 11:39 AM
I hope labor and delivery go smoothly, Wendi. Sending good & positive vibes your way!
2nd this, love ya Wendi dear!
Genoveve
02-16-2022, 03:44 PM
My partner and i got a new, fancy sectional delivered today. But I'm sitting in a different room because i can't stand sitting close to him while he's drinking beer. The little slurpy noises (i have misophonia), and all i can pay attention to is the rate at which he's drinking (i have a stick up my ass). When i know I'm being unreasonable, i try to just remove myself from the situation. He's like, you don't want to sit on the new couch? Sigh... maybe tomorrow.
You seem extremely anal towards him and I wonder, is it you? Or is it him? Or is it a mix of both? Or is it technically neither because it all comes down to perception? And if it actually is more about you or him, does that even matter? I truly ponder these things.
I wonder too if you are like me and just get driven nuts by people very easily? I require a TON of alone time, I basically need to be alone 93% of the time, and it doesn't matter how much I love someone and how well we get along and how compatible we are and how easygoing they are and how long it's been since I've seen them/how much I've missed them...etc. They will start to drive me nuts extremely quickly. I know it's me and not them. Also your case might not even be so extreme, lots of couples that live together just start to drive each other nuts after a while because that's just what tends to happen when you're around someone so much. Either way you have my utmost sympathy because even if it is you being freakishly anal, I feel you sister.
moneybags
02-16-2022, 04:05 PM
@ Wendi. I tapped this yesterday. This Might help with hospital anxiety
https://youtu.be/JD7QF0focfE
@Charlie I do cringe just ready about the situation. I definitely am sensitive to the environment, and just have to leave without an explanation. I’m like don’t worry about it, just leave me alone for a bit.
Lol…I think my trainer knows I still dance. I appreciate him not asking. Asking me no questions and I’ll tell you no lies.
Also, saw crush. He said him and his girlfriend had pizza for V-Day? I don’t think he wants to marry her. Is he like on purpose not being a great boyfriend, so she’ll break up with him. I’m sorry, but don’t waste a girls time. If you don’t want to marry her, then let her get back on the market. Don’t waste the best years of her life! I think he’s just benching her. Nope! Not gonna happen until AFTER you guys break up! I’m not gonna be a rebound either! You get your shit together then we’ll talk.
charlie61
02-16-2022, 04:47 PM
You seem extremely anal towards him and I wonder, is it you? Or is it him? Or is it a mix of both? Or is it technically neither because it all comes down to perception? And if it actually is more about you or him, does that even matter? I truly ponder these things.
I wonder too if you are like me and just get driven nuts by people very easily? I require a TON of alone time, I basically need to be alone 93% of the time, and it doesn't matter how much I love someone and how well we get along and how compatible we are and how easygoing they are and how long it's been since I've seen them/how much I've missed them...etc. They will start to drive me nuts extremely quickly. I know it's me and not them. Also your case might not even be so extreme, lots of couples that live together just start to drive each other nuts after a while because that's just what tends to happen when you're around someone so much. Either way you have my utmost sympathy because even if it is you being freakishly anal, I feel you sister.
Lol!! You made me laugh, haha - yes, i know for a fact that I'm overly sensitive and need my alone time, like you. We basically spend 24/7 together in this house for the most part, because we currently both work from home and don't go out a lot. We do have alone time in separate rooms, of course. But I'm a glutton for alone time. He's kind of part of me at this point, though, so his energy doesn't exhaust me.
My partner is very sensitive to my sensitivities, and he tries to accommodate, but i can't require someone to be utterly silent when they're drinking something fizzy. And i have this huge stick up my ass about drinking, where if I'm not drinking and he is drinking, i become hyperfocused on how much he's drinking. He never binge drinks, he never gets drunk, but he does drink something 4-5 nights a week, and he never just has one drink (he'll have 3-4 from maybe 5:00 to whenever he goes to bed). I just know that drinking any amount of alcohol isn't healthy, so i start fixating on it, and that causes me to start worrying about it, which causes me to fixate on it more... that can lead to me making judgmental comments, which is hurtful... you get the picture.
I think I'll likely end up in therapy for this at some point. You'd think that i have this issue because my ex was an addict, but that's actually not the case - my ex never drank around me unless we were having wine together. And neither of my parents drank. Yet even when i was a child, i remember being terrified of drugs and alcohol - maybe because of DARE or those intervention shows on TV? It's a total mystery to me why i have such a strong reaction. And it's not fair to him for me to make mean comments and judge him for what is a fairly normal amount of drinking by American standards.
I also try to complain about him on here occasionally because i feel like I'm often talking about how amazing we are together (we really are!), so i like to provide some balance. No relationship is perfect.
moneybags
02-16-2022, 05:03 PM
Any amount of drugs and alcohol use to make me uncomfortable. Now I’m pretty zen about it, but I don’t think I’d be in alignment to a moderate drinker because alcohol has always been problematic in my experience.
Thanks for the context, sometimes I want a relationship, but I LOVE my alone time!
They only thing I can suggest until you go to therapy is be non resistant. Allow, allow, allow whatever is happening that you don’t like. I get very pissy easily with others-no one can live up to my standards (including me),but I like you am aware it’s my own stuff and try to not take it out on others. If you can let those densities come up and be non resistant it should clear to the point it might not both you at all.
charlie61
02-16-2022, 05:34 PM
Any amount of drugs and alcohol use to make me uncomfortable. Now I’m pretty zen about it, but I don’t think I’d be in alignment to a moderate drinker.
Thanks for the context, sometimes I want a relationship, but I LOVE my alone time!
100% - i would say that I'm also not aligned with it! It's possible that if i had known about that before we became really involved, then i might have ended things right away. I still feel that resentment to this day (like i said, i probably need to talk to a therapist about it). He wasn't hiding his drinking from me, we just weren't living together, so that compatibility issue wasn't exposed at the time.
I love my alone time to the point where it's not healthy - in previous relationships, i would hardly leave the house, and not in a fun / quirky / "I'm fulfilled" way. And when i lived alone, i spent many weekends stuck in my head, feeling anxious and sad that i wasn't doing anything with myself, always just very serious and depressive. I know I'll eventually need to be able to motivate to get out there on my own, but for now, it's so nice to have a partner where we're always laughing, being playful, building a life together financially, and doing all of these fun things that i used to miss out on (travel, camping, hiking, museums, restaurants, concerts, etc.). When i need alone time, he just does his own thing, no problem.
Part of being in a partnership is realizing that any judgments you have of your partner are more a reflection of you, and I'm really trying to engage with that self work. I'm reading the book The Mastery of Love right now, and it's really resonating with me. My partner's drinking doesn't affect me negatively whatsoever, so why am i so hung up on it? That's my issue to deal with, not his. I need to either leave him (not happening!) or deal with my shit so I'm less of a judgmental ass, lol.
charlie61
02-16-2022, 05:36 PM
Sorry for spamming this thread, guys!
whirlerz
02-16-2022, 05:42 PM
It's Fine. :)
charlie61
02-16-2022, 05:54 PM
I get very pissy easily with others-no one can live up to my standards (including me),but I like you am aware it’s my own stuff and try to not take it out on others. If you can let those densities come up and be non resistant it should clear to the point it might not both you at all.
Precisely. Great advice. Some days are easier than others. What it comes down to is that I could spend the next 20 years hyperfocusing on one of his only defects (and likely chasing him off as a result), or i could spend that time having a blast enjoying all of the other qualities that make him a wonderful, loving, joyful, supportive, loyal partner for me.
charlie61
02-16-2022, 06:03 PM
I confess that sometimes i feel like i single-handedly crash this site when I'm posting too much.
I also confess that i signed up for a 7pm yoga class tonight that's 75 minutes long. That's laaate. I tried to cancel, but i couldn't. So now I'm just sitting around, waiting for class. Why do i do this to myself.
moneybags
02-16-2022, 07:07 PM
100% - i would say that I'm also not aligned with it! It's possible that if i had known about that before we became really involved, then i might have ended things right away. I still feel that resentment to this day (like i said, i probably need to talk to a therapist about it). He wasn't hiding his drinking from me, we just weren't living together, so that compatibility issue wasn't exposed at the time.
I love my alone time to the point where it's not healthy - in previous relationships, i would hardly leave the house, and not in a fun / quirky / "I'm fulfilled" way. And when i lived alone, i spent many weekends stuck in my head, feeling anxious and sad that i wasn't doing anything with myself, always just very serious and depressive. I know I'll eventually need to be able to motivate to get out there on my own, but for now, it's so nice to have a partner where we're always laughing, being playful, building a life together financially, and doing all of these fun things that i used to miss out on (travel, camping, hiking, museums, restaurants, concerts, etc.). When i need alone time, he just does his own thing, no problem.
Part of being in a partnership is realizing that any judgments you have of your partner are more a reflection of you, and I'm really trying to engage with that self work. I'm reading the book The Mastery of Love right now, and it's really resonating with me. My partner's drinking doesn't affect me negatively whatsoever, so why am i so hung up on it? That's my issue to deal with, not his. I need to either leave him (not happening!) or deal with my shit so I'm less of a judgmental ass, lol.
I identify as a highly sensitive person. I studied mind body medicine by Dr. Kim D Eramo. We live in a sick society and when your highly sensitive you feel all the collective crap. It’s overwhelming. If you learn to cope with it life is easier. I still hide away. The wrong comment or look can make me so upset. Once you learn how to function in the density of the planet, I think it gets easier? I feel so things deeply, and when I get overwhelmed I just wanna hide from the world. My whole life changed when I found out my curse was actually a gift!
I’m glad I’m not the only person who posts all the time. Please block me if I annoy anyone. I won’t take it personal .
LoveyD
02-16-2022, 07:21 PM
^^ You're not annoying at all, money.
I'm highly sensitive to energies too. +1 on being a hermit by choice. It's why I want to move away from the beach and into the hills/country. I can't deal.
indiegirl
02-16-2022, 08:45 PM
It's strange how small a world it is.
I got to finally do my Surgical Tech interview via zoom (thank god they decided zoom instead of in person) and there was supposed to be 2 people there in the zoom. Only one showed up and I was confused. Then I heard him talking off zoom to the guy who was supposed to be in zoom with us. I didn't care if he was there as long as I got it over with. My mom asked me who interviewed me and I said the name and then the name of the guy who didn't show up. It was a person who HATES my mom and everyone hated him hahahaha. He probably saw the last name and bowed out hahahaha. I even brought up how my mom was a surgical tech teacher blah blah blah and I had no idea. LOL.
At least it worked to my advantage in my 2nd dui case in court when my dad knew one of the DA's and they both talked to the judge in chambers.
Genoveve
02-16-2022, 09:19 PM
I confess that sometimes i feel like i single-handedly crash this site when I'm posting too much.
I also confess that i signed up for a 7pm yoga class tonight that's 75 minutes long. That's laaate. I tried to cancel, but i couldn't. So now I'm just sitting around, waiting for class. Why do i do this to myself.
You don’t post too much, you literally don’t post enough. I like reading your posts. :blush: Besides even if you wanted to post to an annoying degree who cares. If it annoys anyone that’s what the ignore list is for.
miss.a.p1600
02-16-2022, 09:25 PM
^its not possible to ignore list the moderators
Genoveve
02-16-2022, 10:26 PM
^^^Oops, nevermind then LOL.
chanzep
02-16-2022, 11:30 PM
I'm just realizing more and more that giving people advice, even when it's requested, isn't useful or healthy for either party. Going to keep working on this. I think the best response, when someone asks for advice, is to ask them questions, to help lead them to what they believe is best for them.
I understand this.
I like to be a sympathetic ear and offer advice. But after a while it can be annoying if the person doesn't change the situation and continues to moan. Listening to someone complain day after day for years is draining. I refuse to engage in it. After a while it just seems weird and attention seeking
JenniferNorth
02-17-2022, 05:11 AM
I confess I went to the pet store and bitched and moaned like a 10 year old when hubby said we couldn't take a dog home. We might go today...IDK if the dog will be there. I feel bad cause my parents always took in strays no one wanted (back in the 80s and 90s). The shelters out here will not adopt out toy breeds to me since I have young kids, so that is why we looked at the pet store....
indiegirl
02-17-2022, 09:11 PM
I confess I went to the pet store and bitched and moaned like a 10 year old when hubby said we couldn't take a dog home. We might go today...IDK if the dog will be there. I feel bad cause my parents always took in strays no one wanted (back in the 80s and 90s). The shelters out here will not adopt out toy breeds to me since I have young kids, so that is why we looked at the pet store....
You may want to check breeders online that are purebred who will ship a puppy.
My best doggo was from a shelter. You get to see their permanent personality if they are an adult. Take your time. I was sooo thinking I'd do the same of walking through anywhere with dogs to fill that empty hole when my boys died. I totally plan on crying walking around a shelter when that day comes. LOL.
You should wait for the special one who is meant for you like your bestie who passed. And when you know, you know. *Hugs*
I hope it works out for you. I'd totally be doing the same as you :).
miss.a.p1600
02-18-2022, 10:34 AM
Now the stuffy conservative housewives doing edibles lol https://www.bravotv.com/the-real-housewives-of-orange-county/style-living/heather-dubrow-shannon-storms-beador-talk-edibles
LoveyD
02-18-2022, 12:15 PM
^^ I was watching Kelly Dodd and Rick Levanthal on their YouTube channel where they basically rip on the show. They said they heard a rumour about Heather Dubrow being a partier back in the day.
miss.a.p1600
02-18-2022, 12:43 PM
I confess that I am glad my partner has left this house and gone to work.
He apologized for acting like a mega cunt these past couple of weeks but still I need time to process and do me.
I am so thankful for the ladies here for helping me see that I shouldn't feel guilty about wanting my space even if it means saying no to his numerous requests to use my time taking care of his kids during Bertha's parenting time. Not my fault he let children into adult decision making and so their feelings might get hurt. I told him I didn't think it was appropriate for this reason he just doubled down on how he thinks kids should be involved in decisions so they learn to make decisions.
Whatever.
I refused to get caught up in unnecessary guilt trips, using my resources during Bertha's parenting time, being too nice in a way that could get easily taken advantage of, etc
LoveyD
02-18-2022, 01:23 PM
^^ hold your ground. Good for you for setting boundaries.
miss.a.p1600
02-18-2022, 07:05 PM
I confess:
If I ever live with a man again, the house has to have 4+ bedrooms with NO little kids, his/hers showers/toilet/sinks, and large enough where I can have a woman cave and not hear a peep from him if I don't want to.
Kylie8585
02-19-2022, 09:24 AM
I've been asked to join a party that pretty much can be compared to an orgy or gang bang. A friend I know has them about once a month and she's been bugging me to try but I just haven't really felt I'd vibe well with the guys she's with. She's showed me some pictures and she's got a few different guys that spark my interest. I've never been in that type of scenery before. I've been with 2 guys at once quite a bit but never like 5+. I've always fantasized about this just never had the opportunity and I feel like this is the chance! Any tips/recommendations are welcome! Still not sure what I'll do but I hate living in regret!
whirlerz
02-19-2022, 10:35 AM
I've been asked to join a party that pretty much can be compared to an orgy or gang bang. A friend I know has them about once a month and she's been bugging me to try but I just haven't really felt I'd vibe well with the guys she's with. She's showed me some pictures and she's got a few different guys that spark my interest. I've never been in that type of scenery before. I've been with 2 guys at once quite a bit but never like 5+. I've always fantasized about this just never had the opportunity and I feel like this is the chance! Any tips/recommendations are welcome! Still not sure what I'll do but I hate living in regret!
Ok, I've kinda fantasized about visiting a swing club (sure it's closed due to Covid.) It sounded classy, a big mansion type place if I remember, maybe an indoor pool?
If I remember, you go there as a guest before they let you join, there's rules so no one feels uncomfortable.. Anyway it's off the table (lol now I'm curious)
Anyway, to your post, I'd have to really be assured of safety if that's even possible, it would seem to be tho, I'd almost want to take a trusted 'bouncer' things could get out of hand quickly..
I say this as a former private party dancer as well, it was always understood & countersigned that things would be halted immediately, no $ returned, if things got out of hand.. I know your doesn't involve $, but just saying..
Do be careful, good luck.
carmen_b
02-19-2022, 10:38 AM
^ On a summer vacation we went to a really well run club. :)
We didn't partake in touch with others but I had a " being watched " fantasy that we made happen ( through a little window ).
I would say to go if you want to see what it's about. You can always go and scout it out and just mingle / watch the activities.
Just know you WILL get approached if you are female and of a reasonable heigh / weight proportions haha just like out in the regular world.
There were such clear rules at this place.
If someone asked you anything and your answer was no they were NOT allowed to ask or hint again ect. !
They showed me that on a form checking in which I loved. :)
whirlerz
02-19-2022, 10:53 AM
I think what she's talking about is more free form then what we mentioned..
We both mention forms etc rules, I'm not seeing that w/her sitch.
Have to have some type of screening.
Kylie8585
02-19-2022, 01:17 PM
I think what she's talking about is more free form then what we mentioned..
We both mention forms etc rules, I'm not seeing that w/her sitch.
Have to have some type of screening.
Thanks! Yea more free and relaxed. No rules but the ones we make. I agree with a bouncer type being there. I can easily make that happen but I also know the host pretty well and I feel pretty good about the men she uses.
whirlerz
02-19-2022, 01:28 PM
Thanks! Yea more free and relaxed. No rules but the ones we make. I agree with a bouncer type being there. I can easily make that happen but I also know the host pretty well and I feel pretty good about the men she uses.
I understand, but ya never know, better safe than sorry!
I'm sorry, I can see something like this getting out of control..
Kylie8585
02-19-2022, 01:36 PM
^ On a summer vacation we went to a really well run club. :)
We didn't partake in touch with others but I had a " being watched " fantasy that we made happen ( through a little window ).
I would say to go if you want to see what it's about. You can always go and scout it out and just mingle / watch the activities.
Just know you WILL get approached if you are female and of a reasonable heigh / weight proportions haha just like out in the regular world.
There were such clear rules at this place.
If someone asked you anything and your answer was no they were NOT allowed to ask or hint again ect. !
They showed me that on a form checking in which I loved. :)
This is why I'd prefer to do it in the environment that I have a chance in versus a swingers club. I sleep with plenty of men I'm not attractive to through work. If I'm doing this on my own time/free I want guys I'm into lol. The host that has these parties has normally had people around her age (50) but recently she's moved into a more younger diverse crowd so I told her that is something I might be interested in.
miss.a.p1600
02-19-2022, 06:59 PM
I was so livid with my partner for yet again allowing his ex-wife to manipulate him/us by willfully choosing to take a vacation during what should be her parenting time and making her kids cry fake sob stories about how they don't like being at their grandmothers so L would come to the rescue and bring them to our house without okaying it with me first.
So much so, that I did not want to sleep in the same bed with him, woke up at 5:30am just to keep from laying around all morning with him.
I feel really sad that he went from someone who used to make me so happy that I could look past the obstacles to now someone who is so stubborn that I feel its not worth the hassle to put up with him and his baggage anymore.
miss.a.p1600
02-20-2022, 12:47 AM
I confess …..
It 1:33am and I can’t sleep.
L woke me up when he came into the room at midnight (cause he’s pissed at me for saying he’s wrong for agreeing to let Bertha bitch interrupt our planned schedule with her incessant child care crisis) all heavy footed and Turing on lights and probably pinging his ugly basement mistress.
I didn’t want to be next to him because he stays with the shits (slowing us down because he’s too lazy to get a promotion) and he has no backbone when it comes to dealing with Bertha who is using those kids as pawns.
Anytime I say something about how he is being manipulated by taking on extra childcare during HER parenting time, he loses his mind and accuses me of “having something against his kids”
Well if ya weren’t trying to use me n turn me into a free nanny service because you have no boundaries with Bertha then I wouldn’t have anything against anyone
Now I’m sleeping on the couch and I can’t go back to sleep.
His ass should be on this damn couch.
I am really sad.
Whatever.
JenniferNorth
02-20-2022, 07:10 AM
^ Babe, whenever I read about you and L, I just picture him as fucking Nick Cannon and want to smack him (Nick Cannon annoys the shit out of me with his one million baby mamas and bullshit....Mariah was RIGHT to leave his ass!).
ETA: L should be bothered if those kids don't like being with their Grandma. He should see that as a sign, or that something is wrong, rather than run to the "rescue".
miss.a.p1600
02-20-2022, 07:16 AM
^thanks Jennifer!
The part that annoys me is Bertha and L act like this shit is normal when it’s not and have me feeling like *Im* the crazy one.
He claims they don’t like grandmas house because it’s a lot of people in one small house. I’m like bruh! Tough shit…..If your exwife deemed it okay to send them there, let them be!
Are they being fucking abused or neglected?!?
If not then leave them alone let them spend time with their moms family OVERNIGHT Ffs. Being over there was never a problem until that meddling ass Bertha bitch realized she had to actually be responsible for the kids she laid down to create.
Then he defaulted to “well I miss them and I don’t want to be a deadbeat”
Bitch! You see those kids every day (cause Bertha has you driving around daily on her parenting times) and you talk to your daughter 10 times a day.
Stop enabling clingy kids and manipulate ex wives
miss.a.p1600
02-20-2022, 07:28 AM
Then he barges into this room saying “hey! We need to talk…..”
Um no we don’t.
I’ve said everything that needs to be said (and I had to yell at you and be away from you to get my point across since calmly talking multiple times doesn’t work) you fucking listen to my concerns and take appropriate action or you don’t
Period!
whirlerz
02-20-2022, 07:41 AM
Then he barges into this room saying “hey! We need to talk…..”
Um no we don’t.
I’ve said everything that needs to be said (and I had to yell at you and be away from you to get my point across since calmly talking multiple times doesn’t work) you fucking listen to my concerns and take appropriate action or you don’t
Period!
Lol, sounds like desperation on his part
LoveyD
02-20-2022, 08:26 AM
I'm just floored that Bertha wants to take a vacation but it was just three seconds ago that she can't afford to take care of her kids. Like wtf?
whirlerz
02-20-2022, 08:44 AM
I confess …..
It 1:33am and I can’t sleep.
L woke me up when he came into the room at midnight (cause he’s pissed at me for saying he’s wrong for agreeing to let Bertha bitch interrupt our planned schedule with her incessant child care crisis) all heavy footedand Turing on lights and probably pinging his ugly basement mistress.
I didn’t want to be next to him because he stays with the shits (slowing us down because he’s too lazy to get a promotion) and he has no backbone when it comes to dealing with Bertha who is using those kids as pawns.
Anytime I say something about how he is being manipulated by taking on extra childcare during HER parenting time, he loses his mind and accuses me of “having something against his kids”
Well if ya weren’t trying to use me n turn me into a free nanny service because you have no boundaries with Bertha then I wouldn’t have anything against anyone
Now I’m sleeping on the couch and I can’t go back to sleep.
His ass should be on this damn couch.
I am really sad.
Whatever.
Damn, Girl, & what's w/basement mistress?? :O
JenniferNorth
02-20-2022, 09:33 AM
I just really feel for you, cause I understand being in situations where you are gaslit, where people take advantage, and so on.
So they don't like Grandma's house cause there's too many people in it? Huh??? I can't even. This isn't for them to decide. They should spend time with other family members anyway.
Tell that MFer he weasled his way in to a female ADULT ONLY vacation you had planned.
These kids are more needy than my 6 year old and 1 year old. It also seems their lives are unstructed when not in school. They are supposed to go to one place but want to go to another, plans seem to change last minute etc. That is NOT good - routine is important for everyone. Adults, kids, pets, everyone benefits from a good routine.
This enabling causes whiney actions on their part, and he and Bertha may think it is cute/okay now, but when they are teenagers, it will present into FAR worse problems. Are we just gonna hand over the car, cash, whatever they want, whenever they want?
It's just dumb. I'm a mom and I see the problems being discussed here. LOL L would say I'm a bad mom for having my kids in daycare/activities/estbalishing authority and a routine, but I would rather that than clingy children who complain all the time!
carmen_b
02-20-2022, 09:41 AM
^ Stick to your guns.
You've made it clear that you are not the weekend free Nanny service. :)
He has that info ( you clearly gave him ) and can take it from here.
I think I have said this before but pushing people after they say no is not quirky or disorganized. Constant pushing is abuse. It is ..... so we can call it what it is. You don't want a dynamic of disorganization and free child care. He has your answer on the subject. If this seems too harsh PM me and I'll edit this out.