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indiegirl
03-30-2022, 07:08 PM
I call my meals snacks now. I spent 124 bucks on a week of groceries and it hardly is enough. I'm thinking of a week of chicken and then the following week eggs or anything bulk and cheap.
carmen_b
03-30-2022, 07:13 PM
^ I just did a pork roast ( $7 ) and then for additional veggies / protein I did a squash, red pepper , zuccuni , and tofu scramble ( just cooked it all in a pan ). Those were probably another $7ish. I'll eat like three times on it an J will eat twice on that so about 5 servings total.
There are some great cheap cooking YouTubers ( I remember this one guys was meals for $1-$3 a meal ) .
Potatoes fried in a pan is a super cheap way to extend meals.
I'm in a phase where I'm tired of seeing J overspend ( since it's him that does ) in restaurants haha . Like .... not taking away date nights of course but I'm trying to have alternatives. I did that pick up thing at Walmart today and got 4 POUNDS of ribs for the upcoming week. The boneless ribs can cook in a crock pot overnight.
indiegirl
03-31-2022, 04:17 PM
I splurged on lightbulbs today. I noticed three of them were out, accidentally bought the brighter, enhanced modern white version and loved them. I replaced all the bulbs other than the kitchen lamp with bright white (apparently my mom bought me bulbs I didn't know I had in the closet and bought 5 bulbs only)
Do you guys have a preference? I used to love the dim yellow one's because they felt more relaxing and less stressed being at home", now I'm just hooked on the bright white ones?! :P Your preferences?
charlie61
03-31-2022, 09:07 PM
I call my meals snacks now. I spent 124 bucks on a week of groceries and it hardly is enough. I'm thinking of a week of chicken and then the following week eggs or anything bulk and cheap.
Yeah, it's so crazy right now. We eat very well (vegetarian, very high-quality, and we eat every meal at home), but we are legit spending $300-500/week on groceries right now for just the two of us. I used to spend around $90/week at Whole Foods (and that'd include some fun stuff), but my last trip was $250, and that doesn't last us a week...
indiegirl
03-31-2022, 09:58 PM
Yeah, it's so crazy right now. We eat very well (vegetarian, very high-quality, and we eat every meal at home), but we are legit spending $300-500/week on groceries right now for just the two of us. I used to spend around $90/week at Whole Foods (and that'd include some fun stuff), but my last trip was $250, and that doesn't last us a week...
I was at home depot and a man had hundreds of loose oranges in his truck and was trying to sell them and part of me was thinking "I don't need these nor have storage for oranges, but is this how the future is gonna be?! Are we gonna be buying our groceries from growers to cut out the middle man AKA the store?" I'm regretting not checking the prices and then heading down the street to Stater Bro's to compare just for the sake of it.
moneybags
03-31-2022, 10:31 PM
Yeah, it's so crazy right now. We eat very well (vegetarian, very high-quality, and we eat every meal at home), but we are legit spending $300-500/week on groceries right now for just the two of us. I used to spend around $90/week at Whole Foods (and that'd include some fun stuff), but my last trip was $250, and that doesn't last us a week...
oh my god thank you! I was looking at my budget and thinking WTF. I’m single how can I spend $500-$1000 a month on groceries!!!!
My goal is to quit shopping at high end stores and start going to Aldi’s
chanzep
04-01-2022, 12:55 AM
I started going to Also I love it. They have lots of gluten free stuff.
miss.a.p1600
04-01-2022, 06:08 AM
Glad everyone is running errands or working out doing something productive now I have the place to myself for a couple hours.
Yasss!
indiegirl
04-01-2022, 10:02 PM
I confess I went drunk on a zoom midterm review meeting for my class hahahahaha. It popped up in my email and I just said "fuck it!" I don't even need the help hahaha. I honestly needed to shut my fucking mouth hahaha. I'm so embarrassed. Somehow I got kicked out of the zoom but I just didn't care and watched a movie. *Sigh* If I didn't have a 99% in the class this would be a different story hahahahahah.
LoveyD
04-01-2022, 11:11 PM
oh my god thank you! I was looking at my budget and thinking WTF. I’m single how can I spend $500-$1000 a month on groceries!!!!
My goal is to quit shopping at high end stores and start going to Aldi’s
I finally found an Aldi's out where I am. May have to check it out.
Dreamqueen
04-01-2022, 11:41 PM
oh my god thank you! I was looking at my budget and thinking WTF. I’m single how can I spend $500-$1000 a month on groceries!!!!
My goal is to quit shopping at high end stores and start going to Aldi’s
Same here.
I cook way better than the high end markets here anyway.
I love Aldis. I'm definitely going to start going back there now that food prices are skyrocketing.
Aldi where I live is never crowded, which I love.
Maybe because people don't like to bag their own groceries? Hmm
Their brother store Trader Joe's is always packed, so that must be the reason.
Oh, and the quarter thing for the cart.
It's no big deal because you get it back if you bring the cart back.
I just reapplied for food stamps.
I'm too sick and too old to cam the way I used to.
For all of the taxes I've paid in My life, it's the least the government can do for me.
No shame in my game.
That $250 per month takes a load off of me.
Add to that, Wal-Mart doesn't charge any delivery fees for groceries if you use food stamps.
LoveyD
04-02-2022, 08:07 AM
^^ I have ebt too and it's a life-saver. I've paid taxes my whole life and have been a single (not married) mom since 2006 and have had no $ help from anyone in my "family." I work full time and still I can't find home that I can afford in my city. How sad is it that I work work work and live out of my car bc rent out where I am is that unaffordable?
Companies need to pay workers a lot more to keep up with he rising cost of living. Until they do, it's EBT for me.
There is no shame in asking for help. This is why we pay taxes.
Marina Starr
04-02-2022, 02:50 PM
I haven't been to Aldi's but it's like a sister store of Trader Hoes. I live in a very rich and snotty town so they'll give you the size eyes if they knew you'll pay with EBT.
I like to say it out so they can hear that I'll be paying with EBT with a straight face as I watch their reactions just to upset them. I just really enjoy trolling and terrorize vanilla hoes in my town, lmao.
#messyhoe
I finally found an Aldi's out where I am. May have to check it out.
Dreamqueen
04-02-2022, 08:32 PM
^^ I have ebt too and it's a life-saver. I've paid taxes my whole life and have been a single (not married) mom since 2006 and have had no $ help from anyone in my "family." I work full time and still I can't find home that I can afford in my city. How sad is it that I work work work and live out of my car bc rent out where I am is that unaffordable?
Companies need to pay workers a lot more to keep up with he rising cost of living. Until they do, it's EBT for me.
There is no shame in asking for help. This is why we pay taxes.
Yes, so you get what I'm saying.
I'm also going to reapply to low income senior housing ( I've toured them and they are gorgeous!)
I've taken an early social security payment (because, why not?).
I'm also going to be applying for ssi ( disability).
I'm SO done trying to keep up with the government and their shenanigans.
Just give me my due, and let me live the last years of my life in peace.
moneybags
04-03-2022, 04:04 AM
^^ I have ebt too and it's a life-saver. I've paid taxes my whole life and have been a single (not married) mom since 2006 and have had no $ help from anyone in my "family." I work full time and still I can't find home that I can afford in my city. How sad is it that I work work work and live out of my car bc rent out where I am is that unaffordable?
Companies need to pay workers a lot more to keep up with he rising cost of living. Until they do, it's EBT for me.
There is no shame in asking for help. This is why we pay taxes.
Wow! It’s that expensive! That makes a lot of sense why you’re living out of your car-no judgement-I just wondered why because I know you’re a hard worker. Yeah it’s stupid expensive in the west coast. Have you thought about moving somewhere more affordable-like Texas? I’ll quit complaining about the conservative Midwest. I do loath the culture, but it’s affordable. I shouldn’t complain so much when I’m really lucky in the grand scheme of things. It’s not easy to live in a conservative state as a stripper, but I should focus on the positives instead of the negative for now.
LoveyD
04-03-2022, 06:54 AM
^^ A typical 1 BR is about $2200/month here. I am thinking of moving. Saving up for a place in the meantime. I may either stay in CA and move out of the city to a more rural area where the rent is lower, or I may move to Arizona with my boyfriend should he make the offer, which I have a feeling he might do. My son said he'd be fine with me moving (he's 20.)
Tired of CA. It's getting overcrowded, too expensive, and I don't like the people here. Twenty years ago the beach area I lived in was laid-back and fun. Now it's like a goddamn city with idiots yelling dumb shit while they drive around drunk. Why would I pay so much more when the quality of life isn't what it used to be?
@DQ I get why dealing with the government is frustrating sometimes. I hope you're able to find a place and be settled.
whirlerz
04-03-2022, 08:41 AM
I just wanted to comment on the EBT, according to what I recently read, many states are cutting /eliminating it, (IL is one), April 15th.
JGB2009
04-04-2022, 11:51 AM
I confess that I opened up someone else's piece of mail by mistake.
indiegirl
04-04-2022, 12:54 PM
All three of my midterm grades were A's. Hoorayyyyyy.
Secret Shelly
04-04-2022, 01:15 PM
All three of my midterm grades were A's. Hoorayyyyyy.
I confess I'm super jealous of indie: Smart and beautiful!
LoveyD
04-04-2022, 01:19 PM
Good job , indie!
I'm on the hydromassage bed at planet fitness waiting for it to begin. Just did the red light beauty angel machine. Next is a hot shower. Woohoo!
charlie61
04-04-2022, 04:19 PM
All three of my midterm grades were A's. Hoorayyyyyy.
Dang, girl, you're already doing midterms and killing it to boot?? This program is going to fly by for you.
indiegirl
04-06-2022, 05:14 AM
I legit dropped my laptop at 5am and it was sooo FREAKING loud on the hardwood floor bahaha. G'morning roommates!
I felt so bad haha, I was trying to silently go to the bathroom to watch something on netflix. So much for the silent part!
Secret Shelly
04-06-2022, 06:14 AM
I legit dropped my laptop at 5am and it was sooo FREAKING loud on the hardwood floor bahaha. G'morning roommates!
I felt so bad haha, I was trying to silently go to the bathroom to watch something on netflix. So much for the silent part!
most important thing, is your laptop ok? I mean, priorities girl!
lynn2009
04-06-2022, 08:05 AM
I took the afternoon off work to mope. My company is feeling unstable so I have been applying for months and I keep getting rejection after rejection, even for other positions within my current department. And I'm so bored by my current department I have been wanting to switch but it's never going to happen. I would need to start over and I can't afford that anymore.
Aurora_Sunset
04-06-2022, 09:14 AM
I very much feel like I'm on the edge of some sort of mental breakdown. I hate my job. I hate my life (like, not ALL of it, but the general snapshot). Trying to focus on little goals feels pointless, because they're not going to actually change my life in a meaningful way or make me feel better about myself. I know I "shouldn't" tie my self-worth to my job or economic/financial success, but that's really fucking hard to do in a society that doesn't let you exist comfortably without a decent amount of money, and paying basic bills means having to spend most of your waking hours at work.
I feel as though there is absolutely no point job-searching. I'm not qualified for anything that pays more than what I currently make. And honestly, is any other random, vanilla job that I can't even visualize going to make me any happier than Amazon, where at least I like most of my coworkers and can take a day off without issue when my mental health is trash? No.
I feel like I need to dissociate just to make it through normal days and do what I "need" to do.
SnuffleUffleGrass
04-06-2022, 11:23 AM
I very much feel like I'm on the edge of some sort of mental breakdown. I hate my job. I hate my life (like, not ALL of it, but the general snapshot). Trying to focus on little goals feels pointless, because they're not going to actually change my life in a meaningful way or make me feel better about myself. I know I "shouldn't" tie my self-worth to my job or economic/financial success, but that's really fucking hard to do in a society that doesn't let you exist comfortably without a decent amount of money, and paying basic bills means having to spend most of your waking hours at work.
I feel as though there is absolutely no point job-searching. I'm not qualified for anything that pays more than what I currently make. And honestly, is any other random, vanilla job that I can't even visualize going to make me any happier than Amazon, where at least I like most of my coworkers and can take a day off without issue when my mental health is trash? No.
I feel like I need to dissociate just to make it through normal days and do what I "need" to do.
Hugs, hon.
I confess I am soo soo grateful for self love and cutting toxic family members out of my life today. Just uhhhhh.
Genoveve
04-06-2022, 06:27 PM
I very much feel like I'm on the edge of some sort of mental breakdown.
Is there any way that you can talk to any sort of a professional? I know I mentioned before that I thought you definitely seem clinically depressed, and that was a long time ago. I'm wondering too if your husband knows how bad you are struggling emotionally too and if you are open with him about it?
moneybags
04-06-2022, 09:14 PM
^^^Pineapple supper offers free therapy and support groups. I’ve been on the edge of many mental breakdowns. Mainly just stress, and once I do self care I’m okay. Sometimes I see a therapist, but 90% of my issues sort themselves out.
I also have to remind myself my mental health is just as important as my physical health. If I was sick with the flu I would stay home for a few days. I can do that with my mental health too.
Take care Aurora_sunset I hope you get well soon.
Dreamqueen
04-06-2022, 11:34 PM
I legit dropped my laptop at 5am and it was sooo FREAKING loud on the hardwood floor bahaha. G'morning roommates!
I felt so bad haha, I was trying to silently go to the bathroom to watch something on netflix. So much for the silent part!
56978
carmen_b
04-07-2022, 07:58 AM
Yes Aurora : Update us on how you are feeling !
I 100% recommend a good therapist ( I need to re-start too and take my own advice ) .
It can really take the edge off to have a non - biased 3rd party to speak to and have the consistency of KNOWING that every week ( or whatever time frame you decide ) you can have someone to talk to and help you plan ect. !
Have you tried any medication ? I ask because I'm on a low dose of wellbutrin and consider it life changing.
My depression would show up mostly as physical exhaustion and it's made a huge difference.
How is hubby's career stuff going ? I ask because I think at one time you mentioned he had made some progress which was supposed to take the edge off you. Any chance that you " see a light " such as being able to go down to 35-36 hours a week at a certain point in the future? I feel like when you have a commute even working 40 hours is a lifestyle " bleh " that can hit many people hard ( not just you ! ).
Aurora_Sunset
04-07-2022, 05:35 PM
Is there any way that you can talk to any sort of a professional? I know I mentioned before that I thought you definitely seem clinically depressed, and that was a long time ago. I'm wondering too if your husband knows how bad you are struggling emotionally too and if you are open with him about it?
I'm just barely making bills as it is, so I haven't attempted to really look for any sort of professional help that isn't basically advertised as free. I've brought it up to my husband several times, but I don't know that he really "gets it." He's not judgmental of me taking time off or anything, usually makes a comment like, "You seem like you need it, do what you gotta do." But then is one of those people that thinks that if I take a few days off and then, holy smokes, look like I'm having a few okay days, the next time I say I'm depressed, he acts shocked. As though it was "just a phase, wasn't I 'better' just a few days ago?" I don't know that he really understands true depression that isn't just "feeling down" because of temporary circumstances.
^^^Pineapple supper offers free therapy and support groups. I’ve been on the edge of many mental breakdowns. Mainly just stress, and once I do self care I’m okay. Sometimes I see a therapist, but 90% of my issues sort themselves out.
I also have to remind myself my mental health is just as important as my physical health. If I was sick with the flu I would stay home for a few days. I can do that with my mental health too.
Take care Aurora_sunset I hope you get well soon.
When I looked at pineapple support, it seemed to be that they only offer free therapy to sex workers who have worked in sex work within the last 6 months, and that they mostly centered on "online" workers, rather than dancers or FSSWs? Let me know if I'm mistaken though. I didn't go far beyond that on their website, when it seemed like it wasn't meant for me.
Aurora_Sunset
04-07-2022, 05:40 PM
Yes Aurora : Update us on how you are feeling !
I 100% recommend a good therapist ( I need to re-start too and take my own advice ) .
It can really take the edge off to have a non - biased 3rd party to speak to and have the consistency of KNOWING that every week ( of whatever time frame you decide ) you can have someone to talk to and help you plan ect. !
Have you tried any medication ? I ask because I'm on a low dose of wellbutrin and consider it life changing.
My depression would show up mostly as physical exhaustion and it's made a huge difference.
How is hubby's career stuff going ? I ask because I think at one time you mentioned he had made some progress which was supposed to take the edge off you. Any chance that you " see a light " such as being able to go down to 35-36 hours a week at a certain point in the future? I feel like when you have a commute even working 40 hours is a lifestyle " bleh " that can hit many people hard ( not just you ! ).
Haven't tried any medications yet.
Actually, he changed his degree certification to where he'll be done a lot sooner than initially planned. He should hopefully have a new job in about 3 months. So there is an impending "light" that I can see coming up to where we can redo finances and I won't have to work as much anymore. But there's so much I've put on the backburner or haven't been able to save for (big purchases, like a house) for years now that I feel like I'll still have to play "catch up." At least the worry about month-to-month bills won't be so crushing anymore though.
indiegirl
04-07-2022, 05:48 PM
I very much feel like I'm on the edge of some sort of mental breakdown. I hate my job. I hate my life (like, not ALL of it, but the general snapshot). Trying to focus on little goals feels pointless, because they're not going to actually change my life in a meaningful way or make me feel better about myself. I know I "shouldn't" tie my self-worth to my job or economic/financial success, but that's really fucking hard to do in a society that doesn't let you exist comfortably without a decent amount of money, and paying basic bills means having to spend most of your waking hours at work.
I feel as though there is absolutely no point job-searching. I'm not qualified for anything that pays more than what I currently make. And honestly, is any other random, vanilla job that I can't even visualize going to make me any happier than Amazon, where at least I like most of my coworkers and can take a day off without issue when my mental health is trash? No.
I feel like I need to dissociate just to make it through normal days and do what I "need" to do.
Feel you girl. Working as a whole in vanilla life SUCKS. It's boring and anytime someone says they love their job or do what you love......they can shut up. The worst is reaching the clock watching phase of "don't look at the clock so the time passes faster"
There has to be some work at home type of job that you can do? Maybe being an amazon reseller or selling from alibaba to ebay? Perhaps talking it out with a life coach?
I dunno if this helps, but part of what I'm looking forward to about being a surgical tech is the fact that things are interesting and hectic all day. Makes the time pass by faster instead of something boring. Maybe a more exciting type of job to fill up the time?
Wish we all didn't have to work and just trade services. Trust me on this, there is no such thing as a job as a professional couch potato or I would've filled the position by now. LOL :).
whirlerz
04-07-2022, 06:11 PM
They needed a wake up call, ^
Aurora, (anyone else too) try adeccousa.com or glassdoor, there's a fair amount of WAH's on there
indiegirl
04-07-2022, 07:09 PM
I’m so in the mood for a good music playlist channel! Not sure where to find one :(. Sometimes I feel I have played out the songs I currently have and want something fresh!
Obviously you can’t force artists to write amazing songs to motivate you throughout the day but I want a few good songs that are new! Loll
chanzep
04-07-2022, 07:32 PM
Aurora try Verizon wfh they are hiring. Also CVS Health from home.
I hope you get something good. These jobs pay similar to Amazon.
I hope you can feel better.
carmen_b
04-08-2022, 09:29 AM
That is SOMETHING. Progress is progress !!
At least the worry about month-to-month bills won't be so crushing anymore though.
Genoveve
04-08-2022, 06:36 PM
Oops I just ripped off Adobe. I signed up months back for Adobe Premier Pro, cost $21 a month and I never used it so I cancelled my subscription in late February. I always got billed for it around the first, March 1st I got billed for it again and assumed their contract had one of those clauses in it about having to cancel X amount of days before the next bill in order to not get billed and I didn't. Just saw though that I got billed again for April so I contacted support and told them the situation, they had issues locating my account so I gave them a different email that I rarely use and that ended up being the email that my account was attached to, which I thought was weird because it wasn't the email that all my adobe mail goes to and not the email I used to log in and cancel the account with. They told me there was still an active subscription under the rare email, I told them that that couldn't be because I have only ever had and paid for one subscription, for which I had the email proving I cancelled it, and there were no Adobe emails in the rare email account. I told them it had to be fraud because I never made 2nd account so they cancelled the subscription for fraud......then while we were talking I noticed a couple emails from Adobe in the rare email account that I didn't notice before. I was able to log into that account and saw that there was indeed an active subscription, I then went to cancel it and it would have cost sixty something dollars for early cancellation of the contract if I did so good thing it was cancelled for me for 'fraud' hehe.
So yeah idk why I set up my subscription under the rare email but clearly I did oopsie. There was never a subscription under the first email that's account I cancelled first. I'm typing all of this while I am with a customer btw because he's so boring and he doesn't care what I do.
WendiStarr
04-08-2022, 08:13 PM
Ugh, really wish I hadn't looked at the scale today. Usually I have the medical assistant that knows not to let me see it and gets out the scale that I can't see the number(she knows my history). I had a different one today. I'm still 15lbs from my pre-pregnancy weight. I feel fat.
BambiCutie
04-08-2022, 08:32 PM
Wendi You are beautiful don't worry! You have a baby, this is normal and will get better with time, keep hope! <3
carmen_b
04-09-2022, 12:41 PM
J wants to go to a concert . Cool !
But it starts at 7p.m. and ends at 1a.m. Then we would have to drive 2 hours back home. Yikes. haha
He wasn't sure yesterday he wanted it so I didn't arrange coverage for my dog .
Now I'm kind of glad I have the dog excuse if I want. :)
I *might* be able to book a sitter on Rover for him but I really hate being awake after 11 p.m. unless I'm in the club and being paid for the time.
It's just the 2 hours haha at the end that scare me .
Am I the only one that considers a hotel NECESSARY ( and it has to be CLOSE by ) if an event goes past 11 ?
Haha.
EDIT : Didn’t go. Cuddled with dog for a movie ! Yeah . :)
Being out and needing to drive after midnight just seems so batshit crazy to me.
I'm worried about HIM driving back too but I know he does better in later hours than me.
Marina Starr
04-09-2022, 04:18 PM
My confession: yesterday I shopped at Publix with a basket but I was buying more shit then expected so I needed a cart.
There was a cute young guy stocking up shit on daily, I asked him to go all the way to the front and got me a cart.
He was nice and did it. I told an acquaintance today and she said it wasn't his job and how it was incredibly rude of me. I should have gotten my ass up front and got a cart but that's too much work for me. I'm just accustomed to being served.
Was that rude of me?
whirlerz
04-09-2022, 05:05 PM
My confession: yesterday I shopped at Publix with a basket but I was buying more shit then expected so I needed a cart.
There was a cute young guy stocking up shit on daily, I asked him to go all the way to the front and got me a cart.
He was nice and did it. I told an acquaintance today and she said it wasn't his job and how it was incredibly rude of me. I should have gotten my ass up front and got a cart but that's too much work for me. I'm just accustomed to being served.
Was that rude of me?
No!
I've done it, once I was in a huge Target (food shopping) I was way in the back, & asked a store employee to get me a cart, which she did, that's part of their job!
Marina Starr
04-09-2022, 05:50 PM
I thought so too it's their job!
No!
I've done it, once I was in a huge Target (food shopping) I was way in the back, & asked a store employee to get me a cart, which she did, that's part of their job!
indiegirl
04-09-2022, 06:08 PM
Mom has taken important tools from work to teach me for school and it is all for me because she is desperate to see me leave "the biz"....she was a jerk in the past towards me until it was what she wanted for me and things have been peaceful since it was my decision to leave the industry. My narcissist father and I are currently on one month of no contact. He would rather talk to his sugar babies he employs than me. I was the FUCKING FIRST person to wish him happy bday on his bday and he still did not give me a word back or a thank you from and he is not dead. It's been since March since no response.
LoveyD
04-09-2022, 09:48 PM
I'm sorry, indie. He should have treated you way better than that. I had a narc father from hell, too. I get it. Fucking sucks.
My whole family is from Planet Narco. No contact is the way to go.
Aurora_Sunset
04-10-2022, 08:59 PM
Everyone else who is capable of running my department at work is on vacation for the next 2 weeks, so I'm running shift this entire time. Yesterday went great, actually, when I thought it wouldn't. One of my managers even complimented me on it. But then he shared a private conversation he had with his boss in the company chat about how he thought I was going to do a great job these next 2 weeks - but, more than that, that he thought I would make their "numbers look better" than the regular supervisor. I don't even want to repeat the exact words he used, but they've really gutted me spiritually. I KNOW he meant them as a compliment. But it made me feel like a 'good little corporate stooge' when I really just want to burn the entire system to the ground. I hate being even perceived that way.
Old me honestly would have eaten that shit up. I was the kid that loved being praised for 'being good.' I don't want to be the fucking adult that is still that way. Idk, maybe that sounds weird. I'm trying to find the right way to put it into words. It just stung me. I don't value the same things anymore, but I still 'default' to the same habits to make it through the day. If that makes sense? I hate that.
I need to get out of there.
Aurora_Sunset
04-10-2022, 09:05 PM
If I were ever single again, I would only date women. Not dealing with men anymore.
And I don't mean that in an "ugh, I wish I were a lesbian" way - I've always been bi, but I feel like my 'meter' has shifted from 'more toward men' to 'more toward women' as I get older.
~Carmen~
04-11-2022, 03:28 AM
If I were ever single again, I would only date women. Not dealing with men anymore.
And I don't mean that in an "ugh, I wish I were a lesbian" way - I've always been bi, but I feel like my 'meter' has shift from 'more toward men' to 'more toward women' as I get older.
I'm glad I'm not the only one.
I have been feeling that way also and I am single. I have never been with a woman, just because of the pressures of society. I'm older so being lesbian was not much of an option when I was young. I have always been more attracted to women. I'm especially attracted to androgynous women.
Some of my family have recently come out. My daughter has been encouraging me to date but I won't go on dating websites. I'm afraid of them for many reasons.