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Marina Starr
04-11-2022, 04:09 AM
I've known you for years and didn't even know you also like pussy, BRAVO!!!!!

I can look at other women and think 'oh she's beautiful' but I'm not sexually attracted to women.
I'm glad you share. Love that all walks of life are in your family!


I'm glad I'm not the only one.

I have been feeling that way also and I am single. I have never been with a woman, just because of the pressures of society. I'm older so being lesbian was not much of an option when I was young. I have always been more attracted to women. I'm especially attracted to androgynous women.

Some of my family have recently come out. My daughter has been encouraging me to date but I won't go on dating websites. I'm afraid of them for many reasons.

~Carmen~
04-11-2022, 04:21 AM
I've known you for years and didn't even know you also like pussy, BRAVO!!!!!

I can look at other women and think 'oh she's beautiful' but I'm not sexually attracted to women.
I'm glad you share. Love that all walks of life are in your family!

Thank you sis! It feels good to finally come out with it.

I have pretty much told everyone except R and my sisters. Oh, and also C. I did change R's messenger theme to PRIDE, so maybe he got the hint?;D He did get very quiet after that. hahahaaaa

I love your new signature quoting moneybags. That's beautiful!

Marina Starr
04-11-2022, 02:36 PM
Perfect time to come out before Pride! Get R a shirt and take him to Pride.

Moneybags has a gentle soul. I enjoy reading her posts.


Thank you sis! It feels good to finally come out with it.

I have pretty much told everyone except R and my sisters. Oh, and also C. I did change R's messenger theme to PRIDE, so maybe he got the hint?;D He did get very quiet after that. hahahaaaa

I love your new signature quoting moneybags. That's beautiful!

Genoveve
04-11-2022, 05:39 PM
I am totally bailing on the annual family vacay this year. I have too much anxiety about leaving my basically terminally ill dog with attachment issues with someone else for 9 days, plus it’s such a PITA traveling there and I’m always ready to go back home by day 3 anyway. I felt a wave of relief once I decided I wasn’t going so I know I made the right choice.

~Carmen~
04-11-2022, 06:53 PM
I am totally bailing on the annual family vacay this year. I have too much anxiety about leaving my basically terminally ill dog with attachment issues with someone else for 9 days, plus it’s such a PITA traveling there and I’m always ready to go back home by day 3 anyway. I felt a wave of relief once I decided I wasn’t going so I know I made the right choice.

I'm so sorry about your dog. The right choice is what you feel in your heart.

indiegirl
04-13-2022, 09:38 AM
The femmycycle menstrual cup worked like a charm! I didn't have to wake up in the middle of the night to change tampons. This is wild!!! I love this menstrual cup. Thank you again charlie for the suggestion!

SnuffleUffleGrass
04-13-2022, 10:04 AM
I am totally bailing on the annual family vacay this year. I have too much anxiety about leaving my basically terminally ill dog with attachment issues with someone else for 9 days, plus it’s such a PITA traveling there and I’m always ready to go back home by day 3 anyway. I felt a wave of relief once I decided I wasn’t going so I know I made the right choice.

Don't be. Terminally ill dogs just basically fall asleep and don't wake back up.

Confession- I am laughing my ass off at an episode of Jon Taffer's Bar Rescue. Jon is such a trip.

Marina Starr
04-13-2022, 04:24 PM
I love sitting in my car with the top down and engine off while drinking Starbucks iced tea. It feels really good. I feel a sense of peace.

So at peace that being called a "man" because I'm Trans doesn't even bother me. That means I'm now much stronger than I were because it used to crush me.

charlie61
04-13-2022, 06:26 PM
The femmycycle menstrual cup worked like a charm! I didn't have to wake up in the middle of the night to change tampons. This is wild!!! I love this menstrual cup. Thank you again charlie for the suggestion!

Yesssssss!!!!! So glad to hear it, thanks for the update!!!

indiegirl
04-13-2022, 11:36 PM
Lol I have 167 medical terms to memorize by Monday and it helps reciting out loud and my dog's tail has been going cray cray because he's so happy thinking I'm talking to him. Lol I killed 2 birds with 1 stone. Got some studying in and got doggo some needy attention out of the way.

Genoveve
04-14-2022, 10:55 AM
Confession: I buy big boxes of Lucky Charms and then throw away at least 90% of the cereal pieces. I need lots of marshmallows.

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carmen_b
04-14-2022, 12:26 PM
I need to figure out my rolling cooler situation for Vegas haha .
I hate not having a fridge.
You can do so much with a fridge ( mini charcuterie + champs is main thing) .
Plus I need cream cheese for morning bagels.

Staci
04-14-2022, 12:38 PM
Confession: I buy big boxes of Lucky Charms and then throw away at least 90% of the cereal pieces. I need lots of marshmallows.

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Did you know you can buy just the dehydrated marshmallows?
Dehydrated Marshmallow Bits Cereal Assorted Colors And Shapes (https://www.amazon.com/Dehydrated-Marshmallow-Assorted-Patricks-Celebration/dp/B09T2TXY2B/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?crid=22N79IU6TUJPL&keywords=dehydrated+marshmallow+bits&qid=1649964928&sprefix=dyhratored+marshmellow+bits%2Caps%2C304&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEyOE41Tzk5Uk9HUklLJ mVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwNDQyNzI4NjREOU9QTzBYQTdJJmVuY3J 5cHRlZEFkSWQ9QTAyMjUyODQyT0E5VlZTTTVDRTFOJndpZGdld E5hbWU9c3BfYXRmJmFjdGlvbj1jbGlja1JlZGlyZWN0JmRvTm9 0TG9nQ2xpY2s9dHJ1ZQ==)

charlie61
04-14-2022, 12:42 PM
I need to figure out my rolling cooler situation for Vegas haha .
I hate not having a fridge.

You drive, right? They have electric coolers that plug into the car's power source and can also plug into the wall (just use an adapter).

Genoveve
04-14-2022, 12:49 PM
Did you know you can buy just the dehydrated marshmallows?
Dehydrated Marshmallow Bits Cereal Assorted Colors And Shapes (https://www.amazon.com/Dehydrated-Marshmallow-Assorted-Patricks-Celebration/dp/B09T2TXY2B/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?crid=22N79IU6TUJPL&keywords=dehydrated+marshmallow+bits&qid=1649964928&sprefix=dyhratored+marshmellow+bits%2Caps%2C304&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEyOE41Tzk5Uk9HUklLJ mVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwNDQyNzI4NjREOU9QTzBYQTdJJmVuY3J 5cHRlZEFkSWQ9QTAyMjUyODQyT0E5VlZTTTVDRTFOJndpZGdld E5hbWU9c3BfYXRmJmFjdGlvbj1jbGlja1JlZGlyZWN0JmRvTm9 0TG9nQ2xpY2s9dHJ1ZQ==)



Yes. I've bought them. They suck. :'(

Staci
04-14-2022, 01:09 PM
Yes. I've bought them. They suck. :'(

Oh, sorry - I've never tried them. I thought it might be a good solution.

whirlerz
04-14-2022, 01:31 PM
I need to figure out my rolling cooler situation for Vegas haha .
I hate not having a fridge.
You can do so much with a fridge ( mini charcuterie + champs is main thing) .
Plus I need cream cheese for morning bagels.

Somebody on here was talking about a fridge you plug in car lighter I think?

SnuffleUffleGrass
04-14-2022, 05:39 PM
Somebody on here was talking about a fridge you plug in car lighter I think?

I had one of those. They work allright.

Dreamqueen
04-14-2022, 08:30 PM
Somebody on here was talking about a fridge you plug in car lighter I think?

That was me. It plugs into the wall.
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WendiStarr
04-15-2022, 06:56 PM
I think my 2 year old is going to cause me to get premature gray and a heart attack or stroke. 8 more months until I can send her to preschool. I love her but damnit. I cannot pee, shit, shower, cook, or do anything without her clinging to me or wanting to be on my lap. She has a full on meltdown whenever I hold and feed my 2 month old, hug my oldest, or do anything where she can't sit on my lap or be clinging on to me. She's also been refusing to eat unless she's sitting on my lap at the table and not wanting to fall asleep unless I lay down next to her. I have to make sure she's totally asleep before leaving her room and 99% of the time she wakes up in the middle of the night and gets in my bed and goes to sleep laying up against me.

indiegirl
04-16-2022, 06:26 AM
If I get asked again for bareback, I'm gonna lose it. I'm not in the mood for your potential diseases. Ultimately, customers are all strangers despite me being welcoming and chill when we meet. I don't understand how men are so comfortable with risking their health with women in this industry. The stakes are even higher since we fuck multiple random people a week. It's not cool at all to ask me. Anytime a sex worker brings up "I never get asked for bareback" .....bahahahahaha. What planet are you on? lol. I wish all clients were like my last customer yesterday. Sweet and kind. Not trying to rip through my boundary's like I don't matter.

I'm hoping for one more client this morning to make it worth it. Everything costs money and it's been slow today.

*Update just got another bbfs request* SO fun.

whirlerz
04-16-2022, 06:45 AM
Ugh sorry^
&yes, men are so careless.

I kept your doggo pic, he's so cute, miss having a pet..

Was going to text LL, since gas is still off, not that he GAF.
Probably won't be back on til Monday now, been off since Thursday, supposed to be on today 37 ° in a non insulated crap house

indiegirl
04-16-2022, 07:02 AM
Ugh sorry^
&yes, men are so careless.

I kept your doggo pic, he's so cute, miss having a pet..

Was going to text LL, since gas is still off, not that he GAF.
Probably won't be back on til Monday now, been off since Thursday, supposed to be on today 37 ° in a non insulated crap house

Sleeping in that temperature sounds insane. I would be pissssed!! I have a few of those plug in heaters that worked wonders in winter. You can buy one on amazon and then return it when LL fixes the heater. (Save all the packaging lol!)

whirlerz
04-16-2022, 07:30 AM
Thanks, I forgot to mention, I do have a heater, (it's not doing much, also have an electric blanket)..going to look online first

I'd just go to home depot, Idk if it'd trip the circuits tho..

Currently caming in a hoodie, hat & leggings

Update :
He said account got canceled somehow, they're coming out between 4 - 8pm today
He said there's no balance due either

miss.a.p1600
04-16-2022, 11:17 AM
I confess that sometimes, I wish I could have an open relationship

Genoveve
04-16-2022, 06:45 PM
Since we are living in the same area for the first time in over a decade and since Easter is my favorite holiday I forced my mom to make me an Easter basket this year.

LoveyD
04-17-2022, 08:27 AM
Word on the street is that my abusive twin sister's marriage is in the shitter, and I am not surprised.

Can't help but feel zero sympathy because that bitch stole what should have been my inheritance.

I just feel bad for my niece. Poor girl. I would HATE ro have a mother like my twin sister. She is such a manipulative, creepy bitch...

WendiStarr
04-19-2022, 04:04 PM
I'm pmsing I think so I should probably avoid posting anything else on my sw social media accounts until it passes.

indiegirl
04-19-2022, 04:22 PM
WOOOHOO there is no vaccine mandate at the gym and masks are optional now it seems (still waiting until right before clinicals to get my required jab and booster)....I'm heading back to the gym to lose my covid stay at home weight and study at the gym starting May 16th! Wahoo! It is the perfect timing because it's mostly going to be hands on lab and anatomy and physiology only for 2 months. Thank Fuck. I've never let myself go for this long. I already have it posted on my schedule. Weeeeeee!

carmen_b
04-19-2022, 06:37 PM
I had so much fun with J the last couple of days.
Two days of concerts and sexy times and delicious food omg ! :)
Yuuuuuummmmmmm

But now there is the little challenge of getting through this evening the first day back in our regular lives !
I'm post vacation depressed lol .

Genoveve
04-19-2022, 08:47 PM
Since we are living in the same area for the first time in over a decade and since Easter is my favorite holiday I forced my mom to make me an Easter basket this year.

I forgot, I got myself a chocolate bunny too:

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:lovestruc

miss.a.p1600
04-20-2022, 08:21 AM
I confess.

I was going to give L the ride of his life since pussy has been enjoying a recent self imposed lockdown.

But when his ass started talking about his son living with us full time, my pussy went drier than styrofoam.

And I pleased myself instead.

Aurora_Sunset
04-20-2022, 08:30 AM
I confess.

I was going to give L the ride of his life since pussy has been enjoying a recent self imposed lockdown.

But when his ass started talking about his son living with us full time, my pussy went drier than styrofoam.

My husband has always been of the train of thought that stepson would eventually come live with us full time, but I do not like the idea. I was on board with it when dickhead stepdad was still at their mom's house, because I saw that potentially becoming a truly violent situation as the kids get older and start rebelling. But now that he's not there, I don't feel the need to "get him out of that environment," and honestly think he's better off with his mom being majority guardian. She's not my favorite person, and I do think she does narcissistic bullshit that will fuck the kids up in certain ways, but I don't think my husband has what it takes to make this a structured enough environment for him.

He already bends to his every whim and coddles him in ways that he would never for his daughter, despite the boy being over 3 years older. He is absolutely the type of kid that will take advantage of any time that you allow him to get away with being lazy, letting his hygiene go, not taking responsibility for his own messes and stuff, and will spend his life sitting on the couch playing video games if you let him. And my husband lets him 90% of the time unless I'm there enforcing something and he feels like he then needs to jump in and back me up. Husband thinks he would be more strict with him if he lived with us fulltime, instead of him just feeling the need to do whatever pleases the kid on his sparse weekends, but I really don't think he would switch gears that easily. The kid certainly didn't need the unhinged, psychopathic rigidity of ex-stepdad, but he needs some type of enforced structure, and my husband is just honestly not the person to do it. He wants to be his "buddy" more than his dad, and that's not good for him fulltime.

I really think he needs to get this out of his head and just focus on maybe us moving closer to the kids so that it would be easier to spend weekdays or a few hours here and there with them for more quality time outside of scheduled weekends. He'd be more involved but without the hassle of trying to transition the kid from thinking that our home is a free-for-all to it suddenly being structured, and my husband caving half the time when I'm not home. If something were to ever happen to bio-mom, of course we would take in the kids and they'd be fine with us, but if it's not necessary, I think the way things are now is good.

And just on a more personal, selfish note - if he came to live with us fulltime, do you think it would be my husband on top of school functions, medications/doctor's appointments, homework, extracurriculars, buying him clothes every other month as he grows out of them? No... this would become one more giant thing that would fall on me as female/wife/mother emotional and time labor, and I'm not agreeing to it when I don't even think we're the best environment for him.

carmen_b
04-20-2022, 08:58 AM
^ Aurora :
You are so smart to see ahead that this idea would be so much extra work ON YOU .
I personally bet it won't go that direction anyway now that the dick head guy is gone.

I'm actually surprised you have to be the one to discipline and get that kid moving more than his Dad.
I wonder if maybe he will make some changes to that ?

I guess I'm a little judgy but it would drive me crazy to see a kid " laze " all day .
An hour or two of game time ? Fine. I would be pushing the kid to get out of the house and find lawns to mow , get other little hustles going, get a life for fucks sake !!!

miss.a.p1600
04-20-2022, 09:05 AM
Aurora, The ex wife ran off her new husband?

That was quick.

And no Carmen you’re not judgy. I got triggered really quickly when I realized L allowed his kid to play video games all fucking weekend.

But then I realized it would be uncompensated work for me (not to mention an uphill battle) trying to change habits of a lazy teen and his grown enabler dad that I didn’t feel like expending the emotional energy so I just left the topic alone (since I don’t have to see it occur that often) and focused on why I could control…..myself

carmen_b
04-20-2022, 09:28 AM
^ I think I find gaming particularly gross because it causes a lot of ambient noise too ( unless the house is really well organized with a separate room for it ). I don't want to be walking around to get ice or a drink and hear that kind of noise. BUT like I said I'm picky AF. That kid would be out hitting up all the neighbors for car washes / lawn care and starting a summer business hahaha.

Aurora_Sunset
04-20-2022, 05:01 PM
I keep having to fight the urge to use my credit card to go get a new tattoo. No! That is not what the credit card is for! Shit like that is exactly how I got into trouble with debt in the first place.

baer45
04-20-2022, 07:20 PM
I am in extreme self-blaming at the moment.

A past customer introduced a wealthy lady to me. She's looking for a house in a nice area.
I took her to the property showing that just came up to the market and she immediately fell in love with the house. It's perfect for her and her kids. So I did all my research. what I found was the properties in that area usually had about 10% price increase when they were sold. Not a single property priced above 1.5M was sold more than 10% increase in the past 3 years.

When we actually submitted the offer, I used the 15% price increase over the asking price which is 2.2M. The buyer told me that she's willing to offer 2.35M and beyond. But she trusted me.
I talked to the seller's agent and told her that we would like to have a best and final offer if anyone beats our offer. The seller's agent told me: I know, you got it.

Yesterday, I talked to the seller's agent again. She confirmed that our offer was the top offer. The buyer really loves the house and suggested that we could increase our offer to 2.3M because the other buyers would like the house too. But I believed that we will have the chance to increase our offer if ours is beaten since the seller's agent was very certain about it.

Today, I contacted the agent again three hour before the deadline for submitting offers. She told me:" I have 4 offers on my desk and expect 3 more offers. But you guys are good. I will talk to you soon". I thought everything was under control.

How wrong was I!
We didn't get the house. The seller's agent told me that my 2.2M was the highest offer until the last offer (8th) came in and the seller instructed her not to approach me for the best and final offer.

I just can't tell you how stupid, stupid, stupid I felt. Not only I screwed up a nice commission, I also prevented the buyer from making her best effort.
I cried after I delivered the bad news to the buyer. How could I be so stupid? I've been sitting here for hours now. Stupid stupid me!

A follow-up for this story.

Today, I helped this wonderful lady purchased her house after more than a month agony. She ended up with a beautiful house in the best neighbourhood in the city. 4.2M, my biggest deal so far.

Genoveve
04-21-2022, 01:08 PM
Aurora please do not let the kid or kids come live with you. The situation you're describing would be really difficult and emotionally taxing for anyone, let alone someone who is struggling as much as you already are. I think the son living with you would lower your quality of life to possibly below ground. And I say this as someone who believes that when you marry someone with kids, the kids are now part of the deal. Step-parents still need limits just like real parents do.


I confess.

I was going to give L the ride of his life since pussy has been enjoying a recent self imposed lockdown.

But when his ass started talking about his son living with us full time, my pussy went drier than styrofoam.

And I pleased myself instead.

When I first read this I thought it said he started talking about it WHILE you were riding him and I was like WHAT. But that aside, assuming you have at least half custody of your daughter I would use that as my (I think completely legitimate) reason for not having the son move in with the three of you. Unless his son is younger than her, then it might not work.

indiegirl
04-21-2022, 01:26 PM
I worked on learning how to scrub in, gown, glove, and set up at my mom's house today before lab class starts in 3 weeks. I smell like a hospital (she got the soap and all I needed). I am SOOOO wishing I went sterile processing technician at this point. Just to scrub in and remain sterile for a surgery it can take up to 20 minutes for a surgical tech. WHAT THE FUCK. My arms hurt afterwards from scrubbing in lollll. But hey I'm gonna be buff during lab. I'll treat it like a workout. LOL.

whirlerz
04-21-2022, 02:03 PM
Thanks for telling ^

I'm kinda rethinking the sterile tech, it sounds like being on your feet a lot, exposure to diseases, pushing heavy carts?

Eh, nothing's ez, I also thought of court reporter or transcripsionist (sp)

indiegirl
04-21-2022, 02:20 PM
Thanks for telling ^

I'm kinda rethinking the sterile tech, it sounds like being on your feet a lot, exposure to diseases, pushing heavy carts?

Eh, nothing's ez, I also thought of court reporter or transcripsionist (sp)

Yep it's a job where you are on your feet all the time.

Omg I even looked up stenographer in the past. They get paid pretty well. I wonder how all that schooling works but it sounded fun. I remember one who was a higher up stenographer was making $$$,$$$. But that is rare I think?

ravenskyy
04-21-2022, 06:06 PM
I miss being in love with my husband. I'm so lost, stressed and depressed that I'm crying multiple times a week and it always involves him and my feelings towards him. I hate that I resent him. I hate that he has become this lazy, depressed, stupid loser. He is so smart and kind and funny, but that's not how he is anymore.

The person I married made me feel loved. He made me feel safe. He made me feel comfortable enough to be myself. I felt supported and like I was part of a team. We were inseparable. I never wanted to be away from him. He was my favorite person. I miss going on dates, going on road trips, listening to music together. When he would sleep, I used to cuddle up behind him, rub my face against his back and just smell him. I was so in love with the way his skin felt and smelled. And when we were depressed, we would take depression naps together and order sushi when we woke up lol it was the best form of therapy.

Now I can't stand him. I don't like looking at him or talking to him. I only hang out with him because of the kids and also because I don't have anyone else right now. I hate this! I don't want this! I don't want to feel this way! I don't want a divorce! I don't want someone else! I want the person who I fell in love with, to come back. This fucking hurts!

carmen_b
04-21-2022, 06:41 PM
^ Do you feel like you could re-spark it ?
If so show him the middle part !!

I think with depressed people you really need to get in their face so to speak. I say that as the person who lost a partner ( mostly because of how I mentally declined I think ). Actually ..... your partner could probably try some medication and get to the gym ect. to build a healthier life. I'm sure you have already thought of that though ? Sort of creating a step by step plan towards better health ?

You COULD let him know you are desperate to get the person he was back.
If he feels he can not offer it then maybe it would help you move on knowing you really tried ?

I have a personal bias since I know how it feels to be on the other side. :/

ravenskyy
04-21-2022, 07:04 PM
^ Do you feel like you could re-spark it ?
If so show him the middle part !!

I think with depressed people you really need to get in their face so to speak. I say that as the person who lost a partner ( mostly because of how I mentally declined I think ). Actually ..... your partner could probably try some medication and get to the gym ect. to build a healthier life. I'm sure you have already thought of that though ? Sort of creating a step by step plan towards better health ?

You COULD let him know you are desperate to get the person he was back.
If he feels he can not offer it then maybe it would help you move on knowing you really tried ?

I have a personal bias since I know how it feels to be on the other side. :/

The problem is that I've been trying. He's been getting worse since 2017 and he's doing nothing to get better. I literally cannot do anything but either accept this as my new life or leave. I'm just so angry. I have my own depression and mental illness to deal with, but I'm actually doing something about it.

I've been on antidepressants for a year now. He started doing therapy last year, but after 3 sessions, he stopped going. He skipped his last session and won't schedule another one. I'm just so angry and hurt. My friends keep bringing up couples therapy but I can't even get him to go to his own sessions. He has become a child. I'm literally doing everything for him like I would for my kids. We've talked about it and I've made it clear that this isn't what I want for my life and that he needs to try to get better. He agrees and then goes back to the bullshit behavior. I don't know if he will ever change and I'm so mad about it.

I literally watch my neighbors and friends live their happy lives and be in loving marriages. I'm empty and miserable. Being treated like shit constantly, when all I want to do is love and be loved. He says he loves me, but I constantly feel hurt and betrayed. If he loved me, wouldn't he try to get better? Idk anymore.

whirlerz
04-21-2022, 07:05 PM
Yep it's a job where you are on your feet all the time.

Omg I even looked up stenographer in the past. They get paid pretty well. I wonder how all that schooling works but it sounded fun. I remember one who was a higher up stenographer was making $$$,$$$. But that is rare I think?

You can make good $.

smeca
04-22-2022, 05:08 AM
I don't enjoy having 12year old to stay. I feel like a horrible broken woman but I just have my solitary quiet routine and I get irate at why everything is such an ordeal with kids and how they just don't listen.

miss.a.p1600
04-22-2022, 05:12 AM
Aurora please do not let the kid or kids come live with you. The situation you're describing would be really difficult and emotionally taxing for anyone, let alone someone who is struggling as much as you already are. I think the son living with you would lower your quality of life to possibly below ground. And I say this as someone who believes that when you marry someone with kids, the kids are now part of the deal. Step-parents still need limits just like real parents do.



When I first read this I thought it said he started talking about it WHILE you were riding him and I was like WHAT. But that aside, assuming you have at least half custody of your daughter I would use that as my (I think completely legitimate) reason for not having the son move in with the three of you. Unless his son is younger than her, then it might not work.


I’ll be completely honest. I want kid free times.

I don’t want to raise Berthas kids full time for the next decade whenever she feels like it’s inconvenient. That’s her job and nothing is wrong with her except she’s trifling as hell.

He has a daughter and a son. And for some reason he thinks it’s a good idea to split them up so his ex wife can have a break dealing with them both at the same time.

Um no!!!! Plenty of divorced single moms with multiple kids and they manage to figure it out without giving up custody.

If he insists on having more than 50% custody/being a full time dad I’ll have to leave because I don’t want to interfere with what he deems necessary for his kids and I don’t want to be forced into a role I have no resources for.

carmen_b
04-22-2022, 07:13 AM
^ I'm the same.
I would probably have to leave if J went for more than 50% custody even if it were an emergency type situation.
I think people might be like " oh that's terrible " but it's a huge lifestyle compromise already.
At times I already question my ability to keep doing it .
I feel guilty in my situation because I know that she is really well behaved.
Plus at that age ( 9 ) she doesn't need any active personal type care.
I know I'm compromising on lifestyle ( but then again my partner is more successful than my last one ).
Damn you just can never have it all haha.

I feel like overall as a household we all treat each other very well ( it isn't the dramatic shit show I've heard other step parents say ). I still take about 50% of the time when she is here and go off and do my own thing. It's my alone time away from my partner as well as the family time during these visits.
For us it works but it may not work for everyone.

I'm getting the vibe my partner might want me to transition to more family time which I would say is probably pretty fair after two years.

SnuffleUffleGrass
04-22-2022, 07:16 AM
I confess reading about the Johnny Depp-Amber Heard trial is bringing back bad memories of having dated BAD people in my past.

I'll just say that it is refreshing that someone can reach the apex of success in America and still end up getting involved with a shit-sucking sociopath. You can't win 'em all.....lol.....