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seashell
06-22-2022, 01:35 AM
Scrolled past a pic of my ex's hot friend, and got instantly turned on. Took like a tenth of a second. hnnngh!

miss.a.p1600
06-22-2022, 10:32 AM
I’d be delighted if L agreed to host porn online.

I don’t want to do it behind his back because it’s more freeing to do it openly.

Ready to unleash the inner hoe and receive lots of Ben Franklins. Ugh my plans may be foiled if he starts going all Uber conservative.

miss.a.p1600
06-23-2022, 05:24 AM
76 year old sugar daddy at 10oclock

Pulls up to Hoebucks in a drop top Benz convertible

Mami likes!……

indiegirl
06-23-2022, 07:20 PM
Unreliable people. Sure I've been sucking at reliability recently but I have a reason and it is not laziness. I'm so frustrated at my situation right now but that is life. Nothing is permanent. Everything in life is temporary, crossing my fingers for things to not get out of control, and about adjustment + flexibility. I have to figure out what is going on with my transfer for school on Monday, deal with another round of jury duty BS next week for this year, was late showing up 50 minutes of a drive to a hotel and the guy left despite him showing up 15 minutes early, etc. I told him it would be best to reschedule because he was the type of person not willing for 5 minutes late. I've been scrambling trying to get more appointments since then and I'm at zero.

I'm so incredibly disappointed in the school I was at and skeptical of the next. I just want to graduate from some place great that teaches well. Apparently that is too hard to ask for nowadays.

On a side note I know my repairman is terrified of dogs. Bless his soul, I went outside to throw some trash out in the recycling bin and my big boy dog came waltzing into the living room like it was no big deal because he uses his head and body to open doors. Scared the plumber to the point he shut the door when he was trying to give me the invoice. I felt so bad! I ran inside when I was unsure if the dogs got out and apologized profusely and put the doggos away. It's crazy how the fact he got attacked by a dog in the past scared him to this point. Kinda shows what the mind is capable of reaching based on past experiences.

miss.a.p1600
06-23-2022, 08:39 PM
I’d be delighted if L agreed to host porn online.

I don’t want to do it behind his back because it’s more freeing to do it openly.

Ready to unleash the inner hoe and receive lots of Ben Franklins. Ugh my plans may be foiled if he starts going all Uber conservative.

should have known it was a trick.

Now he claims he was “joking” and getting offended I went along with his fake idea.

Bitch!!!!

whirlerz
06-23-2022, 08:49 PM
Unreliable people. Sure I've been sucking at reliability recently but I have a reason and it is not laziness. I'm so frustrated at my situation right now but that is life. Nothing is permanent. Everything in life is temporary, crossing my fingers for things to not get out of control, and about adjustment + flexibility. I have to figure out what is going on with my transfer for school on Monday, deal with another round of jury duty BS next week for this year, was late showing up 50 minutes of a drive to a hotel and the guy left despite him showing up 15 minutes early, etc. I told him it would be best to reschedule because he was the type of person not willing for 5 minutes late. I've been scrambling trying to get more appointments since then and I'm at zero.

I'm so incredibly disappointed in the school I was at and skeptical of the next. I just want to graduate from some place great that teaches well. Apparently that is too hard to ask for nowadays.

On a side note I know my repairman is terrified of dogs. Bless his soul, I went outside to throw some trash out in the recycling bin and my big boy dog came waltzing into the living room like it was no big deal because he uses his head and body to open doors. Scared the plumber to the point he shut the door when he was trying to give me the invoice. I felt so bad! I ran inside when I was unsure if the dogs got out and apologized profusely and put the doggos away. It's crazy how the fact he got attacked by a dog in the past scared him to this point. Kinda shows what the mind is capable of reaching based on past experiences.

Aw..
Was it the black dog? I lubs him.

My mom likes dogs, but she was scared of bigger ones, grandma told me one jumped on her when she was a little girl.

whirlerz
06-23-2022, 08:59 PM
Well, I had a rough go cleaning after the roomie Pigs, & sweeping the large amount of mouse turds, not to mention being in pain from all of it, stressed etc.

So leaving out to the gas station, I backed into the upstairs guy's truck in our parking lot.
Ooop.

Didn't really do much, there's some marks on the front bumper, I'm not going say anything.

indiegirl
06-23-2022, 10:10 PM
Aw..
Was it the black dog? I lubs him.

My mom likes dogs, but she was scared of bigger ones, grandma told me one jumped on her when she was a little girl.

So true, some people have a fear of large dogs! It's hard to understand but heck, we all have fears and anxiety in life.
It was my big boy who I posted swimming at the dog beach recently. My lovey! Well they both are my love bugs haha.

xxxGothBarbie
06-24-2022, 05:01 AM
My crushes and I have been talking more I can't wait to see where this goes. Hopefully a full blown hook up. Feels so good to have guys I'm actually interested in on the sly since sorry ass bf has been lying to me again. He doesn't offer or make enough money for me to have to endure this bs much longer.

whirlerz
06-24-2022, 06:37 AM
So true, some people have a fear of large dogs! It's hard to understand but heck, we all have fears and anxiety in life.
It was my big boy who I posted swimming at the dog beach recently. My lovey! Well they both are my love bugs haha.

Dog Beach? Didn't know they had those, we have dog parks, or designated areas in parks

miss.a.p1600
06-24-2022, 09:01 AM
After L acting like he was going to create adult content, then claiming he was “joking”, then going all conservative and insecure, then getting offended after I agreed with HIS idea…….


I seriously want to do it anyways. With my own solo content.

His ass waited an entire YEAR to move his big slow ass into gear, wasting my fucking time and I am sick of his underperformance in life/finances as well as his annoying ass ex wife and numerous forced obligations/baggage I have to deal with.

If I can figure a way to get it done to where he will never find out…….

miss.a.p1600
06-24-2022, 09:03 AM
Ls mother in law said L’s deceased mom was a great woman who raised her sons right.

I wanted to correct her and say “yes she raised ONE right but coddled tf out of L. She failed L and did not properly raise him and now I am sitting here wasting my time doing her damn job. She was on her deathbed talking about how much of a big baby he was. Fuck that bitch!”

indiegirl
06-24-2022, 10:00 PM
Dog Beach? Didn't know they had those, we have dog parks, or designated areas in parks

Yep it's a designated area of the beach where dogs are allowed lol. I had no idea it was a problem many many years ago and brought my big boy to the beach totally not knowing it was forbidden. There's one dog beach in Long Beach and one in Huntington Beach in Cali.

seashell
06-26-2022, 01:50 AM
I confess all my recent meals have been cheat meals. No regrets.

lynn2009
06-26-2022, 08:34 AM
I'm tired of the tokenism in popular books this year. Can leisure reading please become leisurely again???

indiegirl
06-26-2022, 07:49 PM
I was so bored today that I actually forced myself to clean the house and do some summer cleaning since the people/businesses I need to talk to are closed on weekends. I'm so bored with my choices for entertainment today and I especially avoided the news. I'm worn out from the news. Tomorrow's schedule is gonna be a longggg hectic day for me.

Edit: I sound so bitter in this post bahaha

miss.a.p1600
06-26-2022, 08:27 PM
I think my partner is a Republican pro-lifer …. Ughhh!!! :banghead:

xxxGothBarbie
06-27-2022, 01:28 PM
Ever since Friday with all this abortion banning I have to admit that I haven't even been interested in talking to any of my crushes anymore.

I've also been in a really terrible mood and taking it out on the boyfriend which in my opinion he does deserve regardless if he's on board with me or not.

seashell
06-27-2022, 01:51 PM
I confess I can't stop thinking about moving back to Europe.

Aurora_Sunset
06-28-2022, 05:01 PM
I'm trying not to be a petty bitch, but I get really cranky and resentful when my husband comes home telling me about how cool his new job is. The place is seriously like a college campus, complete with an on-site bar, and his job is basically 75% fucking around and not that stressful when they do need him. Meanwhile, I spent hours cleaning up messes that could have and should have been done while I was gone in the first place, despite being sick today - and have asked him to do 2 things since he got home (ya know, since his job is so easy now). He said he would do them, but it's already 8pm. He's not going to.

moneybags
06-29-2022, 01:22 AM
Ever since Friday with all this abortion banning I have to admit that I haven't even been interested in talking to any of my crushes anymore.

I've also been in a really terrible mood and taking it out on the boyfriend which in my opinion he does deserve regardless if he's on board with me or not.

I went home and cried from work! This is so abusive! The fact like people act like this FUCKING okay to take my rights away! I hate everyone that allowed this to happen. This is supposed to be a free country!

That’s what the elite want. sexual energy is powerful energy. When you shut down people’s sexuality you can control them! This all about social control! Are people really this blind! Now I know who would throw me into the oven! Everyone I know! Not one person in my face to face life has SAID ANYTHING to console me. I’m furious!

miss.a.p1600
06-29-2022, 03:59 AM
I’ve been tempted to call my longtime Facebook guy friend.

My savage mind is telling me I need to line up a replacement but my logical mind is telling me to wait until I’m fully available.

He texted me the other week and I had to instantly delete in in case L looks at my chat history.

Im planning a solo trip to his hometown (ironically my work conference is there).

I hope L doesn’t bombard his way into my work trip (I’m going to wait until the last minute to tell him) and that my longtime Facebook friend shows up there.

Im just really over my partner thinking he is some sort of prize with his endless baggage that I’m having a hard time dealing with. If I have to coexist with a man (which ALL of them are annoying af as they bask in their male privilege) then the less baggage they have the better

xxxGothBarbie
06-29-2022, 08:12 PM
Ugh I think bf has been acting like a selfish angry baby today bc I'm denying him sex. Sorry asshole being a jerk to me Def won't help you .. idiot!

indiegirl
06-30-2022, 12:25 PM
I’m saying goodbye to my amazingly fast sports car today and getting a Jeep. I’ll miss that car and it’s speed but I want a 4 door jeep. It’s time!

smeca
07-01-2022, 05:37 AM
^ooh, we wanted a 4x4 thinking we'd need one and theyre cool! I have a very small very cute car. I am attached to it now though.

I confess as I consider whether to get on cam again, I want to be that horny woman home alone. Idk if you can really make money while just enjoying yourself lol, but I use my vibe like... too much. Why not make it productive time lol

carmen_b
07-01-2022, 09:40 AM
Indie : Are you getting a wrangler or something more comfy ? I ask because I've driven many jeep models and have to say that the wrangler is UNCOMFY on long trips ! Short trips , yes, but longer road trips BEWARE. If considering test drive it for MORE than an hour. :)
The more sturdy ones ( patriot of other models ) are more comfy for longer rides.

indiegirl
07-01-2022, 05:39 PM
Indie : Are you getting a wrangler or something more comfy ? I ask because I've driven many jeep models and have to say that the wrangler is UNCOMFY on long trips ! Short trips , yes, but longer road trips BEWARE. If considering test drive it for MORE than an hour. :)
The more sturdy ones ( patriot of other models ) are more comfy for longer rides.

Yes I got a wrangler sport! Its like sitting in a bus driver seat in my opinion haha. Not much bend to it just stiff. Definitely a car to bring a pillow to lay against or a donut pillow for long rides.

But hell it was worth the space :)!

Aurora_Sunset
07-01-2022, 10:25 PM
The spicy romance anime I've been binge-watching the last 2 days is absolute toxic trash, but I'm gonna keep watching it.

kimbe
07-02-2022, 12:21 AM
Ha, I confess I let T down tonight giving him a handjob when he was expecting a bj..
I had been feeling sick this afternoon and I felt like I could puke if I had something in my mouth. He’s too kind to complain but I could feel disappointment and I felt like he kind of lost the momentum..

indiegirl
07-02-2022, 04:55 AM
I'm embarrassed but life and all it's stressful problems was weighing on me last night while I was installing interior attachments to my jeep and I lost it hearing the nonstop fireworks. I shouted in the air things like "I've lived here for 6 years and without fail you let these fireworks off for every sports game randomly and every weekend up until 4th of July year round. Nobody wants to hear that shit on a random day! It sounds like WW3 and you have no problem doing it. I'm over this shit!" Whoever it was, I still haven't been able to find out which house it is that does this year round, completely stopped setting off their fireworks right after I yelled that in the air hahahaha. I don't care if I sounded or looked crazy, we are not at the Disneyland fireworks. We are at home.

Cutie101
07-02-2022, 01:41 PM
I'm embarrassed but life and all it's stressful problems was weighing on me last night while I was installing interior attachments to my jeep and I lost it hearing the nonstop fireworks. I shouted in the air things like "I've lived here for 6 years and without fail you let these fireworks off for every sports game randomly and every weekend up until 4th of July year round. Nobody wants to hear that shit on a random day! It sounds like WW3 and you have no problem doing it. I'm over this shit!" Whoever it was, I still haven't been able to find out which house it is that does this year round, completely stopped setting off their fireworks right after I yelled that in the air hahahaha. I don't care if I sounded or looked crazy, we are not at the Disneyland fireworks. We are at home.

I have imbeciles like this, in the village at the country side. They love throwing firecrackers on the street and they scare my dogs. Fucking pieces of shit. I swear their mothers dropped them in their head when they were little, otherwise I don't get why the fuck you enjoy that stupid sound. And police can't fucking do anything about it. And I can't do anything about it because they are fucking imbeciles and they can throw poisoned food over the fence and kill my dogs, because their IQ is below the sea level and that's how they seek revenge if I call the police, or pick up on them.

I have a plan for when I am going to move there, the idiots are sleeping at 6 AM in the morning, with windows opened. Guess who will pass by at that hour and throw firecrackers right under their windows. Wait and see...

Stupid people only function by their own logic.

seashell
07-03-2022, 12:48 AM
I confess I drive past my strip club at night, just to see how busy it is, and to convince myself it's too slow to work there anymore

miss.a.p1600
07-03-2022, 06:34 AM
I wish L would work on holidays. 2 days with him here with NO PLANS + smothering me is more than I care to deal with. Why tf are you taking off work on the holiday and you have no plans for said holiday.

Ughhh!!!!

LoveyD
07-03-2022, 07:27 AM
I confess I drive past my strip club at night, just to see how busy it is, and to convince myself it's too slow to work there anymore

Lol same, and from the looks of it I'm better off delivering groceries.

carmen_b
07-03-2022, 07:45 AM
^ Haha. I'm glad I'm not the only one who does an occasional club drive by !

I definitely think I'm mostly done.

indiegirl
07-03-2022, 08:40 AM
One customer yesterday paused and said "Thank you so much for looking like your photos" before entering. What is happening out there!?!?! He said I would not believe how nobody matches their photos nowadays. Providers need to look like their photos hahah obviously. He wanted to extend for another hour but OF COURSE I didn't bring my phone charger part I left behind and had to walk a long way to get a phone charger since he was an app pay method only. So I missed the extension. So mad at myself!

Aurora_Sunset
07-03-2022, 10:07 AM
I'm feeling okay today, but I'm milking my last few days of quarantine, making my husband buy all kinds of snacks and shit from the store. I do still have a ton of sinus drainage and get tired after very little exertion, so I mean, I'm still SICK. I don't necessarily need to be babied at this point, but I'm taking it lol

WendiStarr
07-03-2022, 03:02 PM
Someone taped an envelope to the front door that said,"Thanks!". When I opened it there was $20 in it. I don't know who did that. It could've been meant for BD for all I know but I kept the $20. I ripped the envelope up and put it in the dirty diaper pail, just in case. So far he hasn't said anything about the envelope so I'm not sure who it was for. I have been selling and donating some of my belongings lately to downsize so it could've been meant for me.

charlie61
07-04-2022, 09:57 AM
I'm trying to think of a non-awkward way to gift my partner a mini fridge so he can keep multiple beers downstairs, which would mean he wouldn't need to come upstairs for every additional drink. It gives me anxiety to hear him come up for more drinks - like, my brain can't help but keep track of the frequency and drink count, and my obsessive thoughts go into overdrive. I've mentioned this before on here (my anxiety around his health habits) - he doesn't binge drink, get drunk, or have hangovers, but he's technically a heavy drinker. He's one of those freaks who can eat a bunch of sugar, skip meals, and drink throughout the entire evening, get six hours of sleep, and wake up looking and feeling like he just got back from a spa vacation.

I definitely need to see a therapist about this, but in the meantime, I'm trying to think of practical ways to decrease my awareness of his drinking. I wish i could just stop caring so much. Basically, i need to figure out ways to decrease my anxiety, or this will ultimately destroy my relationship.

Any constructive thoughts or ideas are welcome! You ladies are so creative. ♡

charlie61
07-04-2022, 10:19 AM
We actually already have a mini fridge that was intended for one of our tenants, but our tenant doesn't use it. So maybe i can just ask my partner to put it in his office down there (that's where he hangs out to drink and watch TV).

I don't think there's any way around me straight up telling him why i want him to use it.

charlie61
07-04-2022, 10:49 AM
Sorry for so many posts...

I'm sure it's easy to read my posts and think, "just ditch the dude!" But you guys have to realize that I'm the problem, not him. His drinking habits have no objective impact on me or us. His drinking doesn't affect how he treats me, our finances, or his responsibilities.

Basically, if he were to stop drinking today, the only thing that would change is my anxiety. That's why I'm choosing to do the work on myself instead of looking for an exit plan.

smeca
07-04-2022, 12:30 PM
^Charlie I'm sure if you set up the fridge downstairs and say "I hear you having to walk alllll the way up and down the stairs just to get a drink, and we have this fridge sitting around, I thought you love to have your own fridge by your tv. Cool huh!" Idk a guy who wouldn't love a mini fridge just for beers.

charlie61
07-04-2022, 12:58 PM
^Charlie I'm sure if you set up the fridge downstairs and say "I hear you having to walk alllll the way up and down the stairs just to get a drink, and we have this fridge sitting around, I thought you love to have your own fridge by your tv. Cool huh!" Idk a guy who wouldn't love a mini fridge just for beers.

Thank you! Yes, I'm hoping it goes that smoothly. My fear is that he'll just say, "nah, i don't mind coming upstairs, " and that will call my bluff. I might try to sell it as a two birds/ one stone thing.

charlie61
07-04-2022, 03:57 PM
I know this sounds dumb, but i ordered some inositol to see if it might help with my obsessive thought patterns.

Cutie101
07-04-2022, 07:25 PM
Sorry for so many posts...

I'm sure it's easy to read my posts and think, "just ditch the dude!" But you guys have to realize that I'm the problem, not him. His drinking habits have no objective impact on me or us. His drinking doesn't affect how he treats me, our finances, or his responsibilities.

Basically, if he were to stop drinking today, the only thing that would change is my anxiety. That's why I'm choosing to do the work on myself instead of looking for an exit plan.

It's not about ditching the dude, but you definitely have reasons to worry about and I hear you. You're not crazy. If mine would drink so often, I'd be worried too and I'd have him give up on this. Any kind of habit like this will always get worse, at the slightest thing that will trigger it. Now it's a couple of beers every day, next year it's a couple of whiskey glasses and so on... maybe you'll have a hard time in your relationship and what he will do? He will take it slower? no, it will intesnify. Besides, men smell gross with alcohool breath.
My bf drinks once a month maybe, a beer or two and I still hate the breath. When he got heavy with sweets and junk food, I did have a serious discussion with him and he made the effort to change and pick healthier habits. We are two in the household, little addictions must be stopped before it gets worse. Either food, drink, gambling, sex, drugs, sugar.
I make huge batches of lemonade now, so we don't have soda in the house anymore. And when we buy, we only buy 2 cans, to drink that day at one meal only. He drinks lemonade like a horse and he likes it. It's the habit of drinking something and bringing the glass to the mouth, rather than what the glass contains.

And yes it does affect your relationship, as time as HIS actions have this impact on you, so you better both work on this, not just yourself. You are two in that household and when one's actions and habits negatively affect the partner, then you both must find a solution to this. And also affects the finances, that beer is nothing but expensive toilet trips. So, try to talk to him into enjoying less harmful beverages at least... anyway, work with him to fix this. It's not gonna get better.
Get him a mini fridge filled with vitamin water cans, ice tea cans, etc. Talk to him about it and talk about your concerns, set some rules on how often he should drink beer, etc.

charlie61
07-04-2022, 09:19 PM
It's not about ditching the dude, but you definitely have reasons to worry about and I hear you. You're not crazy. If mine would drink so often, I'd be worried too and I'd have him give up on this. Any kind of habit like this will always get worse, at the slightest thing that will trigger it. Now it's a couple of beers every day, next year it's a couple of whiskey glasses and so on... maybe you'll have a hard time in your relationship and what he will do? He will take it slower? no, it will intesnify. Besides, men smell gross with alcohool breath.
My bf drinks once a month maybe, a beer or two and I still hate the breath. When he got heavy with sweets and junk food, I did have a serious discussion with him and he made the effort to change and pick healthier habits. We are two in the household, little addictions must be stopped before it gets worse. Either food, drink, gambling, sex, drugs, sugar.
I make huge batches of lemonade now, so we don't have soda in the house anymore. And when we buy, we only buy 2 cans, to drink that day at one meal only. He drinks lemonade like a horse and he likes it. It's the habit of drinking something and bringing the glass to the mouth, rather than what the glass contains.

And yes it does affect your relationship, as time as HIS actions have this impact on you, so you better both work on this, not just yourself. You are two in that household and when one's actions and habits negatively affect the partner, then you both must find a solution to this. And also affects the finances, that beer is nothing but expensive toilet trips. So, try to talk to him into enjoying less harmful beverages at least... anyway, work with him to fix this. It's not gonna get better.
Get him a mini fridge filled with vitamin water cans, ice tea cans, etc. Talk to him about it and talk about your concerns, set some rules on how often he should drink beer, etc.

I appreciate your thoughts, thank you. ♡

He is definitely not an addict (You can be an addict who drinks heavily, sure, but you can also be a heavy drinker and not be an addict). He's not someone who is prone to addictions. He truly just enjoys a few beers to relax on the weekends. Heavy drinking refers to having more than 14 drinks a week, which sounds like a lot, but the reality is that if you drink 3-4 nights a week, and space 3-5 drinks out over the course of an evening (think, from 5p-12a), you're meeting the definition.

He and i don't share finances for groceries, so it truly does not affect me. And i think interfering can cause a lot of problems - it's mothering behavior, honestly, unless he invites me to interfere.

He drinks during times when we aren't hanging out together. And again, he never binge drinks, gets drunk, none of that.

I don't want to threadjack too much. I really do appreciate your thoughts. It probably sounds like I'm rationalizing, but that isn't it. I'm not going to mother him into being someone he's not. He's living his life, enjoying himself, and I'm the asshole here. I think that if he spontaneously stopped drinking, I'd probably just start hyperfixating on some other health behavior he has that isn't perfect. I'd rather work on myself.

I hope that makes sense...

charlie61
07-04-2022, 09:37 PM
Basically, his time, money, and health belong to him, not me. If i want to leave him, I'll leave him (i don't - he's wonderful, and we're wonderful together). But if I'm staying (i am), then I'm not going to be coaching or mothering him when it comes to what he wants to put into his body.

If his behaviors start affecting me in some way (objectively), then that's where it'd be appropriate for me to address those behaviors.

indiegirl
07-04-2022, 10:09 PM
Handled this holiday like a PTSD queen. I called 911 and got hung up on because it wasn't considered an emergency. Soooooo....fireworks used from mexico are illegal and accepted for today but me selling my ass here is illegal and punished? GO FIGURE.

My entire backyard is full of firework debris AGAIN. I get to clean THEIR mess up. I am fucking furious. Part of the debris landed on my head while I was panicking outside.

This is not my holiday. LOL.

miss.a.p1600
07-05-2022, 04:57 AM
Thank you! Yes, I'm hoping it goes that smoothly. My fear is that he'll just say, "nah, i don't mind coming upstairs, " and that will call my bluff. I might try to sell it as a two birds/ one stone thing.

Typical men. Lol!

When you try to offer them a solution to their inefficiency……….and they’d rather keep doing things inefficiently aka “their way”

Well, if all else fails just sweet talk him into doing it your more efficient way.

miss.a.p1600
07-05-2022, 05:02 AM
^police don’t do shit about illegal fireworks on holidays because they don’t have the manpower for it.

I thought about calling the laws on my neighbors who were blasting loud ass music all day and night for fucking 48hours straight and popping fireworks late into the night (well past the noise ordinance) but I realize police wouldn’t do shit about it.

I had to take thc to calm my nerves from endless loud random popping noises that could have been gunshots lol