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Better to be a thief than a whore. Strippers are typecasted by many as whores, which is demeaning. The vast majority don't approve of that behavior, so why do it just because stripping isn't paying off?
I really don't see how becoming a whore is justified over stealing. And you can argue about it, but at the end of my life when I look back at all the fucked up shit I've done, I'd rather that and go knowing I was some piece of shit's play-thing.
And that's aside from the fact that it's just a lazy and temporary solution to a long term problem.
Can I ask you a question? Why are you on this forum? If you see strippers in a such a negative light and disapprove so much, why are you here? To start shit? To stir up drama? Please go away. You'll be banned soon anyways though.
MarvelGirl
03-24-2010, 10:37 AM
Better to be a thief than a whore. Strippers are typecasted by many as whores, which is demeaning. The vast majority don't approve of that behavior, so why do it just because stripping isn't paying off?
I really don't see how becoming a whore is justified over stealing. And you can argue about it, but at the end of my life when I look back at all the fucked up shit I've done, I'd rather that and go knowing I was some piece of shit's play-thing.
And that's aside from the fact that it's just a lazy and temporary solution to a long term problem.
How does stealing money from hard working people make you better than a whore? I think your values are seriously fucked up.
Oh and stealing definitely isn't lazy at all, lol. Only really, super ambitious people steal things from people who worked for them. It's totally respectable and not a short term solution to a long term problem at all.
LMFAO
rubyredlipsss
03-24-2010, 11:21 AM
yeah cause anyone who actually works for their money is less superior than someone who steals it from someone who EARNED their money ::)
KS_Stevia
03-24-2010, 01:33 PM
Better to be a thief than a whore. Strippers are typecasted by many as whores, which is demeaning. The vast majority don't approve of that behavior, so why do it just because stripping isn't paying off?
I really don't see how becoming a whore is justified over stealing. And you can argue about it, but at the end of my life when I look back at all the fucked up shit I've done, I'd rather that and go knowing I was some piece of shit's play-thing.
And that's aside from the fact that it's just a lazy and temporary solution to a long term problem.
Whoring isn't easy, that's for sure. And how is panhandling, or stealing, any more of a longer-term solution?
Truth be told, stripping in fact IS, to an extent, becoming the "play-thing" of some piece of shit. Just, without the direct sexual acts, such as penetration. Sexual stimulation and enticement is done by both.
Not everyone thinks that prostitution is bad, or feels that their body is so fucking special and sacred that they can't put physical labor into making money. Construction workers use the strength of their body to make money right? So do...wrestlers, professional athletes, etc.
Get off your high horse. No one here wants to hear a MAN judge us, particularly one who likely needs to pay for our sexual services anyway.
Although there is a lot of anti-pros speak on this site, its due to the prostituting taking place in the strip club. If you ask the strippers on this site how they really feel, most of us are actually kindred spirits with prostitutes, to an extent.
So really, you've just insulted EVERYONE here. Maybe you should find another group to play with? ::)
SoStellar
03-24-2010, 06:16 PM
Better to be a thief than a whore. Strippers are typecasted by many as whores, which is demeaning. The vast majority don't approve of that behavior, so why do it just because stripping isn't paying off?
I really don't see how becoming a whore is justified over stealing. And you can argue about it, but at the end of my life when I look back at all the fucked up shit I've done, I'd rather that and go knowing I was some piece of shit's play-thing.
And that's aside from the fact that it's just a lazy and temporary solution to a long term problem.
Why the hell are you even on this site to begin with? Saying shit like this? Other than the fact it's complete disrespect and ignorance just to start.
I'm fairly speechless this jerk had the balls to even post this! >:(
eagle2
03-24-2010, 09:22 PM
Better to be a thief than a whore. Strippers are typecasted by many as whores, which is demeaning. The vast majority don't approve of that behavior, so why do it just because stripping isn't paying off?
I really don't see how becoming a whore is justified over stealing. And you can argue about it, but at the end of my life when I look back at all the fucked up shit I've done, I'd rather that and go knowing I was some piece of shit's play-thing.
And that's aside from the fact that it's just a lazy and temporary solution to a long term problem.
What an adult does to make money is not of your business, as long as she is not hurting you or anyone else. Prostitutes don't do either, as long as they're not stealing from customers or passing diseases. If two consensual adults wish to exchange money for sex, its none of your business and it shouldn't be anyone else's. I'm sure there are much better ways for government to spend our tax dollars than to pursue consensual adults changing money for sex.
malayataylor
03-24-2010, 10:08 PM
Better to be a thief than a whore. Strippers are typecasted by many as whores, which is demeaning. The vast majority don't approve of that behavior, so why do it just because stripping isn't paying off?
I really don't see how becoming a whore is justified over stealing. And you can argue about it, but at the end of my life when I look back at all the fucked up shit I've done, I'd rather that and go knowing I was some piece of shit's play-thing.
And that's aside from the fact that it's just a lazy and temporary solution to a long term problem.
^Go fuck yourself seriously. Ugh
Why is it that I'm just now reading this crazy ass thread?
Bambi: I am very disappointed in you that you'd stoop this low. I'm shocked! I've tried to help you as much as I can and even with the wealth of info I've given you.. this? You have my personal phone number. You can call me ANYTIME and I'll walk you through whatever you need help with on the escorting/camming end. You should NOT be panhandling. Cammming/dancing/escorting will bring you more much money than panhandling would PLUS you won't be making a fool of yourself.
You need to ditch the boyfriend. I know you love him or whatever BUT honestly he's only making the situation worse. I'd hate to have a man that couldn't provide for me when I'm down and out. I mean .. Damn girl..
I think the reason why it's not working for you is lack of business sense. You'd rather work for an agency and have them do all the "office work" correct? If that's the case you need spend your time looking for another agency than panhandling.
One last thing, I am 20 years old (will be 21 june). I have a daughter (YOu know this) and she'll be 2 in may. I have a successuful business as an independent escort/camgirl. I have a boyfriend but he's well off and dosen't live with me nor does he depend on me for anything. I'm pretty sure you can be just as successful and be able to find a man that'll love you enough to get his act together and get a REAL job. I wish you the best and really hope things turn around for you. I think you need to get your priorities in order. You have kids to take care girl!. Panhandling is not a good look!
The scariest part is you sound kinda excited about panhandling. Where's your dignity? Class? wow
malayataylor
03-24-2010, 10:27 PM
^^^ Escorting is not the same as being a "street walker". The authorities arrest street prostitutes, but escorts are usually left alone, unless the escort takes in-calls in a quiet residential neighborhood, and a neighbor - usually one with kids - figures out what is happening and feels that her kids are threatened by the creepy johns that visit all the time, etc.
Also, I assume that the escort customers go through some screening and there are protective measures that an escort takes.
Well said. Some still don't get it. Well fucking said. Smartest thing I've read coming from a guy here on sw.
Bambi: I am very disappointed in you that you'd stoop this low. I'm shocked! I've tried to help you as much as I can and even with the wealth of info I've given you.. this? You have my personal phone number. You can call me ANYTIME and I'll walk you through whatever you need help with on the escorting/camming end. You should NOT be panhandling. Cammming/dancing/escorting will bring you more much money than panhandling would PLUS you won't be making a fool of yourself.
This really says it all right here. This is a stripping website, there is lots of smart and experienced ladies that are willing to offer help and advice in how to make money, advice that actually WORKS. I seriously doubt a single one of them would offer panhandling or baking cookies as a suggestion because there are SO MANY BETTER OPTIONS out there. The fact that you would even consider those options means you are doing something seriously wrong in the other areas and you should be asking for advice on stripping, caming or even escorting instead of expecting people to just tell you what an awesome idea it is to go to the next town to beg for money.
BiggCaZ
03-25-2010, 08:53 AM
Can I ask you a question? Why are you on this forum? If you see strippers in a such a negative light and disapprove so much, why are you here? To start shit? To stir up drama? Please go away. You'll be banned soon anyways though.
I don't. I've worked along side strippers as a bouncer for nearly a year, and it gave me great respect for that line of business. Prostitution, however, I have none. I think you've completely misread my post and came to your own conclusions.
I said people generally see strippers in a negative light, which does not include me. Being a bouncer, it isn't like anyone looks at me as a stand up guy if they didn't know me, why would I stick my nose up at someone else?
SoStellar
03-25-2010, 09:36 AM
So everyone "misread" your post? Oh I see. Since you pissed alot of people off, now youre trying to make it sound better. You weren't even clear to begin with in your post. What the fuck are you doing getting into the adult industry anyway if you think stripping isn't somehow related to "whoring" oneself. I've seen extras in clubs(nasty), and it just depends on the girl. If she holds herself to higher standards or not. Like it or not there is a blurred line in this industry as far as "whoring" oneself goes.
BiggCaZ
03-25-2010, 09:37 AM
But I do feel the need to specify. When I say prostitution, I don't mean when done in clean/STD free and controlled environments/establishments where its legal like say the Bunny Ranch. Those establishments are legitimate, that though I wouldn't pay to go, I don't knock them.
What I mean is standing out on the corner or behind a strip club and jumping into strange folk's cars to suck and fuck for some quick cash. That shit ain't cool, and harbors a destructive atmosphere that easily spills over into people's personal lives, half the time even when they aren't involved.
BiggCaZ
03-25-2010, 09:41 AM
So everyone "misread" your post? Oh I see. Since you pissed alot of people off, now youre trying to make it sound better. You weren't even clear to begin with in your post. What the fuck are you doing getting into the adult industry anyway if you think stripping isn't somehow related to "whoring" oneself. I've seen extras in clubs(nasty), and it just depends on the girl. If she holds herself to higher standards or not. Like it or not there is a blurred line in this industry as far as "whoring" oneself goes.
No, I'll be completely honest with you. If I pissed everyone off, fine. I don't care. I said my piece and no one has to agree with me. I don't have to rationalize or justify things to approve of them the way you or anyone else does, but I've said my piece like you've said yours.
SoStellar
03-25-2010, 09:48 AM
But I do feel the need to specify. When I say prostitution, I don't mean when done in clean/STD free and controlled environments/establishments where its legal like say the Bunny Ranch. Those establishments are legitimate, that though I wouldn't pay to go, I don't knock them.
What I mean is standing out on the corner or behind a strip club and jumping into strange folk's cars to suck and fuck for some quick cash. That shit ain't cool, and harbors a destructive atmosphere that easily spills over into people's personal lives, half the time even when they aren't involved.
Happens all day everyday. EveryWHERE. It's life.
BiggCaZ
03-25-2010, 09:58 AM
Happens all day everyday. EveryWHERE. It's life.
And people get shot, killed, robbed and raped everyday too. Does that make it okay?
MarvelGirl
03-25-2010, 10:17 AM
Not one person on this thread suggested streetwalking or jumping into strangers cars. I have worked at the goddamn bunny ranch, they still call that "whoring" so you directly insulted me and said I was lower than a thief.
I have never worked a corner or done any type of extra in the club. I don't deserve the insults or the suggestions that I start robbing hardworking people in order to be a "better" person.
I think you mistakenly thought that you were going to be applauded for your nasty attitude. Strippers only hate whore IN the club, not adults who believe that we should have total control over our own bodies and be able to enter into cosensual sex for ANY damn reason we want.
Get the fuck over yourself.
KS_Stevia
03-25-2010, 10:27 AM
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What I mean is standing out on the corner or behind a strip club and jumping into strange folk's cars to suck and fuck for some quick cash. That shit ain't cool, and harbors a destructive atmosphere that easily spills over into people's personal lives, half the time even when they aren't involved.
No, its not cool. And the women who tend to do it are in dire circumstances..addicts, pimped out, mentally ill. Its not LAZY work by any means. Its high anxiety, high risk work.
Any woman that wants to be in the adult industry that has her wits about her can work in a club, film porn, work as a proper escort.
If you're jumping into cars off the street, you need help, but COMPASSIONATE help, not being shunned as sub-human. These women can be your sister, your daughter, maybe even your girlfriend. Then of course, the demand is there by the johns who are too cheap to pay full price for sexual services or tittilation. They know these girls are desperate, and they don't care. Who is marginalized more?
SoStellar
03-25-2010, 10:55 AM
And people get shot, killed, robbed and raped everyday too. Does that make it okay?
Shit this guy is a fucking idiot! What part of "its LIFE" dont you get? SHIT HAPPENS.
I really am wondering what the fuck is someone with such "moral fiber" doing bouncing in a STRIP CLUB.
KS, you got alll that exactly right!
BiggCaZ
03-25-2010, 02:54 PM
No, its not cool. And the women who tend to do it are in dire circumstances..addicts, pimped out, mentally ill. Its not LAZY work by any means. Its high anxiety, high risk work.
Any woman that wants to be in the adult industry that has her wits about her can work in a club, film porn, work as a proper escort.
If you're jumping into cars off the street, you need help, but COMPASSIONATE help, not being shunned as sub-human. These women can be your sister, your daughter, maybe even your girlfriend. Then of course, the demand is there by the johns who are too cheap to pay full price for sexual services or tittilation. They know these girls are desperate, and they don't care. Who is marginalized more?
I can understand where you're coming from at least.
Also, didn't say the work was lazy, I meant the conviction to do it. I thought that was implied, but I'm specifying. And I didn't call anyone sub human. I said if I'm gonna do wrong, I'd rather steal than sell my ass for cash.
Anyway, the johns are what make the job so high risk, my issue is why contribute to a situation that puts people in a position to come up dead, in jail, or missing, or diseased? Furthermore, if they're both doing wrong, there's no point in splitting hairs to see who's more in the wrong. It shouldn't be going down at all if only on the strength that it fucks up legitimate businesses.
And despite what says, there is a clear line between stripping, pornography, escort services, and street walking. Very, very clear and bold lines. People can choose to cross them if they want, but shouldn't expect everybody to be okay with it.
BiggCaZ
03-25-2010, 02:56 PM
Shit this guy is a fucking idiot! What part of "its LIFE" dont you get? SHIT HAPPENS.
I really am wondering what the fuck is someone with such "moral fiber" doing bouncing in a STRIP CLUB.
BOUNCER at a STRIP CLUB. not a PIMP for STREET WALKERS.
Victoryx0x0
03-25-2010, 03:15 PM
if you have kids and cant afford to feed them you should apply for food stamps and welfare.
if you have kids and cant afford to feed them you should apply for food stamps and welfare.
I believe she said she already receives government assistance through food stamps in another thread......
The real solution is, if you can't afford kids, you shouldn't have them in the first place! :-X
MissShyGirl
03-25-2010, 03:43 PM
^^ I don't think thats very nice to say.
I would drop kick and kill anyone who ever said that I should never have had my kiddo because I couldn't afford him. Where there is a will there is a way. My heart aches for the OP.
I saw a show on tv the other day about being pregnant and homeless. It seems like the economy is really rough in the US right now and everyone is struggling.
I hope you can figure something out bambi!
jack0177057
03-25-2010, 04:28 PM
^^^ I agree,... the next step with that kind of mentality is this - let's sterilize all people living at the poverty level, and make it a condition for receiving government assistance.
On the other hand,... welfare moms who don't work, but get boozed up or drugged up with some frequency, and have 5 kids from 5 different daddies - I'm not a big fan of that, either... but, not sure what the solution is...
Zinaida
03-25-2010, 04:38 PM
The real solution is, if you can't afford kids, you shouldn't have them in the first place! :-X
I agree completely.
I am not trying to start a huge argument or derail this thread, and I wholeheartedly agree that where there is a will, there is a way, and this is coming from a girl who grew up with sisters and a single mom!
But with that being said, it is not fair to bring a child into this world when you are not financially prepared. Not to say circumstances don't change, and things can happen, I understand, and I don't know her entire story, so I am not judging her. But, if you can't make money stripping or escorting, and are now resorting to panhandling, there is a major problem at play, and I don't believe somebody who has made it to this point can even take care of herself... much less another human.
I am not some privileged girl who has it good either, we have all gone through hardships and crisis in our lives, and I believe that is how many (not all) of us ended up in the strip club, because it was a last resort to make money. The main difference is though, that I am making it in life, and if I can, anybody can. Without going into details, I have been through as much, if not more obstacles in my life than the OP, and I am doing damn well now because instead of complaining about my problems, feeling sorry for myself, or asking for handouts on the streets, I get off my ass and work to change them, and I have successfully. I've said it once, and I'll say it again, when she wants to change her situation badly enough, she will. I did.
MissShyGirl
03-25-2010, 05:21 PM
Really peoples lives change. I mean I am in a loving committed relationship. My husband has a good job and I was making decent money featuring and modeling. I got pregnant right around when my husbands company did cutbacks and money was drying up dancing. We live in an expensive city and live fairly basic and money is damn tight for us. We can't give our kid a $1000 crib, hell we can't even buy him any crib right now because we don't have the extra cash for it. We're having a hard time giving him the basics before hes born. We never saw this coming when I got pregnant. This mean I should give my kid away? ::)
So what if shes struggling? Her kid has food to eat and shelter. She might be struggling and going to extreme measures, but arnt a lot of people these days? Shes doing her best to provide for her child and I think in the end thats all that matters. Her kids welfare comes first to her. Not everyone can hack it as an escort or a stripper. No matter how hard they try it just doesn't work for them. Shes been out trying to find 'real jobs'. Don't hang her as a mother for doing what she can.
jack0177057
03-25-2010, 06:52 PM
it is not fair to bring a child into this world when you are not financially prepared.
I think the OP was married when she had her children.
Also, what do you mean by cannot afford children - are you talking about just the essentials like food and shelter,... or are you talking about giving them a "decent" middle class life - their own room with private bathroom, designer clothes, laptops, cell phones, i-pods, piano lessons, sending them off to private college, etc.? Different people have different standards as to what it means to be able to "afford children". My ex-wife didn't think we could afford another child (we had 2 already) because she wanted a private elementary school education for each one ($9,000/yr for each child) .
Also, I think people who really cannot afford kids don't want to have them (who wants kids if you don't have food to eat nor shelter to live in?), but they get pregnant. Would you go as far as to require sterilization of poor people?... What about the welfare mom who already has 3 kids?... 4 kids? ...5 kids? What about homeless people?
Zinaida
03-25-2010, 07:03 PM
a "decent" middle class life - their own room with private bathroom, designer clothes, laptops, cell phones, i-pods, piano lessons, sending them off to private college, etc.?
I couldn't call that decent middle class. ::)
Zinaida
03-25-2010, 07:06 PM
I know too many girls who scream their heads off about abortion being sooooo wrong yet they have no problem raising a child while bouncing from friend's house to friend's house sleeping on couches, feeding their kid/s nothing but ramen noodles because it's all they can afford, not be able to buy the kids even the most basic clothing, leaving their children with godknowswhoever they found to watch them for cheap/nothing while they go to work... Disgusting.
Reminds me of the 'speech' Sidney Poitier gives his father in Guess Who's Coming to Dinner where his father is yelling at him giving him the whole 'I had to put myself through such-and-such so you could go to school, I had to give up such-and-such so you could have food...' and Sidney snaps and is like: "Damn straight you did, you chose to bring me into this world it was your duty to have to go through all of that to provide for me..." Btw I am totally paraphrasing.
Get Hot Lingerie
03-25-2010, 07:07 PM
I have been reading this thread off and on without commenting. I will now throw my two cents in. LOL
Bambi, I think RubyRed has a point with the bipolar thing. I am bipolar also. First and foremost, go get checked for this. Once I got my mind working more efficiently, my life is turning out a lot better.
Secondly, if you want to go to college, you can get student loans and grants to cover expenses while you are going to school. I would start out with just a certificate in something. If you want to be sure to get a good job, go for a career that is usually reserved for men. Those types of careers will hire you based on just being a woman to even out their numbers.
Third, if your mom is willing to invest in this business for you. Why not ask her for the money for your license to strip?
I realize that you are having a tough time but you have to realize that you came to the wrong place for sympathy. Most of these woman have been through hell and back in their childhood and early adult years also. Myself included. You have to stop looking at the past and look for a future.
malayataylor
03-25-2010, 08:39 PM
But with that being said, it is not fair to bring a child into this world when you are not financially prepared. Not to say circumstances don't change, and things can happen, I understand, and I don't know her entire story, so I am not judging her. But, if you can't make money stripping or escorting, and are now resorting to panhandling, there is a major problem at play, and I don't believe somebody who has made it to this point can even take care of herself... much less another human.
I'm guilty of this one. I wasn't prepared when my daughter arrived. I was BROKE as hell! I had maybe $1600 to my name. My family didn't know I was preggers because I just didn't tell them. I went through labor and all BY MYSELF! I got a room at an extended stay for two months then moved to room in a really nice house and started camming. I was out of that room into my own place 7 months later. I was still driving that beat up sentra though.. four months later I bought my chrystler and the rest is history. This was what I accomplished camming... not even escorting. So it's NOT about bringing a child into this world unprepared (Trust me it happens all the time), It's about WANTING the best and doing what you can to make sure you and your child dosen't go without.
Bambi is gorgeous and she has soo much potential. As an escort I make no less than 2800 a week seeing just 3 clients it's weird reading about an escort pandhandling... It's like wah?? huh? :( She just needs some guidance. It's either that or plain ol laziness.
Zinaida
03-25-2010, 08:49 PM
^^^Just tell me you have more money in the bank now than what you spent on your Chrysler and I'll kiss your feet.
Miss_McKenna
03-25-2010, 08:51 PM
^^
Respect!
malayataylor
03-25-2010, 08:54 PM
^^^Just tell me you have more money in the bank now than what you spent on your Chrysler and I'll kiss your feet.
I can scan a bank statement if you'd like :).
Just FYI: .. You do know they're not that expensive anymore. Everyone and their mama has them now. You can get an 06 for 9k. I paid that car off months ago.
I don't need anyone to kiss my feet. What I make as an escort is chump change compared to the girls that make 2k a day seeing 8-10 clients a day. My point is she shouldn't be pandhandling or selling cookies. ::)
Zinaida
03-25-2010, 10:08 PM
I didn't know they were that inexpensive! And yeah I'd certainly hope you would have more than 9k in the bank then.
I know soooo many girls who have BMWs and flaunt it as their status sybmol, meanwhile they don't even have a grand in the bank.
I knew one girl who spent $18k on a car, it was all the money she had in the bank. No emergency fund, no college fund started for her kid... Not wise IMO.
malayataylor
03-26-2010, 05:53 AM
I didn't know they were that inexpensive! And yeah I'd certainly hope you would have more than 9k in the bank then.
I know soooo many girls who have BMWs and flaunt it as their status sybmol, meanwhile they don't even have a grand in the bank.
I knew one girl who spent $18k on a car, it was all the money she had in the bank. No emergency fund, no college fund started for her kid... Not wise IMO.
Yup look on autotrader for a used chrysler. You can get a damn good deal for 9-11k. No stupid girl here hun. I bought a chrysler because it LOOKS expensive lol. They've gone down big time.
I have a friend that drives a mercades but she's broke as hell. It's always on "e". That's just stupidity and irresponsibility. I'm far from irresponsible.
I have a daughter to feed. I don't have time to be hiding cars in other people's garages trying to run from the repo man. However, I will be getting my mercades within the next few month. I'll be sure to post pics here on sw.
update: I spoke to Bambi everyone. She's fine. She's vacationing in Vegas with fam.
Xiomara
03-26-2010, 08:00 AM
I dont care if she feels sorry for herself, is asking for handouts, is confused,lost,angry,sad or what. She is taking care of her baby and really thats the only thing that matters. She just needs some guidance I think and just one step in the right direction.
and FYI....Its not that easy to get grants and loans for school. I work and cant even get grants or loans. I get turned down all the time. Imagine how it is for her with no job. Ive tried everything, which is why I decided to go to school for EMT, because I can pay that $2000 tuition in cash, and have enough under my belt to get loans and grants. So tellin her to just walk into the college office and get a loan as easy as u pick up a gallon of milk at the store is bull.
Give the girl a break and just offer advice. if she doesnt take it, oh well. We've all been there. Now its her turn. She'll be alright.
And I really dont think anybody should ever judge anybodys mothering, unless she plain just dont give a damn about her child. People (without kids) are so fast to judge someone else for not giving their kid the best. Id like to see them try.And maybe she had her kid when times were better for her. MAYBE just MAYBE she plan her kid.That DOES happen. Me, twice. People just piss me off, let me stop now before I say too much.
DesuvsDeath
03-26-2010, 08:08 AM
im not a fan of panhandlers. there are 2 that always stake out this intersection that i drive through. whenever i go to the gym i eat a banana, and i always have to stop at the light at that intersection and they just stare at me like i am the devil because i am eating my banana in my car. motherfuckers, i should not be made to feel guilty for eating a banana in the privacy of my own car. which reminds me that i need to retint my windows. and go to the gym this afternoon.
How DARE you eat a banana in your car!? Bitch!
Uhhh srsly, though... I vote getting a job over sitting on the street hoping someone will come buy and just give you money.
But maybe that's just me.
rubyredlipsss
03-26-2010, 10:59 AM
two girls, myself and get hot have both openly said we're bipolar...so we know what the ups and downs are like. i'm not a pharmaceutical rep or promoting the use of medication but when you're bipolar and you've said you have mixed mania like me, it sounds like you have one of the more severe forms of bipolar and need to be on medication. this is not an mental illness for many that can simply be controlled through good psychotherapy. it's on the level with schizophrenia, you really should be on meds and i know you've said you're going through a difficult time and can't afford them.
it may be difficult to admit you're going through a manic phase right now (and you mentioned you're a little depressed, symptom of being in a mixed manic state) but from your posts it really does sound like it. i have no idea what you look like but everyone's mentioned you're too pretty to be out panhandling and that you could be making money camming, escorting or stripping and have the advice and tools on here to find to make decent money. but if you're in a manic or depressed state, it makes it really hard to function. i'm going to kind of come to your defense here because i do think you're manic which is why you're coming up with what others think are crazy ideas...because i'm sorry they are but i think it's your illness that's making it difficult for you to manage and create business.
however, if you were more stable running your business and creating your own income would be much higher and not feel as difficult. i know what it's like working while unstable and in a manic phase it's crazy the thoughts you may end up thinking or the feelings of aggression or wanting to snap so you're resorting to things that you feel won't bring up these triggers, such as baking. once again, you may stick to your guns and say you're feeling somewhat stable but what and how you even write kind of indicates otherwise. and i'm not here to knock you, because i'm not any different. this illness is not something that should be ignored and i guarantee you can and will be making a lot more money when you're feeling better.
i hope everyone on the board also keeps in mind that if babibambi is in fact going through either a manic or depressed state to be a little more empathetic because unless you're bipolar as well it's hard to understand why it's not so easy to just get out there and do the work you're used to doing. but please don't take offense bambi when others call your ideas out as a waste of time...because i don't think you're thinking clearly. trust me, the things i think of doing for whatever reason while i'm in either state (basically unstable) would come off as very strange to many here.
OJenni!
03-26-2010, 12:02 PM
I have been homeless and on the street before. When I was 12 years old my mother got evicted from our apartment. I remember needing a calculator for school that year so I went out on the street and panhandled for one. Took me about 3 hours for enough money for a scientific calculator.
That said, I do not give spare change to homeless people. Why? Because I feel there is more "bang for the buck" if you give the money to organizations that help the homeless. Your 2 or 3 dollars that you give to the person on the street might buy them some crappy food or a can of beer. Frankly I would rather see the person getting a healthy meal then some McD's, that way it provides more meaningful energy to their body. I lived on the street and know for fact that many of these people DO buy food for themselves with the change you give them, but is it healthy food? Well that is another question within itself.
However if you save your $2-$3 and say maybe donate $30 at the end of the month to United Way (or some organization like that) you can know that people are being fed according the to government food guide, they get 2 portions of veggies, a portion of protein, and some grains along with something healthy to drink (milk, water, fruit juice). Also that money goes in to programs that will help these people get out of poverty.
babybambi, you may want to consider going to the social assistance office and seeing how they can help you. It may just be that they give you a food allowance (I think this is called food stamps down there) and a drug card. But these are all small things that can help you.
If social assistance refuses to help you, you may have other options. Go to a United Way organization and they may be able to put you in touch with a social assistance advocate of some sort (someone who fights for your right to social assistance when the government has refused you)
Zinaida
03-26-2010, 12:39 PM
I have a friend that drives a mercades but she's broke as hell. It's always on "e". That's just stupidity and irresponsibility. I'm far from irresponsible.
So common!! People, if you can't afford it it's not a bragging right! People go broke trying to look rich.
Mr Hyde
03-26-2010, 01:19 PM
Better to be a thief than a whore. Strippers are typecasted by many as whores, which is demeaning. The vast majority don't approve of that behavior, so why do it just because stripping isn't paying off?
I really don't see how becoming a whore is justified over stealing. And you can argue about it, but at the end of my life when I look back at all the fucked up shit I've done, I'd rather that and go knowing I was some piece of shit's play-thing.
And that's aside from the fact that it's just a lazy and temporary solution to a long term problem.
You're an idiot.
If I get a ban over that, it was worth it.