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WestCoast101
04-08-2010, 07:06 PM
Nice try, you are back-pedaling...


Backpedaling? except for Ks_Stevia not too many disagreeing, and anyways you and Ks as I recall are like secret midnight lovers meeting for moonlight cocktails and conversation, so of course she will cover for you.

WestCoast101
04-08-2010, 07:09 PM
"he has to be respectful, a friend, and a partner who knows how to love ~and fuck really good

yes, I can see that on the Hallmark Card, it sounds so romantic. LOL

WestCoast101
04-08-2010, 07:29 PM
I'm currenty dating a gentleman who is self employed and respects me as a person. He is old fashion and goes to church twice a month. Holds the doors open for me and has never let me pay for anything. I would say he is upper middle class and makes over 100G. He likes to have fun and when we go out it's always something that the two of us enjoy doing. He doesn't understand why I dance and doesn't like it but knows if he suggests that I quit he gets dropped. I'm at work right now and it's dead.

my impression is that this "respectful" gentleman is producing little if any "chemistry" for you, and your threat to "drop him" merely affirms this.

WestCoast101
04-08-2010, 07:54 PM
I fell head over heels in love with a 24 year old virgin. Your theory and his virginity are now nullified. }:D

Of course there are exceptions, and he might even be an exception for you if you were for example to compare him to the previous 5 guys you fell "head over over heels' with.

dec7
04-08-2010, 07:58 PM
Just curious westcoast for someone so judgmental and seemingly has strippers figured out.... Other then random make-out sessions with some of the girls, how many have you actually dated/had a relationship with? I'm guessing zero, but please enlighten me. I know I'd be full of myself if I was able to spend the majority of my money at strip clubs and have naked women kiss me after I paid them /sarcasm off

MissMynxx
04-09-2010, 12:42 PM
I'm gonna try to answer the OP's question. I'm pretty sure he asked what kind of men we THINK the general population of strippers go for, not who we specifically go for or whether or not we fit the generalization. So - on that note.

Judging by what I've seen in the different clubs I've worked in, I don't know that any ONE of your stereotypes fit. The MAJORITY of girls in my club are either single, or date boys with the following characteristics:

-insecure (loves bragging to his friends that she's a stripper, may even bring friends into the club, but then jealously makes her sit with him all night; or if he's not ITC, he'll call her repeatedly and fuck up her money, etc.)
-immature (jail time for retarded things, refusing to step up and help with kids, can't hold a steady job, etc.)

KS_Stevia is right - the majority of these girls are in the 20's and have NO idea what to really look for in a relationship. Even the older girls ... well, some of them just didn't "grow up" and are too busy living a party lifestyle.

On StripperWeb, you're going to find much more intelligent women. I doubt a many of us are dating/seeing/married to a man who fits YOUR stereotypes. I'm certainly not.

KS_Stevia
04-09-2010, 01:32 PM
LMAO I'm talking big dollars.

I'm pretty sure ALL non-lesbian women want a financially secure man with a hard dick. ::)

KS_Stevia
04-09-2010, 01:35 PM
Backpedaling? except for Ks_Stevia not too many disagreeing, and anyways you and Ks as I recall are like secret midnight lovers meeting for moonlight cocktails and conversation, so of course she will cover for you.

I don't completely disagree with your points, they have a great deal of validity. I'm constantly observing people behavior influenced by reptile brain. And I've totally fallen for the guy which you speak of, the "non-monogamous" male. Others are flat out bashing you, but I've been respectful. No need to call me out.

And yoda and I don't agree on everything, but we agree on a lot of things. I wouldn't cover for yoda for no reason. This is all just theoretical discourse.

laurcon
04-09-2010, 01:49 PM
man, i knew the OP was headed for big trouble with this question.

Look the simple answer is most dancers (no different than hot women in general) are looking for the hard dick and hard cash type guy, its not much more complicated than that.


I disagree. I didn't think there was any point in telling you this though. I'm pretty sure I'm not going to change your mind on what you think women want. Just don't assume that people agree with and support this when its not even worth anyone's time.

WestCoast101
04-09-2010, 11:14 PM
Just curious westcoast for someone so judgmental and seemingly has strippers figured out.... Other then random make-out sessions with some of the girls, how many have you actually dated/had a relationship with? I'm guessing zero, but please enlighten me. I know I'd be full of myself if I was able to spend the majority of my money at strip clubs and have naked women kiss me after I paid them /sarcasm off

Dated? Relationships? LOL Are you crazy? For one thing, its a community property state. I will skip the other 9 reasons. Now if you're asking if the opportunity has been presented to me, yes, dozens of times, but its not why I go to strip clubs. Now I realize perhaps yourself and many other customers believe clubs are a dating service of some type, well actually they are not. I think of clubs as offering uncomplilcated no strings attached limited duration interaction with a large variety of women, some quite beautiful. When I am in a club, its nearly always dayshift, and half the time its probably just pay-for-talk,. meaning its really about socializing, having a drink, some laughs and so forth. While some might be called "club friends" I don't think of them as "real life" friends, nor do I solicit them for something outside the club. They make money from me, sometimes lots of it, and since they are usually happy, I am happy. I am sure there are many other customers like me, they just don't get discussed too much in this forum.

mayajaya
04-10-2010, 05:13 AM
my impression is that this "respectful" gentleman is producing little if any "chemistry" for you, and your threat to "drop him" merely affirms this.

I didn't say there wasn't any chemistry, I've been attracted to him since i first saw him. We definetly have chemestry. I'm just being cautious and not letting him control when and how I work. We have so much fun together, last night we went to the Met game and had a blast although it was very cold and windy it was the most enjoyable night at a game. He had to pick his kids up this morning otherwise I would still be at his place.

JayATee
04-12-2010, 08:24 PM
I know this question has been touched upon in other threads. I also know that every dancer is different. I am asking for a GENERALIZATION of what type(s) of guy MOST (not ALL) dancer's date WHILE (not before or after) they are in the dancing biz.

Obviously, he has to be open-minded, not too religious, jealous or possessive. Are there any other personality or physical traits that are prevalent in the guys dancers' date?

My theory involves four character types (the artist/entertainer, the swinger/sexual adventurer, the bad boy and the freeloader), but I've been told I'm wrong about this.

There is no generalization, that's why we're called individuals. Why are you even trying?

johnnytwoshoes
04-13-2010, 04:24 AM
Please don't take this the wrong way...but I expect most dancers have boyfriends or are married to blue collar types willing to put up with a lot of crap.

If there are any who are involved with engineers, lawyers, or doctors, I would be surprised.

chris91
04-13-2010, 04:52 AM
Please don't take this the wrong way...but I expect most dancers have boyfriends or are married to blue collar types willing to put up with a lot of crap.

If there are any who are involved with engineers, lawyers, or doctors, I would be surprised.

I'm sure you would. Uninformed people are often surprised to learn that reality doesn't match up with their ridiculous assumptions.


I swear, sometimes reading this forum makes me want to punch a dude in the throat.

princessjas
04-13-2010, 05:37 AM
You're making it sound like we have to take the bottom feeders. Personally, being a dancer has made me MUCH pickier. Only the newbie dancers that barely last a few months (and a few lifers who are sad and pathetic) take those low-life's you mentioned, and it isn't related to them dancing, they are only dancing BECAUSE of their other problems/addictions/idiocies.

My personal type, is and always has been, funny, goofy, self-confident, and hella smart. I like men who have their shit together, make a comfortable living and treat me well. Losers need not apply....neither should anyone I met while dacing. I'll admit I also like a whole lotta kink thrown in there. I know, I know, BIIG suprise! ;D This was before, during and after dancing....not related to it at all. While I wouldn't say I'm into swinging, I'm certainly fond of open relationships. Strangely, I feel about a 1000X's more secure that way....and having permission to find a gf is AWESOME! ;)

princessjas
04-13-2010, 05:44 AM
Please don't take this the wrong way...but I expect most dancers have boyfriends or are married to blue collar types willing to put up with a lot of crap.

If there are any who are involved with engineers, lawyers, or doctors, I would be surprised.

The ignorance in this thread is astounding!! >:(

I never fucking dated a blue collar guy!! Are you kidding me!?!?? Drs...check. Lawyers...check. IT professionals...check. And my own personal kryptonite....middle aged buisnessmen, financial analysts in particular...check.

I just left my hubby, moved out of our 4000+ sq ft McMansion, sold my Beemer and just recovered my 3ct solitare and diamond encrusted wedding band last weekend. Yep, a poor blue collar guy there. ::)

Stop being an ignorant moron.

sxcbbw
04-13-2010, 06:29 AM
Need I point out that some of the dancers here are qualified or about to be qualified in those fields? Well, obviously. Consider it done.

You don't seem to be very clued up on dancers, Johnny.

My partner is certainly not blue collar, and has a very low bullshit tolerance.

rubyredlipsss
04-13-2010, 04:39 PM
and with statements like these, it's like we all have boyfriends...some girls aren't even straight and some choose to stay single (like me). unfortunately, between dancing and my own personal standards, i have remained single...i avoid those stereotypes like the black plague...when i was younger i made those mistakes of dating those stereotypes and i wasn't even dancing at that time. which only further reiterates the points made that women in their early 20's generally date those stereotypes regardless of their job, whether their job is being a student or a stripper. bashing head against the wall now and exiting this thread.

Everyman
04-13-2010, 05:16 PM
Seriously?
Are we actually back to the "Women THINK they want a faithful man, but really they don't. As a man, I know this to be true.

Not gonna dip my toes into this thread (I think you can apply certain stereotypes to women, but not by profession), except to note that I see real and significant parallels between what you say here, and the "men SAY they don't like fake boobs, but they really do" in the fake boobs thread.

sxcbbw
04-13-2010, 05:23 PM
^I think it's because men/women don't like boobs/men they KNOW are fake/cheating, but they often just don't know.

Kellydancer
04-13-2010, 07:11 PM
Please don't take this the wrong way...but I expect most dancers have boyfriends or are married to blue collar types willing to put up with a lot of crap.

If there are any who are involved with engineers, lawyers, or doctors, I would be surprised.

I've dated both blue collar and white collar and don't get why this is even being brought up. It means nothing. I wouldn't put up with crap from anyone. By "blue collar" if you mean fat slobs, no I'd never date one of those guys. In fact I love my men nerdy, whether blue or white collar means nothing to me as long as I don't have to support him.

velvet
04-13-2010, 08:51 PM
married for 10 years to a Senior IT professional. Who is on the fast track to really succeed big in this company. I have also been retired for a year this week.
He's also, when at home, a pierced/tatted techno dj type. Surfer and gamer too.

JayATee
04-14-2010, 11:23 AM
Please don't take this the wrong way...but I expect most dancers have boyfriends or are married to blue collar types willing to put up with a lot of crap.

If there are any who are involved with engineers, lawyers, or doctors, I would be surprised.

Seriously?! Fucking seriously. Did you REALLY just say this??

KS_Stevia
04-14-2010, 11:40 AM
What's wrong with blue collar types? A skilled technician can make more money and have better job security than an office professional, depending on the trade.

Besides, exotic dancing would be categorized as a blue-collar type of job. My contractor makes a shit load more money than my attorney, actually. Just an example. Blue collar guys tend to make excellent customers as well, particularly the ones that own their own businesses. They deal in cash only, and work flexible hours so they can come in during slow shift times and spend. Plus they tend to take their workers out and buy them dances to after they finish up jobs.

Many blue-collar jobs also tend to be more resistant to the recession than professional gigs. The guy who just did some plumbing repairs in my house is making more money than my financial advisor. And he's pretty happy not having to sit behind a desk all day.

The guys I dated during my time as a stripper were all white collar, responsible guys. Only since I've retired have I dated a blue-collar type guy, and that person is "blue collar" by choice.

jack0177057
04-14-2010, 02:42 PM
^^^ I think it was the way he said it - "blue collar types willing to put up with a lot of crap." He was probably referring to the low-skilled unmotivated "blue collar" workers working for minimum wage and with low self-esteem issues.

The "blue-collar" workers that you describe are a different breed - they are self-employed entrepeneurial types with a lot of ambition and drive. I refer to them as "small business owners" or "entrepeneurs", instead of "blue collar workers". I've known and represented several millionaires who accumulated their wealth on "blue collar" trades/businesses, like janitorial services, construction, hairstyling salons, autoshops, restaurants, etc.

Also, I don't think a dancer is "blue collar", unless she is a prostitute, which is a blue collar trade. I think the non-prostitute dancer falls into the category of entertainment/artist/performer.

jennsweet
04-14-2010, 03:19 PM
so who here is dating a white collar 100K+ a year man?????

i'm blue collar all day:o)

Athenathefabulous
04-14-2010, 03:25 PM
Please don't take this the wrong way...but I expect most dancers have boyfriends or are married to blue collar types willing to put up with a lot of crap.

If there are any who are involved with engineers, lawyers, or doctors, I would be surprised.

Just out of curiousity, what is the right way to take this?

Also keep in mind a lot of US are white collar or white collar to be. I have a bachelor of science in mathematics, so as soon as im ready to join the 'real world' then i will be 'white collar.'

so, blow me. i make more money than a lot of 'white collar' people. and i am just as educated and 'book smart' as a lot of white collar people. and i have more 'street smarts' than a lot of white collar folk.

what the hell are your credentials that make you feel so much better than us? /:O




also, the guy i am seeing has a degree in marketing and is considering getting an MBA. and, i cant believe you forgot about the sugar daddy boyfriend stereotype, since we are using generalizations here::).

pinupgurl2k6
04-14-2010, 03:31 PM
I was in a relationship for three years with a physician, married the guy and that was a mistake. I did not meet my ex in a club, I met him at a coffee shop.

I don't understand where your misconception came from, that women in my profession only date blue collar guys? If you have not noticed the nerd post on here, I suggest you read it. Many physicians, lawyers are huge nerds. They did not reach that achieved status because they were super cool at the campus kegger. My ex and I had comic book collecting and many other dork things in common. Why be with someone you don't enjoy, for what money? I don't think so and yes sex is a major thing it is in any relationship. Who wants to be in a relationship when the sex is terrible?

Keep stereotyping and see how well that works, if one put any sophisticated thought into this argument they would notice, it is utterly flawed. I can't believe anyone would idolize physicians like they are some sort of demi-god and de-humanize dancers like they are all idiots and can't carry on an intellectual conversation.

I guess that is why men in general pay us for our time, nobody will put up with their crap for free.:O

xoAnnaBanana
04-14-2010, 03:31 PM
My serious boyfriend of 2 years is getting his master's degree in computer engineering at a top ranked university.

And I will be going to that same school this year, for my Doctor of Pharmacy degree.

P.S. We both had over 4.0 GPA's in high school, hell-- he was valedictorian.

KS_Stevia
04-14-2010, 03:36 PM
I think it was the way he said it - "blue collar types willing to put up with a lot of crap." He was probably referring to the low-skilled unmotivated "blue collar" workers working for minimum wage and with low self-esteem issues.

Haha, that would be my recent ex. But I wasn't stripping when I met him. I put up with a lot less BS from guys when I've been dancing, at least history has shown.




Also, I don't think a dancer is "blue collar", unless she is a prostitute, which is a blue collar trade. I think the non-prostitute dancer falls into the category of entertainment/artist/performer.

Yes, perhaps. But that's not a "collared" industry at all, haha.

jack0177057
04-14-2010, 04:43 PM
Many physicians, lawyers are huge nerds. They did not reach that achieved status because they were super cool at the campus kegger.

I'm offended by that generalization! I've always been "super cool".

MissMynxx
04-14-2010, 07:17 PM
Please don't take this the wrong way...but I expect most dancers have boyfriends or are married to blue collar types willing to put up with a lot of crap.

If there are any who are involved with engineers, lawyers, or doctors, I would be surprised.

*facepalm* You were ASKING for the beating you're taking dude. You don't say things like that to women of the caliber that frequents these forums. You just DON'T.

Now, that being said - I'm going to approach this the SAME way I did in my last post. You said that you "expect most dancers have boyfriend or are married to blue collar types willing to put up with a lot of crap." Strictly generalizing - you are both wrong and right. Like I said last time, you won't find many girls on these boards who fit into that category. Again, I certainly don't.

However, "most" strippers certainly seem to date/marry blue collar men, with the exception that these guys really don't seem to put up with much BS - rather, they seem fond of causing it.

Most of the dancers I know from in my club are dating boys who work in a fast food restaurant, etc, who are not going to school, do heavy drugs, and generally cause a lot of drama. I can't even begin to count the number of times I've overheard fights girls have on their cells in the DR with their boyfriends/husbands because he's an insecure deadbeat "blue collar" type with no prospects in life, and she's an immature party girl who doesn't know what she's worth yet.

The girls HERE, not so much. From what I've seen, the majority of us have successful men in our lives who are supportive of what we do, are happily single and focusing on their careers without the added stress of a relationship, or are well on their way to knowing who they are and what kind of treatment they are worthy of in a relationship and are graduating from dating these types of men.

Watch how you word things, brother.

WestCoast101
04-14-2010, 11:34 PM
I was going to try to launch a partial defense of JohnnyTwoShoes, because he at least initially used the word "most" but its hopeless, and his situation reminds me of that old joke, about the blind guy in the bar..


A blind man enters a lesbian bar by mistake. He finds his way to a bar stool and orders a drink. After sitting there for a while, he yells to
the bartender in a loud voice, "Hey bartender, you wanna hear a dumb blonde joke?"!!!

The bar immediately falls deathly quiet. In a very deep, husky voice, the woman next to him says, "Before you tell that joke, sir, I think it is just fair, given that you are blind, that you should know five things...

1 - The bartender is a blonde woman.

2 - The bouncer is a blonde woman.

3 - The woman sitting next to me is blonde and is a professional weightlifter.

4 - The lady to your right is a blonde and is a professional wrestler, and

5 - I'm a 6 foot, 200 lb. blonde woman with a PhD., a black belt in karate and a very bad attitude! Now think about it seriously, Mister. Do you still want to tell that joke?"

The blind man thinks for a second, shakes his head, and says;

"Naaaah . . . not if I'm gonna have to explain it five times."

mediocrity
04-15-2010, 02:27 PM
My requirements, personally:

Has to be of equal or superior intelligence than I.
Has to be of equal or superior attractiveness than I.
Has to be extremely outgoing, I hate shyness.
Has to adventurous, I travel on a whim.
Has to be good in bed, and adventurous.
Has to have at least two vices.
Can not use hard drugs, and marijuana use must be very light for me to tolerate it.
Has to be taller than me and in shape.
Has to be into blood and guts and horror movies oh my.

...I don't find that too unreasonable.

Oh and my five main relationships has the following occupations, in no particular order:

Hedge Fund Trader
Graphic Designer
Porn Actor / Roofing Company Owner
Mechanic
Professional Surfer

Everyman
04-15-2010, 02:45 PM
Most of the dancers I know from in my club are dating boys who work in a fast food restaurant, etc, who are not going to school, do heavy drugs, and generally cause a lot of drama. I can't even begin to count the number of times I've overheard fights girls have on their cells in the DR with their boyfriends/husbands because he's an insecure deadbeat "blue collar" type with no prospects in life, and she's an immature party girl who doesn't know what she's worth yet.

My god, do you know my most recent fave? This describes her to a T.

pinupgurl2k6
04-19-2010, 12:41 AM
Define super cool


I'm offended by that generalization! I've always been "super cool".

Jessie_tinydancer
04-19-2010, 03:09 AM
I've never noticed a consistent "type". Dancers I have worked with have all been with different types. Although married... if I was single I really don't think I have a "type". I just either have a connection with someone or I don't. What he does for a living really doesn't matter as long as he does something and is not lazy. But I like affection, lots of attention and basically to be worshipped hahahha.

Kellydancer
04-19-2010, 11:51 AM
I've never noticed a consistent "type". Dancers I have worked with have all been with different types. Although married... if I was single I really don't think I have a "type". I just either have a connection with someone or I don't. What he does for a living really doesn't matter as long as he does something and is not lazy. But I like affection, lots of attention and basically to be worshipped hahahha.

I think the whole job issue is way overblown by many people. I've never dated guys based on what they do for a living. Granted, in a perfect world I'd rather date a guy with a good job, than one with a so-so job, but this isn't a perfect world (especially now with the economy). I am 39 so finding a guy who shares my views is hard enough (never married, no kid, non obese guys) without adding additional limitations.

jack0177057
04-19-2010, 07:07 PM
Define super cool

It can't be defined -- It's the way I make people feel when they're around me.
I emanate coolness and positive energy. 8)

rubyredlipsss
04-19-2010, 08:48 PM
you're right, you ARE super cool, the sunglasses smiley is proof enough.

JayATee
04-21-2010, 04:48 PM
It can't be defined -- It's the way I make people feel when they're around me.
I emanate coolness and positive energy. 8)

I just threw up in my mouth a little... excuse me. I need to rinse with Listerine.

:rotfl:

jack0177057
04-21-2010, 05:10 PM
^ Its so cute how you try to provoke me. We haven't argued recently... I miss it too.

JayATee
04-22-2010, 06:53 AM
^ LoL, no it's cute that you think Im trying to provoke you. ::)

jack0177057
04-22-2010, 07:30 AM
^ So, you think I'm cute... Yes, I am... Handsome, too.

Lucifera
04-22-2010, 07:54 AM
Mine? Apparently men who think stripping is only okay when you're single, if at all. Good times.

jack0177057
04-22-2010, 03:14 PM
^ So he wants you to quit dancing after you two get married? Do you have a date set yet?

PRETTYdangerous
04-22-2010, 03:27 PM
I have to say... The men posting here are totally rude and out of line.

I think meeting so many types of men led me into finding what I'm really attracted to. Before I started dancing I wasn't too specific and I would pretty much give anyone a try. I think about it now and I wouldn't touch 99% of the guys I was with before.

I have no problem admitting that I'm as shallow as a kiddy pool. My type is anyone heavily tattooed. The typical "Bad Boy" I suppose.

jack0177057
04-22-2010, 04:48 PM
^ Its interesting that you would pick the "bad boy" after "meeting so many types of men".

I'm not judging - I consider myself a "bad boy" (I grew up in a dangerous NYC neighborhood, was a member of several mild gangs in my teens, a raucus frat boy in college and now I'm in the business of intimidating people - not the mob, the legal profession.)

Why this choice of men?

rubyredlipsss
04-22-2010, 05:29 PM
perhaps it's the looks of what some would consider a 'bad boy' not an actual bad guy. stop trying to advertise yourself of all the assumed stereotypes you've mentioned. none of us are interested.

princessjas
04-22-2010, 06:00 PM
I have to say... The men posting here are totally rude and out of line.

I think meeting so many types of men led me into finding what I'm really attracted to. Before I started dancing I wasn't too specific and I would pretty much give anyone a try. I think about it now and I wouldn't touch 99% of the guys I was with before.

I have no problem admitting that I'm as shallow as a kiddy pool. My type is anyone heavily tattooed. The typical "Bad Boy" I suppose.

I don't get the bad boy thing, but I can totally relate to discovering what you really want in a guy. I became hella picky after dancing for several years. Not that I dislike men, I just know EXACTLY what I like now and I don't waste my time on something that won't work out.