View Full Version : Dancers' BF Types
Golden_Rule
04-22-2010, 06:38 PM
Dancers are in a unique category -- some men can't deal with having a dancer GF,... yet other men glorify dancers and would give up a limb to date one - it's more like asking what kind of guys models and actresses are into.
Unique category? Truly?
To my way of thinking dancers are just like anyone else, or ought to be. Both the good and the bad of it...
Folks are folks. Those that think otherwise either are likely carrying around mistaken presumptions or sticks up their bums. Which it likely be depending on who, what, why, etc.
jack0177057
04-22-2010, 07:09 PM
perhaps it's the looks of what some would consider a 'bad boy' not an actual bad guy. stop trying to advertise yourself of all the assumed stereotypes you've mentioned. none of us are interested.
I'm advertising? I mention that I have a LTR in many of my posts... I'm already taken, babe. I admit that there are a few women here whom I would love to date if I was available (and some that I PM with on a daily basis), but don't flatter yourself... you're not on that list. ::)
kandie_kitten
04-22-2010, 07:51 PM
^ Its interesting that you would pick the "bad boy" after "meeting so many types of men".
I'm not judging - I consider myself a "bad boy" (I grew up in a dangerous NYC neighborhood, was a member of several mild gangs in my teens, a raucus frat boy in college and now I'm in the business of intimidating people - not the mob, the legal profession.)
Why this choice of men?
I'm sorry, I spit out my soda on this one. I can just picture you prowling the mean streets, all dangerous like, you crazy frat boy you. ::)
A good rule of thumb, if you refer to yourself as a "bad boy"...you're not one.
I think a lot of people would be surprised how boring a stripper's relationship can be. No crazy orgies, no scarred glaring boyfriend drumming a guitar.
My boyfriend of three years has a college degree, has a great job, and is just sweet. He brings me flowers for no reason, surprises me with tickets to my hockey team games, kills bugs for me when I'm cowering from a giant spider and then holds me until I calm down, and when I've worked a long day, makes dinner for me.
He's very good looking, and works out constantly, but he's not a bad boy, or a freeloader, or an adventurer or whatever the hell the other bullshit is.
He's just a normal, hardworking guy who is very good to me.
We're just another couple, who actually cares about one another.
Oh, and for all this "I secretly want him to spread his seed"...I never got wetter then when he told me he was getting a vasectomy ;D
rubyredlipsss
04-22-2010, 08:01 PM
I'm advertising? I mention that I have a LTR in many of my posts... I'm already taken, babe. I admit that there are a few women here whom I would love to date if I was available (and some that I PM with on a daily basis), but don't flatter yourself... you're not on that list. ::)
weeeelll, excuuuuse me for not following your posts and knowing that information. you take things so seriously, i'm just being snarky. and thank fucking god i'm not on that list.
JayATee
04-22-2010, 09:04 PM
^ Its interesting that you would pick the "bad boy" after "meeting so many types of men".
I'm not judging - I consider myself a "bad boy" (I grew up in a dangerous NYC neighborhood, was a member of several mild gangs in my teens, a raucus frat boy in college and now I'm in the business of intimidating people - not the mob, the legal profession.)
Why this choice of men?
People look for common interests and understandings. I could never date anything but a "bad boy" (I use the term loosely bc it's utter bull shit) because no one else would ever be able to handle me. When people understand themselves and know what they want it makes the whole game easier.
However, my husband was the total opposite of my "usual" type, and we were married for almost 10 yrs. Kinda blows your whole Dancer BF types generalization attempt straight to fucking hell doesn't it....
KS_Stevia
04-22-2010, 09:17 PM
I think a lot of people would be surprised how boring a stripper's relationship can be. No crazy orgies, no scarred glaring boyfriend drumming a guitar.
That describes my last relationship. }:D :D 8)
WestCoast101
04-22-2010, 10:35 PM
I'm sorry, I spit out my soda on this one. I can just picture you prowling the mean streets, all dangerous like, you crazy frat boy you. ::)
A good rule of thumb, if you refer to yourself as a "bad boy"...you're not one.
I think a lot of people would be surprised how boring a stripper's relationship can be. No crazy orgies, no scarred glaring boyfriend drumming a guitar.
My boyfriend of three years has a college degree, has a great job, and is just sweet. He brings me flowers for no reason, surprises me with tickets to my hockey team games, kills bugs for me when I'm cowering from a giant spider and then holds me until I calm down, and when I've worked a long day, makes dinner for me.
He's very good looking, and works out constantly, but he's not a bad boy, or a freeloader, or an adventurer or whatever the hell the other bullshit is.
He's just a normal, hardworking guy who is very good to me.
We're just another couple, who actually cares about one another.
Oh, and for all this "I secretly want him to spread his seed"...I never got wetter then when he told me he was getting a vasectomy ;D
Sounds like you're bored to death. You going to dump him tonite or wait until Monday?
rubyredlipsss
04-22-2010, 10:44 PM
dude, seriously? get out of the pink side already...this can go out to all the blues, with a few exceptions and they know who they are ;)
sxcbbw
04-22-2010, 11:01 PM
Sounds like you're bored to death. You going to dump him tonite or wait until Monday?
Her relationship sounds fantastic. Get back to skydiving or pissing contests or whatever exciting things you feel are important in a man.
wanderlust08
04-22-2010, 11:24 PM
this whole thing made me LOL.
but to answer the OP's question, I always have a specific "type" I go for, but it has little to do with their profession.
My preferred type of guy has dark hair and dark eyes, is super skinny, smokes cigarettes, goes to work, works his ass off, comes home, has intelligent conversation about any and everything with me, plays video games and watches Aqua Teen and South Park with me, has crazy passionate monkey sex with me, then goes to sleep, wakes up, and repeats the whole process again.
That's the perfect guy. Hot, hardworking, faithful, smart, loves Adult Swim, and borderline-nympho.
The end.
laurcon
04-23-2010, 01:22 AM
I'm not judging - I consider myself a "bad boy" (I grew up in a dangerous NYC neighborhood, was a member of several mild gangs in my teens, a raucus frat boy in college and now I'm in the business of intimidating people - not the mob, the legal profession.)
LMAO dude. You spend mucho time posting on an internet forum full of women, the majority of whom can't stand you. You are not now, nor were you ever, in any way shape or form, a "bad boy." I don't care at all how many mild teen gangs you were in, or how raucous you got in college, you just make me fucking Laugh My Ass Off :rotfl:
kandie_kitten
04-23-2010, 03:30 AM
Sounds like you're bored to death. You going to dump him tonite or wait until Monday?
Yes, it is boring not dating a cheating bastard. I guess I'll just have to resign myself to a life of dullness.
Seriously? What the hell is your deal?
I'm sorry my relationship doesn't fit into this weird fantasy men have of stripper's lives, but it makes me happy and I wouldn't change a thing.
jack0177057
04-23-2010, 07:44 AM
I'm sorry, I spit out my soda on this one. I can just picture you prowling the mean streets, all dangerous like, you crazy frat boy you. ::)
A good rule of thumb, if you refer to yourself as a "bad boy"...you're not one.
If that's your definition of "bad boy", then you're right... I don't "prowl the mean streets". We don't have any "mean streets" in my zip code.
jack0177057
04-23-2010, 07:50 AM
People look for common interests and understandings. I could never date anything but a "bad boy" (I use the term loosely bc it's utter bull shit) because no one else would ever be able to handle me. When people understand themselves and know what they want it makes the whole game easier.
However, my husband was the total opposite of my "usual" type, and we were married for almost 10 yrs. Kinda blows your whole Dancer BF types generalization attempt straight to fucking hell doesn't it....
Yeah... But, I didn't start this thread to prove I was right. I don't mind being proved wrong.
rubyredlipsss
04-23-2010, 10:24 AM
If that's your definition of "bad boy", then you're right... I don't "prowl the mean streets". We don't have any "mean streets" in my zip code.
okay so you just proved that you aren't a bad boy but said you were /:O. will you give up already? you're not even making sense now
jack0177057
04-23-2010, 10:40 AM
^ All I proved is that I don't "prowl the mean streets". I don't consider that "bad boy", I consider that "loser".
Why do you care so much, Ruby?
BTW - You have nice lips and I'm beginning to enjoy your snarky and contentious attitude... but you're still a ways from getting on my list.
rubyredlipsss
04-23-2010, 10:58 AM
^ Its interesting that you would pick the "bad boy" after "meeting so many types of men".
I'm not judging - I consider myself a "bad boy" (I grew up in a dangerous NYC neighborhood, was a member of several mild gangs in my teens, a raucus frat boy in college and now I'm in the business of intimidating people - not the mob, the legal profession.)
Why this choice of men?
there i put in bold where you said you do consider yourself a bad boy. and for the love of please don't considering putting me on your list. i really don't want to be.
jack0177057
04-23-2010, 01:19 PM
^ And yet here you are... calling my attention. If I bother you so much,... just ignore me.
But, if you want to be friends, let's find something else to argue about,... this is getting boring.
Athenathefabulous
04-23-2010, 01:28 PM
I'm advertising? I mention that I have a LTR in many of my posts... I'm already taken, babe. I admit that there are a few women here whom I would love to date if I was available (and some that I PM with on a daily basis), but don't flatter yourself... you're not on that list. ::)
whoa there, homeskillet. Im assuming you are kidding, but really? What world do you live in where hot women on an internet forum where you are a PL are in line just waiting to date your 'bad boy' ass as soon as your woman leaves you? I think you have it backwards, brotha.
Once in a while i think that you have a functioning brain in between your ears, Jack. I wasnt even bothered or in entire disagreement with your OP. Then you go and post something like this. Oy vey. :no:
mediocrity
04-23-2010, 01:41 PM
^ All I proved is that I don't "prowl the mean streets". I don't consider that "bad boy", I consider that "loser".
Why do you care so much, Ruby?
BTW - You have nice lips and I'm beginning to enjoy your snarky and contentious attitude... but you're still a ways from getting on my list.
Whoa, hold up there smalls. Let's cool down the internet posturing.
rubyredlipsss
04-23-2010, 02:04 PM
seriously, i think a few here could attest that i'm far far out of your league. but thanks for the consideration anyway ::)
oh, and don't flatter yourself thinking i care. you're just merely entertainment for me
jack0177057
04-23-2010, 02:07 PM
whoa there, homeskillet. Im assuming you are kidding, but really? What world do you live in where hot women on an internet forum where you are a PL are in line just waiting to date your 'bad boy' ass as soon as your woman leaves you? I think you have it backwards, brotha.
Once in a while i think that you have a functioning brain in between your ears, Jack. I wasnt even bothered or in entire disagreement with your OP. Then you go and post something like this. Oy vey. :no:
You guys take me too seriously... I have made a couple of really good friends on this forum... that's all I meant.
Look, I may say goofy things, but I am not looking for a GF on this site. I'm here just to break the monotony of a very long day in the office.
mediocrity
04-23-2010, 02:09 PM
You guys take me too seriously... I have made a couple of really good friends on this forum... that's all I meant.
Ok Jack. You weren't trying to jerk her chain at all with that wording now were you? ::)
Athenathefabulous
04-23-2010, 02:12 PM
You guys take me too seriously... I have made a couple of really good friends on this forum... that's all I meant.
Take you seriously? There are a few people on this forum that i take seriously, but dont flatter yourself... you're not on that list ::).
jack0177057
04-23-2010, 02:16 PM
you're just merely entertainment for me
You were entertainment to me, too,... but now I'm bored.
jack0177057
04-23-2010, 02:17 PM
Take you seriously? There are a few people on this forum that i take seriously, but dont flatter yourself... you're not on that list ::).
I'm deeply hurt.
Athenathefabulous
04-23-2010, 02:21 PM
I'm deeply hurt.
it builds character ;).
rubyredlipsss
04-23-2010, 02:23 PM
that's all you got jack :laughing: come on now, you can do better than that can't you?
chris91
04-23-2010, 03:50 PM
Yeah... But, I didn't start this thread to prove I was right.
Of course you did. do you think everyone here is a moron? Really, you should have just called the thread "I'm a jackass."
mediocrity
04-23-2010, 03:54 PM
^^ There's no winning. If it had come out that most dancers prefer white collar guys, everyone would have screamed GOLDIGGERS! If we like blue collar boys or "bad" boys, they all scream YA'LL HAVE ISSUES I KNEW IT!
Lose/lose situation.
mediocrity
04-23-2010, 03:56 PM
I'm deeply hurt.
I believe the expression is butthurt.
rubyredlipsss
04-23-2010, 04:00 PM
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
jack0177057
04-23-2010, 04:02 PM
Of course you did. do you think everyone here is a moron? Really, you should have just called the thread "I'm a jackass."
It was a sincere question because in some threads dancers complain about BF that can't deal with dating a dancer.
My question was --
I know this question has been touched upon in other threads. I also know that every dancer is different. I am asking for a GENERALIZATION of what type(s) of guy MOST (not ALL) dancer's date WHILE (not before or after) they are in the dancing biz.
Obviously, he has to be open-minded, not too religious, jealous or possessive. Are there any other personality or physical traits that are prevalent in the guys dancers' date?
My theory involves four character types (the artist/entertainer, the swinger/sexual adventurer, the bad boy and the freeloader), but I've been told I'm wrong about this.
I should have left the last paragraph out -- It wasn't intended to offend... (Or maybe I was bored that day and wanted to start some controversy. -- Its too long ago, I can't remember.) It should have been presented as a survey.
mediocrity
04-23-2010, 04:05 PM
^^ My answer is, don't ask me I married a manager.
No in all actuality, those of us in said profession are cool with anyone who treats us right, and has confidence. That is, the smart ones. The dumb ones or the ones with pimps I can't vouch for.
jack0177057
04-23-2010, 04:11 PM
So you did go through with it? Congrats!
BTW - I went back and removed the "offensive" part of my question.
It should have been presented as a survey with a lot of different categories. Maybe, after the storm calms, I'll repost it as a survey.
JayATee
04-23-2010, 04:20 PM
Yeah... But, I didn't start this thread to prove I was right. I don't mind being proved wrong.
LMFAO! So, have you realized that generalizations about a particular group of ppl is a ridiculous endeavor? Cool! Good for you! Now if we can get the stereotypes to dissappear we'll be all good!
mediocrity
04-23-2010, 04:27 PM
So you did go through with it? Congrats!
BTW - I went back and removed the "offensive" part of my question.
It should have been presented as a survey with a lot of different categories. Maybe, after the storm calms, I'll repost it as a survey.
Of course I did, he didn't buy me a ring and move to Austin to have a tea party with me.
And the revision, I believe, is better. We just get tired of being lumped into a category like we're not humans or something.
jack0177057
04-23-2010, 04:40 PM
LMFAO! So, have you realized that generalizations about a particular group of ppl is a ridiculous endeavor? Cool! Good for you! Now if we can get the stereotypes to dissappear we'll be all good!
And the revision, I believe, is better. We just get tired of being lumped into a category like we're not humans or something.
Got it... Consider me reformed.
chris91
04-23-2010, 05:55 PM
So you did go through with it? Congrats!
BTW - I went back and removed the "offensive" part of my question.
It should have been presented as a survey with a lot of different categories. Maybe, after the storm calms, I'll repost it as a survey.
Jack, the whole thing is offensive. How can you not get that? You can't put people into neat little categories based on their jobs. Our jobs have nothing to do with the kind of guys we like. It's like asking "I wonder what guys named joe like to eat for breakfast." It makes no sense.
princessjas
04-23-2010, 06:28 PM
And the revision, I believe, is better. We just get tired of being lumped into a category like we're not humans or something.
This.
Jack, the whole thing is offensive. How can you not get that? You can't put people into neat little categories based on their jobs. Our jobs have nothing to do with the kind of guys we like. It's like asking "I wonder what guys named joe like to eat for breakfast." It makes no sense.
And this.
Srsly, there are some moron/druggie girls that rarely last longer than a few months and THOSE girls you MAY be able to catagorize a bit...but it has nothing to do with them being a dancer, it has to do with their other lifestyle issues, and yes, I'll admit being a dancer is something that a lot of girls with issues give a try...I mean what other job can a druggie do that makes decent money and allows them to stay fucked-up while at work? You aren't going to find many of these girls on this forum tho...they make most of us want to stab something....like their face. ;)
JayATee
04-23-2010, 06:42 PM
Got it... Consider me reformed.
No you're not. You've been here forever, yet you still posed this ridiculous questions because you do not and will not ever understand that strippers are just people.
AngelKing
04-23-2010, 08:55 PM
I can't believe some of the stuff I just read on this thread. For me the underlying disappointment is in how much people define one another by their jobs. I get stereotyped all the time because of my work and it gets pretty old pretty quick. I hate it when people ask each other at parties 'what they do' as a means of triangulating one another's existence. I wish people would stop thinking about each other in terms of what they do for employment in general.
rubyredlipsss
04-23-2010, 09:34 PM
finally a man with a well-worded, intelligent response. i was starting to lose faith in a lot of the blues here and you my man have restored a small fragment back. THANK YOU!
mediocrity
04-24-2010, 02:53 AM
I have issues.
Issues with being AWESOME.
jasmine22
04-24-2010, 03:04 AM
I typically date men who have a life. Someone who doesn't post constantly on a forum trying to see how he can score with a stripper.
Hopper
04-24-2010, 04:08 AM
Most strippers I have met seemed like they were not of a distinct "stripper type* but merely regular types of girls (various types) who were okay with doing that line of work, probably for a relatively short time to make some fast money. Seems to me a girl doesn't have to be a certain type to strip. I wouldn't imagine their BFs would be any different to other girl's BFs. Girls who strip professionally longer term may be a different story but I have not met many of them.
Jack - many of your questions are to do with dating dancers and you often talk about your stripper fetish. Don't waste your time looking for angles - just proposition all the strippers you can and chances are one will say yes. I don't understand the point though.
princessjas
04-24-2010, 05:11 AM
Most strippers I have met seemed like they were not of a distinct "stripper type* but merely regular types of girls (various types) who were okay with doing that line of work, probably for a relatively short time to make some fast money. Seems to me a girl doesn't have to be a certain type to strip. I wouldn't imagine their BFs would be any different to other girl's BFs. Girls who strip professionally longer term may be a different story but I have not met many of them.
Jack - many of your questions are to do with dating dancers and you often talk about your stripper fetish. Don't waste your time looking for angles - just proposition all the strippers you can and chances are one will say yes. I don't understand the point though.
Yeah, different story. We tend to be more professional and even less likely to fit the typical stripper stereotype. The morons that many of the guys on here wanna assume we act like burn-out in a matter of months...or a few years at best.
Pretty_Penny
04-24-2010, 09:45 AM
this thread makes me lol
Hopper
04-25-2010, 01:18 AM
^ I don't see what's funny about it.
Kellydancer
04-25-2010, 01:14 PM
This.
And this.
Srsly, there are some moron/druggie girls that rarely last longer than a few months and THOSE girls you MAY be able to catagorize a bit...but it has nothing to do with them being a dancer, it has to do with their other lifestyle issues, and yes, I'll admit being a dancer is something that a lot of girls with issues give a try...I mean what other job can a druggie do that makes decent money and allows them to stay fucked-up while at work? You aren't going to find many of these girls on this forum tho...they make most of us want to stab something....like their face. ;)
I have a friend with serious issues who became a dancer. In hindsight I probably shouldn't have gotten her into dancing but she begged me to help her so I did.
Her: Molested by her father, stepfather killed by her mother, brother committed suicide, had a baby with her mother's exboyfriend, had an affair with her boyfriend's son in law. Actually, it would take paragraphs to explain her because she was a Jerry Springer Show waiting to happen.
Me: Normal parents still married after 41 years, brother in the Army as a doctor, college graduate, fairly normal boyfriends (a few were questionable, but that's another story).
Guess which one had a longer career and which one actually started a business because of it? She'd never post online that she was a stripper. Instead she'd walk into bars wearing sleazy clothes trying to get guys to buy her drinks. She's dated many guys who used her for money. She was frauding the system on welfare while dancing. She started dancing after me and quit long before me. She was a mess LONG before she danced.