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daniella_maria
04-24-2010, 07:37 AM
Congratulations!
I wish both of you every happiness.
pixierocksonthepole
04-24-2010, 08:44 AM
um. they havent been together very long, have they? i mean, wasnt it only a month or two ago that mediocrity got stood up on a date with a friend? shouldnt they both consider getting to know each other better? its a traffic-filled road to divorce court...so many people these days that end up gettin divorced, if taking more time can prevent that, why not?
Dude, don't rain on their parade. You wouldn't want someone telling you what you were doing was wrong when it comes to an important time in your life, don't do it to others.
Djoser
04-24-2010, 03:50 PM
There will be no more thanking of people saying 'shut up' here or anywhere else on this forum.
Anyone who does so will be pointed.
Thanking is supposed to be used in situations where people have given good advice, etc., not for telling someone with a dissenting opinion, based on excellent statistical evidence, to shut up.
What with divorce rates so incredibly high these days--about 50% or more of people who have known each other a hell of a lot more than three days--wondering about the future success of a marriage like this is not at all unreasonable. If perhaps less ostensibly sociable as everyone leaping to the head of the line to congratulate the newlyweds.
So it's not going along with the general consensus of 'Who cares how long they've known each other, it's so romantic and exciting and wonderful it can only end well!'.
So what.
This is a public forum. So not everyone is always nice to each other here when it comes to risky life choices, controversial romantic liaisons, and so forth.
People tend to be brutally honest instead--including the people getting married, from what I've seen of their posting history here on SW.
MissShyGirl
04-24-2010, 03:56 PM
I understand what your saying Djoser but don't you think shitting on someone for being happy is kind of rude? Sure everyone is entitled to their opinion but this is two people getting married. I don't think its really right to be going 'well you just met?'
Lots of people get married with in a few weeks of meeting each other and they have long happy marriages. Just like there are lots of people who wait years to get married and get divorced a year later. Marriage is a gamble regardless of how long you know each other.
So sitting there going 'well you just met don't you think its silly to get married so fast' is pointless and uncalled for. This is a thread about saying congrats, not about weather or not they made the right choice.
FTR im not trying to argue with your authority... im just speaking my mind :D
Djoser
04-24-2010, 05:18 PM
You are certainly allowed to do that!
And you chose exactly the right way to do it.
Marriage is a gamble regardless of how long you know each other.
The odds in Vegas would be very, very bad for any marriage of two people who have only known each other three days.
The best way to prove dissenters wrong will of course be to remain happily married for several years, or maybe even a lifetime. Telling them to shut up does not improve the odds.
If Mediocrity demonstrates the same devotion to NolaM as she has to 'J' these past few years, as evidenced by all her posts saying how perfect 'J' was, I'm sure he (NolaM) will be a very happy man.
This 'brutal honesty' style of posting from a few members is nothing new. As I said, I have seen the newlyweds themselves post the same kind of brutally honest opinions, where simply remaining silent would be the 'polite' thing to do.
So I am letting it stand as is, and will point anyone thanking anyone for saying 'shut up', anywhere in this forum.
The_Oceans
04-25-2010, 01:43 AM
Congrats to med and nola! :)
mediocrity
04-25-2010, 03:38 AM
Thanks to all who offered congratulations.
The rest.. seriously? Get up off my marriage. JD, KS_Stevia, Athena, dtx_girl, Kiki_Star... these people know us personally and see what a good match we are. You want to drink the Haterade? Do it somewhere else. This was a place for congratulations started by my best friend in the whole fucking world, JD- who knows me better than I know myself, and she will tell you that as well. So unless you know me, my husband or my marriage... step the fuck off. There's a reason I'm wearing diamonds and falling asleep with the love of my life.
My own parents got married after three dates and were married for 23 years, which is hardly a failure.
You know what also? My husband is NOT perfect. He's crass, audacious, he sleeps too late and can be really, really fucking rude. But that makes me love him all the more, because I myself am impossible, have a bad temper, am a total slob and really fucking inconsiderate.
So seriously? Get over it.
PS. It's not "getting" married anymore, DJoser- deed's already been fucking DONE.
kthnx
04-25-2010, 04:50 AM
Dude, don't rain on their parade. You wouldn't want someone telling you what you were doing was wrong when it comes to an important time in your life, don't do it to others.
yes and ive HAD people rain on my parade, e.g. tell me to get an abortion when i was preggers (im totally against abortions for myself), and i took it in stride (altho mebbe i shouldnt have judgging by the responses here??)
You know what also? My husband is NOT perfect. He's crass, audacious, he sleeps too late and can be really, really fucking rude. But that makes me love him all the more
well aint that even more reason for me to be blunt 'n brutally honest then...it obviuosly worked well for nolam, seein u agreed to marry him, so mebbe itll work for me and ill be the next one in happily-ever-after-in-love land with the unfavorible way i am...j/k...
pixierocksonthepole
04-25-2010, 08:37 AM
yes and ive HAD people rain on my parade, e.g. tell me to get an abortion when i was preggers (im totally against abortions for myself), and i took it in stride (altho mebbe i shouldnt have judgging by the responses here??)
I'm just saying, and being honest like you were when you said your statement. It isn't your wedding or wasn't you're wedding. If you don't agree with it cool whatever, but it just brings the mood down in a thread of Congratulations to the happy couple when someone they don't even know decides to make a comment to bring them down from their marital bliss. And you didn't like it when people rained on your parade, so why do it so someone else? Just wondering.
And FTR I never at any point directly said to anyone to "Shut Up"
In fact no one did.
And that is me being honest and holding my tongue for what I would rather say.
LJ here I come. >:(
I'm just saying, and being honest like you were when you said your statement. It isn't your wedding or wasn't you're wedding. If you don't agree with it cool whatever, but it just brings the mood down in a thread of Congratulations to the happy couple when someone they don't even know decides to make a comment to bring them down from their marital bliss. And you didn't like it when people rained on your parade, so why do it so someone else? Just wondering.
And FTR I never at any point directly said to anyone to "Shut Up"
In fact no one did.
And that is me being honest and holding my tongue for what I would rather say.
LJ here I come. >:(
I totally did. :D
pixierocksonthepole
04-25-2010, 08:50 AM
ya did? where? lol
yes and ive HAD people rain on my parade, e.g. tell me to get an abortion when i was preggers (im totally against abortions for myself), and i took it in stride (altho mebbe i shouldnt have judgging by the responses here??)
well aint that even more reason for me to be blunt 'n brutally honest then...it obviuosly worked well for nolam, seein u agreed to marry him, so mebbe itll work for me and ill be the next one in happily-ever-after-in-love land with the unfavorible way i am...j/k...
I really can't stand it when people cry about their lives and play the victim. We've all been through shit, get over it. :'( There's some brutal honesty for ya....
Anyways, back to the topic, I would be willing to bet a million dollars that Med and NM stay married FOREVER!!! It's one of those things, you have to know them personally to fully grasp how compatible they are, it's kind of scary really, like they're the same person. Love you guys!
minnow
04-25-2010, 10:05 AM
Thanks to all who offered congratulations.
<<snips>>// I hereby offer my congratulations..........
You know what also? My husband is NOT perfect. He's crass, audacious, he sleeps too late and can be really, really fucking rude. But that makes me love him all the more, because I myself am impossible, have a bad temper, am a total slob and really fucking inconsiderate.
<<snips>>>.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Based on above info, I offer a "preview" of mediocrity's & Nolas' 5th wedding aniversary--- www.youtube.com/watch?.v=W1dJ6mCkw_s (http://www.youtube.com/watch?.v=W1dJ6mCkw_s)
If link n/g, then type in search on YT site "Sam Kinison In Living Color".
MissShyGirl
04-25-2010, 10:39 AM
And FTR I never at any point directly said to anyone to "Shut Up"
In fact no one did.
And that is me being honest and holding my tongue for what I would rather say.
LJ here I come. >:(
I did but the entire post got deleted lol.
Djoser
04-25-2010, 11:59 AM
Well, I hope you prove all doubters to be entirely incorrect.
I will ask that people try to limit further posts to congratulatory types.
I will not tolerate any more threats or posts attacking spelling.
rubyredlipsss
04-25-2010, 06:19 PM
is it just me or does anyone feel bad that this congratulatory thread went to complete shit over some petty shit. ::)
Djoser
04-25-2010, 08:07 PM
To all of our well wishers, thank you. to anyone else, fuck off. and to those who edit and erase my posts, I don't let anyone silence me in real life, and I wont have it here either. two warnings in two days? the first one I guess I kind of understand, but the second one? fuck you, you pole dancing pussy. This one will be deleted too I'm sure, but I'm done with this board. Those of you who know me know how to get in touch with me. Oh, since y'all wanted to edit and delete my posts, I have gone back and taken care off the majority of my previous posts for you.
You talk a big game from a thousand miles away, don't you?
As to your warning that you are crying so hard about, what the hell did you expect?
You threaten people, and expecting us to just sit around and watch you act like a flaming asshole because it's your wedding day, or whatthefuckever?
Well I gave you a present and didn't give you any points, the first time. Now you are banned. And from what I've seen of your lack of restraint, BTW, that marriage is doomed to utter failure, it's just a matter of time.
Good luck.