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malayataylor
06-22-2010, 05:21 AM
0 times. been asked twice. won't be getting married anytime soon.

HEAD TURNER 2
06-22-2010, 05:34 PM
0.. engaged too many times. I run away!!

shift_6x
06-22-2010, 09:08 PM
I am happy for those in love and in happy marriages. I don't think I ever want marriage in my life. It is not a necessary part of a relationship. Sometimes it causes more trouble than benefit.

Optimist
06-24-2010, 07:10 AM
......esp since ive stumbled on more studies saying that childless women of her age (and a lil older) are MORE DEPRESSED than those that are moms.

There's a LOT more to the story of mothers vs non-moms and depression.

http://adam.about.com/reports/000008_1.htm

(snip)In a report on women worldwide issued by the World Health Organization in 1996, married women with children had a higher risk for depression than did married childless women, single women, or single or married men.
A survey of women in the Boston area reported, however, that women between the ages of 36 and 44 who had children were significantly less likely to be depressed than childless women. And the more children they had, the less depressed they tended to be. This study targeted older premenopausal women. The difference between this study and others may be due to the presence of older children, who might add a supportive emotional network, rather than dependent toddlers.
The perceived low status and isolation accompanying the role of housewife may play a role in a young mother's depression. A European study reported that depression increased in men and fell in women between 1980 and 1995, a period coinciding with more women entering the work force. (Work outside the home that fails to provide social support, however, will not necessarily help protect against depression.)
Other studies in the U.S. have reported that grandmothers who care for their grandchildren and mothers of toddlers, regardless of whether they worked outside the home or not, have a very high risk for depression. (snip)

Deciding not to have kids is hardly a guarantee of depression. Women who can save because they don't have to spend on kids for 20 years can amass quite a bit of savings. That allows them a level of self sufficiency and freedom well into their old age that moms don't have. Hard to get depressed about that.

Kellydancer
06-24-2010, 11:27 AM
That study brings up an issue many people don't talk about: depression of stay at home mothers. For all of those people who say stay at home mothers are the best, in reality many of them were not happy staying at home but did it because they had no choice. I know a few women who were pushed into staying at home and they are miserable. This is not to say all stay at home moms are miserable or hate it (especially ones who chose it) but just that those forced into the role can have depression. In fact I've seen articles talking about the rise of valium to stay at home mothers in postwar USA.

This is not an attack at stay at home mothers, just saying it's not a good idea for all women. It certainly wouldn't be for me.

bambiblue
06-25-2010, 09:19 PM
Twice:

I married my kids dad when I was really young. I never loved him, and only did it cuz I thought it was the right thing to do. He was an abusive drunk, and I kicked him out 2 days after we said "I do" and never took him back... ten years went by and I met my current husband now... we've been through a lot of crap together, but we're in love, and for the most part we're happy. I never thought I'd be dancing while I was married, but I barely dance at all anymore, and am almost done with college.

Dany
07-07-2010, 09:06 PM
Why is it only the crazy fuckheads want to marry me, and the most perfect dude I have ever met got burned by some bitch and is now scared of engagement? AUGH.

Someone fucking marry me so I have an excuse to ride up to a church on a pony ONCE IN MY GODDAMN LIFE without being branded insane. A white one with pink flowers in the mane, please.

Thisis ridicu fucking sweet!

luckischalk
07-10-2010, 08:54 PM
Once, I've been married for 2.5 years.

Harleigh HellKat
07-10-2010, 09:05 PM
Zero. I run from commitment and never know what I want. I'm a pretty difficult person to date. :D I'm a yo yo hehe.

I'd also like to add I don't want the whole living together for eternity thing and his and hers towels, but the white pony with pink flowers in it's mane sounds pretty sweet. :P

noelle
07-21-2010, 11:00 PM
Just got married a few months ago, we will have been together two years next month. I love my husband more than anything. I was engaged before him and left that guy after he threw me against a wall. I moved across the country and met my now husband. Thank god!

Firewall
07-21-2010, 11:16 PM
Currently married to my 1st husband. If we ever split up I wouldn't marry again for along time.

tronie
07-22-2010, 03:08 AM
Engaged 4 times; Married 3 times. Currently married to number 3. 3rd times a charm because we are absolutely best friends. We do everything together. Ironically we met at a SC.

JessieBoo
08-05-2010, 05:40 PM
Not married yet. Waiting to find that rich guy so I can be a house wife haha Not sure I want to get married anytime soon. It would be lonely when you get older but I'm scared of wasting some good years being married if the marriage ends up failing.