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Kellydancer
09-18-2010, 09:33 PM
Well, when I met a guy, the first thing I ask is if they have kids. If they do, then it doesn't go farther. I don't care who they date, they just can't date me. I do find it hypocritical though when single parents won't date single parents. Btw, not dating someone Hispanic (for example) isn't the same thing as dating a single dad. I will admit there are ethnic groups I don't date (Indians from India and Muslims for example) but that's more of a culture clash. Single dads don't mesh well with me.
missplayful
09-18-2010, 10:08 PM
It was just an example .. prejudment doesnt work very well sometimes. For example i really dont like fat people and i woudnt date never ever but i engaged with one of fat police officers who i loved him really... everyone was made fun of me what did i find of him etc.. Sometime we tell some stuffs we really never wanna be in. But life brings to us:)) I am muslim too by the way i m married with An American i never thought myself marryin someone Christian and American. Same for my husband too. But its ok for us as soon as nobody practise religion siriously.
Anyways of course u dont have to be babysitter or get involved with anyone's kid. I dont like kids by the way but i dont treat them bad either. I cant even handle my friends kids because they dont wanna talk about anything except their kids. Its gettin old i love my friends but really i wanna stop talkin with some of them because of their selfish endless baby converstations never ends.
Kellydancer
09-18-2010, 10:36 PM
I treat kids well and enjoy them, but don't want to deal with a man's kids. Way too much drama and I can't deal with it. This is one thing I can't change nor do I want to. When I go on a date the first thing I do is ask if he has kids.
missplayful
09-18-2010, 10:41 PM
U are right of course u dont have to play momma things to for anyone's kids. Especially when u strart a new relationship.
kthnx
09-19-2010, 11:23 AM
Anyways of course u dont have to be babysitter or get involved with anyone's kid. I dont like kids by the way but i dont treat them bad either. I cant even handle my friends kids because they dont wanna talk about anything except their kids. Its gettin old i love my friends but really i wanna stop talkin with some of them because of their selfish endless baby converstations never ends.
mmmm i disagree.
my guy friend "ryan" has been off-and-on dating this girl over the last couple of yrs. during the time he's known/dated her, she had 2 kids with other guys. (neither kid is ryan's) becuz she lacks education or a decent job, she often struggles to care for her kids and her parents (she lives @ home with her parents) dont always help her out 100%. even tho the kids werent his, ryan did alot to help her out with them, gave her and the kids rides when his truck was on its last limbs (actually blew out the tranny driving her kids around), lent her money when he didnt have much of it himself, etc. yet some of this chick's close family friends resented ryan for not doing MORE.
got to the point that it actually costed him a JOB. one such resentful "family friend" of this girl, told the HR manager not to hire ryan right before they apparintly were plannign to give him the job.
i told him many many times to "run as fast as he can" from this girl, not just becuz of the kid situation, but becuz the girl is manipulative, two-timing, etc. she manipulated pro-life ryan into giving her $400 for an abortion for a baby that wasnt even ryan's. too much drama and i tell ryan this all the fuckin time. yep.
Kellydancer
09-19-2010, 11:33 AM
mmmm i disagree.
my guy friend "ryan" has been off-and-on dating this girl over the last couple of yrs. during the time he's known/dated her, she had 2 kids with other guys. (neither kid is ryan's) becuz she lacks education or a decent job, she often struggles to care for her kids and her parents (she lives @ home with her parents) dont always help her out 100%. even tho the kids werent his, ryan did alot to help her out with them, gave her and the kids rides when his truck was on its last limbs (actually blew out the tranny driving her kids around), lent her money when he didnt have much of it himself, etc. yet some of this chick's close family friends resented ryan for not doing MORE.
got to the point that it actually costed him a JOB. one such resentful "family friend" of this girl, told the HR manager not to hire ryan right before they apparintly were plannign to give him the job.
i told him many many times to "run as fast as he can" from this girl, not just becuz of the kid situation, but becuz the girl is manipulative, two-timing, etc. she manipulated pro-life ryan into giving her $400 for an abortion for a baby that wasnt even ryan's. too much drama and i tell ryan this all the fuckin time. yep.
He deserves much better. That kind of reminds me of the guy I love. His last girlfriend had a kid and often asked him to babysit or give money. Because he's a pushover he always bent over backwards for her. Of course now he's scared because she kept wanting more and more. This is another reason I tell people not to date parents.
missplayful
09-19-2010, 08:49 PM
I posted similar things to earlier. . I dated with an Army guy who had kid and i did not have problem. I never thought beein single parent is problem for my relationship. T hey were welcome to me. I dont like children thats true. But i use to be soo nice and kind to his child. I coudnt be mom of course but i tried to be nice big sister. I babysit him a lot of time. That was ok for me. But people dont have to do this .This is an option. Some people dont want or get involved with kids they are free about their desicions.I have such a soft heart i do accept my partners kids if they have no problem. Only i dont like my friends proud parent attidute which we can not even talk about sometin else anymore.
Kellydancer
09-19-2010, 09:22 PM
I posted similar things to earlier. . I dated with an Army guy who had kid and i did not have problem. I never thought beein single parent is problem for my relationship. T hey were welcome to me. I dont like children thats true. But i use to be soo nice and kind to his child. I coudnt be mom of course but i tried to be nice big sister. I babysit him a lot of time. That was ok for me. But people dont have to do this .This is an option. Some people dont want or get involved with kids they are free about their desicions.I have such a soft heart i do accept my partners kids if they have no problem. Only i dont like my friends proud parent attidute which we can not even talk about sometin else anymore.
But once again this has nothing to do whether someone has a big heart or whether single parents shouldn't date. Completely different situations. As for the babysitting, when one is with a parent they often expect this. The fact is dating a single parent when one is childless is hard and complicated. Yes, there are relationships that work but many more that eventually fail because of this. It's not even the kids fault, but often the exwife. I don't want to pay for her to have a great standard of living. I don't want to deal with her anytime. I don't want potential children denied anything (or worse, denied children). I want my kids to get my stuff, not the stepkids.
Kellydancer
09-22-2010, 01:34 PM
Here's yet another warning to why you shouldn't marry a guy (or girl in this case) with children. By children this means adult as well.
My uncle recently became widowed. He married his long time girlfriend on her deathbed because this was her final wish. She had three kids but when they married they were grown and lived in the south. My uncle hates kids. They would come and visit a few times a year but the kids weren't close with her.
Right after she died (and I mean IMMEDIATELY after) her daughter started taking things. She keeps claiming certain things are hers, even though in many cases my uncle bought them for him or them to share. So now she's coming back with her father (the ex) to take what's "hers". She's now insisting the stereo my uncle bought for his house was my aunt's. She tried to go after the house, but luckily that was in my grandparents name (smart move my uncle made).
Still think it's ok to date a person with kids? This actually makes my case more than ever before. In fact my relatives who told me I was picky for not dating dads say I was right.
flickad
09-23-2010, 03:02 AM
Only if the mother had custody and I rarely had to deal with them. I can only take children in very small doses.
Promnesiac
09-25-2010, 09:38 PM
Though I think kids are charming, I don't want to be a parent - even part-time. So no, I wouldn't. There would unavoidably be a time at which I'd have to do parental things, and ovaries or no, I'm just not maternal.
XxChrissyxX
02-01-2011, 10:22 PM
I dont think I could..not until I was like in my 30's or something. not sure if i wanna have kids.
But it's funny I found this thread cuz my friend is only 19 and she's dating a 22 year old who has a 4 year old. I'm just counting the days until she wakes the F up lol
I just think she needs to enjoy as much as she can and not try and settle down now.
Kellydancer
02-01-2011, 10:34 PM
I am 40 and I still wouldn't date a man with children. Maybe if I didn't want kids, but I do want kids and don't want them to share a dad with anyone else. Not to mention the drama. Your friend is way too young to deal with a man like that.
XxChrissyxX
02-02-2011, 04:28 PM
yea she's stupid! Oh well..hopefully it will be a heat of the moment type relationship.
Kellydancer
02-02-2011, 05:46 PM
Hope so, because most people don't know what they are getting, and I've heard single dads are harder to deal with than single moms. This is because in most cases he pays child support and had visitation but not usually full custody. After dating two guys with psycho exwives and dealing with their kids, no way would I ever recommend it to any childless woman. I often get told I am being picky but I still know guys my age childless so until there are none left (and there are many single men here even into the 50's)then I can be as picky about this as I want. If by chance there were no childless men, I would rather be single than a stepmother.
Lollipop Gurl
02-02-2011, 05:54 PM
I dated a guy with a kid before. But he was rich, hot and good in bed! Very rare!
DesuvsDeath
02-02-2011, 09:49 PM
I've changed my answer.
No. In the future I would absolutely not date a man with kids.
Kellydancer
02-03-2011, 12:08 AM
I've changed my answer.
No. In the future I would absolutely not date a man with kids.
What made you change your mind, anything you saw? I ask because years ago I was open to the possibility and even liked the idea of being a mom without the pregnancy. However after dating guys with kids it turned me staunchly against it. I have had people tell me they know of cases where the exes are still friends and the new spouses get along, but these are rare.
DesuvsDeath
02-03-2011, 12:18 AM
What made you change your mind
PMing it.
Kellydancer
02-03-2011, 12:22 AM
I think I mentioned this earlier, but in some states women can even sue the new wife for more child support. I didn't know this until a friend married a man with kids and his ex sued. I haven't seen the friend in awhile so don't know the outcome but can you imagine having to give your hard earned money to another woman? No way.
DesuvsDeath
02-03-2011, 12:43 AM
^^^Even if she can't sue you directly... My friend's child support was increased because of his "change in household income".
Kellydancer
02-03-2011, 12:55 AM
^^^Even if she can't sue you directly... My friend's child support was increased because of his "change in household income".
Yep, I think that's how the ex was able to get more child support. So indirectly the new wife is paying for the ex, especially if she's lazy (as was the case in this situation). I know several stories of women who weren't able to have children because the husband couldn't afford it. Another woman I knew wanted to be a stay at home mom but couldn't afford it because her husband was paying his exwife to stay at home (though the kids were in school). She ended up divorcing him because of this (not because of the stay at home part, the not having a baby part). I mentioned this to a friend and she said "well, not all women can stay at home". I told her that's not the point, the point that she can't even afford to have a baby with both of them working because he pays so much in child support.
DesuvsDeath
02-03-2011, 01:09 AM
I really don't understand child support laws... They seem to REWARD women for being lazy and refusing to get jobs.
There are literally programs that will pay basically the ENTIRE cost of feeding your kid... there is housing assistance for single mothers, ect... My old coworker maintained a 2br apartment, and was able to afford to go out, go tanning, get nails done, ect when we were only making $8 an hour. Totally on her own. There are THAT MANY breaks for single parents with custody.
There's just no excuse for one parent to be giving 50% of their income to the other parent because the other parent is lazy. I don't think parents who have no income for more than a year shouldn't even BE ALLOWED to have custody. UGH. Lol.
Sorry rant.
Point is: The amount of money the parent without custody has to give away is a lot more than most people would expect... and in a lot of cases... can put serious financial strain on a relationship.
So Fine Divyne
02-03-2011, 07:24 AM
NO I would not. I am 28 and have no children and I will not date someone with them. Children are wonderful, smaller more honest and sincere versions of adults. I dated someone with children and he and I were in love. Well, when love left the building I stayed because I had developed a relationship with his daughter that was super strong. I mean my bff at the time was a 3 yr old. We went from scooting, to crawling, to walking to buying purses together. It broke my heart when I finally had to leave him. Imagine telling a small child, that you have had to break from calling you mama, not because you encouraged it, but because you were the only mama she knew, that you were leaving and not coming back. The exact same thing her real mama did when she was too small to remember. I went through that pain and I will never do it again. I may be the only person I know who stalked a kid. I mean parking down the street watching her play outside stalking, for real. It took a lot for me to recover from that and I still see her from time to time. She doesn't remember everything from when she was small, but is still very sweet to me. Her grandparents make sure that I can still visit occasionally. After a few years I dated someone else with children and his child was horrible and so was his baby's mother. IMHO people with children and without lead very different lifestyles for the simple fact that their priorities are different. It's just not my thing.
Kellydancer
02-03-2011, 12:59 PM
I really don't understand child support laws... They seem to REWARD women for being lazy and refusing to get jobs.
There are literally programs that will pay basically the ENTIRE cost of feeding your kid... there is housing assistance for single mothers, ect... My old coworker maintained a 2br apartment, and was able to afford to go out, go tanning, get nails done, ect when we were only making $8 an hour. Totally on her own. There are THAT MANY breaks for single parents with custody.
There's just no excuse for one parent to be giving 50% of their income to the other parent because the other parent is lazy. I don't think parents who have no income for more than a year shouldn't even BE ALLOWED to have custody. UGH. Lol.
Sorry rant.
Point is: The amount of money the parent without custody has to give away is a lot more than most people would expect... and in a lot of cases... can put serious financial strain on a relationship.
The system in general needs overhauling because in most cases married parents can't get assistance, only single women. Because of that many women never marry the fathers, though many of them still have to pay as well.
I was thinking of a previous job where we had to write up forms to garnish wages for child support and yes it can often be so much, especially if the dad has several kids. Another thing is alimony. Alimony is generally only given to stay at home parents (including dads now) but this adds up too. One of the guys I was dating had to pay alimony and child support. His exwife was living in his house while he had to move in with his parents. We couldn't go to nice restaurants unless I paid (and I paid my fair share since I believe in equality). This was a short lived situation but still I realized in the long run it wouldn't work. He later remarried and his ex sued for child support because his new wife made a lot.
Not to mention gifts and things like that. Yes this is minor, but can add up. I remember working with a woman who was expected to buy her stepkids expensive gifts every Christmas. She was also asked to pitch in to help pay for a party. While this is minor people are expected to take part in some of the financial aspects, even if it's just the spouse.
Btw, this is not aimed at people who get alimony or stay at home or whatever. Those are different topics. Rather, it's just pointing out that dating a man (or woman) with children will cause problems. I once was asked if I would make exceptions and these may apply: guys raising children not biologically their own or widower. By children not their own I mean for example I once dated a guy raising his niece. I also knew a few guys who adopted children as single men. In these cases there isn't an ex at all. Widower I may consider, depending on the circumstances. If the kids are small possibly. This would also depend on his relationship with his now deceased wife and her family. However, these instances are all pretty rare. The majority of the guys I knew with kids are guys with exwives/baby mommas, and most are paying child support.
princessjas
02-04-2011, 07:14 AM
I really don't understand child support laws... They seem to REWARD women for being lazy and refusing to get jobs.
There are literally programs that will pay basically the ENTIRE cost of feeding your kid... there is housing assistance for single mothers, ect... My old coworker maintained a 2br apartment, and was able to afford to go out, go tanning, get nails done, ect when we were only making $8 an hour. Totally on her own. There are THAT MANY breaks for single parents with custody.
There's just no excuse for one parent to be giving 50% of their income to the other parent because the other parent is lazy. I don't think parents who have no income for more than a year shouldn't even BE ALLOWED to have custody. UGH. Lol.
Sorry rant.
Point is: The amount of money the parent without custody has to give away is a lot more than most people would expect... and in a lot of cases... can put serious financial strain on a relationship.
Where are these programs? Seriously, I'm not being a smartass. I have full custody of my two sons and don't get a dime from their dipshit father? I get less than 400 a month in foodstamps and that is it. I also have to go to school full time to get that. I only really needed to take 11hrs this semester but had to add a BS class to keep my foodstamps.
Kellydancer
02-04-2011, 12:42 PM
Where are these programs? Seriously, I'm not being a smartass. I have full custody of my two sons and don't get a dime from their dipshit father? I get less than 400 a month in foodstamps and that is it. I also have to go to school full time to get that. I only really needed to take 11hrs this semester but had to add a BS class to keep my foodstamps.
That's not right your ex isn't paying for the kids. Stories like that make me sick.
Speaking of which, even though I would never marry a guys with kids, if I met a guy not paying child support I would definitely think he was a piece of trash.
princessjas
02-05-2011, 09:18 AM
I get that. Back when I was single I had a no dad's policy too, but I did break it once. Stand up guy who paid MORE than his child support order bought all the essentials for his daughter and had her every chance he got. Never understood men who don't want to pay for their kds. If my ex had custody, I'd gladly pay to help support them, because I want the best life possible for my sons.
Kellydancer
02-05-2011, 11:51 AM
That sounds like a great guy and there are great dads out there. I can't stand these people (women now too) who don't pay child support, that is wrong. I've met a few of these guys too and they really are scum. I heard of a case where a woman married one of them then the ex went after her because she was the only one working. Why anyone would date a man not paying child support makes no sense to me because they'll do the same to the next wife.
Spinnerette
02-08-2011, 07:16 AM
This makes dating a single dad even less appealing if I felt I had to tip toe around the mother and her feelings. I probably wouldn't want much interaction with her, let alone take her out to lunch. If a man decided that I was good enough to be involved in his kids' lives, that would be enough for me. Anything else would be an infringement on mine and his relationship. Damn this is complicated!
Yes, this is my issue right now. My husband has a daughter from a previous relationship and her mother has rubbed me the wrong way in the past and despite indicating that she's changed her mind about me, I still haven't let it go. As far as I'm concerned, whatever relationship my husband has with his daughter from here on out is between them and I'm staying out of it. It's none of my business and I have no desire to be a part of it. But he's said when she comes to visit this summer, the mother wants to speak with me. I don't know what the hell for. So I can say, "Hi, I'm 23 years old, I work in the sex industry, I swear like a sailor, I hate wearing clothes, I'm extremely anti-social, gore is my entertainment of choice, and I enjoy my booze". Really, what does she want to hear? What could I possibly say that would put her at ease about her child being in my presence? That I'm thankfully drug-free and that her daughter and I can watch cartoons together (because I love cartoons)? O_o
I don't know. I just don't like the woman because of how she tried to low-key come at me in the beginning so there will be no amiable talks about anything as I don't see the angle. She can rest assured her daughter will be safe from whatever demonic influence I may possess as I will conveniently find myself elsewhere during my partner's and her bonding time.
So to answer the question, I can say yes I would considering this particular situation. He pays his child support and doesn't diss her mother because he's a MAN. But would I date one who was single and had full custody of his kids? No, as I'm not a dating type. I am a sexing type. If the kids get in the way of my sexing (and they most likely will), I have no use for him. Next.
Kellydancer
02-08-2011, 12:49 PM
I'm the opposite, I'd be more likely to date a man who had custody than one paying support. Like I said I wouldn't consider in the case of a divorced man with custody of the kids. No way. However I might seriously consider a man who's raising kids not biologically his own like a guy raising a nice/nephew or a guy raising kids he adopted as a single man. In both of these cases there's no mom so this I could handle. I might consider a widower, but probably only if the kids are young and also depends on the relationship he had with his wife. Dating a widower would not be my first choice but for me certainly better than dating a divorced man or a man who didn't marry.
However these instances are all relatively rare in this subject. The majority of situations are guys who have kids from being divorced or from an exgirlfriend/baby momma. These are never bendable situations, at least not now. I could see myself only bending if I am still single when I go through menopause (not even into pre menopause yet) and I meet a guy with grown kids. This is unlikely too, as I hope to find someone within a few years and there are still single men.
princessjas
02-08-2011, 01:24 PM
^^It's really not as rare as you think to find a guy with custody of his kids and no baby mama in the picture. I knew 3 of em in college (not that that makes it super common though). All three were raised by single dad's since they were infants and I think only one was divorced (one widower, one who had an ex show up and drop off their son on his doorstep one day).
Don't get caught up again thinking these men that haven't been divorced are super rare. They come in all shapes and sizes, so to speak. From the never been married to the rarer cases like I mentioned. There's someone out there that fits everyone, imo, probably several hundred that fit each person.
Kellydancer
02-08-2011, 01:50 PM
^^It's really not as rare as you think to find a guy with custody of his kids and no baby mama in the picture. I knew 3 of em in college (not that that makes it super common though). All three were raised by single dad's since they were infants and I think only one was divorced (one widower, one who had an ex show up and drop off their son on his doorstep one day).
Don't get caught up again thinking these men that haven't been divorced are super rare. They come in all shapes and sizes, so to speak. From the never been married to the rarer cases like I mentioned. There's someone out there that fits everyone, imo, probably several hundred that fit each person.
You're right, there's no such thing as a "rare" case. I was just thinking that I personally haven't dealt so much with those situations as the situations where a guy had children and an ex. I do know quite a few never married men even at my age and with people marrying later, and living close to a major city, there are even more out here. I figure if my one guyfriend can find a virgin at 33 (he was a virgin too) then there's really no such thing as too picky.
I will say though that the men who are raising kids on their own are very special. They could have dumped the kids, but they chose to be real men and stay involved.
So Fine Divyne
02-08-2011, 06:24 PM
One thing I could never figure out were the girls who date guys with kids who don't pay any support, then turn around and have kids by them. Like haven't you figured out that he is a shitty person? Obviously it's cool until the relationship ends and then he just says fuck you and the kids and on to the next one. This chick I know of has 3 kids with a guy who has 11 kids with other girls. Are you that desperate? However good the sex is how could you have a relationship with someone like that? The simple fact that he has that many children should let you know he sleeps with lots of people without condoms. That alone is enough to scare me. That's not counting the ones who probably went to the clinic and aborted. What type of woman could you be to put yourself in that situation. You're only one breakup away from being in the same situation. How stupid!
Kellydancer
02-08-2011, 09:16 PM
One thing I could never figure out were the girls who date guys with kids who don't pay any support, then turn around and have kids by them. Like haven't you figured out that he is a shitty person? Obviously it's cool until the relationship ends and then he just says fuck you and the kids and on to the next one. This chick I know of has 3 kids with a guy who has 11 kids with other girls. Are you that desperate? However good the sex is how could you have a relationship with someone like that? The simple fact that he has that many children should let you know he sleeps with lots of people without condoms. That alone is enough to scare me. That's not counting the ones who probably went to the clinic and aborted. What type of woman could you be to put yourself in that situation. You're only one breakup away from being in the same situation. How stupid!
I know someone in that situation. She was a former roommate and she started "dating" this guy with 4 kids by 4 women. I say "dating" because their activity seemed to be screwing around. I happened to find out that he had 4 kids instead of the 2 he claimed and told her he'll do the same to her. "Oh no, he loves me" she told me and guess what happened? She got pregnant and he disappeared. She's looking for him to pay child support and he's hiding, likely having more kids. Oh and all these babies are on welfare so we get the luxury of supporting them because he doesn't. Isn't that nice. She had already had issues with men (her dad raped her) and this made it worse.
Those guys are disgusting immoral cretins and I would never date one.
Bunny
02-15-2011, 09:26 PM
I'm almost 40 and think most guys I would date would have kids by now and it doesn't bother me one bit. I do not have nor want biological kids of my own but a man with them is no problem.
Kellydancer
02-15-2011, 09:39 PM
I'm almost 40 and think most guys I would date would have kids by now and it doesn't bother me one bit. I do not have nor want biological kids of my own but a man with them is no problem.
Depends on the area. There are still quite a few men in their early-mid 40's who are childless and still want dads. I know for me this is a pressure because I want to find a never married childless man who wants kids and so I am actively looking now.
Bunny
02-15-2011, 09:46 PM
Depends on the area. There are still quite a few men in their early-mid 40's who are childless and still want dads. I know for me this is a pressure because I want to find a never married childless man who wants kids and so I am actively looking now.
I suppose there are. The pool just becomes smaller the older they get. However, I really have no problem with a man having kids. Now if he has kids he doesn't take care of, then forget it. He's got to be a good dad!
Kellydancer
02-15-2011, 10:02 PM
I respect good dads, though I won't date them. I do not respect sperm donors. People always say I am picky about this, and I am, but there's a reason.
Bunny
02-16-2011, 09:56 AM
I respect good dads, though I won't date them. I do not respect sperm donors. People always say I am picky about this, and I am, but there's a reason.
you have every right to be picky because it's what you want, and the person you have to please ultimately is yourself, so I see no reason why you should settle on something that is important to you.
Kellydancer
02-16-2011, 12:32 PM
you have every right to be picky because it's what you want, and the person you have to please ultimately is yourself, so I see no reason why you should settle on something that is important to you.
For some reason some people think this means I'll be alone. I disagree and if that happens not much I can do. It really is important to me, moreso than anything else. I can bend on the religion, the looks, everything except this. I wish more people were picky because I think we'd see less people dating/marrying people who were bad choices.
Bunny
02-16-2011, 07:24 PM
For some reason some people think this means I'll be alone. I disagree and if that happens not much I can do. It really is important to me, moreso than anything else. I can bend on the religion, the looks, everything except this. I wish more people were picky because I think we'd see less people dating/marrying people who were bad choices.
That's just it, that a lot of people are scared to be alone. Nobody should be scared to be alone because everyone should enjoy his/her own company. So people settle just to have something rather than nothing and end up with someone that isn't right for them.
Kellydancer
02-16-2011, 10:25 PM
That's just it, that a lot of people are scared to be alone. Nobody should be scared to be alone because everyone should enjoy his/her own company. So people settle just to have something rather than nothing and end up with someone that isn't right for them.
Very true. I don't want to be alone, but would prefer that to a life with a dad.