View Full Version : Boyfriend or Escorting?
malayataylor
07-08-2010, 12:00 PM
LOL! I couldn't dated a pot/cigarette smoker .. I don't do smokers. I hate that shit. I'd hate to have the little butts around the house especially in my garage not to mention the smell. OMG I couldn't do it.
@ Wanderlust: You are welcome to smoke in the Patio.. Just close the door behind you.
Harleigh HellKat
07-08-2010, 12:03 PM
Oh trust me I know! :D It's great for a lot of things. But dealers make me nervous so I don't think I'd want to date one. I only really smoke pot if it's free and I'm super ninja about it. I got in trouble once when I was younger because a guy friend got pulled over and lied to the cop about having pot in his car, so when the cop searched the car I was guilty by association. What! I didn't even know the guy HAD pot in the car and at the time I didn't even smoke!
Otay I will end my thread jack! I'm terrible about that haha. -__-
wanderlust08
07-08-2010, 12:04 PM
LOL! I couldn't dated a pot/cigarette smoker .. I don't do smokers. I hate that shit. I'd hate to have the little butts around the house especially in my garage not to mention the smell. OMG I couldn't do it.
@ Wanderlust: You are welcome to smoke in the Patio.. Just close the door behind you.
LOL, I'm definitely an outside smoker. The last thing I need is for my preschoolers to get a contact buzz. The oldest one would probably eat everything in the house...
Harleigh HellKat
07-08-2010, 12:11 PM
Yeah I don't even smoke cigs in the house. I don't like to smoke anything around kids either. Mostly because they are other people's kids (I don't have any.) and I think it would be rude for me to light up two feet away from them, indoors or out.
malayataylor
07-08-2010, 12:48 PM
LOL, I'm definitely an outside smoker. The last thing I need is for my preschoolers to get a contact buzz. The oldest one would probably eat everything in the house...
LMAO!
I don't need to smoke. I have a very natural high. Sex also gives me a pretty good high.. LOL
Arialandre
07-08-2010, 12:50 PM
Way to thread jack guys :P lol
malayataylor
07-08-2010, 01:35 PM
Ok ok sorry for threadjacking...
But I say drop him and find someone that will allow you to make money the way you want..
OR better yet drop him and find someone that HAS MONEY and will allow you to do whatever you want for a living.
*sigh* Just drop him.
wanderlust08
07-08-2010, 01:40 PM
Ok ok sorry for threadjacking...
But I say drop him and find someone that will allow you to make money the way you want..
OR better yet drop him and find someone that HAS MONEY and will allow you to do whatever you want for a living.
*sigh* Just drop him.
The Relationship Gospel according to Malaya. :P
She's right you know. She'd been telling me to drop my loser ex boyfriend for like two months, I finally did, and I'm happier! She knows her shit, man.
malayataylor
07-08-2010, 02:10 PM
^ I'm happy that you're happy and most of all I'm happy you got rid of HIM!!
Arialandre
07-10-2010, 08:19 PM
Ok ok, I hear what you're saying... the idea of dropping him freaks me out though. I know I know I need to woman up, grow some tits and handle my business.
Obenta
07-12-2010, 01:01 AM
I agree, drop him!
After a month you'll be so happy that you stopped wasting your time going nowhere with him!
Arialandre
07-12-2010, 06:44 PM
Thanks everyone. Got my tarot cards read today and they pretty much said the same thing...creeeeepy
Smurfette
07-13-2010, 09:01 AM
I know this is a bit late, but I thought I'd throw in my 0.2 cents.
I don't think there is anything wrong with your boyfriend not wanting you to escort. Like another poster said, I would NEVER let my boyfriend go out and have sex with women for money, no matter HOW much he was getting paid. I would rather us both work at McDonalds for minimum wage. And if he left me because I said no, I would consider him a huge douchebag.
Likewise, he would never want me to escort and I don't blame him one bit. I know it's just a job, however, it is a job that crosses over into personal, intimate territory. I have given my body and soul over to him, so it wouldn't be right for me to be in a committed relationship with him while sharing my body with other men... regardless of intentions. I know I have the capacity to sleep with men and treat it like a business, with absolutely NO emotional attachment whatsoever. However, it still wouldn't be fair to my boyfriend (IMO).
(this is just MY personal relationship, others may be totally different and I think in some cases, escorting can be done with no issues or repercussions in a relationship.)
HAVING SAID THAT... my bf and I are not really experiencing any dire financial straits. He has a pretty good job and I make OK money from camming. But I can imagine a scenario in which we are both SCREWED financially, with loads of credit card debt, the rent is due and we can't make it, the lights are being turned off, etc. In those cases, I think escorting may be a viable option, temporarily. (although personally, I would probably just cam my ass off 12 hours a day for a couple weeks straight to get everything back in order).
Ultimately, I think it just depends on what you consider more important: love/companionship or money. There is nothing wrong with choosing money. It will hurt to break up with him, but you can't go on staying in a relationship if it keeps you from reaching your potential and being truly HAPPY.
I think I'm probably less ambitious than many of you girls... I admit I occasionally fantasize about living an alternate life where I'm single, childless, live in a bustling city, work as an escort/camgirl, all of my time is my own, I make TONS of money, buy Gucci bags and Christian Dior perfume, and have sugar daddies all over the place paying my bills and buying me stuff and taking me on exotic vacations. That kind of a life sounds FUCKING AWESOME!!
Could I make it happen if I wanted to? Absolutely! (well, except the childless part). Is my boyfriend "holding me back" from doing those things? Probably... but I'm not going to leave him over it, and the simple reason is because I LOVE HIM very very much, we have a child together, I want to make a life with him, etc. etc. all that mushy crap. And those emotions overpower $$$ for me, personally. I'm quite content making money that's "just OK", as long as my relationship and my family are alive and thriving.
Okay, sorry for the rambling... and I did not mean to be all "holier than thou" if I came across like that. I just thought I'd contribute to the discussion. 8)
Arialandre
07-13-2010, 10:01 AM
No you didn't sound holier than thou at all, that is really the standpoind I am coming from which is why I'm torn. Money sucks. We aren't starving to death but we ARE kinda screwed, and I hate being in that situation. Right now I'm trying to get a sugar daddy, and yes he knows about it. I am also going to pull a Malaya and try to not sleep with my sugar daddy. I've never cheated on a boyfriend before in my life and don't want to start now.
I have a few pot DS that I'm talking to right now so we will see how it goes, I'll keep you guys informed. I MAY be meeting one from Calgary (I'm in BC so next province over) this week. We seeeem compatible with what we are looking for so far. See each other 2-4 times a week, go to events, shopping, financial help, but we will see.