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Kellydancer
06-22-2010, 08:58 PM
Part of that "head" thing goes back many years ago when husbands were the head and women were basically property. It is one of those traditions that has stayed and people forget that part. I'm sure most don't think that way, but some do. I've seen studies that 90% of men expect the woman to change her name and that I find interesting. I think in most cases the men just like their wife having their name and no ulterior motives.

Avery90
06-22-2010, 09:07 PM
Im old fashioned so Id take my husbands last name. If Divorced you could change it back. Thats what a woman I worked with did.

CKXXX
06-23-2010, 02:49 PM
Mediocrity congrats to you too! When did you get married? We have been married just over a month now and the novelty of saying "my husband" still hasn't worn off!. We spent our whole honeymoon telling everyone we talked to "WE JUST GOT MARRIED!!!" Haha. I love it!
We just celebrated our 10 yr anniversary and we both still think its so bizarre to call each other "my husband" or "my wife"...such a grown up thing to say! lol

sxcbbw
06-23-2010, 04:36 PM
^I am never going to be able to say that with a straight face. If I ever have to in conversation I think I will snigger uncontrollably and have to go lie down in a dark room. ;D

chanzep
07-06-2010, 03:36 PM
I can't wait to oneday change my name.

Rarity
07-06-2010, 03:46 PM
youre right Kelly...it all started with old english common law because the women were the mens property...the african females I know dont change their last names at all. Dont think I will either.

KS_Stevia
07-06-2010, 05:24 PM
Depends on the last name. I wouldn't mind something simple and generic sounding. At my current job, customers and prospects get to know my last name and always ask me a million questions about it. Then I have to explain the entire sub-ethnic makeup of my home country and its PIA.

Roxychu
07-06-2010, 05:59 PM
Mine isn't THAT bad... but I live in America... and my family is from Quebec... so I've got a name that no one who isn't French ever gets right. :(

This.

except mines polish and i live in england but still hard to pronounce but i just preempt people, especially with spelling it out. I'm never really tht fussed about it getting mispronounced.

It's not actually "my" name, as my dads got a different surname, my mum kept it from her first marriage and then gave it to me because my mum didn't want me having a separate surname to her and my parents never married.

So i see me and my mum as our own little family with it (i love my dad to bits and he's there for me but me and my mum are ridiculously close)

I'd probably hyphenate especially if we use my bfs name (not that we're likely to get married anytime soon or necessarily even last) but his surname is smith (i wouldnt usually post names etc. but seriously how many smiths do you know?) which is crap so it'd have to be stuck on the end apparently he doesnt wanna change his so meh.

OJenni!
07-07-2010, 08:48 AM
Mine is simple and only three letters. I don't have a middle name and my first name is only 5 letters (its Julia btw).

So yes I have a simple 8 letter name :)

I think I will keep it this way even if I marry.

luckischalk
07-10-2010, 08:50 PM
I changed my name, if I was a medical doctor, dentist, had a PhD or was known in my industry by my last name alone I probably wouldn't but since that's not the case I did. I also am not close to my dad so it was a nice change.

Arialandre
07-18-2010, 11:17 AM
His last name is freakin awesome, I would so take it. I really just don't give a shit about my own last name as I've had 2 so far already. Hell my camming last name feels more real to me than my "maiden" name.

PleasureVictim
07-19-2010, 02:24 PM
I didn't change mine the first time, and it was a huge issue. I just wanted to keep my name, and didn't want to be re-named like an adopted pet. That's harsh, but that is how I felt at the time. I got divorced and didn't have to change back thank goodness.

The next time, I might change it. My dad and I are estranged now, so it doesn't mean as much to me anymore. Heck I might even change it on my own, married or not. If I married the guy I'm with now- there's no way in hell he'd go for me keeping my name, it would be a big problem.