View Full Version : Breastfeeding.... WATCH THIS!!!!!!
pixierocksonthepole
07-28-2010, 01:50 PM
Using a covet over the breast does make a big difference. So don't take your crabby attitude out on those that don't want to actually see the breast. Its a personal preference an if you ever sprayed breast milk at the table of someone who doesn't want to see it I hope you realize how immature that is. Its not for everyone, no need to be rude.
Autumn Lily
07-28-2010, 02:01 PM
The last thing I want to see or hear is the suckling of a boob. Thank you.
Personally I'd rather see and hear this than: slurping soup, sucking the last bit of soda out of your glass with a straw, hearing people talk around mouthfuls of food, the scratching of forks and knives against plates, the tinkling of glass, the scooting of chairs across hard floors or carpets, watching people chew with their mouth open, seeing children pile food into their mouth and getting their food all over their faces... need I go on?
My point is, witnessing a baby nurse is not nearly as drastic, nor is it that loud compared to other noises in a restaurant.
And I'm surprised no one has said this yet: If you really don't want to see a woman breastfeed in public, STOP STARING AT HER AND MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS.
kaiarose
07-28-2010, 02:30 PM
Unfortunately, overzealous breastfeeding mom's like to make it a point to make sure you see that they are breastfeeding and that they don't give a shit that their leaky boobs are hanging out and their enlarged nipples are staring at you while you are eating. I can see you're probably going to be one of those women Autumn.
Autumn Lily
07-28-2010, 02:36 PM
Unfortunately, overzealous breastfeeding mom's like to make it a point to make sure you see that they are breastfeeding and that they don't give a shit that their leaky boobs are hanging out and their enlarged nipples are staring at you while you are eating. I can see you're probably going to be one of those women Autumn.
Any woman who pulls out both of her breasts to breastfeed and makes a point to be a spectacle about it is going a little over the top, yes. And no, I'm not going to be one of those women. Will I breastfeed so long as my body is able (no infection, healthy glands, etc) and my child takes to it? Yes. Will I try to remember to bring a blanket or bottle of milk because of oversensitive, easily-offended souls like you? I'll do my best. But if I forget, I'm not going to neglect to feed my hungry child. And neither should any other breastfeeding mother.
Austinrox
07-28-2010, 02:42 PM
I was unable to breastfeed due to health issues (being on bloodthinners during and after pregnancy, being in ICU for pneumonia, blood clots) so I was never physically able to do so. I do think if a mother chooses to breastfeed she should be allowed to act on it. I think the reason people get bent outta shape about it in public is because we only accept what we are use to seeing. In countries where breastfeeding is "more common" they don't tweek in public since this is what they are use to seeing. Pregnancy was a very physically traumatic experience for me unfortunately :( I do feel during this time had someone "pushed" the issue on me it would have upset me greatly, but if I wanted to breastfeed and someone had made a big deal about it, this too would have upset me. Women should do what's best for them, their child, and whatever their circumstances may be.
newbieblue
07-28-2010, 02:56 PM
Using a covet over the breast does make a big difference. So don't take your crabby attitude out on those that don't want to actually see the breast. Its a personal preference an if you ever sprayed breast milk at the table of someone who doesn't want to see it I hope you realize how immature that is. Its not for everyone, no need to be rude.
Obviously it makes a difference. You don't always need to show tits to breast feed. Still people over the internet bitch if all they see is the babies head. I can say whatever the hell I want. Breast feeding isn't the same as taking a shit in public.
You should quit being rude and judgemental yourself.
Biancanz
07-28-2010, 03:43 PM
Gosh there are some pretty radical views on here!!
It's undeniable that breast milk is really important to have when the baby is first born - and is a better alternative to formula. If you were physically able to breastfeed I can't see why you wouldn't at least try do do it if only for a few weeks ....
One of the benefits to you as a mum is that it can help you lose your baby weight faster ... which could be a good thing if you were thinking of going back to work ....
However I totally understand and feel for those that can't feed for medical reasons. I had to stop at 3 months due to this and it was really hard not having that choice. Fortunately I didn't really face the wrath of the b/feeding Nazis but they need to tone it down a bit!!
If you buy a scarf you get pretty good at feeding without anyone being able to see by positioning it over the baby - and pumping is fantastic if you pump in the morning (when you have the most supply) ... that way you can always feed from a bottle if you go out and feel uncomfortable around others.
malayataylor
07-28-2010, 03:51 PM
^ Agree. I'm still stuck on breastfeeding in public being compared to taking a dump in public. That is not only bizzare but it's very stupid for one to think that way.
Nothing wrong with not wanting to breastfeed. We could go on and on about this forever. We're not always gonna agree ladies. Fact of the matter is, Breastfeeding is best for the baby. If you wanna use bottle formula, great.. it's YOUR baby!
HOWEVER, I think not letting the baby get the first milk is just cruel. I just don't understand it.
Arianna419
07-28-2010, 04:03 PM
My son will be 3 in a few weeks and I still have guilt and bitter feelings regarding breastfeeding.
I had a c-section and was out of the hospital and at home by myself within 3 days. He was colicy and would not latch correctly. I pumped my little heart out for 2 months, every 2 hours and cried every single time. It hurt, physically and emotionally.
I felt like a complete failure as a mother and it would sting every time someone would ask if I was breastfeeding. I still have bitterness toward the lactation consutant tht told me "well, I guess you will just have to pump every hour now, won't you?" with this condescending attitude.
Breastfeeding is best, but there ARE people out there who want to, who try with all their might, who stay up all hours of the night attached to a machine or sucking baby, and it just does not work. I think every woman should at least try it, if the baby takes to it and it works out, great. But every woman is different and grouping all formula feeding moms into a "selfish" category isn't very compassionate, kind or loving-- and those are the qualities that are important in making a good mother.
Autumn Lily
07-28-2010, 04:09 PM
My son will be 3 in a few weeks and I still have guilt and bitter feelings regarding breastfeeding.
I had a c-section and was out of the hospital and at home by myself within 3 days. He was colicy and would not latch correctly. I pumped my little heart out for 2 months, every 2 hours and cried every single time. It hurt, physically and emotionally.
I felt like a complete failure as a mother and it would sting every time someone would ask if I was breastfeeding. I still have bitterness toward the lactation consutant tht told me "well, I guess you will just have to pump every hour now, won't you?" with this condescending attitude.
Breastfeeding is best, but there ARE people out there who want to, who try with all their might, who stay up all hours of the night attached to a machine or sucking baby, and it just does not work. I think every woman should at least try it, if the baby takes to it and it works out, great. But every woman is different and grouping all formula feeding moms into a "selfish" category isn't very compassionate, kind or loving-- and those are the qualities that are important in making a good mother.
That's very sad and I'm sorry you had to go through that. But at least you gave it an honest try and that's to be commended :)
The pumps are a completely different experience than a suckling infant. Have you thought of giving it another shot if you have another baby?
I was unable to breastfeed due to health issues (being on bloodthinners during and after pregnancy, being in ICU for pneumonia, blood clots) so I was never physically able to do so. I do think if a mother chooses to breastfeed she should be allowed to act on it. I think the reason people get bent outta shape about it in public is because we only accept what we are use to seeing. In countries where breastfeeding is "more common" they don't tweek in public since this is what they are use to seeing. Pregnancy was a very physically traumatic experience for me unfortunately :( I do feel during this time had someone "pushed" the issue on me it would have upset me greatly, but if I wanted to breastfeed and someone had made a big deal about it, this too would have upset me. Women should do what's best for them, their child, and whatever their circumstances may be.
In all of your posts you seem to find a balance so well. What a voice of reason! Thanks!
GoPoKo
07-28-2010, 10:38 PM
My wife and I just had a baby...Savannah...and she's breastfeeding. Well, hybrid feeding is more like it 'cause 1. the kid's too darn hungry! 2. we both work and I have "baby duty" sometimes ...3. she doesn't make enough milk and 4. there are a couple days (for some) between the "first milk" and the "real milk"...and it's bottle or let the kid scream. To each his own, but this works out great. She pumps at work, and once the teeth come in it's bye bye boobie, but until then this works fine. She's doing 60%, not 100% of the feedings BTW....if there's breast, I'm always "round 2" with bottle, except when I'm working at the club.
Austinrox
07-28-2010, 10:43 PM
In all of your posts you seem to find a balance so well. What a voice of reason! Thanks!
I greatly appreciate this comment! I consider myself to be a very patient, yet open-minded person. I try to keep myself educated about how things are outside of what I am use to. Also, I have spent the past few years in college and took classes I thought I would "never use" ??? BOY did those classes open up my eyes and teach me how to question everything before I form a strong opinion. I have my strong opinions, but I also look at everything that can factor into a situation. I would much rather influence someone to question what's going on around them, than to tell them how something "should" be. Thank you again so much :)
pixierocksonthepole
07-29-2010, 06:20 AM
Obviously it makes a difference. You don't always need to show tits to breast feed. Still people over the internet bitch if all they see is the babies head. I can say whatever the hell I want. Breast feeding isn't the same as taking a shit in public.
You should quit being rude and judgemental yourself.
I'm not being rude. I'm just pointing out there is no reason to jump down another person's throat for thinking it's gross/wrong. Everyone has their own opinions. But the fact is that you simply just want to make others feel uncomfortable about it. It's like the people that hate strippers...would I go parading around in my stripper outfit to piss them off? Hell no, because it is NONE OF THEIR GODDAMN BUSINESS. Just like a mother breastfeeding is NO ONES BUSINESS but her and her baby. And there is nothing wrong with those of us feeling it should stay that way. Leave your tits covered even if you breastfeed in public. It's a simple request. I never said the "Breast feeding - shit in public" thing. So hold that thought for someone else. Nor was I being judgmental. You said some rather disgusting things and i pointed out of rude and immature those actions would make you.
And it's true, it makes you really immature for purposely pissing someone off by squirting your breast milk at them for feeling uncomfortable about seeing your breast in public. Say what you want yes, but actions in the end will speak much louder than words. ;)
_Avery_
07-29-2010, 07:24 AM
Wow, I can't believe this thread is still going on!
I think it was originally intended to be a funny thread, but it turned into a huge debate about breastfeeding...lol
newbieblue
07-29-2010, 12:29 PM
I'm not being rude. I'm just pointing out there is no reason to jump down another person's throat for thinking it's gross/wrong. Everyone has their own opinions. But the fact is that you simply just want to make others feel uncomfortable about it. It's like the people that hate strippers...would I go parading around in my stripper outfit to piss them off? Hell no, because it is NONE OF THEIR GODDAMN BUSINESS. Just like a mother breastfeeding is NO ONES BUSINESS but her and her baby. And there is nothing wrong with those of us feeling it should stay that way. Leave your tits covered even if you breastfeed in public. It's a simple request. I never said the "Breast feeding - shit in public" thing. So hold that thought for someone else. Nor was I being judgmental. You said some rather disgusting things and i pointed out of rude and immature those actions would make you.
And it's true, it makes you really immature for purposely pissing someone off by squirting your breast milk at them for feeling uncomfortable about seeing your breast in public. Say what you want yes, but actions in the end will speak much louder than words. ;)
yeah... i don't really know what the heck your talking about. all i ever said was that breast milk is nutritionally best. that breastfeeding can be done IN A RESTURAUNT without showing boob or even nipples i'm not the one that said "put a blanket over your head" someone else did, so i don't even get why you brought up blankets to me in the first place. you honestly think i would squirt at someone because i don't like the sound of them chewing or the look of them eating? i wasn't serious. i would mind my own business if i felt uncomfortable. someone taking a shit on the other hand would be nasty. you telling people to cover up and thinking you're opinion is the best is just as rude. why should they when it's none of your businesss? what other disgusting things have i said?
pixierocksonthepole
07-29-2010, 04:10 PM
yeah... i don't really know what the heck your talking about. all i ever said was that breast milk is nutritionally best. that breastfeeding can be done IN A RESTURAUNT without showing boob or even nipples i'm not the one that said "put a blanket over your head" someone else did, so i don't even get why you brought up blankets to me in the first place. you honestly think i would squirt at someone because i don't like the sound of them chewing or the look of them eating? i wasn't serious. i would mind my own business if i felt uncomfortable. someone taking a shit on the other hand would be nasty. you telling people to cover up and thinking you're opinion is the best is just as rude. why should they when it's none of your businesss? what other disgusting things have i said?
Take note when I originally pointed this stuff out...I never quoted anyone. You came at me. If you can't handle that then too bad. Everyone else seems to understand what I meant. Did I say that breastfeeding was horrible? No I didn't. I said in the first place...to each their own. I may never do it but it's wrong to attack women that don't. We aren't attacking the women that do. You are just being plain rude. Pretty fucking simple if you ask me.
Kellydancer
07-29-2010, 04:44 PM
Take note when I originally pointed this stuff out...I never quoted anyone. You came at me. If you can't handle that then too bad. Everyone else seems to understand what I meant. Did I say that breastfeeding was horrible? No I didn't. I said in the first place...to each their own. I may never do it but it's wrong to attack women that don't. We aren't attacking the women that do. You are just being plain rude. Pretty fucking simple if you ask me.
I've seen that behavior in public too when it comes to breastfeeding. I stated early in this thread why FOR ME (emphasis for the breastfeeding nazis) it wouldn't be good. I was called selfish, cruel, etc because it's something I wouldn't do. I don't care if another woman does, I don't want to and it doesn't make any of us bad mothers who wouldn't. None of us who will formula feed do not have to explain why we wouldn't, it's all choices. However those who are obsessed with breastfeeding look down on us, which is wrong. After all a generation of us were mostly bottle fed and most turned out well.
I still stand by my comments about those women who nurse and expose the whole breast. I don't care if a woman nurses subtly, however I don't like those where you can see the breast.
newbieblue
07-29-2010, 05:07 PM
Take note when I originally pointed this stuff out...I never quoted anyone. You came at me. If you can't handle that then too bad. Everyone else seems to understand what I meant. Did I say that breastfeeding was horrible? No I didn't. I said in the first place...to each their own. I may never do it but it's wrong to attack women that don't. We aren't attacking the women that do. You are just being plain rude. Pretty fucking simple if you ask me.
If you didn't say "and if you ever sprayed blah blah" in your comment I replied to then I wouldn't have thought it was about me.
I didn't say you said breast feeding was horrible. I never attacked women that don't. I think you're fuckin' rude too. Don't tell people what they should and shouldn't do because it's none of your business.
pixierocksonthepole
07-30-2010, 05:02 AM
If you didn't say "and if you ever sprayed blah blah" in your comment I replied to then I wouldn't have thought it was about me.
I didn't say you said breast feeding was horrible. I never attacked women that don't. I think you're fuckin' rude too. Don't tell people what they should and shouldn't do because it's none of your business.
Where exactly did I tell anyone to do anything? I didn't. I made a polite suggestion. You are the one who got offended by it and that's why you keep bugging me about it.
I don't care if anyone else breastfeeds their children. It's no big deal to me. It would juts be nice for those of us who won't be or can't do so to get some respect from the other side.
So please, get over yourself and remember you aren't the only on on this forum with an opinion.
And by the way the comment I was referring to...was a generalized comment to everyone on the thread and if that hurts your little feelings...too bad. I'm over it. ::)
Now can we please move on?
newbieblue
07-30-2010, 08:32 AM
Where exactly did I tell anyone to do anything? I didn't. I made a polite suggestion. You are the one who got offended by it and that's why you keep bugging me about it.
I don't care if anyone else breastfeeds their children. It's no big deal to me. It would juts be nice for those of us who won't be or can't do so to get some respect from the other side.
So please, get over yourself and remember you aren't the only on on this forum with an opinion.
Now can we please move on?
Not offended here. Other people have been more rude in their way of "suggesting" it than you. I wonder if you would politely suggest to some in real life to cover up. I don't know what your decency standard is, how much skin they can show. I know I'm not the only one with an opinion and nobody can please everyone. You just don't like what I'm saying.
And by the way the comment I was referring to...was a generalized comment to everyone on the thread and if that hurts your little feelings...too bad. I'm over it. ::)
Good for your but this is the internet. You can't ramble on expecting people to know who you're talking to and then single someone out.
Yeah we can move on. You could've stopped responding at any time and you still have that chance.
pixierocksonthepole
07-30-2010, 12:04 PM
Thats funny, I do suggest it in real life. Thank you.
And thank you for rambling. It will be now ignored.
On the other hand, that woman is nuts to be letting her children breast feed for so damn long. As an infant up to no more than two years honestly, and thats pushing it I think, is understandable. But if your kids are that obsessed with them...there may be an issue.
newbieblue
07-30-2010, 12:30 PM
Thats funny, I do suggest it in real life. Thank you.
And thank you for rambling. It will be now ignored.
On the other hand, that woman is nuts to be letting her children breast feed for so damn long. As an infant up to no more than two years honestly, and thats pushing it I think, is understandable. But if your kids are that obsessed with them...there may be an issue.
Me too. Also when I see cleavage on a woman (whis is more skin I've seen than on a breast feeding person usually) I suggest to them that they cover up because I'm sensitive. Even if they're wearing a bikini. I also tell guys with man boobs to wear a bra. Actually, I realize when I go out in public breastfeeding is legal and extremley common and I'll see and hear things I don't like. So I mind my own business. Hopefully you weren't being serious.
Great for you, go back to shouting that you're okay with breast feeding.
pixierocksonthepole
07-30-2010, 12:35 PM
Why in the hell are you still dragging this on exactly?
Seriously.
Drop it.
newbieblue
07-30-2010, 12:36 PM
Why in the hell are you still dragging this on exactly?
Seriously.
Drop it.
I thought you were going to ignore me. Guess you won't drop it either.
Edit: Now you sent me a message telling me to shut up. And you're not immature or a hypocrite at all? Lol.
Zofia
07-30-2010, 04:41 PM
I breast fed for two years, including at work and school. My employer, at the time, had an agreement with a day care provider across the street. I was welcome to go over at anytime and breast feed. They even had a couple of nice rooms for moms who wanted privacy. Baring my breasts to feed never struck me as sexual though. I was also working on my MBA at night. Duke, did not have a breastfeeding friendly policy. But, I did it anyway. I think breastfeeding is important because it does give the baby the best nutrition possible and we're built to do it.
pixierocksonthepole
07-30-2010, 06:02 PM
I thought you were going to ignore me. Guess you won't drop it either.
Edit: Now you sent me a message telling me to shut up. And you're not immature or a hypocrite at all? Lol.
Because you need to drop it that makes me a hypocrite and immature?
Omg. I went on to discuss the video. Stop trolling around. It's annoying.
Zofia- I think its great when there are places that provide for women to breast feed. It's a smart move for them. And I don't personally see it as a sexual thing, just a personal time for the Mother and Child. :)
newbieblue
07-30-2010, 06:28 PM
Because you need to drop it that makes me a hypocrite and immature?
Omg. I went on to discuss the video. Stop trolling around. It's annoying.
Zofia- I think its great when there are places that provide for women to breast feed. It's a smart move for them. And I don't personally see it as a sexual thing, just a personal time for the Mother and Child. :)
Telling me to shut up and needing to have the last word is immature. You think your opinions needs to be respected and you don't respect others. Telling me to realize my opinion isn't the only one and acting like yours is the best.
Yep.
You tried to talk about the video once. And really nobody cares if you think breastfeeding is sexual or your personal feelings about it.
Also if you want me to stop talking quit talking to me! I'm not the one telling you to shut up.
PleasureVictim
07-30-2010, 07:38 PM
What a wacky world in regards to the video.
We have to agree to let others do as they wish with their own children. I pumped and fed my daughter breastmilk in a bottle. She's healthy and she is very attached to me, which I bet had little to do with being breastfed.
This is a personal choice.
Miss Jessica
08-04-2010, 06:46 PM
That video is just demented in my opinion. But that's just my opinion. I'll breastfeed up to 6 months, possibly longer. But after a year it's a done deal. I like this comment someone left on the video, "Silly children, have they not tasted OJ" lol
Angel75217
08-04-2010, 06:55 PM
Sure my opinion counts for very little since I've had no children but I grew up with hippies so you know I'm all about the breast feeding. 8 is a bit much! Kids i grew up with were breast fed until about 3 and they turned out wonderful. That's what i plan on doing with my kids...
Spankie55
08-04-2010, 07:01 PM
The mother has a SERIOUS mental problem. She can't let go.
Breastfeeding has amazing benefits!,but for this long is sick.
natyempress
08-09-2010, 05:59 AM
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natyempress
08-09-2010, 06:00 AM
I could never breast feed till 8 though, lol.. I plan in weening her around 1. by 2 years i'm done!
malayataylor
08-24-2010, 09:18 AM
Thought this was interesting.
Ms. Mia Roberts
08-24-2010, 09:50 AM
Thought this was interesting. http://www.emaxhealth.com/1506/women-stage-breastfeeding-protest-arizona-mcdonalds
I plan on boob feeding in public. And no, i'm not going to throw a blanket of myself or try to hide the fact that i have a boob in my newborn's mouth.
If anyone has a problem with it, they can pick an ass cheek.
Any women who breastfeed should know that it is against the law to be kicked out for breastfeeding by anyone except the owner of the establishment. And even then, if the only reason they have for kicking you out is breastfeeding, than that is a case of discrimination.
Don't feel like you have to go just because some douche bag manager says so.
BabyMolly77
08-24-2010, 02:53 PM
The mother has a SERIOUS mental problem. She can't let go.
Breastfeeding has amazing benefits!,but for this long is sick.
This! Ladies, the laws that allow us to breastfeed freely in public are there for a reason!
Before I had my son, I planned on formula-feeding. When I learned about the benefits of breastmilk, I thought I would try pumping and bottle feeding, too. The idea of a baby sucking milk out of my ta-tas seemed really weird to me.
Totally different story now that he's here! He loves breastfeeding. He's really comforted by it. Realize that pumping and bottle feeding takes twice as long! Plus the antibodies in breastmilk "die" (for lack of a better word) when frozen. :(
malayataylor
08-24-2010, 04:34 PM
I plan on boob feeding in public. And no, i'm not going to throw a blanket of myself or try to hide the fact that i have a boob in my newborn's mouth.
If anyone has a problem with it, they can pick an ass cheek.
Any women who breastfeed should know that it is against the law to be kicked out for breastfeeding by anyone except the owner of the establishment. And even then, if the only reason they have for kicking you out is breastfeeding, than that is a case of discrimination.
Don't feel like you have to go just because some douche bag manager says so.
Lol.. i feel the same way.
OJenni!
08-24-2010, 05:23 PM
I plan on boob feeding in public. And no, i'm not going to throw a blanket of myself or try to hide the fact that i have a boob in my newborn's mouth.
If anyone has a problem with it, they can pick an ass cheek.
Any women who breastfeed should know that it is against the law to be kicked out for breastfeeding by anyone except the owner of the establishment. And even then, if the only reason they have for kicking you out is breastfeeding, than that is a case of discrimination.
Don't feel like you have to go just because some douche bag manager says so.
Same here. No children yet, but when I do I will be out there breast feeding.
8? Well not that I have a problem with the age of the child, I would however have concerns about the child being bullied at school.
I was breastfed until 6 months, my brother on the other hand was breastfed till he was almost 4. My mom cut him off for becoming too demanding of it. He would often yell "mommy booby time!" in public and then throw a tantrum for not getting it. He also started biting her hard. He became very aggressive and controlling of the breast feeding so it had to stop.
I showed my mom this video and her thoughts were that if she could do it again, she would have cut my brother off at 1 year old. Her thoughts of "feeding kids as long as they want" were that it shows the kid that they control the situation and not the parent.
Oh and if it means anything, my brother (who is now 23) just got out of prison for pointing a gun at a cop. So not everyone who is breastfed grows up to be some "fine upstanding individual".
Don't get the OP. The video is extreme and exaggerated something that for most of us is normal. My wife breastfed until the littles ones were around 2 or so and then weaned them. Unclear why this was even posted.
FBR
Don't get the OP. The video is extreme and exaggerated something that for most of us is normal. My wife breastfed until the littles ones were around 2 or so and then weaned them. Unclear why this was even posted.
FBR
I thought it was funny :D