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Hockeyfan_4
09-02-2010, 03:03 PM
No Rick It is really is about appreciation. Why is it so hard for you to think that somebody can't do something nice for someone else with out having an alterior motive? It's just a "hey you do an excellent job" kind of thing. Weather it's money or anything else. The whole reason I said "Don't say Money" in my original post is if I just give her a big tip and nothing more not even a "hey you are wonderful at what you do" how is that going to say I appreciate the time and effort you take in providing me with a great time every time I go and see you. I am beginning to think your just looking for an argument. But..... If you have any ideas I am all ears. :banghead:

Elvia
09-02-2010, 03:25 PM
^^^ If you give us a nice tip we will naturally assume you are pleased with the service you received. If there's any doubt than you can certainly mention something like "wow, that was really great! You deserve this" while handing over a tip. I'm sure that would make her feel appreciated. Don't get me wrong, compliments are nice even when they don't come with a tip. But actions speak louder than words, and it also lets her know that you understand that this is her job and that you respect that. I know I'm always much more comfortable and relaxed when I know a customer understands that.

KS_Stevia
09-02-2010, 07:48 PM
As Marlow Stanfield said to the convenience store security guard in an episode of the Wire:

"You want it to be one way, but it's the other way."

Like! Like! Like!

jessica_rabbit
09-03-2010, 03:49 AM
... it also lets her know that you understand that this is her job and that you respect that. I know I'm always much more comfortable and relaxed when I know a customer understands that.

Exactly. I truly respect and enjoy some of my customers. When they understand that my job is to entertain them ITC and they leave it at that, then I can actually relax and have a good time. At this point if they choose to tip me or give me a small token of appreciation I am honestly grateful because I'm fairly sure that they have no ulterior motive.

rickdugan
09-03-2010, 06:30 AM
No Rick It is really is about appreciation. Why is it so hard for you to think that somebody can't do something nice for someone else with out having an alterior motive? It's just a "hey you do an excellent job" kind of thing. Weather it's money or anything else. The whole reason I said "Don't say Money" in my original post is if I just give her a big tip and nothing more not even a "hey you are wonderful at what you do" how is that going to say I appreciate the time and effort you take in providing me with a great time every time I go and see you. I am beginning to think your just looking for an argument. But..... If you have any ideas I am all ears. :banghead:


Methinks thou dost protest too much. ::)

Putting that aside for a moment, as I (and others) have already said repeatedly, good (and routine) tipping and sincere compliments are the most appropriate way to express gratitude, even if it is not the answer you want to hear.

Do anything else and you stand a great chance of coming off as either pathetic or creepy. This is not a boy/girl thing to the dancer, but rather a customer/dancer dynamic.

Take it or leave it, but there it is.

Perry
09-03-2010, 11:06 AM
Well, once I mentioned to a regular that I never buy expensive earrings because I'm afraid I'll loose them. A few days later, he showed up with a pair of diamound earrings that screw into the back! Haha, I had trouble getting them off!

He was a great guy though. He'd take me to the VIP - or just back for dances depending on the club and just have me sit and talk. Absolutely sweet dude. Never got out of line, was always there to save me from the deal dances, never pulled anything. He was my FAVORITE person in the world some nights! Because he never wanted anything in return. Funny story, I actually ended up with a crush on him.

But yeah, if she's mentioned something like that, it's a sweet gesture. I've had regs bring me my brand of cigarettes and cans of red bull... Stuff that's sealed is always cool. On top of getting dances - even better if you don't make her dance, just let her hang out and talk. Again, though, it's probably best if you've been seeing her on a fairly regular basis for awhile. Otherwise, it's kinda odd.

If you have an alterier motive - trying to get her OTC, or a number or extras though, she'll see right through it. If that's your goal (and we're usually suspiciouse it is for awhile) just buy dances and keep it professional.

Let's see here... I've told customers I like to play my DS in the locker room and got a video game. Dog toys for my puppy, but I'm sure cat toys would work, too if she has one. But, please, don't ever think it's a substitue for money! One looser used to give us scratch off lotto tickets and stuffed animals.

Just make sure you've built up a reputation with her before trying this. Otherwise, it will probably end up in the trash can in the locker room.

Other great moves, "save" her from the deal dances. Like a 2 for 1 - but pay her for 2 dances. Offer to pay her house fee. Ask if the club takes a cut of her dances and pay the difference.

yoda57us
09-03-2010, 06:30 PM
I am beginning to think your just looking for an argument. But..... If you have any ideas I am all ears. :banghead:

Dude, this is what we do here....

In any event, the answer is simple. Buy her a Mercedes and park it in the club's parking lot wrapped in a red bow. Leave a cute card (I really like peanuts and shoebox greetings myself) on the dashboard telling her that you think she is a fabulous entertainer. Give her the keys instead of a tip after you buy your next round of lap dances. I'm sure she will appreciate your efforts!

FBR
09-03-2010, 07:40 PM
Dude, this is what we do here....



That is exactly right. Not saying I have found salvation yet or do not fall off the wagon once in a while in terms of being a PL but feedback from the veterans (who while possibly entangled in their own drama can still offer objective advise) is pretty valuable. No need to bang your head against the wall. Just listen.

FBR

jack0177057
09-03-2010, 09:10 PM
No Rick It is really is about appreciation. Why is it so hard for you to think that somebody can't do something nice for someone else with out having an alterior motive? It's just a "hey you do an excellent job" kind of thing. Weather it's money or anything else. The whole reason I said "Don't say Money" in my original post is if I just give her a big tip and nothing more not even a "hey you are wonderful at what you do" how is that going to say I appreciate the time and effort you take in providing me with a great time every time I go and see you. I am beginning to think your just looking for an argument. But..... If you have any ideas I am all ears. :banghead:

I think you're being somewhat sincere, but let's overanalyze a little... cause I'm bored.

Do you show appreciation for everyone that does an "excellent job" - the old woman working the cashier at the grocery store, the young acne-faced kid at McDonald's drive-by window, the big cleaning lady at work, the pizza delivery person,...? --- or do you only show appreciation for the type of "excellent job" that involves a hot chick grinding on you, breathing on your neck, brushing her silky hair on your body, rubbing her amazing breasts on your face - and giving you the fantasy to get you through a week of masturbation?

Ofcourse you want to fuck her. There is nothing wrong with that - repeat after me - "I want to fuck that hot dancer." Say it again, louder... again.

Having established that you DO want to fuck her, the question is - are you ONLY willing to show her appreciation because you actually HOPE and PRAY to fuck her some day, or at least, getting some extra mileage from her.

I trust that you are not harboring this delusion and you really just want to show your appreciation, even if you never ever get any extra mileage for your efforts.

First, make it clear to her that you have no agenda. During your chat, tell the dancer you have a GF you love and you are in a happy relationship. I've noticed dancers relaxing more when I mention I'm in a LTR and that I just visit the SC for innocent erotic entertainment, so I don't get bored watching only one woman naked.

AFTER she is convinced that you have NO AGENDA and are not a stalker (i.e., she knows you already have a woman in your life), then you can begin to show some appreciation with small token gifts, like the ones already mentioned. The best idea is something that shows you were really listening to her (e.g., a rare version of her favorite book, a CD collection of her favorite band, a hard-to-find toy she used to play with as a child, etc. - something very unique and special to her).

ilbbaicnl
09-06-2010, 11:32 AM
When I've traveled outside that country and brought them stuff back, that seemed to go over well, even though the items were not expensive. But 99% of the time, rather than buy them something they could easily buy themselves, it's better to just give them the money.

When a dancer comes over to you, within 30 seconds, ask her if she wants to start the dances or if she wants to wait a bit. If she says, "it's up to you", start the dances at the start of the next song. Dancers appreciate it when they can get your money without having to miss the chance to get someone else's money. (If that bothers you, go to Hooters, that's where hot women who aren't so serious about making money work.) After the dances, when she's saying goodbye, tell her to come by and chat if things get slow, so you don't give the impression you don't like her company.

Grouchy strippers are generally into the dom/sub thing. You can show your appreciation to them by pathetically still wanting them to like you even though they think you are a contemptuous piece of shit. (If you could dominate them, you never would have asked this question, so don't even think about it.)