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kellyallstar
07-20-2011, 06:48 PM
have to clean the apartment...boo.

4everresolutions
07-20-2011, 06:49 PM
Hi ho...Hi ho...It's off to work I go......):

penandink1019
07-20-2011, 07:03 PM
Company I work for a bit now wants to hire me full time. Blah. Feels like dating someone casually and hearing, unexpectedly, that she has been thinking about marriage. There is no graceful way out of this, is there?

SweetNaughty
07-20-2011, 08:26 PM
THE KILLS totally fuckin' rock!

Kellydancer
07-20-2011, 09:06 PM
Why in the hell do I think about my ex when I strike out again with online dating? Online dating is harder to do than I realize and hard. I want him back so bad and I know it's because I am having such a hard time.

unbeleavable
07-20-2011, 09:09 PM
How many fucking Kellys are there?

Kellydancer
07-20-2011, 09:09 PM
I'm the non fucking Kelly, btw (though I think I'm going out to randomly fuck some guy). After all, since it looks like I'm not getting married ever, why be abstinent?

unbeleavable
07-20-2011, 09:12 PM
I'm the non fucking Kelly, btw (though I think I'm going out to randomly fuck some guy). After all, since it looks like I'm not getting married ever, why be abstinent?

Very Funny...you made me laugh.

Kellydancer
07-20-2011, 09:36 PM
Very Funny...you made me laugh.

I needed that. I used to be the fucking Kelly now I'm not so I need to be again.

I'm just disgusted with online dating. Ugh does anyone on these dating sites have a job and no kids? Then they argue with me.Oh and I had this 60 year old guy who asked me to come to Kentucky to fuck him. I told him if he gave me $10,000 I would (but I wouldn't).

SweetNaughty
07-20-2011, 09:43 PM
I have a (low paying) job and no kids, with a masters' degree. C'mon "Kd" don't fight the chemistry.

lopaw
07-20-2011, 09:58 PM
Garbage is back!
Holla!
I'm absolutely in love with Shirley Manson :lovestruc.

DesuvsDeath
07-20-2011, 10:10 PM
Garbage is back!
Holla!
I'm absolutely in love with Shirley Manson :lovestruc.
Aren't we all?

She's like #2 for me... right behind Lacey Mosley. Ohhh Lacey. <3333

Kellydancer
07-20-2011, 10:31 PM
Garbage rocks. I used to dance to Stupid Girl.

4everresolutions
07-20-2011, 10:37 PM
Yay Garbage! I dance to #1 Crush all the time. Loves me some sexy women vocalists.

SweetNaughty
07-21-2011, 01:51 AM
^^^ Doesn't drinking that much booze affect sexual performance too?

SweetNaughty
07-21-2011, 01:52 AM
I love the band Garbage....Hopefully they have some "juice" left. :)

SweetNaughty
07-21-2011, 02:07 AM
^^^ "That's not right!!"

kellyallstar
07-21-2011, 03:11 AM
have no clue what the heck you're on about. Im also hungry, and tired...niteees x

Davey17
07-21-2011, 03:42 AM
Oh, he's ALWAYS been an asshole...lol
but that's just his personality. We've had some HUGE problems in the past, but have worked through them and when we moved out here to Wisconsin, things were great. (They still are)
I was just frustrated because with a newborn, and a 3.5 year old, I feel like I'm doing A LOT more. I get ESPECIALLY frustrated when he is sleeping while I am up 3-4 times a night and up early while he just...SLEEPS.

He DOES work, but he doesn't help around the house and that drives me nuts. (Then again, I AM ocd and have to have everything a certain way.... :/ )
but it would at least help if he could feed the baby, or hold him while I get what I need to do done.

It's frustrating when I am folding clothes, Kane is crying, I stop folding clothes to console him when if he would just remove himself from the computer and pick him up, it wouldn't take me 30 minutes to fold a load of laundry...

He IS a good dad...he REALLLYYY is. He does play with out oldest. Goes outside and launches bottle rockets, plays kick ball, wrestles with him...and I DO appreciate that.

I was just venting on the fact that I am tired too and I don't think it's fair that he gets to sleep just because he works a few days a week. I am going back to work tonight and am pretty darn sure that I will still be getting up when I get home 2am changing diapers and doing feedings...and then up at 7 in the morning. Getting my oldest breakfast, teeth brushed, cleaning the kitchen, laundry, etc...while he is sleeping.

THAT'S what drives me crazy. The fact that our sleep schedules just aren't fair.

On his days off, he's up until 3 in the morning doing whatever it is he does....and says he's too tired to wake up at 7...WELL..DUH!
I'm tired too...it's not like I got a nice continuous sleep like he does.

Yesterday, I took both kids to Wal Mart to get a few things, I come home, and he's just sitting on the computer. The house is trashed. PERSONALLY, I think he could have cleaned up the living room. DID SOMETHING!

but not...the computer is more important than a clean house.

and I admit, I am totally ocd and anal about having a clean house...and impatient.
but when the trash is piling over, I think he could at least take it out to the shed. When he wants to "fluff" up a shirt in the dryer, FOLD THE CLOTHES THAT WERE IN THERE! Don't just throw them on top of the dryer.

When there is 2 drops of milk in the milk jug...JUST USE IT OR THROW IT AWAY! Nothing is more irritating then pouring a bowl of cereal and then having 2 drops of milk!! LOL

When the baby OBVIOUSLY has a stinky diaper, don't hand him to me...just go change it!

When my oldest is asking for a drink, while I'm feeding the baby, and he obviously hears him asking for something to drink...then I don't see why he can't get up and get it..rather than me either carrying the baby with the bottle and one handed getting my other kid a drink.

I've mastered everything one handed....lol

he has become a good guy...don't get me wrong, but he will always be an asshole....that's his personality. He bitches about me spending $20 on hair products, but when he wanted to go out with his friends, THEN it's okay for me to get the rest of the products I needed for my hair?! It's only okay for me to get something when he wants something.....

I can't just treat myself to something just because...

The world will see it in August or September when our show airs...lol

and I know tonight is gonna be an issue. He no longer wants me to dance. (Which, honestly...I don't really wanna dance either) but I NEED to for the mean time to supplement our income.

and just because I recently got back on some meds for my anxiety...I don't need to be called crazy.

It's frustrating when he fights, because he throws low blows. Because of my past, he throws it in my face that he can take my kids from me...(when he has a past too...my ass just got caught! lol)

I mean, it's not bad...it sounds bad....I was just frustrated the other night about him going out because I'd REALLLLLY like to go out. It's been a long time and I really think I deserve it. But whenever I want to go out it's always a huge deal. I dunno, maybe it will be different when I ever the oppertunity to go out again. I guess we'll see.

We're okay today and he's actually helping me clean! He's actually out there cleaning the shed....but...I jus tknow it's gonna be an unfinished project....sooo...yeah...I'm totally rambling with my life story..lol

Basically...what I'm trying to say is that my job is 24/7...no days off. I have ZERO problem cleaning, and taking care of the kids, and cooking, etc when he's at work. (Yes, with me being at home, I have a little more freedom with TV, the internet...but even now, I have a baby and bottle in one hand, typing with the other...gets boring just sitting here..lol) HOWEVER, on his days off, I would APPRECIATE help since I don't really ever get a day off. Being a parent is a 24/7 356 day a year job...for me AND him.


What you must do Avery is address these issues , you have bared your Soul here , now you cant just leave at this ..THEN WAIT UNTIL YOU BLOW UP IN ANGER .We all know how that will end ..in a HUGE fight , with at best a temporary walk out .

Its extremely difficult and incredibly taxing when you have young children , and lets be HONEST , hes not working much ..only 3 days , so we are talking about priority , and organisational skills .

First of all ..Loose the Anal element , and be flexible ..otherwise you are going to continue doing EVERYTHING ..just be flexible with how the jobs are done . Then WRITE A list , and delegate the tasks with initials and a TIME limit ..and be FAIR ..dont lumber 3/4 of the work on yourself ..Work out how many hours you dance and travel , equate the tasks relevant to the hours worked .. Then call a meeting ..dont make it seem like a big deal ..just say " We need 15 minutes sweetie ..to sit down and have a talk " ..remember ALL must be in Writing , so you can keep these Schedules around the house . This should include bonding time with the Baby ..and caring during the Evening ....

Believe me if you think .." I CAN HANDLE IT " ..this is how big issues are created , because this will become a Big deal ... also included in your writings must be minimun standards required , on your house ..Dishes , Washing , Cooking . Child CARE ..externals ..etc etc ... I know it sounds a little Military , but if you really want to enjoy your relationship ..You need to get these actions in Place ..

Good Luck ..and all the best ..hope you can find some Balance

:) :D:O:O Davey17

Davey17
07-21-2011, 04:04 AM
Ugh, what can I do to get my SO to stop fucking drinking? 14 beers is not normal. I'm sick of my hard earned money going to alcohol, especially because I rarely spend money on myself. Yeah, I spent $60 at Sephora yesterday when I still had rent due and bills to pay, but I fucking deserved it. I've been working my ass off and I haven't spent money on myself in forever.

I know this one well , and its really not easy ..But here goes .....

Lets start with a definition of an alcholic ( many will be upsaet by this but true ..research yourself ) 37 Standard drinks per week ..this is what helped me stop . I at one point was between 50 - 70 standard drinks per week ...It was mainly habit , but there was addiction also , no friends would have known , I held it well and kept it private .

Affects sexual performance ? ..My word it does .. you appreciate that more afterwards however .

For me , the first step was to just have 2 kleen days of no drinking per week ..this was really difficult and took some determination and time , but I managed . I really would many drink Wine / Scotch Whiskey ..mostly alone , outside of the smell , but attitude would just change a bit , bit more aggressive , but never violent .

From my 2 free days , I built alternate activities , I made them involve driving ..DUI ( in Australia ) is a bigger deal , and much easier to get caught than the USA , therefore I would make sure NO liquor ..from there I gradually built on the activities and interests ..eg: physical pursuits , a walking course , and a gym class in the evening ..Basically , anything you can think of where the grog WILL NOT be ...but everybody is a little different .

Ive now been completely clean for Four months ...but its a day by day thing and I gave it a Serve for a long time , but I just reached a point where I knew I needed other things ... I can pretty much do everything without the Grog now ..mainly because Ive broken the Habit .

First thing is to Admit the problem * A major thing * ..After admitting it , you have the potential to address it , I also like the " Mass marketing thought " eg : Companies making money out of misery ...all sold along the lines of " Incredible Joy and Happiness " ..which we all know is B/S .

Its a case of having complete control , and really facing the demons ..thats probably the hardest , as most will always remain in Denial ..thats pretty common .

Hope this helps in some small Way ..* Sip , Sip of Nam * ( Water ) lol

:D:D:'(:'(/:O

Davey17
07-21-2011, 04:34 AM
Totally agree with all the points here but things dont fit into a cookie cutter..

for example:

I was with my partner 2 years before I ever danced and hes a university grad with a great job and makes decent money.

I work 2 nights a week because Im studying to become a vet...

He just is jealous because we used to spend a lot of time together and now dont. Im working on that but theres only so much I can do while studying.

Im definitely not the most professional dancer but thats cause its not my profession. Its a means to an end for me, as it is for the vast majority. But at the same time its an outlet... its the one time when I can be a bit messy, but that doesnt mean Id still rather win the lotto and never wear a pair of heals again. I think its something men can never really understand because its what makes us different.

I always speak my mind. }:D Thats part of the problem lol.

I do appreciate the feedback though and I do believe your ideas are good... but some just dont fit the situation.

So True Jessie .... None of us all fit into a particular Scenario .

And I certainly accept the point about education / employment ..etc etc ..

I do think its good that you speak your mind ..maybe occassionaly you may speak it too aggressively with him ..But far better than bottling it all inside .

Actually ..one of the most successful dancers I know , is a Lawyer from NSW , she only dances on occassion now , But certainly STILL dances ..Only in Melbourne however . So Im more than aware of the many many different Webs We all Weave .

Good Stuff! :D

4everresolutions
07-21-2011, 04:59 AM
Why do we have under-aged users on here from time to time, that ADMIT they're under 18? We've got one running around saying "when I turn 18 in October" and people are actually answering her questions.

I have no qualms with 18 year olds joining SW; hell, join at midnight on your birthday. But minors on here freak me out. And the ones who ADMIT to not being 18 freak me out more; they obviously don't have the common sense to be a stripper yet.

Davey17
07-21-2011, 05:07 AM
Hey anyone who is a little bored ..Please listen live ( on net only in the background naturally ) to Matt and Moses .....

www.3rpp.com.au ( Its Aussie community radio ) ..NOW for 2 HOURS , you can even call in if you wish +61 3 597 88 605 ( outside Aus ) ..Just a fun show , the boys are not paid !

Davey17
07-21-2011, 05:09 AM
Hey anyone who is a little bored ..Please listen live ( on net only in the background naturally ) to Matt and Moses .....

www.3rpp.com.au (http://www.3rpp.com.au) ( Its Aussie community radio ) ..NOW for 2 HOURS , you can even call in if you wish +61 3 597 88 605 ( outside Aus ) ..Just a fun show , the boys are not paid !


A voice from the USA would be kinda fun ! lol lol ..but it is just community Radio .:D

4everresolutions
07-21-2011, 05:13 AM
^I tried to listen but it didn't come through. :(

Davey17
07-21-2011, 05:39 AM
^I tried to listen but it didn't come through. :(

Thankyou ...Ive got it on now ..

Did you click on " Listen Live " ..It should come though !!

Thanks For trying : Davey :D

Davey17
07-21-2011, 05:41 AM
^I tried to listen but it didn't come through. :(


http://www.3rpp.com.au/stream ....Should Work ..

No wonder the boys dont get an Audience!:D

Davey17
07-21-2011, 05:46 AM
Why do we have under-aged users on here from time to time, that ADMIT they're under 18? We've got one running around saying "when I turn 18 in October" and people are actually answering her questions.

I have no qualms with 18 year olds joining SW; hell, join at midnight on your birthday. But minors on here freak me out. And the ones who ADMIT to not being 18 freak me out more; they obviously don't have the common sense to be a stripper yet.

I think that ( in most cases ) 18 is still too young ... Because I dont think many can handle the emotional element of dancing . Now to say " Heh , Im nearly 18 ..and can you help " ...Hmmmm , Im not sure thats a very good idea at all . But My experience tells me that most Really Really cant handle it .:O

chanzep
07-21-2011, 07:33 AM
this week at work sucks argh!

Redwolf
07-21-2011, 08:11 AM
For the first time, I put a SW member on ignore.

Eva Rose
07-21-2011, 09:08 AM
I'd almost forgotten how much I love Leonard Cohen :)

lemiwinks31
07-21-2011, 12:37 PM
OK.....office AC cant keep up with the heat.....

Looks like a good day to take off early.

Almost Jaded
07-21-2011, 03:50 PM
I'd almost forgotten how much I love Leonard Cohen

Eva just became one of my favorite members ever, and I don't think I've ever conversed with her before, lol. If you fit the usual demographic for this site, it's somewhat surprising (though not unheard of) that you know his work very well; most younger folk - and I mean under 40 and thus including myself - don't know him.

I LOVE Leonard Cohen's music. That man is simply amazing. I count myself blessed to have been able to see him live twice; including what may very well have been his last ever show. He's even better live! *sighs and drift off in my head remembering the last concert*

On another note - I have my suspicions that Cyril/Laxman/Brigham/whatever else he's gone by over the years is back. I've become rather adept at recognizing him from posting style and writing/grammatical style alone when I see it. We shall see... :rolleyes:

Sia
07-21-2011, 04:49 PM
If you fit the usual demographic for this site, it's somewhat surprising (though not unheard of) that you know his work very well; most younger folk - and I mean under 40 and thus including myself - don't know him.
I LOVE Leonard Cohen's music.

Another Cohen fan here. I have to be, we're Canadian! :P

He is also a good author, have you read any of his works?

4everresolutions
07-21-2011, 05:41 PM
Another Cohen fan here. I have to be, we're Canadian! :P

He is also a good author, have you read any of his works?

YESS!!!! Love me some Cohen. So melodic. We breed 'em talented up here.

I've read his poetry but not his novels.

sananeko
07-21-2011, 07:38 PM
Yay I'm back.. I do say it wasn't all bad.. I got a project done.

Kellydancer
07-21-2011, 07:55 PM
Leonard Cohen is great. He is somewhat of an acquired taste I think.

Ok, who is Laxman? Is it that asshole Dolce who's bragging about his exploits and sending posters nasty pms?

Trem
07-21-2011, 08:07 PM
Laxman sounds familiar, old member?

SweetNaughty
07-21-2011, 08:21 PM
I have a VERY little listened to "Essential Leonard Cohen" double CD set......Who wants to buy it from me?

DolceandGabbana
07-21-2011, 08:35 PM
When did calling a spade a spade become forbidden.

Kellydancer
07-21-2011, 09:04 PM
Dolce, after you sent that vicious message to BringOnTheMen that put you in the asshole category. How dare you tell a woman that she deserved to be attacked by a customer? Btw, there are many good men here who in fact agree with what I posted that no dancer deserves to be attacked.

4everresolutions
07-21-2011, 09:14 PM
^Whats going on now? Someone dumb it down for me.

Kellydancer
07-21-2011, 09:17 PM
^Whats going on now? Someone dumb it down for me.

Basically, BOTM posted about her attack, then Dolce sent her a pm stating something like she deserved it. If you haven't read his thread in customer conversation you need to. He brags about how rich and hot he is and how he bites strippers because he's so hot.

DolceandGabbana
07-21-2011, 09:28 PM
Basically, BOTM posted about her attack, then Dolce sent her a pm stating something like she deserved it. If you haven't read his thread in customer conversation you need to. He brags about how rich and hot he is and how he bites strippers because he's so hot.

I never said she deserved to be attacked. I said i'm i not condoning the guys behavior. I said she knew he wasted. She should of been extra cautious with him.
Also i never said i was rich. I take a portion of capital gains from investments and have fun.

4everresolutions
07-21-2011, 09:42 PM
I never said she deserved to be attacked. I said i'm i not condoning the guys behavior. I said she knew he wasted. She should of been extra cautious with him.
Also i never said i was rich. I take a portion of capital gains from investments and have fun.

What do you suggest that she could have done differently? The MAJORITY of the customers I dance for are drunk. The Majority try to disrobe or strip either right in the beginning of a dance or during; I tell about 90% of my customers "No. You can't get naked. Put that back on" and 89% listen the first time. If we turned down VIPs or CR's from every drunk customer, or customer who thought he could take his pants off, we'd never make any money. What was she supposed to do - handcuff the guy? There was a floor walker going around, she was in beaded off area but it wasn't closed in; it was as safe as she could make it at that moment. Lots of drunk guys only need one reminder to keep their pants on and sit still - she had no way of knowing he was going to flip shit. Don't be such a crass dick.

anouk.oui
07-21-2011, 10:34 PM
i would suggest growing eyes on the back of ones head. not literally. but i never put up with any of that coz i was soooooooooooooooo cautious.

anyway

i been wanting to comment on the jessie/avery dillema for days but my internet is shit.
wanted to chime in with how ridiculously over work i am. i made $40 last fri and im hoping tonight wont be a repeat of that and my mum is nagging me that maybe i should do bartending if dancing still dont pay enough AND i have to get naked.

i love performing, i love putting shows together i wish i could just get paid to do that. the hustling kills me honestly. i thought i was in the mood but after the 45 mins it took to convince a group of guys to take my friend and i for a dance i was just sooo irritated i cant pretend to care for these losers anymore.

all in all im hoping for a good night coz i havent had one in a while. really really sick of the hustling part of dancing.

Kellydancer
07-21-2011, 11:46 PM
You know, I think too many people settle in life, whether it's a job or a spouse. Guess what happens? A miserable life. I'd rather be "picky" about these things than be miserable.

4everresolutions
07-21-2011, 11:53 PM
You know, I think too many people settle in life, whether it's a job or a spouse. Guess what happens? A miserable life. I'd rather be "picky" about these things than be miserable.

That has to be the smartest thing I've ever heard you say. And that's not a put down. ;D I think we could all do to remember this.

Kellydancer
07-22-2011, 12:10 AM
That has to be the smartest thing I've ever heard you say. And that's not a put down. ;D I think we could all do to remember this.

Thanks. I've been thinking a lot about this lately because too many people tell me I am guy picky and job picky. I admit I am, because I expect certain things and will not accept anything less. Yes it might mean being unemployed/underemployed or single the rest of my life, but this is fine. Much better than the people I know who settled and are with people they don't like and jobs they hate. I've settled in both cases and ended up back where I started anyway.

DesuvsDeath
07-22-2011, 12:12 AM
That has to be the smartest thing I've ever heard you say. And that's not a put down.

COMPLETELY UNRELATED TO WHAT YOU QUOTED, BUT:
Going to start saying this to people who say really dumb things in such a way that I REALLY sound like I'm complimenting them... so that no one will want to be the bitch who yells at me for being sarcastic so I don't hurt the person I'm quoting's feelings. /win