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JoeUnCool
10-17-2010, 06:18 PM
The world is going to end now. I agree with Bem. Nothing wrong with my SO going to another club. Hell, I would prefer he go to another club than come to my club. In fact, my SO was a bouncer at one club when I danced a couple of miles down the road at another.

I've never shared finances with an SO. But if we were sharing finances and strapped for cash, and he spent too much of it in the club, or on anything, I would be pissed.

But going to another club with his buddy for a drink? What's the big deal?

I find the feelings of dancers to be all over the map on this subject. Some could care less, others are to the point of cutting the guy's balls off. I do think that most women are concerned at some level about this. If a woman is concerned about this, well, maybe she should do a better job of taking care of business at home..........

Sincerely, the male chauvinist pig.

bem401
10-18-2010, 05:33 AM
This is admirable behavior on your part BEM. It's your friend who needs to be more in touch with the emotions of the women he is involved in a relationship with. As I've posted many times I have been friendly with and dated dancers who came down on both sides of this issue. Some have even changed their minds...and changed them back...a few times. Lol, something about it being a woman's prerogative comes to mind. If the lines of communication are open the guy involved should know how his dancer GF feels about him going to strip clubs and he should respect that. I have to be honest, it's never been a topic that dancers were not clear about with me...maybe because I took the time to ask.

Whether you choose to believe it or not, I read everything objectively. That doesn't mean I don't remember the posting history of the people who's posts I'm reading. We will never agree on much here BEM but I read your words, not your mind.

He'd have been wrong to do dances.

He'd have been wrong to try to conceal the visit from her.

Other than that, he should be free to stop for a drink wherever he chooses to go for a drink, particularly if its the type of place she spends 30 hrs a week in. Your case was different. You were going in to be a customer and therefore should have been upfront and asked. His goal, and he achieved it, was to go in and be anything but a customer.

And the problem isn't your reading of my words. It's the conclusions that you (and sometimes only you) draw.

rickdugan
10-18-2010, 06:06 AM
^There you are once again with your aspersions on me... big shocker! I am neither self-righteous, condescending or self congratulatory, but if it comes off that way through text, then oh well, no skin off my back.

It doesn't even matter to me what you say about me. You're entitled to say whatever you want as far as how I strike you, but do I have to care? No. Do I care? No.

So I'm done with this conversation now, it's just futile.

And for the record, OBVIOUSLY I would not consider it "a grave mistake when a woman marries a man, has his children, and then he leaves her holding the bag?" But I DO think women should always be financially independent, married or not. So that by itself is a mistake. Obviously getting married, having kids, then being left by their husband is not. No brainer.

Not casting aspersions at all, just calling it like I see it. And your response was trite. Very few women that I know would have an easy time going it alone with children, and the mistake was NOT hers, but rather the asshole who left her holding the bag after he made a committment to her.

You seem to live in a little bubble world of absolute rights and wrongs. Hey, cool beans, but until you've walked a mile in someone else's shoes you haven't earned the right to criticize them. You have no idea what the circumstances were which brought these girls to the situations that they are in. But rather than letting life run them over by letting their children suffer, they step up. Kudos to them for making such a hard choice. What do you think it is like for these girls, sleeping with guys twice (or more) their age? Do you think that they are peachy happy with it? Or do they do difficult things in order to take care of the children that rely upon them?

Btw, did you ever go on that sugar daddy trip you were talking about? Now I know that you were going to bring a friend so that your virtue would be fully protected, but some girls on this site view any dates with customers outside of the club to be an OTC event. You know, glass houses and all. ;)

Cool that you have established boundaries and life goals, but not cool that you look down upon people who do unpleasant things, that hurt nobody but themselves, in order to feed their families.

yoda57us
10-18-2010, 08:55 AM
he should be free to stop for a drink wherever he chooses to go for a drink, particularly if its the type of place she spends 30 hrs a week in.

The difference BEM is that what you or I think is ok behavior doesn't really matter. What your two friends decide is OK behavior for the two of them is what matters. If his GF is uncomfortable with him hanging out in strip clubs then that is an issue they have to deal with. The fact that she works in a strip club has nothing to do with it. Relationships are not based on the tit-for-tat standard...at least not good ones.


Your case was different. You were going in to be a customer and therefore should have been upfront and asked. His goal, and he achieved it, was to go in and be anything but a customer.

I agree with you BEM (though I do not always go into a club to buy dances), but again, his goal is his goal, her wishes may be different. Obviously it's something that the two of them have to work out and they may never arrive at a solution that makes both of them happy.


And the problem isn't your reading of my words. It's the conclusions that you (and sometimes only you) draw.

Lol, you see this as a problem...I don't.

KS_Stevia
10-18-2010, 05:46 PM
Warning: This is just another one of my kiss-ass posts where I attempt to endear myself to dancers all over the internet while sucking up to KS...


I'm bent over and ready. :P

rickdugan
10-18-2010, 05:53 PM
Warning: This is just another one of my kiss-ass posts where I attempt to endear myself to dancers all over the internet while sucking up to KS...


Expected, accepted and inherently understood. ;D

KS_Stevia
10-18-2010, 05:56 PM
I find the feelings of dancers to be all over the map on this subject. Some could care less, others are to the point of cutting the guy's balls off. I do think that most women are concerned at some level about this. If a woman is concerned about this, well, maybe she should do a better job of taking care of business at home..........

Sincerely, the male chauvinist pig.

True dat. My closest girl friend, at her bachelorette party..not only did we get her groped on stage by the male strippers but we brought a couple back to the hotel room with us. Now, nothing happened, no orgies, we just got drunk with them, and she kicked them out when they started getting too handsy (she isn't a very attractive girl although she tries).

Anyway, when my BF and her brother took her to-be hubby to a strip club, she became LIVID. Even though she knew they were going that night. Even though she had been to clubs with him many times. Even though me, and her two other best friends were all strippers. I never knew she would flip out so badly, she blew up his phone until he came home after an hour. But she was a non-stripper.

Me, I'm just not the jealous type. My stupid ex once took my car to the titty bar when I was out with friends and he didn't want me to go. I didn't care that he spent his money or got 2 phone numbers. I cared that he got shit-faced drunk and drove MY nice car bmw instead of hit old SUV.

Yup, you're right, its across the board with women. Perhaps its something I will be more concerned with when I get older or become involved with a successful man who travels often. Far as it is right now, having a partner who is an SCJ has simply never been an issue.

KS_Stevia
10-18-2010, 06:00 PM
He'd have been wrong to do dances.

He'd have been wrong to try to conceal the visit from her.
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Why would it be wrong to do dances? I always encourage my partners to tip and get dances and spend THEIR (not my) money on strippers, give up some monies to my dancin sistas! Hell, if a man of mine has gone to the SC and NOT at least tipped several girls, I'd be pissed that he's sitting there wasting space like a non-spending SC troll.

If you're in an SC, you don't have to spend money on the girls, but you should. I would be quite unhappy to know one of my boyfriends went to a club and didn't spend any money. FYI, spending money could be as simple as tipping a dollar or two to the girls rotating on the stages closest to you, etc..doesn't mean you must buy lappers or blow your savings.

But yes, its better to not go to the club where your SO is currently working. Jealousies can arise and no one wants confrontations or to make things uncomfortable between a couple.

JoeUnCool
10-18-2010, 06:02 PM
Warning: This is just another one of my kiss-ass posts where I attempt to endear myself to dancers all over the internet while sucking up to KS...

In scj, We all have much more in common ground than we admit. The biggest difference is the degree with which we are open to ideas.

FBR
10-18-2010, 06:23 PM
^ Actually Joe I don't see the boys differing all that much at all. The ladies sometimes come down trying to convince us of the error of our ways (not all but some who think they still wear princess panties). I don't mind and do not moderate them largely because it is pretty fun conversation and you all seem to enjoy the open expression here. Furthermore, I believe quite a few of the ladies even those who look down and see the pink panties enjoy it as well. Could be wrong but that is what I see.

FBR

yoda57us
10-18-2010, 08:14 PM
The ladies sometimes come down trying to convince us of the error of our ways (not all but some who think they still wear princess panties). I don't mind and do not moderate them largely because it is pretty fun conversation and you all seem to enjoy the open expression here.

I know blue is the "customer site" but I've always thought it was a lot more interesting as a co-ed site. The dynamics have changed as different gals and guys have come and gone but as strictly a "boys club" blue is pretty lame and boring...

Lately however I must admit that I'm starting to wonder if it's really all good. Interaction between customers and dancers is great but it seems that, in a few threads lately, some bad blood from pink threads is making it's way down here. Mind you I'm not talking about any arguments between customers and dancers (to me that's all fair game down here and even up in customer convo) but rather mostly dancer to dancer BS that is drifting down from pink. Lastly, what I really can't stomach at all is the concept of dragging stuff from the areas of pink that we as customers don't participate in down here to blue. If some guys want to read that stuff it's their business but I really can't agree with them using it to bait the ladies down here in blue. It's a fuzzy line at best but that's the vibe I'm getting and I don't care for it...

yoda57us
10-18-2010, 08:25 PM
I'm bent over and ready. :P

Oh Baby! You knoooowwwww what I like! }:D

JoeUnCool
10-18-2010, 09:57 PM
I know blue is the "customer site" but I've always thought it was a lot more interesting as a co-ed site. The dynamics have changed as different gals and guys have come and gone but as strictly a "boys club" blue is pretty lame and boring...

Lately however I must admit that I'm starting to wonder if it's really all good. Interaction between customers and dancers is great but it seems that, in a few threads lately, some bad blood from pink threads is making it's way down here. Mind you I'm not talking about any arguments between customers and dancers (to me that's all fair game down here and even up in customer convo) but rather mostly dancer to dancer BS that is drifting down from pink. Lastly, what I really can't stomach at all is the concept of dragging stuff from the areas of pink that we as customers don't participate in down here to blue. If some guys want to read that stuff it's their business but I really can't agree with them using it to bait the ladies down here in blue. It's a fuzzy line at best but that's the vibe I'm getting and I don't care for it...

As a guys-mostly site, it sucked dick. There's only so much that can be said about pussy. Honestly, i was asking myself if I should take my personal interests elsewhere. Now, I enjoy the heck out of having ladies in the basement. I think they bring fresh conversation material. However, dragging the arguments from the penthouse to the basement(dare I say outhouse) don't really bring a lot of value to the table.

bem401
10-19-2010, 05:37 AM
Why would it be wrong to do dances? I always encourage my partners to tip and get dances and spend THEIR (not my) money on strippers, give up some monies to my dancin sistas! Hell, if a man of mine has gone to the SC and NOT at least tipped several girls, I'd be pissed that he's sitting there wasting space like a non-spending SC troll.

If you're in an SC, you don't have to spend money on the girls, but you should. I would be quite unhappy to know one of my boyfriends went to a club and didn't spend any money. FYI, spending money could be as simple as tipping a dollar or two to the girls rotating on the stages closest to you, etc..doesn't mean you must buy lappers or blow your savings.

But yes, its better to not go to the club where your SO is currently working. Jealousies can arise and no one wants confrontations or to make things uncomfortable between a couple.

My point KS was it would be wrong to engage in behavior that was thought to potentially be troubling to the girl. You're comfortable with it and that's fine. We figured she would be but she wasn't. It still has us scratching our heads a bit but we now know better and act accordingly. In other words, he stays out of the clubs (afaik) in consideration of his girl and we kill our hour in a different environment when we have one to kill. I also never stated that no money was spent. There were a couple of girls who each got a couple of drinks in the hour or so we were there.

KS_Stevia
10-19-2010, 05:51 AM
Drinks don't count. They just lead to poor health and alcoholism. Tips go towards livelihood, even if its a couple of bucks onstage.

bem401
10-19-2010, 05:57 AM
Drinks don't count. They just lead to poor health and alcoholism. Tips go towards livelihood, even if its a couple of bucks onstage.

Point taken, but we weren't even in the room with the stage and there may have been some courtesy tipping done. I don't remember.

Casual Observer
10-19-2010, 02:13 PM
Actually Joe I don't see the boys differing all that much at all. The ladies sometimes come down trying to convince us of the error of our ways (not all but some who think they still wear princess panties). I don't mind and do not moderate them largely because it is pretty fun conversation and you all seem to enjoy the open expression here. Furthermore, I believe quite a few of the ladies even those who look down and see the pink panties enjoy it as well. Could be wrong but that is what I see.


Agreed.

JoeUnCool
10-19-2010, 07:53 PM
^ Actually Joe I don't see the boys differing all that much at all. The ladies sometimes come down trying to convince us of the error of our ways (not all but some who think they still wear princess panties). I don't mind and do not moderate them largely because it is pretty fun conversation and you all seem to enjoy the open expression here. Furthermore, I believe quite a few of the ladies even those who look down and see the pink panties enjoy it as well. Could be wrong but that is what I see.

FBR

ummm, like I said, we have more in common than we are willing to admit..........you need to have you vision checked.:P

Redwolf
10-21-2010, 10:46 AM
With yoda, I like the co-ed atmosphere of the basement. Just as the blues should respect upstairs if they are posting in one of the threads where they are allowed, so too I like to see cool pinks who don't just come here out of the blue to blast away on some guy. No princess panties allowed, right FBR. In fact, I would prefer no panties at all down here. Hehe.

Stay awhile, get to know the guys (and ladies) and undestand them a little, and be respectful before starting to sling shit, is what I say. This is good advice for the newbie or for the pink fresh in the basement. I am not referring to anyone or pointing out anyway, so no one should take offense at this.

ImNotOliver
10-24-2010, 03:24 AM
I’m probably not all that typical of guys that frequent strip clubs. It seems to me that I am good looking enough and charming enough that it is pretty easy to get women to sit and talk with me, and flirt; more likely than not with the woman initiating the interaction. Nonetheless I rarely get involved beyond a most superficial level. At some point in my life I discovered strippers. I’ve long liked strippers, in general, because they tend to readily flirt with me in a most playful way without illusions that it is anything more than the flirty play at hand. One day I met this one stripper (who I’ll hereafter refer to as my favorite) and things just clicked. So, to the question of “Guys, ever get serious with a dancer?” yes I have and very much so. Yet to the direction the discussion on this thread has taken there is more to say.

My favorite doesn’t have a problem with me being flirty with the other dancers and in fact takes a kind of pride in that other dancers tend to enjoy my company. Just as I take pride in her being such a wonderful dancer. She tells me that as long as I don’t get any private dances that she is okay with me seeing other strippers; which is okay with me as I’ve never been into private dances. Well except with my favorite, but that’s different, and she doesn’t charge me. I often go into where she is working but usually sit back as if I’m just another customer. She seems to enjoy this and often encourages me to do so. My presence gives her comfort and a sense of security. If a customer is giving her problems she escapes by coming and sitting with me. Besides, there is a great deal of enjoyment that goes on between us when she is up there on stage dancing.

This bit about guys going into strip clubs expecting extras or sex is an issue that comes up ever so often. My favorite, at times gets so upset about it that she’ll end up just sitting there and crying. It’s occurred to me that these guys if it were in a social setting outside of a strip club and acted the same way that the other guys would run them off if not beat them down. Many times over I’ve heard guys, in strip clubs, brag about banging this or that stripper, or the ones that claim they have a different stripper to bang in every city or whatever. My favorite and all the other strippers I’ve known just aren’t like that. Some are; I just know any of them. Anyhow it occurs to me that there are a lot more men fantasizing about it than strippers putting out. One day I was sitting in my favorite’s club and I overheard these two guys talking. The one was telling the other about how he and another guy got this stripper to go out partying with them. He went on to great length about the supposed sexual partying that went on. When the other guy asked which girl it was, I turned to see that he was pointing at my favorite as the one he and his friend had supposedly spent the previous weekend banging. It never happened.

Back to the questions in the OP. It has turned out pretty well. She has certain emotional issues that many strippers seem to have (perhaps a subject for another thread) yet her insanity or whatever it is seems to work well with my insanity or whatever it is. We’re not into being normal so marriage may never come; though our love, I’m sure, will last a long, long time.

yoda57us
10-24-2010, 02:50 PM
I’m probably not all that typical of guys that frequent strip clubs.

Of course not, you're special...;)


Back to the questions in the OP. It has turned out pretty well. She has certain emotional issues that many strippers seem to have (perhaps a subject for another thread) yet her insanity or whatever it is seems to work well with my insanity or whatever it is. We’re not into being normal so marriage may never come; though our love, I’m sure, will last a long, long time.

Actually the OP dealt with guys getting serious with a dancer outside of the club, beyond being a customer. I didn't see anything in your post to indicate that was the case with you and your favorite.

Kellydancer
10-24-2010, 04:52 PM
Of course not, you're special...;)



Actually the OP dealt with guys getting serious with a dancer outside of the club, beyond being a customer. I didn't see anything in your post to indicate that was the case with you and your favorite.

Right. My situation is a little weird because we were long time customer/dancer who became friends outside the club.

You Know Me
10-26-2010, 08:25 PM
Ye...3 weeks after the wife kicked me to the curb. Hit it off with a dancer for about 6 months. A rollercoaster ride is not the word. She was out of state so it was 2-3 visits a month. Was going well until she spent a week with me in my town. She kinda went psycho after that ( well more psycho then usual). Pissed off if i didnt call every fucking day....wanted to know my every move...it was like having a mother. She was looking for a husband and father to her child. I was looking for a fun companion to travel with......she pushed too hard and i had to abort. I will say though....she was the only girl that ever made me say no mas!! and that in itself made it all worth it.;D

ImNotOliver
11-14-2010, 03:27 AM
I’m probably not all that typical of guys that frequent strip clubs. Of course not, you’re special…
But I am and moreso than you can imagine.


Actually the OP dealt with guys getting serious with a dancer outside of the club, beyond being a customer. I didn't see anything in your post to indicate that was the case with you and your favorite.

Right. My situation is a little weird because we were long time customer/dancer who became friends outside the club.

Perhaps I didn’t make myself clear enough. There was this strip club that was more or less a neighborhood bar with a stage for strippers in the corner. I started going in there on Friday nights and although I only tipped one dollar per song when they were on the stage, the strippers tended to like me a great deal – and yes, more than what should have been expected. One of the strippers I greatly liked and after about three months of going into that club I let her know that I liked her and more than just as a stripper. She seemed very happy about it and even went on to tell me that she and the other girls often compared notes as to my interactions with them. (I told you that I was special.) She told me that she figured I was her favorite as my dollars that I gave to her seemed to be better than the dollars I gave the other girls. Unfortunately, she went on to tell me, she was quitting and that that was her last day. She told me to wait a few weeks and she would be working at a nearby club though she wasn’t sure of which one; that I should come look her up.

So, over the next couple of months I went to a lot of strip clubs, talked to a lot of strippers, bartenders, DJ’s, bouncers, regulars… and learned a great deal about strip clubs and the business of stripping. It was quite an adventure but I didn’t find the stripper I was looking for. I had reached the point where I had given up hope of finding her again when I stopped at a particular strip club and when I stepped inside, there she was, up on stage in all her naked glory. It was a reunion that made us both very happy. Over the next few weeks she kept saying that we should meet elsewhere, away from the darkness of strip clubs. Finally I got the hint and asked her out. We went out a few times but it was kind of weird as she had a boyfriend who she lived with among other things. Eventually I just stopped going to see her.

However, in large part due to my association with my favorite, I had become part of a wider social group that included bartenders and cooks from strip clubs, strippers, club owners and managers and other insiders. Somewhere between hanging out at strip clubs (actually just two clubs) lingering on after-hours, attending parties and other social gatherings I got on pretty well with several strippers. Though I went out with a few it never got serious, never got past hugs and kisses. Still there were those that would tell me that they and the other strippers liked me best, that I was one in a million, that I had a wonderful smile, how my happiness made other people happy, how they were drawn to my demeanor…

Eventually, after several months, I went back to the club where my favorite was working. Initially our reunion was rather somber but quickly picked up steam. She no longer had a boyfriend. I began anew to romance her. She greatly enjoyed the attention I showered upon her. She would tell me that I shouldn’t get involved - something about strippers being all messed up. Then she’d insist that I come back to see her and send me text messages telling me she missed me. This went on for a couple of months with the connection between us growing. One day, having problems with my car, I rode the bus to the strip club to see her. She offered to give me a ride home if I’d wait until her shift was over. This soon became our regular routine. There was something else that was happening. When I’d go to the strip club I’d sit back so as to not interfere with her working. Nonetheless, if I was there she was always giving me little glances. For instance, she’d slide up to some guy who was at the bar, hoping to perk up his interest in her. All the while she’d be stealing little glances over at me, seeing what I was up to. I’d give her looks back, make faces, stick my finger up my nose, or I’d hide behind a column or something and pop out and catch her searching for me. (With her eyes; while not letting the customer know where her thoughts were.) Also, when she was up on stage I’d sit around the back side and as she’d dance around her eyes kept coming around to meet mine. It was a weird sensation for me. She’d be up there entertaining the world, showing her stuff, all the while with her and I having this little personal communication going on and everyone else oblivious to it. It made me love her all the more. After a few times of her driving me home I invited her in. And again and again until she moved in with me.

It’s been a few years and her stripping career seems to be at an end but our relationship continues on.

Nearly the entirety of our courtship occurred within a strip club and if it were not for that relationship that we had as customer/stripper we well might have never gotten together. We are now friends, lovers, and companions. :couple:

Redwolf
11-14-2010, 06:13 PM
:banghead:

rickdugan
11-15-2010, 06:11 PM
That last long-winded tale reminds me of a certain stereotype floating around here and other boards. ::)

Anyway, if this is true I have no doubt that she enjoyed reading it. ;)

jester214
11-15-2010, 08:08 PM
This is the second of a similar vein of bullshit I've read today on here... Keeps getting better and better.

They compared the qualities of the dollar bills???? LOL

yoda57us
11-15-2010, 08:18 PM
I tried to read it all, I really did...I had to stop when I started to feel my head getting ready to explode...

Kellydancer
11-15-2010, 08:25 PM
That reminds me of another poster that many of you know (especially you Yoda, if you know what I mean).

yoda57us
11-16-2010, 01:38 PM
That reminds me of another poster that many of you know (especially you Yoda, if you know what I mean).

I'm smellin' what your cookin' Kelly....;)

startngate
11-24-2010, 10:20 PM
I have dated several dancers, but after a few early-on relationships that started as a result of my getting a few LDs, I stopped going out with anyone who I bought a LD from. The whole dancer/customer start to the dynamic never ended up working for me OTC. Things seemed to blow up quickly.

The longer term relationships I have had were all with girls that knew me as a regular in the club, but not as 'their' customer ... including one bartender.

ImNotOliver
12-05-2010, 05:27 AM
When I first started hanging out with my girlfriend there were two dancers who presented to me two alternate ways as to how our relationship could develop. Both were in their mid 30’s and still active. With one, someone asked her about the guy who used to go see her all the time. She replied that he was at home and a very happy man. With the second, someone also asked her what had happened to the guy that used to hang around with her. She said that she had to get rid of him because it never works for a working girl to be involved. The first always seemed to be happy, the second sad. My girlfriend and I are happy together. Too bad you all can’t make it work like we did.

Mr Hyde
12-31-2010, 01:46 PM
A very good friend of mine married a stripper. This guy was my best friend growing up. We've grown apart a little over the years, but I still consider him a great friend. They are currently living a very quiet life in the suburbs of Ft Lauderdale, have two kids, and are very happy.

JoeUnCool
01-05-2011, 05:45 PM
A very good friend of mine married a stripper. This guy was my best friend growing up. We've grown apart a little over the years, but I still consider him a great friend. They are currently living a very quiet life in the suburbs of Ft Lauderdale, have two kids, and are very happy.

I can count 5 dancer/customers that got serious. 3 are married today, 1 lives together, and 1 didn't make it. its not the most common thing (1-5%) and I would definitely not suggest it.

Mr Hyde
01-09-2011, 12:36 PM
I can count 5 dancer/customers that got serious. 3 are married today, 1 lives together, and 1 didn't make it. its not the most common thing (1-5%) and I would definitely not suggest it.

I should have added that he was not a customer of hers. They met while each was taking classes at a local college. She happened to be stripping at the time they met.

dannsamantha
03-27-2011, 08:21 AM
Yes I got serious with one. Not sure I want to describe the whole story but... Went into a club one night actually ended up sharing a table with her while she ate her lunch. Before I left, without any laps, she gave me her phone number. Flash to today and weve been married 10 years now. We were attached at the hip on our first date. Am I a unicorn or is she?

lestat1
04-20-2011, 01:27 PM
What am I, the only guy on here that hasn't dated a dancer? No, nothing ever OTC. Twice I let my feelings get ahead of my brain and twice I thought something was developing, and twice I got burned. So while I'm not opposed to the idea of getting serious with a woman just because she's a dancer, my past limited experience is bad enough that I don't think I'd seek it out either.

luscious sadie
04-20-2011, 01:47 PM
I met a guy in a club a little while ago. We have been texting every day since and recently started calling each other every day. He came and visited me in another city (I travel allll the time). And I dunno. I think we're going to fall in love, I'm going to move to his city, stay there for at least a little while and be exclusive to him.
there's a great club where he lives, he doesn't mind me stripping, he's very arrogant (I'm narcissistic so it works out great), he's VERY good in bed, he has a super stable life... is really hot, cooks...
and best of all. He understands that everyone has their own paths and doesn't expect that I would change my path in life to make him (or anyone) happy. Like, he would never ask me to stop traveling to be with him.

if it works out, it works out. If not, then not. But honestly. I think I would dig it. At least for now for a little while. We will see where it goes. We're going with the flow. But he matches all my criteria for someone I would date. Way more than my ex did (of more than a year though I was traveling for more than 6 months of our relationship...).

I'm EXCITED, SW.

yoda57us
04-20-2011, 02:32 PM
What am I, the only guy on here that hasn't dated a dancer?

Well, you are on a part of the site where guys talk about experiences with dancers so, admittedly, many of us have had experiences with the ladies outside of the club.


So while I'm not opposed to the idea of getting serious with a woman just because she's a dancer, my past limited experience is bad enough that I don't think I'd seek it out either.

I don't think seeking it out is a good idea either. Wanting to date a dancer simply because she is a dancer is a bit stupid. I do think what happens to many of us, myself included, is that we simply get comfortable in clubs and around dancers. When I was married strip clubs were an escape. When I became single I still found the environment of the club to be familiar and comfortable with the added benefit of there being tons of women that I had known for years who were willing to have a little fun with no pressure or expectations...

bem401
04-21-2011, 04:26 AM
I don't think seeking it out is a good idea either. Wanting to date a dancer simply because she is a dancer is a bit stupid.

Very true. Pursuing any girl strictly or mainly because of the job they do is foolish. The fact that a woman chooses to dance or finds herself dancing should put neither a green light nor a red light in a guy's head as regards dating her. A yellow caution light? Absolutely, its always wise to have them, even more so with dancers.

I would also suspect a guy would stand little to no chance of dating a dancer if she knew that was why he was interested in her in the first place. The ones I know try to keep the fact they dance or danced as far removed as possible from their real life.

JoeUnCool
04-21-2011, 05:36 AM
Well, you are on a part of the site where guys talk about experiences with dancers so, admittedly, many of us have had experiences with the ladies outside of the club.

Inspite of what Yoda and Rick think, I have had many good experiences as well. My experiences were when it was mostly a serious date experience. As I have aged, I'm really only interested in getting some dances in a club. Though, I still have made some good friends along the way.


I don't think seeking it out is a good idea either. Wanting to date a dancer simply because she is a dancer is a bit stupid. I do think what happens to many of us, myself included, is that we simply get comfortable in clubs and around dancers. When I was married strip clubs were an escape. When I became single I still found the environment of the club to be familiar and comfortable with the added benefit of there being tons of women that I had known for years who were willing to have a little fun with no pressure or expectations...
Agree here as well. Don't chase after a dancer because she is a dancer. Chase after/date a woman for a date because you like her. If you are going to an SC to try and "pick up" a girl, well, you really are headed into the wrong place. If OTC is your thing, then do it.

yoda57us
04-21-2011, 04:31 PM
Inspite of what Yoda and Rick think, I have had many good experiences as well.

Huh? I didn't mention anything about you or your "experiences".

bucket
05-28-2011, 08:01 PM
I never got involved with a dancer. When I used to drink I liked to drink alone so dating someone who works in a bar didn't make much sense.

bem401
05-29-2011, 11:21 AM
I never got involved with a dancer. When I used to drink I liked to drink alone so dating someone who works in a bar didn't make much sense.

Sooooo, you like sex alone then??

Because otherwise you are saying that enjoying sex means it wouldn't make sense to date someone working in the sex industry.

yoda57us
05-29-2011, 01:16 PM
I never got involved with a dancer. When I used to drink I liked to drink alone so dating someone who works in a bar didn't make much sense.


Sooooo, you like sex alone then??

Because otherwise you are saying that enjoying sex means it wouldn't make sense to date someone working in the sex industry.

Honestly I can't decide which of these posts makes less sense...:thinking:

bucket
05-29-2011, 02:43 PM
Honestly I can't decide which of these posts makes less sense...:thinking:
You're right. The OP asked a simple question and I wandered off.

Kellydancer
05-29-2011, 03:57 PM
I don't think seeking it out is a good idea either. Wanting to date a dancer simply because she is a dancer is a bit stupid. I do think what happens to many of us, myself included, is that we simply get comfortable in clubs and around dancers. When I was married strip clubs were an escape. When I became single I still found the environment of the club to be familiar and comfortable with the added benefit of there being tons of women that I had known for years who were willing to have a little fun with no pressure or expectations...

Agree with this post. As dancers, we can usually pick up when a guy wants to date us because they like us versus when they want to date us because of being dancers. Even so, in my early days of dancing I went out on dates with guys who just liked the idea of dating a dancer. These guys I didn't meet at clubs. In genera; the guys I've seen become serious with dancers are the guys who came in a lot and got to know the dancers. I am NOT talking about the cheapos.

yoda57us
05-29-2011, 04:27 PM
In genera; the guys I've seen become serious with dancers are the guys who came in a lot and got to know the dancers. I am NOT talking about the cheapos.

Amen...

I've never had the balls to try the "sit at the bar and act like I'm too cool to buy dances" approach. It would never work. I've been a junkie with too many regulars for far too long...not complaining by the way.;D

ASSLover
05-29-2011, 04:33 PM
Amen...

I've never had the balls to try the "sit at the bar and act like I'm too cool to buy dances"

Yoda, I don't think it takes balls to be a cheapass... just a tiny pea brain. ;)

bucket
05-29-2011, 04:55 PM
Yoda, I don't think it takes balls to be a cheapass... just a tiny pea brain. ;)

Exactly. It has nothing to do with being cheap.