View Full Version : Guys, ever get serious with a dancer?
Aurora_Sunset
05-29-2011, 05:14 PM
I can count 5 dancer/customers that got serious. 3 are married today, 1 lives together, and 1 didn't make it. its not the most common thing (1-5%) and I would definitely not suggest it.
It may not be the most common thing for dancer/customer relationships to work out - but is it really all that common for any relationship to work out? I agree that there are a lot of strippers out there that are crazy, but there are just as many, if not more girls who are crazy and not strippers. You don't judge other psycho-bitches on their occupation, do you? If you dated a girl who worked at Walmart, and she ended up being completely crazy and the relationship didn't work, would you proclaim that people should not date girls who work at Walmart? I know that a lot of strippers are insane and not the best for relationship material, but I find it a little foolish to blame relationships ending on them being strippers. Blame it on them being psychos, or there being bad communication, or it just not being right, or any other myriad of reasons a relationship wouldn't work out - not them being strippers. That's what you would blame for the ending of other relationships where the girl had some other job.
bem401
05-29-2011, 05:50 PM
Honestly I can't decide which of these posts makes less sense...:thinking:
Then my post served its purpose. I was merely demonstrating how little sense his rationale made by applying it to the topic at hand.
I have dated a stripper as a sugar baby. Amazing how her eyes lit up when I handed her her first allowance. If you can afford it, it is a much better relationship this way.
yoda57us
05-30-2011, 05:05 AM
Then my post served its purpose. I was merely demonstrating how little sense his rationale made by applying it to the topic at hand.
So you were demonstrating incoherence by being incoherent? Brilliant!
yoda57us
05-30-2011, 05:06 AM
Yoda, I don't think it takes balls to be a cheapass... just a tiny pea brain. ;)
I agree but, quite often, they are one in the same!
bem401
05-30-2011, 06:15 AM
So you were demonstrating incoherence by being incoherent? Brilliant!
I suppose I'll have to "dumb" things down going forward.
yoda57us
05-30-2011, 06:54 AM
I suppose I'll have to "dumb" things down going forward.
Yes Bem, you are just far too clever for the rest of us...::)
bem401
05-30-2011, 08:03 AM
Yes Bem, you are just far too clever for the rest of us...::)
No, not for everyone, just the ones who admit they didn't get something.
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bucket
05-30-2011, 02:29 PM
I have dated a stripper as a sugar baby. Amazing how her eyes lit up when I handed her her first allowance. If you can afford it, it is a much better relationship this way.
Ok, I'm totally jealous when I hear this. I've always been the broke musician who can't hold a job very long. I can't afford to do what you do.
Anyway, Gawd bless capitalism and all that shite.
yoda57us
05-30-2011, 03:21 PM
No, not for everyone, just the ones who admit they didn't get something.
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I never said I didn't get it BEM. I said it made no sense. It's a poor analogy.
princessjas
06-03-2011, 05:47 PM
Ok, I'm totally jealous when I hear this. I've always been the broke musician who can't hold a job very long. I can't afford to do what you do.
Anyway, Gawd bless capitalism and all that shite.
If you were truely a broke musician I guaran-damn-tee youd know that strippers and moody musicians are like magnets! Money is the only stronger stripper attractant! }:D
bucket
06-03-2011, 07:55 PM
If you were truely a broke musician I guaran-damn-tee youd know that strippers and moody musicians are like magnets! Money is the only stronger stripper attractant! }:D
OK, I lied. I'm not a musician.
I've not been serious with strippers but could be open to it.
This could mean serious friendship other than serious relationship that includes sex, mind you.
This is because I'm already married. Although, my wife is into girls. So, maybe some kind of complicated dating thing.
See, we already have friends that are former strippers. We knew them after they were strippers. So, I respect strippers as women and see them as people. Though, I should add I already did even before I had any former stripper friends.
At the club I just started going to, I've hit it off with a couple of dancers who are really interesting. It's entirely possible and likely they just see me as a custie, but I could totally see enjoying hanging out with them OTC in a just hanging out with a buddy way (or adding them to FB and enjoying their updates).
Well, I guess this post was rambling and pointless. You're welcome!
It's then that the club visit is pushed aside and I must drive off, back into the real world :'(.
true dat. I hate that. *manly-hetero-buddy-hug*
Drinks don't count. They just lead to poor health and alcoholism. Tips go towards livelihood, even if its a couple of bucks onstage.
but not all drinks have to be alcoholic. :O here, I get lots of the girls non-alcoholic drinnks 'cause they are thirsty or need energy or are not 21 or something. I don't mind if it helps theirs or the clubs' bottom line, as it it usually a juice and something or a redbull on ice or something. :)
I have to say, I was beginning to feel the way about someone I know the way that long-winded poster was talking about his now SO. I mean, mine was not as long a relationship and all that, but some of it, i think applies to my situation. but ah well, I'm not looking to rush things and whatever...
yoda57us
06-17-2011, 09:52 AM
but not all drinks have to be alcoholic. :O here, I get lots of the girls non-alcoholic drinnks 'cause they are thirsty or need energy or are not 21 or something. I don't mind if it helps theirs or the clubs' bottom line, as it it usually a juice and something or a redbull on ice or something. :)
Well OK but you are taking KS's original quote out of the context it was posted in. The issue at hand at that point was guys who waste a dancer's time by not spending money on her. Buying a dancer drinks, alcoholic, protein shake or otherwise, is a gentlemanly gesture but it does not help her pay her bills. As a strip club customer you are either spending on the ladies or taking up valuable space that other customers could be sitting in...
Well OK but you are taking KS's original quote out of the context it was posted in. The issue at hand at that point was guys who waste a dancer's time by not spending money on her. Buying a dancer drinks, alcoholic, protein shake or otherwise, is a gentlemanly gesture but it does not help her pay her bills. As a strip club customer you are either spending on the ladies or taking up valuable space that other customers could be sitting in...
ohhhh, I got ya! ;) Sry 'bout that.
Yes, drinks alone would not cut it. All the girls I get drinks from, I'll also tip them nicely at the stage. Unless it's a bartender, or one of the shotgirls who I tip generously.
I almost completely lost it with my Indy ATF. Lucky for me she decided I wasn't well heeled enough and ultimately nuked me. I've calmed down since then trying to keep some balance. A shout out to our buddy yoda who has figured it out and has offered sage advise in terms of keeping it real.
FBR
yoda57us
06-18-2011, 11:51 AM
A shout out to our buddy yoda who has figured it out and has offered sage advise in terms of keeping it real.
Thanks FBR but, as I may have mentioned once or twice, I had to learn my lesson just like you did...
Somewhere in southern RI there is a lovely retired Brazilian stripper who fed me every BS line you can imagine and got plenty of my money, stupidly expensive presents and left my heart and my ego in a quivering mess on the floor of Champagne room #6. We all have to start someplace...8)
dannsamantha
11-05-2011, 07:48 PM
I didnt read the whole thread but.....I dont see anything wrong with dating a girl because shes a stripper. It happens all the time in other lines of work. If your not gullible and go in knowing the ups and downs have fun. If shes not for you move on. Id say never go out with someone ONLY because of their job but dont punt because she is a stripper.
Kellydancer
11-05-2011, 09:20 PM
Most of you know this, but the guy I mentioned in the first post didn't work out. Those of you who frequent the other boards have seen the whole story, but the short version is he came back, then disappeared again. In the meantime I invited him on dates twice, sent him a heartfelt email, then a Christmas card. Didn't hear from him then and not on my birthday either. Then around in March I found his profile on Match (now deleted), I confronted him and he unfriended me on Facebook. I called him asking why he hated me so much and emailed him asking why he treated a friend like that. No response since then and I doubt I will again. Actually, to be technical the last contact I had with him was last July and it was a quick call where he told me he would call me back because he was on vacation, a vacation I didn't know about. I was chasing a dream I should have given up on.
Since then I have met a few guys I was interested who didn't seem all that into me, and have met a few guys who are into me, only I'm not into them. A few of them do fit what I am looking for in a mate so am considering them as potentials while still looking. I learned a few things from this, and that is never get your heart set on one person, if they disappear, don't allow them back, and most importantly don't chase after guys. Oh and that I am ok being alone and that those who pay for sex have the right idea.
KeithDoxen
11-05-2011, 09:40 PM
Sorry to hear that Kelly. I'm sure you'll meet someone who makes you happy real soon though.
Kellydancer
11-05-2011, 10:12 PM
Thanks Keith. Yes I feel I will soon and I'm not losing hope that much yet. In hindsight he was a poor choice because he had many negative things about him and little positive. If he was my last chance I am fine with this too and since he dumped me I have become more involved with activities I enjoy.
Why not be open to a relationship with someone just because of their job?
So this is an old thread, but I think people often place too much weight on the present and not enough on the future and where they're trying to get in life. One of my favorite exes was a former stripper, and besides being lights out gorgeous she was a wonderful person. Lots of stuff getting left out, but the point is there was no sign hanging off her that said "former stripper". She's a Ph.D. now and doing some pretty cool things in life. Last I heard she was also happily married. I've dated dancers that were still in the business, and from my point of view you just have to accept that you're seeing someone with a job that's hard to leave at the office. As a customer I don't go into a club looking for that sort of relationship, and most dancers aren't seeking it either from their client base. But if it happens, it happens.
pinups4
12-28-2011, 09:20 PM
My #1 "one that got away" was a dancer/former dancer. Damn, when I finally came to my senses, she was married
#1 gf/long time fb was a dancer. She never wanted to go "all the way" romantically, but DAMN did I beg.
Dancers make the best friends and Gfs, wives, .... mostly because nothing is an unsafe topic. Even if she isn't into it, you can't freak her out.
yoda57us
01-02-2012, 07:13 AM
I love generalities...
Dancers make the best friends and Gfs, wives, .... mostly because nothing is an unsafe topic. Even if she isn't into it, you can't freak her out.
Try bringing up the topic that you cheated on her with her best friend. See how that goes...