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aussiebelle
02-24-2012, 04:09 AM
For the last year with my SO we never used condoms. I was on BC and all was fine. Since I started dancing, my SO has used them every time. He said since I am using restrooms with other "strippers" and the place is not the cleanest once the lights come on, he said he feels safer that way. He said once I quit dancing, we will go back to BB. But till then, his comfort level is to use condoms. I don't mind either way.

Mmm like everybody else said, maybe he needs to check his facts?! STIs are called that because they are 'sexually transmitted'. If you could catch them from surfaces everybody would have them and shopping centres would be just as bad (if not worse!) than most strip clubs. If you could catch them from dancing (from the pole etc) there is no way I would be stripping!

GlitterBexie
02-24-2012, 12:33 PM
For the last year with my SO we never used condoms. I was on BC and all was fine. Since I started dancing, my SO has used them every time. He said since I am using restrooms with other "strippers" and the place is not the cleanest once the lights come on, he said he feels safer that way. He said once I quit dancing, we will go back to BB. But till then, his comfort level is to use condoms. I don't mind either way.

This is cute that he's so conscious of diseases, but yeah, unless the girls in your club are swapping bodily fluids and actually having sex with you in the bathroom then its unlikely you will catch anything. I'll be honest, i do the *hover wee* over out club toilet bowl, but mainly because i wear wash on wash off tan and im more worried that some drunk girl will have pissed all over the seat and ill smell of urine and my tan will smudge lol.

If we caught STI's from just touching something that someone else touched then all clothes wouldnt be able to be tried on before someone else, there would be no public toilets and i sure as eggs is eggs wouldnt be eating in resteraunts lol i admire his war against germs, but unless youre actually putting things into things, you should be ok hehe :D xx

mediocrity
02-24-2012, 03:25 PM
Ignorance is not cute: http://www.straightdope.com/columns/read/1598/what-diseases-can-you-catch-from-toilet-seatshttp://www.webmd.com/balance/features/what-can-you-catch-in-restrooms http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=50891

Also: urine is sterile, so you can't transmit disease that way.

Kellydancer
02-24-2012, 04:41 PM
Random Pleasure, I hate to say it but I suspect he's using that as an excuse that he's cheating. I knew a guy like that who would make excuses because he was cheating.

Random_Pleasure
02-24-2012, 06:43 PM
Random Pleasure, I hate to say it but I suspect he's using that as an excuse that he's cheating. I knew a guy like that who would make excuses because he was cheating.


I hate to say it but I think this is the case...He has been acting off lately, and things just feel awkward... We talk about crazy shit and I think it may be time to face reality. Oh well...

Spinnerette
02-29-2012, 04:50 PM
I'm a horrible person and BB (sans BC). Monogamous. Has been almost 4 years w/ no oopsies. I think I may be sterile. :( Which is fine, because I came to a conclusion that put me off bringing life into this world anyway.

To ensure that that never happens (although I to am fine with abortion), I'm getting an IUD installed as soon as I get cleared for PID. Hormonal BC would turn me into a raging bitch of a whale, I just know it.

junigirl
02-29-2012, 05:06 PM
Definitely go back and be tested at the 3 month and 6 month mark. It takes a couple of months for HIV to show up on a test...because it takes a while for enough of the virus to replicate to be detectable on a test. Some tests are more reliable than others. I have read about one lady who was exposed to hiv, got the test a a couple months mark, it was positive, but when she wasn't feeling well later on like months 6th or 7 and thought maybe she had mono (she had swollen lymph nodes under her side of neck area) and felt tired a lot, she got tested again and look she was positive. So, I think sometimes it makes sense to get tested at 6 months after the unprotected, and 9 months.
I have read somewhere that a few weeks after getting exposed, you might feel like you caught a cold, or have slight flu-like symptoms...

Having something unsafe happen, then go in for testing the next way, doesn't work. Of course it will show up negative. I found some info about window periods here http://www.avert.org/testing.htm

Also if you have been exposed to hiv, like a fingerstick, or got in a fight and someone's blood got into your mucous membranes or whatever, or you've been raped etc, then go to the ER and they can give you antiretroviral drugs you have to be on for a month or two, to decrease your chances of the hiv from replicating. Can help. some hospitals are becoming more educated about putting anti-retroviral therapy, making it a routine in their ER treatment of rape victims and fingerstick victims. so please do speak up if it's not offered to you. do your research, print out the info, and bring it in.


Those of you who went to be tested - I'm curious if you both went back at the 3 and 6 month mark. Someone could have HIV and be able to transmit it, however not be positive yet for 3 or 6 months from what I understand, right?