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firemaiden04
11-08-2010, 12:34 AM
I will be very disappointed if my fiancee doesn't have a stripper at his bachelor party. God knows I'm going to a strip club. I think it would be extraordinarily hypocritical of me to be upset at him for it. I mean, as long as he isn't getting extras or anything, which I know he wouldn't, I'd have absolutely no problem.

Kylea2
11-08-2010, 12:38 AM
I agree..... Why do you need to declear your status and show your 'last moments of being a man". When I marry, you better be happy getting married to me, if you're celebrating your last moments before "being tied to the chain" then you dont deserve being married nor me. So to a point I get jealous on those reasons but at the same time that % of dancers are not as clean I want them to be during those parties.

I'm not a jealous person so I really wouldn't care about the whole dancer scenario. As a matter of fact I wouldn't care if a guy I dated flirted with another girl, as long as I can do the same. I draw the line at anything where disease could potentially be spread though. However, even then if they wanted to go get blood tested together & I saw that both tests were clean... I'd be like "have fun!". I'm just concerned about my health, after that I don't really care.

Kellydancer
11-08-2010, 12:54 AM
I agree..... Why do you need to declear your status and show your 'last moments of being a man". When I marry, you better be happy getting married to me, if you're celebrating your last moments before "being tied to the chain" then you dont deserve being married nor me. So to a point I get jealous on those reasons but at the same time that % of dancers are not as clean I want them to be during those parties.

I was a clean dancer at the parties, but have seen some things that would make me sick and that's why I'd be upset if a guy had a party with a stripper. I've heard stories (never participated) of dancers who had "card contests". Apparently the story is if a guy has a certain card he got a blowjob. Like I said I never saw it but have heard variations of the blowjob stories. I've never given a blowjob at a party or would but have been asked a few times if it was included because "that's what strippers do at parties". I told the guys upfront no sex so most were cool. However, I've done so many parties for good guys just looking for fun (meaning nothing sexual just watching me dance) that it gives me hope. I've done several parties where the groom told me to ignore him because he loved his soon to be wife. I told him she was lucky to have him. I would hope if I marry my guy wouldn't have one with a stripper. If I am lucky to marry the one I want he's more interested in science fiction parties than actual strippers (though we met at a club). If I married someone else I would hope the same thing, that he wasn't interested in a bachelor party either.

jack0177057
11-08-2010, 09:31 AM
Senile..funny..Bro you couldn't handle one of these ladies...lol

You're right "bro", I couldn't handle my wife stripping and lap dancing for other men every night who ask/expect BJs from her and who try to get away with touching her veejay and sucking on her nipples.


By mature in mean you have to be very secure with yourself....I would also say you have to have things going on in your own life..career..money..goals..If you don't have those things you tend to dwell on other guys..their money..

I've got all those things and more, but I still don't want my wife to "take off her clothes in public and grind cock all night..." (phrase borrowed from DesuvsDeath). Plus, she wouldn't have to. If she needed to earn money and be indepedent, I could pay her what she was making in the SC to be my personal private dancer - exclusively stripping for me and grinding my cock all night.

I guess that just makes me quaint and old-fashioned.


I don't mean that to sound bitchy or like I'm against stripping or something. I just think a lot of women really dismiss what they do for a living too lightly. Like all the people who don't approve are just narrowminded assholes or there's something wrong with them for not getting it.

I mean no disrespect to you, unbeleavable... Your wife was an exotic dancer, and that's cool - more power to you guys and couples like you. I don't mean to criticize or belittle.

But, I agree with DesuvsDeath that some people in this forum are not being realistic nor sensible when they argue that all of us who would want our SOs, fiances or wives (more than just a casual relationship) to transition into another career, are all a bunch of insecure, possessive, controlling and norrowminded assholes.

Kellydancer
11-08-2010, 11:23 AM
Jack, I question for you. Since you wouldn't want your SO to dance does that mean you wouldn't go to those clubs either? No disrespect intended but I've dated so many guys who wanted me to give up dancing yet they themselves still frequented the clubs. To me it's the same thing. I've retired from club dancing anyway but always told myself if I was to ever get married I would retire before I did, but expected my SO to stay away from the clubs too. To me this is fair because yes I've known dancers who did extras and would be livid if my SO even just got a dick grinding, let alone more.

Btw, I'm not disagreeing, I feel the same way. I could never get serious with a male dancer myself. I once met a guy who did porn and I knew I could never get serious with him (or even sleep with him) unless he quit the business.

jack0177057
11-08-2010, 12:48 PM
^ Again, I'm talking about a marriage situation... So, if my GF says, "I know you used to go to SC with your friends, while we were dating, but I want that to stop when we're married." --- I would have to say yes... Of course, I would try to negotiate a compromise, like just going to air-dance clubs (assuming I can find any in Houston) or just going on special occasions, etc. But, if she was deadset against it and I really wanted to marry her, then I would be willing to give up SCs... Maybe that's one of the reasons I haven't gotten re-married yet.

Kellydancer
11-08-2010, 12:59 PM
^ Again, I'm talking about a marriage situation... So, if my GF says, "I know you used to go to SC with your friends, while we were dating, but I want that to stop when we're married." --- I would have to say yes... Of course, I would try to negotiate a compromise, like just going to air-dance clubs (assuming I can find any in Houston) or just going on special occasions, etc. But, if she was deadset against it and I really wanted to marry her, then I would be willing to give up SCs... Maybe that's one of the reasons I haven't gotten re-married yet.

That sounds fair. My personal opinion is when someone is dating they don't have as many reasons to be against something. Dating is just that, but marriage is more a bond. I even know people who feel while dating they can sleep with many people but not while married. I personally wouldn't date someone like this, but it's technically true. There are a few things I will give up when I marry. I don't really do many bachelor parties now, but once I marry all of them will be given up.

jack0177057
11-08-2010, 03:45 PM
^ Agreed. I'll call you to do my bachelor party when I get married. ;) - But, I guess that depends on which one of us gets married, first.

unbeleavable
11-08-2010, 04:01 PM
^^You are right...you are the man

Kellydancer
11-08-2010, 04:34 PM
^ Agreed. I'll call you to do my bachelor party when I get married. ;) - But, I guess that depends on which one of us gets married, first.

Well, I hope to eventually but obviously depends on whether Flakey comes around or someone else better comes along. ;D

Btw, I just noticed your signature. I am studying St Augustine in classes at the church. He had an interesting life before becoming a saint.

JayATee
11-08-2010, 04:52 PM
Nor is it especially pathetic

Yeah actually it is. Not that it would surprise me to meet a guy with self esteem issues.

Nuclear Martini
11-09-2010, 09:03 AM
damn it. He loves me, he loves me not, he love me, he loves me not.


What is wrong with my man, boy, stud, fiancee, collared gimp, or convenient fuck? Says stripper.

I love you girls, i do. This my loser guy steals my money, doesn't talk to me, plays guitar/wow/ with his junk all day threads are just .......... Wow.

Why does your dude suck?

Because your living the life opposite of the men you want.

Your ideal man has a career and works hard doing what he does honestly and diligently. This takes place monday through friday 9:00 am to 5 pm. You know during daylight.

you've seen daylight, right? Its like what a tanning booth puts out, only naturally.

your ideal man is responsible. Choosing the hard right over the easy wrong. Like being in bed by 10 pm (your first stage call) ,so he can be bright and alert for his job in the morning. Unlike the immature waste of space, getting high, and eating your groceries, while camping on your couch for days on end you have for companion ship. Its cute that you like pets with opposed thumbs.

Your ideal man meets his obligations. Pays his loans, covers his bills, all his obligations are made before play time. That retro evolutionary distraction is not even acting his age, let alone responsibly. Midnight playing pua with strippers at the bar? The only money he is trying to make is yours.


Do i have an alternative? Not really. Just two points. They have to pay to play; and nature gave you instincts as to who is and who is not a good mate.

*runs like hell*


ban :-x

Nuclear Martini
11-09-2010, 09:08 AM
I stopped reading the OP after the tanning booth comment. I can only imagine it got worse from there.

This is LIFE SUPPORT - it's not going to be full of posts about amazing relationships. Women come here to vent - and ALL women, regardless of occupation, have a bad relationship at some point in their lives.

Army - if you don't like reading through all these posts about girls whining over their guys, then don't read them. Personally, I think your post was insensitive and unnecessary. There are total douchebags who work 9-5's and are very driven. There are plenty of non-strippers who date poor quality men. I don't agree with your giant generalizations.

I found what you wrote offensive, and I'm normally all for poking fun at the strippers.

I don't think his post fits into the criteria for an approriate thread in "life support".