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4everresolutions
01-16-2011, 12:14 AM
Athena - don't feed into her. She's clearly jealous of you, and the relationship you had with your ex. She's probably the crazy bitter type.

You're probably prettier, smarter, hotter and happier than she is, and she sees it that way too, which is why she's trying to warp your image into that of a 'crazy self-centered bitch' in her mind and the mind of your ex; making someone seem 'evil' is a lot easier than dealing with your own insecurities. It's what lazy people do when they can't be bothered to make themselves a better person.

She's stalking you because she wants to be you. She's probably also jealous of the effect you've had on your ex's life (he's probably brought you up once or twice in conversations , and she read WAY more into it than was intended).

Ignore, ignore, ignore her! The more you pay attention to her the more you're going to unintentionally feed into her "Athena is a bitch" smear campaign.

Bitches be hatin' yo'!

(I'm so ghetto!!!!)

Kylea2
01-16-2011, 01:24 AM
I have a feeling that when she said:


"Don't be surprised if one morning you wake up and you have no Facebook account"

it's because her real purpose for trying to find your e-mail address was to login to your account & delete your account!


She is doing things that constitute both cyber-stalking & cyber-bullying. Honestly, her contacting people you know for personal information is dangerous. I'm not sure if you have customers on your profile, but if you do she could have easily given customer with stalking potential your personal information. That is NOT okay, she's put you at risk. She obviously doesn't see that this type of behavior often lands people in jail: http://www.kltv.com/Global/story.asp?S=12880281 I've had multiple stalkers & have helped friends deal with them. Ginger Lee has also gone through this, so she may be able to add to this as well.

You can try contacting Facebook, but don't expect much:
a. http://blog.brickhousesecurity.com/2010/09/03/facebook-stalking/

b. http://www.facebook.com/help/?faq=13242&ref_query=harassment

1. If you have not already, directly tell her to stop contacting you & to stop contacting other people regarding you.


NOTE: Athena confirmed to me that she has done this.

2. Turn EVERYTHING on your profile to private for friends only. (Facebook/Myspace/etc). Also read: http://www.makeuseof.com/tag/5-ways-block-facebook-stalker/

3. Block her AND your ex. Neither of them are balanced & she could just as easily log-on to your ex's account. (Facebook/Myspace/etc)

4. Change the e-mail address & password associated with the account. I'd change it every day for the next 30 days at the bare minimum. (Do this AFTER steps 1-3 though)

6. Stop approving friends requests. I literally will go 6 months not approving friends requests & no-one says anything about it, so you should be fine. This will keep her from having the opportunity to sign-up with a fake account to contact you. (Facebook/Myspace/etc)

7. Do NOT respond to her or your ex. You've already told them to stop contacting you, so if you contact them you will only be egging them on.

8. Consider closing down your online profiles/e-mails & starting fresh (or at least sign up with a different e-mail). If you do that, ask your friends to temporarily make their account private as well so she has a "cool-down" period during which she won't be able to find you.

9. Get a man's voice on your voicemail, have it be non-distinguished so he just says "You've reached ###-###-####. Leave a message after the tone". That way if she calls, she is less likely to keep calling when you don't return the call.

10. Go through a lawyer (PornLaw would be good for this), & have them send either a "cease & desist letter" or a "cease communications letter", again asking her not to contact you or anyone else in regard to you. If you know what state she is in try to include any laws that relate to cyber-stalking or cyber-bullying.


Here's an examples:
1. http://www.docstoc.com/docs/34244218/Cease-and-Desist-Letter-%28example%29

11. File for an "issuance of order without notice" (aka emergency restraining order) in the city/county where she lives. with "stay away", "cease abuse" & "no contact" provisions. Contact a lawyer practicing in the area where you need the order filed, because they can often show up in court on your behalf which is a major convenience. Ask them if the emergency restraining order is worth the trouble over a traditional restraining order. However, keep in mind that your situation is different from most in that the stalker is now giving your personal information to other people who could stalk/harass you & cause you bodily harm.


Do a search on the page for "SECTION 16-3-1700. Definitions." at
http://www.scstatehouse.gov/code/t16c003.htm

She fits directly into the definition for stalking, & very close to "second degree harassment".

Interestingly the code mentions the court having the right to require those found guilty of stalking to submit to a mental health evaluation before sentencing... she TOTALLY needs that!

Honestly, people don't take this stuff to court as often as they should. If you read some of my other posts you will see that I've seen this get REALLY bad. I've had to file two restraining orders. Ginger Lee has had the

Forms for the emergency restraining order (all are required):

1. Complaint and Motion for a Restraining Order -
http://www.sccourts.org/forms/pdf/SCCA749.pdf
2. Restraining Order - http://www.sccourts.org/forms/pdf/SCCA751.pdf
3. Motion and Affidavit for Emergency Hearing - http://www.sccourts.org/forms/word/SCCA752.dot (their acrobat file is messed up)
4. Temporary Restraining Order - http://www.sccourts.org/forms/word/SCCA753.dot
5. Rule to Show Cause - http://www.sccourts.org/forms/word/SCCA755.dot


12. If she continues to do it after you have a restraining order, press charges!


I'll probably think of others, but that's a start.

KS_Stevia
01-16-2011, 04:13 PM
Be careful. My bf just unfriended a crazy stalker chick and she has FB violation terms after him for posting copyrighted photos of his FB. These are pics that SHE tagged him on. Its werid, instead of untagging him, she is trying to mess with him because he told her to get lost.

Save any FB info you want, like friends, pics, etc. She could go to the FB legal or TOS and get your account removed. Make sure you aren't tagged in any pics that they own or have access to. Aside from that, I would just make everything private, ignore, and block both of them, reporting them as "spam" or whatever FB says. Good luck!

kandie_kitten
01-17-2011, 11:03 AM
So, I am an admitted Facebook stalker...and this chick gives me the creeps. I went through her profile pics, and while there wer ethe very amusing-omg-she's-hideous pics, there were also a hundred butterfly and unicorn pictures (seriously)...

and then pictures of dead, maggot eaten animals.

Really, this girl just gives off red flags. I would definitely take the steps above, and keep detailed print screens of any odd messages she sends, contact she's made with your friends, etc.

Athenathefabulous
02-04-2011, 03:11 PM
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kaiarose
02-04-2011, 03:21 PM
SEND IT!!!! Let him see just how psychotic she is and get you out of the bad guy seat... Btw, I haven't posted in this thread before but I enjoy reading it :)

Athenathefabulous
02-04-2011, 03:29 PM
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sananeko
02-04-2011, 04:16 PM
She is trying real hard to fall down that hole and say it was a accident.. This is why i don't do facebook.. I have way too many guys that wanted me and their girlfriends hating me..

In truth I wouldn't bother... I think she has a hate crush on you and the more you show attention the more she will swoon with crazy..

Trem
02-04-2011, 05:33 PM
The best thing you can is walk away. If she thinks she won she might leave you alone which is the best possible outcome in this situation.

Athenathefabulous
02-04-2011, 07:57 PM
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Fenriswolf
02-04-2011, 11:57 PM
Wow. This woman is special. :O

As for knowing passwords, my partner and I know each other's passwords, but that doesn't mean we look at each other's pages when they're not around. And it's a moot point anyway; it's not like you were trying to have a special private conversation, you were just futilely seeking someone sensible to reign her in. ::)

tempest666
02-05-2011, 12:09 AM
you know someone is mentally unhealthy when they think it is standard for couples to know eachothers facebook passwords etc. IMO, normal healthy couples dont exchange stuff like that.


Normal and healthy is so boring though! :D I like crazy mentally unhealthy couples: Henry VIII& Anne Boleyn, Sid and Nancy Vicious, Antony and Cleopatra, F Scott Fitzgerald and Zelda Fitzgerald, Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor.

4everresolutions
02-05-2011, 12:59 AM
I have all my guys passwords, but I respect his privacy enough to NOT use them without permission.

This girl sounds absolutely bat-shit. I know all this is pissing you off and upsetting you, but it's kind of entertaining to read about. I'm awful.

tempest666
02-05-2011, 02:01 AM
I've only used them to..."edit" contacts. sometimes contacts "accidentally" get unfriended or to "edit" photos..sometimes those get deleted too. Whoops I'm not too good with computers. ::)

tempest666
02-05-2011, 02:06 AM
After all we all know what a little angel I am and that I am incapable of irrational jealousy ::)

Spinnerette
02-05-2011, 09:02 PM
I have all my dude's passwords too. He doesn't have mine. I only have his because he makes me check his accounts when he's too lazy to do it. -___-;;

I'm having a knee-jerk reaction to retaliating, but when you break down the psychology behind why this bitch went through the trouble to "prove" what she thought was a point...treating her like a gnat is the only acceptable response. You show that you care wtf they think, they win the game. She'll probably message you again in an attempt to get you to do what you were thinking of doing before because she'll want the validation of being "better" than you in some kind of way. She's not sure about what she has with this dude and he's def not sure about it with her. But manipulating this so that YOU look crazy will make him backtrack and praise her like she wants him to, right? They both think you're amazing and she wants to poke holes in that because it makes her feel like shit knowing that she'll ALWAYS be second best in his eyes. Not your problem.

Meh...I just went way to deep into that. TL:DR fuck her, fuck him, & keep living your fabulous life full people who aren't spineless scum or insecure heiffers.

princessjas
02-05-2011, 09:17 PM
The whole password sharing thing seems odd to me. Not that she's not already outted herself as a complete loon, but that kinda puts the proverbial nail in that coffin.

FWIW I was married for a decade and while I knew what his likely passwords were (from knowing the ones he used for joint stuff like banking, bill paying etc) and he knew the same about me, neither of us knew the others email, or laptop passwords, or really any passwords that we didn't have a joint interest in. Never had anything to hide and was completely open about damn near everything, but trust has to be a major component in any healthy relationship, imo.

DesuvsDeath
02-07-2011, 03:57 PM
I wish I still remembered what her facebook was...
I'd friend her on my alternate account and start trolling the FUCK out of her.

As for the password thing - I've got most of my guy's passwords because I take care of all the billpaying/online shit. But I don't use them to go through his email or facebook or whatever.

Athenathefabulous
02-23-2011, 09:45 PM
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DesuvsDeath
02-23-2011, 11:12 PM
What a crazy bitch. Lol

If she didn't constantly lie for pity and attention... I'd probably feel bad for her.

Athenathefabulous
02-23-2011, 11:39 PM
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DesuvsDeath
02-23-2011, 11:53 PM
If you have to send the pictures/proof... then that's what you have to do.
It's her own fault for A. E-cheating on her boyfriend and B. refusing to stop stalking you and whatever you do... don't feel bad about it.

Athenathefabulous
02-23-2011, 11:57 PM
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DesuvsDeath
02-24-2011, 12:00 AM
Oh, no... I meant... if that doesn't work out and there's nothing you can do legally... don't feel bad about having to send that sort of thing to get her to stop.

Athenathefabulous
02-24-2011, 12:29 AM
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Kisca
02-24-2011, 01:39 AM
Arent her and the ex getting married?

I would totally show him the picture.. Save him the horriable years with her and help him get some common sense.

Sorry your dealing with a crazy bitch, she went over the line with creating a profile of you.

sananeko
02-24-2011, 03:39 AM
Well can't you call the internet threat cops or the identity people? She took your name, pictures, and put your information up to cause you harm. I would take all the pictures and the messages and contact them. You can sue her and place a restraining order on her and your ex cause he is helping her and not stopping when you informed him. Believe me when my druggy sister did that to me I should of called the police.. I should of never wasted that chance cause I know she will do it again.. If they will not help I would youtube.. I know some here will not call that smart but sometimes the best way to get someone off your back is to make everyone watch them. And believe me unless she has him locked in a room hes not going to miss a vid..

DesuvsDeath
02-24-2011, 05:52 PM
Have you considered having the friend she sent them to forward them to the bf?
(After he makes his profile 100% private and deletes anyone he doesn't know. LOL)

Athenathefabulous
02-24-2011, 06:36 PM
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DesuvsDeath
02-24-2011, 07:07 PM
^^I only suggested it because I didn't know if he was one of those people with, like, ZERO info or not.
In that case... nevermind.

sananeko
02-24-2011, 08:35 PM
i considered making a site with all the stuff she sent me but if i press harassment charges, doing something like that will probably not help my case. also, the law does not seem to really be on my side when it comes to being harassed.



I ment after.. When everyone tells you its not going to happen. I didn't do that with my sister but I did do it to a women that was after my life.. I had letters.. I had pictures.... I had video.. The cops said they couldn't help.. the net threat cops said she had no history so they were not going to follow.. more and more down the line.. I kept getting no.. so I kept all the papers stating they will not help and when she took my door out and no one could do anything cause she wasn't seen.. I paid money to get all of that up on five sites to show people.. People came up that were her old victims and the "good people" got off their asses and connected the files and finally filed my report.

You might not get the same results but I think people should know.