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jasmine22
12-11-2010, 11:32 PM
We're not experts, and I highly doubt you are.


Nope not an expert lol just being honest with the guy.

jasmine22
12-11-2010, 11:41 PM
ummm...dude came to a site called stripperweb
what do you expect? :O


For people to freely express their opinion. Its funny people are saying im rude when they're calling the poor guy a bitch and telling him to man up......::)

Hopper
12-12-2010, 12:09 AM
Go to the club, spend your money and get the best mileage you can and have a good time until you are broke and have to go home. It's pay for play. Quit whining.

FBR

Not enough play doesn't seem to be one of his problems.

KS_Stevia
12-14-2010, 09:10 AM
^ My point is that all creatures with a penis are "sex-addicts". If a dude has no playmate, he will succumb to "addiction" to porn, strippers and escorts (depending on his financial resources).

This is just not true for every man. Not at all. Just because its like this for you doesn't mean its like this for all men. Not everyone has a very high sex drive, and some men are also more self-disciplined than others.

jack0177057
12-16-2010, 08:57 AM
^ Wow, that sounds aweful. I feel bad for them.

KS_Stevia
12-16-2010, 06:02 PM
^ Wow, that sounds aweful. I feel bad for them.

Are you trolling me or are you really that dense? Imagine how much more you could accomplish in your life if your dick wasn't doing the thinking for you? How many less fights you would get into with your girlfriend?

It doesn't mean being asexual, it just means not being engrossed by the pursuit of sex majority of the time.

I once asked my doctor to put me on anti-depressants just to kill my sex drive because I was always so horny I couldn't function. Maybe that's an idea for Addict Guy over here?

jack0177057
12-16-2010, 07:02 PM
^ The answer is sexual compatibility. If the guy and the girl are evenly matched and indulge each other's fantasies, I don't see a problem with high libido.

A couple that has sex twice a day (or more) is going to be healthy, happy and their fights will be short-lived, ending with passionate make-up session.

What else feels so great (like being high on opium), is natural, makes you healthy and happy, relieves stress, validates your sex-appeal, brings you closer to your SO and costs nothing? Only sex (with a compatible SO).

KS_Stevia
12-16-2010, 07:31 PM
^ The answer is sexual compatibility. If the guy and the girl are evenly matched and indulge each other's fantasies, I don't see a problem with high libido.

A couple that has sex twice a day (or more) is going to be healthy, happy and their fights will be short-lived, ending with passionate make-up session.

What else feels so great (like being high on opium), is natural, makes you healthy and happy, relieves stress, validates your sex-appeal, brings you closer to your SO and costs nothing? Only sex (with a compatible SO).

That didn't answer my question, and now you're off on a completely different tangent. Could you really have sex twice a day every day? You never get home stressed, exhausted, and distracted, and just want to go to sleep? What about illness?

And how long can you have sex twice a day with the same person and not get bored?

I don't think that's going to be very easy to find in a partner. I presume the twice a day is your preference?

Meh, now I'm off on a tangent too...

rickdugan
12-16-2010, 07:39 PM
That didn't answer my question, and now you're off on a completely different tangent. Could you really have sex twice a day every day? You never get home stressed, exhausted, and distracted, and just want to go to sleep? What about illness?

And how long can you have sex twice a day with the same person and not get bored?

I don't think that's going to be very easy to find in a partner. I presume the twice a day is your preference?

Meh, now I'm off on a tangent too...

That is a great point. Now my wife is hot and even great in bed, but when you've been sleeping with the same person for several years finding the motivation for twice a day, every day sex is a little unrealistic.

jack0177057
12-16-2010, 08:56 PM
And how long can you have sex twice a day with the same person and not get bored?

I don't think that's going to be very easy to find in a partner. I presume the twice a day is your preference?

Yeah, on the weekends - morning sex (get up late) and bed-time sex.

I'd have morning sex on weekdays, too, but it would have to be very early and my GF is not a morning person - she won't go for that.

During weekdays (Mon - Fri), we have sex (or BJ or HJ) about three times total, I wish it were more often, but that's the balance we've stricken.

We've been together for years (on again off again), and I'll never get bored having sex with her. (Roleplaying and sexy costumes add variety and new excitement.) She's hot - I'll always lust for her. But, do I occasionally want to see and feel another woman's body? Yup, no sex or happy ending, but some enjoyable and innocent grinding action - what the SC is for.

jayzack
12-16-2010, 10:28 PM
i don't know if it's a sexual addiction or what, don't get me wrong strip clubs are fun in moderation.. but i've gone over the edge spending thousands of dollars that i cannot afford, obviously they're doing their job great to an extent.. basically the fact that im giving them all my money but what can i do to help myself? I try to not go and spend money but when im there Money is not an object its like life outside the club doesn't matter.. only thing that matters is the continued escape from reality.., i love to get many drinks for me and the girls, dances and to tip big.. is it about the money, the women, the alcohol? i dont know.. i guess i just have no one in my life to give advice... looking for some help for anyone who has been in a similar sitution with no self-control..

You need to come back to the reality. I respond your post because I have been close there. My way to get out includes rules like 1) never leave work before my boss does; 2) never go to SC more than twice a month; 3) complete a list of things before going to SC including grocery shopping and yard work; 4) go home before 9pm; 5) spend responsibly.

Stay more with your family and you will feel warm.

I used to leave work 1-2 hours earlier for SC before picking my son from day care and heading home. I visited SC Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday in a row. Now with other things being sorted out, I feel more relax in the club. When you visit the SC less frequently, you might have a better time every time you go.

Handsy Guy
12-19-2010, 03:31 PM
I can understand your situation but what I spend on Strip Clubbing is not worse than someone who is big time with golf or a boat. However, one needs to set a budget and stick to it. I try to stick to my SC priorities and not non value SC activities that take funds. The goal is to have the best fun I can for my money. Practice makes perfect.

Set you own goal in the club whether an atf or just partying with different ones on shift. If you really want to get a gals attention spend $100 on her or more.

NeedsHelp123
05-30-2011, 03:46 AM
I'm glad to update that i've been cured of my sickness and have limited my club trips to once every two weeks, and only spending close to $1,000 a month instead of $5,000+

Rockette
05-30-2011, 07:58 AM
Go to the club, spend your money and get the best mileage you can and have a good time until you are broke and have to go home. It's pay for play. Quit whining.

FBR

A slap to the face... but this guy needs it.

mhi
05-30-2011, 11:53 AM
Go to club..get 3 lap dances couple of drinks plus tip. Repeat as needed or can afford. In this manner u can maximize good time while simultaneouly controlling your spending.

FBR
05-30-2011, 01:21 PM
A slap to the face... but this guy needs it. Some truths are self evident.

FBR

FBR
05-30-2011, 01:23 PM
I'm glad to update that i've been cured of my sickness and have limited my club trips to once every two weeks, and only spending close to $1,000 a month instead of $5,000+ You don't seem like a 5K guy to me or even a 1K guy.

FBR

Perry
05-30-2011, 01:33 PM
Dude, based on your OP - you said you don't have anyone else to ask. it's kinda obviouse you need some friends. And that's what you get in a strip club. Extra friendly, hot friends.

And I don't mean that in a bitchy way. I don't have many friends either since I just moved, and I totally see the allure of beautifull women flocking to you and fawning over you. But, it's expensive and not "real".

Post an ad on Craigs list for a work out/jogging/hiking/whatever buddy. Take a class, or some yoga or a gym or wherever you can meet people who are not working to be buds with.

charlie61
05-30-2011, 06:52 PM
^ Maybe it'd be a good transition for the OP to start going to regular bars instead of strip bars to get his social itch scratched. So to speak.

Brigham
05-30-2011, 07:41 PM
I'm glad to update that i've been cured of my sickness and have limited my club trips to once every two weeks, and only spending close to $1,000 a month instead of $5,000+

I do not think you are fully cured yet. You are still spending $1K/month. That is like $12K/Year. In two years that becomes $24K. In three years, it may become down payment for a nice little piece of real estate. Just my two cents. }:D

Brigham
05-30-2011, 07:43 PM
^ Maybe it'd be a good transition for the OP to start going to regular bars instead of strip bars to get his social itch scratched. So to speak.

I completely agree with you. It is like buying bottled water even though there is abundance of water all around you for free. 8)

charlie61
05-30-2011, 07:46 PM
I do not think you are fully cured yet. You are still spending $1K/month. That is like $12K/Year. In two years that becomes $24K. In three years, it may become down payment for a nice little piece of real estate. Just my two cents. }:D

Or you could pretty much do anything else with that money. Anything. Buy a frickin pony or something.

Hopper
05-30-2011, 10:44 PM
^ SCs are more fun than ponies.

Hopper
05-30-2011, 11:18 PM
I'm glad to update that i've been cured of my sickness and have limited my club trips to once every two weeks, and only spending close to $1,000 a month instead of $5,000+

That's a big improvement. At least you have moved into a range where you can pay for necessities as well. If part of the reason you go is because you lack social interaction and friends, then (like the others here said) you should do something about it. With the planet allegedly being overpopulated, that should not be hard. If you were able to spend over 5k a month before (without a credit card) then I guess you can comfortably afford 1k a month on SCs. Many people on regular wages spend about half that a month on going out to regular bars or clubs on weekends. You should cut down on "tipping big" and "buying many drinks" for dancers (and for yourself).

yoda57us
05-31-2011, 01:55 AM
Strip clubs are entertainment, not a lifestyle choice. If you are going to have fun and can afford whatever you are spending that's all fine and dandy. If you are socially inept and using strip clubs as your only source of female interaction you are headed for big trouble and, most likely, poverty.

yoda57us
05-31-2011, 02:00 AM
I completely agree with you. It is like buying bottled water even though there is abundance of water all around you for free. 8)

Yeah, but some people just happen to like bottled water. You could eat 5 for a dollar Ramen noodle bricks for every meal to save money if you wanted to but most people like a little more variety. Life is about choices and choices are an individual decision.

Hopper
05-31-2011, 05:34 AM
In the case of water, there is no great variety. The only thing better about paying for conversation with a stripper is that it's with a sexy girl, though that could sometimes be the case IRL With strippers, you can't tell if it is real socializing.

yoda57us
05-31-2011, 06:00 AM
In the case of water, there is no great variety. If you pay to socialize with strippers, you can't tell if it is real socializing. The only thing better about it is that it's with a sexy girl, though that could sometimes be the case IRL.

For me, the issue is separating the entertainment of a strip club with the real life pursuit of the opposite sex. Sitting in a strip club talking to a half naked women and then watching her dance for you is entertainment. It's a no-less valid form of entertainment than a trip to the casino, a golf course or a concert or a sporting event. What's dangerous is when some guys substitute strippers and strip clubs for real, non-paid, interaction with women. Simply put, losing sight of the fact that she is only talking to you because you are sitting at her job paying her to is a dangerous, and expensive, situation.

lfr
05-31-2011, 11:34 PM
As a new person here, I appreciate everything said here. I'm kinda in the same boat as the op, I think and many things said here could apply to me. I'm slowly realizing my situation.

Hell, the only reason I joined here, was because I am only recently 'addicted' to a place that I just found and while a lot here (on the board) doesn't apply to my situation, but it is very interesting to read about, as I had only gone to clubs when I was younger for bachelor parties or the rare occasion with the boys out.

Thank you everyone. 8)