View Full Version : Are you a loner?
Lollipop Gurl
02-02-2011, 06:45 PM
I have a lot of acquaintances. I probably have 4-5 really close friends. I wouldn't say I'm a loner.
Blu_Rayne
02-02-2011, 08:25 PM
That stood out to me so much. People think oh, its so hard to be you. Poor pretty girl. When stupid things happen when other people are around they get it then. One bf told me everyday I went out I had a "bitches being mean to me cuz I'm pretty story". But when I tried to get my lights turned on I kept getting sent to this one lady's desk and everyday she made me wait 15-30 mins and then said I needed this form, she didn't like the way my id looked, she needed something more current, yadda yadda yadda. The 5th day, new apt I can't stay in no lights, I was in queue to go to her desk again. Bitch got up and went to lunch. Lady next to her says you've been here 5 times, what's the problem? Gave her all my papers and got it done in 5 mins. Lady even asked me did I know the lady or date her son or ex or something? Told her I had never set eyes on her in my life. Things like that let me know some people judge others simply on looks and decide if you look a certain way they will make things difficult for you. Things like that make it easier to have a few good friends and just some acquaintances. This gives me a thread idea.
This has happened to me so much.Im always like dang do I look like someone who screwed your man or did you wrong.Im just a private person who dislikes nosy people.Dont ask me too many questions because Im gonna be like this :eye-poppi thinking shut up.
GlitterBexie
02-05-2011, 06:02 PM
I moved last July and I still have yet to make a single friend in my area...
Last weekend at a car show a couple of girls started up a conversation with me... but that's the first time anyone has started up a conversation with me since I've moved.
Same here, new place, moved here last july, i am yet to make an actual friend.
GlitterBexie
02-05-2011, 06:25 PM
Well thats interesting. Most of the pretty girls I know are really sweet. Most of the catty girls are lacking in the looks department.
Ive met some pretty girls who can be quite cliquey, high school style, a lot of the (pretty) girls down where i live now either know my bf to flirt with or have slept with him (he was a doorman man whore.) so when i am out with him (pretty much one of the only people i know) they wont approach him and thus i dont meet any girls, they are wary of me. I am always smiley, always nice, always polite, and would never ever ever be mean or bitchy towards them, but they are unkind about me when he is at work and im not there.
Prime example, last night, he invited me to come see a band play where he was working, i went down, was having a giggle, he spots a girl he knows who is with a group of friends, waves, points her out and i smile too but they dont come over. I leave, he comes home later and tells me as soon as id left they came over and were talking to him for a while, "was that your gf before? I didnt know if it was because she looks like she's let herself go" Gee girls, thanks...
Im sat next to him on the computer when he checks his facebook later that night, two messages..one off a girl "shame your with her when you could have me xx" and the other "hope you had fun at work, im not pleased youre being such a good boy when ive just moved into my own house and need someone to warm up my bed! xx" from another...maybe im glad i dont have any girl friends down here!
bumblebeex
02-05-2011, 06:26 PM
Im defffinatly a loner.. I have no friends at all.. I am like, legit socially retarded.. Im always afraid of saying the wrong things, or looking dumb.. I don't go to bars/clubs because i don't drink and i look at other girls dancing and im like "If im gunna dance like that i might as well get payed" haha soo only time i socialize/dance/anything is on the job.. Plus I don't have much family.. My parents are alcoholics and anything i ever said to them gets around to my sisters, aunts and cousins but overexaggerated and overplayed, so it makes me look horrible and now for some reason no one in my family will give me a chance.. i hatte itt !!
Wild_Flower
02-11-2011, 05:02 AM
I'm a loner. Not very good at being social. Stripping has helped a little by getting used to talking to people I don't know. But still a loner
ravenblack
03-27-2011, 08:41 PM
im a loner i have one friend and she trys to get me to hang out at her house with her but i would rather hang out at my house she is more then welcome to hang out her with me but i think shes like me and just wants to be at her house lol
peachplumpear
03-28-2011, 12:40 PM
Whenever I tell my mom I'm sad I don't talk to my childhood best friend because she's way too cool for me now, she will say "Oh Katie? she was so annoying though!" Then she'll fondly recall for me that after a day spent hanging out with her, I would need some "downtime" and even if she was spending the night I would ignore her for a little bit in my room. I find this hilarious, I don't remember it at all. I've always had pretty boisterous best friends and I'm the quiet one. Yet I have A LOT to say if I know someone better, hehe.
In high school and college I had a couple circles I would travel in, party kids and goody two shoes, drama nerds, just not the sporty/rich types. Yet I wasn't really friends with any of them closely. Later though, it became part of my stripper persona to pretend I was a very popular rich girl. Like, it turns me on to think I could have been a nice pampered little daddy's girl with ALL the support systems of the world (church, sports, girl scouts, volunteer work) and I STILL went "bad" :) However...I was unsupervised, anti-authority and sex/drug-curious quite early on.
Annnnnyway NOW I just use facebook and I play warcraft, and I keep in touch with some girls in other cities. Not for years have I had someone who regularly invites me out to coffee, nail salon, working out w/e it is chicks do.
Actually I just moved to a new town and my upstairs neighbor is this nice girl who told me she was in hair school and I got all excited thinking about how she was going to be new best friend. My head was filled with sugarplum fantasies of us gossiping on a river walk, or her painstakingly giving me those time intensive delicate jennifer aniston highlights for her fashion portfolio. mmmm. Then she told me she was moving, sigh, before I even got her number! Oh well. She did give me a pass for a haircut at her school. Should I bring flowers????? I just thought it was funny how I was psyching myself out and hoping to see her and stuff, I'm not gay at all but I was strongly desiring her female company lol.
bubblebutt8o8
03-28-2011, 01:11 PM
i'm a loner as well. i've always sorta been one, and i really didn't understand why. i was sorta a shy kid and people always thought of me as stuck up but truly i was far from it. it was so bad growing up that i'd make up imaginary friends LOL thas sad but it is what it is you know. now that i'm older every now and then i will meet a female friend but i see that girls who you meet in the club always sorta have a reason why they're befriending you. whether its someone wants a ride home after be work or tryna be around you because your in male circles that they wanna be a part of so i dunno about that. i have one friend whos not a dancer that i've been friends with since we were 5 and even her, we've grown apart. we just live extremely different lives but its whatever.
shift_6x
03-29-2011, 06:31 PM
Ive met some pretty girls who can be quite cliquey, high school style, a lot of the (pretty) girls down where i live now either know my bf to flirt with or have slept with him (he was a doorman man whore.) so when i am out with him (pretty much one of the only people i know) they wont approach him and thus i dont meet any girls, they are wary of me. I am always smiley, always nice, always polite, and would never ever ever be mean or bitchy towards them, but they are unkind about me when he is at work and im not there.
Prime example, last night, he invited me to come see a band play where he was working, i went down, was having a giggle, he spots a girl he knows who is with a group of friends, waves, points her out and i smile too but they dont come over. I leave, he comes home later and tells me as soon as id left they came over and were talking to him for a while, "was that your gf before? I didnt know if it was because she looks like she's let herself go" Gee girls, thanks...
Im sat next to him on the computer when he checks his facebook later that night, two messages..one off a girl "shame your with her when you could have me xx" and the other "hope you had fun at work, im not pleased youre being such a good boy when ive just moved into my own house and need someone to warm up my bed! xx" from another...maybe im glad i dont have any girl friends down here!
U r better off without those sheisty bitches. I give u credit for even being nice to those type of girls at all. And as for the "she really let herself go" comments--They can stick those up their asses. I know its hurtful but those girls are worthless. Ur a much better person than them.
misselise07
04-04-2011, 07:06 AM
Right here...I have spent my entire life alone. I don't even have family or parents I am close with. I am a only child. Eh at least I know this way I can't ever get hurt by people again.
anouk.oui
04-04-2011, 07:37 AM
kinda reminds me of my done n dusted topic http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=150911
a lot of us seem to be in a similar boat.
camille27
05-22-2011, 10:09 PM
this is really interesting. a lot of the ladies posting in this thread, i have pmed and tried to strike up conversations with and gotten cold-shouldered. it is what it is, but very interesting!
sammii
05-23-2011, 12:02 AM
I've been a loner since my Sophomore year of High School. I felt kind of embarrassed at my graduation, because I was one of the only people that no one clapped for when they announced my name. I tried to hide the fact that I was alone for so many years. It's partially my fault because there were several girls at school who tried to reach out to me and be my friend (even the popular crowd), but I had (and still do) really bad social anxiety. I don't really have any friends other than my boyfriend, but I do wish I had a girl friend to talk to.
Thank god I discovered adderall, lol. It completely transforms me from a meek, shy girl, to a girl who won't shut the hell up.
sananeko
05-23-2011, 12:08 AM
this is really interesting. a lot of the ladies posting in this thread, i have pmed and tried to strike up conversations with and gotten cold-shouldered. it is what it is, but very interesting!
You could always pm me.. I may be odd but I do talk unless your intro is can I stick my dick in you..
camille27
05-23-2011, 09:56 AM
re:sananeo, it's more like...people who label themselves as loners seem to perpetuate the behavior that isolates them from other people. it's just strange to me..
kellyallstar
05-23-2011, 10:58 AM
seems like most of us are the same way haha :spin:
sananeko
05-27-2011, 07:01 PM
re:sananeo, it's more like...people who label themselves as loners seem to perpetuate the behavior that isolates them from other people. it's just strange to me..
I understand that. I should look at my post in this thread again but I'm mostly a loner cause I'm real picky about my friends... I seem to have this nice little gift that helps me not get played. But also I'm told I have the mother vibe.. I think that is why some people are nerved about that. I do tend take in lost boys and girls.
I'm actually lucky enough to have up to ten friends and most of them are in state YAY! So I might not be a loner anymore..
kitinboots
06-05-2011, 02:36 AM
I like a partner in crime for things that I'm anxious or nervous about, like travelling to work in new places. But I like to do most things alone.
And I hate sharing my bed.
I want a friend to ski with, go for dinner with, occasionally drink with and to travel with. None of that bullshit in between. I don't want to listen to your boy trouble. I don't want you to come round and use my toilet and shower everyday because your water is off. I don't want to come round to yours and wait 30min just so we can nip to the supermarket together!!
JayATee
06-05-2011, 12:36 PM
Hi ladies,
You guys are such cool peeps I wish I could hang out with you in person. I was wondering if you guys are loners too. How many friends do you have? Does the whole world seem to know you're a a stripper? Do you have a lot of acquaintances?
Lots of aquaintences. TONS of people know me. I have one or 2 really close friends though and that's it. My alone time is precious to me. And yes, at this point, most know I'm a dancer.
Amy Lee
06-05-2011, 09:51 PM
I am going to college away from where I am from, which is NYC and I find it kind of hard to relate to the people in this area where I have been living (down south).
I'm not a loner, but I find myself being by myself ....ALOT. I am on track to graduate school and I seem to just go to school and work at home. I don't really know too many people here who have similar interests to me.
I am applying to work as a waitress in some stip clubs or gentlemans clubs and hoping I get hired and I hope it will improve my social life....and I have to go an hour away from where I currently stay to find a decent strip club, that should give you an idea of this shit hole place...great university though.:-\