View Full Version : how do i make up for my shortcomings..
Almost Jaded
01-24-2011, 05:44 PM
Female ejaculation is not a myth.
jack0177057
01-24-2011, 05:54 PM
^ Its just pee. :D
yoda57us
01-24-2011, 05:57 PM
^ I suppose they were all faking it, then...
Pretty much. Think of it as boy/girl professional wrestling with penetration. They are really having sex and they are going to keep going until the guy shoots a load but they are just acting like they wouldn't rather be someplace else. Now, many female porn actresses will tell you that they "really orgasm every single time" but they are fibbing most of the time. Even if they did get into it at first the bloom is off the rose pretty quickly when you have to perform on demand with a total stranger and go at it, on and off, for four to eight hours at a shot.
Not my GF, though... She demands that I make her orgasm first,... and if she doesn't,... she's quite honest about her disappointment.
I don't blame her jack. But, unless you have been holding out on us, I doubt you are having sex with your girlfriend in a room with a director telling you what position to be in and for how long (no matter how uncomfortable it is), a camera man or two, a sound guy, a grip, associated production assistants staring at you, hot lights and no air conditioning (it makes too much noise). If you are having sex this way and you are giving your GF orgasms my hat is off to you!
Are we talking about the same thing? I'm not talking about female ejaculation (which is a porn myth). I'm talking about climax - sexual peak, uncontrolled moaning, involuntary muscular spasms and euphoria.
Yes we are jack. In the porn industry it's called acting. All of the traits you are describing can be very easily faked by actresses and, with the exception of muscular spasms and ejaculation, escorts, wives and disinterested one-night-stands who are tired and want to go to sleep... pretty much on demand.
yoda57us
01-24-2011, 06:00 PM
Female ejaculation is not a myth.
^ Its just pee. :D
Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. it is not a myth IRL, it often is in porn scenes.
Rookie2010
01-24-2011, 07:10 PM
It's definitely real, Jack. Although i've also never come across it, it is also known as squirting.
lopaw
01-24-2011, 07:52 PM
Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. it is not a myth IRL, it often is in porn scenes.
As usual, yoda is spot on :).
I've been with women that have ejaculated quite profoundly, and made quite a mess to boot! The liquid is very noticeably NOT urine. It doesn't look or smell like it at all.
But I agree that most porn ejacs are just well timed pee (perhaps with the exception of vids made specifically for fem ejac fetishes).
Almost Jaded
01-24-2011, 10:33 PM
Like I said - not a myth. ;)
jack0177057
01-25-2011, 08:46 AM
I don't blame her jack. But, unless you have been holding out on us, I doubt you are having sex with your girlfriend in a room with a director telling you what position to be in and for how long (no matter how uncomfortable it is), a camera man or two, a sound guy, a grip, associated production assistants staring at you, hot lights and no air conditioning (it makes too much noise). If you are having sex this way and you are giving your GF orgasms my hat is off to you!
Oh, never mind... You're talking about porn... I was talking about real life. I thought you were saying that girls rarely have clitoral orgasms in real life... I was taking issue with that.
I see where this got confusing - I said, "Most orgasms are clitoral orgasms. There are less vaginal orgasms - except in porn." My point was that most real life orgasms are clitoral orgasms. I was being sarcastic about the porn vaginal orgasms.
jack0177057
01-25-2011, 09:02 AM
Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. it is not a myth IRL, it often is in porn scenes.
It's definitely real, Jack. Although i've also never come across it, it is also known as squirting.
I've been with women that have ejaculated quite profoundly, and made quite a mess to boot! The liquid is very noticeably NOT urine. It doesn't look or smell like it at all.
Like I said - not a myth.
Its damn confusing to me. I once made a girl "pee" in bed and she was very embarassed about it (though I did the best I could to alleviate her concerns ). I've also been told by girls that touching their g-spot area feels really good, but makes them want to "pee". So how can you tell the difference? (Looking and smelling after the fact does not seem like a satisfactory solution.)
You guys bragging about this, what did you do to make the girl ejaculate?
unbeleavable
01-25-2011, 10:02 AM
^^Fingers, I've seen it a few times & asking her where & how hard she liked my fingers. She will tell you if it can happen & how to do it.
lemiwinks31
01-25-2011, 10:38 AM
i still feel im a little bellow average haha but all you are making me feel a little better :) plus im a grower not a shower so it starts off pretty bad if u know what i mean lol
"In the land of the blind, the one eyed man is king"
Its just a problem of comparison. If you start hanging out in circles where females come in contact with only tiny penises...you will seem HUGE by comparison. Ferrets, for example...probalby have tiny cocks. If you started hanging out in ferret circles, within a short time, word would travel....you would be the guy with the huge cock. You could start going around underground ferret sex clubs, you would be famous for your giant member...they would probably give you a nickname based on your nationality, like if you were scandanavian, they would call you Peter Von Girthyhosen, or Gigante Penini if you were italian. You could parlay that into a profitable career in ferret porn. Then you could give yourself your OWN stage name having to do with your superdong....like Mike Oxlong, or Hugh G. Rexshun. Then you could live your lifelong dream of being "big penis guy."
Or
you could stick with humans and worry about the things you can control like ......not being the creepy guy who obsesses about his small cock
Almost Jaded
01-25-2011, 04:21 PM
The best place for stimulating the G spot is frustratingly close to the bladder, lol. Applying pressure there can make a lady feel the urge, or - *gasp * - make her a pee a little, lol.
Some girls "squirt" in the not-pee sense almost every time they orgasm - very rare, I've known one. Others do when they have a particularly strong one - I have accomplished this twice, once with simultaneous oral and finger stimulation and once fucking with a particularly stimulating sleeve.
lopaw
01-25-2011, 09:03 PM
You guys bragging about this, what did you do to make the girl ejaculate?
Bought her a BMW ;)
yoda57us
01-25-2011, 09:10 PM
Bought her a BMW ;)
I just spewed coffee out of my nose from laughing so hard....
Rarity
01-25-2011, 09:19 PM
By the end of that relationship, I knew my way around every piece of the female anatomy as well as any lesbo. Over the next few years I perfected the art and learned how to adjust to different womens preferences. My very next partner was amazed, and it just got better from there. Tip to the OP and other guys like him - when they're already shaking and gasping for breath after a couple of earth shattering O's on your tongue and fingers, 4 to 6 inches can get quite a reaction, lol. The first time you actually make a girl black out is something you'll never forget (MM was the first girl to ever make ME black out - yes ladies, guys can have it just as good as you).
Keep it coming... (yikes...)[/QUOTE]
The BEST head I EVER got was from a dude who learned from a lesbo ;D
OH and on the issue of girls not knowing their bra size, I believe breasts increase with age, my moms are way bigger than they were 20 years ago. Also hormonal changes and weight gain can have an affect as well.
Hopper
01-26-2011, 04:55 AM
^ Good point. They can definitely change size for various reasons. Another thing is the that the more toned or developed a woman's muscles are (if it includes her chest muscles) the smaller her boobs get.
princessjas
01-26-2011, 12:07 PM
A lot of girls with implants wear the wrong bra size, because regular bras aren't made for our boobs (there are a few specialty lines that do make bras for implants though). I measure a 32F or some ridiculous size, but the underwires in that size are waaay too narrow for my boobs, so I have to actually buy a 34DD or DDD. Those fit and aren't painful. The only drawback is the band stretches out even faster because I'm starting on the smallest set of hooks.
^ Good point. They can definitely change size for various reasons. Another thing is the that the more toned or developed a woman's muscles are (if it includes her chest muscles) the smaller her boobs get.
Developed chest muscles do not decrease breast size, if anything they sit behind them and perk them up. Lowering body fat, which yes, does often goe along with developing muscle tone, is what decreases breast size (because breasts are largely adipose tissue).
lopaw
01-26-2011, 09:44 PM
........ I knew my way around every piece of the female anatomy as well as any lesbo.
I seriously doubt that.
We "lesbos" are in a league of our own 8).
Almost Jaded
01-26-2011, 11:53 PM
Find us a willing judge, 'cuz I'll take that Pepsi challenge. 8)
Hopper
01-27-2011, 12:51 AM
Developed chest muscles do not decrease breast size, if anything they sit behind them and perk them up. Lowering body fat, which yes, does often goe along with developing muscle tone, is what decreases breast size (because breasts are largely adipose tissue).
That's what I was referring to. I know developing chest muscles can make the breasts look bigger by lifting them and pushing them out but usually when women tone or develop their bodies they do lose fat and their breasts decrease in actual size because of this. The discussion was about cup sizes, not how breasts look.
lagirl
01-27-2011, 02:48 AM
I really want to know what i have to do to get a cute girl. I'm always nervous when it gets intimate thought because my size is a little less than average.. Is there any way to make up for this of letting her know before she gets the surprise or is it a turn off to just tell her before?? pleasee enlighten me!!
in order to get a cute girl you need to be cute yourself. if youre not cute then what makes you think you deserve a cute girl? dont ask for something that you yourself cant deliver
and cute girls dont give a flying fuck about size. maybe if you stop going out with oversexed cunts who have been brainwashed by porn that bigger is better you wouldnt be getting rejected during sex so much. rejecting a guy because his penis is too small is just as bad as rejecting a girl beccause her tits are too small. its horrible, disgusting, and completely uncalled for
jack0177057
01-27-2011, 08:59 AM
^ Well, to be fair... We can't help what we are attracted to. As an example, I can really appreciate, admire and respect a smart, caring and sensitive woman, but to want to go out with her or fall "in love" with her, I must also be physically attracted to her. Breast size and shape are very important to me for attraction. They are a prominent feature of a woman's body. Its not logical or rational, it just is. I read somewhere that, biologically, men are attracted to women with voluptous curves because large breasts and round butt indicates ideal conditions for childbirth.
A penis, unlike the breasts, is concealed and only displayed/shared for intimacy. I don't know if equating the two are the same. Yet, if a woman said she cannot be sexually satisfied with anything less than a 8-inch penis, I would respect that. If a woman has a very large or loose vagina, she might have a legitimate reason for preferring a man with a large penis. (I learned from reading The Godfather, that there are women with loose vaginas that can only be satisfied with large penises, unless they receive an operation to tighten their vaginal opening and muscles.)
lopaw
01-27-2011, 10:04 PM
Find us a willing judge, 'cuz I'll take that Pepsi challenge. 8)
LOL
We could bank selling tickets to that one!
KS_Stevia
01-29-2011, 01:47 PM
I'm a little above average, but I've never had any complaints. My only insecurity has come from the fact that, while my sexual partners have been able to achieve clitoral orgasms fairly easy, vaginal orgasms have been less consistent and reliable. The fact that it is harder for women to achieve vaginal orgasm makes their partners feel that their dick is inadequate, but, I've discovered that this is normal. Most orgasms are clitoral orgasms. There are less vaginal orgasms - except in porn.
Clitoral orgasm can be achieved by rubbing the penis head on the (lubricated) clit... So, as long as your dick has a head, you can get the work done. Well lubricated fingers or your tongue (both shorter than your penis) can also get the job done.
As far as the G-spot orgasm... My research (and some modest success) reveals that the best way to stimulate the G-spot is with your fingers or with a sex toy specifically designed for this purpose. The dick, big or small, is not the ideal instrument for reaching the G-spot.
Thank you for understanding. I've slept w so many men over the years that just didn't get it and thought something was wrong w me or them.
also, all orgasms are clitoral to an extent. Even internal ones, all from enough stimulation of erectile tissue...the only type of tissue that has the means to tell the brain to initiate orgasm.
Not my GF, though... She demands that I make her orgasm first,... and if she doesn't,... she's quite honest about her disappointment.
Are we talking about the same thing? I'm not talking about female ejaculation (which is a porn myth). I'm talking about climax - sexual peak, uncontrolled moaning, involuntary muscular spasms and euphoria.
You seem unhappy that she "demands" an orgasm first. Why is that? My partner and I almost always get me cumming first, during foreplay activity...so that my insides are ripe, wet, and very sensitive upon initial penetration. It makes the sex SOOOOO much significantly better. Plus, many women can orgasm again during the coitus. He is always more than happy to do it as it increases the pleasure and experience for both of us. So whats your deal?
Gspot orgasm not a myth. There is ureic fluid in the female ejaculate just like there is ureic fluid in male semen. But the kidneys don't release "waste" during female orgasm so it doesnt have that metallic smell or color, because its not really pee, just has some components of pee.
jack0177057
01-30-2011, 04:48 PM
Thank you for understanding. I've slept w so many men over the years that just didn't get it and thought something was wrong w me or them.
Thanks. To be honest, I didn't figure it out on my own. Most if this is counter-intuitive to the mail brain. I've read a number of sex education books that gave me a clue.
also, all orgasms are clitoral to an extent. Even internal ones, all from enough stimulation of erectile tissue...the only type of tissue that has the means to tell the brain to initiate orgasm.
Agreed. This gets into the G-spot debate. The most recent ultrasound investigations of the "G-spot" mystery reveal that the "G-spot" is actually the area around the interial root of the clitorus complex. So yeah, all pleasure comes from the clitorus.
You seem unhappy that she "demands" an orgasm first. Why is that?
Not at all. I just meant to emphasize that she is not the faking kind. If I accidentally cum before her (rarely happens), she registers her disappointment. I'm cool with that, if she's happy - I'm happy - Hearing a woman orgasm is the most beautiful sound in the world.
Gspot orgasm not a myth. There is ureic fluid in the female ejaculate just like there is ureic fluid in male semen. But the kidneys don't release "waste" during female orgasm so it doesnt have that metallic smell or color, because its not really pee, just has some components of pee.
Well okay, female ejaculation might be real... Now, tell me how to achieve it. I've tried the two fingers and the "come hither" motion... What else do you suggest?
tempest666
01-31-2011, 08:48 PM
. (I learned from reading The Godfather, that there are women with loose vaginas that can only be satisfied with large penises, unless they receive an operation to tighten their vaginal opening and muscles.)
Sonny Corleone! }:D
tempest666
01-31-2011, 08:51 PM
I take my men the same length as my stripper heels: No less than 7 inches. :D
yoda57us
01-31-2011, 09:19 PM
I see where this got confusing - I said, "Most orgasms are clitoral orgasms. There are less vaginal orgasms - except in porn." My point was that most real life orgasms are clitoral orgasms. I was being sarcastic about the porn vaginal orgasms.
LOL, part of the problem with the internet is that no one can see your tongue in your cheek from the other side of a wifi connection.
yoda57us
01-31-2011, 10:02 PM
Well okay, female ejaculation might be real... Now, tell me how to achieve it. I've tried the two fingers and the "come hither" motion... What else do you suggest?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nk04pwa8vK8
KS_Stevia
02-01-2011, 07:36 PM
Well okay, female ejaculation might be real... Now, tell me how to achieve it. I've tried the two fingers and the "come hither" motion... What else do you suggest?
I could teach you, but I'd have to charge....
yoda57us
02-01-2011, 09:58 PM
I could teach you, but I'd have to charge....
Yes!!!!!!!!}:D
(yoda smashes piggy bank to the ground and starts counting out money for air fare and "squirting lessons")
femmesalome
02-01-2011, 10:30 PM
well.. will you walk out on a girl if you find out she's an a cup instead of a c with her super push up bra?
jack0177057
02-02-2011, 08:34 AM
I could teach you, but I'd have to charge....
Fair enough... But, if I turn out to be your best student - you have to pay me! }:D
Redwolf
02-02-2011, 09:11 AM
well.. will you walk out on a girl if you find out she's an a cup instead of a c with her super push up bra?
No, I would enjoy those surely very sensitive, responsive, and perky itty bitties for the gift that they are and do my best to register my appreciation of her body.
The slight difference between the smaller cup boobs and the small dick is that some women do express the need for a larger penis for their full satisfaction or greater satisfaction for whatever reason. Can some guys be more attracted with busty ladies? Yes. So can some ladies be more attracted to well endowed men. A man's sexual satisfaction - in general - depends less on the size of his leading lady's breasts than a lady's enjoyment might depend on his penile shape.
A lady told me that she prefers not the 100% rock hard erection for vaginal intercourse because a slightly softer erection will make more contact with the sides and ridges of her vaginal interior. This maximizes her stimulation, apparently.
yoda57us
02-02-2011, 10:02 AM
well.. will you walk out on a girl if you find out she's an a cup instead of a c with her super push up bra?
No I wouldn't (I love ittie bitties!). Nor would I leave if I discovered stretch marks or any other relatively minimal imperfections on a woman that I was about to have sex with.
Now, I may have lost track here but it seems to me that the ladies, or at least one of you, started down the path of walking out an a guy who didn't "measure-up" once his clothing came off...just sayin'...
jack0177057
02-02-2011, 12:57 PM
Well okay, female ejaculation might be real... Now, tell me how to achieve it. I've tried the two fingers and the "come hither" motion... What else do you suggest?
I could teach you, but I'd have to charge....
Yes!!!!!!!!}:D
(yoda smashes piggy bank to the ground and starts counting out money for air fare and "squirting lessons")
That offer was made to me... >:( Its going to be one-on-one tutoring, not a classroom.
yoda57us
02-02-2011, 02:49 PM
That offer was made to me... >:( Its going to be one-on-one tutoring, not a classroom.
Who said anything about a classroom?
jack0177057
02-02-2011, 07:20 PM
^ LOL,... Okay, but I go first. She has to teach me to master the art, like a black-belt in kung fu (karate, whatever),... with discipline, meditation, concentration, determination, speed and precision... After she's helped me achieve ninja-level "squirting" skills and jedi-power mastery of the g-spot "force",... then, she can spend time tutoring you.
But, you may have to wait a while... I'm a slow learner. }:D
yoda57us
02-02-2011, 07:32 PM
After she's helped me achieve ninja-level "squirting" skills and jedi-power mastery of the g-spot "force",... then, she can spend time tutoring you.
Actually jack, I don't need any tutoring...
jack0177057
02-02-2011, 08:48 PM
^ LOL... That's right, you already are a jedi... She'll just tutor me then. I needs lots of tutoring. }:D
DesuvsDeath
02-02-2011, 09:38 PM
would she still walk out??
Possibly if you picked up a whore who cares more about dick size than the person they're fucking.
Not saying that it's not okay for some girls to want only huge dick... I'm just saying that if a girl really cared about the guy she was having sex with... she'd at least give it a shot and see if you couldn't have mutually satisfying sex anyway.
tempest666
02-03-2011, 06:31 PM
Possibly if you picked up a whore who cares more about dick size than the person they're fucking.
Not saying that it's not okay for some girls to want only huge dick... I'm just saying that if a girl really cared about the guy she was having sex with... she'd at least give it a shot and see if you couldn't have mutually satisfying sex anyway.
*raises hand* whore here! But to minimize the chances that I will end up with a less than satisfactory bedmate, I have a rigorous screening process.
Tall skinny white boys, no ass, preferably of Scottish descent have never failed me. They always have had HUGE cocks, nothing under 6 3/4. }:D
lemiwinks31
02-08-2011, 11:14 AM
*raises hand* whore here! But to minimize the chances that I will end up with a less than satisfactory bedmate, I have a rigorous screening process.
Tall skinny white boys, no ass, preferably of Scottish descent have never failed me. They always have had HUGE cocks, nothing under 6 3/4. }:D
well....that....and ruler with the sign at your front door saying "You must be THIS long to ride this ride"
lemiwinks31
02-08-2011, 11:18 AM
http://rlv.zcache.com/you_must_be_this_tall_poster-p228489337448795443t5ta_400.jpg
SCWizard
02-26-2011, 03:56 AM
Ladies this is my second visit to this site and my first post ... so if I screw this up I hope you'll understand.
My question relates to appearance of the penis in its normal flacid state. Specifically, in addition to big and short penis (I assume we're talking when its fully erect) there is the "Grower" and the "Shower" in the flacid state. The "Shower" in the flacid state just gets hard and doesn't get any longer. The "Grower" increases 3 to 5 times larger as it gets hard. Does this matter a lot to a woman? One draw back to the "Grower" is after you've cum you shrink back down to the flacid state. On the other hand, I would think the ability of the woman to make it grow would give her a sense of power.
Other comments:
I've encountered a woman who squirts only once. The first time it happened she didn't forewarn me so when it happened I was caught totally off guard. It was a forceful stream that drenched my face and the sheets. Talk about a wet spot!
The think I enjoy most about sex is seeing that the woman I'm with has a good time and is satified. Consequently, I love oral sex. What I try to do is pay attention to the sounds she is making and the movements she makes. If I can "read" her body I can make her time with me a good experience. This generally works unless it's all out crazy, take no prisoners sex. Then its just unbridled passion and animal sex. I'm not paying attention to anything, satisfying the urge and passion that has built up.
Almost Jaded
02-26-2011, 04:03 AM
Possibly if you picked up a whore who cares more about dick size than the person they're fucking.
Not saying that it's not okay for some girls to want only huge dick... I'm just saying that if a girl really cared about the guy she was having sex with... she'd at least give it a shot and see if you couldn't have mutually satisfying sex anyway.
I had one woman express immediate and open disappointment with my equipment - which was a surprise, most ladies are at least somewhat diplomatic if they were expecting more, lol.
In any event, she made multiple booty calls afterward, so it's not an insurmountable issue! :evil:
KS_Stevia
02-27-2011, 06:59 PM
My question relates to appearance of the penis in its normal flacid state. Specifically, in addition to big and short penis (I assume we're talking when its fully erect) there is the "Grower" and the "Shower" in the flacid state. The "Shower" in the flacid state just gets hard and doesn't get any longer. The "Grower" increases 3 to 5 times larger as it gets hard. Does this matter a lot to a woman? One draw back to the "Grower" is after you've cum you shrink back down to the flacid state. On the other hand, I would think the ability of the woman to make it grow would give her a sense of power.
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Mine is both a grower and a shower. He is large flacid and even larger erect. But he has so many other issues...I don't think it matters.
I believe being a GROWER is more important to most ladies.
tempest666
03-08-2011, 02:59 AM
My ex fiance was a grower...his rig doubled in size
Almost Jaded
03-08-2011, 09:14 AM
If it "only" doubled, he was actually more of a shower. Flaccid, I'm not much too look at! Turned on but not erect, it's fuller but still has a long way to go. Some of us triple or quadruple or more, lol.
TurboDSM
03-14-2011, 05:46 PM
LOL, this thread made me laugh. Guys are concerned with penis size, and some girls are, get over it. Get in there and find out! Worst thing she can say is "hell no!" and you still probably got to see her naked! So enjoy! Also, MAD props to Fast Tan for the Corvette logo as a photo, that's freaking HOT! To everyone out there enjoy a healthy sex life!