View Full Version : It's so hard to be pretty
miabella
02-07-2011, 03:54 PM
it is hard being pretty, but not that hard. sure, people are useless in helping you with certain kinds of health problems (presently for example, i have to eat like a football player to keep my weight up, nursing requires 2092402302 calories a day, heh, and most non-skinny women i know are like 'oh i wish i had that problem!' not really, no you don't), but they are also really really nice to you and cut you a lot of slack socially that is simply not the case if you're less attractive.
from what i've seen, the skinny personal trainer chick who's around an 8.5 with 3 kids is cut way more slack when they act up in public than the 200 lb lady who's a 5 and also has 3 loud kids.
so despite the frustrations for me of having to eat piles of food to keep from being too thin, it's still easier socially than if i were 50lbs overweight and people clucked pityingly about how sad it was that nursing as weight loss wasn't working for me (some fat breastfeeding women get that joy).
i used to fret about being overly hott when i was single and 23, but now that i'm a married mother type well past 23, i am super relaxed about how great people still are to me because i am slim yet curvy and have a pretty face.
tempest666
02-07-2011, 04:08 PM
Anne Boleyn wasn't considered beautiful. Everyone agrees on that. Neither was Cleopatra. Both of them had sisters that were the conventional idea of beauty for the time. Nobody gives a flying fuck about Mary Boleyn or Arsinoe. Why? Because Nan and Cleo had something far more dangerous and threatening. Intellect + sex appeal. Anybody can become pretty with the right makeup, hair etc.
What is more threatening to people is a woman with intellectual depth who knows she has sex appeal and uses it.
Djoser
02-07-2011, 04:50 PM
Good looking women can draw negative attention, absolutely. Have almost gotten in many fights due to this phenomenon.
Of course, it beats being ugly by a long shot.
Good-looking people do have it easier in a lot of ways, but it's no guarantee of an easy life.
I have worked with some really, really insecure beautiful women--it's always strange to see it but they are definitely out there. This business tends to be very hard on them, too because of the focus on the superficial. But usually that's not the problem.
I don't see what the big fuss is. There's always something annoying about any given situation, and people will want to bitch about it of course. The vast majority of my male friends insist I have the best job ever, but I bitch about work a lot.
TeeBaby
02-08-2011, 12:27 AM
In my opinion, people never realize something about themselves until it's the cause of a negative reaction - you have a funny-looking nose, you walk funny, you're hair is thin, what a weird accent, etc
Being feminine and "pretty" is so new to me - at least 2 years old and I'm about to be 23. And I never realized that I was "sexy" and pretty until I got haters. Sure every once in a while a chick will tell me I'm cute and honestly that is hard for some ladies to do because either we're shy, don't want to seem like we're hitting on the other, or we keep our thoughts to ourselves. But bitches, and I do mean bitches, can hate so damn easily - outloud. It doesn't make life hard for me or any pretty person I know though - well I guess we can ask those bullied pretty girls in high school. Life is still the same, maybe an ounce more of attention. I'm not complaining. Rather be considered pretty in the eye of someone I want to be the beholder than someone not right with themselves on the inside.
SupaByoch
02-08-2011, 03:22 AM
Love the smartass, assholish responses to legitimate complaints. It's so easy to bash those you think have it better than you, isn't it?
billh
02-08-2011, 09:19 AM
This is why I tell men that I am looking for a serious relationship. I can usually spot guys only looking for sex because they show their true colors early.
I hope you are right but most of the guys who only care about bedding beautiful women are pretty good at putting up a disguise that they also are looking for a relationship also. The most certain way to expose them would be to hold off on sex. Those guys won't wait, they will move on to their next hot target. The one who really is wanting to try a relationship will wait, he may not like it but he will wait.
sananeko
02-08-2011, 09:24 AM
I hope you are right but most of the guys who only care about bedding beautiful women are pretty good at putting up a disguise that they also are looking for a relationship also. The most certain way to expose them would be to hold off on sex. Those guys won't wait, the will move on to their next hot target. The who really is wanting to try a relationship will wait, he may not like it but he will wait.
This is true. If I didn't wait my bed count would be higher than 1.
billh
02-08-2011, 11:18 AM
This is true. If I didn't wait my bed count would be higher than 1.
That month or so a lady will use to make sure a guy is in it for the right reasons is tough. When you are attracted to her and start liking her and feel a connection developing, the attraction multiplies. So badly you want the affection to move to a physical stage. In the long it does seem the wait builds trust in the relationship so I guess it is worth it.
Sorry to thread jack.
Kellydancer
02-08-2011, 12:20 PM
I am of the firm belief you have to wait. I plan to wait much longer than one month. Several months and if he wants the same he will have no problem. Many guys in fact that I know waited until they married.
sananeko
02-08-2011, 12:25 PM
I am of the firm belief you have to wait. I plan to wait much longer than one month. Several months and if he wants the same he will have no problem. Many guys in fact that I know waited until they married.
Go with a year, that way you can tell if they remember your birthday and cute little events.
Kellydancer
02-08-2011, 12:39 PM
Go with a year, that way you can tell if they remember your birthday and cute little events.
I am definitely thinking 6 months-1 year because of that. People often say men won't wait, but I have dated a few looking for relationships and they waited. If a guy is looking for a relationship leading to marriage as I am he won't be in a hurry to have sex. This is something I think too many woman make a mistake on. They think if they sleep together early it will help the relationship but it often does the opposite.
zombee
02-08-2011, 12:45 PM
I have also been plain and pretty and I would never go back to being plain but it was a lot easier to fly under the radar which is what I prefer.
This is another thing that might be true for most girls, but it's been tough for me to make male friends. I only have 1 that has not made a move on me and permanently changed our relationship for the awkward. A few guys have started to get to know me, and I thought they seemed like people I could be friends with, but when it becomes clear I was not going to cheat on my boyfriend, they suddenly ignore me. I have trouble making friends so it did kind of hurt. If I had not been pretty I think they probably would have just left me alone from the start.
Even my girlfriends have 'jokingly' called me a bitch for not being overweight when they are. It's not a huge issue, but it makes things weird because I never know how to react, and little things like that accumulate.
OJenni!
02-08-2011, 01:31 PM
I can't count how many guys I've had really try to cheat on their SO's with me. And they always used the same line: "I'm in love with xyz, but I want to fuck YOU." And then, even if you totally shoot them down, you're always the bad guy after that, and all the girlfriends will hate you on principle.
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Oh tell me about it! I have about 130 "friends" on facebook. I won't "friend" people I do not know, but I guess around 80% of the "friends" on my facebook page are people I don't see on a regular basis. Many are people I have casually met throughout elementary school/high school/university. Heck there are people on there I have not seen in 10 years.
Anyhow recently in the past month on two separate occasions a facebook male "friend" has come on to me by posting on my wall or hitting me up in the chat. Both had "in a relationship" on their profile with a link to their girlfriend's page.
One was a guy I tutored briefly in university. Back then I was fat and nerdy/gothy and he was more a jock. He paid me to tutor him because he knew I was good, but really did not say as much as "hello" outside the library. Fast forward 6 years and here I am looking good and have recent photos on facebook...well now he wants to give me attention and talk about how sexy AND smart I am. He says he wants to hook up for "dinner sometime" and "get to know you better". Well I did take a look at his profile and it said "in a relationship with" and a link to his gf's profile! I asked him about that and he said, "well the relationship is on the rocks right now and we are going to break up soon". I said, "well sorry then I can't be seeing you if you have not finished that relationship." and he gave me that whole "oh come on baby! I will dump her" BS line! I have been ignoring him ever since.
The other guy met me through a common friend when I was in Jr. high and he was in highschool. He saw me at a few of the dances at my friends school but never said much to me. Now he is trying to get with me and I politely declined because of his "in a relationship" status. He told me he needed "adventure" outside of his relationship!
lemiwinks31
02-08-2011, 01:46 PM
I am definitely thinking 6 months-1 year because of that. People often say men won't wait, but I have dated a few looking for relationships and they waited. If a guy is looking for a relationship leading to marriage as I am he won't be in a hurry to have sex. This is something I think too many woman make a mistake on. They think if they sleep together early it will help the relationship but it often does the opposite.
Just because he is in a hurry to have sex...doesnt mean he isnt looking for the relationship to lead to marriage....
It could just mean....that he wants to have sex with a person that he likes enough to be considering a future with her.....imagine that.
Not having sex or having sex isnt going to help or hurt the relationship........if both of you are adults and looking for a serious relationship leading toward marriage...that wont magically change if you have sex on the 3rd date....
If he disappears or becomes less interested in you after you have sex, it wasnt going to work anyway(even if you 'held out').
The right answer to when you should have sex in the relationship is...when it feels right for both of you.
sananeko
02-08-2011, 01:49 PM
Just because he is in a hurry to have sex...doesnt mean he isnt looking for the relationship to lead to marriage....
It could just mean....that he wants to have sex with a person that he likes enough to be considering a future with her.....imagine that.
Not having sex or having sex isnt going to help or hurt the relationship........if both of you are adults and looking for a serious relationship leading toward marriage...that wont magically change if you have sex on the 3rd date....
If he disappears or becomes less interested in you after you have sex, it wasnt going to work anyway(even if you 'held out').
The right answer to when you should have sex in the relationship is...when it feels right for both of you.
And to some of us waiting a few years is the right feel. Some of us don't hold out just to see if he will be there, we just want to wait til we're ready.
Kisca
02-08-2011, 01:53 PM
^ @OJenni, Wow guys are such assholes. I would slam on their balls hard and make it known what they are doing is wrong. Guys like that need to be taught.. I would even let the girls know.. They were lucky to get someone like you and decline when other girls could have accepted the offer thinking "well were just friends" or "they are going to break with the gf"
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Ive had guys tell me, Im a perfect GF, perfect whatever.. but that they will never marry me. WTF? I hate that crap.. I dont understand it. I had guys tell me I was pretty and all that, but no matter what if they are fucking the hottest woman in the world, they will be looking at others.. that is something I never get. I mean why should I get dressed up for you, why should I bother to do my hair when eyes (or hands) will be shifted elsewhere. I do think its better to prettier than ugly.. But whats pretty to you could be different to me. Everyone is jugded no matter what though.
Kellydancer
02-08-2011, 01:57 PM
Oh tell me about it! I have about 130 "friends" on facebook. I won't "friend" people I do not know, but I guess around 80% of the "friends" on my facebook page are people I don't see on a regular basis. Many are people I have casually met throughout elementary school/high school/university. Heck there are people on there I have not seen in 10 years.
Anyhow recently in the past month on two separate occasions a facebook male "friend" has come on to me by posting on my wall or hitting me up in the chat. Both had "in a relationship" on their profile with a link to their girlfriend's page.
One was a guy I tutored briefly in university. Back then I was fat and nerdy/gothy and he was more a jock. He paid me to tutor him because he knew I was good, but really did not say as much as "hello" outside the library. Fast forward 6 years and here I am looking good and have recent photos on facebook...well now he wants to give me attention and talk about how sexy AND smart I am. He says he wants to hook up for "dinner sometime" and "get to know you better". Well I did take a look at his profile and it said "in a relationship with" and a link to his gf's profile! I asked him about that and he said, "well the relationship is on the rocks right now and we are going to break up soon". I said, "well sorry then I can't be seeing you if you have not finished that relationship." and he gave me that whole "oh come on baby! I will dump her" BS line! I have been ignoring him ever since.
The other guy met me through a common friend when I was in Jr. high and he was in highschool. He saw me at a few of the dances at my friends school but never said much to me. Now he is trying to get with me and I politely declined because of his "in a relationship" status. He told me he needed "adventure" outside of his relationship!
I've had that problem with Facebook too. Most of my FB friends are classmates I haven't seen in 20 years. Seems everyday I get a message asking me to 'get together" even though these guys are mostly married.
Kisca
02-08-2011, 01:59 PM
Just because he is in a hurry to have sex...doesnt mean he isnt looking for the relationship to lead to marriage....
It could just mean....that he wants to have sex with a person that he likes enough to be considering a future with her.....imagine that.
Not having sex or having sex isnt going to help or hurt the relationship........if both of you are adults and looking for a serious relationship leading toward marriage...that wont magically change if you have sex on the 3rd date....
If he disappears or becomes less interested in you after you have sex, it wasnt going to work anyway(even if you 'held out').
The right answer to when you should have sex in the relationship is...when it feels right for both of you.
I never understood why a girl should hold on to sex.. My mother always said that but if i want to have sex I will no matter who the guy is ( serious term or not). I think its unhealthy to hold off sex if both parties want it.. what for? If partner A isnt getting it from partner B, it could lead to agruements, confusion, break ups, or cheating. If a man wants sex, he will get it either way whether he is seeking marriage or not. I think most men dont seek marriage as woman do though.. It seems like females tend to look at it long term or future wise.. while males think day to day.. if she is good now, she'll be good tomorrow.. is she wife material? who cares now until she beings it up... That seems to be the mind of an average joe lately.
Kellydancer
02-08-2011, 02:00 PM
And to some of us waiting a few years is the right feel. Some of us don't hold out just to see if he will be there, we just want to wait til we're ready.
Right. I know when one has sex doesn't always determine the relationship, but I have run into sex way too early with terrible consequences. At least when I wait and we do other activities I can see if we are connected other ways without sex clouding judgement.
lemiwinks31
02-08-2011, 02:08 PM
And to some of us waiting a few years is the right feel. Some of us don't hold out just to see if he will be there, we just want to wait til we're ready.
of course...agreed.....but that wasnt what i was talking about....I was referring to the posts where 'holding out' was being used as a test to see if they would stick around or not.....
Kellydancer
02-08-2011, 02:16 PM
of course...agreed.....but that wasnt what i was talking about....I was referring to the posts where 'holding out' was being used as a test to see if they would stick around or not.....
I would explain to a guy why I would wait because of my past. If he truly was interested he would wait. However that doesn't mean I wouldn't do anything sexual, just not intercourse. Part of the reason for waiting is religious and another part is because I am terrified of getting pregnant without being married.
And if a guy just needs sex and gets it anywhere else he's not looking for sex.
sananeko
02-08-2011, 02:23 PM
of course...agreed.....but that wasnt what i was talking about....I was referring to the posts where 'holding out' was being used as a test to see if they would stick around or not.....
Well people think I'm holding out.. I been on twenty dates and even tho I connected with some of them and went on another date or more, they would freak out the second they try to put their hands in places I wouldn't even let my doctor touch me off duty.. They called me a hold out and I am proud of it cause I could of catch something from not holding out. I think women should wait cause I must be unlucky and keep getting these rare guys wanting to pump my ass..
Kellydancer
02-08-2011, 02:25 PM
I've heard that with online dating there's this "three date" myth. Meaning that many guys online expect sex by the third date or they leave. That is way too early. I've had guys on a first date expect sex, even had a few ask for a blowjob the first date.
lemiwinks31
02-08-2011, 02:31 PM
I would explain to a guy why I would wait because of my past. If he truly was interested he would wait.
Yes....A thoughtful guy who was concerned with your feelings, and was interested in a serious relationship with you wouldnt have a problem with waiting.........
But that thoughtful, guy interested in a relationship with you, would STILL be that SAME guy if you had sex with him. It wouldnt change him.
I was ONLY referring to not having sex simply as a test to see if a guy is going to stick around.
sananeko
02-08-2011, 02:34 PM
But how do you know if shes testing you? she could be telling you all these things just to waste your time and keep you around.
lemiwinks31
02-08-2011, 02:36 PM
I think women should wait cause I must be unlucky and keep getting these rare guys wanting to pump my ass..
If you eliminate all the guys that want to pump your ass.......you will only be left with blind eunuchs.
Kellydancer
02-08-2011, 02:43 PM
Yes....A thoughtful guy who was concerned with your feelings, and was interested in a serious relationship with you wouldnt have a problem with waiting.........
But that thoughtful, guy interested in a relationship with you, would STILL be that SAME guy if you had sex with him. It wouldnt change him.
I was ONLY referring to not having sex simply as a test to see if a guy is going to stick around.
But it's not really a test. If he's interested he will stay around, if he just wants sex he won't stay around. I've heard people use the excuse "what if he waits, you have sex then he leaves?". While I'm sure that happens, most of the cases were situations where the guy left after early sex because he didn't want a relationship. I highly doubt a man just wanting sex will stay around. They expect it soon or they move on.
lemiwinks31
02-08-2011, 02:44 PM
But how do you know if shes testing you? she could be telling you all these things just to waste your time and keep you around.
Maybe......if the shit was easy.....anyone could do it.
Just getting to know the other person intimately....You should be able to tell if they are being genuine with you, or if they are playing games. It takes time(I would think strippers would be pretty good at seeing through bullshit....or maybe, seeing so much bullshit at work, makes the genuine harder to identify)
lemiwinks31
02-08-2011, 02:45 PM
But it's not really a test. If he's interested he will stay around, if he just wants sex he won't stay around. I've heard people use the excuse "what if he waits, you have sex then he leaves?". While I'm sure that happens, most of the cases were situations where the guy left after early sex because he didn't want a relationship.
Wouldnt you rather know sooner?
sananeko
02-08-2011, 02:46 PM
If you eliminate all the guys that want to pump your ass.......you will only be left with blind eunuchs.
Well my mate of eight years was well.. blessed and we waited five years before having sex.
Kellydancer
02-08-2011, 02:47 PM
Wouldnt you rather know sooner?
But why would I want to sleep with a man who just wanted sex? No way, too many risks.
lemiwinks31
02-08-2011, 02:54 PM
But why would I want to sleep with a man who just wanted sex? No way, too many risks.
Well...of course, i meant only if you wanted to.
I cant imagine being in a relationship with someone i didnt want to have sex with....maybe its a gender thing.........The number of women i would have sex with is probably a couple of thousand times the number of women i would have a relationship with.
lemiwinks31
02-08-2011, 02:58 PM
Well my mate of eight years was well.. blessed and we waited five years before having sex.
That doesnt mean that he didnt spend those 5 years wanting to 'pump your ass'
I dated my girlfriend in college for 2 years before we had sex(she was a virgin) It was never a problem, we dated 2 years after sex also.
Had sex with my wife on the 1st date(although it was the next day)....and that was 16 years ago.
Kellydancer
02-08-2011, 03:04 PM
Well...of course, i meant only if you wanted to.
I cant imagine being in a relationship with someone i didnt want to have sex with....maybe its a gender thing.........The number of women i would have sex with is probably a couple of thousand times the number of women i would have a relationship with.
If I just wanted sex I could go to several guys, who want that, including a 25 year old. However, I am husband shopping so yes I find a guy, I want to see that's what he wants too. I am not wasting my time sleeping with a guy who has no interest in me as anything but a sex partner. Been there, done that.
sananeko
02-08-2011, 03:05 PM
That doesnt mean that he didnt spend those 5 years wanting to 'pump your ass'
I dated my girlfriend in college for 2 years before we had sex(she was a virgin) It was never a problem, we dated 2 years after sex also.
Had sex with my wife on the 1st date(although it was the next day)....and that was 16 years ago.
Lucky you on your wife. And he didn't want sex, I was the one to ask for it after all those years and believe me, he was a virgin. Hes one of those that finds what he likes and sticks with it. He has dropped friends cause they cheated on their love ones.
lemiwinks31
02-08-2011, 03:06 PM
If I just wanted sex I could go to several guys, who want that, including a 25 year old. However, I am husband shopping so yes I find a guy, I want to see that's what he wants too. I am not wasting my time sleeping with a guy who has no interest in me as anything but a sex partner. Been there, done that.
Got ya......
lemiwinks31
02-08-2011, 03:10 PM
Lucky you on your wife. And he didn't want sex, I was the one to ask for it after all those years and believe me, he was a virgin. Hes one of those that finds what he likes and sticks with it. He has dropped friends cause they cheated on their love ones.
Yeah...i never understood the whole cheating thing.....If you dont want to be with them anymore, break up with them.....if you still want them around, but just want to deceive them....well...thats just a shitty thing to do to a 'loved' one. But i dont drop my friends because of it......:)
lemiwinks31
02-08-2011, 03:12 PM
AND.........
Its so hard to be pretty.....
lol...this thread went off the rails....
sananeko
02-08-2011, 03:17 PM
Yeah...i never understood the whole cheating thing.....If you dont want to be with them anymore, break up with them.....if you still want them around, but just want to deceive them....well...thats just a shitty thing to do to a 'loved' one. But i dont drop my friends because of it......:)
He told me that if his friend cheats on their wife or girlfriend, whats going to stop him from telling him a lie about what he needs to borrow something for. Or when the friends "love one" calls cause they used his name to make time to fuck something else hes not going to cover for him. So its easier to drop them.
Kellydancer
02-08-2011, 03:20 PM
Btw, my whole view on sex isn't one I just decided on. In my 20's sex clouded my judgement on a lot of things. I had a string of short affairs (including with married men) and dated quite a few men, many I slept with too early. Yes, some of them stayed around, but way too many dumped me after that. It's very hard to handle falling in love with someone, think they feel the same way, only to have them dump me for another woman. Several times they even married the woman they dumped me for. When I started taking things slower I noticed a better quality of men. My best exboyfriend I dated for a long time and we never slept together. He actually proposed but wasn't ready to marry then, and there were a few problems with religion.
If you sleep with a guy when you want too and not after a predetermined amount of time then it doesn't matter what he does because you are sleeping with him BECAUSE YOU WANT TOO! Sex is what happens when two grown people are attracted to each other, expecting it to always lead to something else is disingenuous. If you slept with a bunch of men and they left you right after the lesson you should take from that is "i have really bad taste in men" not "i shouldn't sleep with guys early".
threlayer
02-11-2011, 07:31 PM
I'm looking for a gal who believes "it's so pretty to be hard." LOL
tempest666
02-11-2011, 11:44 PM
I'm hot ugly bitches can hate fuck em! I'll take being pretty any day of the week! :D
ArmySGT.
02-12-2011, 11:20 AM
Speaking from experience........
Being ugly only has one advantage.
Anonymity.
threlayer
02-13-2011, 12:34 PM
Hermits are anonymous too.
But who says that's livin' when no gal will give in to a man who's ugly.
(with apologies to Gershwin)
Fahren
03-07-2011, 12:59 PM
Its always been my opinion that while exotic, gorgeous, knock out looks drive guys crazy
"omg you're like a drug", its always the slightly pudgy, cute pretty almost plain jane-but not knockout that gets the big diamond rings on their fingers. Just an observation. Any thoughts on this?
Kellydancer
03-07-2011, 01:03 PM
Its always been my opinion that while exotic, gorgeous, knock out looks drive guys crazy
"omg you're like a drug", its always the slightly pudgy, cute pretty almost plain jane-but not knockout that gets the big diamond rings on their fingers. Just an observation. Any thoughts on this?
Agreed. Like I mentioned in another thread I've had my share of guys wanting to fuck me. Not many considered marrying me and I've seen photos (or met) the women they married and most weren't attractive. Mne like pretty girls but they don't always marry them.
xGigi
03-07-2011, 01:39 PM
this reminds me of that episode of the tyra banks show where they took those two twins who were hot and put makeup on one to make her look ugly and gave her ugly clothes and sent them to job interviews and stuff like that. the hotter one got the job every time even with a shitty resume
I would honestly rather be pretty. for one, I like being able to strip and make the money that I do.
I've had so many random emergencies pop up in the last year with my car, living situation, illnesses etc. where I've NEEDED money otherwise I'd be fucked.
if I weighed over 200 pounds and couldn't make money, I don't know where I would be right now!!!
it's not JUST the stripping though don't get me wrong. being pretty has lots of perks. there have been times where guys have given me discounts at places and helped me with things just because of the way I look.
one time there was a crack in the lens on my tail light and it kept filling with water and shorting out the light bulb. the guy at midas told me that he was supposed to charge me over 200 dollars for a new lens and then 100 for the labor. instead, he drilled holes in the bottom of the lens to drain out the water, changed the bulb for free, and charged me 5 dollars for the labor because he's "a sucker for a pretty face".
I used to live right down the street from the post office and one time I was picking up a package and a total stranger literally stopped everything he was doing to help me carry it to my house. it wasn't even really that heavy but he INSISTED to help me.
once I went out with a group of my friends (all girls) to lunch and another customer in the restaurant gave our waiter his credit card and he paid our entire check.
there's a barista at the starbucks I go to every now and then who makes my drinks for free whenever I come in.
I was at the gas station the other day and when I was walking to the door there was a guy leaving. I was literally like 30 feet away from the door and he held the door open for a good 30 seconds for me. I smiled and said thank you and he was like "yeah I know you were REALLY far away...have a nice day gorgeous"
all of my guy friends will literally do ANYTHING I ask them to. one of my friends drove for an HOUR to drop me off a pack of cigarettes at work. he lived about 20 mins away from the club but I had no idea he was in another town but he rushed right over to bring me them and even brought a pack of gum too so my breath didn't stink and I could make more money lol.
once I casually mentioned in a conversation with another guy friend that I was thinking about buying a new ipod. I swear to god a week later he gave me his since he "never used it anyway". it was a 160gb ipod classic O_O he had an iphone too, but still....I felt bad accepting it but he insisted.
it's not like I really try to take advantage of people but I find that guys are much quicker to help out or do something nice for a girl who's pretty.
yeah occasionally I get jealous girls giving me death glares because their boyfriends look at me, but for the most part I enjoy the attention I get from being attractive. it's better to embrace it than wallow in the whole "this beauty is a curse" attitude.
xGigi
03-07-2011, 01:41 PM
Its always been my opinion that while exotic, gorgeous, knock out looks drive guys crazy
"omg you're like a drug", its always the slightly pudgy, cute pretty almost plain jane-but not knockout that gets the big diamond rings on their fingers. Just an observation. Any thoughts on this?
SO TRUE. my cousin always dated these blonde bombshell girls through high school and the girl he married fits that exact description you gave. slightly chubby with a normal looking face.
Fahren
03-07-2011, 03:20 PM
Agreed. Like I mentioned in another thread I've had my share of guys wanting to fuck me. Not many considered marrying me and I've seen photos (or met) the women they married and most weren't attractive. Mne like pretty girls but they don't always marry them.
Sometimes I think subconsciously take the old song "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife"... lol.:D