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22lligm
05-13-2011, 10:02 PM
No daddy issues for me.. my dad used to be an angry person when i was a kid but after he and my mom divorced he changed completely.

I'm actually watching TV with him right now (not that he knows what website is up on my laptop though ;) haha) so I definitely don't fit that stereotype! :)

LolaBanana
05-14-2011, 02:50 PM
Both of my parents are alcoholics, bad ones which lead to them divorcing when I was 2. My dad was never very affectionate towards me, but always bought me things everytime I had visitation with him. I soon learned I could ask him for anything, computers, the new hot trendy $100 shoes for school, cameras, etc... and get it. I think he feels bad that he isn't in my life that much. He never really calls, or visits me now that I'm an adult. When I call him all he does is say that I'm the one that never calls. Anyway, I think that might have played a part in my becoming a stripper and asking men to give me money. :) Also not having a father figure in my life may have something to do with it. Not sure.

I don't think it affects my relationships too much, except I can get really clingy with boyfriends and I have too watch myself for that and stop it when I can! Idk if that's a daddy issue, but maybe it is.

I also have to be really careful drinking b/c of the alcoholism on both sides. My mother has cleaned up for the most part but my father still drinks A LOT every single day. It's really sad.

lemiwinks31
05-17-2011, 09:46 AM
I love that you own this. I can definitely relate--sometimes daddy slips out of my mouth in the bedroom. SO is definitely not comfortable with it, but I try to keep things subtle. For me, it's a power thing. I think I get bored with the vanilla stuff, being an asexual...I need things to keep my mind entertained during the deed.

So if I'm dating someone 18 years older than I am, does that mean I have "daddy issues"? I really don't understand what that phrase implies. I like older men, but it's not like I get off on thinking they're related to me or anything.

The phrase can refer to a lot of things.......here, i think the OP was referring to an abusive or non-existent relationship with your father as a child leading you do date older men as an adult...to partially replace the role that was missing in your childhood.

Angel75217
05-20-2011, 08:36 PM
No father figure, outside of my brother and grandfather who did pretty well.

I've dated men in excess of 15 years older (when I was really young), and guys younger than me. I'm currently with someone that's 33, I'm 24. But in my defense he acts more like a 10 year old ;)

Oh and I'm a total freak in the sheets.
Take this for what you will.......

NeedsHelp123
05-20-2011, 08:47 PM
I was molested by him and he died at 70, i think cause when i was older 1 yr before his death i put him in jail and he was taking heart medicine and all other sorts of meds and they didnt give it to him in jail so then i think i basically killed him. But it sounds weird even though he did that he got therapy there after and later down the line he would buy me cool shit and take me to the movies celebrated bdays i think he was a lost soul, maybe someone molested him. but still im fucked up in the head cuz of it. thats my story

I'm sorry to hear that, it sounds like you're doing Ok :). Thank you for sharing that.

My father walked out on me, my sister and my mother when when I was 10 (sister 3yrs old).
I like to think, well I know I was actually, I was a father towards my sister and I really do believe it helped me be the father I am to my son today, We did fine without him and if I ever spoke to him I honestly think I would thank him for leaving us when he did, if he's alive he is in his 70's, none of us bothered to find him.