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Almost Jaded
02-26-2011, 04:20 PM
Rick - I respect you and your right to your POV, but as somone who has dated several strippers, and an escort and who is currently engaged to a stripper and in a serious relationship with another one, this is more than a little offensive. Obviously you recognize that and qualified you statement. But I'd like to know - in a civililzed way - why you feel this way? Personally, I think most men are too insecure to date a stripper, let alone a porn star or prostitute. Hell, I dunno if I could handle those last two in the long run (the escort I dated was a "clean" one and went back to dancing in less than a year because it was hard to keep regulars without fucking them as an escort).

unbeleavabe - this is the first time I've seen you openly disparage people who frequent SC's. I'm curious wy you feel this way? You stated something to the effect that real men can seduce a woman without a $20 bill - which is true - but most SC customers aren't there to seduce a girl. I started going to SC's when I got sick of the nightclub scene. More comfortable, same music, girls are already naked, and instead of pretentious ice queen gold diggers, strippers pretend to be sweet and the money they want is known up front, lol. I enjoy the environment and the entertinment, and most SC reg's I know are the same way. There are those who go there for other reasons, but I wonder why you might have issue with those that I stated?

Laxman
02-26-2011, 04:24 PM
^A man who thinks that what happens in the strip club determines whether or not he is a real man... is not a real man. LOL

Come on you missed the point. Think of strip club as a thermometer for measuring manhood. If the temperature is 99F then it is 99F, it does not matter what type of thermometer you use to measure it. A man does not cease to be a man just because he enters the strip club. :D

kaiarose
02-26-2011, 04:30 PM
Laxman you need to stop threadjacking every thread and just start your very own thread... name it "Let's debate about The Strippers" or something. That way the whole board doesn't have "Laxman" listed as the last one who posted in almost every thread.

rickdugan
02-26-2011, 04:30 PM
Unless you know where my exwife was working & what she did to get it STFU!

I will consider your thoughts but I still see REGS as losers....

And unless you know what I look like or why I do this STFU!

See how that works? Assumptions and overgeneralizations suck and are wrong more often than not.

Great, now I have Lax thanking me. :O

Laxman
02-26-2011, 04:33 PM
Laxman you need to stop threadjacking every thread and just start your very own thread... name it "Let's debate about The Strippers" or something. That way the whole board doesn't have "Laxman" listed as the last one who posted in almost every thread.

I have displayed tremendous discipline in staying on the topic it is the PLs who are derailing the threads. However, I will try to start a few more new threads as ideas spring from my mind.

Laxman
02-26-2011, 04:36 PM
And unless you know what I look like or why I do this STFU!

See how that works? Assumptions and overgeneralizations suck.

Great, now I have Lax thanking me. :O

You have to realized that I believe in dispassionate discussion which essentially means I judge each post by its content alone not by who posted it. I am not hear to make enemies.

DesuvsDeath
02-26-2011, 04:37 PM
A man does not cease to be a man just because he enters the strip club. :D

I never said a man was no longer a man just because he enters the club.

Measuring how manly you are by how much you pay for dances is... well... stupid. Strip clubs aren't really an accurate measure of anything.
Let's take a random example - On a slow night... if a girl who NEEDS to make money (for whatever reason, maybe she's about to be evicted) can't get a dance from anyone else... so she chooses to dance for $5 less than the price she wanted... that doesn't mean you're more of a man... that means she really needs money and no one else wants a dance.
Obviously I'm not going to sit here and list 20 scenarios where a dancer might dancer for a lower price that have NOTHING to do with how much of a man you are... just saying... that it's an terribly inaccurate measure of things.

Laxman
02-26-2011, 04:40 PM
I never said a man was no longer a man just because he enters the club.

Measuring how manly you are by how much you pay for dances is... well... stupid. Strip clubs aren't really an accurate measure of anything.
Let's take a random example - On a slow night... if a girl who NEEDS to make money (for whatever reason, maybe she's about to be evicted) can't get a dance from anyone else... so she chooses to dance for $5 less than the price she wanted... that doesn't mean you're more of a man... that means she really needs money and no one else wants a dance.
Obviously I'm not going to sit here and list 20 scenarios where a dancer might dancer for a lower price that have NOTHING to do with how much of a man you are... just saying... that it's an terribly inaccurate measure of things.

You made your points well. You do not need to list 20 scenarios. I got your point which is, it is not hard to bargain down a girl who is down on her luck.

With that, I will take a little break from the forum. Peace!

rickdugan
02-26-2011, 05:02 PM
Rick - I respect you and your right to your POV, but as somone who has dated several strippers, and an escort and who is currently engaged to a stripper and in a serious relationship with another one, this is more than a little offensive. Obviously you recognize that and qualified you statement. But I'd like to know - in a civililzed way - why you feel this way? Personally, I think most men are too insecure to date a stripper, let alone a porn star or prostitute. Hell, I dunno if I could handle those last two in the long run (the escort I dated was a "clean" one and went back to dancing in less than a year because it was hard to keep regulars without fucking them as an escort).

unbeleavabe - this is the first time I've seen you openly disparage people who frequent SC's. I'm curious wy you feel this way? You stated something to the effect that real men can seduce a woman without a $20 bill - which is true - but most SC customers aren't there to seduce a girl. I started going to SC's when I got sick of the nightclub scene. More comfortable, same music, girls are already naked, and instead of pretentious ice queen gold diggers, strippers pretend to be sweet and the money they want is known up front, lol. I enjoy the environment and the entertinment, and most SC reg's I know are the same way. There are those who go there for other reasons, but I wonder why you might have issue with those that I stated?

AJ, I would hazard that both of our opinions are based upon pure speculation rather than much of a real understanding of these things. Knowing where I am and the fact that I could very well be way off the mark, I tend to keep them to myself. I perhaps posted a little quickly as I took offense with unb's post, but there it is.

I could never hazard to guess how your setup functions and what you deal with, but if it works for you then I can only say congrats. :)

Almost Jaded
02-26-2011, 05:17 PM
Eh - observation accounts for some, it's not ALL speculation. ;)

LOL - I appreciate your realization that it is difficult. There is relationship drama in any relationship. Multiply that by 9 and you have my house. There is a different dynamic between every two people people in the scenario, and they're never ALL level and happy. Though to be honest, 80% of the BS stems from GF#2, and she probably won't be around too much longer - at least not as a live-in. The other 3 of us get along very smoothly most of the time, MM has openly stated that she hopes GF#1 stays around and grows old with us.

unbeleavable
02-26-2011, 06:47 PM
[unbeleavabe - this is the first time I've seen you openly disparage people who frequent SC's. I'm curious wy you feel this way? You stated something to the effect that real men can seduce a woman without a $20 bill - which is true - but most SC customers aren't there to seduce a girl. I started going to SC's when I got sick of the nightclub scene. More comfortable, same music, girls are already naked, and instead of pretentious ice queen gold diggers, strippers pretend to be sweet and the money they want is known up front, lol. I enjoy the environment and the entertinment, and most SC reg's I know are the same way. There are those who go there for other reasons, but I wonder why you might have issue with those that I stated?[/QUOTE]

I never said a real man can seduce without a $20. I was just stating that's all LAX is...a $20. Strip clubs are fantasyland & if your only outlet is that then there is a problem. I understand if you know people in & out of the club you go hang. I moved from Tampa to Atl with a group of women that were in this industry & would hang. I'm talking about these guys on here talking in length about extras & cumming in their pants. Bro...we both know who I'm talking about when I say LOSERS.

Almost Jaded
02-26-2011, 06:50 PM
Thanks for clarifying! ;)

RKR
02-26-2011, 07:21 PM
Double post, my mistake.

RKR
02-26-2011, 07:31 PM
Every dance I get is done in a way which seems is intended to make me cum. I've never heard one stripper in all my years of clubbing, complain about cum(except one, and when I called her out on it that she was being illogical, she changed her tune and from then on there kept telling me to cum during the course of the dance) in all my years of clubbing. Only time I ever hear whining about this topic, is on this site.



It appears dancers on this site want to have their cake at the expense of patrons, and like little childish kids, when something doesn't go your way, you banter and whine about it. Well guess what, you can't have the best of both worlds, because human beings will always be human beings, and when they get aroused, they are going to correspond the way nature intended them to. It's perfectly natural and understandable. Guys cumming in their pants at strip clubs is never going to stop and will forever be a strip club phenomenon....so, your only options is to either leave this industry(cause you clearly don't belong in it) or simply deal with it.



I hall from NY and frequent the Long Island, Queens, and Manhattan clubs, and most of these women give good, full, hard-contact dances and you can tell, aim to please. I almost always get my dick grabbed and stroked through my pants, and sometimes their hands find their way INSIDE my pants. And no, all these dancers that I make mention of aren't ugly dancers either, these are the creme of the crop, as I only ever go for the hottest.



I think the NY strip club scene is a lot different from elsewhere in the states. When strippers come to dance in NY, they learn fast that their fellow dancers goals, are, to please.

Strippers are by far the quirkiest when it comes to workers in the adult industry.

Almost Jaded
02-26-2011, 07:32 PM
What do you expect when a hot chick is grinding on a guy's dick?

Depends on the guy. :shrug:

Personally, it usually takes between 10 and 15 minutes of actual penetration and/or HJ/BJ to get me off, and that's if I'm trying to get there, lol. Holding back, up to several hours. A little friction through clothes would never in a million years accomplish this, no matter how talented the dancer was.

Most men consider controlling their ejaculation a point of pride, and spunking in their pants embarrassing. We get it - you don't. Good for you.

RKR
02-26-2011, 07:48 PM
Most men consider controlling their ejaculation a point of pride, and spunking in their pants embarrassing. We get it - you don't. Good for you.

No, what I get is that you're a mangina who's allowed women like these to guilt him into feeling sorry for being a human and a man, and a pussy who is too afraid to show a product of his manhood.:)

RKR
02-26-2011, 08:06 PM
That is the problem. You are making your decisions based on what strippers would or would not approve. Any man who has gotten a boner would like to finish it off by ejaculating. It is a torture to not ejaculate after getting a boner. But you are so afraid that your stripper would not approve of you if you ejaculated that you are rejoicing in the torture. You have ceased to exist as your own man. Can't you see that? You are clearly an inexperienced young man in need of a mentor.

Thumbs up to you, Laxman, to your posts in this thread.

RKR
02-26-2011, 08:12 PM
How is this even possible? If a woman makes you cum from just being naked or rubbing against you with clothes on you have problems & for the guys that get off like that...SAD!


I think you mean it's sad when you can't jizz your pants as a hot chick is rubbing against your dick. Sure you're into women bro?

princessjas
02-26-2011, 08:14 PM
No, what's sad is when you can't jizz your pants as a hot chick is rubbing against your dick. Sure you're into women bro?

Trust me, women don't consider a 2 min man a real man....and if you come in your pants from a little through the clothes rubbing, then you are definitely a 2 min man.

RKR
02-26-2011, 08:36 PM
Well, not always. There are two facts that need to be addressed here.

1. Depending on where they are working, how long they have been at it and, of course, their over-all disposition, there are plenty of dancers who not only take this sort of event in stride but actually understand that it is part of the deal in their chosen profession based on where they have decided to work. As shocking as this will be to some there are actually dancers who take pride in getting a guy off in two or three songs, moving on to the next guy and getting him off too if that's what he wants. Now, it doesn't have to involve hand jobs or oral sex. In fact many of these girls would never dream of doing that including the ones I know who consider themselves to be very good at coaxing the male orgasm. Some girls can grind it out of a guy and, yes, many guys can cum this way. Hell, I used to be a three song guy myself years ago until age and the preference for a more relaxed sexual encounter interceded...Go ahead girls, call them whores if it makes you feel better, they don't care.

2. The dancers who fit into the above category will most likely never participate in a thread like this though, at least a couple of them that I know are reading and laughing along at home...

Naturally, since I club in non contact areas as well as high contact areas I have seen both sides of this argument for many years and heard the POV from quite a few ladies that I know well. I have in fact seen dancers leave the dirty clubs for clean clubs only to go back to the dark side because the money was better and, well, it just wasn't that bad grinding a guy.

Lastly, as quoted to me by a fav yesterday afternoon: "when we see a guy in the club wearing sweatpants or warm-up pants we think "lap dance guy"!

Perfectly said! Post is spot on.

RKR
02-26-2011, 08:42 PM
Trust me, women don't consider a 2 min man a real man....and if you come in your pants from a little through the clothes rubbing, then you are definitely a 2 min man.

Where did I say anything about "2" minutes? If I cum, it's usually around the 15-20 minute mark, sometimes even more.

princessjas
02-26-2011, 08:48 PM
Where did I say anything about "2" minutes? If I cum, it's usually around the 15-20 minute mark, sometimes even more.

You can get off from friction through your pants yet expect us to believe you can hold off 15-20 during sex....RIIIGHT.

RKR
02-26-2011, 08:53 PM
It all boils down to one thing people: Strippers hate the cumming because they're not all attracted to the patrons. It's very simple. And why are they not attracted to the patrons? Well that's even more rocket science. Once you walk into that club, your value diminshes by 10 fold(even worse if you pay for a lap dance), as you're automatically put into the "guy who sucks with women" category, even if you're the biggest player. These women are too quick to categorize and label you, instead of being more open-minded and realizing that not all guys who go to strip clubs suck with women. Women don't complain about men who cum who they're attracted to. This thread wouldn't be this full if they were attracted to them.

RKR
02-26-2011, 08:58 PM
You can get off from friction through your pants yet expect us to believe you can hold off 15-20 during sex....RIIIGHT.

Don't get too worked up. Peace

princessjas
02-26-2011, 09:01 PM
Don't get too worked up lovergirl. I'm sorry you hate your job, but hey, if you wanna work work in a strip club, deal with and shut the fuck up.;) Peace

Realize that as a guy you are a guest on this board. Also, I never worked in dives that allowed that sort of thing, and certainly never hated my job. Dickheads are everywhere.

Almost Jaded
02-26-2011, 09:05 PM
Joined November 2010. First post - today, starting this thread. First action on board: start a contentious thread, bash established members, trash talk the strippers... And agree with Cyril/laxman.

I wonder how many more of these identities he's got squirreled away on this and other boards, waiting to be brought forth upon the inevitable banning of the one before. :rolleyes:

AnotherBruisedPeach
02-26-2011, 09:06 PM
Okay get this.
Yesterday, I was grinding on a guy and he came in pants. I wish he's warned me :/ there are many scary STDs :/ I soaked my vagina in alcohol. It burnt like hell.

Almost Jaded
02-26-2011, 10:20 PM
Heard that same story 2 weeks ago from one of my GF's. :(

Assholes.

Dirty Ernie
02-26-2011, 11:22 PM
Seriously, did someone forget to lock the tool shed cuz they seem to be scattered all over the site.

Kellydancer
02-26-2011, 11:24 PM
And contrary to what hethinks any man who needs to cum in his pants is likely someone with little to no sexual experience with females. I haven't been with many guys who couldn't control themselves.I certainly never danced in a club where that was required and never would. And I didn't hate most clubs, in fact at times I actually loved dancing when I had decent male customers, none of whom got grinding.

BringOnTheMen
02-27-2011, 01:29 AM
This guy offered me a $10 tip if I could make him cum. I told him he wouldn't be dissapointed lol...he was. Such a gross guy. Bleh.

Best part, after the dance I go back to the DR, and then the manager tells me to get onstage because there's a customer. It's him, and he tips me $20. Rofl.

RKR
02-27-2011, 03:41 AM
You shut the fuck up and realize that as a guy you are a guest on this board.

And realize that I have the right to voice my opinion on a public forum the same way you are.




Also, I never worked in dives that allowed that sort of thing, and certainly never hated my job. Like any other job there were a few dickheads like you and Cyril I had to deal with, but eh, that was true of my office jobs as well. Dickheads are everywhere.


You claim to not hate your job, but part of giving lap dances entails grinding on a guys dick, which when grinded upon, NATURALLY results in an orgasm. Correct? The old verbiage, "for every action, there is a reaction". But wait, you hate when guys cum and consider them "dickheads", so you apparently can't like your job, because part of your job requires that you grind on a guys dick which naturally causes an orgasm. You know every bit of what I wrote makes perfect sense, you dancers here on this board just don't wanna own up to it, because you're in such denial. You despise a certain part of the job so much that you wanna deny the legitimacy of my argument.

I fail to see how I'm a dickhead when I'm having something as natural as a cough, sneeze, etc. occur? I should be crucified for being human with a perfectly legit human reaction? You make zero sense. Keep on talking.

Dickheads ARE everywhere.
And that'll be the last I say on the matter. I've made great points and so have a few others who agree.

RKR
02-27-2011, 03:53 AM
Mods need to ban this male Sybil aka "Laxman" "RKR" and all his various multiple personalities.


Sorry to spill the beans, but I'm not Sybil(or whoever that is). I actually used to post a while ago under a different handle, but forgot which handle that was(cause it's been so long since I've been here and posted), so I had to create a new one which was this. If you wanna know, I have no problem telling ya. I'm the guy who created that thread about some dancers not acknowledging me after coming back to the club a few weeks later.

Kisca
02-27-2011, 04:04 AM
^ Maybe because they dont want your cum on them.

RKR
02-27-2011, 04:27 AM
^ Maybe because they dont want your cum on them.

Oh what a come back! How did I know you'd try and use my last post against me. How original. Tough shit, deal with it or don't strip.:)

princessjas
02-27-2011, 07:27 AM
You claim to not hate your job, but part of giving lap dances entails grinding on a guys dick, which when grinded upon, NATURALLY results in an orgasm. Correct? The old verbiage, "for every action, there is a reaction". But wait, you hate when guys cum and consider them "dickheads", so you apparently can't like your job, because part of your job requires that you grind on a guys dick which naturally causes an orgasm. You know every bit of what I wrote makes perfect sense, you dancers here on this board just don't wanna own up to it, because you're in such denial. You despise a certain part of the job so much that you wanna deny the legitimacy of my argument.

I fail to see how I'm a dickhead when I'm having something as natural as a cough, sneeze, etc. occur? I should be crucified for being human with a perfectly legit human reaction? You make zero sense. Keep on talking.

Dickheads ARE everywhere, perhaps you're the female equivalent to one for criticizing someone for simply being human.

And that'll be the last I say on the matter. I've made great points and so have a few others who agree.

You are the one that is in denial. I retired back almost 5 yrs ago, before the rampant extras became the norm, and in many clubs it was against the rules to grind a guy at all, and in almost all clubs it was against the rules to grind for more than a few seconds. It was considered a badge of shame for a guy to splooge in his pants (not just among dancers, but other customers would razz a guy incessantly if he left with a stain on his pants, and he'd normally be asked to leave the club by management). I do realize there were clubs where this was considered the norm, and mentioned I encountered one in NJ, but was uncomfortable with that level of contact and left immediately for greener (and less whorey) pastures.

yoda57us
02-27-2011, 10:06 AM
And realize that I have the right to voice my opinion on a public forum the same way you are.

Actually this is not a public forum. It is a privately owned web site and you are a guest here. You post on this board for as long as the mods decide you are allowed to, which probably won't be much longer if you don't change your tone.


I fail to see how I'm a dickhead when I'm having something as natural as a cough, sneeze, etc. occur? I should be crucified for being human with a perfectly legit human reaction? You make zero sense. Keep on talking.

4everresolutions
02-27-2011, 11:57 AM
Oh what a come back! How did I know you'd try and use my last post against me. How original. Tough shit, deal with it or don't strip.:)

Tough shit. Deal with the fact that we don't want you cumming on us, or don't go to strip clubs. :)

Kellydancer
02-27-2011, 12:52 PM
And realize that I have the right to voice my opinion on a public forum the same way you are.

You claim to not hate your job, but part of giving lap dances entails grinding on a guys dick, which when grinded upon, NATURALLY results in an orgasm. Correct? The old verbiage, "for every action, there is a reaction". But wait, you hate when guys cum and consider them "dickheads", so you apparently can't like your job, because part of your job requires that you grind on a guys dick which naturally causes an orgasm. You know every bit of what I wrote makes perfect sense, you dancers here on this board just don't wanna own up to it, because you're in such denial. You despise a certain part of the job so much that you wanna deny the legitimacy of my argument.

Like Princessjas mentioned grinding was never part of my job either. I retired many years ago from clubs long before lap dances were common. So no, getting a guy to orgasm was not something I ever did. I'm not denying anything, I honestly never did grinding. I never even did it at parties! In fact I would never grind on a guy's dick unless he was a boyfriend. I can't despise something I never did, but do despise that grinding has become the norm in many clubs.


Dickheads ARE everywhere, perhaps you're the female equivalent to one for criticizing someone for simply being human.

And that'll be the last I say on the matter. I've made great points and so have a few others who agree.

You're not being human, you are accusing dancers of all grinding cock, then claiming it's their job. Many dancers here (I am one of them) never grinded cock nor would we and so it's not a part of a job description.

yoda57us
02-27-2011, 02:23 PM
I actually used to post a while ago under a different handle, but forgot which handle that was(cause it's been so long since I've been here and posted), so I had to create a new one which was this. If you wanna know, I have no problem telling ya. I'm the guy who created that thread about some dancers not acknowledging me after coming back to the club a few weeks later.

I remember that thread. Clearly those women were ignoring you. After reading your posts here I think it's obvious why...

RKR
02-27-2011, 02:48 PM
- edit

RKR
02-27-2011, 03:34 PM
Actually this is not a public forum. It is a privately owned web site and you are a guest here. You post on this board for as long as the mods decide you are allowed to, which probably won't be much longer if you don't change your tone.



You're not a dickhead because of your opinion. You are a dickhead because of the way you are choosing to express it here. You and I both know that if you talked this way to a dancer face-to-face in the club your ass would be out the door on the end of a bouncers foot in no time. Drop the misogyny and bottled-up anger and maybe start acting like a real man instead of some smart-ass prison warden lecturing punks in an episode of "scared straight".

Keep trying to get the girls Yoda;)...

RKR
02-27-2011, 03:37 PM
They're getting there...Laxman just got banned, I'm sure this guy's next.

LOL, and ask me if I could really give a shit. Tell me, what could I possibly gain from this site, lol? What have I gained so far? A bunch of childish, banshee-whining strippers who want the best of both worlds at the expense of others, grabbing at straws trying to justify nonsense that doesn't fly and not taking accountability? And their mangina counterparts who "think" they might get laid if they take their side? Lol, too funny. I've got an idea, how about you personally ask if you can ban me yourself? Till then, be careful you don't get cum on you during a dance.;)

KS_Stevia
02-27-2011, 03:49 PM
Wow, we almost had the men banded together against Laxman and it went to shit.

So, my impartial experience..I danced high contact...had a few cummers. For the most part, they were either extremely embarrassed and tipped me well for their "accident" or would warn my ahead of time and ensure that they had taken the proper precautions not to spill on me. Then they would warn me to disengage at the moment. None of these things offended.

There were 2 or so times where I wasnt told, and ended up touching the spunk because it was dark and I couldn't see it, nor was I warned that it had happened. Now that was disrespectful and no stripper should have to be in that situation.

See..grey areas? anyone know about them?

Raider
02-27-2011, 04:08 PM
And their mangina counterparts who "think" they might get laid if they take their side? Lol, too funny.

Yep, you're right. I'm sitting here thinking that if I decide to post and agree with these anonymous women that they are are all going to want to screw me based on a post or two on a web site. Not knowing anything else about me...just if I agree with their point of view. Off to clear my mail box to make room for all the offers !! You are right...Lol, too funny.

yoda57us
02-27-2011, 04:23 PM
See..grey areas? anyone know about them?

Hell yeah! That's where all the fun is!

yoda57us
02-27-2011, 04:24 PM
Keep trying to get the girls Yoda;)...

you forgot to call me a mangina...

KS_Stevia
02-27-2011, 04:29 PM
Yoda has a beautiful mangina.

What's up w all this BS that being nice to women, and sex workers in particular, makes a man a wimp?

BringOnTheMen
02-27-2011, 04:31 PM
LOL, and ask me if I could really give a shit. Tell me, what could I possibly gain from this site, lol? What have I gained so far? A bunch of childish, banshee-whining strippers who want the best of both worlds at the expense of others, grabbing at straws trying to justify nonsense that doesn't fly and not taking accountability? And their mangina counterparts who "think" they might get laid if they take their side? Lol, too funny. I've got an idea, how about you personally ask if you can ban me yourself? Till then, be careful you don't get cum on you during a dance.;)

Ok.

10char

AnotherBruisedPeach
02-27-2011, 04:43 PM
Heard that same story 2 weeks ago from one of my GF's. :(

Assholes.

I'm going to go a lot less grinding now. That is just how I was taught. It's not safe. I'm wearing two pairs of underwear and grinding to the side. It's not worth contracting HIV or something terrible :/ It's not likely but you never know....