View Full Version : What do girls think about guys cumming from Lapdances?
KS_Stevia
02-27-2011, 04:55 PM
The risk of catching hiv from spunk that's had air contact is very slim.
However, we do have a (rightful) stigma in this society against forcing strangers from having to make contact w our bodily fluids.
Just think of it as saliva. For all you fucking businessmen. If your clients spat on you, how would it make you feel? Grossed out, unhygenic, disrespected?
That's the simplest and easiest way to explain how the dancer feels when you spew your load on her.
How about vomit? Urine? Feces? Hell, how do you feel when some asshole sneezes in your range without taking the precaution to cover their mouths?
Men who are fast shooters are awre
Almost Jaded
02-27-2011, 05:32 PM
PJ - I don't think it's Hopper. Despite all the crap many of you guys have with him, there is an underlying respect and attempt at understanding with him. This guy is an instigator, plain and simple.
RKR - you used to have another handle but you forgot it so you created this one, huh? 4 months ago? Without a single post until now? Right.
STD's are a serious risk, lower from air and skin contact be damned, it's just disrespectful period and in this day and age especially.
BringOnTheMen
02-27-2011, 05:36 PM
I'm going to go a lot less grinding now. That is just how I was taught. It's not safe. I'm wearing two pairs of underwear and grinding to the side. It's not worth contracting HIV or something terrible :/ It's not likely but you never know....
Yeah when I grind I don't grind on their pelvis...I just shove all of my hair extensions in their face and grind away on their knee.
Although it's almost too effective...I swear this guy almost came from that. :O
Almost Jaded
02-27-2011, 05:45 PM
What's up w all this BS that being nice to women, and sex workers in particular, makes a man a wimp?
There are men out there who don't get any from women at all, who become extremely bitter towards women for this and other reasons. They start in on this overstated machismo thing as a defense mechanism. Many of them become are or become very abusive in any relationship they DO manage to get with a woman. And they come down on guys that are nice to women - guys that get what they can't have, and can keep a woman in their lives without the threat of physical violence.
Sex workers in particular come very quickly to represent everything that these guys will never, ever have - and yet because the nature of your work is to be available to a certain extent to a guy willing to pay, you have to deal with them. Sad but true. :(
unbeleavable
02-27-2011, 05:51 PM
Trying to cum in your pants in the club is weak...& these little boys think thats how you become a man.
yoda57us
02-27-2011, 06:21 PM
Yoda has a beautiful mangina.
:shy::flower:
What's up w all this BS that being nice to women, and sex workers in particular, makes a man a wimp?
There are a lot of reasons that guys go to strip clubs or hire escorts. We, even the guy's who blow a load in their pants, are not all losers. For some it's entertainment, for others it's a way to get some strange behind the wife or SO's back with no strings attached. Then there are the guys who think it's OK to treat sex workers like crap. They are there because it's not an option for them, it's a necessity. They have spent their lives treating civvie women like crap so now the only way they can get any is to pay. That makes them bitter and resentful.
It's just a theory of course but I see, and hear, these idiots every time I go to a club trying to force a dancer's hands down their pants or trying to shove their fingers where they are not wanted, getting shot down, and then trying to ask her out! Really? She's going to go someplace alone with you after you have made her feel skeevy in the club? These guys are just plain stupid, and angry. A sex worker will do one thing with them that a civvie girl won't-tolerate them just long enough to get their money. Even at that, most of the dancers I know avoid the serial dirt bags and every escort I've ever been a regular with has had a "do not see" list...
Kellydancer
02-27-2011, 09:51 PM
Yoda has a beautiful mangina.
What's up w all this BS that being nice to women, and sex workers in particular, makes a man a wimp?
Don't you know we all like being treated like whores? That's actually something I saw on one of those pua sites. Any guy who treats me like a whore will get a kick to the pants. I've never understood why some guys would intentionally go into clubs to be mean to a stripper. I never would treat any nasty unless they deserve it. Then again I think some guys can't get any and they are resentful.
No, I don't think this guy is Hopper either. Hopper is a chauvinist but sometimes he says things (non chauvinist) that makes sense. This guy doesn't. In fact he's probably from one of those sites where they bash women all the time.
Oh and Yoda is pretty cool. When I was dancing I liked customers like him.
Almost Jaded
02-27-2011, 10:57 PM
Don't you know we all like being treated like whores?
YES!
Sometimes. ;)
Kellydancer
02-28-2011, 12:21 AM
YES!
Sometimes. ;)
Only if they buy me presents. No guy is getting my body unless he spoils me or preferably proposes to me. Then I'll be a whore for him. Otherwise, he's getting nothing. I wish I had developed this attitude years ago because then I could say to some guy "if you want to sleep with me it'll cost you".
rickdugan
02-28-2011, 07:02 AM
Trying to cum in your pants in the club is weak...& these little boys think thats how you become a man.
I can't disagree with this. I don't get much from lapdances, which is why I don't often do them anymore. Now there were a few rare instances over the years where I got a little worked up from a particularly good dance, but never anything close to a blow the load moment.
Hopper
02-28-2011, 07:39 AM
I don't blame some guys for cumming during LDs, particularly very young guys. I mean, there is a naked girl up close to the guy, dancing erotically, flirting heavily, grinding on his dick, letting him touch her (in contact clubs), showing her pussy etc. A guy can get excited very quickly, too quickly to hold back, and it can take a lot less than a lapdance. Looking back, I am surprised that I never once came during an LD. Therefore it really should be considered an occupational hazard.
That said, guys should do all they can to prevent it happening, definitely not go there to try to make it happen, and should warn the girl if it does happen and go clean up straight away. No way would I sit for five minutes in a pool of my own cum in a public place (or at home either). Like someone suggested early in this thread, if you think it might happen (or you want to make it happen), wear a condom and keep it to yourself.
Hopper
02-28-2011, 07:50 AM
And guys, this is obviously not Cyril unless he's running a great grammar check. Sounds more like Hopper to me, tbh.
If it sounds like me as "Hopper" then why would I bother using another name to say it?
I agree with RKR that customers coming is an inevitable outcome in SCs, intended by the customers or not; but as I said in the above post, there are ways to deal with that so that it causes as little harm to the dancers as possible. I fully expect dancers to be disgusted by it, but they shouldn't necessarily resent or criticize customers for it, since it is a natural result of being aroused, and the intention of strippers is to arouse. However, most men, in most cases, should be able to control that function. Dancers may as well accept that there are guys who are going to go to SCs intending to "go all the way" with being aroused. But they don't have to like it and they have the right to expect these guys to wear condoms.
Hopper
02-28-2011, 08:27 AM
No, I don't think this guy is Hopper either. Hopper is a chauvinist but sometimes he says things (non chauvinist) that makes sense. This guy doesn't. In fact he's probably from one of those sites where they bash women all the time.
So I'm only a part-time woman-hater.
Almost Jaded
02-28-2011, 06:45 PM
Only if they buy me presents. No guy is getting my body unless he spoils me or preferably proposes to me. Then I'll be a whore for him. Otherwise, he's getting nothing. I wish I had developed this attitude years ago because then I could say to some guy "if you want to sleep with me it'll cost you".
This - this goes back to the other thread bout the pua's and "nice guys" - this is the part people miss. And frankly, every time I hear a girl say this or something similar to it, it any context, talking to or about anybody, it turns me the fuck on, and fast, lol. That statement represents so much that is so hot, about a woman understanding her sexuality and being comfortable with it.
Okay, back to the regularly scheduled thread...
KS_Stevia
02-28-2011, 07:06 PM
[QUOTE=Kellydancer;2065911]Don't you know we all like being treated like whores? That's actually something I saw on one of those pua sites. /QUOTE]
Hmmm...I like being treated like a naughty little whore in bed w a man I trust. But that's a game of letting go through whatever BDSM channels once chooses. Not sure where I stand in the kink zone, depends on who I ask.
But people who are assholes in general..will be assholes to women and particularly sex workers, because we already have enough stigma that they will likelly get a "high five" from their buddies than a chiding.
Almost Jaded
02-28-2011, 07:10 PM
Damn, now KS is doing it too. That's just mean.
KS_Stevia
02-28-2011, 07:14 PM
I'm horny and want some strange. also, how long are the commercials between prime time shows? I had my first exactly during the first commercial when House started, then the second and the denoument during the second break. Perfect distraction to commercials!
yoda57us
02-28-2011, 07:56 PM
Only if they buy me presents. No guy is getting my body unless he spoils me or preferably proposes to me. Then I'll be a whore for him. Otherwise, he's getting nothing. I wish I had developed this attitude years ago because then I could say to some guy "if you want to sleep with me it'll cost you".
Please don't take this the wrong way but this mindset is very similar what good escorts uses to make the whole idea of sex for money work for them. Instead of thinking that they are too good to ever do it they simply put a price on it. Not some outlandish "one time only" deal for thousands of dollars but a realistic sum that will afford a nice tidy six figure yearly income while working nothing even remotely resembling a forty hour work week. They draw the line at marriage proposals of course...;)
yoda57us
02-28-2011, 08:03 PM
I'm horny and want some strange.
Gawd I love it when you post like that...}:D
also, how long are the commercials between prime time shows? I had my first exactly during the first commercial when House started, then the second and the denoument during the second break. Perfect distraction to commercials!
Usually four 30 second spots...sometimes only three. I agree, a much better use of your time...
tempest666
02-28-2011, 08:07 PM
Have a good drycleaner and make sure they give you volume discount -_-
Actually I feel a perverse sense of satisfaction. Yes, it is disgusting I know. :D
Almost Jaded
02-28-2011, 09:10 PM
I'm horny and want some strange. also, how long are the commercials between prime time shows? I had my first exactly during the first commercial when House started, then the second and the denoument during the second break. Perfect distraction to commercials!
You're killing me. And MM. And GF#1. The general consensus is that any woman who can talk like that and mean it and is even somewhat attractive is welcome around here anytime, lol.
Kellydancer
02-28-2011, 10:32 PM
Please don't take this the wrong way but this mindset is very similar what good escorts uses to make the whole idea of sex for money work for them. Instead of thinking that they are too good to ever do it they simply put a price on it. Not some outlandish "one time only" deal for thousands of dollars but a realistic sum that will afford a nice tidy six figure yearly income while working nothing even remotely resembling a forty hour work week. They draw the line at marriage proposals of course...;)
For me I had to do it because I was sleeping with way too many guys not marriage material. It was fine when I wasn't seeking that but now I am.
charlie61
02-28-2011, 10:40 PM
Jesus Christ...I lose internet for 3 days, and this thread blows up?
I think it has run its course.
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