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Kisca
03-22-2011, 01:56 AM
I would call it casual dating too. This is what I am going to do to meet a few guys. I figure if I meet a guy I want to see seriously I could stop dating other guys. I think it's actually a pretty smart way to date without getting hurt. The only drawback could be someone getting too serious too soon. Casual dating has gotten a bad rep because some think it means casual sex and not at all. Many years ago people dated multiple people without sex until they were ready to get serious. My mom tells me about how she dated 3/4 guys at once and there was no sex. Now it's become one of these where you date someone exclusive before you really should be exclusive, then sometimes someone gets hurt.


I think thats completly normal.. Until one or the other asks to become serious, a gf/bf, to only see each other.. Until then I think seeing other people is no harm. That is the way I see it.. i always asks my dates, what they are looking for, and when I want to be their GF I tell them straight up and lay down the rule. If they arent ready, then they arent, so time to move on. No point of waiting around and getting hurt on 1 person, or relying on just one when the facts are not known. If females did this much more, I think in a way they would gain more indendance, and a higher view in dating. I rather just "play" my field until men ask me, instead of me relying on them.. I hope my dating future looks like this.

Kellydancer
03-22-2011, 01:55 PM
I think thats completly normal.. Until one or the other asks to become serious, a gf/bf, to only see each other.. Until then I think seeing other people is no harm. That is the way I see it.. i always asks my dates, what they are looking for, and when I want to be their GF I tell them straight up and lay down the rule. If they arent ready, then they arent, so time to move on. No point of waiting around and getting hurt on 1 person, or relying on just one when the facts are not known. If females did this much more, I think in a way they would gain more indendance, and a higher view in dating. I rather just "play" my field until men ask me, instead of me relying on them.. I hope my dating future looks like this.

I'm normally like that until this last situation and it messed with my mind. Previously I would date a few guys until we decided we wanted to be exclusive. Of course some men (probably some women)expect sex with just dating but that's reserved for serious relationships. That's another good thing with waiting for sex, you know for them it's more than sex. I normally don't mention a future on a first date, though I've asked what they are looking for. I don't want to waste my time dating a man with no interest in a relationship or marriage but on the other hand I don't want to scare him thinking I want to marry him. Guys have told me about going on a date and the woman right away talking about marriage. That would freak me out.