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StephanieXS
11-01-2012, 01:39 PM
I guess I'm one of the lucky ones in that my boyfriend fully supports me. He actually suggested it back when we were first dating (jokingly) and I told him that he was a jackass. ;D But the idea grew on me and... here I am!

He's not just okay with it either, he helps me in anyway that he can, from taking pictures for 'my' twitter, to even setting up a model account to get some extra moolah from a regular who has a intense oral sex obsession.

Honestly if I became involved with a guy that 'absolutely does not want me camming' I'd tell him to take a hike, honestly I'd assume that he was judging and/or was disgusted by my actions. Now, if I became involved with a guy who expressed that he didn't like me camming and preferred that I didn't (and gave me a good reason) but, said that it was my life and my own decisions, I'd make my decision from there. But, then again, I'm very independent and while I want to make my lover happy, I don't like to feel pressured into something.

Good luck!

lewandowskaewelina
11-01-2012, 01:45 PM
Ok girl, my personal opinion on this would be he should appreciate You being honest about it :) There is nothing wrong with it, no one is touching you (expect for You touching yourself). As long as camming helps you in your life in a positive way, like your saving up the money, use it for good purpose then he should see a positive site of it. You should talk to him honestly about it, and tell him its nothing personal to you. Tell him and explain that when you do it, you just detach yourself emotionally. Its like any other job. Its being a performer and I am sure you have your barriers. I think that some people just dont know how it goes. I have lot of privates where guys wanna JUST talk to me. There will always be people that are conservative and liberal about those things and we can never change how they think. The only way is to convince him you do it do make extra money so you can enhance your life for the better. Even those guys pay us to masturbate to us, yes i know, but they PAY for it, and MONEY is MONEY and Money gives you OPPORTUNITIES. (going to school, pay bills, travel, etc). SO tell him its temporary and its something that will lead you and help you to get somewhere better in the future. I used to be a stripper and i treat it as a job and managed to graduate University and saved up money. So be happy i have a feeling he really likes you and its just cute he worries about you, but just convince HIM.

lewandowskaewelina
11-01-2012, 01:55 PM
and one more thing usually people judge a book by its cover , and its never the case !!! Sometimes people think "inside the box" instead of thinking "outside the box"....

maryjaynexo
11-01-2012, 02:20 PM
My boyfriend supports me as well. He understands that I love my job and am able to be more independent, and also have more free time this way.

Classy_Katy
11-01-2012, 02:42 PM
It's really hard but his insecurities are his own...my partner is fully supportive, he has cammed with me sometimes and we make lots of clips together.

volatileghost
11-01-2012, 03:03 PM
My boyfriend is also very jealous and doesn't want me to do it, but I do it anyway. I've told him straight up, this is my choice, not yours, and you need to understand that it's not me WANTING these men, it's me WANTING their MONEY. BIGGG difference. He says it's like cheating because i'm flirting with other guys all day, etc etc, and I can get that, but if they never touch me, they pay me, etc, I look it as a service and not a personal thing. Maybe have him sit in on one of your sessions and see how it goes, so he can see how dumb some of the guys are (tits bb, ass bb) and how half of them repulse you anyway (just being honest, most of the guys irritate the shit out of me) and just see if he can learn to see it from YOUR perspective. Maybe he's never seen what it's like, yanno? If he still completely goes against it, I'd say accept it or pay all my bills. I have a means to be independent and you don't want me to be? Then you need to support me if you really love me. It's that simple. My boyfriend just puts up with it and I don't talk about it much.

laurielegs
11-01-2012, 03:29 PM
My boyfriend is supportive and is overall a very secure man. I would likely choose to be alone if I could not find this in a man.

Sexygirlygamer
11-01-2012, 03:32 PM
Thanks ladies! :)

Cleo - I started out on Chaturbate. It's not completely awesome, but I found it really good for starting out and getting my feet wet. I have some pretty good regulars, but it can be rather soul-destroying at times! I've found that most of the members are US based and the peak times are when it's the wee hours of the morning here and a girl needs her beauty sleep! I've just signed up to Cams.com this week and it's much better. I'm waiting to be approved for SM daily pay at the minute.

Lew - I thought he would appreciate me being honest about it as well, and I'm sure he did in his own way but he still doesn't like it. It's definitely jealousy. In a way I can completely understand that because while I wouldn't mind if he wanted to cam to make money I wouldn't like it if I caught him beating off to cam girls. I'm totally down with porn, but if he was interacting with girls online it would just be a bit too realistic. I sometimes feel guilty talking to men who have wives in the other room, but at the end of the day I just want their money. That's all it is for me... money. It's not a means for me to get off... I don't fantasize about being with these men... :/

Volatile - You hit the nail on the head. I don't particularly enjoy talking to these men... in fact I cringe when I have to do a c2c and pretend like I'm enjoying what I'm seeing. It's a good thing I can act my way through most of my privates.. lol. I think you're right about making him see things from my perspective.

All of the ladies who have supportive SO's... I envy you! When I talked to him about it I did try to tell him to get on cam with me, but he wasn't having any of it!

Jay12
11-01-2012, 03:34 PM
My hubby doesn't have a problem with me doing camming, stripping, or outcall dances and/or massages (non sexual).

If he had a problem, I'd tell him; a) to provide for me 100%, b) to go and get an "under the table" job (he's disabled and gets a VA pension and now gets SS benefits).

BBWCamLady
11-01-2012, 03:36 PM
I'm sorry you're boyfriend doesn't like you camming. :/
It's funny because it was about this time last year that I watched an episode on Dr. Phil about Amateur Porn. I thought how cool is that, get to have sex with your significant other on cam and get paid, that's like a dream job. So I was a little scared to discuss this with my husband but while making dinner found the courage to tell him about it. He got excited over the idea and thought that would be awesome. I wanted to lose weight first, I just had my son so I really couldn't have done it right then anyways. Wasn't until only 2 months ago that I started camming. He is very supportive and is my tech guy. He takes care of my lighting the setting up of the cam. He even some times watches me while I'm in free chat. :) If anything I would say all of it made our relationship stronger and more healthy.

I don't understand how some guys can think it's not the coolest job possible.

I hope some day he changes his mind. :) Good luck!

SexyMissKylie
11-01-2012, 04:19 PM
I cammed and was a PSO for a while between my divorce and my current boyfriend. I also was a PSO and cammed before I met my husband and in the early period of our relationship, but since he was a single dad, I quit so that my lifestyle didn't jeopardize his custody situation. I also dabbled in sugaring briefly, but there are so many time wasters. :-( My current boyfriend has actually been encouraging me to go back to camming/clip sales and PSO work while I finish up school so that I can quit my vanilla job that pays shit and stresses me out. He travels constantly for work, so while we do "live together" it's mostly just me alone in his house for 10 days out of every two weeks.

I don't think I could be with someone who wanted me to quit camming if there wasn't a valid risk or consequence, like child custody or a sensitive career. Even then, it would have to be a very serious relationship and I would have to have other arrangements in place to continue to support myself. I do understand men who aren't okay with sugaring or escorting, as those are a little more intimate and require physical commitments.

Lastly, if his concern is "guys beat off to you", has he never heard of girlsinyogapants.com or any of the similar tumblr feeds, blogs, or websites dedicated to pics (sometimes unknowingly obtained) of girls in various outfits or activities that are there for guys (and girls) to oogle? Hell, girls at my gym with rocking bodies who wear little tiny workout clothes get plenty of attention there! What's to say that the guys at my gym aren't jacking it to the girl in the pink sports bra and yoga pants on the stationary bike? If you're attractive, sexual, or pretty much just female, some guy, somewhere, one day will see you and use you as spank material later. You might as well get paid for some of it!

CummingCouple
11-01-2012, 04:30 PM
I'm sorry you're boyfriend doesn't like you camming. :/
It's funny because it was about this time last year that I watched an episode on Dr. Phil about Amateur Porn. I thought how cool is that, get to have sex with your significant other on cam and get paid, that's like a dream job. So I was a little scared to discuss this with my husband but while making dinner found the courage to tell him about it. He got excited over the idea and thought that would be awesome. I wanted to lose weight first, I just had my son so I really couldn't have done it right then anyways. Wasn't until only 2 months ago that I started camming. He is very supportive and is my tech guy. He takes care of my lighting the setting up of the cam. He even some times watches me while I'm in free chat. :) If anything I would say all of it made our relationship stronger and more healthy.

I don't understand how some guys can think it's not the coolest job possible.

I hope some day he changes his mind. :) Good luck!

My significant other and i cam. We saw the episode on "our america" about camming at my parents house of all places and were laughing in our heads about it. Im so glad he has no problem with it...

CinnimonKiss
11-01-2012, 04:39 PM
This works for me. At the end of the day all it is to me is a job and the means for supporting my family.



You already know what to say ;) Tell him what you told us.

He should come around

ManyRoses
11-01-2012, 07:46 PM
My boyfriend is absolutely fine with my camming - he has always been supportive, and was supportive of my dancing as well. In fact, when I got started, he gave me a lot of help with the techy stuff until I figured it out! He does occasionally get jealous - usually if there is a regular spending a LOT of money on me, or buying me lots of gifts - and he does occasionally twitch a little about it if there is something unusual that happens, like a video popping up, or a friend stumbling on my room. All of our friends know, but sometimes they'll be looking for porn and find me - and immediately leave, but if it is mentioned, he gets a little wierded out.

I can absolutely understand that it is really difficult for guys to cope with their partner working in this industry. We might know that it is just a job to us, and that we don't have feelings for these guys, but think about it from a customer perspective. At some point, I'll bet that your partner has watched a cam girl or gone to a strip club, and if the girls there were talented, they would have made him feel like he was special, that there was a real connection, and that they really did like him. So he is coming from a place where he believes that it is possible for a sex worker to be attracted to or develop feelings for a customer - you can see why it is hard to see your girlfriend interacting with other men in a sexual way, and worrying that she is going to fall for someone else.

Some guys just feel like they are "sharing" you - that by being in a relationship, they should get that side of you all to themselves. And it honestly is a really tricky situation - we are dealing with sex, albeit sex online. It can be hard to separate the knee-jerk reaction that it feels like cheating, and see it as "just work".

It sucks, honestly, finding a guy who will be TRULY supportive of this kind of work. I have been in the industry for a long time, and I have dated guys that thought it was "soooooo hot" - but then couldn't understand my frustrations, my tiredness, or that I wasn't "on" all the time - super stripper, sexed up and ready to go, 24/7! I've also been with guys that didn't judge me for it openly, but basically said that they would rather I didn't do it - "I don't mind you doing this, but I wish that you were doing something else". Or the guys who say "do what you have to do", but then don't want to hear about it at ALL - which makes life difficult, because it leaves me feeling as though they are secretly disgusted or ashamed - I shouldn't have to hide my work, or avoid talking about my day! Finding a guy who will honestly treat it just the same as any other job is like the proverbial needle in a haystack sometimes.

I think that whether or not you need your partner to be that supportive depends on why you are in the industry, and what you intend to get out of it. If you are just doing this temporarily, and intend to leave as soon as you can find something else, then just having someone who won't judge you is fine. You don't need someone to be able to chat to about your day, or be willing to tell his friends about what you do. But if you are doing this as a career - if it is something that you are proud of doing, that you intend to do long-term, that you want to do even if you could do something else - then you really do need to find that person who will back you 100%. At this point, if a man told me that he couldn't cope with it, I would leave him. This is a huge part of who I am, and I won't be made to feel any less because of it.

Cam_Model_Jess
11-01-2012, 08:56 PM
My husband is fine with camming. He encouraged me to try it out if I wanted to. I'd been out of work for a long time. At first he'd creep on me, watching me from around the corner while I did shows for guys. Now it's just a job. But he loves that I'm not a timid little girl like I used to be. I stand up for myself and don't let people push me around. I'm more in touch with my sexuality, and we have a lot more fun in the bedroom. Our sex life is so much better than it's ever been. And he KNOWS that I don't get off on camming, that it's just a job for me. He doesn't feel threatened by it. We're closer than we've ever been, we can pay our bills now, and we have a lot more time to spend together.

I really really hope that you and your bf can work it out & come to an understanding.

anonymous camgirl
11-02-2012, 09:42 AM
Very easy for me to see as an outsider .. and a former abusee.... you are a SINGLE MOTHER!.. this man who doesn't even live with you?? doesn't help you pay your bills? Isolated from your family?? This is an easy one.. Do cam if it works out for you.. NO ONE has made any promises or allowances for you .. so that you don't have to.


Hi ladies! :)

Like the title says, I'm wondering how everyone's bf/husbands/etc feels about you camming. The reason I ask is because when I told my boyfriend (who doesn't live with me) about it, he got really upset and absolutely does not want me camming. He does not like the idea of other men beating off to me. *sigh* It effected our sex lives quite a bit as well. I promised him that I would stop, but I haven't. I'm no good at lying and it's really starting to weigh on me.

I absolutely love this man to bits, but I'm really struggling at the minute. I'm a single mother living across the ocean from any family support. I lost my job in August and that is what led me to camming. Trying to find a job with the hours I can work is damn near impossible at the minute, but I am trying. The thing is that I want to cam... I want to be my own boss and choose which hours to work and to not have to stress about finding a babysitter. This works for me. At the end of the day all it is to me is a job and the means for supporting my family. I really wish I could find a way to convince him that it's harmless and won't effect the way I feel about him in any way. :-\

Any advice? Thanks :-*

BritishBecky
11-02-2012, 09:54 AM
My husband and I met through camming (not something I'd recommend but that's how it was) about 10 years ago. Because of that, he's sometimes been a bit jealous when I spend a lot of time with certain regulars (say 5 hours + per week). In the main though he's very supportive and helps me stick to a schedule and will make clips with me and also cam with me when I ask him to. It really helped him to do some camming with me, because it made him understand just how much of a 'job' it is in terms of all the stuff we have to think about and respond to etc. Before that I don't think he understood the concept of annoying freeloaders or tricky camera-angles! He still finds it really sexy to watch my clips or whatever, but he finds performing hard work!

BeautifulDisaster
11-02-2012, 10:04 AM
I started camming when my husband and I started dating. I remember discussing it with him and he was SO cool about it, he thought it was awesome and told me "If I was a girl and I had nice tits and an ass I would do it too!" LOL. Here we are 5 years later & he is still completely cool with it. He has been supportive from the beginning, and I am extremely thankful for that.

Pearl_Sugar
11-02-2012, 11:38 AM
My husband is so supportive that he actually gets upset when I DON'T cam. That could probably be because we need the income though. :p

When I first started camming, he was in my free chat (SM) all night, every night. And since he knew what I was doing in the bedroom, with a closed door, he kept getting so turned on that every night we ended up having sex in the middle of my camming time because he was seriously aroused. It was crazy.

Now he's calmed down though. While I'm camming he makes sure there is fresh coffee and that I'm fed, and he also sat me up with a second monitor so that I can see what the guys are saying if I'm doing shows on my bed. It's an awesome union.

CourtneyRaine
11-02-2012, 12:29 PM
I'm single now, but I've been with guys who feel extremes at both end of the spectrum. When I got with my now ex-fiance I told him I cammed and he said he was fine with it. He moved in with me shortly afterwards and he was NOT fine with me camming. I think he wanted to be okay with it, but actually seeing me get made up for work, hearing me in my shows, and feeling neglected when I had to work even though I was home with him made him freak out. It was a huge bone of contention and he would insult me for it all the time, he would even go so far as locking me out of the computer so that I couldn't work when he was feeling upset. My ex has very low self-esteem, mind you.

Now the guy I'm talking to now, even out of all of my other friends he is the one who is most supportive of me camming. He does not judge me at all and he will often come into my free chat to watch me work and hang out with me when it's slow. He knows it is my job and when he sees me flirting with other guys trying to get shows out of them he honestly laughs about it. He used to be a cam customer and spent a lot of money on other models. He is fascinated to see me interact with guys in free chat the same way models used to interact with him, now that he knows and understands what models' real intentions are (hint: it's not to date my customers or find my soul mate!). He is the only person I can talk to about my day at work. I don't just mean sharing that I had a good day or a bad day or it was slow or busy or whatever. I can tell him all the rude things guys have said to me, I can tell him how hard it was not to laugh my ass off during that foot fetish show I had to do, I can tell him about how sore my throat is because all my shows that shift were sloppy rough big toy deep throat. He listens to it all and never judges me, just like a good boyfriend would listen if I was telling him about a vanilla job.

I've said it before, if I guy is really uncomfortable with you camming (like my ex was), you can't convince him to be open and okay with it the way my friend is. If your guy is insecure enough that he doesn't trust what you're doing, you cannot fix that. I agree that letting him sit in on one of your shifts (if you're comfortable with that) will give him a better understanding that this really is a job you're doing for the money and parts of it are rather annoying just like every other job. But, I don't think you'll convert him to being able to share all of the details of your day with him. So are you okay with being with a guy who you can't talk about your job openly and honestly with?

Classy_Katy
11-02-2012, 12:32 PM
It really turns my partner on too!

xKikox
11-02-2012, 02:15 PM
My boyfriend hates the fact that I do it, it has affected our relationship so much. Jealousy/insecurity issues etc. I wish he could be supportive of me. For those who have supportive partners you are all so lucky. Whenever I cam and he has gone on there to watch me it has sparked many arguments. It is very difficult to the point where sometimes I can't seem to be my self for worry about him getting mad about something I say :'(

Camming has really helped me financially... I don't do it for sexual thrills nor have the desire to see other guys jerking off. I wish he would believe me.

I love him and want to be with him but at the same time... gosh, if I was single I would just work so hard, stay focused... I'd probably be much better off than where I am right now.

Crustyz
11-02-2012, 03:44 PM
He doesn't give a fuck. He loves the extra money. :)

xKikox
11-02-2012, 06:26 PM
Just out of curiosity... what would you think if your partner were to cam? My boyfriend always turns it around and asks me how I would feel if he were to cam for other people.

Cam_Model_Jess
11-02-2012, 06:44 PM
Men don't cam for women most of the time. They cam for gay men. So if your dude wants to wank for other men... I'd tell him to knock himself out. :)

xKikox
11-02-2012, 06:56 PM
Men don't cam for women most of the time. They cam for gay men. So if your dude wants to wank for other men... I'd tell him to knock himself out. :)

Ha, that is very true, Jess lol thing is... I'm sure he'd have no problem doing that for gay men!!!

CourtneyRaine
11-02-2012, 07:16 PM
Just out of curiosity... what would you think if your partner were to cam? My boyfriend always turns it around and asks me how I would feel if he were to cam for other people.

I would freaking love it and I'm not even lying. Sometimes I feel like I'm turning into a pimp with the way I've suggested to both my ex AND my friend that they cam. They both have amazing bodies, natural six packs, exotic ethnic looks. One is more or a dom and one is definitely more of a sub. I think they would both do great.

I think my friend might actually go for it, as he is looking to make some extra money outside of his full time job. I've suggested sites that are guy-friendly to him and sometimes we go on this one site in particular together to see how the English speaking boys who look like him are doing. He is a bit self conscious about his size which I think he is *only* thing that is holding him back. I assure him that I'd mod for him and start tipping wars so he wouldn't have to read any nonsense and would only have to worry about making that money. When/if we ever become intimate we've already decided we're definitely doing live shows as well as filming that shit. Maybe not the first time, but every single time afterwards. The idea of hundreds of people jerking off to my man yet knowing I'M the one he's on the phone with for hours every day, I'M the one he comes (/cums) to at night, I'M the one who puts a smile on his face as well as an erection in his pants every day and knowing that shit is ALL mine... Ehrmahgerd it makes me tingle :)

Kiki Kaboose
11-02-2012, 07:23 PM
My partner is totally indifferent to my camming. We've been together almost seven years and nothing's going to change that. He actually seems to enjoy the stories of all the funny fetishes I encounter. I do porn too, but he doesn't mind that either. He understands that it's all professional.

ManyRoses
11-02-2012, 08:10 PM
Just out of curiosity... what would you think if your partner were to cam? My boyfriend always turns it around and asks me how I would feel if he were to cam for other people.

I would tell him that I really don't think it suits his personality as much as his current career!! Seriously - the man is a hard-ass on all his staff, and runs a seriously tight ship - one of those guys that everyone respects for his ability to drink them all under the table as well as kick their asses for fucking up. He is harsh but fair, and he could NOT deal with the kind of crap we do - he would just end up swearing at all of them and being furious all the time!! Besides, we only have one set up, and we moved to a 2 bed so that we could keep the camming stuff out of the freaking way - I would be PISSED about having a computer and a box o dildos in the living room again...LOL

But in a general sense, if a partner of mine wanted to cam, I wouldn't have a problem with it.

I don't want to cam as a couple, because I like to keep my sex life as far as possible from my work - I never want to get to a point where I feel like I'm clocking in every time we get dirty!! I know a lot of people can do that (and damn do I respect that ability), but it's just not me.

I guess that the only thing that would weird me out would be the feeling of him horning in on "my" territory...no pun intended! If he was already in the industry, awesome, but if a guy was like "hey, that looks cool, I'ma just drop the career I've been building to do what YOU do"...I'd be a little snippy. This is MY thing! Childish, but honest. (I'd also be a little concerned - I like to date men that know who they are and what they want out of life, and I wouldn't want to see him just stop working on his career or life plan, y'know? Red flag for flaky!!)

One of my best male friends (who is an occasional sexual guest star in our relationship) has cammed a few times - once with a camgirl he was sleeping with, and once on his own, just to try it....it's made us a lot closer, because I feel like he understands my work (and by extension, me) a little more than most. He definitely has more respect for me and how hard I work, and I REALLY appreciate that!! Sometimes I wish that my partner had dabbled in camming, because he would have that same understanding...

caitir
11-03-2012, 01:15 AM
I was already a camgirl when I started dating my boyfriend. So, that kind of helped because he went into the relationship knowing what he was getting into. Also, my boyfriend is a performer too- not camming, he is an amateur wrestler- so he understands the whole "getting into character" thing and knows that it's not really ME up there. Not sure if you really are yourself on cam or not, but this might be a valid point to bring up. Luckily my boyfriend is reasonable enough to understand that there's no touching (obviously), and that there's no way for these cam-guys to find where I'm at so there's no risk of losing me to one of them.
It's still a touchy subject- this isn't to say that he LIKES me being a cam girl- no, if I were to find a noncam job that paid $8/hr he'd tell me to take it. But when I have to cam, he supports me and wants me to make a lot of money. He loves me- all of me. Before I started dating him, I had a lot of guys hightail it once I told them about my job, but you just gotta hang in there and KNOW that the Right guy will accept you- ALL of you. :)

CamgirlInUK
11-03-2012, 06:30 PM
I've not got a boyfriend at the mo. When I do meet someone, I don't think I'll tell them about camming though, TBH. They don't NEED to know, and I would be concerned that it would change the way they see me - like I was up for it 24/7. I'd also worry that they'd use it against me if things turned messy. I'm in the closet about camming generally, though. None of my friends and family know.

I suppose if it got to the moving in/marriage/kids stage, I might tell, but my instinct is noooooooooooooooo hahaha.

CinnimonKiss
11-03-2012, 06:32 PM
My husband is so supportive that he actually gets upset when I DON'T cam. That could probably be because we need the income though. :p

When I first started camming, he was in my free chat (SM) all night, every night. And since he knew what I was doing in the bedroom, with a closed door, he kept getting so turned on that every night we ended up having sex in the middle of my camming time because he was seriously aroused. It was crazy.

Now he's calmed down though. While I'm camming he makes sure there is fresh coffee and that I'm fed, and he also sat me up with a second monitor so that I can see what the guys are saying if I'm doing shows on my bed. It's an awesome union.

Lol nice

Your Evil Twin
11-03-2012, 07:18 PM
My boyfriend is really turned on that I am a cam girl but anything to do with sex turns him on. The sluttier I seem to him the more of a sex object I become to him. Unfortunately I initiated sex with him, it was how he came to the conclusion that I was his girlfriend. He doesn't have any interests except fishing and getting wasted so when we are together we never have anything to talk about and instead just have sex. He makes me feel like an unpaid whore.

I am a conundrum myself. I am probably pretty prude. I have worked as a stripper (successfully) and now I am a cam girl who occasionally thinks about taking strip trips. I have been self-employed in one way or another for ever and I would dread the idea of getting a bare-subsistence vanilla job, not that anyone would hire me with no practical skills. When I cam it is all about the money, it was even more-so about the money when I was stripping, camming is more casual, less stressful so my tunnel vision widens a little when camming as opposed to stripping.

I feel very empty and probably have a lot of depression, I have no hobbies, no real interests. When I am with my boyfriend we can't even have a conversation and I spend most of my time avoiding him. But as fucked up as my life is I have always felt that a boyfriend who supports me being a cam-model or a stripper isn't the kind of guy for me. Honestly I would prefer a guy who would want to shelter me from that sort of thing so that my sex-life would be just between me and him. Personally I feel that when sex becomes a career it really sort of ruins it for relationships, which is probably why my boyfriend annoys me as much as he does.

And when I have sex with him I really do feel like an unpaid whore who is being ripped off. And no doubt that is because my career is sex and I am supposed to get paid. My boyfriend is worthless though, he never offers to take me out and one night when we had sex I wanted to go home instead of having him crush me and grab my nipples and poke his dick in my ass while I was trying to sleep so he let me walk home in the cold and dark carrying a heavy bag and I had to walk five miles by myself at two in the morning to get home, freezing and with no coat. He never even offered me a ride. But he is way cool with me camming.

Sorry about the personal rant. But I have no other way to get it out of my system.

StephanieXS
11-03-2012, 11:26 PM
My boyfriend is really turned on that I am a cam girl but anything to do with sex turns him on. The sluttier I seem to him the more of a sex object I become to him. Unfortunately I initiated sex with him, it was how he came to the conclusion that I was his girlfriend. He doesn't have any interests except fishing and getting wasted so when we are together we never have anything to talk about and instead just have sex. He makes me feel like an unpaid whore.

I am a conundrum myself. I am probably pretty prude. I have worked as a stripper (successfully) and now I am a cam girl who occasionally thinks about taking strip trips. I have been self-employed in one way or another for ever and I would dread the idea of getting a bare-subsistence vanilla job, not that anyone would hire me with no practical skills. When I cam it is all about the money, it was even more-so about the money when I was stripping, camming is more casual, less stressful so my tunnel vision widens a little when camming as opposed to stripping.

I feel very empty and probably have a lot of depression, I have no hobbies, no real interests. When I am with my boyfriend we can't even have a conversation and I spend most of my time avoiding him. But as fucked up as my life is I have always felt that a boyfriend who supports me being a cam-model or a stripper isn't the kind of guy for me. Honestly I would prefer a guy who would want to shelter me from that sort of thing so that my sex-life would be just between me and him. Personally I feel that when sex becomes a career it really sort of ruins it for relationships, which is probably why my boyfriend annoys me as much as he does.

And when I have sex with him I really do feel like an unpaid whore who is being ripped off. And no doubt that is because my career is sex and I am supposed to get paid. My boyfriend is worthless though, he never offers to take me out and one night when we had sex I wanted to go home instead of having him crush me and grab my nipples and poke his dick in my ass while I was trying to sleep so he let me walk home in the cold and dark carrying a heavy bag and I had to walk five miles by myself at two in the morning to get home, freezing and with no coat. He never even offered me a ride. But he is way cool with me camming.

Sorry about the personal rant. But I have no other way to get it out of my system.


I'm gonna be honest here... I wanna give you a huge hug. You deserve so much better. So much. And I just don't think you're cut out for the adult industry. Even if you're good at it, it might not be good for you. It seems like it affects you alot.

Your Evil Twin
11-04-2012, 09:11 PM
I'm gonna be honest here... I wanna give you a huge hug. You deserve so much better. So much. And I just don't think you're cut out for the adult industry. Even if you're good at it, it might not be good for you. It seems like it affects you alot.

I would say that your conclusion is based on faulty premises but thanks for the hug, hugs are always good.

laurielegs
11-05-2012, 06:38 AM
I feel very empty and probably have a lot of depression, I have no hobbies, no real interests. When I am with my boyfriend we can't even have a conversation and I spend most of my time avoiding him. But as fucked up as my life is I have always felt that a boyfriend who supports me being a cam-model or a stripper isn't the kind of guy for me. Honestly I would prefer a guy who would want to shelter me from that sort of thing so that my sex-life would be just between me and him. Personally I feel that when sex becomes a career it really sort of ruins it for relationships, which is probably why my boyfriend annoys me as much as he does.

And when I have sex with him I really do feel like an unpaid whore who is being ripped off. And no doubt that is because my career is sex and I am supposed to get paid. My boyfriend is worthless though, he never offers to take me out and one night when we had sex I wanted to go home instead of having him crush me and grab my nipples and poke his dick in my ass while I was trying to sleep so he let me walk home in the cold and dark carrying a heavy bag and I had to walk five miles by myself at two in the morning to get home, freezing and with no coat. He never even offered me a ride. But he is way cool with me camming.

Sorry about the personal rant. But I have no other way to get it out of my system.


I don't get it. What do you need him for anyway?

I'd rather masturbate than put up with an idiot like that. Even if it means you are without a man for awhile, you'd be way better off alone.

Smurfette
11-05-2012, 12:05 PM
It was my husband's idea for me to start camming actually. He still had a hard time getting over his jealousy/insecurities at first though. For probably the first 6 months or so it was a sensitive issue, sometimes he'd be fine with it, other times he'd mope around. He's definitely 100% over it now, thank GOD because that was annoying as shit to deal with. He cams as well, mostly for gay men. It doesn't bother me at all, in fact I think it's hilarious. But I have to admit, if he cammed for women I'd be somewhat jealous. I'd probably get over it with time though, especially if the money was good.

IF he randomly decided he hated webcam and didn't want me to do it anymore, I'd hold a bit of resentment but I'd quit for the sake of our marriage. Only if he got a good job to make up for the lost income though.

miss_me
11-05-2012, 12:34 PM
I haven't been camming that long but my guy has been 100% supportive the whole time.

In fact, in someways, if it wasn't for him I'd never have gotten into camming. He's never had a problem with the sex industry and has a few close friends who are adult entertainers.

I used to be a huge prude and was not comfortable with my body at all. A few weeks after we first started dating he told me he was working as a bouncer at this divey(but fun) stripclub in town. I was so shocked cause he's such a nice guy! Why would he work at such a place?! With naked women! :eek:
I feel terrible about it now, but I told him that if he wanted to keep seeing me he had to quit. And he did. He's such a big teddy bear of a guy. But skip to a few years later and we both like going to the same club. He always teases me about it. And, for some reason, the less uptight I got the more comfortable I become with my body.

So, yeah. He has no problem with what I'm doing. He's also one of those guys who like it when he's girl gets hit on by other guys but knows she only goes home with him. So that might help. lol

Oh, and I wouldn't care if he cammed. He's kinda a big flirt irl so it probably be more natural for him than it is for me. He even flirts with gay dudes even though he's straight. He's just weird that way I guess. But I know, in the end, he only had eyes for me.

MsKittyKat
11-27-2012, 01:16 AM
I started out with phone sex on NF without my SO knowing about it; though I end up told him that I did it on the side while working a "normal job". He didn't like it as first, but I told him I actually didn't really have to talk about "sexual stuff" with them, actually my very first customer just asked me about my daily things and he kept on calling back for awhile. I told him I like these sort of things, I have no intention to sleep with another man, but I am curious about what's out there !?!?! I was barely 18 when we got together so I was just super curious, first time got to be on my own :)

I'm lucky that he's been very supportive. I'm not saying he likes what I do, actually he DOESN'T. He knows it's not "family friendly" and it sucks that we both have to hide from our families what I do for a job.
I seriously do not want my parents to find out, mostly because they are old-fashioned Asian parents, they will never understand this type of opportunity. We went through hard time because of my job, and living together situation is so hard for me to deal with sometimes since I like to work night time schedule, and he's got school and work so I never get a good sleep when he got home from school. My SO found many cam sites for me to work, but for now, I am settled with Cams and Naked, MFC isn't a big deal for me since I am not great being a game host or doing shows for free expecting for tips :(

I haven't really try out with SM, is it busy on that site?

MsKittyKat
11-27-2012, 01:29 AM
I believe some old MILF are rich and looking for young sexy boys to play with. Who knows, maybe he can make more than you think >< Ive seen guys won Model of the Day on my site !!!

TriXieBaby
11-27-2012, 01:48 AM
I haven't told my husband...I'd rather not honestly. Plus I don't live with him so it's pretty easy to get away with. We already have our problems and he is VERY insecure with me as it is. I feel like it would make things between us worse /:

xobarbiexo
11-27-2012, 04:43 AM
He's pissed I make more money than him now, because he's used to being the sole provider. He still won't let me pay for anything. It makes him feel like less of a man if I pay for anything more than food and clothes. He knew a ridiculous amount of porn actresses so he thinks camming is very vanilla.

AshleyRyder
11-27-2012, 05:03 AM
My boyfriend actually cams with me on our joint Streamate account. :)

SweetPinkCupcake
11-27-2012, 10:54 AM
I think a lot of you girls stay with these loser men because you have low self-esteem or came from a broken home or something. SERIOUSLY tho, how can you girls take a man not working, while he YELLS at you and calls you a piece of shit for your job. . . while you are SUPPORTING his loser ass. There is something wrong with that picture. . and unfortunately, I see it a LOT in this industry. Women work in the sex industry while they take care of the loser who sits at home and plays XBOX video games all day while he calls you a whore for your job.

It's disgusting. . . .

TriXieBaby
11-27-2012, 11:16 AM
I think a lot of you girls stay with these loser men because you have low self-esteem or came from a broken home or something. SERIOUSLY tho, how can you girls take a man not working, while he YELLS at you and calls you a piece of shit for your job. . . while you are SUPPORTING his loser ass. There is something wrong with that picture. . and unfortunately, I see it a LOT in this industry. Women work in the sex industry while they take care of the loser who sits at home and plays XBOX video games all day while he calls you a whore for your job.

It's disgusting. . . .

True. I don't question me being with my man anymore though. Too many times have I tried to leave and I always went running back. I do deserve the best but I can't change who I love? But back on to topic, I think if my man did find out there is no way he would leave me. He loves me too much ;D

anonymous camgirl
11-27-2012, 02:04 PM
I KNOW! At least kick that bum out til he gets a job.. if you love em so damn much..LOL


I think a lot of you girls stay with these loser men because you have low self-esteem or came from a broken home or something. SERIOUSLY tho, how can you girls take a man not working, while he YELLS at you and calls you a piece of shit for your job. . . while you are SUPPORTING his loser ass. There is something wrong with that picture. . and unfortunately, I see it a LOT in this industry. Women work in the sex industry while they take care of the loser who sits at home and plays XBOX video games all day while he calls you a whore for your job.

It's disgusting. . . .

CarmenF
11-27-2012, 03:34 PM
I was an indy cam girl from 2006 to 2011, eversince I was 18 basically. I joined mgf in september 2011 and have been dating my man since november 2010. He knew nothing about my camming, I never ever thought about doing it! In May I couldn't stand the lies anymore!!! So I told him and he was FUCKING MAD. Yep. He said he had no more feelings for me and stuff. I wanted to go numb and no longer think until three days later he said we could try again. Since then we have been together more and in love more than before but I stopped MGFeffing from May to July, when we took a BJ video and he said I could start working on MGF again with softer things. After a while he said that cumming videos were good again.
He likes it now! Sometimes we sit in bed and tell him all that I get asked on here, what videos I sell, I show him videos and he says I sound very slutty when speaking english. He was angry because I didn't tell him but he is ok with it and sometimes we make videos together but he doesn't want me to list them, so I sell them to closer guys only. He agrees with camming and all too!! This is my story. He might have been ok with it from beginning if I told him, maybe I would've scared him off. What I know is that at first it was too early, after a while too late.
Ugh why does it have to be so hard? Men would love to do what we do yet make such a big fuss about it. If we could make the same money baking bread we'd all be baking bread on cam not? Why do they think we like it soooo much? I like the power I get from it that turns into money...

TriXieBaby
11-27-2012, 03:40 PM
I think men are just jealous cause we women have such amazing and awesome bodies. And we can get money from it. It's all envy to me.......

CarmenF
11-27-2012, 03:51 PM
I think men are just jealous cause we women have such amazing and awesome bodies. And we can get money from it. It's all envy to me.......

Yeah money and anger towards the power our pussy gives us!!!

TriXieBaby
11-27-2012, 04:10 PM
right. this is a women's way of hu$tling, naturally so to speak. just jealously, brush it off. women are so powerful in so many ways! ❤