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Sexy Shana
02-13-2013, 11:11 AM
I don't tell a guy right away but I do so relatively fast. For one guy that was the end. .... I am with my present bf for awhile now, he is OK with it. He won't join me as he says he has "performance anxiety".
If a guy finds out that U are not upfront with him it will probably be the end. Actually, I would feel the same way about a guy.
Meaganminx
02-13-2013, 02:44 PM
I didn't start camming until I talked to my boyfriend about "hypothetically" doing it, and he was soooooo receptive, so the hypothetical situation became my reality. He helps me with my videos , graphics and other little things :) That being said, I agree with everyone who said don't hide it. Its more trouble than its worth, and alot of paranoia! A worth while guy should respect your employment choices no matter what (unless you are an assassin... which would be badass)
AshleyRed
03-03-2013, 11:28 PM
Hey girls! I'm new here and in webcaming as well. I've been reading LOTS here and having such a great time learning and laughing... till I got to see this thread and I NEEDED TO REPLY. Perfect timing for sign up and being active around here, yey!
I've started working for LJ some days ago and just got out of the "on sale period", by the way. Applying for some other sites too. And well, before I've started it all I told my HUSBAND I really wanted to do this for extra income. I've told him I was researching on making money online in my evening hours and free weekends. And webcam girl was way more profitable than other ways I've found around.
I was really ready for a big "NO" because he's really conservative sometimes when it comes to sex and any kind of exposure (he even brags about my skirt being too short) but guess what? He really got into the idea! He loved it hahahaha... and not just for the money, of course (he told me to keep it all for myself).
He's helping me doing research, building-up my persona, giving me tips about how to act to arouse my costumers in pvt, settling up my working place (a spare room we have and we're working on how to assemble a good environment, lighting and everything). I get to tell him my new discovers in this world and he even peeked some of my pvts, chats and everything so he could give me more tips... it's being really fun. And I've been online for two days now (3 hours each time) and got 40 bucks already. Well I know it's not much, but I'm still learning and working on my persona before going online for more hours.
Having him to support me and help me with my choice is just WONDERFUL. He's really someone I can count on. He even told me he's sure he loves me even more than before, because I'm being true to him and to myself. And he's a creative, he loves building up new things and so do I. We're working on my webcam girl persona now, and my shows. It's been just AMAZING.
I confess hiding it from him crossed my mind. But I love him so much I decided it was not worth the trouble: if he loves me he'll understand if it's a good thing. If it's a bad thing and he could call me out of it I would be ok as well, I've never been in the sex industry before and if he could point me why I shouldn't do that I would just call it off.
For the girls who are starting a relationship and already are webcam girls I should tell you to be true to the guy. If he likes you he'll accept who you are. If he doesn't accept your way of living maybe he's not right for you.
For the girls who are already in a relationship and thinking of going on cam modeling, go for the truth as well. My husband, for example, told me he would be really frustrated, upset and feeling betrayed if I just hid it from him. Maybe your guy can just surprise you :) Maybe he can point you it's not your way. Maybe you can find out you shouldn't be in this relationship anyway... Anyway, the truth always avoids lots of bad things!
My husband just came out now and I told him I was writing about him here. He told me the thing he loved the most was that I've told him the whole truth: the day before I've told him about my ideas he found out I was researching on this. He got really mad, and thought I would hide it from him. The day after I came by and told him about working as a webcam girl. He told be he fell in love for me once more, at that moment, because I proved I was really sharing everything with him... my whole life. And he felt so happy for the truth above everything that he could not refuse being respectful to my decision and live with me entirely on it.
And we're having so much fun doing this together that even our sex-life is spiced up now. Hahahaha... I'm sorry for the long post, but just got inspired here! :) And I'm sorry for any English errors you might find in my text, English is not my native language.
CarmenF
03-04-2013, 12:40 AM
I got permission to start selling worn panties yay :):)
CourtneyRaine
03-04-2013, 01:40 PM
Well there is a new guy in my life. I've told him I'm a webcam model and that it's a "sexy job." He didn't say anything bad about it, just that he wishes he could also work from home. I'm glad I told him upfront and I don't regret it in the least. The problem is, English is not his first language so I'm not quite sure if he understands exactly what I mean by webcam model. Lol. I did tell him that men pay me good money to look at me and talk to me. He said he thinks it's silly for men to pay for women because women are for men and he's a man, he'd never pay for a woman. And we dropped it, no more discussion about that. I'm really unsure if I should try to expound on the situation or just let it go. I did take some new pics for my MGF profile which cannot show any nudity, but they are racy. I asked him what he thought about my new pictures for my work profile. All he says is "Beauty full ;)" and "so nice." Dang it man, I am trying to have a dialogue here!
AshleyRed
03-04-2013, 01:46 PM
I got permission to start selling worn panties yay :):)
I'm quite new at this and only working at LJ so far... how do you do to sell panties on those websites??? I guess I would surely improve my income doing that and hubbie wouldn't mind at all.
IsobelWren
03-04-2013, 02:21 PM
I'm quite new at this and only working at LJ so far... how do you do to sell panties on those websites??? I guess I would surely improve my income doing that and hubbie wouldn't mind at all.
Here's a tutorial on how to use the search function:
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?169359-How-to-use-the-search-function
Using the search function for the terms "selling panties," "sell panties" I found these threads:
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?180855-Best-Selling-Panty-Styles
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?176151-Selling-Underwear-on-Streamate
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?155557-Sites-I-ve-found-passive-income-cam-sites-etc
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?172728-Selling-panties-Fake-cum
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?166471-Selling-panties
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?161494-Selling-used-items-Packaging-Notes-ect
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?166092-Tangibles
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?177074-Selling-Used-Underwear
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?173560-Selling-underwear-and-VAGINAL-DISCHARGE
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?169042-Panty-auctions
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?172523-quot-Doubled-Up-Worn-Panties-quot-For-Sale-!
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?167713-Panty-selling-legalities-please
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?156387-Selling-Used-Panties-Items
If this isn't enough information you could search for, "selling underwear" or "used panties" or "worn panties" or any combination of the same.
AshleyRed
03-04-2013, 02:55 PM
Thank you IsobelWren, so useful! I haven't noticed I could just search for it, and I've realized it after the post ¬¬ I'm sorry for that. I'm sorry girls, still learning here :)
CarmenF
03-04-2013, 06:08 PM
I'm quite new at this and only working at LJ so far... how do you do to sell panties on those websites??? I guess I would surely improve my income doing that and hubbie wouldn't mind at all.
I sell them on extralunchmoney.com!
Fire_spice
03-23-2013, 11:17 PM
I was dating my ex for about 2 months b4 i told him, it made me feel safer having him on cam with me.These people are wierd and think that i will meet them and stuff, having him for support was great, he gave me tips on whats guys like on cam and how to get them hot and horny! I prob made more camming with a guy than i did solo
GeeGee
03-24-2013, 04:08 AM
I let my bf know. He wasn't happy with it. I told him goodbye then and he changed his mind. Now we are working on vids together and he is setting up an account to cam... who knows?!
AshleyRed
03-27-2013, 06:52 PM
Fire_Spice, my husband also gives me a lot of tips about what turn men on hahahaha XD even on clothing! He tells me things like "girls love those tiny things full of flowers and girly stuff... let me tell you what men really want to you can invest in clothing that will turn them on more than clothing that you will enjoy!" Hahahahaha that's my business husband XD
CurvySweet
04-01-2013, 02:28 PM
My advice is to wait and see if things get serious and go from there.
Ariella
04-01-2013, 02:43 PM
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Special_K
04-02-2013, 06:49 AM
I told my bf after 6 months of dating, because I didn't get back to camming after he had left the country (I'm in a long distance relationship) and he didn't mind at all, he said it was a good idea for extra income and he didn't mind because no one was having any physical contact with me. I just got back home, I went to visit him for 3 months and he was actually always making fun of my toys and stuff like that, he even helped me as a photographer for a couple of shoots. I'm glad he supports me and is not judgmental.
JJLights89
04-02-2013, 10:09 AM
Has anyone ever had their BF(husband in my case) actually suggest this a new job choice? My husband brought the idea to me and at first I was nuetral about it but after he got me to watch some free chat of one of his favorite girls I was like "Hell yeah, this looks like fun as hell? And I make money PSSHHAAAHH" And I'm sure everyone here is openminded/like minded(maybe) but my husband and I have a very open relationship, not as in seeking other partners but I'm not huffy about porn or things like that at all. XD
Brilynne
04-02-2013, 05:11 PM
My fiance always knew it was a part of my past (as well as escorting), and I convinced him last week to do the c4s thing with me as we're really struggling financially and then finally just tonight I said out of the blue I wanted to go back to webcamming and he was pretty much just.....'k'. about it. I even offered to give it a shot at keeping it softcore this time around and stick to stripping and role play but he basically told me that wasnt necessary. There was one stipulation though- "if you're gonna be dirty talking to all these guys online, you gotta start talking dirty to me" }:D (dirty talk [good @ it, BUT...] the bane of my existence)
I love my man. :trip:
kortneykay
04-03-2013, 11:59 AM
My husband knows and hates it but I also hate that he has a drug problem, I'm saving up to move out in a few months and quite frankly from now on I don't believe I'll actually care what someone thinks so the next guy up to the plate will have to be told within the first few weeks or so of dating. I won't get too close for that reason alone, if he doesn't support my adult jobs as well as the vanilla job then I won't be in a relationship with him.
Charnixxx
04-04-2013, 09:55 AM
I think you should only tell him if things get SERIOUS or if you really like him. I mainly am upfront with people about what I do b/c it's best to see if they accept you from the jump instead of you catching feelings and finding out they don't approve of what you do for a living. I am just an upfront person, & not much of a liar. It's much easier to let someone go in the beginning before it gets deep! I have been with my boyfriend for a year plus now, I met him at his job which was a sex store lol (how ironic) and he loves that I cam, we do videos together and my money doubled when I started doing vids with him. We are going to do couple shows too. It's nice to have a partner you can get money with and don't have to hide it from. We basically can pay all our bills off c4s and cam shows alone. He has a job (working on getting 2) so it's lots of extra money for us lol. So that's very refreshing! If you find a guy who accepts this job I say HOLD ON TO HIM!!!! It's a rare find lol. I was so used to meeting guys who didn't accept it and thought i was a slut, I thought I'd be single forever (& Im only 22 started camming at 18) so I used to ask him all the time if he thought I was a whore for what i do, and he would always reassure me, no! He thinks im so smart to run my own business and design websites all from scratch. So It all depends on the person. I have had ex-bfs tell me I cant cam if we are together/they don't want their lady showing off their bodies and blah blah but I am a very sexual person so I'm glad I found someone sexual and open like me! I never wanted to stop camming for a guy I would much rather be a cam girl/amateur porn housewife lol. That's my 2 cents hope it helped!
MissAdriana
04-04-2013, 11:13 AM
^ Good Advice!
My boyfriend knows: we've been together over 2 years. He likes it because I'm happy, but if I weren't happy he wouldn't want me doing it. I'm very appreciative of him thinking this way. He has never judged me and is very accepting and just let's me do me! That's the way it should be ladies - keep doing you!
@kortney you always have the sexiest avatars :P
kortneykay
04-04-2013, 09:38 PM
@kortney you always have the sexiest avatars :P
Thank you bb, it's all in the chest ;)
arinyan123
04-05-2013, 09:51 AM
When I started camming, my boyfriend and I had been together for over two years and we live together so I kinda had to tell him! He worked and I was a stay at home girlfriend with no vehicle. I talked to him about it first, told him what it was all about, showed him the websites, and we even spent some time eating popcorn and watching Gold Show countdowns together!
The way he sees it is that he's the only one who can actually touch me/have sex with me/etc. so it doesn't really make a difference to him if someone else is just seeing the goods over a computer screen (I mean, as long as I'm getting paid for it!).
He also likes that I'm making so much money so I can treat him sometimes! He's usually the one treating me and he supported both of us for a while. We both joke that I'm his sugar mama now lol
Sabihah
04-05-2013, 03:15 PM
I'm in an open relationship (i.e. we both see other people), so I wasn't expecting *too* much in the way of jealousy when I told the Pretty Man Thing - I think he was mostly concerned that I'd be treated disrespectfully. Now he occasionally watches while I work and is actually chomping at the bit to make videos with me! :) The only thing that really bothers him is hearing men's voices during Skype appointments, but he hasn't asked me to stop - just to make sure I give him a heads up when I'm about to go on a call and do my best to keep the sounds contained.
TinyGirl6
05-01-2013, 12:55 PM
Drudging this up because I think it's a really interesting part of our "job"! My boyfriend does know that I cam. I asked him before I signed up if he'd mind it, and his only concern has been my safety. He doesn't want me to be stalked or to ruin my job options in the future. (I spent a year working at a sex shop, and I run a sex-ed blog non-anonymously, so I'm pretty sure I'm in too deep already lol.)
On the other hand, one of my IRL best friends also cams and her boyfriend doesn't know. He hates the idea. I personally don't agree with his reasons for hating it - he's a slutshamer and I'm just not down with that.
Ariella
05-03-2013, 01:30 AM
I told my long distance fiance last night when I was drunk that I'm a cam girl. He was pissed and now wants me to give it up. Lectured me about the risks of being exposed. Asked how I would feel if our future daughters did that. Got emotional wondering how I can get naked and masturbate for desperate lonely men.
I knew I should have kept that shit to myself.
Pottymouth101
05-03-2013, 09:42 AM
If you kept it to yourself, then what? Camming while in a relationship is tricky. You may feel like shit now for telling him,but give it sometime. Now you don't have to exhaust your conscience with lies. I'm also engaged and have decided with my fiance that In two years time I will no longer be in this business. We have been together over 3 years and from time to time it has been an issue. But I truly believe that being upfront about the present situation and being on the same page in regards to our future,helps us. Don't beat yourself up. The world does enough of that.
Deaddolly
05-03-2013, 10:02 AM
I met my boyfriend through camming.lol
AvaLove
05-03-2013, 12:53 PM
I started camming last year but stop after my family found out on my graduation day also there iwas no way for me to get a private done since the dorms are full. I am about to start camming again next after I get settled in my apartment. I told boyfriend as soon I decided to get back into camming. He was not the biggest of strangers seeing my body but he said at least it is not physical interactions. I have his blessing. I am glad I told him . I think he trusts me more because he says I got have lied and kept it from him.
jezebell
05-10-2013, 10:55 AM
i think being honest is a good idea though i can see how it could be a problem if you are worried this relationship wont last and he might blab his mouth to everyone and cause you problems... I just started camming and i have a long time boyfriend, we live together and have plans of marriage at the end of this year. I brought up camming from another site that someone posted about it and he said "well actually i have been looking into that... what do you think about doing it yourself".... So he actually wanted me to do it but said i had to be my choice... we live in a really rural place with no work options... i havent worked for almost 4 years now... I am happy hes ok with it and glad we both decided this together. i couldnt do it if i didnt have his support. We both set out rules together like what i can or cannot do and so far it has been good... not to mention i think its spicing up our sex lives even more (if that was even possible LOL) So it can be a good thing but you need to find out how serious this guy is about you and remember the longer you keep it from him the more it will look like you are lying about what you do and that in itself might be a breaking point for your relationship.... Good luck.
stripperschild
05-11-2013, 03:21 AM
Really? If your bf doesn't know, you're interneting wrong
Babybunny
05-11-2013, 05:43 AM
I asked my Husbands permission before I did it. I have the upmost respect for him. He even got on cam a few times. Then the guys end up asking for Him so I had to stop that.(Where's Black Angus? Where's the guy with the donkey dick?!) He doesn't want to register & cam officially(he is a businessman). I wish he would, he's meant to be a porn star.
He doesn't get jealous because he knows I don't like sex so it's 100% acting job for me. I used to strip when he met me. He also knows this job makes me happy because I work from home, my hours & make great money.
I'm very happy that I can be myself in my relationship. It makes me definitely want to keep my marriage going.
RockChick20
05-30-2013, 02:52 PM
My husband knows what I do, and he's fine about it. I would never have done something like this without consulting him first. His one stipulation is that I don't go down the escorting route, which is perfectly fine by me, I have no intention of doing that!
whirlerz
05-30-2013, 11:28 PM
Nope, cause I don't have one!:)
JenniferNorth
06-27-2013, 04:53 PM
I just started but my boyfriend has been super spportive and great about me doing camming. Although he does get weirded out by some of the requests I get (and told me "What happened to guys just being content with pussy and ass?" LOL).
FoxxyCharmander
06-27-2013, 05:09 PM
I started today!! hahahaha I told him I got the idea, and he said that it would be jealous, but that was ok, no big problems, but I'm still afraid to tell him that I started...
Thespark88
06-27-2013, 05:33 PM
My partner and I talked about it before I started and he is totally supportive. It is very important to be completely honest in relationships and you should be able to be yourself. If it somehow makes him think less of you, he can hit it because he doesn't deserve you.
Holly_xoxo
06-28-2013, 12:38 PM
I just started dating someone and I did tell him what my job is by the 2nd date. I don't want to be with someone who would look down or judge me. He's fine with it...actually he gets a kick out of me camming.
I can understand why a person could be hesitant to tell a potential partner about this type of work but if you start a relationship out with a lie...it will blow up at some point.
LilyAnderson
07-09-2013, 11:07 AM
my boyfriend knows what i do considering we live together in a tiny apartment.
he's perfectly fine with it. sometimes he watches :p
MmmiaLove
07-10-2013, 01:22 PM
My husband is cool with it. He wasn't always cool with it....especially when we were dating...but once he saw how good I was at what I do ( which really means how much money I was bringing in) he got real supportive, real quick. lmao....So yeah. *shrug* It is what it is...
Renton
07-10-2013, 07:17 PM
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JackAlexander
07-10-2013, 11:15 PM
I am scared to death to tell this new guy I am seeing. It is complicated because I have a PT day job (mainly to get me out of the house) at a small tight nit business (I LOVE my day job but doesn't pay the bills) - you guessed it he works there.
I have been there for about 2 months and he is an absolute gem, but I am terrified of what could happen if it doesn't jive with him. He said he is none judgmental, but I lost the last guy due to him having a problem with camming, super heartbreak. But that guy was a different person, different age (old guy 48, new guy 29, me 36), different mind set, etc.
I know I have to come clean with him, it is is killing me.
He thinks I get all of my money from my own bookkeeping business because that is what I told the vanilla job in my interview, they all think that. What gets me is that they are a group of cyber secu rity white hat hackers, I would think if anyone was going to find out it would be them.. maybe they have not looked into me that far, so depressed about it, keeping secrets sucks!!
kortneykay
07-13-2013, 10:34 PM
Yeah, my husband knows and again, even though I've stopped (temporarily now) he's thrown it in my face that the only way I can make money is to take my clothes off or get paid for phone sex. LMAO. Well, in my defense, if he was taking care of business maybe I wouldn't have to. Anyway, I think I need to switch him out for some independence. I'm ready. Kudos to those who have lovers who accept them for them.
RaeRae
07-13-2013, 10:43 PM
Yeah, my husband knows and again, even though I've stopped (temporarily now) he's thrown it in my face that the only way I can make money is to take my clothes off or get paid for phone sex. LMAO. Well, in my defense, if he was taking care of business maybe I wouldn't have to. Anyway, I think I need to switch him out for some independence. I'm ready. Kudos to those who have lovers who accept them for them.
Oh my gosh, honey, I don't know what to say but that I'm sorry your husband is that much of a jerk off. No one who loves you should ever talk to you that way, and I'm happy you see the value in yourself to know that he needs to be more and better of a man. No matter what happens, I hope you end up in a damn fantastic place, with or without him. *hug*
kortneykay
07-13-2013, 10:52 PM
Thanks Rae, I know I need to leave him. Our 3 year anniversary is coming up this month too but I need to be celebrating my freedom instead haha. *hugs*
maryberries
09-15-2013, 08:11 PM
I told a close male friend of mine about my cam job because I thought I could honestly trust him. I just wanted him as a close friend and confidante but when I refused to date him I got this in an email.
Yea I told a lot of people about your job, and if you don't play nice I'll upload your dirty little videos all over the internet. You really are not that sexy, but go ahead and keep believing and telling people whatever you want about me. I have a clear conscience and am glad you got tested because I'm sure you fuck around a lot more than you let on.
My response to this was that he is an idiot because I am an internet camgirl and my videos are already on the internet. Free publicity!! I wish I could run this dude over with my car :(
maryjaynexo
09-15-2013, 08:56 PM
^^What a dick. Don't let that douche make you feel bad. He sounds like an annoying free chat dude: "will you give me a free show/fuck me irl?" "No." "Fuck you, you're ugly anyway".
MissMorvahna
09-16-2013, 12:36 AM
My boyfriend is totally supportive, and even helps me think of new stuff and new things to say. he gets turned on by my shows. :)
annikah
09-16-2013, 02:08 PM
If you're in a healthy, strong relationship, I think honesty is the best policy. But my relationship with my husband is not healthy or strong, so when I told him, it was a big mistake. I should have known better, especially considering that things have been rocky between us for a few years, and I already knew he was a fucking snake. But when I started, he still lived here, and it was damn near impossible to hide since he was home all of the time. Now that we've split, he gets fucked up and runs his mouth about what I do to damn near anyone who will listen. Really, I wouldn't even care who knew, if it were all about reputation. Those that mind, don't matter. And those that matter, don't mind, ya know? But worrying about what others think isn't the only threat to being outed. Local stalkers become a possibility, and the crowd he's blabbing to is about as unsavory as it gets. So far, a few of his friends have said something about it to me. One called my house after midnight, trying to get free phone sex a couple of times. Another asked for my stage name and website when my kids were within earshot! It just blows my mind that he would make the home that his own children live in a potential target. But almost 11 years in, I've long since learned that almost nothing makes sense when you're dealing with the actions of an addict.
Procrasturbator
09-16-2013, 02:44 PM
I told a close male friend of mine about my cam job because I thought I could honestly trust him. I just wanted him as a close friend and confidante but when I refused to date him I got this in an email.
Yea I told a lot of people about your job, and if you don't play nice I'll upload your dirty little videos all over the internet. You really are not that sexy, but go ahead and keep believing and telling people whatever you want about me. I have a clear conscience and am glad you got tested because I'm sure you fuck around a lot more than you let on.
My response to this was that he is an idiot because I am an internet camgirl and my videos are already on the internet. Free publicity!! I wish I could run this dude over with my car :(
Lmao, what a moron. Your response is perfect. I'm sorry it played out that way, it sucks when people aren't who you thought they were. :(
REDDBONE
09-16-2013, 04:00 PM
Yes he does so does most of the people i know, including my brother he actually thinks its cool,
he brags to his close friends that we've known for years about it and i mean like saying "my sister a boss she dont trick,
she in her house makin 200-300 a hr for play play" im a straight up person everybody i know respect me for what i do, that's why my triangle is small.
cause in their eyes and how we grew up and the shit they know i went threw and still go threw, is nothing compared to what other bitches doing when
they dont have too. its up to you, think you and this person going to be starting something serious i say tell him if he doesn't accept it then let his ass go.
at the end of the day when you sign off that computer, who you fuhking? ...