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anonymous camgirl
09-16-2013, 05:33 PM
After reading all of this, I think it's simply amazing that you girls take so much stock on being honest and being on the up and up with men, What exactly do you think they are doing behind your back??? But somehow, as women you feel the need to be so honest and forthcoming with everything when men never give you the same courtesy. Unless you are married?? you owe NOTHING to men.
astridorbital
09-16-2013, 06:34 PM
Men are not all created equal. Just because the men you have met have been douche bags, doesn't mean the men in our lives are. In my experience, men are just as human and caring and forthcoming as women are.
My boyfriend is also my best friend. We've been through some serious shit together, and he's one the best human beings I've had the pleasure of meeting.
Lolitakitty
09-16-2013, 07:01 PM
My ex knew what I do. As far as dating I have told guys or I say I do nontraditional work online. I work off of what comes in. Some days its slow some days I am super busy. I only tell if I am feeling them. The ones who know are now friends not bfs but they are cool. When they want to hang out they just ask me if I am working. If I am working and they message me they understand if I am slow to respond. I have bills and I pay them.
DaddyslilHeaven
09-16-2013, 07:04 PM
My Daddy Dom approves of me camming.
W/we met while I was stripping (not in the club). I quit when I moved in with Him.
I have cammed for fun on Adult Friend Finder because He loves watching me & the responses from guys
He knows I've been wanting to cam for awhile & told me I could use the second bedroom as my work space.
I'm excited to start cleaning the room and get started this week. He thinks it will be a good thing for me to stay committed to and keep focused on. He owns His own business and knows how to market, so He is going to help me in that aspect also. I am glad He is more than supportive.
The first time I cammed I was 19 and engaged. My ex fiance said I could do it and we agreed upon it, but I could tell He hated it. He was happy I was upfront and knew it was something I wanted to do, but I wish He was honest and would've told me how he truly felt instead of pushing me away.
Either way, I believe it is best to be upfront. The lying will eat you up and eventually he/she/whoever your partner is will find out.
Best of luck with your relationship. I hope it turns out for the best.
emeryyld
09-17-2013, 12:50 PM
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Graceface
09-17-2013, 11:02 PM
When I told my boyfriend I was quitting my shitty hourly job to do this, he said, "Look it's none of my business how you make your money. It's your body, your decision, but I'm glad you told me". He jerks off to girls doing shows for free on MFC, so he knows what goes on.
He's not prince charming, but he's not controlling in the least. I have an instant allergic reaction to phrases like "get permission from my guy", and the like.
I'm not your property. I'm a human being - your chosen partner -, who is fully capable of making my own decisions. While his input will carry a lot of weight, I get to make the final decision. I feel really safe knowing he's around. I feel sorry for anyone stupid enough to stalk me.
PhoenixLove
09-17-2013, 11:15 PM
My fiancee is actually the one who encouraged me to start camming. Then once we moved he encouraged me to just do cam as my only job and quit my shitty fast food one. He wasn't too keen on the idea of dancing or escort because he doesn't want me hurt but we also have an open relationship so pretty much I am not "owned" in anyway.
Bitch
09-18-2013, 12:11 AM
My boyfriend encouraged me when I brought up the idea. He's never tried to set any limits on me, camming or otherwise. He's really a catch, I love him.
SoloDesire
09-18-2013, 02:44 PM
My boyfriend helped me research camming and has been very supportive. He even falls asleep on the couch every night until I get finished working and I wake him and bring him to bed (I have to cam in our bedroom). He's been awesome through all of it...even my mood swings with slow days on cam lol.
SillyCamgirl
09-18-2013, 04:19 PM
I'm also in an open relationship, which I feel makes a big difference. With the right open relationship that is, like anything, they are not all created equal.
It helps me/us discuss my camming because we've had mucho practice being open and honest with each other. Camming has not made any of the men in my life jealous in any way either. I think if they know I'm sleeping with other people, masturbating or rubbing food in my hair for men on the Internet is really, really minimized.
KikiLeMieux
01-24-2015, 01:38 AM
I had to quit camming before because it caused such a rift in my relationship. My (then) fiancee told me I was a whore, and that he couldn't possibly call me his wife after "what I had done to him". We broke off our wedding and our relationship, got back together, and then... he cheated on me with his ex and impregnated her.
So after getting laid off from my "real" job, I decided to say "fuck it" and throw caution to the wind, and started camming again just to spite his lying ass. And you know what? It feels awesome, and I really should have stuck to my guns all along.
WHO'S THE WHORE NOW!
chickchick8182
01-24-2015, 10:12 AM
My husband had a few issues early on when I started PSO'ing. After a blow up and talking, it boiled down to his pride. He felt that he wasn't adequately providing for us and that I "had" to take this kind of job. We talked it out and things have been great and he has absolutely no problem with camming. He's the one I go to when I've had a particularly shitty day, or on the occasional emotional day, when I get my feelings hurt because some jackoff called me fat or ugly ect. He's always there to assure me that I'm perfect and hand me a beer and a kind word when I'm frustrated. He kicks my ass into gear when I'm lazy and is overall just amazingly supportive.
Perhaps your boyfriend is having the same issue with his pride? He might say things like he doesn't want guys looking at you, or people seeing what's "his", but at the end of the day it's just his own insecurities coming through. I'd have a more in depth conversation about it with him, and see if it's just he's against the camming because of attention from other men, or if it's something deeper. Good luck to you :)
annnnd I just realized this post is like 3 yrs old..well good luck anyways haha
DeepThoughts
01-25-2015, 12:42 AM
My husband had a few issues early on when I started PSO'ing. After a blow up and talking, it boiled down to his pride. He felt that he wasn't adequately providing for us and that I "had" to take this kind of job. We talked it out and things have been great and he has absolutely no problem with camming. He's the one I go to when I've had a particularly shitty day, or on the occasional emotional day, when I get my feelings hurt because some jackoff called me fat or ugly ect. He's always there to assure me that I'm perfect and hand me a beer and a kind word when I'm frustrated. He kicks my ass into gear when I'm lazy and is overall just amazingly supportive.
Perhaps your boyfriend is having the same issue with his pride? He might say things like he doesn't want guys looking at you, or people seeing what's "his", but at the end of the day it's just his own insecurities coming through. I'd have a more in depth conversation about it with him, and see if it's just he's against the camming because of attention from other men, or if it's something deeper. Good luck to you :)
annnnd I just realized this post is like 3 yrs old..well good luck anyways haha
Still a good thread! The beauty of this site is when u find a good thread like this that died off.
My hubby introduced me to camming and I have been loving it ever since. Its a huge turn on for him as well. I probably have the opposite problem as he is often telling me I should work more or push harder. I ignore him or try to explain to him why I dont like it but its something that makes me cringe as soon as I know the conversation is turning towards how much I didnt work.
LadyJezebel
02-09-2015, 02:22 PM
I was looking for this thread! Okay so my last boyfriend claimed he was fine with it, that it turned him on, and when I asked him to keep it between us..he told me he would. Well, he literally told his best friend that same day or shortly there after. Because his alcoholic self got trashed and admitted to me that he told his friend, and that his friend told him he "shouldn't be with someone like that" and that it would diminish intimacy between us. Meanwhile these are two boys who were born with silver spoons in their mouths and never have had to struggle soo... after that, I'm not going to tell anyone about it unless we are very serious.
But that brings me to another issue...what about dating? When you're getting to know someone and they ask you about what you do (always the first question) I basically lie and tell them about a vanilla job I recently had. But I feel bad lying. Unfortunately a lot of corporate/upright people seem to go for me so I'm convinced they'd never love a cam girl...
MessyChick
02-09-2015, 03:09 PM
you have to do what is right for you, but lying to him isnt the way, you are doing nothing wrong so why lie about it? be honest and firm and tell him this is who you are and what you want
Bridget Gives
02-09-2015, 03:29 PM
I used to dance so to us this isn't a big deal. Now when I don't give him enough sex or get "dirty" enough for him then he gets pissy...buts generally only around his time of the month lol. However, it's been different since I started doing strictly indy camming. I am not sitting in front of a computer for 2u3049u320 hours a day and I only go on when I get a phone call or an email from someone wanting a show. It's nice and I don't feel so restricted. Plus this money is extra money for his bike so he can't be bitching!
darlingdarling
02-09-2015, 05:35 PM
My husband is 100% supportive. He helped buy/set up me with a lot of the setup things for camming and my cam room. He encourages me on good days and bad. Really couldn't have asked for anything better, honestly.
BombshellBelle
02-12-2015, 07:25 AM
I'm dating a wonderful guy who actually encouraged me to get back into it after I went AWOL for a few weeks. I was scared to tell him at first (He seemed so clean cut, you know?) But I told him and as it turns out, he *really* likes it! Says its a turn on. Now I feel like a damn fool for keeping it from him!
gypsylove
12-07-2015, 11:37 PM
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BambiCutie
12-07-2015, 11:43 PM
There is a problem though with this..he doesn't respect your privacy and I recently had an encounter similar needing a "sit down talk" which helped greatly. With camming, people are GOING to see you regardless of his request to keep yourself private (which is going to impact your business/camming) He has to be comfortable with the whole idea of camming for it to even work. (Not saying it can't, but its really hard working with jealousy and insecurity.) There are going to be various genders watching you across the web.
MistressX
12-08-2015, 12:20 AM
I am skeptical of any guy who cannot accept what I do as work. I understand that they may not be ok with it at first, because of the nature of it. But saying he will never change his view is a red flag. Does he watch porn? Of course he does. If he could get paid to watch porn would he? If he could get paid to jerk off for women, would he? Of course he fuckin would! It's hypocritical. He has to be willing to put himself in your shoes. Just because he wasn't blessed with boobs and a vagina to make that kind of money doesnt mean he has to be so unwavering and unaccepting of what you do.
I know my guy never ever says anything about my work. He holds all his emotions in (which I hate) and I get the feeling what I do bothers him on some level but he will never say that. He knows its my only livelihood and wont interfere. And I totally understand the jealousy aspect from a practical point of view, but he has to be willing to work on it
SimoneGray
12-08-2015, 12:25 AM
Guys are weird that way...one guy who is a great regular said that even he would be uncomfortable at the thought of his girlfriend camming, even though he KNOWS its all just a fantasy etc. I think they dislike the shared intimacy, not so much the concept of you showing your parts around.
As for me, I figure if dudes who have been around the sex industry feel uncomfortable with their partners doing it, there is literally no hope. So my relationship is nonexistent.
Hxchayley
12-08-2015, 01:34 AM
So I've thought of trying out the cam biz from time to time, but never really thought seriously on it. 2 reasons, I was never aware of sites having a "geo blocker" (score) and my dad, one of the cliche closet pervs who spent hours browsing "smut" and I sure AF didn't want him coming across me in anything. He passed away in June unfortunately) so just one more thing that kind of helped in my final decision. (I really hope that doesn't sound horrible. )
Well, I'm having trouble deciding on when and how to tell my husband. He's oblivious almost all the time, and he isn't the type to go rifling through Web history or anything.
Mostly what I want to do is wait and see how much money I make, to show him it's definitely worth it. He is a logical man, so I'm almost 100% positive he will ultimately be fine with it. And just fine, not comfortable. It's just I don't want to bring it up to him and end up not doing well and having to explain that when he asks how it went, or if I don't make a lot I'm afraid he will see it as not being "worth it" per say...I'm not sure how to word it. Basically I'm not sure how he will react, so my plan is to hopefully come to him with the little bit of good news that comes with it (money) instead of telling him, and him possibly getting upset, and I haven't even done anything yet (waiting for SM review and approval).
Also he is not too intricate of a thinker, when this does get brought up, the amount of time I kept it from him is going to be irrelevant to him, he's just going to think about how he feels about his wife doing sexual things online for money.... but even though we are scraping along we can use the extra cash, no one is actually touching me, and it's virtually almost 100 unlikely anyone we know will come across me.
How did you break it to your SO? how long did you wait? How did they react?
heyho
12-08-2015, 02:02 AM
I told my SO the moment I started entertaining the idea of camming, because we're kind of co-dependent and I just can't imagine hiding something this big of a deal from him even for a little while. He's mainly okay with it, even fairly involved when it comes to taking pictures and choosing toys and outfits, but he does worry that I'll be less sexually available/interested in him given that I could be spending all day masturbating on cam. I could definitely see sore bits being a big obstacle.
I haven't had my First Day of Camming yet (c920 got lost in the mail...grr) but I've just been approved by Chaturbate and am waiting on SM. Also going to apply for LCMS and MGF later tonight. Woo!
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Hxchayley
12-08-2015, 02:21 AM
When did you submit your application to SM?
heyho
12-08-2015, 03:37 AM
When did you submit your application to SM?
I just finished submitting all the bits and bobs late last night. It says applications should be reviewed within 5 working days, so hopefully they come through soon. I'll keep you updated. In the meantime, if you really want to be camming asap, Chaturbate approved my account in less than 4 hours so you might wanna see if they're a site you'd like to try.
Hxchayley
12-08-2015, 04:16 AM
How is chaturbate treating you? Same here, literally late last night is when I got it all filled out, anxious to get started
Vlodina
12-08-2015, 05:28 AM
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?178845-How-does-your-significant-other-feel-about-you-camming&highlight=shift
LusterDust
12-08-2015, 10:57 PM
My man gives zero fucks about me camming. He loves porn as much as I do, and as long as I'm not logging off cam to rush out and bang custies, his only concerns are that I remember to eat proper meals during a long day of camming (because in my world, cookies and cheap wine are their own food groups) and making sure that I haven't fallen asleep after an exhausting shift face-first in a pile of dildos with my lights still blazing.
Seriously - if I believed in marriage, I'd put a ring on it.
beauvoir
12-09-2015, 02:39 AM
I met the guy I'm dating on cam so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I guess he has to be ok with it.
MIne said he doesn't care but I know he does for real, I tried it while he was home b4 and he walked in n gave me a look like "u slut" and brought it up in fights to throw in my face. I just avoid doing it while he's home, I cannot get into it even with the door closed I kinda just have to be quiet and not say/do much cuz if he walks in and I'm shaking my ass hell think i must be makin all $$ but sometimes u gotta get up to get ppl in ur room, he just don't get it at all.
MsJess
12-09-2015, 10:05 PM
I just discovered my "significant other" is hiring scorts near our neighbourhood :(, i feel like trash now, he was alright with me camming, he never said anything against it! it all seemed right, even he joked about it sometimes, damn i feel so lost right now i wont cam anymore tonight :(
caramelcraze
12-09-2015, 11:28 PM
I don't date anymore. I felt like it just wasted my time & never has it ended well. Anytime I'm lonely, I just think about how terrible dealing with my ex was. I've never dated anyone while camming who didn't care about my job without having a goddamn goldmine of other more serious problems. I also don't really want kids, which kind of crushes most guys.
Having a bed I only have to share with my dogs makes it worth it. If I decide I need more companionship, I think I'll just get another dog. They love you no matter what size dildos you own. :)
Hxchayley
12-09-2015, 11:33 PM
MIne said he doesn't care but I know he does for real, I tried it while he was home b4 and he walked in n gave me a look like "u slut" and brought it up in fights to throw in my face. I just avoid doing it while he's home, I cannot get into it even with the door closed I kinda just have to be quiet and not say/do much cuz if he walks in and I'm shaking my ass hell think i must be makin all $$ but sometimes u gotta get up to get ppl in ur room, he just don't get it at all.
SAME HERE!! I did ok today for my first time and decided to talk to my husband about it since I now know I might be able to pull some bread. He was all fine and dandy until I wanted to set up for tonight for a couple hours then he was honest and said he would rather me do it while he's at work. Which is fine with me lol
caramelcraze
12-10-2015, 12:10 AM
SAME HERE!! I did ok today for my first time and decided to talk to my husband about it since I now know I might be able to pull some bread. He was all fine and dandy until I wanted to set up for tonight for a couple hours then he was honest and said he would rather me do it while he's at work. Which is fine with me lol
Maybe I'm insensitive, but I have a really hard time tiptoeing around other people's ridiculous insecurities. You don't want to see my dildos out in my workroom? Don't look then. Upset that I'm setting up for tomorrow while you're at home, even though it will give me more time to work, more money in OUR collective pockets, & possibly more time to spend with each other later? Sounds like a personal problem.
Think of it this way: If you asked most men not to wash or iron their work shirts the night before because it "upset you", 99% would probably just laugh at you or look at you like you were nuts. Most men aren't going to get up a couple hours early to do so, just because you don't like seeing their work shirts ready for the next day. Why is camming any different? if they say "because they're phallic shaped", so are a lot of candles & you don't see men asking you to put those away!
alright, rant over. nyquil makes me (more of) a grump apparently.
SaraLaughs
12-10-2015, 12:11 AM
All is good in the hood here. The only thing he resents (envies, more like) is that I get to work from home while he has to deal with customers and coworkers all day. In my experience, non-jealous and sex positive men aren't exactly a dime a dozen... (Though I'm sure they can be quite rare depending on how conservative your area is) but they exist. It just seems like dudes are either a) completely fine with and supportive of how you bring the bacon or b) seething, slut shaming, asshole manbabies with little grasp on the reality of the situation. Rarely is there an in between.
AlexiaRoss
12-10-2015, 01:06 AM
My husband is 100% supportive which I found odd he would be okay with it, since when we first started dating (and even before we were an "item") he was hacking my facebook and emails to see if I was talking to other guys/cheating. I assumed he was one of those guys who acts like he is okay with everything, but secretly has insecurities. But I couldn't have been more wrong about that. I guess my situation is different, we are married and have a baby. I didn't start camming until under a year ago after I gave birth, and so basically he has helped me through the whole process. He was always more than okay with it, he will be the person to run to wal-mart to get me fake eyelashes before I get ready to cam and edits my videos/ designs my profile and sometimes even makes tweets for me if I am busy. I think when he realized (and when I realized, for that matter) that there was a lot of money to be made in camming, we decided to take it on full time and so his designated job is full time dad. But I will say that no matter how much he supports me and wants me to be successful with camming since it benefits our entire family, I think he feels a little neglected sometimes. I think about camming 24/7 - even when I take days off at a time, I am always doing something or talking about something related to camming, and our relationship has suffered a bit because of it. So I think that regardless of whether or not you have a supportive spouse, it might possibly always be difficult to have a 100% awesome relationship because camming itself can take a physical and mental toll on a person, and that can affect a relationship. It does for me for sure.
anoncamgirl
12-10-2015, 06:26 AM
Mine is very happy about it because he likes the money. :) It's nice. He helps with picking out sexy outfits, toys, and sometimes posts a picture up while I'm doing my makeup. He also takes my professional looking pictures! He's a smart cookie. We decided to go into this together; it was a mutual decision. I hope this helps. xx
Hxchayley
12-10-2015, 05:13 PM
Maybe I'm insensitive, but I have a really hard time tiptoeing around other people's ridiculous insecurities. You don't want to see my dildos out in my workroom? Don't look then. Upset that I'm setting up for tomorrow while you're at home, even though it will give me more time to work, more money in OUR collective pockets, & possibly more time to spend with each other later? Sounds like a personal problem.
Think of it this way: If you asked most men not to wash or iron their work shirts the night before because it "upset you", 99% would probably just laugh at you or look at you like you were nuts. Most men aren't going to get up a couple hours early to do so, just because you don't like seeing their work shirts ready for the next day. Why is camming any different? if they say "because they're phallic shaped", so are a lot of candles & you don't see men asking you to put those away!
alright, rant over. nyquil makes me (more of) a grump apparently.
Woooow, in just reading this!! But I got irritated today thinking I can be making more money if I just worked at night to and it's stupid as fuck to not go and make money if you can as conveniently as us. So I brought it up to him today and he agreed with me. I'm just not gonna do audio at night. But I pretty much for on that exact train of thought! And it doesn't make you insensitive at all, because I'm normally 100% that way, but with dropping this on him like I did I didn't want to push it. But he said I was right (of course) and that me not hopping on when I want to make money doesn't make any sense.
BadBitch
12-10-2015, 06:19 PM
My hubs is completely ok with my profession. He loves it. Knowing that all of the guys are oogling over me and he is the one who gets to sleep with me, makes him smile.
SweetJulia
12-14-2015, 08:52 AM
I just discovered my "significant other" is hiring scorts near our neighbourhood :(, i feel like trash now, he was alright with me camming, he never said anything against it! it all seemed right, even he joked about it sometimes, damn i feel so lost right now i wont cam anymore tonight :(
Ugh So sorry :(
Vlodina
12-14-2015, 09:27 AM
It's just a job to my OH. He's happy when I have a good shift, laughs at my stupid shit I've heard on cam, and commiserates when I need to have a rant
beauvoir
12-15-2015, 01:12 AM
It's just a job to my OH. He's happy when I have a good shift, laughs at my stupid shit I've heard on cam, and commiserates when I need to have a rant
Yep. This.
My ex hated hated hated my job. I couldn't even work with him in the flat he hated it so much.
BustyVixen
12-15-2015, 06:13 AM
Mine is my biggest supporter... He probably wishes I could cam more so I'd make even more money lol but I am doing beyond fine. He understands that's it's purely a job and that's that. I've even had him reply to text custies when I'm in the shower and he's pretty good at getting them to keep spending!
NicoleNichols
12-15-2015, 09:06 AM
He doesn't really care. I cammed years ago and he was my rock. He made sure I had fresh towels and snacks and water. Helped me fasten my lingerie between shows lol. Listened to me rant about freeloaders and was happy when I had a good night. I'm thankful for him because I know not everyone is so lucky. A lot of other guys turned their noses up at the thought of dating a camgirl. I want nothing to do with that type of attitude towards sex workers. Even if I wasn't working in the adult industry, I would still not want a partner like that.
The other night I told him I wanted to start camming again after a two year hiatus, and he just shrugged and said "It'll be good extra spending money. Just as long as you're happy." Sooooo the plan is to start up again next month ;D.
Truebebeblue
12-15-2015, 11:42 AM
Mine tolerates it for now but he equates it with me less than faithful in some way (we have talked it to death including him with a therapist and no solution). I am honestly failing pretty miserably at camming so leaving will not be a hard decision,not worth endangering my otherwise wonderful relationship.
On failing-There is just something about my personality that does not translate digitally. I have no issue making money in person as a sex worker but after having kids it is not anything I wanted to continue. SO it looks like life has made my decision pretty easy. Always been,always will be pro SW!
OpenBobsBB
12-15-2015, 02:31 PM
I feel extremely lucky to have the partner I have. At first he was kinda weirded out by me wanting to do it because he didn't really understand it. But we decided that my first times on cam we would just cam together so he could get an idea of what the work was like and because I was too nervous to do it alone in the beginning lol. We tried it for two days and he hated it and said he was 300 percent comfortable with me doing it on my own. He recognizes that it's hard work and encourages me to meet my goals and to take days off when I need them. He is also very happy that my mental health has skyrocketed since quitting retail to do camming. He also enjoys that I have the energy to do housework and errands since he's working two jobs and I'm only averaging like 20-25 hours a week
BadBitch
12-15-2015, 07:04 PM
I just feel bad for my hubs for having to constantly hear me bitch about bad days, freeloaders, non-tippers, etc.
*Lynn*
04-14-2017, 05:42 PM
YES! I was going to ask about this same thing a couple of months ago.
My bf was NOT cool with it. He was at first in our honeymoon stage but once we moved in and other problems came into the relationship it always came back to my "job" and how he can't "handle" it.
ANYWAYS I'm happy to report that now he's perfectly fine with it. WHY? well...long story short we started a couples account and started going on together. What!? hahaha yep. I knew it could go either way, better or worse but I'm not ready to stop so something had to happen.
I still can't work when he's home and try not to talk about work on our leisure time. We have offsprings so not something we can talk about at the dinner table anyways. :-)
Sometimes he comes home from work and I've been on all day and he wants to go on and I'm over it, that's the only issue now ;-)
I have danced/cammed on and off since 1996, and I have never had a bfs have a problem with it. This is the only relationship that has been serious for me, and its the only one where this kind of work arose as an issue.
I don't know if going on together would help anyone else here, but might be an option. It is so different from this side of the camera :-)
Jupiter77
04-14-2017, 05:55 PM
My husband is soo supportive of it because if it wasnt for camming this fool would have to go back installing floors for half the money haha