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JaceyLynn
04-14-2017, 06:43 PM
My SO is all for the things I do to make $$$. I was camming for years before I met him, and cammed while with him before I made the switch to PSO. He has no issues of it what so ever and loves me getting of strangers, he knows what gets me going lol.

Arwen25
04-15-2017, 07:37 AM
Honestly? He'd probably rather I did something else as he's the shyest most awkward guy ever.
He finds it hard when he overhears GFE type shows, and frankly, I can get that.

BUT he would never in a million years ask me to stop. He would be disgusted with himself and simply wouldn't do it. He's the sort of guy who acknowledges jealous feelings, talks to me, and works through them I am not going to be angry with someone for feeling a certain way, that's unfair. It's how they deal with it that matters, in my view.

I think having a few issues with it is not an problem, as long as you talk about what they are, and acknowledge them together as a couple. I may have a few issues with aspects of his work, but I'd be a knob if I asked him to stop.:D

xxxGothBarbie
04-15-2017, 10:21 AM
Most if not All my past bfs/partners have pretty much hated it from the get go. I was mostly a dancer in earlier years & that's what they hated, but the idiot I've been with for the last almost 3 years HATED that I got into camming & pso work. I did it anyways bc hell it's not like he ever took care of me. Haha also I'm an asshole bc to get even with him talking shit about my job, I'd make sure I'd tell him tons of stories after some of my crazy fetish clients dropping money on me.

CallistoMorgan
07-11-2017, 02:54 PM
Awesome thread. I loved reading through all of the responses. I'm dealing with relationships issues in regard to camming. My girlfriend was ok with it at first, but now it's not. It's really messing with my self esteem. Ugh. Heartbreak hurts so freaking bad. But reading this thread really puts things in perspective. I need to be adored and respected by a woman who loves all of me, and supports my choices. Not someone who shames me and makes me feel less than worthy. But I really love her, so the heartbreak is crippling.

JackAlexander
07-11-2017, 06:54 PM
Awesome thread. I loved reading through all of the responses. I'm dealing with relationships issues in regard to camming. My girlfriend was ok with it at first, but now it's not. It's really messing with my self esteem. Ugh. Heartbreak hurts so freaking bad. But reading this thread really puts things in perspective. I need to be adored and respected by a woman who loves all of me, and supports my choices. Not someone who shames me and makes me feel less than worthy. But I really love her, so the heartbreak is crippling.

I have been through this with dating a few different people. The people who accept me completely are the ones I never have to worry about turning my back on. It may be few, but so much more love this way. It sucks and my emotions have been through the wringer with this more than once.. it does get easier :-)

Turns out.... one guy I dated and kept it a secret because I thought he would not accept it. We eventually broke up for other reasons. Fast forward 4 years later.... we live together and he is not only fully accepting, he jokes and tried to help me hold myself accountable. Wish I would have told him years ago!!!

Violethollywood
07-11-2017, 07:32 PM
I've been in the industry and out for awhile now. My bf of 2 and a half years knows, I got back into it about a year into our relationship and he's even been in some of my clips. Past bfs have known that I was a camgirl but when they found out it was weird, like they just wanted me more which was great, but then they think like oh well she used to be a camgirl I bet she wants to fuck 24/7 and I'd have to dump these idiots bc HELLO it was my job, it's not who I am. I have interests, I sure as hell don't want to be sexual all the fucking time holy shit. I had 1 guy that reminded me of my customers and yeah that was the end of it.

My bf now has mixed feelings about it bc he doesn't like all these guys looking at me etc and it makes him feel insecure, but he also knows im not gonna run away with these delusional fucks bc I hate men and like 90 of the way these creeps talk to me make my skin crawl. Like no wonder they're single...
I would tell someone you're dating what you do, if they don't like it and want you to stop they need to be able to replace your income, bc let's face it you won't make money like this doing a vanilla job (assuming you're doing very well camming ) he might actually be ok with it and support you and if he doesn't like it or thinks less of you well fuck em. On to the next

pamperz
07-12-2017, 05:56 AM
Not only does my boyfriend know, he helps me film my clips as well. I would personally find it difficult to keep it secret, especially if you plan on moving in together one day...

Girl Anachronism
07-12-2017, 10:51 PM
Not only does my boyfriend know, he helps me film my clips as well. I would personally find it difficult to keep it secret, especially if you plan on moving in together one day...

same, on my first night my bf fed me lines to say on cam because i'm not naturally good at dirty talk lol.

in response to OP i think you could keep this kind of thing a secret for quite some time but if things get serious you'd have to either quit or tell him and it would most likely cause some serious issues, if only because you lied and kept something for so long. i know i would probably break up with someone if i found out they're capable of lying and deceiving like that... like what else are they hiding or gonna hide? plus if the person isn't okay with it right off the bat they're not going to be any more ok with it if you wait to tell them. i feel like that would only make things worse, unless maybe you know for sure you'll never get serious or move in together

Teddy_Bear
07-13-2017, 01:40 AM
My boyfriend is the most supportive, understanding and motivating person I've ever met. When I started camming I had already been escorting for years with him driving me, which was agony for him to drive me to other guys houses for a paid fuck. After nearly 10 years in that industry (5.5 working together) I decided to give camming another go...

Well doing both camming and escorting nearly split us up, he felt I was taking the piss (quite rightly so) to ask him to let me fuck for cash and then flash for cash in our home straight after or right before we went to work. I hated escorting by then so I quit and our relationship has blossomed so beautifully in the last year with me JUST camming. He makes videos with me and has even offered to do the odd B/G gold show in the future - I love him to bits after almost 6 years together we've been through the wringer in every respect yet we are now stronger than ever.

Now the cash is rolling in from camming I am earning the same amount as I was fucking for cash so our lifestyle didn't have to change and I no longer have to take strange cock to pay the rent... win/win. He is completely monogamous to me and always has been we are the furthest thing from an open relationship yet he supports my decisions 100% - I am very lucky.

Ironically I believe camming saved us! I am grateful to this job for existing in so many ways.

Shy2
07-14-2017, 08:46 PM
I met him at the club. He is very supportive of all of my adult industry work, but he's one of those rare guys that gets off on watching me flirt with others. I'm so lucky.

Sam38g
07-14-2017, 09:56 PM
I met him at the club. He is very supportive of all of my adult industry work, but he's one of those rare guys that gets off on watching me flirt with others. I'm so lucky.

He is the lucky one. :)

Sexy Shana
07-17-2017, 07:33 AM
My former BF knew I was camming, actually thought it was "dumb ". I also did some porn shoots, he felt threatened, was a like a horny toad before and after my shoots.
Never watched me, except GG scenes.
Would never cam w me, said he had performance anxiety.

My present BF doesn't know I cam, much less anything about me doing porn shoots. Still trying to feel him out on adult work.....

WendiStarr
07-17-2017, 02:58 PM
My bf knows and he doesn't like it. We operate on a "don't ask, don't tell" basis.

ArynAdams
07-18-2017, 03:53 PM
My former knew. He took interest at first. We ended things because I felt like I didn't have enough time to focus on fixing my anxiety issues, changing my habits to be healthier (physically, mentally, and financially), broadcast, and then go back to school this fall. That's when he hit me with, "I didn't like your job because I didn't like people looking at you. I wanted to be able to take care of you because I didn't want you to have to do this."
*blank stare*
I would have ended things sooner if I knew he felt that way. It was insulting. I choose to do this. I like doing this. I want to do this, and I don't want you to take care of me. I want to take care of myself.

kortneykay
07-18-2017, 04:02 PM
I don't think I'll be seriously dating until I'm out of the industry because men are so egotistical that it's impossible for them to understand. Most men are just secretively hypocritical. They'll orgasm to porn, but are ashamed of their partner being masturbated to if the tables were flipped. To you ladies who have understanding partners, I envy you. My ex would say he was cool, then flip it against me in fights. He eventually outted me and used my job to try and hurt me. Didn't work...but still.

Some people feel they own every cell on your body and 'sharing' yourself visually is out of the question. But then they date and marry you for social status and how much attention they get based on how hot you are, lol.

I'll repeat. My ex HATED that I cammed but racked up $700+ on SM secretively before I knew it existed. I actually found out SM existed THROUGH my ex. He paid some model to write his first name on her tits as well but would shame those models and call their whores to anyone who would listen.

I no longer tell men what I actually do anymore. I've been upfront and honest before and it either came back as an insult in fights, or the guy assumed it was an invitation to free and kinky sex or 'sexting'. My money and my job is my business. I can understand if you're partnered up. But as a single woman, I don't tell them shit anymore.

What I've secured in my bank account and do for a living is none of their business, especially because my career has an end date and is just a stepping stone for bigger things. But even if it wasn't, I like what I do, and love that women have a choice in how they make money in our lifetime. Sex work shouldn't have such a bad rep. They're all consumers, anyway. So sick of men being encouraged to slut around until they're ready to settle, but if a woman does it, or does unconventional work she's shunned and undateable for life. Double standards grind my gears.

One day it would be nice to find a guy who supports me, but if I'm honest- men aren't really my top priority unless they're paying for my time right now. Romance and love will be there when in 7 yrs when I'm done and traveling the world.

JaceyLynn
07-18-2017, 05:51 PM
I am not sure if I responded to this but my BF knows what I do and he loves the fact that I get guys off for a living. And it makes our sex life explosive sometimes.

IvyRose
07-19-2017, 04:56 AM
Mine knows, we were already together for years when I started camming
He did not really have a say in it, and he knew that. He was uncomfortable at first as where my parents, I told them all what I would be doing for a living before starting up camming.
I knew what I wanted and went for it.
If there is something I really cannot stand it is narrowminded people, and not having total control over my own life. So it felt like a test, and luckily my partner came through. He is very very supportive now. He normally is a very openminded person, but me cammig got so closeby that is scared him a bit.

I went all in with camming too, imm offering hardcore shows. My partner wanted it otherwise but I am glad that I followed my instinct and passion. I ma also glad he could find a place where he got me and oure life together on the first sport instead of his male ego.
I was allready a fetish model and also had done nude shoots in the past, he (and my parents) knew that too.
I am not ashamed of my body nor for who I am nor what my passions are. He knew what they were and he knew I would drift that way probably

xxxGothBarbie
07-19-2017, 10:20 PM
Ya he knew & tried to talk me out of it last summer when I signed up bc he'd rather me had stayed a stripper. Ummm no thanks asshole, I'm much happier not having to commute to a place or an environment that I hated. The next guy I meet might be told the truth, not sure yet LOL. He's gotta earn me & my trust first bc i refuse to go thru the abuse again from my ex talking shit about camming yet when I'd snoop on his computer in his history, I'd find nothing but cam girl porn he'd jerked off to when I wasn't around. Judge with one hand jerk with the other, no thanks I'm good.

I did love when he'd try to say how stripping was better for me & him as far as trust issues went bc nothing could happen in the club LMAO. Riight dude, I so could've went home with any custy if that was what I wanted to do, there's no way of that now since I work online only & couldn't be happier.

I hope one of these days I meet a guy that'll respect me more for doing this & taking care of myself without having to depend on him for anything but as Kourtney K pointed out ^ , that sadly it's very rare to find any man to be cool with it in a more serious light.

cat1989
07-20-2017, 10:44 PM
I hate lying and I don't feel like this is something I have to be ashamed about if it comes to people who are close to me. So I tell pretty much everyone I'm dating what I do (as long as I like them enough that I think it could be serious at some point). But also all of my friends etc. know about it. My parents are pretty much the only people who are in my life who don't know.
Couldn't be with someone who doesn't know / who I didn't tell because he couldn't like it. It's me and if he has a problem with it than he's not the right one.

Sexy Shana
07-21-2017, 06:29 AM
As I'm out dating again, disclosing my cam work is tough! My former BF accepted it, just believing that camming was "dumb" but we went on. Then I realized it was an excuse for him not "put out" .......of course realizing that camming no way can satisfy my sexual needs.
I also have done a number of porn shoots....they at least generated more sexual interest just before and after the shoot.

I have gotten to know a number of girls in the porn and cam biz....most seem to indicate that a relationship w a guy, who is not in adult biz is really tough!

Seems most girls in porn date other porn talents......I did once, overall, great sex but his interest was that we work fulltime in the biz.......and unfortunately, outside of bed, our mutual interests were few......yeah, I so need balance in my life...

The guy I'm dating now, I'm v reluctant to reveal my cam work, much less my porn work...for now. I have shared a basic masturbation clip.....to get his reaction. He liked it, but I was dishonest, and said I did it, " to get to know my body better".....

My basic feeling is that once a guy knows we are into adult stuff.....it's kinda open season, and less respect...

Just recalled, recently a male cam dude who wanted to date me, but when I said lets meet for coffee, he said lets meet to fuck!

IvyAdams
07-21-2017, 08:06 AM
I feel really lucky, mine has known from the beginning because we were already together when I started. Before I started, we sat down and talked about it and he has been nothing but supportive. He is my graphic designer/photographer/stunt dick.. I wouldn't be able to be half as successful as I am without him, so I'm thankful that he is a good one. :)

He also has been there through every single step of me telling my family what I do for a living. So, even though there are a lot of boys pretending to be men out there- there ARE good ones who exist and are able to understand that our career doesn't equal our personal life :)

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
07-21-2017, 08:35 AM
My husband knows what I do. I wasn't completely honest in the beginning but I wasn't sure if it was real yet. I've told this story on here before but he found me streaming one night on SM. I think I told him I was working for Amazon :) and I was a part time PSO. I didn't tell him about the streaming until he found me that night. BUSTED. We had only been dating for two months at that time. But since then we've done couples camming and he helps me with my business. He doesn't have a problem with it and finds a lot of what I do hilarious and will give me ideas for making videos. In fact when we streamed together it turned out that he was a better delegator in freechat than I was. So even though I'm the one with all the experience he taught me some hustle tips.

Now the previous guy I was with didn't have an issue with the what I did but the how much I made. He unfortunately made some very bad decisions early in life that left him paying out a lot of money and leaving him with very little. Even after working THREE jobs. He was a great dude just the timing and financial issues put a strain on the relationship. So we fizzled out.

I think having a relationship in this business comes down to maturity and having honest conversations in regards to expectations. It definitely won't work if you're living by permission. And how you present it can make a difference as well.

ShannonKing
07-21-2017, 08:38 AM
My both my partners know what I do (one is actually interested in trying it herself). My other partner is a lot more comfortable with me camming than he is with me escorting (it's legal where I live) - so this is a good compromise for us.

I've kept it a secret from partners before, but I prefer the honesty. If you respect yourself while doing this work then you deserve partners who will respect your work, too.

MissKayleeRose
07-22-2017, 11:51 AM
Im reading through this and all you ladies are so grown and mature. I hope its ok if i ask you ladies something. I just found out my bf was secretly watching other cam girls online behind my back. What do you guys feel about this? How if he is buying shows, content from other girls? I really dont know how to feel right now or how to deal with this situation.

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
07-22-2017, 12:08 PM
Im reading through this and all you ladies are so grown and mature. I hope its ok if i ask you ladies something. I just found out my bf was secretly watching other cam girls online behind my back. What do you guys feel about this? How if he is buying shows, content from other girls? I really dont know how to feel right now or how to deal with this situation.

I have a couple of questions for you

1. Is he a live in boyfriend?
2. How did you find out?
3. How much money is he spending?

CatBBW
07-22-2017, 12:45 PM
Im reading through this and all you ladies are so grown and mature. I hope its ok if i ask you ladies something. I just found out my bf was secretly watching other cam girls online behind my back. What do you guys feel about this? How if he is buying shows, content from other girls? I really dont know how to feel right now or how to deal with this situation.

My husband can do what he wants (regarding cams) as long as it's HIS play money he's spending, and not household money, joint money, or MY money.

Men enjoy porn, we are just interactive porn.

MissKayleeRose
07-22-2017, 02:40 PM
I have a couple of questions for you

1. Is he a live in boyfriend?
2. How did you find out?
3. How much money is he spending?


Thanks so much for replying.
1. No we do not live together. Now im thinking he could be spying on me on cam.
2. Text message. He ask his sister for wifi password and that "he got disconnected".
3. I do not know for sure if he has but id feel much better if i would control his finances from now on.

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
07-22-2017, 03:28 PM
Thanks so much for replying.
1. No we do not live together. Now im thinking he could be spying on me on cam.
2. Text message. He ask his sister for wifi password and that "he got disconnected".
3. I do not know for sure if he has but id feel much better if i would control his finances from now on.

Well since you two aren't cohabiting or combining your finances (mortgage,insurance, routine bills) getting him to abide by your wish to not visit camgirls is gonna be difficult. How old is he that you think you need to control his finances? Remember you two live separately. It doesn't sound like you're in a position to tell him what to do with his money in his space. You can always tell him that you don't want him visiting camsites but whats the likelihood of him stopping? You don't live together. I know that's not gonna help with how you feel but may be getting worked up over something you can't really control. If he's "spying" on you is that really a bad thing? So have you asked him directly if he's watching cams? Personally if this were me I would be more concerned about the amount of time and money spent on camshows.

My husband sent me a dicpic once while I was streaming. Or sometimes he'll crack jokes via text message to brighten my mood. So I don't mind if he spies on me. I think it's funny. But I would have a problem if he were buying camshows without my knowledge. We use to watch cams together but it's no longer exciting for him now that he know's how its done. At least that's what he says ;) I think you should figure out why it bothers you and then go from there.

ShannonKing
07-23-2017, 02:31 AM
I'm with CatBBW on this one - camshows are interactive porn; they're as acceptable as watching porn videos to me. (Though MissKayleeRose, if you'd also be uncomfortable with him watching porn videos then...)

But certainly it's healthy to look into why you're feeling uncomfortable about this. Are you hurt? What are you worried about? What are your gut feelings?

Sexy Shana
07-24-2017, 08:36 AM
Again my present BF doesn't know. But as far as guys guys going on cam sites, I wouldn't care unless he was spending my money and withholding from me sexually.

I know so many women who get so upset when they know their husband/BF is mastubating which I feel is a double standard.......most women also masturbate, not via cam shows but porn and toys!

I find most of my customers are there for what they don't get at home or in their lives.......

But still not ready to tell my current BF about my adult work....

kortneykay
07-24-2017, 10:28 AM
Im reading through this and all you ladies are so grown and mature. I hope its ok if i ask you ladies something. I just found out my bf was secretly watching other cam girls online behind my back. What do you guys feel about this? How if he is buying shows, content from other girls? I really dont know how to feel right now or how to deal with this situation.

This right here is how I came across SM. I was honest about everything I've done with my husband before we were married and he made it very clear that sex work was not tolerated. I had to do it secretly to support myself when he was in basic training. So you can imagine to my surprise catching him a few yrs later on SM.

My ex had an account and I caught him on it one day, lol. Eventually, I logged in and saw that he'd spent nearly $1k on models. It stung a little, because at the time, I didn't consider live girls 'porn', and saw his name on some girl's tits in his messages. I think it hurt more because he was so hypocritical about it. It was a do what I say, not as I do, type of situation. It was okay for him to jerk off to live girls, but I couldn't work there- and he'd lose his shit if I ever paid a MALE cammodel or even look at another man. I used to get accused of flirting with his superiors all the time.

I didn't mind that he watched porn, hell, I do too- but then it became this "Okay, I 'let' you cam, so now you have to let me do legal drugs." type of unhealthy bargaining, BS. This 'permission' like Phat said led to substance abuse. I used it as a bargaining tool to start working again, so I could move out and rid of him. "Ok, you're watching LIVE models, so it should be okay for ME to work that site as well." It was a toxic relationship from day 1, so it would've never worked out.

For your situation, I think it depends on your relationship with your guy. You came here to ask, so you might have an issue with it deep down. If you feel hurt, tell him. But I find it a bit hypocritical for me IMHO, but your feelings are yours when it comes to your man, and rightfully so. Some women in porn consider their men watching others to be off limits.

I wouldn't mind a guy I'm with watching, so as long as he respects my profession. I don't consider it cheating, and so as long as he's spending his 'allowance' and it isn't interfering with our finances. I love spoiling people and always encourage even my regs to explore and spend/spoil sex workers. If another bb is tricking off of my man (online) within his budget, good for her. I'd be more pissed if he was a cheapskate like my ex. Tipping $1-5 and wanting more for it, or only taking girls under $3 per min, private. The fuq?

kortneykay
07-24-2017, 10:45 AM
My husband can do what he wants (regarding cams) as long as it's HIS play money he's spending, and not household money, joint money, or MY money.

Men enjoy porn, we are just interactive porn.

This, 100%. Hell, if wives/gfs found out about our regs and clients and forced them to stop, we'd be fucked haha. Most of us have had that client who has to sneak and use a prepaid debit card because his wife keeps catching him and cutting him off, lol. I don't want no cam karma on my hands, haha.

TrifilinCamHo
07-24-2017, 08:28 PM
I feel like I'm super lucky because both of the boyfriends I've had since starting cam have been totally chill about it. The only issues that have ever arisen have been around scheduling and the weird hours. My current boyfriend has a very straight-laced 9-5 Mon-Friday job and wakes up early on weekends to like, work out and shit which is completely foreign to me since I try to always work weekends, usually start work around 7/8pm and don't go to bed until 4am and sleep until noon. We don't live together yet so it's difficult to actually spend time together sometimes.

I think the degree of physical involvement you have with other people factors HUGE into how easy it is to have an s/o in this industry. A close friend of mine did porn for years and years and had a really hard time having any sort of meaningful or fulfilling relationship because the same thing would always happen: she would meet someone, they would *think* they were OK with what she was doing but once the reality sunk in they would freak the fuck out and bail.

Morrigan
07-24-2017, 10:19 PM
my spouses all know, in fact really all of them sort of were the ones who suggested it in the first place, :cupid:

Sam38g
07-25-2017, 08:23 PM
I resent this thread. Reads as if women still need men's approval to do anything including make money.

How you are lucky he accepts your LEGAL job.

I don't ask anyone's permission to be me. Can't imagine being on a date worried if he will approve of my job. Not when I know every man logs onto the web & watches some of the most depraved shit to get off. They all watch porn & cam sites. Who are they to judge?

Ask to see their browser history? See how fast most of them shut the fuck up.

Shy2
07-28-2017, 08:09 AM
He is the lucky one. :)

Aww thanks Sam :)

TrifilinCamHo
07-28-2017, 02:34 PM
I resent this thread. Reads as if women still need men's approval to do anything including make money.

How you are lucky he accepts your LEGAL job.

I don't ask anyone's permission to be me. Can't imagine being on a date worried if he will approve of my job. Not when I know every man logs onto the web & watches some of the most depraved shit to get off. They all watch porn & cam sites. Who are they to judge?

Ask to see their browser history? See how fast most of them shut the fuck up.

As you stated, society jerks off with the right hand and points with the left. Partners of sex workers shoulder part of the burden of that stigma as well. So when I say I'm lucky I more so mean that I'm lucky that no one I've encountered so far in my dating life is bothered by the stigma associated with sex work, not the actual work itself.

Sam38g
07-28-2017, 04:26 PM
Actually I am over the whole stigma thing.

Men all want to have sex with women who have a bad reputation, hoping it is true. Men don't get the same reputation for sex work or from having sex with us. There are plenty of pornographers & cam site owners & men who work behind the scenes who all judge us as the same as majority of society. They all can live a normal life without the stigma cause no one knows their faces or bodies.

I just really don't give a fuck what men suffer what for having sex with me or another woman in this industry. Stopped giving a fuck about what men think cause they all have a double standard. They all use it to shame us. They all use it to get sex or emotional needs met while denying us equality or a relationship due to the stigma.

Men can kiss my big fat ass & in public. I refuse to see it as a sacrifice. I refuse to praise them for something that shouldn't exist in the first place.

Sam38g
07-28-2017, 04:43 PM
I date several people, just not the settle down kind of girl. One guy I've dated off & on for years. He took me to Denver a couple of months ago. He is talking about me coming & staying at his place. Meeting his kids, I don't do kids. I don't meet kids, not my thing.
At the very first dinner, a nice stead house the waitress says' I look familiar. He starts to squirm.. Then & there know he is conning me about staying at his place, meeting the kids & making the relationship more serious. Enjoyed watching him squirm

Waitress is cute, skinny about 30 years old. Then she ask about the street I live on & if I still lived there. Next is I still have that HUGE cat & does he still follow me everywhere I walk. Also about my little doggies, I asked her about the corgy she got as a puppy, which I adored. She used to be my neighbor.

See half the time I do get recognized all around in the U.S. it is for my cat. He is huge, he is gangster. A pic of him will get me 5 times more retweets than a pic of my tits. He is huge. Other pornstars want to clone him.

The guy was found out & running game on me. Little lies promising me a future that really didn't exist. Now, I shall ignore him until, once again he starts buying my jewelry off of my Amazon wish list again. He also was trying to pretend he was going to be making a sacrifice with his reputation & hinting I should praise him for seeing me as a human being. I don't fall for that shit.

There is no going out in public without people staring or me being recognized. I worked hard to get to this point so that I can make money off of my brand. To get image & name recognition, refuse to be shamed for how I got here. Fame is fame.

BabyKali
08-03-2017, 09:05 AM
My husband is the one who suggested it. As a joke, actually, but then we started looking into and now this is just a part of who I am. :P

Glamourmilf
08-04-2017, 06:11 AM
I don't tell any of the guys I date.
Or anyone. Ever.
All the men that I did tell, can't have a normal conversation with me after I tell them.
All female friends have either judged me, or wanted​ me to help them cam too.
It's just so exhausting, and boring to deal with people who know.
But, the MAIN reason I don't tell anyone, is because I could get kicked out of my rental home.
Even though camming is legal, camming from home might be a problem with a landlord/ homeowners association,etc.
I like a private life.

Sam38g
08-04-2017, 08:52 PM
I don't tell any of the guys I date.
Or anyone. Ever.
All the men that I did tell, can't have a normal conversation with me after I tell them.
All female friends have either judged me, or wanted​ me to help them cam too.
It's just so exhausting, and boring to deal with people who know.
But, the MAIN reason I don't tell anyone, is because I could get kicked out of my rental home.
Even though camming is legal, camming from home might be a problem with a landlord/ homeowners association,etc.
I like a private life.

Men can't have a normal conversation about anything sexual related. You could bring up dildos at dinner, it's quiet amusing to see how they react.

You need new female friends, none of mine had an issue. Granted they are all just as scandalous as I am & have polaroids in my closet of it all going down before the internet came along. :)

My landlord knows, all the maintenance men call me 'Sam' cat was let out of the bag along time ago. Those ladies in my office get worried when they don't see me walking the dogs during the day time. Want to know if I'm alive & safe. But it's Florida, lots of porn stars down here.

Angelina Castro has PT meetings at her house & all the parents know she does porn. She also has a tv talk show on Spanish TV that is syndicated in every Spanish speaking country & in America. Everyone who watches it knows she does porn. I mention her name to anyone who speaks Spanish her & have been told their Grandparents just love her & never miss an episode.

I don't give people a chance to judge or disapprove of me. Just don't allow it, get mad when they do. In America, we are all equal under the law. When we demand it things change.

You can sue the landlord for discrimination.

Glamourmilf
08-05-2017, 05:09 AM
Men can't have a normal conversation about anything sexual related. You could bring up dildos at dinner, it's quiet amusing to see how they react.

You need new female friends, none of mine had an issue. Granted they are all just as scandalous as I am & have polaroids in my closet of it all going down before the internet came along. :)

My landlord knows, all the maintenance men call me 'Sam' cat was let out of the bag along time ago. Those ladies in my office get worried when they don't see me walking the dogs during the day time. Want to know if I'm alive & safe. But it's Florida, lots of porn stars down here.

Angelina Castro has PT meetings at her house & all the parents know she does porn. She also has a tv talk show on Spanish TV that is syndicated in every Spanish speaking country & in America. Everyone who watches it knows she does porn. I mention her name to anyone who speaks Spanish her & have been told their Grandparents just love her & never miss an episode.

I don't give people a chance to judge or disapprove of me. Just don't allow it, get mad when they do. In America, we are all equal under the law. When we demand it things change.

You can sue the landlord for discrimination.

Nah, I'm good.
Maybe if ALL I had was my camming life, I would be more inclined to mention it to everybody.
But, I only cam part time, and have other vanilla careers, and artistic projects that are more exciting to talk about.
I have a big life, and am part of both the political and entertainment societies.
My conversations run very deep with people in my life. I enjoy philosophical conversations with people, and love learning.
Talking about dildos, and camming adventures just doesn't turn me on.
But, that's just me.

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
08-05-2017, 03:48 PM
Nah, I'm good.
Maybe if ALL I had was my camming life, I would be more inclined to mention it to everybody.
But, I only cam part time, and have other vanilla careers, and artistic projects that are more exciting to talk about.
I have a big life, and am part of both the political and entertainment societies.
My conversations run very deep with people in my life. I enjoy philosophical conversations with people, and love learning.
Talking about dildos, and camming adventures just doesn't turn me on.
But, that's just me.

Its good to see things are working out for you these days.

TrifilinCamHo
08-05-2017, 04:20 PM
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DonaDiabla
08-09-2017, 12:46 PM
This is an interesting thread and I shall answer the OP's original question:

Since sex work is both a career and a family tradition, it is a bit different and more complex for me. I had many ancestors in the adult industry and they all had accepting spouses. So, I feel that will an massive step backwards to have a man nagging me about this industry after I tell him. First, I was not raise where men nor women tell each other what to do. It is complex because if they talk negatively about sex work...then they will also be insulting my ancestors who did sex work ( I also include the brothel owners in this as well)in order to give all of us ( their descendants) an better life. I will never allow any man to insult my ancestors nor my family practices including this one. Secondly, men that I have dated just accepted this and said nothing more about it. Thirdly, if a man gave me crap about this industry, then I will get into his ass....so all of them just accepted this is my career and that is that.If they disagreed, then they would just bid me a good day and say they do not want this. I would agree and just go to the next one. No big deal and no fucks given :)

MeiMatthews
08-10-2017, 07:35 AM
My boyfriend was actually the one who suggested that I look into camming! lol

*Lynn*
09-03-2017, 10:23 PM
I'm assuming some performers are very open about their camming jobs. For those, who like me, do not share this info with others, I'm curious to know when into dating do yo tell someone what you do?

MissMoore
09-03-2017, 10:49 PM
After I know 100% sure the guy is head over heels in love with me and about to propose marriage. lol I seriously do not feel I owe anything to anybody unless they're about to give me a new last name and give me half of everything that is theirs. Other wise if I get the feeling the guy would go ape if he found I cam/ cammed I dump him ASAP. I wouldn't want to be around a dude that has such a complex about sex workers anyway because he probably has a complex about women in general. Be VERY careful who you tell about your life.... honesty of course is the best policy.... just use selective truths.

Splendid
09-03-2017, 11:47 PM
I'm assuming some performers are very open about their camming jobs. For those, who like me, do not share this info with others, I'm curious to know when into dating do yo tell someone what you do?

Looking for jobs has improved my bullshitting skills 100x
For stuff like PSO and camming you could technically say something along the lines of "I'm a work from home customer service representative for a small start up company that specializes in communications" I've actually used that one before with some people I met for the first time and it's great because it sounds so freakin BORING that they don't usually answer w follow up questions