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Lady Xplicit18
05-31-2011, 02:24 AM
Hey, sorry I haven't posted in this thread in a while, but I'm definitely making note of the questions posted here and I'm in the process of working on a guide with tried and true advice that I've learned as well as more about my personal experiences :) I just want to make sure that I give comprehensive answers that will really help instead of just posting quickie, non-thorough ones lol. So more is to come! In the mean time, I've been passing around a couple of ebooks that are really informative so any one who wants those I'll add you to the email list and send those to you while you're waiting. Chances are they will answer a lot of your questions any way!

A quick note to the girls who are wondering how to do this w/o sex being involved: It's really all about the fantasy. A lot of these men have stress in their lives with work and family life, and they are looking for escape. They are looking for more than just sex or they would have hired an escort. You have to BECOME that escape. Be an awesome listener. Boost his ego, make him feel like he's invincible! Show him you appreciate his generosity towards you and that you don't take him for granted, like his coworkers and wife do ( or at least he thinks they do). Make him feel young at heart! Be interesting and fun. In order for this to work you have to engage with him on many levels. At the same time though, in all honesty I kind of lead mine on. And they enjoy the chase. They feel like they are slowly but surely seducing me and one day they will surely get the prize (read: my vagina lol). But of course, I know better than that ;) I'll elaborate on specific tactics later :)

AC---- I absolutely LOOOOVE this thread! Love your advice!:)

TwirlGirl
05-31-2011, 02:56 PM
Couldn't any of them be cops? I'm going to go. I'm going tomorrow night.

natilinia rouge
05-31-2011, 03:04 PM
great post!!

AngelCummings
06-06-2011, 11:59 AM
Couldn't any of them be cops? I'm going to go. I'm going tomorrow night.

How did that work out for ya?

txgirl
06-06-2011, 07:22 PM
What do you recommend as a profile for the websites? I want to be upfront about no sex, and I want to be specific about meeting at the club primarily. I'm just concerned about cops and losing the interest of potential clients. I guess I could require background checks? I find the aspect of increased financial gains appealing, but it does make me nervous. :-\

Thanks!

AngelCummings
06-13-2011, 04:49 AM
What do you recommend as a profile for the websites? I want to be upfront about no sex, and I want to be specific about meeting at the club primarily. I'm just concerned about cops and losing the interest of potential clients. I guess I could require background checks? I find the aspect of increased financial gains appealing, but it does make me nervous. :-\

Thanks!


Are you trying to be an escort or a sugar baby hun? The part about cops and clients confuses me a bit...

TouringGirlfriend
06-13-2011, 06:13 AM
Are you trying to be an escort or a sugar baby hun? The part about cops and clients confuses me a bit...

YEAH... exactly. Someone doesn't know what a sugarbaby or escort is apparently.

BlkSharpie
06-13-2011, 06:50 AM
TwirlGirl hasnt posted since she said she was going to see shopping list guy...

Hrmm...

txgirl
06-14-2011, 08:55 PM
Are you trying to be an escort or a sugar baby hun? The part about cops and clients confuses me a bit...

I guess I ask this because when you visit the sites geared towards sugar babies, it might as well be a sex/escort site. Pictures of cleavage and ass, girls saying how they love to "please" their man... all in exchange for money... That's what makes me a bit nervous. As I've mentioned before, I'm strictly using this as a tool to get new customers, and I was worried about how to go about it without looking like prostitution or escorting. Sex is not an option.

No worries, I'll figure it out :)


YEAH... exactly. Someone doesn't know what a sugarbaby or escort is apparently.

Yeah... unfortunately just like some strippers don't know the difference between a dancer and a prostitute. Hard to compete with a $20 bj ;) That's why I'm trying this route. Another way to get some regs into the club that hopefully won't be "expecting" anything.

Not trying to start an argument, but seriously, is there much difference between an escort and sugar baby? Or a stripper for that matter. All are using sexual enticement, and they are being paid for their time and company. In all honesty I wonder how many girls truly love their sugar daddies. Take the money out of the equation, would they still be interested? For me, I am definitely after the $$$!

AngelCummings
06-15-2011, 06:44 AM
I guess I ask this because when you visit the sites geared towards sugar babies, it might as well be a sex/escort site. Pictures of cleavage and ass, girls saying how they love to "please" their man... all in exchange for money... That's what makes me a bit nervous. As I've mentioned before, I'm strictly using this as a tool to get new customers, and I was worried about how to go about it without looking like prostitution or escorting. Sex is not an option.

No worries, I'll figure it out :)



Yeah... unfortunately just like some strippers don't know the difference between a dancer and a prostitute. Hard to compete with a $20 bj ;) That's why I'm trying this route. Another way to get some regs into the club that hopefully won't be "expecting" anything.

Not trying to start an argument, but seriously, is there much difference between an escort and sugar baby? Or a stripper for that matter. All are using sexual enticement, and they are being paid for their time and company. In all honesty I wonder how many girls truly love their sugar daddies. Take the money out of the equation, would they still be interested? For me, I am definitely after the $$$!

Hmmm... I would definitely be careful, hun. I definitely understand your point but men on these sites typically HATE getting "recruited" as escort customers on these sites, so I wouldn't even let any of them know you are an escort, honestly. A lot of these men are disillusioned into thinking they are the shit, and therefore don't want to be seen as just "a customer/client". In fact, some of them demand exclusivity (even though 9 times out of 10 they are married or seeing other girls on the side ::)). There are plenty of other places to market your escorting services, but it's not going to work on a sugar daddy site and for the most part you will just get hateful responses. Not only that, but if anyone reports you to the site you could end up in pretty serious trouble as the terms and conditions for the fast majority of sugar dating sites explicitly state that promoting escorting services and solicitation of any form is against the rules! Not trying to be negative, just trying to give you a heads up :)


EDIT: Ok i think i misunderstood you, initially. You are looking for customers for your stripclub and not for an escort service... correct?

nikkidarling
06-15-2011, 07:33 AM
AngelCummings, have you read Leidra Lawson's book? I notice you use some of the same terms as she does (freestyling), not to mention the title of your thread is almost identical to the title of her book. I found Leidra's book too vague. I think "How to Marry the Rich" by Ginie Polo Sayles is a much better read, even if your ultimate goal is not marriage. It is slightly outdated (it was written in the 90's) but it also goes a lot further into freestyling techniques. I found searching for online sugar daddies a complete waste of time. Freestyling always worked best for me, plus it was fun to get dressed up and get out of the house.

RoxyHart
06-15-2011, 07:47 AM
I guess I ask this because when you visit the sites geared towards sugar babies, it might as well be a sex/escort site. Pictures of cleavage and ass, girls saying how they love to "please" their man... all in exchange for money... That's what makes me a bit nervous. As I've mentioned before, I'm strictly using this as a tool to get new customers, and I was worried about how to go about it without looking like prostitution or escorting. Sex is not an option.

No worries, I'll figure it out :)



Yeah... unfortunately just like some strippers don't know the difference between a dancer and a prostitute. Hard to compete with a $20 bj ;) That's why I'm trying this route. Another way to get some regs into the club that hopefully won't be "expecting" anything.

Not trying to start an argument, but seriously, is there much difference between an escort and sugar baby? Or a stripper for that matter. All are using sexual enticement, and they are being paid for their time and company. In all honesty I wonder how many girls truly love their sugar daddies. Take the money out of the equation, would they still be interested? For me, I am definitely after the $$$!


OMG, I seriously HATE that about these sites. To many lingerie/half naked escort wanna-bes with their profile reeking of sexual innuendos. No wonder men don't take any SB seriously! The true SBs are far and few between on there and i can imagine leave cause its no use fighting off the a-holes looking for cheap sex.

I've had 2 SD in my life, not from a SD site, but just happen to develop into such relationship. I adored them regardless of them spoiling me. Didn't have sex with either of them. They just enjoyed being around me as i did with them. But that was like 5yrs ago. The game has been tainted since ::).

AngelCummings
06-15-2011, 07:55 AM
AngelCummings, have you read Leidra Lawson's book? I notice you use some of the same terms as she does (freestyling), not to mention the title of your thread is almost identical to the title of her book. I found Leidra's book too vague. I think "How to Marry the Rich" by Ginie Polo Sayles is a much better read, even if your ultimate goal is not marriage. It is slightly outdated (it was written in the 90's) but it also goes a lot further into freestyling techniques. I found searching for online sugar daddies a complete waste of time. Freestyling always worked best for me, plus it was fun to get dressed up and get out of the house.

Yep, I read her book a while back! I found it to be very helpful but I had to do my own research to find out more comprehensively exactly where to go to find these men, and I came up with some of the ideas on my own while brainstorming :) I agree that searching online can be a complete waste of time! Some girls get lucky and hit the jackpot, but it's pretty much like winning the lottery, and even when you do find a good one, most sugar relationships don't last for more than a year or two at the very most! Even though I'm in a good place with mine at the moment I never give up the search... I'm always on the hunt ;D

KarinaGiselle
06-30-2011, 08:41 PM
I'm wondering something, since I currently have a profile on seekingarrangement.com and I actually want to meet someone...

How are you supossed to approach to these guys via PM without looking too straigtforward or giving them bad vibes? How would you suggest me to approach the guys to make them interested in me, specially when they don't have a lot of details on their profile?

txgirl
09-07-2011, 07:14 PM
You are looking for customers for your stripclub and not for an escort service... correct?

Custys for the strip club was my initial intent :) No escorting here lol. I finally signed up at seekingarrangement.com, but haven't activated yet. Honestly I'm getting over the stripping thing, guys grabbing on me, etc... does get mentally draining, but I still need the $.

I know you have mentioned before that you had a SD relationship that was sex-free (maybe I'm mistaken)? I am in a serious relationship, but he might be out of the country for work for a year, in which case I will have the time and freedom for an SD or 2 (or 3), but strictly no sex. Emotional/mental intimacy, companionship - yes, but no sex. Am I being delusional? :D

xeden
09-09-2011, 06:03 PM
Excellent thread

Can you tell me some sites for background checks? Or even better if you have time, some how-to steps? I've never done one before and want to stay safe. It's easy to forget you're with a stranger after a nice dinner and conversation.

Thank you Angel for all your great advice!!


I agree. I always do background checks and screen the men just like an escort would. There are some really good sites out there that you can use to check criminal records as well as more comprehensive background checks

camille27
09-10-2011, 02:35 PM
these assholes really are more trouble than they are worth. i someone just got talked into proving that i am, in fact, good looking, which is ridiculous because i am extraordinarily good looking and it is sinful to suggest otherwise, and now i'm kind of considering doing sinister things with his name, address, and telephone number. because i'm a child. and i'm not above defending my integrity. and by that, i mean, being vindictive.

Audrina Parks
09-13-2011, 03:46 PM
wow, amazing thread- thanks

lalalatina
09-15-2011, 12:05 AM
Great thread Angel! Would love to be on your email list, but I can't PM you! I would also appreciate the background check sites as well.

PrettiPeach
09-22-2011, 10:49 AM
I have gotten a little spoiled to this lifestyle. What's a girl to do?

daisyblue
10-25-2011, 07:00 PM
I am glad I read this thread I was wondering what sugar daddy was about I saw something like t his on the dr phil show I think the guy who owns the site.

LaceyCummings
10-28-2011, 08:04 AM
Wow, Angel thanks so much for this helpful post! I don't know how to PM :( But if you read this, I'd like to contribute some information for your SD blacklist/ legit SD's I've met so far from SA if it could be useful. I'm in Austin, TX, but corresponded with some time wasters from all over, and I'd love to help others with what I've learned!
Personally, I'm only going after SD's that I am attracted to, my current SD is HOT! But I've gone on dates with some very nice, generous, lonely men that simply weren't my cup of tea. I'm sure they would be perfect for another girl.

ebonybarbie
11-17-2011, 01:18 AM
i found a good sd blog with lots of links http://sugardaddysugarbaby.blogspot.com

happy hunting!

Jay12
03-02-2012, 11:54 AM
taking notes...

asiangem001
02-14-2016, 11:04 AM
Hey just reading this, what kind of book have you read upon because I can't seem to find any real good ones on sugar dating and the sugar life

LadyCoco
07-02-2016, 08:46 AM
Bumping this because this thread is amazing. I'll probably come back later to read it again.

SnuffleUffleGrass
08-29-2016, 06:17 AM
This is a great thread.

LoveSoraya
02-20-2017, 04:11 AM
Ive been reading through in search of answers to questions about asking for allowance. Ive seen man ask that question but Im somehow missing the answer :(

msjoiparker
02-28-2017, 04:25 PM
I was interested in sugaring but I want to wait until I move somewhere bigger. It would be just my luck if I knew somebody that knew somebody that knew my SD

miss1dancypants
03-01-2017, 07:01 PM
Ive been reading through in search of answers to questions about asking for allowance. Ive seen man ask that question but Im somehow missing the answer :(

Agreed...!!

miss1dancypants
03-01-2017, 07:01 PM
Ive been reading through in search of answers to questions about asking for allowance. Ive seen man ask that question but Im somehow missing the answer :(

Agreed...!!

Bahuba
03-03-2017, 04:04 AM
Ive been reading through in search of answers to questions about asking for allowance. Ive seen man ask that question but Im somehow missing the answer :(

My personal advice, for what it is worth, just be up front. Most people who have money and no fixed SB work hard, and don't have a lot of time to waste. Tell them you want to take care of it so you can get to the fun part. Men usually appreciate directness. Don't bargain, just tell them an allowance that makes you happy. If they bargain, it probably won't go well.

BlkSharpie
03-03-2017, 06:44 AM
Not sure if this helps, but..when I had an SD, it started out with me asking him for a specific amount of money to pay a bill here and there...after about two months, he asked me to just put together a list of all my expenses...to that he tacked on a bit of spending money and thats how we came to the amount for my allowance. A few months after that, he added even more more because when we were together we ate out all the time, and he knew I didnt like to cook, so that way Id be able to keep going out to eat every day even when he wasnt with me...which gets pretty expensive lol. So it steadily progressed over time..fairly quickly...but still, it started out small and grew as the trust between us grew and he wanted to make sure I could maintain the same lifestyle on my own as what he paid for when we were together.

But yeah, I suggest being upfront and just giving him a dollar amount. Personally, I like to attach it to something tangible and practical, because its goes without explanation why I want the money for it. For example, the first bill he paid for me was my daughters daycare...at the time it cost me about half what my pay was every week...he was pretty floored that I was basically working to pay for childcare so that I could work, he though that was ridiculous. Then, I needed to move and he wanted to make sure Id be able to live in a nicer place, so he paid for my rent, etc etc.... But yeah, I tapped into his practical side..so the majority of what my allowance covered at first were for basic living expenses...

chocolatebombshell
11-24-2017, 03:27 PM
bumping