View Full Version : Need More Help from you Ladies. Priorties/ realtionships.
johnjdick
04-18-2011, 01:10 AM
I just have to throw in my two cents about the age difference. Crucify me if you will, but I've been known to date girls who were significantly younger than me. I'm 40, and have casually dated women in their early 20's. To be fair, there has never been anything more serious than casual sex or emotional support... nothing long term. Also, I don't exclusively date younger women. I just happen to work around a lot of young, attractive women. Sometimes I end up clicking with them and things happen. It's not something that I'm trying for, in fact quite the opposite. I think it's in my best interest to maintain a more professional relationship with the girls I work with. I'm only human, though.
Having said that, I think the real issue here is biz's insecurity, clingyness and maturity level. Yeah, the age difference might seem a little strange, but that doesn't really seem to be the core issue here.
Redwolf
04-18-2011, 06:00 AM
Rewolf for her to be my Grand daughter, I have to have kids when I was 14. Then my daughter would have one at 14 etc..
Work on your math
It is ironic that you say that I need to work on my math.
14 + 14 was exactly what I was thinking, although 15 + 13 or even 16 + 12 works. It is possible but unlikely. Thus, I included the important term, "potentially", as JayATee pointed out.
bizmor
04-18-2011, 06:16 AM
Redwolf . Ya like thats what happens all the time.
There is an entire generation of 14 year old moms and dads who have grandkids when there 48.
Not saying it cant happen but you are off base.
bizmor
04-18-2011, 06:24 AM
Jaytee , Just want to let you know. If you followed the post, she was my GF before she was a stripper.
I dont go around banging 20 year old strippers. Frankly, if you met me despite the posts on this, good chance we would be friends.
Dont judge from others narrowmindedness.
Also to you all here , on my grammer , it seems you all understand what is being said am I correct.
So if you all have degree's from a major college which I do, your grammers better then mind you are allowed to slam my grammer, if you dont have one. Good for you that you can write well and only have a GED.
johnjdick
04-18-2011, 06:30 AM
How did you graduate from college and not learn how to spell grammar?
I think I get what you're saying, that the principal point of any form of communication is to convey and idea. As long as that idea comes across, the primary goal of syntax is moot. The thing is, although your basic idea comes across, poor grammar makes it seem haphazard and poorly thought. If part of your idea is to express education and maturity, littering your text with poor punctuation and misspellings undermines that basic concept.
Redwolf
04-18-2011, 06:39 AM
Redwolf, review my posts where have I givern her SUITCASES OF CASH AND CARS. Please enlighten me.
Your relationship sounds more like a Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby relationship than a boy friend/girl friend relationship. You brag on and on about the thousands of dollars you have given her and how you treat her like a princess. She says that you are a sweetheart.
I would guess that most women (or I could only be speaking about the women that I prefer) prefer a kind, considerate man who treats them as an equal. He values what they believe and their thoughts. They like being spoiled, but I am not sure about the being treated as a princess part. That can be condescending.
Why are you talking about suitcases of cash and cars? I said thousands of dollars and treating her like a princess.
Can two people years apart fall in love? Yes. It is less likely but it does happen. Is is prudent to allow it to happen? Perhaps not. But often times being in love in more enjoyable than being prudent.
None of us can know what is going on in your relationship. All we can do is say what it looks like to us, given what you have. You asked for advice and shared just a few details. Then you added more when you didn't like the advice. Don't ask for advice if you already know what you want to hear.
I, Redwolf, and others have commented what it looks like to us. It looks like to me - from what you have said - that you are in the classic sugar baby/sugar daddy relationship. You love her because she is young, alive, hot, attractive, and possibly because she is immature. She spices your life up. She loves you because you give her money and pay for stuff quite regularly ($250 this week, you mentioned, for gas, hair, and food). You listen to her, are always there for her (over hobbies and video games), and will do anything for her. Would you love the same woman if she were 45, mature, and not as physically pleasing to your eyes?
Whether it is true love, it still looks to me, and perhaps to others, like a sugar daddy/baby situation. I am not saying that it is. But it sure looks that way to me. Know that this will come up often as you continue this relationship. People will frequently see the same thing. Consider your own behavior. You have denied quite vehemently your being a sugar daddy. Fine. Going forward, keep that in mind.
John was talking about casual relationships between a 40 year old and women in their early 20s. You are talking about love. Have you met her parents? friends? Have you been introduced at family reunions? How did that go? And if she wants marriage and children, you will be at least almost 80 before the first child graduates from high school.
bizmor
04-18-2011, 06:41 AM
Kelly,
My attitude is disgusting. If you read what you wrote pretty much you declare any realtionship with an age difference that the Mans a pedophile and the womens a whore.
Bravo Kelly.
You know what you are talking about.
You are saying my GF a whore , cause her BF is 28 yrs older. Thank you. Yes I do hang around the high school bus stop so I can prey on the young ones.
Kelly, Im sure you have dated older men in the past maybe was the sugarbaby at one point fleecing your married sugardaddy.
Just because all the ones you have known and seen doesnt mean thats whats my relationships all about.
You are the one attacking me . I admit there are assholes that prey on young girls and they all suck and should be shot.
If you read the posts I came on here to help my realtionship with her, not trying to do anything else.
I didnt ask any of you here on this forum gee how do I seduce a 20 year old.
Cause of my age you jumped to the conclusion that all I wanted was sex from her.
You dont know anything about our realtionship but whats on here and you assumed that cause off the age this realtionship had no feelings between 2 people. How wrong are you and to all who sided with you on this subject.
That shows me how narrow minded you are at 40. I hope my grammer was good enough that you understood what I just wrote.
firemaiden04
04-18-2011, 09:19 AM
^ The fact is, your grammar is often poor enough that I have to read and re-read your posts, attempting to dissect your haphazard sentences, before I can get the full meaning out of it. It often takes several minutes.
I don't recall anyone calling your girlfriend a whore. YOU implied this when you suggested she wouldn't be able to resist giving extras because she was weak and has been abused. You don't seem to actually have that many nice things to say about her as a person...you bitch about your relationship and how she's distant and always working and won't spend time with you anymore, but then you talk about how she's so appreciative of everything you do, and you two are so in love, and nobody else understands... why not say something positive about your girlfriend that does NOT somehow relate to you?
Kellydancer
04-18-2011, 11:34 AM
It is ironic that you say that I need to work on my math.
14 + 14 was exactly what I was thinking, although 15 + 13 or even 16 + 12 works. It is possible but unlikely. Thus, I included the important term, "potentially", as JayATee pointed out.
I went to school with a girl who had a baby at 14. Her daughter became a mother at 14 so at 28 she was a grandmother!
Kellydancer
04-18-2011, 11:44 AM
I just have to throw in my two cents about the age difference. Crucify me if you will, but I've been known to date girls who were significantly younger than me. I'm 40, and have casually dated women in their early 20's. To be fair, there has never been anything more serious than casual sex or emotional support... nothing long term. Also, I don't exclusively date younger women. I just happen to work around a lot of young, attractive women. Sometimes I end up clicking with them and things happen. It's not something that I'm trying for, in fact quite the opposite. I think it's in my best interest to maintain a more professional relationship with the girls I work with. I'm only human, though.
Having said that, I think the real issue here is biz's insecurity, clingyness and maturity level. Yeah, the age difference might seem a little strange, but that doesn't really seem to be the core issue here.
This makes sense and I've seen this happen. I've even seen people in vast age gaps have relationships that ended in marriage. It does happen but I don't think your situation is the same as Bizmor's. He's preying on young women you just happen to be where there are younger women. Strangely, I've had things like that happen to me when I was younger so I get where you are going.
Kelly,
My attitude is disgusting. If you read what you wrote pretty much you declare any realtionship with an age difference that the Mans a pedophile and the womens a whore.
Bravo Kelly.
You know what you are talking about.
You are saying my GF a whore , cause her BF is 28 yrs older. Thank you. Yes I do hang around the high school bus stop so I can prey on the young ones.
Kelly, Im sure you have dated older men in the past maybe was the sugarbaby at one point fleecing your married sugardaddy.
Just because all the ones you have known and seen doesnt mean thats whats my relationships all about.
You are the one attacking me . I admit there are assholes that prey on young girls and they all suck and should be shot.
If you read the posts I came on here to help my realtionship with her, not trying to do anything else.
I didnt ask any of you here on this forum gee how do I seduce a 20 year old.
Cause of my age you jumped to the conclusion that all I wanted was sex from her.
You dont know anything about our realtionship but whats on here and you assumed that cause off the age this realtionship had no feelings between 2 people. How wrong are you and to all who sided with you on this subject.
That shows me how narrow minded you are at 40. I hope my grammer was good enough that you understood what I just wrote.
Bizmor, I didn't call your girlfriend a whore. I stated that when I see a young woman with a old man I think she's a whore. Hey if the shoe fits. The fact that you stated you don't date women your age tells me you are preying on young women. You are disgusting because you intentionally look for younger women.
I seriously doubt you graduated from college, let alone high school. Your grammar is beyond poor. I'm beginning to think you are in fact a troll. Sure, I've dated older men and had a sugar daddy relationship. However, the sugar daddy relationship was one where I escorted him to events and no sex whatsoever! He wasn't married either. The older men I dated mostly dated me because I was mature for my age, but even so these relationships didn't last. They were 10 years older, not older than my parents. At 20 if I dated a 48 year old my parents would have been pissed.
JayATee
04-18-2011, 01:09 PM
Jaytee , Just want to let you know. If you followed the post, she was my GF before she was a stripper.
I did follow your post, I'm perfectly capable of understanding basic english, a skill you apparently lack if what you took from my post was that you were fucking a 20yr old stripper. I don't give a damn that you were dating her before she was a dancer. Not the point. The fact is that you purposefully don't want to hear what I'm saying because it would require some self awareness and realization on your part.
So if you all have degree's from a major college which I do, your grammers better then mind you are allowed to slam my grammer, if you dont have one. Good for you that you can write well and only have a GED.
I'm a law student. Just because I'm a dancer doesn't mean I'm an idiot. You'd do well to remember that many of us do have degrees and dance because there's nothing out there right now that pays as well.
Kellydancer
04-18-2011, 01:48 PM
I'm a law student. Just because I'm a dancer doesn't mean I'm an idiot. You'd do well to remember that many of us do have degrees and dance because there's nothing out there right now that pays as well.
OTM. Years ago I still danced while finished with school and I knew several girls who had advanced degrees who danced. The reality is that the salary for recent grads is far less than what I made dancing. Add in the severe discrimination that women face (yep it even starts right out of college)and no wonder why many dancers stay dancing long after college.
noelle
04-18-2011, 02:06 PM
I have a degree from a major university and I can barely understand anything you say. Many of us here do have degrees. Not that it takes a degree to be able to speak decent English.
I just assumed you must be a non-native speaker and that was why your language skills were so poor, so I never commented on it before. But you're a native speaker, in your 40s, and type like that? I'm speechless.
JayATee
04-18-2011, 02:37 PM
So if you all have degree's from a major college which I do, your grammers better then mind you are allowed to slam my grammer, if you dont have one. Good for you that you can write well and only have a GED.
Not to mention that assuming we're high school drop outs who could "only" get GED's (as though getting a GED is a negative thing as well) is beyond insulting.
firemaiden04
04-18-2011, 03:32 PM
So if you all have degree's from a major college which I do, your grammers better then mind you are allowed to slam my grammer, if you dont have one. Good for you that you can write well and only have a GED.
I'm in a grad program for History. So, yes, I am allowed to slam your grammar. And one would think that, having attended a university and received a degree, you would have learned to spell. Of course, most people learned that in elementary school. So, you know, I wouldn't go around bragging about your degree when you can't even spell "grammar" properly.
Oh, and it's "degrees," not "degree's." I could edit the rest of your post, but I would basically have to rewrite the entire thing.
Pick your battles, dude. You're not going to win this one.
I'm starting to think we are all just getting trolled.