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JordynBliss
05-28-2013, 04:13 AM
Old thread...but this really struck a chord with me.
When I was working in an urban club all I heard was "You have a nice ass for a white girl" "Ayyy Snowbunny" (I went by Riley) "I didn't know white girls could move like that".
In all honesty I can understand how it gets frustrating but it comes with the job. You're dealing with people, and people are idiots.
It could just be the fact that they aren't normally attracted to black girls, so yea that could be unusual to them.
I prefer blondes but if I see a brunette I'm attracted to I think..."Damn, she's hot for a brunette!"
simone87
05-29-2013, 12:50 AM
^ racism sucks, and it applies to ALL races. no matter what race you are, there is going to be some ignorant fuck out there who should keep his/her mouth shut. :(
i know its an old thread, but being white doesn't make you a "priveleged asshole". sorry, i saw that in the first page and it pissed me the fuck off. we white women have our issues too. i won't even begin to try and understand the issues black women go through, so don't assume you know what its like to be in somebody else's shoes either . i've been the target of racism, but just because im white im supposed to laugh it off? i usually do but it doesn't make it any more right.
Gypsyboots
05-29-2013, 02:25 AM
I've heard the girls at work talk about the exact same thing. Hell, it was a couple of weeks ago when some redneck told one of the girls "you sure talk good for a black girl." I didn't hear it but she told us about it in the back. People are truly ignorant. And trying to explain why it's offensive just confuses the jerks more because they are truly that clueless.
Optimist
05-29-2013, 03:35 PM
It could just be the fact that they aren't normally attracted to black girls, so yea that could be unusual to them.
I prefer blondes but if I see a brunette I'm attracted to I think..."Damn, she's hot for a brunette!"
Consider this: if you actually said that to the brunette, what might she think? Just because they think they've found the exception to the rule doesn't mean good sense should fly out of their brains. I had a customer and I thought he was cute so I chatted him up. He looked Filipino, which is a look I LOVE, and he had a mostly American accent so I assumed he was. So it came out that he was Thai. The Thai dudes I've seen looked different than him but I'm sure as shit not an expert so I'm certain he was a lovely example of a Thai guy, no? :rotfl:
There was no way in hell I would say--oh you look good for a Thai guy! Since I gave a rat's ass about staying in his presence I wouldn't take a chance on saying anything he might find offensive. it's my feeling that people like that deep down don't care how they affect you--you're not fully human to them. I mean you're not one of them, so you are on the level of a piece of furniture and that's how they talk to you. They could take you or leave you and they want you to know that.
britchick85
05-29-2013, 04:42 PM
When I worked in continental Europe guys would often comment that I was "Hot for a British girl". Its stupid cos there's loads of hot British girls.
ManyRoses
05-29-2013, 07:02 PM
Funnily enough, I wouldn't be too offended by this. Not because it isn't ignorant/racist/offensive (it absolutely IS!!) but because it is not specific to black girls. I've heard the same things said to pretty much every possible category of dancer:
"You are so hot...for an ASIAN chick"
"You have such a great ass....for a WHITE girl" (helloooo the hideous word "whooty" - white girl booty)
"You are really hot...for a girl without tits"
"You are so sweet....for a tattooed girl"
"You are so smart....for a stripper"
"Your English is amazing...for a <insert any race but white>"
"Your teeth are so great...for a British girl" (all. the. time.)
"You are so curvy....for an asian girl"
It gets even more offensive when they don't believe that you are "really" whatever group they are referring to. I've had people ARGUE.
"You can't be British, you are too hot/good teeth/nice voice/whatever."
"You aren't REALLY asian, you are too curvy - you must be some kind of half-breed" (that is a DIRECT QUOTE. Ugh)
"This can't be your only job, you are too smart."
I try to laugh at this stuff - if I got offended every time someone made a comment in the club that would bother me irl, I would never get anywhere. I'd probably quit. I suck it up, smile, take the money....but if I hear crap like that when I am not selling something, I make it clear that that is NOT ok.
JordynBliss
05-30-2013, 06:39 AM
Consider this: if you actually said that to the brunette, what might she think? Just because they think they've found the exception to the rule doesn't mean good sense should fly out of their brains.
If you read my prior statement you would see where I said:
In all honesty I can understand how it gets frustrating but it comes with the job. You're dealing with people, and people are idiots.
No, I wouldn't say such a thing to said brunette...but we're talking about drunk men here. I'm not defending their actions but a drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts.
tempest666
05-30-2013, 09:11 AM
"You sure have a purty face for a girl with big tits! Most of them are
kaninchen
05-30-2013, 11:03 AM
"You aren't REALLY asian, you are too curvy - you must be some kind of half-breed" (that is a DIRECT QUOTE. Ugh)
Half-breed?! OMFG
Optimist
05-30-2013, 04:41 PM
If you read my prior statement you would see where I said:
No, I wouldn't say such a thing to said brunette...but we're talking about drunk men here. I'm not defending their actions but a drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts.
My point was to lead you into the emotional experience of hearing it. My reading comprehension's fine. I was trying to get you from thinking about it to feeling what it would feel like because YOU said you would think the same thing,' the girl is pretty--for a brunette'. It suggests you expect brunettes to be uglier automatically than blondes.
People say these things when sober as a judge not just when drinking. They drunk ones who talk crazy don't deserve a pass, they're still communicating with the dancers like they're furniture instead of people. Alcohol/drugs aren't a get out of jail free card otherwise there's many a criminal who wouldn't go to jail.
JordynBliss
05-30-2013, 04:52 PM
It suggests you expect brunettes to be uglier automatically than blondes.
Not the case at all. I just like blondes. I've seen gorgeous brunettes but they aren't usually my type. When I see one that stands out then yea, she's hotter than most brunettes to me.
When I did have the experience of hearing "You've got a nice ass for a white girl" it didn't bother me. I took "You have a nice ass" from it.