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CamWhore
04-18-2011, 05:57 AM
Drama . Lmao. You cam onthe internet.... but is suprised u where found ond the internet? Sure! Blame durlap. Lol !! I think some of u REALLY hate men. Time for a shrink.... wtf.

PrincessLavender
04-18-2011, 01:53 PM
Just wanted to add my 2 cents ...I. agree with Camwhore. And of course the guy is going to come in and defend himself. He's character is being trashed here and he's getting bashed for defending himself?

Caramel69
04-18-2011, 02:47 PM
Fuck it..I'm going to come out and say it.

If the OP felt like her privacy was violated then it was. Noone here can say Just suck it up. That is rude.

IF I feel that my privacy has been violated, I would post about it here especially when I know it could possibly affect someone else.

I agree 110%!!

To each his own, if she feels she was violated then who are we to say its not that big of a deal! Why the need for justification?! Especially on Dunlaps end. Let it go! Everyone is different.

That"MODEL"Chick
04-18-2011, 06:54 PM
I actually did just create another account,but more than likely won't be posting all that much. Just couldn't stay away,to much useful info here!! I would like to thank all the ladies on here that understand where I'm coming from though :) It would really suck to have been alone...

thedunlap
04-18-2011, 07:04 PM
Camwhore you should pm a screenname if you want and I'll send you 300 gold for being my sole supporter ;)

Otherwise it's cool no hard feelings.

TouringGirlfriend
04-18-2011, 07:26 PM
Camwhore you should pm a screenname if you want and I'll send you 300 gold for being my sole supporter ;)

Otherwise it's cool no hard feelings.


::)::)::)


I actually did just create another account,but more than likely won't be posting all that much. Just couldn't stay away,to much useful info here!! I would like to thank all the ladies on here that understand where I'm coming from though It would really suck to have been alone...

Glad to have you back. :)

Katie Evers
04-18-2011, 08:10 PM
I would qualify for those forums too; so would I be completely out of line for replying to a thread that accuses me of being some kind of creeper, and even uses my SM screenname?

I understand your perspective, but I also just had this happen to me for the first time and reacted pretty much how Ashly has. It's not so much about whether you're a stalker or not, but more about our comfort level being threatened. Sure you can't keep everything private, and if girls really wanted to then they should not post on open forums, especially not personal or sensitive info. However, it IS comforting to have a place to come, to chill out, and yeah to bitch too!

If a guy is genuinely interested in a girl on here, all he has to do is send a discreet pm here, or book a show on her work site. No need to mention that he saw her at so and so... that's just naturally going to make her feel creeped out. Not to mention that if he mentions it in a room full of free chatters, all those guys now know where she hangs out too!!

thedunlap
04-18-2011, 08:27 PM
I understand your perspective, but I also just had this happen to me for the first time and reacted pretty much how Ashly has. It's not so much about whether you're a stalker or not, but more about our comfort level being threatened. Sure you can't keep everything private, and if girls really wanted to then they should not post on open forums, especially not personal or sensitive info. However, it IS comforting to have a place to come, to chill out, and yeah to bitch too!

If a guy is genuinely interested in a girl on here, all he has to do is send a discreet pm here, or book a show on her work site. No need to mention that he saw her at so and so... that's just naturally going to make her feel creeped out. Not to mention that if he mentions it in a room full of free chatters, all those guys now know where she hangs out too!!

I understand. I did ask if she was on SW privately though so no one else could read it. I had no idea that SW was perceived as such a secretive forum.

CoolBreeze
04-18-2011, 09:17 PM
^^^

Stripperweb isn't perceived as "such a secretive forum."

It's the fact that you were in her chat. And you're also a member here. And you're a guy. And you contacted her from the spectator seats while she was working rather than from here.

It just raises some red flags. If you're a performer and certainly if you're gf is a performer, you've got to understand this. I can't imagine how you wouldn't. Ask your gf how she would feel about it maybe? Not knowing you, it's a little creepy.

Breeze

3-Legged Man
04-19-2011, 04:37 AM
Dunlap,
Clearly some percentage of dancers are totally uncomfortable about any customers knowing anything about them. Call it paranoia or whatever. Your response needs to be to acknowledge her discomfort and move on. She does NOT want to have a continuing relationship of any kind with you. There are other ladies out there that will respond as you like. Find THEM instead.

taylormadison
04-19-2011, 10:27 AM
Ash: Don't ever feel bad because your avatar had your face on it. A lot of females on here have done it including myself.

Also you have a right to start a thread about your experience or anything else.

Slab4508
04-19-2011, 10:37 AM
She created a new account on here.

No one else read that as being uber creepy?

I just keep seeing the scene from Hitch where Will Smith is standing out in the rain by an SUV/jeep where he found this girl he loved making out with some other guy... as he rants about "tell me what I did wrong" the other guy is like "dude, your doing it right now."

thedunlap
04-19-2011, 10:57 AM
No one else read that as being uber creepy?

I just keep seeing the scene from Hitch where Will Smith is standing out in the rain by an SUV/jeep where he found this girl he loved making out with some other guy... as he rants about "tell me what I did wrong" the other guy is like "dude, your doing it right now."

Well she said in another thread that I was commenting in or was SM specific that she was planning on making a new account.

But if you want to take something the wrongway, there is nothing I can do to change that.

In regards to having a relationship with the OP, I have no interest in having one, I just initially was trying to tell her that there was no need to freak out by a guy trying to be friendly by saying Hi.

Initially I was just shocked by the apparent outcry against saying hello to a fellow SW member... thought the internet was a friendlier place, but I suppose to some it is not.

I have showed my GF the thread. She became angry with me that I even made an account to defend myself cuss in her words ("why are you wasting your time arguing with such mean *******"), but I don't truly believe its because anyone on here is a mean b****. I think it's just a product of distrust that some models may have with men/customers in general. That distrust may be very well founded and based on actual experiences and I would not try to belittle anyones judgment or opinion. But as a model I nor my GF would ever instantly block someone because they said "Hi aren't you on stripperweb (private message)," and then proceed to go on stripperweb and talk about how some person tracked her down or what not. If someone said, "Hi don't you live in Springville....." yeah I'd agree that would be creepy.

I never set out to contact anyone on SW. I saw a picture that looked familiar and tried to be friendly. I guess an abundance of trying to be a nice guy and make someones night out to be better backfired....

My girlfriend and I have many models on SM that call us on a daily basis to discuss random stuff. This was never what I was seeking, but that was my basis for concluding that I could at least say hello to a model that I thought I recognized from SW without getting my head bitten off. All my interactions had always been positive, and this was my first time I encountered such hostility and scorn.

I would have been completely fine if the OP was the one scorning me for saying "hi", but I was shocked to find that the hostility and distrust was more the consensus than the minority opinion on this forum.

TouringGirlfriend
04-19-2011, 11:12 AM
Dunlap,
Clearly some percentage of dancers are totally uncomfortable about any customers knowing anything about them. Call it paranoia or whatever. Your response needs to be to acknowledge her discomfort and move on. She does NOT want to have a continuing relationship of any kind with you. There are other ladies out there that will respond as you like. Find THEM instead.

It seems that he does not understand this.

Dunlap, Why can't you just apologize and move on? Who cares what your girlfriend says?? Another girl felt violated and that is all that matters. That is what you do NOT get for some reason. I understand defending yourself but haven't you defended yourself enough?
Sorry we all don't agree with you. We're a sister community. When you fuck with one, you fuck with all.

thedunlap
04-19-2011, 11:16 AM
It seems that he does not understand this.

Dunlap, Why can't you just apologize and move on? Who cares what your girlfriend says?? Another girl felt violated and that is all that matters. That is what you do NOT get for some reason.

I do understand this... I apologized at the beginning of the thread. What I did not understand is the % of camgirls on SW that consider that level of paranoia objectively reasonable.

mzdeniro
04-19-2011, 11:22 AM
(oops posted at the same as you TG) I was trying to read this thread in silence but I couldn't re-frame from commenting. You seriously just don't get it no matter how many ppl explain it to you. You come off as stalking and here's a couple of explains.


She created a new account on here.


Well she said in another thread


I'd seriously take some notes from coolbreeze, but I don't think you will because it seems like your not trying to hear or understand what others are saying:

^^^

Stripperweb isn't perceived as "such a secretive forum."

It's the fact that you were in her chat. And you're also a member here. And you're a guy. And you contacted her from the spectator seats while she was working rather than from here.

It just raises some red flags. If you're a performer and certainly if you're gf is a performer, you've got to understand this. I can't imagine how you wouldn't. Ask your gf how she would feel about it maybe? Not knowing you, it's a little creepy.

Breeze

cherryblossomsinspring
04-19-2011, 11:45 AM
How did I find you? You had the same exact image on stripperweb as you did on streamate. Secondly, all I did was say hi and you banned me in less than 5 seconds. I'm sorry if you felt that your privacy was violated. But chill out on the whole paranoia... My girlfriend had just finished her night shift, setting a knew personal record for herself (750$ in one night); she was pretty excited and not yet ready for bed.

So we decided to check out the other girls on the mainpage and I'm like hmm I think I've seen that girl before... so I go in and say hi aren't you on stripperweb (keep in mind that I had my chat set to private so no one could read what I said). Furthermore, I didn't reveal any identifying information nor did I know any information, and quite frankly, if anything I was insulted by your actions.

HMM I HAD TO POST IT HERE : HMM WE CHECKED TURNS INTO YOU GETTING BANNED AND IF YOUR GIRLFRIEND WAS THERE SHE WOULD HAVE ALREADY KNOW WHAT HAPPENED. SO WHY WOULD YOU NEED TO DISCUSS IT WITH HER LATER? HMMMM LOOKS LIKE THE CAT IS OUT OF THE BAG FOLKS!

If I was some creepy stalker; blocking me wouldn't accomplish anything but anger me. Instead you blocked a potential client. You can say I know nothing about the industry etc., but I do know a lot of girls on SM, and the successful ones tend not to jump to conclusions with pitch forks in-hand.

ok I re-read this again. I'm wondering now where you said WE DECIDED TO CHECK OUT THE OTHER GIRLS ON THE MAINPAGE : AND YOU SAID HI.... SO WAIT AT FIRST I THOUGHT YOU BOTH WERE ON THE SITE TOGETHER... BUT IT'S NOW JUST YOU ALONE?

Also if you you only said that line.... then she didn't know anything about you. You said arent you on stripperweb right? that was it and you got banned. Meaning " I DON'T KNOW WHO THIS GUY IS THAT FOUND ME , BUT I'M NOT INTERESTED IN FINDING OUT.

So in other words you could have been some wigged out stalker. She didn't know but the I read this latest post and really now?

I understand it. Now if you really do have a girlfriend, why are you talking for her? And telling the post what she said? It almost sounds like you're trying to create animosity between two people that don't even know each other. My girlfriend said: ........... this isn't high school. Why are we going on he said ,she said. This is about you popping in and the first thing that comes out of your mouth is about a forum where many cam models voice their thoughts, worries, concerns and issues. I personally didn't even know men were on this site until a month or so ago when a male responded to one of my posts. It did leave me feeling like someone walked into the ladies room on me.

Also I don't cam on SM but there are dozens of women on there and I find it quite odd to beable to find someone that easily based on one picture. If I didn't know any better that sounds a bit creepy there. I mean your gf is a cam model and uumm thanks for posting how she reached her cam goals... not really sure how that was relevant but ok .. but after all of her hard work ,you decide to go and look for another cam model to talk to? So you weren't looking to do a show then just looking to sit and chat. I dont' know maybe this was looking for a 3rd in a threesome or something. But that just seems to be abit much.

Plus the whole umm ooh I'm going to give tokens or is it gold on that site for someone agreeing with you? Asking for a screen name to tip? Who does that? Also you're tipping a model that is easy to find but yet you never looked for . Hmm wonder why? Not your type perhaps but good enough to tip for agreeing with you?

I felt for you in the beginning feeling ok he made a small mistake and just hoped you would just apologize and say I meant no harm and I'm sorry. But wow tipping people for agreeing? Saying your gf called her a b***?

1 word
CREEPY.

btw there was a guy in my room saying that he's been a male cam model for umteen years. Talked in my room about all the friends he has on the site blah blah blah and how he's there for moral support. As if he needs to egg on the model as she removes her gstring. The funny thing is that every other guy in my room was like why doesn't this guy STFU already. He talked for about 3 hours straight and didnt tip a dime. i was trying to be nice but by 2.50 hrs I was tired of seeing him go on and on. I eventually banned him because he had messed up the room with his rantings and many of my premiums were like umm yeah wake me up when this guy shuts up please.

One thing that was strange was that his screen name was :THE DUNLAP.

hmm funny .

Also the guy's pix was a fake and he was not a cam model at all. Who knows with all of that irrelevant information you just provided I don't think you are a cam model at all or if you are a cam model , you probably don't have a gf. No man would go through all of this trouble to find a model on a site that has over dozens of models and then write all of this about what his "so called girlfriend has said or made" plus offering tips for agreeing with him.

I THINK YOU ARE A FAKE. But hey I could be wrong! Carry on and take some time off this thread and enjoy the umm "girlfriend" you have:) :O

TouringGirlfriend
04-19-2011, 11:51 AM
Dunlap claims to be a 23 year old cam model and law student. For some odd reason, I am not buying it but hell.. who knows. The whole my girlfriend said this and that was so high school to me. Who gives a shit what she thinks? Gawsh.

BustyAmeera
04-19-2011, 11:56 AM
Wow. Lmbao

That"MODEL"Chick
04-19-2011, 12:14 PM
Well she said in another thread that I was commenting in or was SM specific that she was planning on making a new account.

But if you want to take something the wrongway, there is nothing I can do to change that.

In regards to having a relationship with the OP, I have no interest in having one, I just initially was trying to tell her that there was no need to freak out by a guy trying to be friendly by saying Hi.

Initially I was just shocked by the apparent outcry against saying hello to a fellow SW member... thought the internet was a friendlier place, but I suppose to some it is not.

I have showed my GF the thread. She became angry with me that I even made an account to defend myself cuss in her words ("why are you wasting your time arguing with such mean *******"), but I don't truly believe its because anyone on here is a mean b****. I think it's just a product of distrust that some models may have with men/customers in general. That distrust may be very well founded and based on actual experiences and I would not try to belittle anyones judgment or opinion. But as a model I nor my GF would ever instantly block someone because they said "Hi aren't you on stripperweb (private message)," and then proceed to go on stripperweb and talk about how some person tracked her down or what not. If someone said, "Hi don't you live in Springville....." yeah I'd agree that would be creepy.

I never set out to contact anyone on SW. I saw a picture that looked familiar and tried to be friendly. I guess an abundance of trying to be a nice guy and make someones night out to be better backfired....

My girlfriend and I have many models on SM that call us on a daily basis to discuss random stuff. This was never what I was seeking, but that was my basis for concluding that I could at least say hello to a model that I thought I recognized from SW without getting my head bitten off. All my interactions had always been positive, and this was my first time I encountered such hostility and scorn.

I would have been completely fine if the OP was the one scorning me for saying "hi", but I was shocked to find that the hostility and distrust was more the consensus than the minority opinion on this forum.
Actually in the other thread I stated that I wanted to change my NAME,but was told it couldn't be done,that I would have to make a new account...which I really didn't want to do. I only just made a new one because I didn't want to run into another one of you. I honestly was not going to say anything about it...just brushed it off like you were some random dude. Until I logged in on here and saw you had written a comment on my wall. Hell yeah that sh*t freaked me out. So I did make a thread about it. Thinking to myself: If I'm wrong,then the ladies will let me know,but if I'm right...they'll eat his a** alive. So if your little girlfriend thinks that makes me out to be a bi*ch...well its because her man brought it out of me!!

bun
04-19-2011, 12:24 PM
Did anyone else hear the horror theme music when cherry said, "and one thing that was strange was that his screenname was..."

BustyAmeera
04-19-2011, 12:25 PM
Did anyone else hear the horror theme music when cherry said, "and one thing that was strange was that his screenname was..."

Hell yeah. I thought I was the only one :O

bloodhoundgang
04-19-2011, 12:26 PM
he posted something on ur wall!!

i was going to ask how you knew it was * Guys from SW found me on SM* and not a Girl.

I bet the girls on SM are now going to get flooded with the question "Hey BB didn't I see you on SW?"

TouringGirlfriend
04-19-2011, 12:34 PM
he posted something on ur wall!!

i was going to ask how you knew it was * Guys from SW found me on SM* and not a Girl.

I bet the girls on SM are now going to get flooded with the question "Hey BB didn't I see you on SW?"

Hello and welcome to SW!

This is your 3rd post and wow! What a way to make an impression.

Are you "the Dunlap's" girlfriend or boyfriend by any chance?

thedunlap
04-19-2011, 12:45 PM
he posted something on ur wall!!

i was going to ask how you knew it was * Guys from SW found me on SM* and not a Girl.

I bet the girls on SM are now going to get flooded with the question "Hey BB didn't I see you on SW?"

No I didn't post on her wall.

You can't comment on someone's wall on SM without going private first.

CoolBreeze
04-19-2011, 12:48 PM
The whole talking to his girlfriend might have been my fault. I suggested if she really is a videochat hostess to, "Ask your gf how she would feel about it maybe? What I meant was to ask her how she would feel if some random guy pm'ed her while she was working like TheDunlap had done. Not ask her what she thought about this thread. o_O

The appropriate path forward is still, "Your response needs to be to acknowledge her discomfort and move on."

Breeze

bloodhoundgang
04-19-2011, 12:51 PM
Hello and welcome to SW!

This is your 3rd post and wow! What a way to make an impression.

Are you "the Dunlap's" girlfriend or boyfriend by any chance?

Thanks 4 the welcome TGF

Hey Dunlap!!, you wanna be my bitch?

thedunlap
04-19-2011, 12:53 PM
haha, well I'll have to talk to my lady about time-sharing arrangement but I'm sure we can work something out. ;)

That"MODEL"Chick
04-19-2011, 12:59 PM
No I didn't post on her wall.
WOW!! You're a liar to?? You did post on my wall,I believe your words were"just stopping by to say hi-bluebee". I posted it on here then deleted them all before I closed the account. Weather or not the ladies went to my page to look at it...we'll never know,but you did post on my wall. So I don't know about "STALKER",but you're damn sure a LIAR!!

thedunlap
04-19-2011, 01:00 PM
The whole talking to his girlfriend might have been my fault. I suggested if she really is a videochat hostess to, "Ask your gf how she would feel about it maybe? What I meant was to ask her how she would feel if some random guy pm'ed her while she was working like TheDunlap had done. Not ask her what she thought about this thread. o_O

The appropriate path forward is still, "Your response needs to be to acknowledge her discomfort and move on."

Breeze

Yes, the talking to my girlfriend was in relation to telling her about this thread on SW. When my SM name got blocked she actually had the mouse and keyboard in her hand and infact it was her that typed "hi arent u on stripperweb" (cuss i told her wait a minute I think ive seen her before). Sorry that theres nothing to really unravel...

thedunlap
04-19-2011, 01:13 PM
WOW!! You're a liar to?? You did post on my wall,I believe your words were"just stopping by to say hi-bluebee". I posted it on here then deleted them all before I closed the account. Weather or not the ladies went to my page to look at it...we'll never know,but you did post on my wall. So I don't know about "STALKER",but you're damn sure a LIAR!!

I didn't post on your SM wall... I tried to send you a PM on SW [this was before you ever posted a thread about any of this on SW] and I guess it was a wallpost...but all it said was what you just said above.... Please tell me how anyone from SM would have connected that to you... I did not leave a comment on your SM account like you were implying. But yeah if anyone on SW read that bluebee says Hi... that could have been disastrous for you; good thinking on the deleting your account I guess.

That"MODEL"Chick
04-19-2011, 01:18 PM
^^Sweetheart you should learn to read. In my above post I stated that I DID NOT get freaked out until I logged in on HERE and saw you had written on my wall!! So no you didn't write on my SM wall,how could you? I banned you from my room and from being able to email me.

Noa
04-19-2011, 01:19 PM
Model Chick, your instincts were spot on. Dude's mental.

thedunlap
04-19-2011, 01:20 PM
^^Sweetheart you should learn to read. In my above post I stated that I DID NOT get freaked out until I logged in on HERE and saw you had written on my wall!! So no you didn't write on my SM wall,how could you? I banned you from my room and from being able to email me.

Right and I posted that on your wall to say "hey there is no need to freak" in not so many words, and you went even further into the deep-end.

That"MODEL"Chick
04-19-2011, 01:24 PM
Besides why would you write me here after I banned you there? That doesn't sound stalker-ish to you? Especially since you keep debating it. Like I just said,I made the thread after I came here and saw you had left a comment on my wall. You did exactly what I predicted you would do: respond.

thedunlap
04-19-2011, 01:26 PM
Besides why would you write me here after I banned you there? That doesn't sound stalker-ish to you? Especially since you keep debating it. Like I just said,I made the thread after I came here and saw you had left a comment on my wall. You did exactly what I predicted you would do: respond.

No, I had expected that you would apologize for your rudeness in all honesty.

mzdeniro
04-19-2011, 01:27 PM
Of course it doesn't seem stalker-ish to him, he doesn't think he is a stalker. LMAO.


Dude's mental.

thedunlap
04-19-2011, 01:32 PM
Of course it doesn't said stalker-ish to him, he doesn't think he is a stalker. LMAO.

Well, I have never been raped or molested so I suppose it doesn't too me.

No.

BustyAmeera
04-19-2011, 01:35 PM
No, I had expected that you would apologize for your rudeness in all honesty.

Would you like her to apologize for blocking you from her room? Is that part of what is bothering you?

BustyAmeera
04-19-2011, 01:36 PM
Well, I have never been raped or molested so I suppose it doesn't too me.

No.

Who said anything about rape or molestation?

That"MODEL"Chick
04-19-2011, 01:37 PM
Well, I have never been raped or molested so I suppose it doesn't too me.

No.

Well I have. So next time think before you Fuc*ing speak!!

thedunlap
04-19-2011, 01:38 PM
Would you like her to apologize for blocking you from her room? Is that part of what is bothering you?

It would be a start, but it would be a bit disingenuous at this point.

thedunlap
04-19-2011, 01:42 PM
Well I have. So next time think before you Fuc*ing speak!!

I have thought about it. It was blatantly obvious since your original post in this thread. But I had tried to use euphemisms and allusions to get my point across without appearing grotesque for pointing out the obvious, but at last I saw that the divide was too great. I'm sorry that you were raped, but I did not rape you and you should not resent men for the rest of your life either.

thedunlap
04-19-2011, 01:43 PM
Well neither have I. Last time I watched the news, being raped or molested isn't a requirement to be a stalker. Most of those ppl just have a couple of screws loose.

Yes, but it typically takes a few loose screws before someone interprets a simple hello as a creep trying to mess with her/his head.

TouringGirlfriend
04-19-2011, 01:44 PM
Model Chick, your instincts were spot on. Dude's mental.

This. He clearly has issues. BIG BIG BIG issues. I would be scared too.

Good day yall. I'm taking getting my ass on cam to make that $$$$. I'll go now and ban "blubee" on streamate.

BustyAmeera
04-19-2011, 01:44 PM
It would be a start, but it would be a bit disingenuous at this point.

So how do you get by in life by expecting everyone who does not want to be bothered, to apologize to you? So you find it mean, or wrong for a girl to block you from her chat room. Interesting. You should really have thicker skin than that. Everyone is not going to like you in this world. That is something you must realize, and move on when women are not charmed by you. It is not the end of the world.

sananeko
04-19-2011, 01:45 PM
I think we need an adult in here...

That"MODEL"Chick
04-19-2011, 01:45 PM
I wasn't raped,it was child molestation and I don't feel any resentment. Why don't you just Fu*k off?

leighbeigh
04-19-2011, 01:46 PM
I have thought about it. It was blatantly obvious since your original post in this thread. But I had tried to use euphemisms and allusions to get my point across without appearing grotesque for pointing out the obvious, but at last I saw that the divide was too great. I'm sorry that you were raped, but I did not rape you and you should not resent men for the rest of your life either.

Oh fuck you. This is such typical blame the victim bullshit.

Dude, get a clue. She doesn't want anything to do with you. But your poor little ego just can't let it go. So, so sad.

BustyAmeera
04-19-2011, 01:48 PM
Very sad indeed. I don't plan to continue to fuel this troll.

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