View Full Version : Help! I fucked up!!
kaiarose
05-19-2011, 02:37 PM
Wow some of the replies on here are just.....mean.
This girl had the balls to come on here and tell her story and even openly admit that she made a mistake (she's human!) and some of you girls have just tore her apart. (Yes, your responses are stated in a "nice" way but still, very condescending) I don't agree to extras in the club by any means because they do and have ruin this industry. However, I wouldn't exactly call this an extra per se. I wouldn't even call her an extras girl. I have been dancing for 8 years and I know some of you have danced far longer or less than I have and I KNOW that many of you have made a bad decision ITC. Those of you that haven't, you will. When that does happen I hope that if you come on this board for support that you aren't cut down or torn apart like the OP has been. I'm not saying all of you were rude but some of you said some mean shit. We all make mistakes and to be told we are disgusting walking STD's because of it is uncalled for.
OP, I don't exactly agree with what you did but I understand that you made a mistake. I hope you learn from it. I've been dancing for awhile and I'm always learning something new about this industry. It took me a long time to figure out that I didn't have to give away alot in order to make money. In fact it's the other way around. Just know that you are worth more than you think. Play hard to get. It pays off ;) Good luck!
DesuvsDeath
05-19-2011, 03:08 PM
No offense, but - HAHAHAAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA.
Omg. You're so hot Mr. Stranger... I know we just met 3 minutes ago, but I'm so overwhelmed I just HAVE TO put your bare dick in my mouth right now. LOLOLOLOLOL
Seriously, though... OP...If you've really got so little self-control regarding men you find attractive that you're pulling out their dick right there in the club... this is the WRONG job for you.
If that's what you do with men you find attractive outside the club, by all means... but you need to learn to check your libido at the door and not give guys 10x what they paid for because they're 'hot'. You're risking prostitution charges, creating bad customers and ruining your reputation/ability to get hired at your club and any clubs owned/managed by the same people.
If you're not 100% confident this won't be a repeat mistake, you should look into a different job. Camming, waitressing in a club instead of dancing... things that don't involve putting yourself in a situation where this might happen again.
tempest666
05-19-2011, 10:07 PM
I didn't mean to revive this thread good lord -_-
sammii
05-19-2011, 10:12 PM
You should be more careful. You can contract a disease from giving a guy you don't know a blowjob. I'm not trying to sound like a mother, but you should really be more careful.
Paris
05-19-2011, 10:20 PM
Perhaps try dancing at a club that has a clientele you aren't likely to find attractive. Different clubs attract different types of customers, just go the place that has mostly the kinds of guys you'd never date, and this shouldn't be a problem for you again.
I used to purposely avoid men I found attractive while working. I don't care if they had a lot of money, the distraction isn't worth it at all. I always preferred to stay all business.
mediocrity
05-19-2011, 10:30 PM
No offense, but - HAHAHAAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA.
Omg. You're so hot Mr. Stranger... I know we just met 3 minutes ago, but I'm so overwhelmed I just HAVE TO put your bare dick in my mouth right now. LOLOLOLOLOL
Seriously, though... OP...If you've really got so little self-control regarding men you find attractive that you're pulling out their dick right there in the club... this is the WRONG job for you.
If that's what you do with men you find attractive outside the club, by all means... but you need to learn to check your libido at the door and not give guys 10x what they paid for because they're 'hot'. You're risking prostitution charges, creating bad customers and ruining your reputation/ability to get hired at your club and any clubs owned/managed by the same people.
If you're not 100% confident this won't be a repeat mistake, you should look into a different job. Camming, waitressing in a club instead of dancing... things that don't involve putting yourself in a situation where this might happen again.
I really laughed for a LONG time when I read this. Really, WHO DOES THAT??
Idiots, that's who.
tempest666
05-19-2011, 10:52 PM
^^^^ I always wrap up strange salami.....I never did anything ITC buuuuut I admit to hooking up with young, hot white guys. My old Blackberry had half of Kirtland AFB and Ft. bliss programmed into it. Just sayin lol. ;)
I fucked for fun not for $$$$$ and I don't shit where I eat. Back in the day, when I met a guy I liked I'd tell him, "Look I want to fuck you, but I don't shit where I eat and I'm not a prostitute." So we'd go back to my place or his and have dirty, hot nasty sex. :D
Everyone knew about it. At Knockouts I am infamous. }:D
Lady Xplicit18
05-20-2011, 02:54 AM
This post is..... wow.
I started dancing at 18 with no one to guide me and I had way more common sense than this. SMH.
lucylastar
05-20-2011, 06:34 AM
Oops, I guess this thread is back.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and I appreciate all who come, read about my stupid mistake, and spends their time to put in their valued two-cents. I understand where a lot of you are coming from, I have even thought the same things of myself (so where the hell was my common sense when I had this guy's dick in my mouth?). Of course, I still feel very guilty and ashamed of my actions, but everyday I am healing some what. I do cringe every time I think about it, and I try to avoid dwelling on it, but I NEVER and will never forget what I have done. As a follow up, I have started to work in a different club in the same city and I learned, as a wonderful and kind Kaiarose mentioned, that you don't have to give away a lot to make money. Pretty sure I'm not up to veteran dancers' levels of hustling and holding out on the goodies, but I'm confident I will get there. I make more there (3-4x more) per night than at my first club and am happy to report with NO FUNNY BUSINESS :)
We all have fleeting moments of misjudgment, and unfortunately, mine had to come at a very, very bad time (and place). Still, I learned A LOT from it, and I know this is not a mistake I will repeat again. Believe it or not, this experience has made me grow as a person in leaps and bounds, and I cannot even start on how much I learned about life itself just from dancing.
Once again, thank you for everyone who has responded to this thread (I was surprised it was brought back to life, but I guess these things will always find a way to come back and haunt me). I appreciate all the concern, kind words, and honesty.
Addison
05-20-2011, 06:56 AM
Thanks for the update. It's great to hear that you're doing so well and that you've taken so much from that experience and have really grown into a better person.
IA with Kaiarose about the unnecessary meanness in this thread. Some of these bitches need a dick in THEIR mouths to shut em the f-ck up for a minute.
Now die, Thread! Die!
DesuvsDeath
05-20-2011, 12:53 PM
Thread revivals happen. Sometimes a year+ from the original date of posting.
You might consider editing your first post if you don't want to hear anymore about it. ;)
lucylastar
05-20-2011, 01:12 PM
Haha thanks DesuvsDeath, for the tip! I shall edit my follow up into my first post and hopefully that will bring this thread to its final resting place. Don't get me wrong-I appreciate everyone's help, but I will admit some of these posts brought me to tears. I am not upset at anyone for voicing their opinions and I know everyone means well, in fact, I appreciate it (sometimes you just need a swift kick in the ass). And with all the kind and caring voices woven in between, I feel that sharing my wrongdoing here at SW has been very beneficial for me (and anyone else who can learn from this!!), especially helping me introspect, heal, and move on to better things.
Thanks again for everyone's support!
Okayyyy now I really hope to never see this thread again, because I won't ever do something so stupid like that again in my dance career :)
tempest666
05-20-2011, 01:26 PM
^^^^^ My bad dude. I was joking to another newbie who was attracted to a custie "Don't accidentally give him head in VIP" I didn't think this thing would spring to life like a revived zombie from Resident Evil.
Glad you're doing well, and keeping the cocksucking OTC :D
tempest666
05-20-2011, 01:31 PM
Haha thanks DesuvsDeath, for the tip! I shall edit my follow up into my first post and hopefully that will bring this thread to its final resting place. Don't get me wrong-I appreciate everyone's help, but I will admit some of these posts brought me to tears. I am not upset at anyone for voicing their opinions and I know everyone means well, in fact, I appreciate it (sometimes you just need a swift kick in the ass). And with all the kind and caring voices woven in between, I feel that sharing my wrongdoing here at SW has been very beneficial for me (and anyone else who can learn from this!!), especially helping me introspect, heal, and move on to better things.
Thanks again for everyone's support!
Okayyyy now I really hope to never see this thread again, because I won't ever do something so stupid like that again in my dance career :)
Nobody is saying you have to be a nun at work babe. Just make sure you draw a clear boundary between work and play. You see a custie you wanna take home and bang cuz he's hot by all means. BUT make sure that you don't shit where you eat. Be up front and tell him that you're doing it because you want to and you're not a prostitute. (Nothing wrong with prostitutes)
The most important lesson that we all learned is KEEPING HANKY PANKY OUT OF THE CLUB!!!!
I think you have learned your lesson young grasshopper. Good luck.
lucylastar
05-20-2011, 01:41 PM
^^^^^ My bad dude. I was joking to another newbie who was attracted to a custie "Don't accidentally give him head in VIP" I didn't think this thing would spring to life like a revived zombie from Resident Evil.
Glad you're doing well, and keeping the cocksucking OTC :D
Haha! Will do. Thanks again for all your contributions, Tempest666!