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Kellydancer
05-04-2011, 02:52 PM
I always hated this. I once worked at a club where drinks were more common than dances so we were supposed to push drinks. The waitress would really get nasty when he didn't buy. We got a percentage of the drink money, but would have preferred the dance money because we got more for that. For instance, a $20 drink would only net us $4 while a $20 dance would give us $10. Not to mention I rarely drink and hated being pushed to drink alcohol. I had to tell the manager I don't drink on the job so she created a drink just for me that looked alcoholic but wasn't. I should mention this club had some of the most disgusting dancers I've ever worked with and I long suspected it was because of this.

I worked at other clubs were we got a percentage of the money but they never pressured us because there was more money with the VIP's and dances. A few clubs we didn't receive any money from the drinks so those I generally declined.

Vyanka
05-06-2011, 09:38 PM
IDK, but I've never seen this as much of a problem. To me, springing for a few regularly priced dancer drinks is part of the gig. If a guy gets worked up over buying a drink for a beautiful girl who has been taking her clothes off in the club then I wonder how good a target he is for a VIP.

Now there are some girls that I know, right away, that I do not want to stay. In these situations, a simple no works wonders.

For sure. ;)

I still think the waitress should word it different on the main floor, bc she may not know the scenerio.

cherryblossomsinspring
05-06-2011, 09:47 PM
^ What I meant by that is: If the guy and I just aren't clicking and I want to move on, I can't til I finish a drink. Plus, if it's a non alcoholic or even alcoholic drink a girl's tummy gets full fast. And we are NOT allowed to deny drinks either.. Make the trip across the pond first and then we'll talk about drinks ;)

Wow that's horrible that they make you finish the drink. Wow now I know why one of my friends is a ranging alcoholic! Being forced to drink like that can mess up the entire night. Wow clubs and their stupid rules! I do understand how that would make a guy feel uncomfortable. I know when people come to reg clubs and say would you like to buy a rose for the lady. It always makes the date feel lame when the guy says no. I've been on a date before and it only made the night weird after that moment. Like wtf I'm not worth a cheesy $25.00 single rose? Yeah that kinda of messed up the rest of the date.

cherryblossomsinspring
05-06-2011, 09:49 PM
Most strip clubs won't let you stay if you are not drinking something.
$8 for tap water? Must have been on special!

lol @ special on tap water! haah this is too funny!

cherryblossomsinspring
05-06-2011, 09:55 PM
How about telling the guy something when you see her make her approach. Like just say no! Maybe that would help. Seriously after a while a dancer sitting with so many different men could really get tanked fast and not even get in the time to get dances are be coherent to ask.

Another option would be to jump up and just say to the guy with a "crazy eye look" I'll be right back as she makes her approach. That would give him the privacy of saying no , so that you wouldn't be ear shot to hear it.

PinkMinx
05-08-2011, 07:52 PM
I worked in two clubs in WA state where drink sales were part of the house fees. If we didn't get our quota for the day, we had to pay for the drinks we didn't sell. So the waitress was attempting to help the dancer by asking if the "gentleman would like to buy the lady a drink".

Most customers knew this and were fine with it-whether or not they bought ladies' drinks, they knew they would be asked and it usually wasn't awkward. After they were asked once, they were left alone.

One day a regular customer indicated to a new manager that he would purchase a drink for me. She came back and said "$40 please". He looked shocked because the normal price was either $10 or $20. I quickly said "He usually buys ten dollar drinks". She said okay and put the drink down. After she left, he asked why she just gave me the forty dollar drink and let him pay ten. My answer: "Since all strip clubs in WA are non-alcohalic, it really didn't matter what was in the glass. You just tell her what you want to pay."

This scenerio is different than most places because most of the guys in the Seattle clubs are regulars.

arielbriel
05-09-2011, 09:19 AM
Vyanka is right, "Can I get you anything else" is hint enough. :)

NeedsHelp123
05-20-2011, 09:41 PM
I simply despise the drink 'hustling' when a waitress will ask if you want to buy a dancer a drink.



If she wants a drink... she will ask me for one, other than that, ask me if I would like one, or leave me alone. Thanks much! :)

A club overtly and rudely pressing to sell drinks, is a bad club, simple as that, if you cannot sell them without hounding customers, you should look at going into another line of business, what the hell is this "making dancers sell drinks" thing? It's absurd!

Chili Palmer
06-21-2011, 04:33 PM
I've bought--maybe--5 dancer drinks in 20 years and probably 5,000 lap dances. Which would you rather have a percentage of?

CP

racejeff
06-23-2011, 10:44 AM
I've bought--maybe--5 dancer drinks in 20 years and probably 5,000 lap dances. Which would you rather have a percentage of?

CP

I'm lucky to live in an area where the dancer drink scam is light. ABC rules prevent differentially priced dancer drinks or commission so the most we see is management encouraging dancers to get drinks. Plus then the character of the dancer comes in. My ATF back when we first met almost 5 years ago made major points by asking me if "she could have $1 to buy a coke, if you get it from waitress it will cost $3" that $2 has cost me thousands over the years.

And just recently another dancer from that same group when we were in VIP room for the 30 minutes told the waitress no I don't need a bottled water, I'm not thirsty. Then said to me I may have upset her with that.

This group of dancers worked together and learned from each other. They all know I will buy drinks when they want but won't force them on them to drink and be social. Last time I saw the ATF she came to the table with her own glass of wine to start the evening.

It all depends on the situation.