View Full Version : she's not fat, right???
miss1dancypants
05-07-2011, 03:59 PM
Is that the only company out there?
Have you considered working for yourself?
all of the other private party agencies in my area aren't getting a lot of work and do extras, which i am not ok with.
i WOULD work for myself but i'd be afraid about cancellations and security. my BF would do security for me but i he doesn't want to get into my business.
idk if i'd REALLY be able to run a private party agency... :/
my bf says that once i get in better shape that he will let me work at clubs.
just feeling so discouraged right now... my boss STILL hasn't called me back... it's like, if you're not going to give me work, just TELL ME so i can move on to something different, instead of waiting at home all night for a phone call saying "leave your house NOW, we have a show".
feeling so depressed and hopeless.... and broke...
DesuvsDeath
05-07-2011, 04:10 PM
^Sounds like this really isn't working out for you and you should definitely move on to something else.
If you're only getting a show every two weeks you could pick up a day job without it even interfering with this one or being over tired from working two jobs... and use this one to pad your income until you feel like you're 'in shape' enough for the clubs.
Personally... I think the girl in the pictures could get hired at some pretty nice clubs... you could too.
Optimist
05-07-2011, 05:11 PM
we have gone to a bunch of clubs as customers and he thinks that i'm not toned up enough/in good enough shape, and i don't know how to do club dancing and he doesn't want me to embarass myself or get discouraged or turned down so he wants me to wait until i'm in better shape and learn some dance moves.
btw, tried calling my boss about the private parties tonight, i KNOW there are at least 5 on the books, and he's not calling me back :(
my bf says that once i get in better shape that he will let me work at clubs.
This is off topic but your guy is a controlling lying POS. That is all.
This chick is maaaaaaad hot! WOW! Stunning.
miss1dancypants
05-07-2011, 06:05 PM
honestly, he is right, i need to tone up and lose extra flub flab... i think if i work out every day and eat extra healthy for a month then i will be ready.
i am just so devastated about not getting work or even getting my phone calls answered by this company... i have done SO much for them... even brought in girls when we were low... and now they can't even answer my phone calls :/ i am so depressed and have NO motivation to do anything tonight. i just need to go to sleep and start over fresh tomorrow and start working towards my new goal of working at a club.
i definitely think i will start at a lower-end club to build my confidence and skills... little successes... selling my first dances, selling my first vip's, learning how to close a sale, etc. then gradually move my way up to nicer clubs as i get more experience.
obviously there is a high end club that i REALLY want to work at but its definitely a bad idea for me to start there and be completely inexperienced in clubs and intimidated by the upscale atmosphere and girls who have been doing it for years.
i'm gonna start slow and work my way up...
KS_Stevia
05-07-2011, 06:08 PM
If you are truly built like the chick in the pics, you will get hired at 99% of the clubs out there. Why does your guy have a say in this? Its one thing for a guy to to be totally opposed to dating someone in the sex industry. But he doesn't have a problem with it, he thinks you're too fat?
Sounds like he may be a big fat negative influence in your life.
You don't need to know how to dance to strip, you will learn from watching and doing. NONE of us knew what we were doing before we started. Heck, when I started there was barely internet, and certainly no stripperweb or youtube.
If youre body is like that girls, the first few weeks of dancing will tone you up. I promise. I wasn't chubby when I started but I wasn't super toned even though I worked out regularly. Within a month I suddenly noticed the "stripper body."
There is a learning curve with every new job. IF you can perform at a private party, you can perform in the club. Don't worry about the stage. Thats not where the money is and you'll learn how to do it properly after a few days.
Get rid of this dude and go forth, prosper, strip!
my bf says that once i get in better shape that he will let me work at clubs.
Seriously, what the fuck?
arielbriel
05-07-2011, 06:41 PM
No, shes not fat.
miss1dancypants
05-07-2011, 08:07 PM
i'm the same size as her but not toned like her so that is where the difference is. i need to tone up.
my bf just doesn't want me to get rejected at a club for being too fat, that's all. compared to normal girls i am beautiful but next to other strippers who are in tip top shape and gorgeous it might not seem like it.
Athenathefabulous
05-07-2011, 08:48 PM
your bf sounds like a douchebag.
hotchickswithdouchebags.com
He's not right, he wants you to have low self image so you'll keep dating an asshole like him. Apparently it's working.
Redwolf
05-08-2011, 05:10 AM
Your BF should give you the chance to prove him wrong. And then you should do it!
If you are going to get denied, let it be the manager making the hire, not your BF. Then move on to another club and prove that one wrong. I don't think that that will have to happen.
We should surround ourselves with people who make us grow, not people who hold us back.
miss1dancypants
05-09-2011, 08:37 AM
ok. here are some pics of me. i am not "big" but i DEFINITELY need to tone up and lose the extra flab. i used to be really toned but lost a lot of it when i got my boobs done and couldn't work out for a month.
i think a month of hard work kicking ass in the gym and i will be ready.
i will be taking these down soon just wanted some feedback...
Athenathefabulous
05-09-2011, 08:41 AM
i think that you need to lose about 180lbs of crappy douchebag boyfriend.
seriously, your body is hot. if you want to get fitter and eat healthier i totally dig that, but you look fine. you look toned, thin, and hot.
if your boyfriend is telling you that he will not let you audition somewhere until you lose weight, you need to lose him. im not sure where you are located, but 99% of clubs across the country would love to have you work there. i think that your boyfriend is helping fuel some body dysmorphic disorder and he is clearly trying to put you down, make you feel insecure, and control you. you should really re-evaluate whether dating him is healthy for you.
noelle
05-09-2011, 08:43 AM
Your bf sounds like an ass. Your body looks wonderful. Honestly, this post offends me a little bit because your measurements are similar to mine and I'm starting to wonder if maybe I'm fat.
Which is SO ridiculous! I have worked at some very choosy, high-end clubs and gotten hired no problem. The woman you originall posted would definitely have gotten hired at the clubs I worked at, and she'd have made great money too.
Honestly, seriously take a step back and a deep breath, and look at the pictures or yourself you just posted. Where are you seeing fat?
In my opinion the only extra fat bringing you down is a boyfriend shaped piece of uselessness you're unwilling to shake off.
noelle
05-09-2011, 08:44 AM
Haha, Athena and I posted at the same time and said almost the same thing. :highfive:
bill862
05-09-2011, 08:48 AM
Not only do I think your figure is not fat, I think its stunning and you have nothing to worry about.
Hope that helps
ok. here are some pics of me. i am not "big" but i DEFINITELY need to tone up and lose the extra flab. i used to be really toned but lost a lot of it when i got my boobs done and couldn't work out for a month.
i think a month of hard work kicking ass in the gym and i will be ready.
i will be taking these down soon just wanted some feedback...
Jesus woman, why would a girl this gorgeous stay with such a complete jackass?
Athenathefabulous
05-09-2011, 08:55 AM
Haha, Athena and I posted at the same time and said almost the same thing. :highfive:
great minds think alike!
if i took a wild guess missdancypants, you are probably way out of your boyfriend's "league." often is some mediocre male dates a super hot female they will feel the need to make them feel bad about themselves so they dont realize they can do better. from a 3rd party perspective, its like why the fuck is she with that guy? but within the relationship, the guy knows this, but to keep the girl from knowing that she is wayyyyy out of his league he must put her down. i mean a super hot girl dating an average looking guy is totally understandable if he has a wonderful personality, but men with wonderful personalities do NOT tell their girlfriends that they are flabby, especially when they look like you.
miss1dancypants
05-09-2011, 09:04 AM
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Honey i guarantee you it has nothing to do with how you look but how you act. If you continually think you are not good enough you are not going to have enough confidence to act like you are good enough. None of those girls looks any better than you.
noelle
05-09-2011, 09:47 AM
Also please keep in mind your boss is the one picking and choosing who gets the parties. Obviously he prefers very tiny women but I guaranteee you that NOT all men like that. I think the girl in the 3rd pucture has a fantastic body!
Men like variety, especially in a club. If you worked in a club with tons of super thin women, you WOULD make money because you'd stand out even more! And you look great. Your boss and your bf are idiots.
limecoconut
05-09-2011, 01:32 PM
Um NO not fat at all - those proportions are beautiful.
miss1dancypants
05-09-2011, 02:03 PM
thank you everyone... i don't think i can do the private parties anymore, i'm not going to be treated like a 2nd class citizen... i'm going to work out and focus on myself for a bit then probably try clubs in a few weeks.
miss1dancypants
05-09-2011, 05:21 PM
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH my bf won't let me cam.
is there any way to cam without having some kind of "trail"? like will be employers be able to find out? can you avoid this by just getting a check in the mail? how do you stay off the radar? or is that not possible?
i would just plan on wearing a wig so that no one would recognize me.
Kisca
05-09-2011, 05:34 PM
Dudddddddddddde. Whats wrong with your boyfriend?!!!!
You're fucking hot! Any guy will grab you within seconds, and this dude is blowing your self-esteem making you go into unhealthy habits.. You will get hired no problem at any club. You should try out for yourself instead of listening to him.
Now he doesnt want you to cam, and you want to hide it from him. Dont let him drag you down, I think you'd make an awesome stripper, ad you are no near fat! Get your ass into a strip club and work, Im sure he will be proved wrong. You dont need this distress dragging you down!
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH my bf won't let me cam.
Have you not realized yet what the main problem in your life actually is?
Corey
05-09-2011, 06:41 PM
You are thinner than most of the girls I work with.
Also, the 3 pics of the other girls? The only one who looks thinner (and not that much) than you is the second one and that's because she is cut.
I'm a tiny person and would love to have more curves.
Almost Jaded
05-10-2011, 09:27 AM
You're hot as hell. And lady, I am a picky motherfucker when it comes to looks. And I like tiny, thin girls. I say again - I THINK YOU'RE HOT AS HELL, AND I'M A PICKY AS HELL MOTHERFUCKER WHO LIKES TINY CHICKS.
Any questions?
You're boyfriend needs to pull his head out of his ass and stop letting HIS insecurities hold YOU back. And if he can't, than you need to find a better BF.
Tell you what. Come to Vegas. We'll get you set up with 3 different high end clubs AND 3 or 4 AWESOME guys. Within a week. NOT JOKING.
Alternatively, I can come to your location and kick your BF in the nuts repeatedly until he gets the point.
As for your current job with the private party company - ever occur to you why your boss likes those girls so much? Why he talks to them and they get all the work? Ever think maybe THEY FUCK HIM? Or maybe just do coke with him? Etc? I've worked with a few companies like that. I know why certain girls get all the work. It;s not because they're hotter than you. Newsflash: if they hired a girl that was your identical twin, and she blew the boss each time he got her 2 jobs i a night - she'd be working 14 jobs a week.
Lose the controlling asshole, go to work wherever the fuck you want.
Geez...
miss1dancypants
05-10-2011, 09:30 AM
yeah, i'm pretty sure they are sucking and fucking, and i'm not.
called in again today and the company continued to give me the run around. i'm officially done with them.
i think i might audition at a club next week and not tell my bf... hes fine with me stripping, he just doesn't think my body is ready, so i don't consider it going behind his back... i'll tell him after like 2-3 weeks of stripping and he'll be surprised but happy that i did it and made it.
and i would love to come to vegas someday! that would be awesome to strip in vegas. i have 1 more year left of school but i was thinking about going out there for winter break and doing a strip trip.
Almost Jaded
05-10-2011, 09:38 AM
Keep that attitude, you'll be fine.
And I hate to be a dick, but if he continues to hold you back or reduce your self esteem, you seriously need to move on. Fear of being alone isn't reason to stay with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself. If we're misreading the situation and that's not what's going on, fine. But for any guy to tell his girl "her body isn't ready yet" or that "she needs to lose the flab" before she can dance - big red flag right there. BIG one. ESPECIALLY if you look like you do in those 2 pics.
lemiwinks31
05-10-2011, 10:27 AM
i think i might audition at a club next week and not tell my bf... hes fine with me stripping, he just doesn't think my body is ready, so i don't consider it going behind his back... i'll tell him after like 2-3 weeks of stripping and he'll be surprised but happy that i did it and made it.
ummm....I am guessing that he WONT be happy. He seems incredibly controlling and insecure about you. I dont think that he would like you accomplishing ANYTHING on your own....without him.
Its just one step closer to you realizing that you have no need for some loser who is just trying to keep you and your self esteem in the sewer...with him.
lemiwinks31
05-10-2011, 10:33 AM
my bf says that once i get in better shape that he will let me work at clubs.
and like everyone else has been saying.....your bf is a fucking POS loser and you will be better off without him......
But that wont cure everything. You also have to look at yourself and figure out why you dont think you deserve better than someone who you let control your life and call you fat. Because you will probably just choose another loser who will treat you like shit unless you work on your self esteem.
Vyanka
05-10-2011, 11:16 AM
Your body is not ready for dancing? :O
Um, the customers will show you otherwi$e. That'll show your BF.
Any man that will tell you you're not good enough for anything, needs to know where the door is at. That's not a man for you.
miss1dancypants
05-12-2011, 05:41 AM
i know on this thread it seems like my bf is a jackass but he really isn't. he takes good care of me, has a good job as an engineer, and is fine with me dancing as long as it makes me happy, but he doesn't want it to be because i feel like i need the money because he can support me (and does). he treats me and my family well. he has good friends who are nice and have their life together like him so i don't have to deal with idiot friend bullshit. his mom is getting old and he takes good care of her, even though she lives 30 minutes away. he goes over at least once a week and if she calls and needs something he heads right over.
he knows how i feel about my body and he doesn't want me to go into a club and have the manager tell me i'm fat or need to lose weight because he knows how much that hurt my feelings when my boss at my private party company said that to me and he doesn't want me to get hurt. i think he has the wrong way of going about it though because he's telling me i need to get in better shape before i audition so they won't say that, so it's like, hun aren't you saying the same thing as them??
guys are dumb. bottom line, he cares about me and my feelings and doesn't want me to get hurt in this hard industry, but in his "guy mind" he thinks the best way of doing this is telling me to get in shape so that these comments won't be made.
he has the right intentions but just did it in a "guy" way without being sensitive to how a woman would take it.
But you haven't said "my boyfriend doesn't want me to do this or that" you've said "my boyfriend won't LET ME". There is a huge difference between not wanting you to get hurt and controlling your life.
luscious sadie
05-12-2011, 07:49 AM
we have the same body. We are not fat. We are hott.
much love!
luscious sadie
05-12-2011, 07:53 AM
also, this body type doesn't really ever look THIN. Like Athena said, our midsection is short and hips are wide and waist is tiny. If you have abs at all you will look like you have a belly. I am in top shape and I am not nearly as thin as other girls who are in the same shape as me. People who are taller will always seem thinner because their muscles are more spread out. It's just how it is. No matter how much thinner I try to seem it is always the same.
there's seriously not much more fat / toning up to be done on her / me / you / us. That's just the way it is.
miss1dancypants
05-12-2011, 10:04 AM
also, this body type doesn't really ever look THIN. Like Athena said, our midsection is short and hips are wide and waist is tiny. If you have abs at all you will look like you have a belly. I am in top shape and I am not nearly as thin as other girls who are in the same shape as me. People who are taller will always seem thinner because their muscles are more spread out. It's just how it is. No matter how much thinner I try to seem it is always the same.
there's seriously not much more fat / toning up to be done on her / me / you / us. That's just the way it is.
aaaah i just want a flatter stomach and a smaller waist but i've never had it and it seems impossible.
threlayer
05-13-2011, 01:52 PM
Absolutely not a thing wrong with that gal's figure. If yours is like that, you're perfect; don't change a thing.
(And wait for my in the Lobby; I'll be wearing a red carnation in my lapel. ;=) )
carmen_b
05-15-2011, 12:55 AM
Miss1: Just try it ! The bf is a DUMB ASS. I was like 23 and wanted to amateur night one time and my dude was also like " oh, your stomach might be too big right now " . It totally wasn't ! I gained 5-6 pounds and then started dancing later in life at 28. So I started heavier than we he figured " I was a little too big ". I was smart enough to dumb that dude and you should be too. It would be sort of funny if you just went and did it and then brought back a few hundred to show him hehe. My body is a lot like the links you sent also.
carmen_b
05-15-2011, 12:57 AM
The girl from the links look thinner in the photos lower on the page than the ones higher. They were probably taken a little bit apart or something.