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mediocrity
05-09-2011, 12:11 PM
I worked with a girl in Austin who was 7mos along and it was very obvious. She didn't make any money, and it was sort of painful and sad to watch.

If you aren't showing, that's fine but I think once you start to show it's time to hang up the heels.

Miss_McKenna
05-09-2011, 03:22 PM
If I was in a situation where I had to dance while pregnant, I don't think I would have too much problem doing it while I wasn't showing. There's no smoking at my club and no drinks hustle to consider, so my main concern would just be having to be SO careful not to trip in my heels. But as soon as I started showing, I'd be gone - I'd be embarrassed as hell and I think I'd smack any guy that wanted to rub my stomach or something. Probably I'd work extra before I started showing, so that I could get a lesser-paying day job after.

ZePeanut
05-09-2011, 05:09 PM
I agree TurboHips^^ Pregnancy is very beautiful=)

To the OP: You should emphasize your boobage, this is the best time to do it! Baby-doll style dresses are perfect=D

_Avery_
05-09-2011, 07:10 PM
I agree TurboHips^^ Pregnancy is very beautiful=)

To the OP: You should emphasize your boobage, this is the best time to do it! Baby-doll style dresses are perfect=D


LOL, YES! Boobs are my favorite thing about being pregnant. They only get bigger after the baby is born...oh, I can't wait.
(not like I'll be able to do anything with them, they'll be sore..lol) but they'll be nice to look at for awhile. :P

JayATee
05-10-2011, 10:18 AM
I seen a girl do it and most people were wondering is she pregnant or is she fat? Being preggo was not making her job in the strip club any easier. If it were me I would just find a different job until I give birth. Honestly pregnant women should be resting not walking around in 5 inch heels dancing for men. I also would be worried for the baby's health in that industry.

Why? You're supposed to be active. And if you work in a smoke free club and you don't have to hustle for drinks what's the problem?

Vyanka
05-10-2011, 12:24 PM
I personally don't know anyone that danced while pregnant, but I just want to say be careful with the customers that are the drunk/aggressive types.

Sometimes these assholes think it's ok to physically manhandle a girl like a ragdoll. I had a dude once pick me up by the ribs. That shit hurt! I would hate to see/hear someone doing that to a pregnant chic.

If you feel you can pull it off emotionally(I've been told pregnant women are more emotionally sensitive) & physically without putting the baby at risk(cigarette smoke, etc.), go for it. I've seen sexy pregnant women who didn't show belly til like 5-6 months.

On a plus, you're gonna have beautiful long hair and nails.

Be safe & good luck. :)

MarvelGirl
05-10-2011, 02:59 PM
Why? You're supposed to be active. And if you work in a smoke free club and you don't have to hustle for drinks what's the problem?


It's the five inch heels. Increases your chances of falling and puts strain on your body.

It used to be standard for doctors to tell women not to wear high heels during pregnancy. Maybe that's changed but if you do a little googling, you'll see why they could pose a problem for pregnant women.

azaleanola
05-11-2011, 04:38 AM
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kassie
05-11-2011, 07:19 AM
OK..i dont get this at all..maybe im a little naive on this topic.....
but how can people say chubbies dont belong dancing in the club with a gut
but a pregnant woman can dance..apparently with a gut sticking out and it still be acceptable?????

i dont know..like i said maybe im just naive.. can someone please explain this to me as if im a 2-yr old

You sound pretty hypocritical dont you think?
This is what you wrote to me but I see it has been deleted, when I said preganant women should not be dancing they should be resting.

"Why? You're supposed to be active. And if you work in a smoke free club and you don't have to hustle for drinks what's the problem?"

Well hun I know for a fact that when I'm pregnant I'm sure as hell am not going to put my self though dancing for man for money and the stress that comes in the industry especially when your preggo. If you wanna do that knock your self out ;)
Also stop arguing with these other girls.

JayATee
05-11-2011, 07:28 AM
^ No dearie, my post hasn't been deleted, you're very clearly confusing two different people. And good for you that right now, while you're not in the situation you can think you won't be dancing. For some of us that's not an option. ::)

So Fine Divyne
05-11-2011, 08:20 AM
OK..i dont get this at all..maybe im a little naive on this topic.....
but how can people say chubbies dont belong dancing in the club with a gut
but a pregnant woman can dance..apparently with a gut sticking out and it still be acceptable?????

i dont know..like i said maybe im just naive..can someone please explain this to me as if im a 2-yr old

I really don't understand why everyone is jumping all over this girl? She asked a legitimate question and the answers were downright mean. It seems legit. When you are fat you have a non desirable stripper body type. As a pregnant dancer, presumably with a visible baby bump, you don't have the ideal stripper body type ie flat or at least not round stomach. So i totally understood what she was asking/saying. It seems a lot of people took offense to it because they danced while pregnant or know people who did or sympathize with people in this situation.

Everybody makes choices and if someone wants to dance while they are pregnant as long as it's not apparent it does not bother me. I really do not like working with girls who are visibly very pregnant and I have before in nice and not so nice clubs. It is extra work in a small or medium sized club with lots of dancers, especially on busy nites, for me and everyone else to make a conscious effort not to bump into a person who needs a larger amount of personal space in the already small areas clubs provide between tables. I have also witnessed many miscarriages as a result of later term dancing due to falls, hard blows to stomach from drunk customers and security attempting to break up fights. I guess just be as careful as possible is the best advice.

Madisonsayshi
05-11-2011, 09:47 AM
I am 16 weeks along and I danced the last two nights. For me it's different than dancing nit pregnant. I get tired earlier. Like last night I left at 1:30. I don't hustle as hard So I didn't make as much money as I did when I was not pregnant, but I'm still happy. Fortunately for me, since I'm only 16 weeks, I'm not showing at all. My ass and boobs have filled so I'm =D about that!! I think the best part of all of this is I'm totally sober while dancing now. Before pregnancy, I HAD tohave a couple of drinks to loosen me up, before talking to men, before dancing on stage etc. Now I'm sober and I love it! I sleep better and don't wake up with lipstick and mascara smeared all over my left cheek =)
thank you to everyone who shared their stories and positive experiences with me. You guys gave me the boost I needed =)

arielbriel
05-11-2011, 10:37 AM
I've danced with several girls who were pregnant. After a certain amount of time, they started to show, and eventually left. They all pretty much danced till they were 5-6 months pregnant. They all were skinny before so a little bump didn't really scream "pregnant". Alot of them wore corset or dresses and only pulled them down to expose their boobs. They left their stomach hidden. The only thing that I would advise is to try not to go on stage as much. Maybe talk to the DJ if he is understanding. Don't wear your normal 8' heels and don't work in a club where smoking is allowed! Sadly, all the girls I've known that danced while pregnant worked in a smoking club but I mean, who would hire them in a new non-smoking club at this stage in their pregnancy? Also, in small clubs girls do get tight-knit and when someone is pregnant and happy about it, they announce it to the DR. Not a good idea cause dumb cunts will use that againgst you and tell customers. I've seen it happen.

DesuvsDeath
05-11-2011, 03:02 PM
I really don't understand why everyone is jumping all over this girl? She asked a legitimate question and the answers were downright mean. It seems legit.
I think more people took offense to her reply to JayaTee's answer that "pregnant goes away!"... She replied to that with "yeah that goes away but not the extra fat and stretch marks that might come along with it...ha just saying"
Personally... it pissed me off that she's insulting mother's bodies because she's offended that people don't think fat girls should dance. That's all.

Instead of being mature... I like to perpetuate rudeness with more rudeness. <3

Mindy Bares All
05-11-2011, 04:29 PM
I think it boils down to-- if you really need the money, do it.

If you don't, then don't.

kthnx
05-22-2011, 05:48 AM
OK..i dont get this at all..maybe im a little naive on this topic.....
but how can people say chubbies dont belong dancing in the club with a gut
but a pregnant woman can dance..apparently with a gut sticking out and it still be acceptable?????

i dont know..like i said maybe im just naive..can someone please explain this to me as if im a 2-yr old

I wrote about this in the "fat girls dancing" thred. Pregnant belly = can be sexy; pseudo pregnant belly = never sexy. Just the way it is. There's other things like that too, for example a woman who is 50 looking 35 could be called a cougar or a milf, but a 20 yr old lookin 35 would just look "wrong". Same logic applies for bellies

Some atripclubs allow pregnancy, some dont. The upscale clubs with stringint hiring standards will be less likely to let a girl dance once her trim belly starts to get any bigger. The same dives that are more lenient with weight standards will be more likely to let a girl whos obviously showing, like 3rd trimester, still dance.

But yea beyond each clubs varying rules on pregnancy, accepting pregnancy more than unhealthy guts is just the way it is. Men are more prone to find pregnancy--an indicator of fertility, good health, and womanliness--to be sexier and healthier than a big ol gut--a sign of unhealthy "apple shaped" fat increasing chance of eventual heart problem, or unhealthy eating habits, or bad genes, or even a sign of infertility. Yes some infertility probs like endometreosis or ovarean cysts can cause belly swelling. It sux for the girls who have an "unpregnant bump" I know. But it's not just clubs that discriminate, other Looks centered plCes like hooters do too. Example, they supply special maternity uniforms for waitresses that become pregnant, obviously having no probs with it, yet they put a longtime waitress with good work skills on probation becuz she had an untoned gut (google "Cassie smith", hooters waitress). So it's not just stripclubs that favor one over the other.

kthnx
05-22-2011, 06:11 AM
Guys I gotta be honest I don't think luxi_kitty was trying to be hypocritical with her first post on this thred...I didn't interpret that 1st post to mean that she doesnt necessarily have probs with pregnant dancers in and of itself, but that she DOES have a prob with something she sees to be a potential hypocrisy, that stripclubs will condone big bellies due to pregnancy but not the big bellies due to fat. For someone that has a gut and is having a hard time losing it, it can be hurtful be feel shunned from it esp when other women who have a pregnant belly get to stay. However there Re reasons for this which I explained in my last post.

Truthfully I feel sorry for luxi_kitty becuz she is in a really tough spot. She needs money but is (presumably) having difficulty getting hired due to her weight. She also isnt able to have kids. Then she sees girls around same age as her, having 2 things she can't have: strip job AND a pregnancy--and at the same time too, with no giving up one for the other. It must be really hard to be in that spot. Take it from someone who valued herself based on accomplishments for a long time, and times of infertility and/or poverty caused a self esteem plummet.

luxi_kitty
05-22-2011, 07:27 AM
Guys I gotta be honest I don't think luxi_kitty was trying to be hypocritical with her first post on this thred...I didn't interpret that 1st post to mean that she doesnt necessarily have probs with pregnant dancers in and of itself, but that she DOES have a prob with something she sees to be a potential hypocrisy, that stripclubs will condone big bellies due to pregnancy but not the big bellies due to fat. For someone that has a gut and is having a hard time losing it, it can be hurtful be feel shunned from it esp when other women who have a pregnant belly get to stay. However there Re reasons for this which I explained in my last post.

Truthfully I feel sorry for luxi_kitty becuz she is in a really tough spot. She needs money but is (presumably) having difficulty getting hired due to her weight. She also isnt able to have kids. Then she sees girls around same age as her, having 2 things she can't have: strip job AND a pregnancy--and at the same time too, with no giving up one for the other. It must be really hard to be in that spot. Take it from someone who valued herself based on accomplishments for a long time, and times of infertility and/or poverty caused a self esteem plummet.

um i dont even know how to reply to this..i almost "Thanked" ur post bc i thought u were being very sincere and kind to me..then the rest totally went over my head and kinda pissed the shit out of me..
are u saying YOU went thru this and had a self-esteem plummet? bc surely u are NOT talking about me

first off:
i dont understand why ur stalking me hun hah:-X

second:
i never said it would be hard for me to get into a club. i havent even auditioned yet..
there are plently of clubs in atlanta that accept thicker women
i just said i wont be able to get into the (upscale clubs) white or even mixed race clubs bc of my appearance (tattoos, piercings, thick thighs, large natural boobs, large hips)

and third:
i dont need u to feel sorry for me..ive never once posted on here that i had self-esteem issues, insecurity issues, or even asking for someone like u to become spiteful on my child-bearing..yes there is a 80% that i wont be able to have kids..but i DONT want kids..has nothing to do with my self-worthness

luxi_kitty
05-22-2011, 07:45 AM
..that stripclubs will condone big bellies due to pregnancy but not the big bellies due to fat. For someone that has a gut and is having a hard time losing it, it can be hurtful be feel shunned from it esp when other women who have a pregnant belly get to stay..Take it from someone who valued herself based on accomplishments for a long time, and times of infertility and/or poverty caused a self esteem plummet.


i myself dont have a belly that hangs over my thongs..it was just a question..it got answered..im done with that.. which is why i hadnt even posted on this thread in the past 3weeks

okay, after reading couple posts from u on infertility now i know u were talking about ur self
the fact that u were infertile AND u wanted kids..truly sorry u had to go thru that..
however im opposite of how u were,
im really content with not having any.
never really was..
and i also dont have self-esteem issues
...anger issues..yes..but no
i dont need an insecurity check

...but thanks?:-\

kthnx
05-22-2011, 09:22 AM
Yea when I was talking bout self esteem plummet I was talking bout my own experiences with it in the pAst. I had endometriosis which not only made it difficult to concieve but also gave me unpleasant ab pains similar to that of irritable bowell syndrome which also resulted in abdominal swelling. My best friend has it too and whined bout the pain of it all the time but got relief when she went on birth control pills. Birth control wasn't an option for me since I was TTC (trying to concieve) so I had to deal with it for a while til I got pregnant (and yep it was a while, given endo lowers fertility). It got a lil better after my son but still persisted none the less. But yea I had to deal with that catch22 for a while so I know how it can be.

The reason I thought u were having trouble getting in clubs, is becuz youve been on this site for a while now so I figured you'd have tried atleast one by now. If it's a necessary money thing, why wait? (unless u are planning to work out more first, but then again u said ur happy with ur current figure, then that must not be the reason for waiting)

luxi_kitty
05-22-2011, 11:45 AM
The reason I thought u were having trouble getting in clubs, is becuz youve been on this site for a while now so I figured you'd have tried atleast one by now. If it's a necessary money thing, why wait? (unless u are planning to work out more first, but then again u said ur happy with ur current figure, then that must not be the reason for waiting)

haha no sweetheart..
u got it all wrong..
ive been in the forums to gather guidance, advice, support...this is new to me..at first i wasnt sure i really wanted to dance, but now time has come..
at first i thought i had to lose 30lbs but after going to the hip hop clubs as a customer..i learned i really didnt HAVE to lose weight at all..but toning..remember? thats what u told me?..so ive been doing that..u cant successfully tone in less than a mnth..i have only been a member of SW since march..

alas, i AM going to my first audition tuesday ;D
PLUS kthnx..if u ve read my other posts ud know that i have been trying to save money for the past week for this expensive permit we have here in atlanta
$300-400..:-\

but i finally got the money so im set

Kellydancer
05-22-2011, 12:12 PM
Yea when I was talking bout self esteem plummet I was talking bout my own experiences with it in the pAst. I had endometriosis which not only made it difficult to concieve but also gave me unpleasant ab pains similar to that of irritable bowell syndrome which also resulted in abdominal swelling. My best friend has it too and whined bout the pain of it all the time but got relief when she went on birth control pills. Birth control wasn't an option for me since I was TTC (trying to concieve) so I had to deal with it for a while til I got pregnant (and yep it was a while, given endo lowers fertility). It got a lil better after my son but still persisted none the less. But yea I had to deal with that catch22 for a while so I know how it can be.

The reason I thought u were having trouble getting in clubs, is becuz youve been on this site for a while now so I figured you'd have tried atleast one by now. If it's a necessary money thing, why wait? (unless u are planning to work out more first, but then again u said ur happy with ur current figure, then that must not be the reason for waiting)

I think she's a little short on self esteem and doesn't understand why pregnant women can be sexy but fat women can not. Personally, I don't think either should be dancing but with being pregnant I know I'd be terrified doing anything to harm my unborn child.

Btw, I just see your signature. Congrats on the pregnancy!

luxi_kitty
05-22-2011, 12:25 PM
I think she's a little short on self esteem

what is ur deal?
u personally do not know me
give it a rest now darling!

Kellydancer
05-22-2011, 12:38 PM
what is ur deal?
u personally do not know me
give it a rest now darling!

Give what a rest? I don't think you are very confident about yourself because if you had I think you would have tried out by now. I haven't been one of those attacking you.

luxi_kitty
05-22-2011, 12:48 PM
Give what a rest? I don't think you are very confident about yourself because if you had I think you would have tried out by now. I haven't been one of those attacking you.

omg..
Kelly please do urself a favor and just READ what i posted 2-above..
i JUST stated reasons
first i wasnt sure i wanted to start dancing..i live with my mom and it would have been hard to keep it a secret..i didnt want to hurt her or embarrass her..i have only been off and on this forum for 2mnths now..
i am having my own family/work problems..

also i have been trying to work on my stamina..trying to quit smoking..(which i still havent done) toning up, trying to learn splits, saving money for the necessary things i need for my audition/first night...

u honestly mean to tell me u didnt have a hard time gathering enough info and supplies u needed for ur audition and first nite??

im not on here to purposely disrespect someone for no reason..
i am trying to be civil with everyone while giving my honest opinion..
i dont know u or anyone else on these forums..however it seems ur harassing me a little from thread to thread..
please correct me if im wrong..

luxi_kitty
05-22-2011, 12:50 PM
Give what a rest? I haven't been one of those attacking you.

and no ur not the only one..i know that..
but at least they arent going thread to thread commenting negatively on everything i post..

Kellydancer
05-22-2011, 12:56 PM
What? I haven't even commented on you at all except to say that I think you are lacking in self esteem. I didn't even comment on you in the fat thread and I certainly am not "following" you from thread to thread because then I would be posting in every thread you started. If you want to be successful in this industry you need confidence because if you don't it will eat you alive.

Sure it's great to get info on dancing, however saying that ALL men like fat women (not saying you said this) is a lie and people mentioned this is a lie.

luxi_kitty
05-22-2011, 01:03 PM
What? I haven't even commented on you at all except to say that I think you are lacking in self esteem. I didn't even comment on you in the fat thread and I certainly am not "foolowing" you from thread to thread because then I would be posting in every thread you started. If you want to be successful in this industry you need confidence because if you don't it will eat you alive.

Sure it's great to get info on dancing, however saying that ALL men like fat women (not saying you said this) is a lie and people mentioned this is a lie.

yeah ur right i never did make that statement so i dont see what that has to do with me..
but yeah i rest my case its hard to pay for bills and save for the atl permits with $250 checks..trust me i would have loved to start dancing mnths ago..with thick thighs..big rump and natural double Ds and all..however i just wasnt able to start right away..i am very confident in my body..and i have GREAT head on my shoulders..i just have a diff mind set then the average 24yr old
BUT
i am auditioning tuesday..soo be nice and at least wish me luck Kelly:P

kthnx
05-22-2011, 01:22 PM
I wasn't gonna comment and this will be my LAST comment on this subfloor of this thred but, yea now I'm startin to think there's some self esteem issues. Otherwise one wouldnt be so bothered and overly defensive.


Now luxi_kitty, if u ReALLY need the $$, how about u try a club in a nearby area that doesn't require a permit. Dives are more likely to overlook need of a permit, plus they're more likely to be open to non-barbie looks too as people already mentioned. Or take a train ride to another county. Big cities are most likely to require permits than suburb towns. I stress finding a club w/o permit becuz in all honesty having a permit sux. Basically the so-called business privilege permit is for the "privilege" (::)) of paying more taxes. Anyone with a permit has to pay an extra tax on earnings. Also having a permit puts u more under the spotlite by the IRS, and also stays on your public record, so in the future if u try for a reg career there's chance the dancer permit may show up and as u know, a lotta people have (unjustified) issues with stripping. IMHO permits suck and if u can avoid it all the better.

But if u really have ur eyes set on a club that requires permit, make sure u get hired before spending all that $$ on permit. I'm glad u got the money tho.

U say you've "only" been on sw since march...dude it's been 2mos!! I'm gonna be a bitch here and say shit or get off the pot. Glad to hear u will audition on tues. But yea to be honest, the fact that u waited so long when you're worried bout having ur car repo'd due to lack of $, does show lack of esteem. U stated reasons but bottom line, if u felt uber confident and also uber desperate to make $, u woulda found some way to start earlier than this tues. I knew a girl from one club who was even more desperate for money than u, she was HOMELESS in winter in a snowy city and her car had been sitting in the tow lot for weeks by that point. She had no $ for permit, no stripper outfits but a freakin everyday bathing suit, and she had body hindrances. Got rejected for the 1st few clubs but was working the stage at one club less than a month after she became homeless. If she could do it, ANYBODY can. (plz note, noone knew she was homeless except me and 1 other close friend, and she didn't confide this to us til much later in time)

luxi_kitty
05-22-2011, 01:29 PM
I wasn't gonna comment and this will be my LAST comment on this subfloor of this thred but, yea now I'm startin to think there's some self esteem issues. Otherwise one wouldnt be so bothered and overly defensive.


Now luxi_kitty, if u ReALLY need the $$, how about u try a club in a nearby area that doesn't require a permit. Dives are more likely to overlook need of a permit, plus they're more likely to be open to non-barbie looks too as people already mentioned. Or take a train ride to another county. Big cities are most likely to require permits than suburb towns. I stress finding a club w/o permit becuz in all honesty having a permit sux. Basically the so-called business privilege permit is for the "privilege" (::)) of paying more taxes. Anyone with a permit has to pay an extra tax on earnings. Also having a permit puts u more under the spotlite by the IRS, and also stays on your public record, so in the future if u try for a reg career there's chance the dancer permit may show up and as u know, a lotta people have (unjustified) issues with stripping. IMHO permits suck and if u can avoid it all the better.

But if u really have ur eyes set on a club that requires permit, make sure u get hired before spending all that $$ on permit. I'm glad u got the money tho.

U say you've "only" been on sw since march...dude it's been 2mos!! I'm gonna be a bitch here and say shit or get off the pot. Glad to hear u will audition on tues. But yea to be honest, the fact that u waited so long when you're worried bout having ur car repo'd due to lack of $, does show lack of esteem. U stated reasons but bottom line, if u felt uber confident and also uber desperate to make $, u woulda found some way to start earlier than this tues. I knew a girl from one club who was even more desperate for money than u, she was HOMELESS in winter in a snowy city and her car had been sitting in the tow lot for weeks by that point. She had no $ for permit, no stripper outfits but a freakin everyday bathing suit, and she had body hindrances. Got rejected for the 1st few clubs but was working the stage at one club less than a month after she became homeless. If she could do it, ANYBODY can. (plz note, noone knew she was homeless except me and 1 other close friend, and she didn't confide this to us til much later in time)


end of story after this im done

no i DO NOT have self-esteem issues..ur basing this info on a couple of threads/post i made??
...father helped me with that car note last mnth..
..i didnt know about other options when not having a permit..(if ur reading everything else i post then u must have missed that post)..someone very kind enough on the boards has been helping me find other clubs within GA/SCarolina..
i wasnt aware when i first got on SW that some clubs could possibly let me work to pay it off or pay them back if they help pay for my permit..didnt know that til last week..oops im sorry?

mind u i have been on SW ..OFF AND ON for 2mnths..i have a life of my own i need to take care of first before i consume info on SW
i AM a newbie at this ..u were one before!
thanks for ur interest in me kthnx and kelly..
but lets give it a rest now..
if i DID have a self-esteem issue..whats it to u? what are u getting out of it? are u going to make a nice little trip to Atlanta and hold me while i weep in ur arms?..

Addison
05-22-2011, 02:02 PM
luxi_kitty, girl, DO YOU. Don't worry about what these chicks have to say. They don't understand black girls/black clubs. A little extra weight is NOTHING to be concerned about when working at an urban club. You stick out more being UNDERWEIGHT with the "hiring requirement" of "visible ribs front and back" or whatever whats-her-name said in the other thread.

They just can't fathom you being confident because they know THEY would have self esteem issues if they were heavier. That's the difference between black girls and white girls. (I know I'm making sweeping generalizations here, but bear with me) Black girls want to be thick, white girls want to be skinny. When I was younger, I tried EVERYTHING to gain weight and get THICK. I used to drink milkshakes everrrrryday trying to put on weight because I was too skinny. I never could gain weight and I've only come to terms with it in recent years.

Anddddd.... I've been on SW since NOVEMBER and just started dancing not too long ago. "Shit or get off the pot"?? Really?? Really?? Maybe she doesn't want to get off the pot, maybe she wants to take the Sunday paper in there and read for a while, hmm??? lol Girl, do things at your own pace. I didn't read anywhere in the guidelines where it said that if you didn't audition within a month your membership would be suspended. Maybe I missed it???

Sorry, I know I'm rambling and all over the place, but I'm in a hurry to get to my bro's house.

Felons_Felony
05-22-2011, 02:03 PM
A girl at the club I danced at most recently worked until she was about four months pregnant, and had begun showing. A lot of her regulars mentioned before she started showing that they thought it'd be great if she continued dancing even after she'd begun to show a bit, because of how soft & feminine it'd be. She couldn't do pole tricks but with the slight baby bump it worked for her. And there's the glow that ladies get when they're between their first & second trimesters. Personally, I thought it was the sexiest, most seductive thing in the world. She did pretty well for herself, and she looked so warm & welcoming!

Kat w
05-22-2011, 02:10 PM
^^ Thank you for getting the thread back on topic.

Threads on SW have been alllll over the place lately and it's getting old/unhelpful. This forum is a resource and people are going to use resources in different ways.

To keep SW a helpful place, for strippers and future strippers start a new thread if you want to talk about self esteem, race and preferred body types or what have you.

Back on topic, no I have never danced with a pregnant dancer that I know of but I have overheard girls gossiping and wondering if a girl was pregnant.

Addison
05-22-2011, 02:30 PM
Oh, okay... but what if we want to talk about OTHER members self esteem?? Should we start a new thread or is it cool to just do it here?? just curious.

Well, anyway, yes, I can be on topic ... I work with a girl right now whom I thought was just fat, but she's pregnant. Or maybe fat AND pregnant, I don't know. I don't think obviously pregnant dancers are a good look, but I guess you have to do what you have to do. I'll never know.

JayATee
05-22-2011, 05:21 PM
They just can't fathom you being confident because they know THEY would have self esteem issues if they were heavier.

Ah, yes, that must be it.

Good lord who are you people?? ::)

Kat w
05-22-2011, 05:21 PM
Ugh, internet sarcasm. Ok, everyone keep doing their thing then.

Kellydancer
05-22-2011, 06:15 PM
luxi_kitty, girl, DO YOU. Don't worry about what these chicks have to say. They don't understand black girls/black clubs. A little extra weight is NOTHING to be concerned about when working at an urban club. You stick out more being UNDERWEIGHT with the "hiring requirement" of "visible ribs front and back" or whatever whats-her-name said in the other thread.

They just can't fathom you being confident because they know THEY would have self esteem issues if they were heavier. That's the difference between black girls and white girls. (I know I'm making sweeping generalizations here, but bear with me) Black girls want to be thick, white girls want to be skinny. When I was younger, I tried EVERYTHING to gain weight and get THICK. I used to drink milkshakes everrrrryday trying to put on weight because I was too skinny. I never could gain weight and I've only come to terms with it in recent years.

Anddddd.... I've been on SW since NOVEMBER and just started dancing not too long ago. "Shit or get off the pot"?? Really?? Really?? Maybe she doesn't want to get off the pot, maybe she wants to take the Sunday paper in there and read for a while, hmm??? lol Girl, do things at your own pace. I didn't read anywhere in the guidelines where it said that if you didn't audition within a month your membership would be suspended. Maybe I missed it???

Sorry, I know I'm rambling and all over the place, but I'm in a hurry to get to my bro's house.

Actually, I know all about black dancers and black women in general so please don't make it sound like many of us don't deal with black women when we do. Not only is my sister in law black, I used to run an agency where I employed black women. The problem I see with black women in general is too many of them are FAT not curvy yet they don't think it's a problem. My sister in law'a best friend is over 300 pounds and she thinks this is just fine and dandy. It's not and when she was pregnant (she is a teacher not a stripper) the doctor told her her weight was a problem. Her mother died from being obese yet she walks around saying "I'm a larger woman". Um no, you are obese. In fact when my sister in law was looking for a bridal gown we all went out looking for bridesmaids dresses and her best friend had to get the largest size they had (a 24 I think)and smash into it because they didn't carry a 26 which was her size. She was also limited by size because the plus sizes weren't as varied as the regular sizes.

Yes I agree that black women tend to want to be curvier but that is as in large butts and boobs NOT flabby as too many women in general (all races)use being overweight as an excuse that men love fatties. Even Sir Mix A-Lot said he was not talking about fat women he was talking about curvy women with large butts. BIG DIFFERENCE.

One other thing, when I ran the agency I had a disgustingly obese black woman want me to hire her and I rejected her. She used the black girls are curvy excuse but that is not why I didn't hire her. I didn't hire her because she was fat as in over 300 pounds and she was probably 5'2 at that. That same day I hired a black girl who was truly curvy (kind of looked like Beyonce) and she was not fat, but curvy. To put it in perspective, Beyonce is curvy, Monique is fat. I would hire a Beyonce look alike I would NOT hire a Monique look alike.

Btw, I do have confidence in my body. I also love myself enough to know I don't want to die at an early age because I am obese. This is why I refuse to let myself get fat.

Addison
05-22-2011, 06:56 PM
kellydancer, i'm gonna respond to your post in the fat girls dancing (http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=148783&page=19) thread..

DesuvsDeath
05-23-2011, 03:07 PM
u honestly mean to tell me u didnt have a hard time gathering enough info and supplies u needed for ur audition and first nite??

Nope, I bought shoes on a whim, walked in, auditioned in the dress I'd worn to the club the night before and thong I happened to be wearing and got hired.
Of course... I spent months accepting shitty money because it was what everyone else made and I didn't know any better... but the point is... auditioning is the easy part. Actually working and figuring out how to make money is hard.


...while I worked there I worked with a girl customers always THOUGHT was pregnant who wasn't. She used to bank of pregnancy fetish guys. LOL

arielbriel
05-23-2011, 05:22 PM
I did the same thing! ^ I bought some clear heels and went in with a mini skirt and top I wore clubbing. I got hired and made $400 that night. I found SW and THEN starting collecting info off HH to really learn how to do things right cause the girls at my club were no help. I quickly became the top earner. Not to toot my own horn but I just walked in and got hired. I didn't gather info or else I may have NEVER done it.

Jay12
02-16-2012, 12:27 PM
Hmmm, I think I got knocked up...

tempest666
02-16-2012, 05:58 PM
My bff here in PA is dancing at almost 4 months. I gave her a bunch of my old dresses. She's actually doing pretty well. At my home club in ABQ pregnant dancers are "put out to pasture" waitressing.

My one friend wore a little cowl necked dress and got excused from stages until her 7th month.

Aslinn
02-16-2012, 07:13 PM
Old thread, but me personally I would quit dancing once I felt the baby move. At that point I would feel freaked out to have people touching me and having the baby respond to the touching. Plus between feet and back pain and mood swings I don't think I would be making enough money to be worth it.

Jay12
02-16-2012, 07:18 PM
^To avoid tired feet, I will switch to a lower heel.


I will probably stop dancing around the second trimester, or whenever I can feel the fetus kicking my belly.

Aslinn
02-16-2012, 07:24 PM
^To avoid tired feet, I will switch to a lower heel.


I will probably stop dancing around the second trimester, or whenever I can feel the fetus kicking my belly.

Ooohh get gel insoles for heels too if they get really bad, it could just be me but my feet hurt in sneakers at this point and I'm only 6months! I'v only started too look pregnant now (weight gain is about 16lbs) so assuming you don't feel the baby move really early you can probably dance till the end of the second trimester.

Jay12
02-16-2012, 07:45 PM
In-soles are great. Also, I'm not doing too many pole antics either (no butterflies, no superman, etc); just some spins and that's about it...and floor dance that doesn't rely on me lying on my back.

vicky89
02-16-2012, 09:06 PM
My pole instructor danced while pregnant. she danced until she was 7 months. she was super skinny before getting prego but she was definitely showing for a month or two while she was dancing. customers would give her shit about it all the time. i also know of another dancer who danced until she was 7 months but she didn't show at all until right after she stopped. i say, if you're not showing, just dance but don't do any pole tricks, don't drink, and definitely don't let anyone know you're prego!

_Avery_
02-17-2012, 08:21 AM
Sooo...the customers get a 2 for 1 though if you're dancing while pregnant... ;D

Jay12
02-17-2012, 08:47 AM
^If I was in Rva or NC, then yes. I'm now in a stage only club so it would be a three girl show on stage (we have a two girl rotation on stage).

kissmexo
02-20-2012, 02:56 AM
i dont work in the club so i couldnt tell you on that part but just remember....the cam modeling section of pregnancy is ALWAYS full of customers. You don't make as much stripping unless you really put in the hours but if you absolutely need the money you can always make it there for the few months you actually can tell your pregnant.