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rickdugan
05-20-2011, 08:47 PM
I am starting to become fatigued with the same games, the same stories, the same get-to-know-you-chatter, etc., et al, in the clubs that I visit. I spend a lot of nights in a lot of clubs each year, both locally and in other states, but there just doesn't seem to be very much novelty in it anymore.

This issue even applies to my OTC adventures, of which there are many in any given year. Same little song and dance to get to that point, same types of hotel meetup procedures, same general experiences, etc.

Now every once in a while there will be something a little unique that will throw a little excitement into this mix, such as a girl I recently took out of a club who decided she wanted a dip in the hotel pool at midnight. But this is the exception to the norm and most of my experiences are more plain vanilla.

I am starting to think that I may need to take a break for a bit until I start to miss it again.

NeedsHelp123
05-20-2011, 09:09 PM
I am starting to think that I may need to take a break for a bit until I start to miss it again.


Reading some of your posts.. I think you are right on this, It happens it all aspects of life, give yourself a break and see if it helps you at all. After doing something for so long, we get used to it and it turns from exciting into.. just the normal. I felt that way after I left the Army in the early 90's after the Gulf War.

I went through a faze of a need for high-adrenaline activities (heli drop snowboarding, sky-diving, you name it) and eventually pushing it further to things I don't even think I can type up.

I just wanted that feeling that I had when I was in the Gulf, being at the edge of death, and after a few years. I felt like I was pushing myself further and further into this hole of not having enough because the same old things were just... the same, I've done it.. been there done that, wrote the story, went on the book tour. If you go for so long you can find yourself in a spot where you finally realize.. I went too far.

I finally decided I needed to slow down for a few years or so and when I finally went back to enjoying my old practices I found that with some age, and some wisdom gained from time off.. that I was going too far and I was content with going back to the basics, and enjoying it!


Well, I just felt the need to share that with someone right now and this thread reminded me of my own probems I had, maybe you will find something in there that will help you.

All I can say is taking a break from anything you've been doing excessively will give you some insight you didn't think you had, on what you've been doing.

I think if you do take a break or atleast cut what you're doing down slowly in a third or half, and go back to having fun with these young ladies, you'll realize that too much of a good thing can sometimes be bad for you. Also I don't know how well off you are, but it could also damage your wallet in the long run.. who knows maybe it already has and you haven't realized it ;)

Goodluck.

yoda57us
05-21-2011, 03:19 PM
I am starting to think that I may need to take a break for a bit until I start to miss it again.


I've done this quite a few times over the years sometimes staying away for months at a time. My last long break was about six years ago when a long-time ATF retired. I got very friendly with another dancer and we took it OTC. She didn't want me to go into the club when she was working so I kinda got out of the habit of my then weekly visits. I've been a sporadic but steady customer for the last five years or so but my visits are less frequent than they used to be. Being single now probably has a lot to do with it but so does my work schedule.

One thing is for sure, a strip club is an awfully expensive place to be if you are not really enjoying it...

Kylea2
05-21-2011, 04:34 PM
Out of curiosity, have you thought about switching up what you are involved in? Maybe some of these girls would be interested in accompanying you to swingers parties? Possibly short vacations? Or what about looking into different different fetish play to see if something strikes your fancy?

lopaw
05-21-2011, 07:23 PM
I hear ya, rick.
I think all of us hardcore junkies go thru this type of thing from time to time.
Even with a bevy of clubs to pick & choose from, and a harem of available and desirable women, the whole concept and familiarity of the routine gets old after awhile.

Clear your head for a bit and then come on back with a vengeance! ;D

rickdugan
05-21-2011, 09:15 PM
One thing is for sure, a strip club is an awfully expensive place to be if you are not really enjoying it...

I couldn't agree with you more.


Clear your head for a bit and then come on back with a vengeance! ;D

I like your thinking! ;D

No doubt that my fatigue will be shortlived as I have a string of road trips coming up, but we shall see.

rickdugan
05-21-2011, 09:21 PM
Out of curiosity, have you thought about switching up what you are involved in? Maybe some of these girls would be interested in accompanying you to swingers parties? Possibly short vacations? Or what about looking into different different fetish play to see if something strikes your fancy?

In all honesty I haven't really explored other avenues. I'm not much of a fetish guy, but these other concepts are interesting. I have considered bringing someone on one of my business trips, which I may explore more as time goes on but otherwise haven't done too much outside the box thinking to this point.

Your alternative suggestions are making me think more about a few other options as well and are much appreciated. :)

Kylea2
05-21-2011, 09:23 PM
Your alternative suggestions are making me think more about a few other options as well and are much appreciated. :)

Always glad to hear that the ideas info shared was useful. ;D

magicrat
05-23-2011, 01:10 PM
Rick,
I hear you, and I'm at the same stage of this hobby. Personally, I've been doing some different things, still in the adult entertainment industry so I'm not missing out on anything I don't believe. As others have said, take time off, try something different, and come back when you feel like it.

KS_Stevia
05-26-2011, 08:52 PM
You're tired because you aren't establishing new, genuine relationships. I don't mean dating relationship, just relations in general. Its all a canned act and most guys like more or less the same thing so strippers are betting the good odds.

Midnight skinny dips are great, that's always been a thing of mine. Sometimes you just overdo it. Like when you drink too much tequila or eat too much sweets or watch too much porn or too many episodes of your favorite show on Netflix. Its just too much of the SAME thing.

And strippers in the club are often going to be very similar in their act. I myself took a great from being a promiscous slut for a while. Now I've been super horny and want some new cock. Took home a married guy from the bar the other night, it was refreshing because its been so long.

You'll be a-ok. :)

fast tan77
05-27-2011, 05:58 AM
How about going to a gay bar and trying to pick up dudes, that would be different. LOL

yoda57us
05-27-2011, 06:41 AM
I myself took a great from being a promiscous slut for a while. Now I've been super horny and want some new cock. Took home a married guy from the bar the other night, it was refreshing because its been so long.


Mmmmmmmm....}:D

bem401
05-27-2011, 02:00 PM
I think not getting fatigued is a better reason to be concerned.

Kylea2
05-27-2011, 04:03 PM
How about going to a gay bar and trying to pick up dudes, that would be different. LOL

+1 for good humor!
Maybe you could teach others how to pick-up male strippers... LOL
I'm thinking that would be a book/manual without any competition.

rickdugan
05-27-2011, 05:49 PM
And strippers in the club are often going to be very similar in their act. I myself took a great from being a promiscous slut for a while. Now I've been super horny and want some new cock. Took home a married guy from the bar the other night, it was refreshing because its been so long.

You'll be a-ok. :)

KS, I know that you were saying this just to tweak yoda's imagination. ;)

But you know what? This was actually inspirational and I think I now know exactly what I need. A night in one of the shit hole dive strip clubs in S. CT., complete with dicey patrons, disgusting bathrooms, cheap booze, and absolutely no BS, sounds like just the ticket to snap me out of this funk. }:D

bucket
06-04-2011, 12:04 PM
I am starting to become fatigued with the same games, the same stories, the same get-to-know-you-chatter, etc., et al, in the clubs that I visit. I spend a lot of nights in a lot of clubs each year, both locally and in other states, but there just doesn't seem to be very much novelty in it anymore.



This issue even applies to my OTC adventures, of which there are many in any given year. Same little song and dance to get to that point, same types of hotel meetup procedures, same general experiences, etc.


Now every once in a while there will be something a little unique that will throw a little excitement into this mix, such as a girl I recently took out of a club who decided she wanted a dip in the hotel pool at midnight. But this is the exception to the norm and most of my experiences are more plain vanilla.



I am starting to think that I may need to take a break for a bit until I start to miss it again.

I'm on a long break right now, trying to clear the fog and put things in perspective. I really don't like nite clubs and don't drink anymore but if I have to go to one it'll be a SC. I get to hear tunes I haven't heard before. As far as OTC I only did it once and I try not to think about. Emphisis on "try".
What other kinds of bars are there to go to? I went to a cool beatnik club a few times about 5 years ago. It had interesting music and a nice crowd. It was run by a Thai family I believe. The place shut down, end of story. Singles bars are gross and predictable. Even jazz clubs suck now. I went to a small club a few years ago and I couldn't believe how loud they were playing. They were using amps for some reason. They aren't hip to Django in my town so no more jazz clubs for me.
I say bring on the dancing girls and keep it simple. If it's a club but it ain't a SC well, that's just downright un-murkin.

bucket
06-04-2011, 12:14 PM
You're tired because you aren't establishing new, genuine relationships. I don't mean dating relationship, just relations in general. Its all a canned act and most guys like more or less the same thing so strippers are betting the good odds.

Midnight skinny dips are great, that's always been a thing of mine. Sometimes you just overdo it. Like when you drink too much tequila or eat too much sweets or watch too much porn or too many episodes of your favorite show on Netflix. Its just too much of the SAME thing.

And strippers in the club are often going to be very similar in their act. I myself took a great from being a promiscous slut for a while. Now I've been super horny and want some new cock. Took home a married guy from the bar the other night, it was refreshing because its been so long.

You'll be a-ok. :)
Thanks for sharing. I guess.

bucket
06-04-2011, 12:26 PM
Befor you get back in the game go get a fine pair of shoes. I got my eye on some right now. Never had to buy online before so I hope they fit.

lestat1
08-02-2011, 10:27 PM
I was away from clubs for a year, then I went on a brief binge of several visits in a short span, and that was all it took for the old malaise to set in. I don't know whether it's me, or my location, but my visits are so tame and bland compared to the adventures I read in trip reports and OTC activities. Actually, I think it's my purpose for going to clubs. It's always been a substitute, rather than a supplement, to what I am (or am not) getting in my normal life. As a supplement, I think I'd find it rather exciting still. As a substitute to a healthy love life, it's pretty disappointing.

bem401
08-03-2011, 06:53 AM
I was away from clubs for a year, then I went on a brief binge of several visits in a short span, and that was all it took for the old malaise to set in. I don't know whether it's me, or my location, but my visits are so tame and bland compared to the adventures I read in trip reports and OTC activities. Actually, I think it's my purpose for going to clubs. It's always been a substitute, rather than a supplement, to what I am (or am not) getting in my normal life. As a supplement, I think I'd find it rather exciting still. As a substitute to a healthy love life, it's pretty disappointing.

Agreed. If this is just a supplement to your normal social life, that's fine. If this is what your social life is all about, as it was for me for a fairly brief period several years ago, it warrants some examination.

yoda57us
08-03-2011, 04:27 PM
Actually, I think it's my purpose for going to clubs. It's always been a substitute, rather than a supplement, to what I am (or am not) getting in my normal life. As a supplement, I think I'd find it rather exciting still. As a substitute to a healthy love life, it's pretty disappointing.

Everyone goes for different reasons. To me the reasons are less important than the expectations. Understanding why you are there and why the dancers are there is the key.

AmyLynne
08-06-2011, 11:30 AM
I am starting to become fatigued with the same games, the same stories, the same get-to-know-you-chatter, etc., et al, in the clubs that I visit. I spend a lot of nights in a lot of clubs each year, both locally and in other states, but there just doesn't seem to be very much novelty in it anymore.



This issue even applies to my OTC adventures, of which there are many in any given year. Same little song and dance to get to that point, same types of hotel meetup procedures, same general experiences, etc.


Now every once in a while there will be something a little unique that will throw a little excitement into this mix, such as a girl I recently took out of a club who decided she wanted a dip in the hotel pool at midnight. But this is the exception to the norm and most of my experiences are more plain vanilla.



I am starting to think that I may need to take a break for a bit until I start to miss it again.



Rick thats because youve never come to see me... Id change your mind in a heartbeat!

AmyLynne
08-06-2011, 11:32 AM
+1 for good humor!
Maybe you could teach others how to pick-up male strippers... LOL
I'm thinking that would be a book/manual without any competition.

lol

Hey Kylea Ill be back in Denver after Labor Day. Not sure wheer Ill be working but Im thinking shotguns or penthouse.

rickdugan
08-06-2011, 04:12 PM
Rick thats because youve never come to see me... Id change your mind in a heartbeat!

Coming from a girl who carries a 9mm and multiple mace bottles in her bag, I believe you. ;)

rickdugan
03-24-2012, 05:53 PM
I am back to being very fatigued once again. I just finished a two week, multi-city trip and I enjoyed myself a fair amount in the first three cities, but by the time I made it to the fourth and final city in my little tour I just wasn't feeling motivated anymore.

Now this last city is one that I normally enjoy a great deal from a SC perspective, so I did give it a go, but my heart was just not in it. I left two different clubs out of sheer frustration, after very short visits, just because some normal and customary get-to-know-you chatter and sales efforts were displayed. These girls were obviously doing nothing wrong and I was outwardly gracious, but my patience was just non-existent by that point.

In the case of the third club that I visited in that 4th city, all signs were showing green for a very strong OTC prospect, but I couldn't even dig up the motivation to close that deal as first-time OTC meetups in my hotel rooms are part of the cause of my fatigue levels, including the late night hours, having to escort her up past lobby security, having to make sure that my valuables are well tucked away and that I don't disappear into the bathroom until she is gone, the initial awkwardness once we are both naked and trying to figure out how things are gonna' work, making sure that her transportation is set once we are finished, walking her back down to the lobby, etc.

Now I have also been fatigued with my favorite local club for a while for completely different reasons, so I'm not sure where that leaves me except ready for another short break. Now I have no doubt that I will shake it off fairly soon, but right at this moment I have no interest in the long hustle of my local fav, the lame hustles employed by many other dancers in many clubs all over the map or even the variety of OTC encounters that I normally have in any given year.

Idk, but there it is.

yoda57us
03-24-2012, 07:00 PM
Sounds like you need a break rick. After all, this is P4P. If you aren't into it that's a complete waste of your time and money.

minnow
03-24-2012, 10:38 PM
I am back to being very fatigued once again. I just finished a two week, multi-city trip and I enjoyed myself a fair amount in the first three cities, but by the time I made it to the fourth and final city in my little tour I just wasn't feeling motivated anymore.

Now this last city is one that I normally enjoy a great deal from a SC perspective, so I did give it a go, but my heart was just not in it. I left two different clubs out of sheer frustration, after very short visits, just because some normal and customary get-to-know-you chatter and sales efforts were displayed. These girls were obviously doing nothing wrong and I was outwardly gracious, but my patience was just non-existent by that point.

In the case of the third club that I visited in that 4th city, all signs were showing green for a very strong OTC prospect, but I couldn't even dig up the motivation to close that deal as first-time OTC meetups in my hotel rooms are part of the cause of my fatigue levels, including the late night hours, having to escort her up past lobby security, having to make sure that my valuables are well tucked away and that I don't disappear into the bathroom until she is gone, the initial awkwardness once we are both naked and trying to figure out how things are gonna' work, making sure that her transportation is set once we are finished, walking her back down to the lobby, etc.

Now I have also been fatigued with my favorite local club for a while for completely different reasons, so I'm not sure where that leaves me except ready for another short break. Now I have no doubt that I will shake it off fairly soon, but right at this moment I have no interest in the long hustle of my local fav, the lame hustles employed by many other dancers in many clubs all over the map or even the variety of OTC encounters that I normally have in any given year.

Idk, but there it is.
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This has the ring of a car owner lamenting his neck whiplash pain from driving his sundry stable of expensive sports cars around......................

rickdugan
03-25-2012, 05:44 PM
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This has the ring of a car owner lamenting his neck whiplash pain from driving his sundry stable of expensive sports cars around......................

Maybe it does at that, which was not my intent. I guess that clubbing has been my primary entertainment hobby for so long that I sometimes take it for granted.