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addicted
05-28-2011, 09:59 PM
Addicted - who is that girl in your avitar?


Sadly in some of the clubs where I have danced dry humping/heavy grinding is the norm. And some clubs will let certain girls get away with dirty dancing beyond club rules. This dancer was obviously an extras girl and just wants to get your repeat custom.

My avatar is the lovely;
Josie Maran!


"This dancer was obviously an extras girl and just wants to get your repeat custom" Exactly while I would like to stop frequenting strip clubs, for obvious reasons, is there anything wrong with going back to a girl who wants me as a repeat customer, as opposed to one who doesn't?

And don't we all agree that she "was willing to offer the extra service" was not forced too? And I did not ask for it.. why not just enjoy it?

When I posted "Dry sex with a dancer, what was she thinking" I was more or less wondering why she would risk her job, to offer the service, when I didn't ask for it, as the club that I have gone to for over a year has never condoned anything like that before, now they all of a sudden allow it?

jannisary
05-28-2011, 11:02 PM
Gotta agree with Yoda, you're looking at the "bargain" section of escorts who are basically street girls with internet access or street girls with a pimp who has internet access.

If you want a good safe and fun escort experience expect to pay at least 300 an hour. Finding a safe, reliable, fun escort is not rocket science. I never worry about getting jumped by a pimp, robbed etc because I do my homework long before I ever meet the escort.

Here's a simple breakdown for you so you can stop dry humping the strippers..

1) Join TER - TheEroticReview.com and pony up some $ for the VIP membership.

2) READ the NEWBIE FAQ section of the discussion board and the Newbie "self-help" articles.

3) Search the TER review database for escorts in your area that score between a 7 and 10 overall.

4) Read the reviews, look for girls with a consistently good review history and that meet your other criteria - age, looks, services, etc

5) Politely contact the escort you are interested in meeting, using the tips in the Newbie articles to guide what you should and shouldn't say, the info you need to provide etc.

6) After meeting her screening requirements: set up an appointment, meet her, be polite, be respectful, have fun.

It is not rocket science. If you have to worry about getting robbed, jumped, killed, etc... who are seeing the WRONG girls.

addicted
05-28-2011, 11:22 PM
Gotta agree with Yoda, you're looking at the "bargain" section of escorts who are basically street girls with internet access or street girls with a pimp who has internet access.

If you want a good safe and fun escort experience expect to pay at least 300 an hour. Finding a safe, reliable, fun escort is not rocket science. I never worry about getting jumped by a pimp, robbed etc because I do my homework long before I ever meet the escort.

Here's a simple breakdown for you so you can stop dry humping the strippers..

1) Join TER - TheEroticReview.com and pony up some $ for the VIP membership.

2) READ the NEWBIE FAQ section of the discussion board and the Newbie "self-help" articles.

3) Search the TER review database for escorts in your area that score between a 7 and 10 overall.

4) Read the reviews, look for girls with a consistently good review history and that meet your other criteria - age, looks, services, etc

5) Politely contact the escort you are interested in meeting, using the tips in the Newbie articles to guide what you should and shouldn't say, the info you need to provide etc.

6) After meeting her screening requirements: set up an appointment, meet her, be polite, be respectful, have fun.

It is not rocket science. If you have to worry about getting robbed, jumped, killed, etc... who are seeing the WRONG girls.


OK thanks for the tip, Don't know that I can afford the 300.00 plus subscription!! But maybe as a treat every ounce and a while. I guess the same old expression you get what you pay for!

Sia
05-28-2011, 11:29 PM
Most escorts I've scene say they are 21 when they are actually 30!

ZOMG! Not 30! No 30 year old could ever be hot. ::)

How about you save up your money and get a higher class escort....not the 100/hour ones, lol.

addicted
05-28-2011, 11:50 PM
ZOMG! Not 30! No 30 year old could ever be hot. ::)

How about you save up your money and get a higher class escort....not the 100/hour ones, lol.


LOl I like cougars too! Just don't lie about it!

addicted
05-28-2011, 11:52 PM
oh and save my money ...lol I make 650.00 every week, if I see a high class escort, ounce a week.. there goes half my pay check! If only I could make 300.00 for a 1.5 hrs!! Hell I'd suck dick for that price!

NeedsHelp123
05-29-2011, 12:01 AM
obvious troll is obvious

addicted
05-29-2011, 12:13 AM
obvious troll is obvious


What is a troll? I though it was, someone who comes on, posts ounce the never comments, therefore wastes everyone's time?

I don't see how I am a troll!

addicted
05-29-2011, 12:16 AM
Oh and clearly I wouldn't actually suck dick, for 300.00 no one would pay that, I wouldn't know to do it right, and or how to set it up!

Do you guys have to take everything thing I say literally?

yoda57us
05-29-2011, 06:23 AM
What do I need to pay for a good escort? The escort situation in general, just makes me nervous, even more so if it's going to cost more, more chance, that I am going to get mugged, or worse!

Call me paranoid, but when I go to see a escort I leave everything in my vehicle several blocks away, and walk to there place, hide my key in the bottom of my shoe and only bring the cash of the amount in which agreed to pay for the service. I also leave a message on my computer saying where I have gone, hoping that if I am missing long enough someone will find it.

I know I am nuts but, something about paying for a illegal service, were there are no guidelines or protection makes me nervous. Not to mention getting caught by a cop!

If I could at least casually meat the escort first in a public place, and talk to her, I would be a little more relaxed, and willing to pay more, but how would I find that?

Um...Where do I start? Based on what I'm reading you should probably steer clear of any sort of one-on one paid sexual encounter until you actually educate yourself a bit more as to how things work. You are a prime candidate for a rip-off or bust which, by the way becomes LESS likely the more you spend. I am not going to give you a primer as this board is not the proper venue for that. There are plenty of information and review boards for escorts all over the internet. Not sure where you live but, in general, you need to go to at least $250 or more to find girls who are not simply street walkers who have taken their act indoors...

rickdugan
05-29-2011, 06:50 AM
oh and save my money ...lol I make 650.00 every week, if I see a high class escort, ounce a week.. there goes half my pay check! If only I could make 300.00 for a 1.5 hrs!! Hell I'd suck dick for that price!

That kind of money isn't going to get you far by itself, either with regular women or in the p4p arena, so you might want to think about developing the social skills that you claim to lack. Vigorous use of a good gym would probably help you too.

At 25, there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to pull yourself together and get in the market. At your age and income level, becoming a regular at a SC offers little upside and will just get you broke quick.

Anyway, just my :twocents:

3-Legged Man
05-29-2011, 10:07 AM
Good point, I don't usually go on a Sunday because, I work the next day, last Sunday however I didn't have to work Monday, and I don't have to this up and cumming ;) monday! Plus she said come Sunday, I am assuming because they let her getaway with more?? She told me she pays a lot less to the house on Sunday.

I think I will tip her a whole lot more on Sunday.. your making me feel bad for her!

While I can definitely appreciate your enthusiasm following a very pleasurable experience, I can understand the ladies of the group wishing you'd take your commentary to the blue side. I hope you have a great time tonight and write about it... on the Trip Reports thread. The Customer Conversation area is really more of a Q&A kind of forum.

addicted
05-29-2011, 02:20 PM
That kind of money isn't going to get you far by itself, either with regular women or in the p4p arena, so you might want to think about developing the social skills that you claim to lack. Vigorous use of a good gym would probably help you too.

At 25, there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to pull yourself together and get in the market. At your age and income level, becoming a regular at a SC offers little upside and will just get you broke quick.

Anyway, just my :twocents:


LOL... while I understand to a point, I feel kinda depressed that there are that many people out there making the kind of money to support nights out that cost in excess of 300.00!

Yeah it is, and has put me into debt, I owe $4,000.00 on my Visa, and $3,000.00 to my dad. I am not terribly worried as I have money tied up in a house, but still I can't keep going the way I am, I was spending 200-300 each weekend on either a escort, and a couple of lap dances or just a bunch of lap dances, I have since cut it back to every two weeks, 100-150, at the club.

I really do need to kick this habbit, and either start going to church again.. yes you may find it hard to believe that I ounce went to church, I my heart I am still a christian, I have kinda lost the path lately... hopefully there is still hope for me! Maybe I could join a Gym they are expensive as well. I wish there were more free, or low cost events for young singles to meet-up, there are so many people these days.. much like myself who sit in front of a computer reaching out to people and making friends online, but in reality are just deep down lonely inside!

yoda57us
05-29-2011, 02:27 PM
^Honesty you need to just stop going. You should not be putting yourself into debt for the sake of getting laid. Work on the way you present yourself to available, single women who are not working in the sex industry...

addicted
05-29-2011, 02:30 PM
While I can definitely appreciate your enthusiasm following a very pleasurable experience, I can understand the ladies of the group wishing you'd take your commentary to the blue side. I hope you have a great time tonight and write about it... on the Trip Reports thread. The Customer Conversation area is really more of a Q&A kind of forum.


I have done so.. definitely a different reaction over there!
That being said I keep getting responses here, which oddly enough have a lot more intelligence and meaningfulness. I find it strange that everyone is trying to convince me not to frequent the clubs, or escorts, would be like me saying you don't need to service your machine... it would put me out of the job!

I am having second thoughts about going to the club tonight. Someone needs to organize singles events like dances, bowling etc.. In this closed knit society we live in, there must be alot of lonely people out there!

I wonder if I should move to a smaller town, were people actually give a shit, I am from a small town, I live in Vancouver, I always say I to a stranger, they rarely say "Hi" back. I have no problem striking up a conversation in line up in smaller town, when I visit on work related trips, try that here and they look at you like you are a suicide bomber!

addicted
05-29-2011, 03:16 PM
^Honesty you need to just stop going. You should not be putting yourself into debt for the sake of getting laid. Work on the way you present yourself to available, single women who are not working in the sex industry...


I wish I could figreout what went wrong, when I was 12-16 I had no problems hanging out with girls I even went on lots of dates, but I think they thought I was immature... I was at a movie with this one girl who grabbed my balls.. I didn't know what to make of it and froze up, she never went on a date with me again. I think I developed late "sexually" and that's why I didn't know what to do when I was younger, when I was 15-18 I got hit sexually like a ton of bricks! And I unfortunately I started fooling around with my younger sister it was her idea at first, we were just playing husband and wife. Sadly this went on till I was 18 and she moved in with her b/f.

Ever since then dates have been few and far between, and the ones I did have were crazy! One of them was a huge car buff like me, gorgeous girl, super nice, we talked constantly online and met up twice a week to take in a movie or talk about our trucks, I guess we were more like friends, but she would flirt with me send me sexy photos of herself with her shirt off etc.. and we watched porn together, but when I tried to come on to her kiss her hug her, and put my arm around her, she would just give me a cold shoulder. I was just chalking it up to the fact that she had just broke up with an abusive b/f. And eventually we scene each other less and less.
Then the next girl I met up with was 16 I was 21 I met her at a coffee shop were she worked I asked her out we went on a couple of dates , then I got threatened buy three of her older bothers they said they would kill me if I ever touched there sister again, I never laid a hand on her, and when I called her to tell her what jerks her brothers where I never could get a hold of her.

After that I met up with my first online girl we went to assument park, and within a few hours she asked me if I was a virgin, I was like what the hell, that's rather suden isn't it? I reluctantly told her I was ..apparently she could just tell that I was. She though ti was weird that I was 21 and still a virgin! We became friends and she took me to my first strip club, to several adult sex toy stores. We went to the strip club together about ounce a week, and we even slept on the couch together. We really hit it off as friends until on day we hard an argument, and she pulled out a knife, and threatened to slit my throat!

and now I haven't had a date in 3 or 4 years.

Boy do I know how to pick a winner eh?? So not only do I not know how to get a date, even if I did get one I am scared to what will happen.. based on my past experiences. I am also afraid of things going well.. what if she trys to kiss me? The only to girls I have ever kissed are my sister..awkward.. a stripper mouth closed also awkward!

So I guess my life is pretty fucked up and I just don't know how to go about changing it.

Also I wonder if why I like "dry" sex so much, is becuase that was my first form of sexually experimenting, as said and as sick as it was with my sister.

Aslo right around the time that I started fooling around with my sister our parents were arguing alot, and we got to hear all about there sick and demented sex life if in detail... that couldn't have helped matters any!

There is alot that goes on behind closed doors.

mediocrity
05-29-2011, 03:51 PM
^^ This can NOT be real.

If it is, I suggest emergency counseling.

Also, 16 will get you 20, pal.

rickdugan
05-29-2011, 04:44 PM
I've suspected for a while that he has been fishing for reactions. I guess the ones that he received for his earlier posts did not contain enough shock or anger to be satisfying. ;)

slowpoke
05-29-2011, 05:13 PM
Here is an interesting older thread.

http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?p=668010#post668010

Athenathefabulous
05-29-2011, 05:42 PM
Oh and are you really that low of a person that you feel the need to bring someone down to make you feel better? Can't you see I am clearly struggling here.... 25 never a girl friend bla, bla, bla "addicted" as a screen name. I make enough fun of myself, and I am hard on my self, I don't need you telling me what a joke I am on top of that! Lol I already know that... no need to point out the obvious. ;D


LOL studmuffin... I am just joking, by calling my self that, but I am not bad looking, and I am really 25. I just lack the social skills needed to get a girl ... at least one that I don't have to pay hourly ;)

I just don't know how to relate to them or the right place to go meat them.

you posted saying that most strippers have been molested by their parents. i dont know what the hell kind of treatment you expect on here. either you are talking to a bunch of women who are pissed off because we were molested by our daddies or you are talking to a bunch of women who are pissed off at your stereotyping. either way, you are not inviting respectful treatment.

addicted
05-29-2011, 09:48 PM
^^ This can NOT be real.

If it is, I suggest emergency counseling.

Also, 16 will get you 20, pal.

I wish it wasn't real.. ask your self why the hell would I make that up?


And here 16 is legal age of consent, and I didn't even kiss her, I was still a virgin then, and did not plan on loosing it till I was married... at that piont

addicted
05-29-2011, 09:50 PM
I've suspected for a while that he has been fishing for reactions. I guess the ones that he received for his earlier posts did not contain enough shock or anger to be satisfying. ;)


Whatever... I just spilled my life story and this is what you have to say?? I am trying to tell you why I do the things I do, and why I act like I do, and my reasons for going to the strip clubs. And this is what you say?

addicted
05-29-2011, 09:56 PM
you posted saying that most strippers have been molested by their parents. i dont know what the hell kind of treatment you expect on here. either you are talking to a bunch of women who are pissed off because we were molested by our daddies or you are talking to a bunch of women who are pissed off at your stereotyping. either way, you are not inviting respectful treatment.


OK I read that on a thread here some where? Some girl said "most off us have been molested my our dads" I have also had a stripper say "yeah most of us have daddy issues"

I didn't mean to post that as a stereotype, I'm sorry, that is rude on my part... it would be like saying all cops eat donuts, it's what you hear on the street, but certainly not all cops eat donuts, it's also rude to say.

I'm sorry for when I said that. Despite what you say, I am not hear to anger people. I am hear to get "help" and learn some things.

Athenathefabulous
05-29-2011, 10:00 PM
OK I read that on a thread here some where? Some girl said "most off us have been molested my our dads" I have also had a stripper say "yeah most of us have daddy issues"

I didn't mean to post that as a stereotype, I'm sorry, that is rude on my part... it would be like saying all cops eat donuts, it's what you hear on the street, but certainly not all cops eat donuts, it's also rude to say.

I'm sorry for when I said that. Despite what you say, I am not hear to anger people. I am hear to get "help" and learn some things.

generalizing a group to say all ___ eat donuts is a far cry from saying all ____ have been sexually abused by their fathers as children.

you, sir, are an idiot.

addicted
05-29-2011, 10:02 PM
generalizing a group to say all ___ eat donuts is a far cry from saying all ____ have been sexually abused by their fathers as children.

you, sir, are an idiot.



I told you I was wrong that it was rude and I was sorry, what more do you want from me? Sorry for my cop analogy, maybe you have a better one?>??

YOU CLEARLY MISSED THE POINT OF MY APOLOGY

4everresolutions
05-30-2011, 12:04 AM
^Because it wasn't a true apology. You were justifying your sterotyping by comparing strippers being molested to cops eating donuts. Kinda cheapens the whole sincerity of the "I'm Sorry" thing.

Also, you fooled around sexually with your sister?

Sexuality counselling near you: http://www.aasect.org/results.asp?state=AZ

Dude, you sound like you have some issues you need to talk through. Take that $150/week and put it towards counselling and a gym membership. Get yourself a real and proper girlfriend.

ASSLover
05-30-2011, 12:24 AM
http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ll992g2S0I1qafrh6.jpg

mediocrity
05-31-2011, 04:13 AM
I wish it wasn't real.. ask your self why the hell would I make that up?


And here 16 is legal age of consent, and I didn't even kiss her, I was still a virgin then, and did not plan on loosing it till I was married... at that piont

For fun, for reactions, to exercise your imagination, because it's the internet. The usual.

lemiwinks31
05-31-2011, 02:48 PM
just read this whole thread. And this was my favorite post:



... I don't know what to say... I'm sure someone else will skewer you good... I'm speechless...



pathetic....


considering the source of this post is also the author of this gem

http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=146484

Vyanka
05-31-2011, 02:48 PM
LOl I like cougars too! Just don't lie about it!

A woman who is 5 years older than you is not considered cougar.

And wtf you got against hot 30 yr olds.. hmph. :P Most late 20's - 30+ dancers I know are usually the hottest ones in the club too. Must be a regional thing. ;)

BTW, I think you should save your money and get a nice escort. Those are professionals, I doubt you'll be bored. I find it hard to believe one refused to just act like a stripper too. lol.

Ay, you're an offense to most strippers and escorts.

penandink1019
05-31-2011, 03:09 PM
Most late 20's - 30+ dancers I know are usually the hottest ones in the club too. Must be a regional thing. ;)



Most women don't know their power before 30. A thirty-something lady is a force of nature. }:D

Cú Chulainn
06-03-2011, 04:31 AM
OP, probably not going to say anything that people here haven't said to you already.

I'm going to take you at face value, and presume you are being genuine.

The best advice you have got so far is to visit a counsellor. Its cheaper than a stripper and will improve your mental health no end. You have major issues with sexuality, self-esteem, confidence and intimacy.

You won't find the help you need at the strip club. You are trying to fill the void of lack of intimacy in your life by paying someone to be nice to you. Its not financially viable, and its not good for your mental well-being. Strip clubs are a great place if you a) Know its a fantasy that you are there to enjoy, and b) you have the financial means to maintain it. You have neither.

Thinking that you are not good enough to get a girlfriend is nonsense. You have a job, you are young and I bet you're not that bad looking. You need to fill your life with positive things. Join a gym. Take up a new sport, perhaps cycling, or mountain climbimg and join a club. If you're not athletic, and have no interest in being, then take up something else like a book club, or even dancing lessons (there are tons of women there and there are a dearth of males for dance partners.) You said you are a big car buff. theres a ton of clubs for other people who are car nuts like you who you can meet up with and talk to.

Get involved with charity or volunteer work. Vancouver is a big city with tons of stuff you could be doing with your time. You'll be so busy and exhausted you won't have time for the strip club.

You need to work on being a better person. Don't do the things I listed above with the intention of getting a girlfriend. Do it so you become a more fulfilled and interesting person, and then you'll find the girls being attracted to you. Don't say 'thats a good idea, I might try that some time' Do it NOW.

As for going back to church... well it seems to have a positive influence on some people, but I think for the most part its a place that makes you feel ashamed for being human. There is nothing wrong with sex or sexuality, and it should be something to enjoy and not feel guilty about. Anyway, religion is a debate for another thread, I'm not here to preach.

The most important thing you can do is to see a counselor. The guys and girls on this site are not qualified, and we can't help you. The dry humping girl in the strip club certainly won't, so save your money for someone who is trained to help you with your mental health.