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_Avery_
08-08-2011, 04:18 PM
Cute boots! ^^
4everresolutions
08-08-2011, 04:34 PM
I'm 5'3 and weigh 10 stone (140 ish lbs?Not sure). I never have given a dance and had a bad feeling about it-men always think I'm hot and fabulous!It's the way you work it! Men like different things!http://i1111.photobucket.com/albums/h476/raven820707/226157_10150174145964430_511899429_6588639_60214_n .jpg
Outfit and body are great, just tone down the makeup. Not so much blue on your cheekbones.
You look really good for 10st at that height! I'm hella surprised! I would have guessed 8 and a half or 8st10.
zivlet
08-09-2011, 02:16 PM
Aww thanks people! EVERYONE tells me I do not look as if I weigh as much as I do. Everyone. But I never want to believe them because, I think I may become lazy about keeping in shape then..
Lol ^ thanks. I'm alternative in the way I dress etc. I tend to have very crazy eye make up. That's pretty tame :)
Jay12
08-25-2011, 03:42 AM
I don't want to get smaller!
Elusive21
08-25-2011, 09:26 AM
Aww thanks people! EVERYONE tells me I do not look as if I weigh as much as I do. Everyone. But I never want to believe them because, I think I may become lazy about keeping in shape then..
Lol ^ thanks. I'm alternative in the way I dress etc. I tend to have very crazy eye make up. That's pretty tame :)
yes you look amazing!
i saw your thread in the Newbie subforum, and just wanted to say that I think you're going to do great at work. Good luck with everything!
zivlet
08-26-2011, 09:04 AM
Elusive21 thank you that's so nice of you to say. I would be lying if I said I was 100% confident about this new club tonight, I've been told they can be difficult to work for. I will keep you informed! xxx
Optimist
08-29-2011, 01:15 AM
Those boots look crazy hot! They make me want to whip somebody's ass or stomp someone for money. Good times, good times. :yes:
missplayful
08-29-2011, 01:47 AM
27526
27527mmm yeah i am thick i cant deny:! i gained tons of weight since i moved USA...
The_Ecdysiast
08-29-2011, 06:18 AM
You look great :D
27526
27527mmm yeah i am thick i cant deny:! i gained tons of weight since i moved USA...
shift_6x
08-29-2011, 03:01 PM
27526
27527mmm yeah i am thick i cant deny:! i gained tons of weight since i moved USA...
My body is similar to urs only w 34 f/g boobs. I dont really consider u thick. Thick would be adding 20 or so pounds to those pics. I may not be skinny but to me a size 4/6 isnt thick. But thats just MHO.
missplayful
08-29-2011, 10:57 PM
My body is similar to urs only w 34 f/g boobs. I dont really consider u thick. Thick would be adding 20 or so pounds to those pics. I may not be skinny but to me a size 4/6 isnt thick. But thats just MHO.
Baby i am size 8 and 140 lbs 5'6 ...i guess i am not really skinny. actually one guy cold me such a thick chic couple days ago... i am not sure if is it a good thing or not... i guess i carry my weight well and equally...Still i wanna prefer to lose weight
shift_6x
08-30-2011, 09:04 AM
Baby i am size 8 and 140 lbs 5'6 ...i guess i am not really skinny. actually one guy cold me such a thick chic couple days ago... i am not sure if is it a good thing or not... i guess i carry my weight well and equally...Still i wanna prefer to lose weight
I hear u. I am 5'4" and 133 pounds. Some people "consider" me thick too which I personally dont agree with. To me when I weighed **153 ***3-4 years ago and I was a size 8/10 at 5'4" I was thick, not at 133 like I am now. People's perspective of "thick" is a little off. U may be two inches taller than me but like me u have such a tiny waist like me or appears to be so that I thought u were a 4/6 like me.
shift_6x
08-30-2011, 09:09 AM
There is such a huge misconception in strip clubs. I am sorry but the majority tries to rule too much. "The majority at times are the skinny tiny girls who think that bc they are skinny they r better." I think believing in yourself and knowing u are beautiful at any weight even if it isnt what 70% of the girls weigh is what reflects positively on the runway and will ultimately make u money.
I am not in my 20s anymore and honestly the girls I have seen near my age who are ultra skinny at a size 0/2 actually "look older" bc they r now in their 30s and those extra pounds if they had them say 10 or so then they would look younger. Just MHO.
Elusive21
08-30-2011, 09:13 AM
Wow you have great hips missplayful. That's the kind of body many guys like : an hourglass figure.
Natalllia
08-30-2011, 09:38 AM
There is such a huge misconception in strip clubs. I am sorry but the majority tries to rule too much. "The majority at times are the skinny tiny girls who think that bc they are skinny they r better." I think believing in yourself and knowing u are beautiful at any weight even if it isnt what 70% of the girls weigh is what reflects positively on the runway and will ultimately make u money.
I am not in my 20s anymore and honestly the girls I have seen near my age who are ultra skinny at a size 0/2 actually "look older" bc they r now in their 30s and those extra pounds if they had them say 10 or so then they would look younger. Just MHO.
This is a great point. As women get into their 30s, 40s, and beyond, and the skin loses its elasticity, I think being underweight is EXTREMELY unflattering. A little layer of fat under the skin helps to fill out facial features nicely. Women with no body fat - especially as they get older - tend to have a kind of "skelator" look that is not very appealing.
I've found that this is especially true for women who diet down to a weight that is less than ideal for their body type, rather than women who are just naturally very thin and always have been.
shift_6x
08-30-2011, 09:56 AM
This is a great point. As women get into their 30s, 40s, and beyond, and the skin loses its elasticity, I think being underweight is EXTREMELY unflattering. A little layer of fat under the skin helps to fill out facial features nicely. Women with no body fat - especially as they get older - tend to have a kind of "skelator" look that is not very appealing.
I've found that this is especially true for women who diet down to a weight that is less than ideal for their body type, rather than women who are just naturally very thin and always have been.
I agree. Thanks for speaking up. And like u said the women who "diet down to a weight that is less that ideal for their body type" arent always making the best decision.
I made that decision and I can not say it was correct. Looking back it wasnt a good one for many reasons #1--It wasnt realistic..The lowest weight I maintained for a short period of time was 115. It may have looked ok or nice to some but some girls commented that i looked like a "stick with giant boobs". Truthfully it was just a matter of time before I gained that 10 to 15 pounds back bc I am not a tiny girl with tiny bones who at 5'4" usually weighs 115.
This is not an attack to the skinny girls. This is me pointing out that I failed to accept that I have a medium build and naturally I AM NOT MEANT TO WEIGH 115. Starving was not the way to go. I did start to have mild "skeleton" looks and I was mistaken to lose the weight. This was a mistake I made and I own it and accept it.
I agree in ur 30s, 40s, and 50s having a few extra pounds truly can be beneficial to ones' looks as long as exercise and eating in moderation are included in one's lifestyle.
shift_6x
08-30-2011, 10:01 AM
^ I have been between 125-153 for the past 5-6 years and I am now at 133. That 115 was due to going through some majorly stressful life changes and I lost my appetite which wasnt healthy and didnt last very long at all. When Im deeply upset I stop eating.
Natalllia
08-30-2011, 10:14 AM
^^ I'm glad you're in a healthier place now. I go the other way when I'm depressed and/or stressed, and I put on a bunch of weight. Neither way is particularly good for us.
And I agree 100% - this is NOT an attack on naturally skinny women. It's almost always the women who deprive themselves and are way too thin for their bone structure that end up looking sunken-in and older as a result of being too thin. I think that since our culture is so youth obsessed, some women try to "compete" with younger women by doing certain things to themselves - like starving themselves- and the result can be unnattractive as well as unhealthy.
JadenJ
08-30-2011, 01:35 PM
I am 5'5" and feel sooo nervous to go back to work! I still wouldn't classify myself as "chubby" but I def could lose a few. How do you girls not cave into the pressure to be teeny tiny thin?? I mean my butt and boobs have never looked better, but I wish I could lose just the pouch on my stomach. Any confidence building tips?
shift_6x
08-30-2011, 03:07 PM
I am 5'5" and feel sooo nervous to go back to work! I still wouldn't classify myself as "chubby" but I def could lose a few. How do you girls not cave into the pressure to be teeny tiny thin?? I mean my butt and boobs have never looked better, but I wish I could lose just the pouch on my stomach. Any confidence building tips?
Before I go on the runway I place my mind in a place that supports the fact that I am beautiful, I have a good heart, I am in love with my own self and truthfully it carries me through most nights. Sometimes I look at the skinnier girls and I see their insecurity on the runway. My confidence no matter what they may think of me or my body outshines them. I block them out when necessary. You have to be strong minded to survive this business and it isnt always an easy task--not for me not for anyone.
zivlet
08-31-2011, 10:15 AM
I am 5'5" and feel sooo nervous to go back to work! I still wouldn't classify myself as "chubby" but I def could lose a few. How do you girls not cave into the pressure to be teeny tiny thin?? I mean my butt and boobs have never looked better, but I wish I could lose just the pouch on my stomach. Any confidence building tips?
My belly's my problem area too.
I just remind myself of my achievements, the fact that I am bisexual and I fancy women with curves, so there's got to be men that do too! (note!I know many thin women that are beautiful as well don't get me wrong!)
I remind myself that much as I may put myself down in private, nobody has to know that. They all see me as this sexual, intelligent, confident woman.So I am going to act like her!
gypsydancer
09-06-2011, 07:54 PM
this thread is great :) i have been out of dancing for a bit over a year and am going to be going back soon. i am feeling insecure bc i gained 20 lbs. i am 5'2" and 138 lbs. 36-28-37"
*~aurora~*
01-18-2013, 08:45 PM
I hope it's okay to necromance this post! Seems like a really awesome discussion. I'm currently around a size 14 and weigh 213 lbs. O_O According to my diet site I've lost 14 lbs since October, and I'm working hard to get down to where my body likes to be (170's/US size 10/12) before I try for any regular clubs. I definitely don't look like I weigh 200+ according to some people I trust not to BS me, but I'm still putting in the treadmill time several times a week. I think I do have a lot of muscle, so that makes it hard to tell.
That other thread made me super sad. I'm 5ft7 but I don't think my body will ever be less than 140 lbs. I'm just not built that way. I gave up sugar completely about a month ago, and my diet has mostly consisted of low carb whole paleo foods for a year or so now, but I'm just not losing as fast as I want. So now I'm going to starting IF and strict low carb in the hopes that I will lose ~35 lbs before I try to start working for real in May. I hate that I gained so much weight in grad school. :( Depression has been horrible, even trying medicine and stuff (which also made the weight problem worse!). I'm still horribly depressed most days and it's usually all I can do to drag myself to work or school, but the thought of stripping makes me happy enough to stick with a strict diet.
dezire
01-19-2013, 01:17 PM
this thread is great :) i have been out of dancing for a bit over a year and am going to be going back soon. i am feeling insecure bc i gained 20 lbs. i am 5'2" and 138 lbs. 36-28-37"
My hips r the same as urs...And Im still getting good shifts....I know this is an old post but keep ur chin up..
Odette
01-21-2013, 03:24 PM
I hope it's okay to necromance this post! Seems like a really awesome discussion. I'm currently around a size 14 and weigh 213 lbs. O_O According to my diet site I've lost 14 lbs since October, and I'm working hard to get down to where my body likes to be (170's/US size 10/12) before I try for any regular clubs. I definitely don't look like I weigh 200+ according to some people I trust not to BS me, but I'm still putting in the treadmill time several times a week. I think I do have a lot of muscle, so that makes it hard to tell.
That other thread made me super sad. I'm 5ft7 but I don't think my body will ever be less than 140 lbs. I'm just not built that way. I gave up sugar completely about a month ago, and my diet has mostly consisted of low carb whole paleo foods for a year or so now, but I'm just not losing as fast as I want. So now I'm going to starting IF and strict low carb in the hopes that I will lose ~35 lbs before I try to start working for real in May. I hate that I gained so much weight in grad school. :( Depression has been horrible, even trying medicine and stuff (which also made the weight problem worse!). I'm still horribly depressed most days and it's usually all I can do to drag myself to work or school, but the thought of stripping makes me happy enough to stick with a strict diet.
I agree and I can wholeheartedly relate to your post! Depression is shitty for gaining weight...but excersise helps with both, really! A friend of mine kept telling me this for years and I never listened, so just keep at it! Paleo is great and really effective as well :) Dancing has also been a huge motivator for me too, to lose weight and get in better shape, espescially over the last year,I'm kind of glad you resurected this old thread! After I posted earlier, two years ago, I gained 40 lbs due to having to battle a crazy school workload along with emotional stress from many relationships going bad all at once, and resulting depression. And I lost it +10 more lbs this year :) And still losing btw, And I am doing GREAT at work. I get a lot of compliments on my figure now, even though I'm still not, and never will be skinny. But my stomach is flat now! Or it is most of the time...almost there! My goal is anywhere between 145 and 155 (I'm 5' 7" and 160ish now).I have yet to add in an excersise regimen, so I think I'll do that and I'll probably get there! But I am honestly very happy with how I look right now, 40-30-40, an 8 some places and a 10 others (i <3 my boobies!). I would LOVE to fit into a 6 eventually but even a solid 8 is totally fine for me I think, I have great proportions to pull it off. Never felt sexier.
This was pretty much all diet with just moderate excersise due to a neccessarily active city lifestyle (i.e. I take the opportunity to walk and bike a lot when it's not the dead of winter) My attitude towards food is completely different now than it was before. Instead of looking at it as for pleasure if you look at it as fuel it switches how your brain percieves it I think...I crave more nutritious food now like meat and fruit and vegetables. I don't crave junk or sugar a lot, but when I do, I indulge. Same goes for smoking cigarettes. I probably smoke a cigarette or two a month and boy do I enjoy them when I do. Everything in moderation. That and:
I started smoking pot.
I know that sounds counter productive to losing weight, but, it depends on WHY you are overweight. For me, it had been for most of my life, and I had been trying and trying and trying and always dieting and excersising without a lot of results finally a friend mentioned to me about this whole switching your perception of food to fuel thing. And it clicked right away. As soon as I started to associate "food" with "fuel" and "nutrition" and "neccessary" instead of "reward" or "awesome" or "delicious", I noticed how often I craved food, or certain food that wasn't for fuel reasons. And as the concept sunk in I stopped eating outside of reasons for fuel, and therefore my calorie intake just naturally decreased and I lost weight. I used to eat more and shittier food when stressed, instead, I started smoking pot. Mary doesn't affect your logic abilities, so if you've already decided that you're only going to eat for fuel before you toke up, when munchies come knocking it's pretty easy to remind yourself of your promise and eat something healthy at least, and not at all if you just had a meal for example. But because you're nice and stoned, and in my case, not stressed anymore, I actually found that smoking decreased cravings for junk food, though not initially, over time, and also helped me manage my stress. I'm not going to try and encourage anyone else to try it because I know it is illegal and also that some people just don't react in the same way, or well at all to it, but it was just my experience. Helped me kick my psychological issues with food to the curb.