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yoda57us
06-04-2011, 04:54 AM
Now...I was at a friends show when a girl stumbled up to him in mid-song, and said "this is for you!" so loudly the mic picked it up..and shoved something in his shirt pocket. He pulled it out and said...I knew being a musician would pay off! Now thats how you get a phone number!" lol..when she stublmed off he said..."Isnt alcohol is a beautiful thing?"..and then kept on playing. LoL


LMAO! Thirty or so years ago at a dive bar just south of Boston the same thing happened to me. We had just finished our encore of "Freebird" when a cute early twenty-something brunette in an early 80's appropriate halter top slipper her phone number into the pocket of my jeans. }:D

Unfortunately my then girlfriend and now ex wife was sitting five feet away and confiscated the digits...:'(

lfr
06-06-2011, 12:10 PM
If you are a single attractive girl by herself in a bar you have a bullseye on yourself that can be seen from outer space. Friday and Saturday nights are prime time and imo the worst times to try and actually meet someone. Too much pressure, testosterone, competition amongst the guys, and too much alcohol. I suggest you go to a casual place on a weekday afternoon or evening when there isn't so much pressure and the alcohol isn't flowing as fast. Play darts, bowling, or pool by yourself and you will have guys stopping by looking to join in. Use the considerable skills you learned as a dancer wisely. I also suggest you look into other activities as mentioned previously.
yeah, I agree with this. I mean, it does depend on the type of bar in the first place and what you are looking to do and what the area is like. now that it's summertime, obviously there are nice outdoorsy places on the water or not and there are still divey places where you can generally go and just collect your thoughts and everything else in between. I think that may also help to determine what type of guys you may find. it's not always accurate, but it kinda helps.

if you live near a big city like me, New York, the choices are endless, and more than not, you will have someone to talk to even going alone. *thinking* maybe like some sc's it's best to get to know the bartender first so that (if no one's around, they can chat) and they may be able to help ya or steer ya clear of good guys or bad guys.

ArmySGT.
07-03-2011, 08:20 PM
Hi blues, although I am technically on a dating break I still need some advice on where to met guys. I'm no longer a dancer so most of my fridays and saturdays are free. I don't want to online date. I have heard that guys hang out in sports bars in droves. I have never went to a bar alone, ever. The thought of doing this is kinda freaky but I really don't meet many men otherwise. Even if I met a guy it's usually in passing like a gym class instructor or a clerk of some kind -not guys that are in a position where they can ask me out, I've never just been asked out at a grocery store or gym anyway. I am not looking for a one night hook up, rather a situation where a guy will approach me, get my number and ask me out for a date. I'm looking for guys in their early to mid-30's. Keep in mind I don't have girlfriends I can go with.
Will it look totally weird if I walk in alone and get a drink at the bar?
Please advise and also add any other ideas for meeting guys.

Hi,
No it really wouldn't be weird or out of place for a woman to go to a bar alone. Now alot a Guys (especially younger ones ) may and I repeat may think you are there for the same reason they are. To get laid. If you are well, Win.

Now what are you looking for in a Guy? Most Ladies have a list longer than my arm of non negotiable traits that only begins to get shorter as she gets older, her girlfriends get married, and her chances of bearing children get smaller.

Do you want a sports guy or an athlete? I mean you may find both at a sports bar but drunken past frat boy with the starter beer belly is going to out number the athletes by a fair margin.

Then again ultimate frisbee in the park or hash harriers running clubs are not likely to be stocked by couch taters.

Maybe you want an intellectual? Seminars and the college library. Theater buff?

Maybe you want an outdoors guy to take you camping? Then the map store, an ad for a fellow hiker at REI, a gear swap meet even.

My point being if you have things you like to do and would like a partner go to those type events. The meeting will take care of itself.