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velvet
06-02-2011, 07:39 PM
LMAO shhhhhhhhhhhhh i'm so excited for the update tonight.

me too;D

FallenAngel22
06-03-2011, 12:45 PM
Ok. Here it is.

Deep down I was kind of hoping that I would not feel the same way about her, like Athena513 said that it may just be a phase or infatuation. But I guess the heart wants what it wants.

We met for dinner and talked til the restaurant closed. Being with her in the "real" world was definitely different than being in the club. Since we didn't have the normal distractions of the club, we were able to really enjoy each others company, one-on-one, for the first time. She just got off of work herself, so she was in her business attire - she looked so cute! And of course she commented on how she wasn't used to seeing me in so much clothes....I think we made an adorable couple ;)

I pretty much layed it on the line about how I felt about her. She said that she had no idea based on our interaction at the club that I felt this way. She straight up told me that she never takes anything that happens in the club seriously - that it's all part of the game/fantasy. Well, I got news for her - sometimes you get more than you bargain for!

I know some here would not approve, but I still really want to be with her. I'm not sure where we go from here - she's the one that has to decide if she wants to take it to the next level. I also know that there are alot of considerations to take into account. She admitted she's no angel (duh!) and I know that. We didn't have sex or anything. We kissed & hugged and went our seperate ways.

She said she'll be back at the club on Saturday. I'm not scheduled to work then, but I'm going to do a walk on and surprise her. I hope I'm not coming on too strong (I have a bad habit of sometimes going "over the top" when my emotions are in overdrive mode.)


So time will tell, I guess.


I also asked her if she read any of this thread, and she said that she saw the first few posts when someone posted this link in blue territory, but that was it. She prefers to stay in blue (I finally know what that is now!)

camille27
06-03-2011, 03:44 PM
details about the kissing and what you talked about. what did you end up wearing.

Brandi_Lynn
06-04-2011, 05:19 AM
If you guys exchanged numbers or something -maybe wait for her to do something. Leave the ball in her court -especially as one of the girls questioned whether she was in a relationship or not. Play it safe maybe?

Btw, great for you that you two had such a lovely evening. :)

FallenAngel22
06-04-2011, 08:42 PM
If you guys exchanged numbers or something -maybe wait for her to do something. Leave the ball in her court -especially as one of the girls questioned whether she was in a relationship or not. Play it safe maybe?

Btw, great for you that you two had such a lovely evening. :)


Thanx! :)
We exchanged numbers a few months ago, but I tried to not text her too often. She works alot and I didn't want to bother her too much.

Yes, she is in a LTR. My head tells me one thing, and my heart tells me something else. It's like the angel & devil on each shoulder. I don't know which one will wind up winning.




details about the kissing and what you talked about. what did you end up wearing.

lol - do you really want the sordid details? ;)

camille27
06-05-2011, 12:56 AM
yes!!! you can pm me if you don't want to kiss and tell all publicly.

FallenAngel22
06-05-2011, 06:39 PM
yes!!! you can pm me if you don't want to kiss and tell all publicly.


Well, ironically, our time in the club is waaaaay more X-rated than anything we did that night. I don't think I can publically post too much about THAT! :O

Mostly we just talked. First it was about StripperWeb (were all you guys ears burning? ;)). Then I pretty much had a long monologue about my feelings for her. Then we spent most of the rest of our time together talking about what happens now - both inside and outside the club.

It's funny, and maybe a little bit of an omen, but when I went to the club on Saturday, she was there and surrounded, as usual, by alot of girls. I didn't even get a chance to talk with her - I kept my distance, and I'm sure she didn't even realize that I was there. Maybe it's a sign of what's to come :-\.

Brandi_Lynn
06-05-2011, 06:47 PM
Well, ironically, our time in the club is waaaaay more X-rated than anything we did that night. I don't think I can publically post too much about THAT! :O

Mostly we just talked. First it was about StripperWeb (were all you guys ears burning? ;)). Then I pretty much had a long monologue about my feelings for her. Then we spent most of the rest of our time together talking about what happens now - both inside and outside the club.

It's funny, and maybe a little bit of an omen, but when I went to the club on Saturday, she was there and surrounded, as usual, by alot of girls. I didn't even get a chance to talk with her - I kept my distance, and I'm sure she didn't even realize that I was there. Maybe it's a sign of what's to come :-\.

I'm sorry to hear that. Try to keep grounded. If I were you since there is a relationship involved then you should prob def leave the ball in her court -thats a touchy situation obviously. I always look at the Karma thing, u know.

FallenAngel22
06-05-2011, 07:11 PM
I'm sorry to hear that. Try to keep grounded. If I were you since there is a relationship involved then you should prob def leave the ball in her court -thats a touchy situation obviously. I always look at the Karma thing, u know.


I hear ya - karma is something I normally wouldn't want to mess with..... but at the same time, I'm getting restless. I honestly don't know if I should just sit back, or maybe I should take the initiative.

I know I'm just complicating both our lives, but I just can't seem to help myself. I was even thinking of taking some time off to help clear my head, but right now my money's pretty consistant, and I don't want to mess with that.
I'm very confused. I know that I can't be the center of her life, but I want to be in there somewhere!

DesuvsDeath
06-06-2011, 02:43 PM
^Before you go taking the initiative think of this - are you going to be okay perusing someone you think you love... knowing what her ITC activities are like? Knowing that she's with someone else that she goes home to every night?

Obviously she has no intention of giving those things up at this point in time... so you have to think about whether or not you're willing to put yourself in a situation where you're giving 100% and getting back 20%...

UV69
06-06-2011, 03:18 PM
Just don't bake her any friendship anniversary cupcakes cuz trust me she might eat your cupcakes & even play along, but if you are willing to sell yourself short it's never going to be more then what it is.

camille27
06-06-2011, 06:03 PM
friendship anniversary, i'll be goddamned.

Camateur
06-06-2011, 10:55 PM
If this person was a guy; everyone and their mother would be discouraging you right now. Cheating on his partner, doing ITC things and not even being ashamed about it, doing otc club stuff and throwing off a he's just not that into you vibe. Don't you want better than this?

DesuvsDeath
06-06-2011, 11:18 PM
^I'd noticed that as well.
If it were a man people would be talking to her like she's fucking stupid... but since it's a woman... somehow... they're encouraging it?

This thread blows my fucking mind.

tampadancer
06-07-2011, 04:51 AM
Initially I thought the crush was kind of cute, but I have to agree with Camateur and Desuvs...the fact that she is involved and there are apparently some interesting itc activities that have taken place - people would be responding very differently if this were a male customer. Somehow, because this is a female custie, it's all okay? Gender bias, much?

camille27
06-07-2011, 06:39 AM
homosexuality is not heterosexuality. as one could deduce by the contributions posted by the lesbians in this thread.



If this person was a guy; everyone and their mother would be discouraging you right now. Cheating on his partner, doing ITC things and not even being ashamed about it, doing otc club stuff and throwing off a he's just not that into you vibe. Don't you want better than this?

UV69
06-07-2011, 10:52 AM
Hey i'm a lesbian, but girls with gfs & a playlist I don't chase after or encourage any1 2 fall 4--unless every1 involved is completely openminded poly & in2 sharing. However I don't think that is the case, but I could be wrong it's not any of my personal business & if a girl wants to settle for number 6 on a rotation cuz she's inlove then so be it. Just stay away from thinking it's going 2 change.

I can't hate I have many open casual relationships w/ my lovers & if I have a gf I might be open to a having poly relationship were I'm #1 & the rest r fun, but I wouldn't cheat or lead any1 on & it would be on them if they got hurt playing w/ fire cuz I play by the rules set between me & mine when i have a gf. It's really as simple as that.

Speaking of which I asked my coworker crush to me my date to the Katy Perry concert after making out w/ another dancer who works at our closest completion that comes in to flirt w/me. Anyhow she still said yes even though she doesn't want to make Secret jealous, but I let her know Secret is not my girl just another custie who flirting w/ is good 4 my tips & my crush got it. I kinda felt bad about it 4 a sec. I was kissing another girl infront of my crush, but I watch her flirting w/ custies all day. So it's a given if we are gonna hookup knowing each other the way we do that we'ld have to be pretty open minded at least about whatever goes on at work to an extent, but whatever rules we set if we choice to become gfs or anything is really up to whatever we feel would be best for us.

I do feel bi & lesbian girls are more open minded about different rules of commitment then str8 couples in general, but cheating is still cheating if it's behind some1 back or goes against the rules of the relationship she has with her gf. I don't approve on that kind of shady selfish trifling at all.

i'm single so I have no rules .However I really hope it goes there 4 me & my crush, cuz when I kiss her there are the fireworks going ;) Which of course I kissed her right then telling her that she knows that I like her like her & she told me that I was making her nervous that otc she really is shy. Which I found adorable that I made the biggest badass on stage admit to being nervous & shy w/me. I think it's a good start.

FallenAngel22
06-07-2011, 12:17 PM
We have been talking almost daily and we're supposed to have dinner on Friday. Judging by her demeanor lately I'm expecting getting dumped.I know hindsight is 20/20, and I regret that I didnt just leave well enough alone and just be happy with what we had in the club. Maybe this whole emotional rollercoaster ride for me is moot.I wont even get into any double standards regarding male vs female customers....I honestly was not even thinking about gender. And obviously people here have very strong feelings regarding this issue. Its good to get a variety of different feedback. I know that this is a touchy subject.
But maybe its over before it even began.:-[

DesuvsDeath
06-07-2011, 02:30 PM
homosexuality is not heterosexuality. as one could deduce by the contributions posted by the lesbians in this thread.

Oh this is such bullshit.
So you're saying it's okay to steal someone's spouse if they're gay because being gay is different?

It's not fucking different and it's not okay EVER.
It's a dick move no matter what your sexuality.


(No offense, OP. ;))

4everresolutions
06-07-2011, 02:36 PM
Initially I thought the crush was cute, but you're falling in too heavy.

It's not going to 'begin' and it never WAS going to 'begin' - she is with someone else. It was sweet of her to agree to meet you for dinner/coffee/whatever and hear out your feelings. Most people who develope big crushes on their customers don't get that luxery. But now that she is aware of your feelings that doesn't give you a green-light pass to pursue a realtionship. Were you really expecting something exclusive out of this? Even if you say you weren't, you're acting like internally, you were.

My advice is to back off. It's a crush. A big crush, that ended in a meeting in a cute way (via SW), but a crush still and all. Stop hoping for the impossible and get your head screwed on your shoulders right girl! You'll find someone else. Someone who is able to dedicate themselves completely to you; not a SC customer who is in a relationship.

Cheer up and try and end things amicably. No tears. XOXO!

Amy Lee
06-08-2011, 02:38 PM
Yum! (at the title ^^^^):-*

UV69
06-08-2011, 03:30 PM
What I haven't read is how the wiffie/gf feels about this?

If she is aware & cool with it so am I, but if not well then there shouldn't of been a date to begin with & it's 4 the best it's over before going anywhere else with it.

Crushes can be harmless, but usually when some1 gets infatuated & loses touch with the reality of the possibilities of what they are getting themselves involved with well they call them crushes for a reason.

Camateur
06-09-2011, 01:28 AM
homosexuality is not heterosexuality. as one could deduce by the contributions posted by the lesbians in this thread.

Huh? well, I think that is making a leap; people who are approving of this are probably people who see nothing wrong with cheating whether it be homosexual or heterosexual. It may also be people who are enticed by the erotic novelty of the situation without really thinking of the world of hurt all parties may be in for. Homosexuality is JUST LIKE heterosexuality in that it involves real people who can have their real hearts broken.

FallenAngel22
06-09-2011, 12:11 PM
She told me that her wife knows about some of the stripclub visits, but not all of them. And I'm pretty sure that the wife doesn't know what goes on in the club. Some of the dancers at my club tell me that I should go for a sugar momma/ sugar baby kinda deal with her. I just can't imagine doing that. I can totally see her as a sugar momma, but I could never pull off the whole "sugar baby" persona. It's just not me.

When we meet on Friday I've decided to tell her that if I can't have the type of relationship with her that I had hoped for, then at least I'd like for us to go back to what we had in the club (and maybe an occasion dinner or drink after work). I know now that she's never going to leave her wife, and I know that I'm not the first (and probably won't be the last) dancer to pass through her life. I know alot of you guys will rip me a new one for saying this, but I really wouldn't mind being the other woman for awhile. Maybe it will help me get this out of my system. Don't rip my head off - I'm just being honest. But I don't think that's going to happen anyways, so it doesn't matter.

At this point I'm hoping that I haven't lost her completely through all of this :(.

DesuvsDeath
06-09-2011, 02:52 PM
^If you can be happy with that, you can be happy with that.

But you're selling yourself short and probably deserve better.

camille27
06-09-2011, 06:37 PM
k. i don't have time to explain the implications of a heteronormative society to you, mostly because i don't give a shit that you choose to maintain your ignorance.

i do find it a little ironic that a heterosexual (re: you) are telling a homosexual (re: me) that homosexuality and heterosexuality are just alike.

all of you are doing too much. who is cheating? who is having their heart broken? who is stealing spouses? yall are being all kinds of extra, catching feelings like someone fucked your man. there is way too much projection going on here.



Huh? well, I think that is making a leap; people who are approving of this are probably people who see nothing wrong with cheating whether it be homosexual or heterosexual. It may also be people who are enticed by the erotic novelty of the situation without really thinking of the world of hurt all parties may be in for. Homosexuality is JUST LIKE heterosexuality in that it involves real people who can have their real hearts broken.

UV69
06-09-2011, 08:34 PM
k. i don't have time to explain the implications of a heteronormative society to you, mostly because i don't give a shit that you choose to maintain your ignorance.

i do find it a little ironic that a heterosexual (re: you) are telling a homosexual (re: me) that homosexuality and heterosexuality are just alike.

all of you are doing too much. who is cheating? who is having their heart broken? who is stealing spouses? yall are being all kinds of extra, catching feelings like someone fucked your man. there is way too much projection going on here.

I'm not homo enuff to say cheating is cheating by your standards.. Really?? How much more gay do I have to be to prove I get my own say that isn't to be included as hetero

Why fight for gay marriage to be treated with the same rights & equal respects if gay adultery is not the same becuz somehow it's ok just becuz those doing it are girls?

This might be the message you as a gay person might want to send, but this isn't something I take Pride in just becuz the chicks like the same sex I do.

Sorry I might work entertaining many married people by giving them something to look at, but I still believe other people should respect relationships & the commitments of couples. Nothing about me being a dyke says that it's all right to cheat or to go for people that are married & trifling.

I'm insulated & kinda pissed as another lesbian that you would assume being a lesbian we have the same opinion on the matter or that this has anything to do with liking pussy.

If my gf ever told me she cheated on me cuz it's the gay way well she would be a single lesbian with the quickness & I would be looking to date another gay girl like me or a bi girl that got that I except to be respected if she & I are going to have a commitment to each other.

I'm not condemning any1, but a cheat is a cheat & being the other women is what it is. Great if that's the relationships they want to have, but they obviously don't need any1's approval to do it still doesn't mean I don't think it's shady trifling is hot on any level. So if some1 is going to post here about it guess what it's the web & some1 is going to comment about it & I wouldn't be shocked if some1 decided to fb this girl's gf & link this thread cuz it's almost to ez & some1 who is cheating w/ some1 else's gf should know better then post all about it.

Brandi_Lynn
06-10-2011, 04:21 AM
She told me that her wife knows about some of the stripclub visits, but not all of them. And I'm pretty sure that the wife doesn't know what goes on in the club. Some of the dancers at my club tell me that I should go for a sugar momma/ sugar baby kinda deal with her. I just can't imagine doing that. I can totally see her as a sugar momma, but I could never pull off the whole "sugar baby" persona. It's just not me.

When we meet on Friday I've decided to tell her that if I can't have the type of relationship with her that I had hoped for, then at least I'd like for us to go back to what we had in the club (and maybe an occasion dinner or drink after work). I know now that she's never going to leave her wife, and I know that I'm not the first (and probably won't be the last) dancer to pass through her life. I know alot of you guys will rip me a new one for saying this, but I really wouldn't mind being the other woman for awhile. Maybe it will help me get this out of my system. Don't rip my head off - I'm just being honest. But I don't think that's going to happen anyways, so it doesn't matter.

At this point I'm hoping that I haven't lost her completely through all of this :(.


Uh-oh. Personally, girl, I'd say leave this alone. Looks to be aiming weird & messy fast. You should consider the other person's relationship -& the fact you might not be able to settle for less than what you were hoping? Perhapw, mull it over? :-\

Brandi_Lynn
06-10-2011, 04:36 AM
k. i don't have time to explain the implications of a heteronormative society to you, mostly because i don't give a shit that you choose to maintain your ignorance.

i do find it a little ironic that a heterosexual (re: you) are telling a homosexual (re: me) that homosexuality and heterosexuality are just alike.

all of you are doing too much. who is cheating? who is having their heart broken? who is stealing spouses? yall are being all kinds of extra, catching feelings like someone fucked your man. there is way too much projection going on here.

I do not think that we should be projecting labels here -whether it be homosexual or heterosexual. And no homosexual & heterosexual are not alike. Camille -you do not know if Desuvsdeath is straight or not & should not assume either way. I think that anyone of any orientation can agree that cheating is cheating if things step outside of the agreed boundaries designated in any relationship. Coming from someone that hates the "labels" of orientation.

Besides, if we stop focusing on each other -then we might've noticed that the OP has alluded that this might be coming to an end anyways. If it does then it would probably be healthier for all the actual parties really involved in situation anyways, perhaps. Sometimes, the fantasy in the stripclub fools the dancer as well, fallenangel22. You should prob just drop the whole thing -at least to save your own feelings, you know. :(

camille27
06-10-2011, 04:49 AM
i don't know why everyone is writing essays. you need not have the same opinion as me. if you think that heterosexuality and homosexuality are the same, okay.
i remain unsure as to why so many people are catching feelings as if the op is fucking their significant other. as far as i can tell, an older woman is indulging the infatuation of a younger woman. which is too common in the world of rainbows and lesbians for me to think much of it.

by all means, yall keep typing essays and sweating all over your computer keyboards.



I'm not homo enuff to say cheating is cheating by your standards.. Really?? How much more gay do I have to be to prove I get my own say that isn't to be included as hetero

Why fight for gay marriage to be treated with the same rights & equal respects if gay adultery is not the same becuz somehow it's ok just becuz those doing it are girls?

This might be the message you as a gay person might want to send, but this isn't something I take Pride in just becuz the chicks like the same sex I do.

Sorry I might work entertaining many married people by giving them something to look at, but I still believe other people should respect relationships & the commitments of couples. Nothing about me being a dyke says that it's all right to cheat or to go for people that are married & trifling.

I'm insulated & kinda pissed as another lesbian that you would assume being a lesbian we have the same opinion on the matter or that this has anything to do with liking pussy.

If my gf ever told me she cheated on me cuz it's the gay way well she would be a single lesbian with the quickness & I would be looking to date another gay girl like me or a bi girl that got that I except to be respected if she & I are going to have a commitment to each other.

I'm not condemning any1, but a cheat is a cheat & being the other women is what it is. Great if that's the relationships they want to have, but they obviously don't need any1's approval to do it still doesn't mean I don't think it's shady trifling is hot on any level. So if some1 is going to post here about it guess what it's the web & some1 is going to comment about it & I wouldn't be shocked if some1 decided to fb this girl's gf & link this thread cuz it's almost to ez & some1 who is cheating w/ some1 else's gf should know better then post all about it.

FallenAngel22
06-11-2011, 08:10 PM
For anyone still interested.....we had dinner last night, and talked, talked, TALKED. And then I invited her to my place (roommate's in vegas) and we took the final step. I'll spare you all the sordid details (sorry camille). I think it had to happen to put a sort of closure on it for me. But it did and it didn't give me that closure.

Please....no homewrecker remarks.
The sexual tension just got to be too much and one thing led to another. Honestly, FWIW, I'm happy it happened, but I'm not especially proud of it, either.

So things now are sort of muddied, but I think I can live with the outcome. Guess I'll have to. I think that we can still maintain what we have in the club, although it will be more of a challenge now to not go too far and get myself fired. If I do I'll make her support me ;).

But seriously, thanks ladies for listening to my soap opera of a life. Your advice, although sometimes harsh, helped me navigate through some rough emotional waters that I'm still struggling with. But at least now its all out in the open so that her and I can move on with our lives.

Mindy Bares All
06-11-2011, 08:36 PM
Awwwwww. :)

With any luck, she's not. And then maybe you can pursue a relationship if you really think it's love.

But then again, not falling for custies, means not falling for custies- regardless of gender....

DesuvsDeath
06-11-2011, 11:00 PM
Well now that you've gone ahead and done it... I can go ahead and ask something I've always wondered...

When you're fucking someone's spouse... do you just... not think about the wife? Or do you just not care? Do you just pretend it's the two of you, or what?

I'm really not trying to be a bitch; I'm curious.
Personally... I couldn't let someone blatantly use me for sex and my conscious/sense of right and wrong/morals would never ALLOW me to bang someone's husband/wife. So I'd never know for myself...

BringOnTheMen
06-11-2011, 11:45 PM
Once I had sex with someone's boyfriend. I didn't really KNOW know they were bf-gf, I just kinda knew they were together...if that makes sense. But when I woke up the next morning I felt awful and even though he kept trying to make it happen again I wouldn't. I still feel bad but I obviously don't dwell. He cheated on her with a ton of other girls, and she kinda got around too...so I'm not saying that it's ok to sleep with someone you know has a SO, but people are generally attracted to people like that for a reason and either they'll understand why they are and try to date other people or they wont and be in denial why they're ALWAYS cheated on. Some people cheat, and she had probably cheated before and will probably cheat again...it doesnt make it right, but you're not special because you slept with her and you shouldn't view yourself as a homewrecker.

That said...I do think there is something worse about sleeping with someones spouse versus sleeping with someone's bf/gf. Especially because this took place over a week or two and not one drunken/coked out night...

Honestly, I think the OP should see a therapist. This whole saga is rather odd and I think talking one on one with a therapist is a lot better than posting on a forum.

Cammi
06-12-2011, 01:35 AM
When you're fucking someone's spouse... do you just... not think about the wife? Or do you just not care? Do you just pretend it's the two of you, or what?


ive fucked guys who had girlfriends a coupla times. they werent anyone important, just randoms, and i didnt know their gfs. the fact they were seeing someone wasnt rly an issue, it didnt get in the way of the sex.

at the end of the day, if someone wants to cheat on their partner that is entirely on them. if they dont do it with me, they'd do it with someone else so why should i feel guilty abt it? i dont chase guys who are like that but if theyre come after me im not gonna turn them down over it. obviously, cases where theyre in a relationship with someone i know are completely different and i would never go there.

sananeko
06-12-2011, 01:56 AM
I'm against cheating, but I am alright with a side women/man if all in the relationship knows about it and agrees. I understand many don't like the idea of being the other women or causes lower standards for those who want to be in a one on one relationship but I know some just don't want to be the center of attention or its only a sex thing. I want to point out its almost like with strippers.. Most people have low ideas of us and alot of us can prove them wrong or raise the bar.

DesuvsDeath
06-12-2011, 04:27 AM
at the end of the day, if someone wants to cheat on their partner that is entirely on them. if they dont do it with me, they'd do it with someone else so why should i feel guilty abt it?

So basically, no offense (I feel so rude saying shit like this! lol), you have to be into/okay with casual sex to not feel wrong about something like this?

Cammi
06-12-2011, 08:06 AM
So basically, no offense (I feel so rude saying shit like this! lol), you have to be into/okay with casual sex to not feel wrong about something like this?

i guess yeah, that is all im talking abt. being in a longterm affair is a different matter entirely.

FallenAngel22
06-12-2011, 11:48 AM
well I guess I've shared a bit too much here, so out of respect for lopaw's already compromised privacy I will cease and desist. I got carried away :-[

Thanks again ladies for your insight and your support! :)

tampadancer
06-13-2011, 01:22 PM
k. i don't have time to explain the implications of a heteronormative society to you, mostly because i don't give a shit that you choose to maintain your ignorance.

I am well aware of the implications of heteronormativity, but don't understand how this has anything to do with the ethics/morals/values/whatever related to cheating. Cheating is cheating, whether you are doing it to someone who is the same or opposite sex from you...and (in my opinion) it's messed up regardless.

But again, it has nothing to do with sexual preference.

Before you get your panties twisted and start jumping down people's throats for disagreeing, try to make sure what you're saying is at least somewhat logical.

UV69
06-13-2011, 02:48 PM
i don't know why everyone is writing essays. you need not have the same opinion as me. if you think that heterosexuality and homosexuality are the same, okay.
i remain unsure as to why so many people are catching feelings as if the op is fucking their significant other. as far as i can tell, an older woman is indulging the infatuation of a younger woman. which is too common in the world of rainbows and lesbians for me to think much of it.

by all means, yall keep typing essays and sweating all over your computer keyboards.

Sorry I can type fast & voice my op in more words then what few you ADD allows, but I have been too bz 2 care about this needless drama.

I'm not against sex. I have lots of it. I just don't like drama, cheating, shady, lying stuff which has nothing to do w/ my sexuality. I don't care that you feel homosexually is about that kinda stuff & Im glad I'm not messing w/ any girl who doesn't respect honesty.

I bought my crush a lapdance at another sc just the other night before she went home w/ me & since we started getting to know each other our only rule is that we be honest w/ each other which I kinda felt bad that some really hot female custie came into our club & kissed me right in front of her, but before anything went beyond the realm of our usual flirting with custies at work that we are used to & fully understand & are supportive of I asked her if she cared if I still saw other girls & so since we are taking it slow she told me she wouldn't be jealous so long as she knows which I found very cool.

We then made plans for our next date & decided if we get together later we will set the rules as we go which I was very happy for cuz I'm not planning on uhauling or being instant gfs since we just started a very casual open thing where she knows I really really like her, but understand she just got our of a breakup & stuff is complicated between us. However for what any1 might say about either 1 of us being as open & all at least we have trust & respect for each other about it.

Look if any1 wants to cheat or go for some1 taken then I don't care so long as you are not trying any1 I care about & if they are going to put it on blast or ask for opinions I might give my honest OP but it's not 2 b a bytch about it it's just messy situations get dirty from my experiences so of course if a girl thinks she is in love w/ a cheat who doesn't care about her gfs feelings I'm going to say hey watch yr feelings here cuz sounds to me like drama where people are gonna get hurt that probably isn't worth the fuck of it as a fuck is something you can do with some1 single or who doesn't need to go around lying about it.

Just my OP--but what do I know I'm gay & apparently I didn't get the lack of (self)respect gene that I'm told comes with it cuz my sex life doesn't involve any of that.

I don't care about the privacy of custies that cheat on their gfs. Honestly they won't be there doing that with me cuz I work as a dancer not a prostitute so let's not compare cheating to what I have anything to do with. At work I'm just a tease that makes my money putting on a hot show & flirting with no intentions of it actually going anywhere with those that are not my type--which cheaters 4 me are a no, swingers possibly maybe depending on the terms, & single hot girls get a hell yes at least un till I'm taken by a gf that wants monogamy with me.

FallenAngel22
06-14-2011, 07:38 PM
I know you guys are focusing on gender here, but I just wanna say for the record that gender wasn't a factor in any of this to me. I know that my feelings about everything, both good and bad, would have been the same had this happened with a man instead of a woman.